Dr. Ryan Martin

Some of it's how do you stay calm? Part of it's do you consider whether or not you really screwed up? Maybe the problem is that you blew it and you need to find ways to make amends. So it's things like that.

Some of it's how do you stay calm? Part of it's do you consider whether or not you really screwed up? Maybe the problem is that you blew it and you need to find ways to make amends. So it's things like that.

Some of it's how do you stay calm? Part of it's do you consider whether or not you really screwed up? Maybe the problem is that you blew it and you need to find ways to make amends. So it's things like that.

Is apologizing ever a bad idea, do you think?

Is apologizing ever a bad idea, do you think?

Is apologizing ever a bad idea, do you think?

I mean, what I usually say about apologizing is that I don't think people should do it if they don't mean it. I mean, I think you should mean your apology. And I think a lot of times we, you know, so I think that one of the things we've done is by, especially with kids, a lot of times we force them to apologize. We say, like, you got to go say you're sorry.

I mean, what I usually say about apologizing is that I don't think people should do it if they don't mean it. I mean, I think you should mean your apology. And I think a lot of times we, you know, so I think that one of the things we've done is by, especially with kids, a lot of times we force them to apologize. We say, like, you got to go say you're sorry.

I mean, what I usually say about apologizing is that I don't think people should do it if they don't mean it. I mean, I think you should mean your apology. And I think a lot of times we, you know, so I think that one of the things we've done is by, especially with kids, a lot of times we force them to apologize. We say, like, you got to go say you're sorry.

And, you know, I think that actually sends a message of, well, apologizing is what you do to get out of trouble. And that isn't necessarily why we should apologize. We should apologize if we're really sorry. I actually don't want people to apologize to me if they're not actually sorry. That is just a meaningless gesture. And it's weird, too.

And, you know, I think that actually sends a message of, well, apologizing is what you do to get out of trouble. And that isn't necessarily why we should apologize. We should apologize if we're really sorry. I actually don't want people to apologize to me if they're not actually sorry. That is just a meaningless gesture. And it's weird, too.

And, you know, I think that actually sends a message of, well, apologizing is what you do to get out of trouble. And that isn't necessarily why we should apologize. We should apologize if we're really sorry. I actually don't want people to apologize to me if they're not actually sorry. That is just a meaningless gesture. And it's weird, too.

They're still calling you names, but they're apologizing? Right, right. Like, I'm sorry I called you a name, you little. Yes.

They're still calling you names, but they're apologizing? Right, right. Like, I'm sorry I called you a name, you little. Yes.

They're still calling you names, but they're apologizing? Right, right. Like, I'm sorry I called you a name, you little. Yes.

And then you're like, Jesus, God. So if it doesn't lead to changed behavior, then what's the point? So I think the flip side of that is when a person is sorry, they should apologize and they should do it well. They should do it effectively. They should tell people what they're sorry for and they should make amends in a way that suggests that it won't happen again.

And then you're like, Jesus, God. So if it doesn't lead to changed behavior, then what's the point? So I think the flip side of that is when a person is sorry, they should apologize and they should do it well. They should do it effectively. They should tell people what they're sorry for and they should make amends in a way that suggests that it won't happen again.

And then you're like, Jesus, God. So if it doesn't lead to changed behavior, then what's the point? So I think the flip side of that is when a person is sorry, they should apologize and they should do it well. They should do it effectively. They should tell people what they're sorry for and they should make amends in a way that suggests that it won't happen again.

And I think that's where a lot of people fall short is that it's always a I'm sorry if or I'm sorry but instead of just I'm sorry.

And I think that's where a lot of people fall short is that it's always a I'm sorry if or I'm sorry but instead of just I'm sorry.