Dr Sarah Warley

And when it goes, it can be an absolute sea change in functioning.

I've seen it many times.

Yes, I think for us, again, a subset of people with ADHD, I think the nervous system probably is tilted.

into this survival mode.

And I always like to think in terms of evolution, why that might be the case.

Really handy, right?

Really handy to have someone within the tribe that's going to be like the mirror ball, scanning with eyes in the back of their head at what could be about to happen.

Is there a potential threat and noticing things and connecting dots that other people won't connect?

Super, super useful evolutionarily, but not necessarily great fun to live with if you're on that life edge.

I think two things.

I think a feeling that you're perpetually letting people down, despite all your best efforts.

You know, you genuinely don't mean something and you genuinely care about something, but you just

don't manage to show up on time or we don't manage to deliver and you let people down.

And I think, you know, when you hear your whole life, oh God, you know, just get more organized, just, you know, get with it.

You know, why are you so all over the place?

Why, you know, why can't you just get your stuff together?

You know, I mean, you hear that again and again and again and again, you begin to internalize it, you know?

Yeah, so I think that's the difficulty because it's all about neuroplasticity, isn't it?

You hear something enough, you become it.

And then it takes time to unlearn it.