Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

I'm going to go in order.

Like maybe tonight, my husband doesn't like takeout, but sometimes takeout is what we're having for dinner.

Sorry, you don't like it.

You can cook.

And we're going to do that.

Trust my own gut.

Then we have the entangled post-traumatic parent.

That's somebody who is so tangled up in a prior relationship.

They can't actually trust.

get towards their kids.

I have this image in the book of a fish that's trapped in a net and their kids are out of the net and they're trying to swim towards their kids, but they're trapped.

That might be a toxic ex-spouse.

It might be a boss or like a golden handcuffs job where you get paid really well, but you can't say no.

It might be a family of origin.

You see this a lot, especially with immigrant families where one kid is the one who speaks English for the family.

And then they're just always functioning for the family, even in adulthood.

They just get that role of like, I carry the burden of the family.

Sometimes it's a toxic best friend.

Like it's a frenemy kind of situation.

And.