Dr. Sue Morter

It's a beautiful sign.

In this moment, instead of asking, why do you do that?

Because every time you do it, it upsets me.

Or, so what's wrong with you?

What do I have to do to get you to stop doing that?

Or what's wrong with me that I'm reacting to this?

What do I have to do differently?

Just ask a better question.

And that is, where in my system could I build circuitry to be able to tap into aspects of my deep consciousness that's been pocketed away

And pull it up and out.

Because if I could pull up and out all of the parts of my wholeness, I could be present with anything and not be triggered, not be reactive.

I could see it for what it is and embrace and maybe even keep my wherewithal enough to offer up a solution or to offer up another way of looking at things instead of getting distracted.

emotional and reactive, et cetera.

And so what is hidden inside of me wants out in a moment of being triggered.

And so if I ask the question, where in my system could I open a door to allow that to contribute to my engagement at this time, my interactions at this time, the system will automatically offer up an answer.

Because that's how we're built.

You ask the question, the question is answered instantly.

But if we're overriding it with our, you know, shutting it down by the idea that you shouldn't do that because it upsets me or that should never have happened 20 years ago or 50 years ago in my life.

And so I'm now harboring this anger or this frustration based upon what has happened in my story.

Now what happens is we say, for just a moment, I'm going to get underneath that whole story layer of me and free up this energy again, because that anger can become passion.