Dr. Shadé Zahrai

And research shows that this process of self-forgetting by becoming more service-oriented helps to quieten that incessant voice of the ego.

And it's remarkable how when you tap into that, suddenly you realize, okay, I don't have to be so in my head.

I want to share just a couple of really simple techniques for anyone who really does struggle with acceptance.

The first one is if you struggle with acceptance, you are going to attach your sense of identity to your job.

and to your achievements and to your performance.

So if things are going well professionally, if you're achieving things, if you're doing amazing things, you feel fantastic.

And then something happens and it all crumbles and you fail.

You take it personally.

You internalize that failure.

So the first and foremost thing you need to do is acknowledge you are not your job.

There is so much to you that exists outside of that environment, which I know is really hard to do if you work, especially in a corporate organization, where your entire status is determined by your job title and how well you're delivering and your promotion track record, right?

So we tend to internalize these things, but you need to consciously remind yourself through that prefrontal activation, I am not my job.

I am so much more than this.

And there's a really interesting little technique we like to share.

Not even a technique.

It's actually a suggestion.

So, Jay, there was a study that was conducted with Nobel Prize winning scientists, and they looked at 500 of them, and they found that they were three times more likely than regular scientists to have a creative hobby.

Not only that, they were 22 times more likely than regular scientists to have a hobby in the performing arts, singing, music, drama.

Many of them attribute that hobby to helping them bounce back when things didn't go to plan and also to allowing them to make connections that other people wouldn't have been able to.

And so what can we take from that?