Dr. Rick Hanson

But for most people, modern life most of the time, it creates all kinds of needless suffering and needless aggravation with other people. And so practically, if we tilt toward valuing beneficial experiences in a kind of hard-nosed, clear-eyed way, not out of airy-fairy positive thinking, but in a hard-nosed, clear-eyed way.

We're trying to grow strengths inside, in part to deal with the bad, as we lean into beneficial experiences and we help ourselves disengage from negative experiences to the extent that it's useful for us to do that and not get ruminating about them and so forth. If we tilt in those ways, we're just leveling the playing field.

We're trying to grow strengths inside, in part to deal with the bad, as we lean into beneficial experiences and we help ourselves disengage from negative experiences to the extent that it's useful for us to do that and not get ruminating about them and so forth. If we tilt in those ways, we're just leveling the playing field.

We're trying to grow strengths inside, in part to deal with the bad, as we lean into beneficial experiences and we help ourselves disengage from negative experiences to the extent that it's useful for us to do that and not get ruminating about them and so forth. If we tilt in those ways, we're just leveling the playing field.

That's part one of it. And in me, I don't like bullies. And in effect, we're being bullied by our brain. You know, so there's a part of me that's like, fuck you, right? That's one part of it. You're exactly right. But there's the other part, which is in addition to just leveling it and no longer swimming upstream, how do you grow the strengths inside?

That's part one of it. And in me, I don't like bullies. And in effect, we're being bullied by our brain. You know, so there's a part of me that's like, fuck you, right? That's one part of it. You're exactly right. But there's the other part, which is in addition to just leveling it and no longer swimming upstream, how do you grow the strengths inside?

That's part one of it. And in me, I don't like bullies. And in effect, we're being bullied by our brain. You know, so there's a part of me that's like, fuck you, right? That's one part of it. You're exactly right. But there's the other part, which is in addition to just leveling it and no longer swimming upstream, how do you grow the strengths inside?

How do you influence who you are becoming from the inside out? And to me, that's very interesting. You know, I grew up really a shy, dorky kid, decent parenting and so forth. I was very young going through school. And so I really felt nobody cared about me or saw me and I was shit. I was a loser and I was never going to be any good. And so it became really important for me to develop...

How do you influence who you are becoming from the inside out? And to me, that's very interesting. You know, I grew up really a shy, dorky kid, decent parenting and so forth. I was very young going through school. And so I really felt nobody cared about me or saw me and I was shit. I was a loser and I was never going to be any good. And so it became really important for me to develop...

How do you influence who you are becoming from the inside out? And to me, that's very interesting. You know, I grew up really a shy, dorky kid, decent parenting and so forth. I was very young going through school. And so I really felt nobody cared about me or saw me and I was shit. I was a loser and I was never going to be any good. And so it became really important for me to develop...

strengths inside of various kinds that compensated for that, that healed that, such as feeling just included. Or I still remember a million-dollar moment, you know, because I was super young in school. I was picked last for sports. In college, though, I kind of discovered I was a pretty good athlete. I was playing intramural football American football, not soccer, but you got it.

strengths inside of various kinds that compensated for that, that healed that, such as feeling just included. Or I still remember a million-dollar moment, you know, because I was super young in school. I was picked last for sports. In college, though, I kind of discovered I was a pretty good athlete. I was playing intramural football American football, not soccer, but you got it.

strengths inside of various kinds that compensated for that, that healed that, such as feeling just included. Or I still remember a million-dollar moment, you know, because I was super young in school. I was picked last for sports. In college, though, I kind of discovered I was a pretty good athlete. I was playing intramural football American football, not soccer, but you got it.

And this stud of a quarterback on our team who was just a little too small to play Division I football, but was still a manly man. And he walked past me one day as we were coming back to our dorms after practice, and he just grunted at me, you know, like dudes do. Hey, Hanson, you're good. I'm going to throw to you more. Oh, man. That was a million-dollar moment.

And this stud of a quarterback on our team who was just a little too small to play Division I football, but was still a manly man. And he walked past me one day as we were coming back to our dorms after practice, and he just grunted at me, you know, like dudes do. Hey, Hanson, you're good. I'm going to throw to you more. Oh, man. That was a million-dollar moment.

And this stud of a quarterback on our team who was just a little too small to play Division I football, but was still a manly man. And he walked past me one day as we were coming back to our dorms after practice, and he just grunted at me, you know, like dudes do. Hey, Hanson, you're good. I'm going to throw to you more. Oh, man. That was a million-dollar moment.

That was so good to take in, to let it sink into me, to specifically heal wounds and lacks inside and also grow normal range, self-worth and self-confidence. So for me, these are the two reasons, to tilt toward what's beneficial and to take in the good, to grow the good that lasts inside. One, definitely compensate for Mother Nature's bias, but also to develop whatever you want to grow inside you.

That was so good to take in, to let it sink into me, to specifically heal wounds and lacks inside and also grow normal range, self-worth and self-confidence. So for me, these are the two reasons, to tilt toward what's beneficial and to take in the good, to grow the good that lasts inside. One, definitely compensate for Mother Nature's bias, but also to develop whatever you want to grow inside you.

That was so good to take in, to let it sink into me, to specifically heal wounds and lacks inside and also grow normal range, self-worth and self-confidence. So for me, these are the two reasons, to tilt toward what's beneficial and to take in the good, to grow the good that lasts inside. One, definitely compensate for Mother Nature's bias, but also to develop whatever you want to grow inside you.

So I have a business background and a practical background. I've been really struck by how people are really pretty clear about making things better over time in the outer world. but they kind of feel helpless or even uninterested in the process of making things better over time in the inner world. That's what you're talking about.