Dr. Rhonda Barofsky

To relieve your suffering, relieve your depression, your anxiety, your feelings of worthlessness, your feelings of rage. Right. Frustration, helplessness.

To relieve your suffering, relieve your depression, your anxiety, your feelings of worthlessness, your feelings of rage. Right. Frustration, helplessness.

Okay, so we should answer that, should we? Should we have the listeners just take a piece of paper and turn off your device for a minute and write down, what are the distortions in I should be a better mom? And then the question is, how is Susanna going to get out of this trap? But I can give you a follow-up. Okay.

Okay, so we should answer that, should we? Should we have the listeners just take a piece of paper and turn off your device for a minute and write down, what are the distortions in I should be a better mom? And then the question is, how is Susanna going to get out of this trap? But I can give you a follow-up. Okay.

Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay, welcome back to the show. Did you turn your device off and write some things down on a piece of paper? No, you didn't? I can see that you didn't, but I love you anyway. What are the distortions in I Should Be a Better Mom?

Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay, welcome back to the show. Did you turn your device off and write some things down on a piece of paper? No, you didn't? I can see that you didn't, but I love you anyway. What are the distortions in I Should Be a Better Mom?

That's true. Any other distortions? Is that the only one? No. Any other distortions? I see a bunch more. Oh, a bunch more. Let's take turns.

That's true. Any other distortions? Is that the only one? No. Any other distortions? I see a bunch more. Oh, a bunch more. Let's take turns.

Yeah. What did you find out in that one? What distortions, Matt?

Yeah. What did you find out in that one? What distortions, Matt?

Yeah, and all the amazing things she's done for her daughter. Yeah. What else do you see there?

Yeah, and all the amazing things she's done for her daughter. Yeah. What else do you see there?

Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. I'll take a turn and add— emotional reasoning. I feel like I'm not a good enough mom. So I must not be and I should be a better mom. How about you, Matt? Any others?

Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. I'll take a turn and add— emotional reasoning. I feel like I'm not a good enough mom. So I must not be and I should be a better mom. How about you, Matt? Any others?

And your turn. So it seems...

And your turn. So it seems...

Yeah, absolutely.

Yeah, absolutely.

Right, and then it's my turn. How about self-blame? And why is that? She's beating up on herself because her daughter's misbehaving. Well, a give-get imbalance is a special hell for people who are overly nice, who struggle with anxiety disorders.

Right, and then it's my turn. How about self-blame? And why is that? She's beating up on herself because her daughter's misbehaving. Well, a give-get imbalance is a special hell for people who are overly nice, who struggle with anxiety disorders.