Dr. Ryan Martin

and so they tend to and it's it's rooted in like age-old psychology that we it's called modeling right and so kids tend to model what their parents did that if mom or dad yell and scream kids tend to yell and scream as a way of of dealing with emotions and um

Now, there's some caveats to that because simultaneously, the other side is that kids sometimes get rewarded or punished for emotional expressions of particular types, right? So a kid hits somebody and they get punished for it. Yeah. Now, oddly enough, sometimes they get punished for it by getting hit by the parent, right? Getting spanked or whatever.

Now, there's some caveats to that because simultaneously, the other side is that kids sometimes get rewarded or punished for emotional expressions of particular types, right? So a kid hits somebody and they get punished for it. Yeah. Now, oddly enough, sometimes they get punished for it by getting hit by the parent, right? Getting spanked or whatever.

Now, there's some caveats to that because simultaneously, the other side is that kids sometimes get rewarded or punished for emotional expressions of particular types, right? So a kid hits somebody and they get punished for it. Yeah. Now, oddly enough, sometimes they get punished for it by getting hit by the parent, right? Getting spanked or whatever.

Right. That's kind of wild when you think about it like that.

Right. That's kind of wild when you think about it like that.

Right. That's kind of wild when you think about it like that.

Yeah, right. And so, um, or they get in trouble for yelling by being yelled at. Um, you know, so like there, there's all sorts of mixed messages there.

Yeah, right. And so, um, or they get in trouble for yelling by being yelled at. Um, you know, so like there, there's all sorts of mixed messages there.

Yeah, right. And so, um, or they get in trouble for yelling by being yelled at. Um, you know, so like there, there's all sorts of mixed messages there.

Um, but to me, I mean, some of the healthiest things you can do with kids when you're, when you're trying to raise emotionally wise children is to talk about feelings often to give them the, the, give them the language to have that conversation, to help them identify what they're feeling.

Um, but to me, I mean, some of the healthiest things you can do with kids when you're, when you're trying to raise emotionally wise children is to talk about feelings often to give them the, the, give them the language to have that conversation, to help them identify what they're feeling.

Um, but to me, I mean, some of the healthiest things you can do with kids when you're, when you're trying to raise emotionally wise children is to talk about feelings often to give them the, the, give them the language to have that conversation, to help them identify what they're feeling.

I think that's a big problem for a lot of people, for a lot of kids and continues is they don't know the difference between anger and sadness. They don't know the difference between fear and anger.

I think that's a big problem for a lot of people, for a lot of kids and continues is they don't know the difference between anger and sadness. They don't know the difference between fear and anger.

I think that's a big problem for a lot of people, for a lot of kids and continues is they don't know the difference between anger and sadness. They don't know the difference between fear and anger.

Oh, yeah. I would just start vibing, you know. Every night you see that kid, he's just vibrating. You don't know what's going on. You got to show him a flash card or something, you know. Say that's joy, that's anger. But, yeah, because you don't know. Right.

Oh, yeah. I would just start vibing, you know. Every night you see that kid, he's just vibrating. You don't know what's going on. You got to show him a flash card or something, you know. Say that's joy, that's anger. But, yeah, because you don't know. Right.

Oh, yeah. I would just start vibing, you know. Every night you see that kid, he's just vibrating. You don't know what's going on. You got to show him a flash card or something, you know. Say that's joy, that's anger. But, yeah, because you don't know. Right.

And so helping kids to – I mean, one of the things I like to do with my kids and liked when they were young is to, like, unpack those emotional experiences with them. And not just their own, but when they see a kid, you know, melting down or a kid getting angry or sad or scared or whatever, to say, so what do you think is going on? Like, where did that come from?