Dr. Shadé Zahrai

And the research tells us that you can so better manage your emotional state and actually assess, okay, well, are any of these actually going to happen?

And do I have control over any of these things?

Now, the next step is once your alarm goes off, you actually close it and that's it.

Like you're done with your worries.

End of the week, you reflect.

What could I control?

What couldn't I control?

And if there's something I can control, what am I going to do about it?

It's a really effective way to deal with that overthinking.

You don't realize how you're keeping yourself stuck when you complain about the things you have no control over.

It's cathartic.

It feels good in the moment.

It's rewarding, but it's actually keeping you stuck.

The moment you find yourself complaining, the first step is to become aware of it, which is sometimes the hard part.

The next step is to ask yourself, okay, well, I essentially have a few options here.

I can accept the situation as it is.

I can change the situation.

I can leave the situation or I can change how I see the situation.

They're the only four options I have.

So you pick one and then acknowledge that if I keep complaining about this, I'm only going to feel worse.