Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

it won't change oh that's what you wanted me to do great i will keep doing it then and that's what you do it's hard work it's not easy i'm making it sound like very simple right you just do this like it's it's it's hard it can be done but it's the most difficult work you'll ever do

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, I think it is safer, right?

If you felt very out of control at a certain point in your life and you felt very vulnerable, there's a certain safety in being one of the top executives at the company because there's not that many people on top of you who can fire you, right?

There is a certain sense of safety there.

It's just not psychological safety.

It's one level of

practical safety and it's worked for you for so long i was a perfectionist for a very long time in my in the book i talk about like when i actually and this is hard to hear but when i actually performed cpr on my father during his last fatal heart attack he died in my arms and i thought i had done something wrong i thought that and i for a long time had this like image of myself like robin the girl whose mistakes kill people right so therefore i must not make a mistake

And so I always lived my life doing everything perfectly and having to do double what anyone else did because otherwise I didn't feel safe until I first of all learned that I actually didn't kill my father.

There was no way a young woman like my father was a very large man.

He was on a bed when he had his heart attack.

You can't perform CPR with enough force on a mattress.

There was no way, like the physics of it, I could never have moved my father with the amount of muscle mass I had back then.

So there's no way I could have moved him to the floor.

I didn't know to.

It's not like my CPR.

I was lifeguard, but we have never told that you should move someone onto the floor.

I don't know that they don't include that.

I don't know if it's someone smaller than you.