Dr. Samantha Hiew

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Mainly because it brings up so many questions about how you are socially and relationally and how you communicate.

And social rejection and bullying makes up the top reasons for what all the HD women have said in a survey that I've given.

That is the biggest trauma for them in their lives.

And because it goes back to the piece where we are wired to connect

and form friendships or relationships because it is very regulating for the nervous system of a woman to be in connection with someone.

But it's when it doesn't work out, it breaks up or breaks down, that's when it can be really, really tough.

And it can then put the mirror back to us and make us wonder, is it our fault?

Because most of us actually turn into...

turn to ourselves, you know, and blame ourselves for things not working out.

And I do find that this journey can sometimes lead to a period of time when people can feel like they're a bit lost.

One of the women in my cohort, in my program cohort, she said yesterday that she was going through an existential questioning of who she is.

For a few months, you know, when she's questioning the ODHD label and everyone around her thought that she was depressed.

But she says she's not depressed.

She's just in some sort of, you know, spiritual questioning.

You can wake up one day and see that your life is no longer the same as decades ago.

And it can feel momentarily destabilizing.

And you try and look around you.

to find someone who could help anchor you, even if you had to pay someone to do it, whether it's a coach or a therapist.

But it's quite important to have someone to guide you through this journey.