Dr. Stephanie Sarkis

Thank you.

Thanks for having me on again.

I think first, when we think of ADHD as a diagnosis, it's a reason why some behaviors happen, but it doesn't give someone the right to treat their friends poorly.

So when you have ADHD, you have issues with time management, you have issues with

time blindness where you don't realize how much time is going to take you to get somewhere.

But also you are obligated to, to a friend to say, I'm sorry this happened and figure out a way to remedy that.

So if the person is saying they have ADHD, are they also saying to you, Hey, you know what?

I'm working on this or I'm in therapy or I'm taking medication or not that the friend's obligated to tell you their medical history, but are they telling you, you know, how they're going to make sure that this gets better?

So most people with ADHD are upset when they are running late.

It's a little more nuanced.

I mean, it's a neurological, it's a neurodevelopmental biological disorder.

But also, even if you have issues, you still apologize if you hurt somebody's feelings.

It doesn't matter if you think that what you did was acceptable.

If someone's upset, you still say, hey, I'm sorry I hurt you.

Um, and yes, having ADHD does make you more late to things, but it also means that this is a friend that maybe you can talk to about the issue, right?

Instead of saying, well, you know, I don't know what's going on with ADHD.

Let me read up about it.

Maybe talk to that friend and go, Hey, you know what?

When, when you said you were going to show up and someone called and said that you were late and that you weren't coming because you had another plan that hurt me.

And I think that's an appropriate thing to say to someone.