Dr. Sunita Sah
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He wanted to, but he could not say anything.
He wanted to, but he could not say anything.
He wanted to, but he could not say anything.
Once he got home, he told his wife about this massage and she said, that's not normal. Why didn't you say anything? And he was like, well, I didn't want him to think that he wasn't doing his job properly. I thought this is how massages go. So I just couldn't say anything to him. And she said, so you'd rather have him hurt you than you hurt his feelings. And he was like, exactly.
Once he got home, he told his wife about this massage and she said, that's not normal. Why didn't you say anything? And he was like, well, I didn't want him to think that he wasn't doing his job properly. I thought this is how massages go. So I just couldn't say anything to him. And she said, so you'd rather have him hurt you than you hurt his feelings. And he was like, exactly.
Once he got home, he told his wife about this massage and she said, that's not normal. Why didn't you say anything? And he was like, well, I didn't want him to think that he wasn't doing his job properly. I thought this is how massages go. So I just couldn't say anything to him. And she said, so you'd rather have him hurt you than you hurt his feelings. And he was like, exactly.
When I was young, I remember asking my dad, what does my name, Sunita, mean? And he said, oh, in Sanskrit, Sunita means good. And so mostly I lived up to that. I was known for being an obedient daughter and student. So I did what I was told. I did my homework the way that they wanted me to and expected. I even had my hair cut the way my parents insisted.
When I was young, I remember asking my dad, what does my name, Sunita, mean? And he said, oh, in Sanskrit, Sunita means good. And so mostly I lived up to that. I was known for being an obedient daughter and student. So I did what I was told. I did my homework the way that they wanted me to and expected. I even had my hair cut the way my parents insisted.
When I was young, I remember asking my dad, what does my name, Sunita, mean? And he said, oh, in Sanskrit, Sunita means good. And so mostly I lived up to that. I was known for being an obedient daughter and student. So I did what I was told. I did my homework the way that they wanted me to and expected. I even had my hair cut the way my parents insisted.
And these were the messages I received, not just from my family, but from the community and from teachers, is to be good, to be polite, to obey, not to question authority. And mostly I lived up to that.
And these were the messages I received, not just from my family, but from the community and from teachers, is to be good, to be polite, to obey, not to question authority. And mostly I lived up to that.
And these were the messages I received, not just from my family, but from the community and from teachers, is to be good, to be polite, to obey, not to question authority. And mostly I lived up to that.
Yes, and I think this is maybe a dynamic that is familiar to first-generation children of immigrants. So I do remember my dad getting me out of bed in the middle of the night because I hadn't practiced my flutes and I had to do the scales.
Yes, and I think this is maybe a dynamic that is familiar to first-generation children of immigrants. So I do remember my dad getting me out of bed in the middle of the night because I hadn't practiced my flutes and I had to do the scales.
Yes, and I think this is maybe a dynamic that is familiar to first-generation children of immigrants. So I do remember my dad getting me out of bed in the middle of the night because I hadn't practiced my flutes and I had to do the scales.
So we were in London around 2012 for the Olympics and I was really excited because the Olympic flame was going to pass where I used to live in London and I wanted to take him with me to see the flame. And he was nearly five years old and we were walking along. It was a hot day and he was tired because he'd already been out in the morning and he didn't want to go.
So we were in London around 2012 for the Olympics and I was really excited because the Olympic flame was going to pass where I used to live in London and I wanted to take him with me to see the flame. And he was nearly five years old and we were walking along. It was a hot day and he was tired because he'd already been out in the morning and he didn't want to go.
So we were in London around 2012 for the Olympics and I was really excited because the Olympic flame was going to pass where I used to live in London and I wanted to take him with me to see the flame. And he was nearly five years old and we were walking along. It was a hot day and he was tired because he'd already been out in the morning and he didn't want to go.
So he kept holding me back and I told him to hurry up, come. And then he just like, no, I don't want to go. He was jutting his chin out. And I know that look very, very well now. And he just refused to go. So I tried to pick him up and carry him. He was too heavy. And he just sat down in the middle of the pavement. And whatever I said, I couldn't make him go.
So he kept holding me back and I told him to hurry up, come. And then he just like, no, I don't want to go. He was jutting his chin out. And I know that look very, very well now. And he just refused to go. So I tried to pick him up and carry him. He was too heavy. And he just sat down in the middle of the pavement. And whatever I said, I couldn't make him go.