Dr. Russell Kennedy

The children are probably going to have a better, more resilient and more capable nervous system than children that don't have any trauma, that don't have any wounding. It's not so much the trauma, it's the fact that it wasn't repaired. And if it's repaired, the child learns, oh, shit can go down in the hood, but I'm still okay. My nervous system is still okay.

The children are probably going to have a better, more resilient and more capable nervous system than children that don't have any trauma, that don't have any wounding. It's not so much the trauma, it's the fact that it wasn't repaired. And if it's repaired, the child learns, oh, shit can go down in the hood, but I'm still okay. My nervous system is still okay.

Yeah, and I think, you know, looking also at you, when I've listened to you talk many times, and you have this people-pleasing thing for women, the white knight syndrome, right? And I think that comes from a very deep-rooted sense of abandonment, fear of abandonment. Because what we try and do, and I think what people-pleasing comes from as children, is we don't get our needs met by our parents.

Yeah, and I think, you know, looking also at you, when I've listened to you talk many times, and you have this people-pleasing thing for women, the white knight syndrome, right? And I think that comes from a very deep-rooted sense of abandonment, fear of abandonment. Because what we try and do, and I think what people-pleasing comes from as children, is we don't get our needs met by our parents.

Yeah, and I think, you know, looking also at you, when I've listened to you talk many times, and you have this people-pleasing thing for women, the white knight syndrome, right? And I think that comes from a very deep-rooted sense of abandonment, fear of abandonment. Because what we try and do, and I think what people-pleasing comes from as children, is we don't get our needs met by our parents.

Our parents, for some reason... They're busy with other stuff. They have their own issues. My dad was severely mentally ill. So we find a way to get our needs met by getting our parents' needs met. So if I meet my parent need and they throw me some crumbs, then I get this sort of imbued sense of, oh, you know, I am worthwhile. But it comes at a cost. It comes at a real cost.

Our parents, for some reason... They're busy with other stuff. They have their own issues. My dad was severely mentally ill. So we find a way to get our needs met by getting our parents' needs met. So if I meet my parent need and they throw me some crumbs, then I get this sort of imbued sense of, oh, you know, I am worthwhile. But it comes at a cost. It comes at a real cost.

Our parents, for some reason... They're busy with other stuff. They have their own issues. My dad was severely mentally ill. So we find a way to get our needs met by getting our parents' needs met. So if I meet my parent need and they throw me some crumbs, then I get this sort of imbued sense of, oh, you know, I am worthwhile. But it comes at a cost. It comes at a real cost.

So we start learning how to read our parents really, really well. And that translates to reading other people really well. So if they're not doing well, neither are we. So we're so afraid of them leaving us that we try to make them feel better. And in trying to make them feel better, we're actually trying to make ourselves feel better. But it's a loop that never closes.

So we start learning how to read our parents really, really well. And that translates to reading other people really well. So if they're not doing well, neither are we. So we're so afraid of them leaving us that we try to make them feel better. And in trying to make them feel better, we're actually trying to make ourselves feel better. But it's a loop that never closes.

So we start learning how to read our parents really, really well. And that translates to reading other people really well. So if they're not doing well, neither are we. So we're so afraid of them leaving us that we try to make them feel better. And in trying to make them feel better, we're actually trying to make ourselves feel better. But it's a loop that never closes.

And if you're not okay, I'm not okay.

And if you're not okay, I'm not okay.

And if you're not okay, I'm not okay.

And it becomes a pattern too. And there's that Freudian repetition compulsion as well. So what was familiar to you in your childhood, human beings equate familiarity with security. So what was familiar to you in childhood, you will unconsciously reproduce in your adulthood. So I would see this when I was a family doctor. I would see people who had alcoholic parents pick alcoholic partners.

And it becomes a pattern too. And there's that Freudian repetition compulsion as well. So what was familiar to you in your childhood, human beings equate familiarity with security. So what was familiar to you in childhood, you will unconsciously reproduce in your adulthood. So I would see this when I was a family doctor. I would see people who had alcoholic parents pick alcoholic partners.

And it becomes a pattern too. And there's that Freudian repetition compulsion as well. So what was familiar to you in your childhood, human beings equate familiarity with security. So what was familiar to you in childhood, you will unconsciously reproduce in your adulthood. So I would see this when I was a family doctor. I would see people who had alcoholic parents pick alcoholic partners.

And they knew consciously, what am I doing? What am I doing? I had this one woman who is, I write about it in the book, she's really brilliantly attractive and had all these attention from men, but she would only pick the effusive alcoholics. And then she would come in and she would say, I did it again. I picked another one.

And they knew consciously, what am I doing? What am I doing? I had this one woman who is, I write about it in the book, she's really brilliantly attractive and had all these attention from men, but she would only pick the effusive alcoholics. And then she would come in and she would say, I did it again. I picked another one.

And they knew consciously, what am I doing? What am I doing? I had this one woman who is, I write about it in the book, she's really brilliantly attractive and had all these attention from men, but she would only pick the effusive alcoholics. And then she would come in and she would say, I did it again. I picked another one.