Dr. Rick Hanson

And then take in the good to grow the good that lasts inside. Those are fundamental ways. Pull out of negative rumination and take in the good along the way.

That's great, John. And I want to underline the finding from research and personal experience that most of us come into adulthood with what could be called wounds and lacks. Wounds being ways we've been injured by life, even just without trauma or abuse, just ordinary hassles, disappointments, people making fun of us in fifth grade, an unfortunate loss early in our career.

That's great, John. And I want to underline the finding from research and personal experience that most of us come into adulthood with what could be called wounds and lacks. Wounds being ways we've been injured by life, even just without trauma or abuse, just ordinary hassles, disappointments, people making fun of us in fifth grade, an unfortunate loss early in our career.

That's great, John. And I want to underline the finding from research and personal experience that most of us come into adulthood with what could be called wounds and lacks. Wounds being ways we've been injured by life, even just without trauma or abuse, just ordinary hassles, disappointments, people making fun of us in fifth grade, an unfortunate loss early in our career.

We come into it with wounds and also lacks the absence of the good, right? And so for people who often, including me, I'm talking about my own learnings along the way, who, you know, deep down inside feel maybe a little bad about themselves. Deep down inside, there's an ache in their heart. Deep down inside, maybe there's a moral injury. They feel remorse or grief or shame about certain things.

We come into it with wounds and also lacks the absence of the good, right? And so for people who often, including me, I'm talking about my own learnings along the way, who, you know, deep down inside feel maybe a little bad about themselves. Deep down inside, there's an ache in their heart. Deep down inside, maybe there's a moral injury. They feel remorse or grief or shame about certain things.

We come into it with wounds and also lacks the absence of the good, right? And so for people who often, including me, I'm talking about my own learnings along the way, who, you know, deep down inside feel maybe a little bad about themselves. Deep down inside, there's an ache in their heart. Deep down inside, maybe there's a moral injury. They feel remorse or grief or shame about certain things.

It's just unresolved. It just sits there. Well, that material truly can be healed. Truly can be healed. The bigger it is, the bigger the job, the more we have to do. But it truly can be healed. And the fundamental process of healing it is to grow the good around it. It's a two-part fundamental strategy. I'm bringing you in to clinical thinking. This is how it works strategically.

It's just unresolved. It just sits there. Well, that material truly can be healed. Truly can be healed. The bigger it is, the bigger the job, the more we have to do. But it truly can be healed. And the fundamental process of healing it is to grow the good around it. It's a two-part fundamental strategy. I'm bringing you in to clinical thinking. This is how it works strategically.

It's just unresolved. It just sits there. Well, that material truly can be healed. Truly can be healed. The bigger it is, the bigger the job, the more we have to do. But it truly can be healed. And the fundamental process of healing it is to grow the good around it. It's a two-part fundamental strategy. I'm bringing you in to clinical thinking. This is how it works strategically.

Number one, growing the good around it. that would compensate for and balance and yeah, what was wounded. Like for me, I grew up, I felt very inadequate by the time I went off to college and just like the runt of the litter, as my dad would talk about from his ranch background and like a huge hole in my heart and whatever that might be. I know people who feel deeply guilty about certain things.

Number one, growing the good around it. that would compensate for and balance and yeah, what was wounded. Like for me, I grew up, I felt very inadequate by the time I went off to college and just like the runt of the litter, as my dad would talk about from his ranch background and like a huge hole in my heart and whatever that might be. I know people who feel deeply guilty about certain things.

Number one, growing the good around it. that would compensate for and balance and yeah, what was wounded. Like for me, I grew up, I felt very inadequate by the time I went off to college and just like the runt of the litter, as my dad would talk about from his ranch background and like a huge hole in my heart and whatever that might be. I know people who feel deeply guilty about certain things.

Maybe they allowed their cat to go outside And it was taken by some predator and they just feel terrible about that, whatever it might be. Okay. So one of the most powerful ways to do that, to deal with this as you grow the good around it, that is matched to whatever the issue is.

Maybe they allowed their cat to go outside And it was taken by some predator and they just feel terrible about that, whatever it might be. Okay. So one of the most powerful ways to do that, to deal with this as you grow the good around it, that is matched to whatever the issue is.

Maybe they allowed their cat to go outside And it was taken by some predator and they just feel terrible about that, whatever it might be. Okay. So one of the most powerful ways to do that, to deal with this as you grow the good around it, that is matched to whatever the issue is.

Like in my case was growing the sense that people actually wanted me and noticed me and wanted to include me and saw me. Okay. Second. You know this from my material about the heal process. It's this fundamental framework for deliberate healing and growing. The fourth step, L, is to link in which we associate in our minds the positive with the negative.

Like in my case was growing the sense that people actually wanted me and noticed me and wanted to include me and saw me. Okay. Second. You know this from my material about the heal process. It's this fundamental framework for deliberate healing and growing. The fourth step, L, is to link in which we associate in our minds the positive with the negative.

Like in my case was growing the sense that people actually wanted me and noticed me and wanted to include me and saw me. Okay. Second. You know this from my material about the heal process. It's this fundamental framework for deliberate healing and growing. The fourth step, L, is to link in which we associate in our minds the positive with the negative.

We feel the relevant positive experience, the beneficial experience, such as being valued or cared about or that we accomplish things or our life has meaning or gratitude, let's say, while also feeling the related negative material.