Dr. Richard Hogan

feeling around whatever that was, but also get a little bit of like maybe the relationship wasn't as meaningful to that person as you thought it was.

And that might be a very important moment for you to kind of go, well, maybe I should seek out people who are a little bit more substantial or whatever it is.

It's very hard.

Yeah.

In it together.

Do you know what I mean?

You're parallel friendshiping.

It's very hard.

It depends on the friendships that are in that group.

And you're trying to hold on to something that was there that you've had for years.

The balance of it has been obliterated because you were all heading off to different places together as summer holidays and all this kind of thing as a group.

And all of a sudden that can't happen.

And so, yeah, it's I think it's possible to hold on to it and you probably shouldn't give up on that and allow that person just to kind of have free reign to that friendship group.

I wouldn't personally do that because then you're just you're you're just giving in to someone.

You're being passive and submissive.

I don't think that's ever good for us to be.

And so I try to hold on to the friendships that I that I have.

valuable and are valuable to you and just try to see what kind of dynamic it could be.

A butterfly.

Beautiful.