Dr. Scott Lyons

when you like go to the underneath surface, like what's underneath the pattern? What's underneath the survival strategy? And I think about this quote or this proverb that says, a child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.

A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. meaning what will we do to get the thing that's so deeply missing in us And that's the most surprising thing about addiction to drama. You can get so distracted and see like, okay, that person's always busy. They're always making challenges that are unnecessary.

A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. meaning what will we do to get the thing that's so deeply missing in us And that's the most surprising thing about addiction to drama. You can get so distracted and see like, okay, that person's always busy. They're always making challenges that are unnecessary.

A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. meaning what will we do to get the thing that's so deeply missing in us And that's the most surprising thing about addiction to drama. You can get so distracted and see like, okay, that person's always busy. They're always making challenges that are unnecessary.

Their emotional responses are totally disproportionate to what's actually happening into the environment. We all recognize that and we can go, okay, that's just who they are. They're a drama queen. They're addicted to the stress. They're addicted to the chaos. They're just constantly of chaos and crisis.

Their emotional responses are totally disproportionate to what's actually happening into the environment. We all recognize that and we can go, okay, that's just who they are. They're a drama queen. They're addicted to the stress. They're addicted to the chaos. They're just constantly of chaos and crisis.

Their emotional responses are totally disproportionate to what's actually happening into the environment. We all recognize that and we can go, okay, that's just who they are. They're a drama queen. They're addicted to the stress. They're addicted to the chaos. They're just constantly of chaos and crisis.

But the reality is underneath the surface of that is a deep wound that is desperately trying to be filled, that is desperately trying to be avoided simultaneously. And that's the tension here. That is such a unique tension of going, I want you, I want connection, I want to be less alone, I want to be healed. And at the same time, that connection,

But the reality is underneath the surface of that is a deep wound that is desperately trying to be filled, that is desperately trying to be avoided simultaneously. And that's the tension here. That is such a unique tension of going, I want you, I want connection, I want to be less alone, I want to be healed. And at the same time, that connection,

But the reality is underneath the surface of that is a deep wound that is desperately trying to be filled, that is desperately trying to be avoided simultaneously. And that's the tension here. That is such a unique tension of going, I want you, I want connection, I want to be less alone, I want to be healed. And at the same time, that connection,

That intimacy, the techniques or the tools of healing feel so dangerous. And so they're just running from themselves consistently. It is a way to survive and burning down the village to try to get any sense of sensation and experience aliveness because the numbness it takes to avoid that underlying pain is so significant that you have to do something extreme to feel alive above that.

That intimacy, the techniques or the tools of healing feel so dangerous. And so they're just running from themselves consistently. It is a way to survive and burning down the village to try to get any sense of sensation and experience aliveness because the numbness it takes to avoid that underlying pain is so significant that you have to do something extreme to feel alive above that.

That intimacy, the techniques or the tools of healing feel so dangerous. And so they're just running from themselves consistently. It is a way to survive and burning down the village to try to get any sense of sensation and experience aliveness because the numbness it takes to avoid that underlying pain is so significant that you have to do something extreme to feel alive above that.

there's a lot of really interesting research that we can unpack. And it all comes back to why any addiction? And Gabor Mate is this brilliant physician and addiction specialist. And he says, don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain. And that is the lead in for understanding what's happening in the brain. You know, we register emotional and physical pain in the exact same way.

there's a lot of really interesting research that we can unpack. And it all comes back to why any addiction? And Gabor Mate is this brilliant physician and addiction specialist. And he says, don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain. And that is the lead in for understanding what's happening in the brain. You know, we register emotional and physical pain in the exact same way.

there's a lot of really interesting research that we can unpack. And it all comes back to why any addiction? And Gabor Mate is this brilliant physician and addiction specialist. And he says, don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain. And that is the lead in for understanding what's happening in the brain. You know, we register emotional and physical pain in the exact same way.

It's not discerned. A heartbreak is significant pain. A abandonment wound is registered in the same way that when we break an arm. And it's important to understand that because our basic human nature is to get relief from suffering.

It's not discerned. A heartbreak is significant pain. A abandonment wound is registered in the same way that when we break an arm. And it's important to understand that because our basic human nature is to get relief from suffering.

It's not discerned. A heartbreak is significant pain. A abandonment wound is registered in the same way that when we break an arm. And it's important to understand that because our basic human nature is to get relief from suffering.

And we have this whole physiological process called endorphins. Endorphins are those things that are releasing into your body to help you feel more pleasure, to feel pain relief and emotional warmth, actually. And it makes us feel more connected to each other. And those chemicals in our brain and our body are so significant for helping us relieve some of that underlying suffering.