Dr. Stephen McIver

So that allows us to move into the next challenge, much more buoyancy.

Well, it is in the mode that I saw on the thing because you can see the exuberance he has for the environment, the connection, how much it meant to him.

But there's also an element of positivity in that and the friends slagging him and him talking about being a pelican and whatnot.

It shows that, yes, it still hurts, but he looks back with a lot of fondness, I would imagine.

And that's what we should do, fondness for ourselves.

that we stuck at it and that we showed that grit at that time.

Absolutely.

And that's a normal process because we live in this

perfect idiocy world that everything has to be a win everything has to be a perfect outcome.

It does if you have a good support structure around you people that restructure your interpretation of that loss.

If we see it and we will naturally, human beings are conditioned to protect ourselves and we will often blame ourselves.

We'll find fault with ourselves much quicker than others will find fault with us.

So we need external feedback and then reflection to say, well, actually, I did turn up.

Well, actually, yeah, I did this well.

Well, I did that well.

In every performance, in everything that we do, there is always positives.

And the job for us as support structures in sport, in elite sport, as psychologists, is to extract and get the person to see those positives.

They're looking in the mirror a little bit more smudgy and we've got to...

clean the mirror so they see themselves a bit more clearly and see the positives in them that then allows them to deal with those setbacks and actually feel stronger.

Our identity is key to that.