Dr. Stephen McIver

But when we do invest and we lose, it creates that regret.

That regret then creates a reflection.

So we hold it.

So what we're doing is we're reminiscing, we're thinking about it.

So we're really embedding those memories in our brain.

So we hold on to them.

Mm-hmm.

It can be really useful.

Humans need to regret to open up reflection to be able to grow.

But if we're holding ourselves back, judging ourselves, identity being undermined by that without seeing that actually this is added to us, that experience that you had, that Chris had, that we've all had.

actually shows our grit.

It shows what we've come through and we learn about ourselves in these processes.

And that's the key journey in our lives is learning how we get out of our own way and how we get in our own way.

That's not a good place to be, I would imagine.

100 percent.

Absolutely not.

And we as athletes, when we talk about performance sport, we've got to own our own part.

You know, it's very easy.

The world we live in now, Clare, well, it was somebody else.

He made a mistake or the coach was bad or et cetera, et cetera.