Dr. Shadé Zahrai

So give me an example.

So an example would be, okay, I don't want to spend the whole weekend saying,

helping someone move in because I'm going to say yes to the fact that I need recovery this weekend.

Yes.

So then when you go and give the decline, it's not just a no because I'm selfish.

It's actually, again, thank you for thinking of me this weekend.

I'm focusing on rest and recovery, but let me know how you go.

So that's the second tool.

I want to share just two more.

Really quick ones.

The third one is a really counterintuitive one.

If you want to accept yourself more, go and get a hobby.

Why?

Because people who struggle with self-acceptance tend to identify with their jobs.

So if you're watching or listening right now and you're resonating with this, you probably identify with the work that you do.

Which means if things are going really well at work, you feel fantastic.

If things are not going well, you're going to feel terrible because you're internalizing it.

Does that resonate?

When you do something outside of your day job, outside of your business, outside of whatever title you've attached to yourself, it reminds you that you are so much more than what you're doing in that business, at work.

Now, we also need to acknowledge sometimes this is to do with your role as a parent.