Dr. Richard Hogan

And it gets focused on something that you can, you know, that might be a safe space to launch.

And kind of, yeah, that happens.

I think that happens in so many relationships.

You don't necessarily always whatever the feeling is, what you always know.

Or maybe the friendship wasn't as deep as you thought it was.

Maybe they're not exactly.

Maybe they're not that deep.

It allows you a bit of catharsis.

Yeah.

We always internalize and kind of go, what did I do?

That's it.

And if it happens, this was how to manage yourself.

And I suppose when someone says, I'm sure he's a bit of a dick anyway, whatever, like what someone might say to you, that actually probably gets your back up a little bit, you know what I mean?

Or makes you maybe defensive of the person because you grew up together.

No.

Not for me anyway.

I'd get defensive and say, I know, in fact, you know, I know he's a good, he's a sound fellow, you know, in fairness, he's a good guy, but, you know, he went through a few things there.

Whatever you're, I'm just talking generally, I'm not talking about myself here now.

But just generically.

And, yeah, and I think that allow yourself the space to have that kind of little bit of,