Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

You're going to be smart about it.

So that day of you've taken care of as much of the stress as you can so that those little stressors aren't so stressful that you revert to old patterns.

So you're going to do it on both levels, right?

You're going to open the spigot on the bottom.

Also getting some of that stress out beforehand.

But the idea is you're going to be very mindful about it.

I want to break the cycle.

It's really hard.

And then you're going to celebrate it like you're not going to do because a lot of post-traumatic parents do it when the day happens and it's good and you didn't yell at anyone.

You're going to be like, OK, so I basically behaved like a normal human.

You're going to be like, I did something amazing 14 times today.

I wanted to yell at someone and I didn't.

I deserve a medal of honor, even if it's just me and my own brain giving me a medal of honor because I did something that's really hard to do.

I just rewired a neural connection in my brain.

Maybe you say that to your significant other.

Maybe you say that to an adult child.

They know what you've been through and it's appropriate.

Maybe you say that to your best friend or your therapist, but you really acknowledge it because you also have to tell your brain, yeah, brain, that's it.

That's what we want to be doing from now on.

You did it right because your brain, like anybody else, needs that feedback or that