Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

Maybe your favorite therapist is on maternity leave for a year or your local clinic closed down and you haven't found someone good yet.

So you have to be able to do some of it on your own because we don't all have the privilege of a guide.

So knowing that I think is super helpful.

So post-traumatic parenting is just parenting after trauma.

And the way I look at it is a lot of people question themselves whether or not they've experienced trauma.

And I always say, is there an experience that you had in your childhood that you would cross a continent or spend your last dime to avoid your kid having to go through it?

congratulations, you're traumatized, right?

Whatever that experience was.

Because if you look at trauma checklists that you might get from psychology, right?

You'll get questions like, did you ever see someone die?

Or were you in fear of death?

Did you experience a serious assault?

They'll have those sort of major ripped from the headline stories.

And those certainly can traumatize us.

But what's lacking there is

Were you fat shamed your entire adolescence?

Were you completely bullied to the point that you didn't even feel like a human?

Did you have parents who were super critical?

A mom who's a functional alcoholic and one day you came home and she was lovely and one day you came home and she was just absolutely ready to hit you.

That doesn't make its way onto that list.