Dr. Robyn Koslowitz
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You got to do both.
You can, on the one hand, be very responsive.
You can say to your kid, I get that no is hard to hear.
You really wish I would say yes.
You badly want to watch that movie because like your friends are making it sound cool.
I get it.
I really see that it's hard for you.
I feel for you.
And my no is going to stand.
That movie is dangerous.
I know you and I know that movie will give you nightmares for weeks.
So I'm going to say no.
You can do both.
You don't have to either be responsive and then give in to everything your kids want without ever saying, no, this is not good for you.
And you don't have to only be responsible and teach skills and make sure they get good grades and all of that.
There's no reason why you can't honor both sides.
The reason I even put that into the book is because post-traumatic parents doubt themselves about parenting all the time.
I'm so flawed.
I don't know.
But I saw the social media account and she sounds smart, so I'll do what she says.