Dr. Shadé Zahrai

It's wild.

When you think about the implications for us in our lives, okay, it may not be a physical scar, but we all have beliefs or expectations about ourselves based on how we see ourselves, our self-image.

And then we're going to notice things that reinforce it because of how the brain is wired.

Confirmation bias, selective attention.

Your brain is wired to magnify what you focus on.

So if you're going into your life, into your conversations, into your meetings, into your work, believing that you're not worthy, that you're not capable, that you don't deserve it, you're going to notice things that reinforce that and it's only going to make you feel worse.

So we know that about self-image, so the first question to ask ourselves is, what are these invisible scars that we are carrying throughout our lives?

How can we become more aware of them?

So then my next question is, great, so that's the power of self-image, and self-image drives our self-doubt.

But how do you measure self-image?

If I were to ask you, Jay, what do you think your self-image is?

You might share something and then I'd ask someone else, what do you think your self-image is?

And they might share something else.

We need to determine if something is measurable so we can determine what it is.

And when we look at over 50 years worth of research, this is when we find that, yes, there's a lot of information out there, but it really comes down to just four dimensions of how we see ourselves.

And when these four things change,

come together, that shapes our self-image, it shapes how we interact with the world.

Not only that, these four things that actually have their base in our personality, they have been shown through meta-analyses of over 100 studies to predict our success, our job performance, our career satisfaction, how happy we are in our life and our relationships, and it all comes down to these four things.

And I could not believe it when I came across it.

So let me tell you what these four things are, because essentially these four things drive our self-image, which then drives our self-doubt when they're weak.