Dr. Russell Kennedy

And it's just that repetition compulsion, I think, really runs our lives, especially if you grow up in uncertainty. You know, you look for certainty, you look for safety. And that feeling of alarm that's in your system, the confirmation bias that your brain has, it's always looking for a reason. And it will always find one.

And it's just that repetition compulsion, I think, really runs our lives, especially if you grow up in uncertainty. You know, you look for certainty, you look for safety. And that feeling of alarm that's in your system, the confirmation bias that your brain has, it's always looking for a reason. And it will always find one.

And it's just that repetition compulsion, I think, really runs our lives, especially if you grow up in uncertainty. You know, you look for certainty, you look for safety. And that feeling of alarm that's in your system, the confirmation bias that your brain has, it's always looking for a reason. And it will always find one.

Like Brene Brown says that, don't go looking through the world for reasons why you don't belong because you'll always find them.

Like Brene Brown says that, don't go looking through the world for reasons why you don't belong because you'll always find them.

Like Brene Brown says that, don't go looking through the world for reasons why you don't belong because you'll always find them.

I think hypervigilance. Hypervigilance in women and irritability in men.

I think hypervigilance. Hypervigilance in women and irritability in men.

I think hypervigilance. Hypervigilance in women and irritability in men.

So hypervigilance is all the possible permutations. What could happen? What could happen? This could happen. More of a female response than a male response, but there's both. So women tend to start looking at all the different possibilities. Men tend to, and this is a gross generalization, they tend to get activated. And often with men, anxiety, uncertainty, intolerance shows up as irritability.

So hypervigilance is all the possible permutations. What could happen? What could happen? This could happen. More of a female response than a male response, but there's both. So women tend to start looking at all the different possibilities. Men tend to, and this is a gross generalization, they tend to get activated. And often with men, anxiety, uncertainty, intolerance shows up as irritability.

So hypervigilance is all the possible permutations. What could happen? What could happen? This could happen. More of a female response than a male response, but there's both. So women tend to start looking at all the different possibilities. Men tend to, and this is a gross generalization, they tend to get activated. And often with men, anxiety, uncertainty, intolerance shows up as irritability.

And Because irritability is so much more accepted in our society than anger or rage, that becomes the path of least resistance for a lot of men is they just become these irritable people. And I hear that from wives all the time of the guys that I work with who are anxious. It's like, he's always cranky. He's always irritable. And it's like, well, that's his pathway out.

And Because irritability is so much more accepted in our society than anger or rage, that becomes the path of least resistance for a lot of men is they just become these irritable people. And I hear that from wives all the time of the guys that I work with who are anxious. It's like, he's always cranky. He's always irritable. And it's like, well, that's his pathway out.

And Because irritability is so much more accepted in our society than anger or rage, that becomes the path of least resistance for a lot of men is they just become these irritable people. And I hear that from wives all the time of the guys that I work with who are anxious. It's like, he's always cranky. He's always irritable. And it's like, well, that's his pathway out.

That's his way of trying to discharge energy out. And the same with blame. And I think one of the reasons why our society is suffering so much these days is because blame actually feels good.

That's his way of trying to discharge energy out. And the same with blame. And I think one of the reasons why our society is suffering so much these days is because blame actually feels good.

That's his way of trying to discharge energy out. And the same with blame. And I think one of the reasons why our society is suffering so much these days is because blame actually feels good.

If you look at the neuroscience of blame, you're taking yourself out of the default mode network, this sort of constant negative self-appraisal, negative self-evaluation, and you're putting it out onto somebody else. And when you do that, your amygdala drops in energy, your HPA axis drops, your cortisol drops. You just feel better.

If you look at the neuroscience of blame, you're taking yourself out of the default mode network, this sort of constant negative self-appraisal, negative self-evaluation, and you're putting it out onto somebody else. And when you do that, your amygdala drops in energy, your HPA axis drops, your cortisol drops. You just feel better.