Dr. Robert Waldinger

I mean, do you ever have things where you know them, so don't you think everybody also knows them?

Yeah, yeah.

Oh, just, just a little question.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I mean, I'm going to give you the simplest answer.

I would say it's,

being engaged in things you care about and being with people you care about it's the activities you care about and the people you care about and if you've got those you've got a lot a lot of what you need for happiness but that's talking also about purpose right yeah but a lot of us struggle to find our purpose

Well, I think one thing we can do

is we can learn to pay attention to the signals we get about what energizes us, what lights us up, and what drains us of energy.

Because we spend so much time being told what we're supposed to want to do and what we're supposed to appreciate, right?

And think about all the time you sit in school and you have to suppress every little feeling because you have to sit still and behave and all that.

So we're taught to kind of squash that.

Those signals we're getting all the time about what we like and what we want to do and what we don't want to do.

And so I think a lot of what I've had to do as a grownup is to just tune in again to pay more attention.

Oh, I really don't like doing that.

And everybody else thinks it's great and I don't like doing it.

So I have to turn away from it.

And, and that, I don't know if you've had anything like that where you, people have told you, you should really like this thing.