Dr. Shadé Zahrai

no longer infiltrates how we see ourselves.

And instead it's there.

Hey, okay, I can see you.

I know that you're that voice up there, but I don't have to listen to you.

I don't have to believe everything I think.

And that's so incredibly powerful when people both acknowledge it and then take the steps to actually get there.

It's because we misunderstand self-doubt as being one blob of worry, insecurity, fear, and anxiety.

And that means then if we think it's one thing, we think there's one solution.

And that's why so many people are disappointed when they've tried the self-help route and they've tried this book or that approach and it's not working.

And it's because self-doubt doesn't operate that way.

There are actually four distinct elements.

And once you figure out which one is lacking in you, which one is weak...

then you know exactly what you need to focus on.

And then you can access the tools and the frameworks to help you move through and strengthen that so that everything in life just becomes so much more freeing.

Let's start with acceptance.

And so self-acceptance is fundamentally accepting that you are a work in progress.

You don't need other people to validate your worth.

You are worthy just by existing.

Now, that doesn't mean that you accept that you will never change.

It's actually acknowledging that I can change, I can grow and be that work in progress, knowing that self-improvement is possible.