Dr. Rick Hanson

We feel the relevant positive experience, the beneficial experience, such as being valued or cared about or that we accomplish things or our life has meaning or gratitude, let's say, while also feeling the related negative material.

We feel the relevant positive experience, the beneficial experience, such as being valued or cared about or that we accomplish things or our life has meaning or gratitude, let's say, while also feeling the related negative material.

And by feeling both of those together, for example, your bucket list, feeling the reverse bucket list alongside that sense of emptiness or frustration or disappointment in your life, or even excessive drivenness in your life, you got to achieve there's all this sense of pressure. If you feel them both at the same time, neurologically, they start associating with each other.

And by feeling both of those together, for example, your bucket list, feeling the reverse bucket list alongside that sense of emptiness or frustration or disappointment in your life, or even excessive drivenness in your life, you got to achieve there's all this sense of pressure. If you feel them both at the same time, neurologically, they start associating with each other.

And by feeling both of those together, for example, your bucket list, feeling the reverse bucket list alongside that sense of emptiness or frustration or disappointment in your life, or even excessive drivenness in your life, you got to achieve there's all this sense of pressure. If you feel them both at the same time, neurologically, they start associating with each other.

And if you keep the positive experience bigger in your awareness for five, 10, 20, 30 seconds in a row, while also feeling the negative material, the positive will associate with the negative and gradually ease it, soothe it, bring context to it, and even eventually completely uproot it. It no longer burdens you. Yeah, I hope I didn't go into too much detail there.

And if you keep the positive experience bigger in your awareness for five, 10, 20, 30 seconds in a row, while also feeling the negative material, the positive will associate with the negative and gradually ease it, soothe it, bring context to it, and even eventually completely uproot it. It no longer burdens you. Yeah, I hope I didn't go into too much detail there.

And if you keep the positive experience bigger in your awareness for five, 10, 20, 30 seconds in a row, while also feeling the negative material, the positive will associate with the negative and gradually ease it, soothe it, bring context to it, and even eventually completely uproot it. It no longer burdens you. Yeah, I hope I didn't go into too much detail there.

That's how you can do it for yourself. That's how I do it for myself. That's what therapists are doing with people fundamentally or other kinds of settings. These two fundamental processes, we grow flowers in the garden of our minds, and then we use those flowers to uproot the weeds in the garden of the mind.

That's how you can do it for yourself. That's how I do it for myself. That's what therapists are doing with people fundamentally or other kinds of settings. These two fundamental processes, we grow flowers in the garden of our minds, and then we use those flowers to uproot the weeds in the garden of the mind.

That's how you can do it for yourself. That's how I do it for myself. That's what therapists are doing with people fundamentally or other kinds of settings. These two fundamental processes, we grow flowers in the garden of our minds, and then we use those flowers to uproot the weeds in the garden of the mind.

I appreciate that. And you are right out again, the heart of it, because without that sense of agency, autonomy, including and mattering, right? They all go together. Like if you don't matter at all, why should you take action? And what happens, and I think this is relevant in terms of the early research from Seligman and others on dogs, if it's a very short distance from

I appreciate that. And you are right out again, the heart of it, because without that sense of agency, autonomy, including and mattering, right? They all go together. Like if you don't matter at all, why should you take action? And what happens, and I think this is relevant in terms of the early research from Seligman and others on dogs, if it's a very short distance from

I appreciate that. And you are right out again, the heart of it, because without that sense of agency, autonomy, including and mattering, right? They all go together. Like if you don't matter at all, why should you take action? And what happens, and I think this is relevant in terms of the early research from Seligman and others on dogs, if it's a very short distance from

There's nothing I can do to I don't matter. Very short distance. And I think that's relevant again in our societies, that when people feel they don't have influence over their lives, including being able to find work that's meaningful and would enable them to buy a house these days, let's say, then they start to feel like, well, I guess I don't matter.

There's nothing I can do to I don't matter. Very short distance. And I think that's relevant again in our societies, that when people feel they don't have influence over their lives, including being able to find work that's meaningful and would enable them to buy a house these days, let's say, then they start to feel like, well, I guess I don't matter.

There's nothing I can do to I don't matter. Very short distance. And I think that's relevant again in our societies, that when people feel they don't have influence over their lives, including being able to find work that's meaningful and would enable them to buy a house these days, let's say, then they start to feel like, well, I guess I don't matter.

And then they're very vulnerable, you know, to the appeal of various, you know, Ideologies, yeah, that appeal to their sense of grievance. So what do we do about that? I think it's very helpful to also appreciate that for many people, they were punished for agency. In their family, they were punished for having the agency to have a different opinion than the people around them or for speaking up.

And then they're very vulnerable, you know, to the appeal of various, you know, Ideologies, yeah, that appeal to their sense of grievance. So what do we do about that? I think it's very helpful to also appreciate that for many people, they were punished for agency. In their family, they were punished for having the agency to have a different opinion than the people around them or for speaking up.

And then they're very vulnerable, you know, to the appeal of various, you know, Ideologies, yeah, that appeal to their sense of grievance. So what do we do about that? I think it's very helpful to also appreciate that for many people, they were punished for agency. In their family, they were punished for having the agency to have a different opinion than the people around them or for speaking up.