Dr. Ryan Martin

Is God taking vengeance on you?

Whatever the thoughts are.

And then there is your emotional response and how you deal with that.

So anger, fear, sadness, whatever that is.

And then there is what you do in response to all of that.

So how you behave.

Do you pound on your horn?

Do you do that?

start giving people the finger, how do you respond?

So what I encourage people to do is to think about what an intervention looks like in each of those different categories.

How do you, so it's a little bit too late once you're in the situation to think about whether or not you could have made different decisions leading into it, but maybe for next time you can think about the different decisions you could make so that you end up not getting stuck in traffic.

I encourage people to think about taking care of themselves so that when they are faced with those situations, they aren't feeling as overwhelmed by it.

So that's taking care of themselves.

And so their mood at the time is impacted.

But also I encourage people in that situation, okay, think about how can you reframe what's happening so that you're thinking about the consequences in a realistic way.

Not that you're lying to yourself, but you're saying, okay, how big a delay is this?

Is this going to cost me five minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes?

How bad a delay is it?

And what is that delay going to mean to the rest of my day?

It might be that it's not as bad as you're making it out to be once you really sit down and start thinking about it.