Dr. Sunita Sah

Well, what I've found is that we tend to actively resist defiance. And there's three key reasons for why this happens. So first of all, we feel enormous pressure to go along with other people for a variety of reasons, like we're conditioned to comply.

Well, what I've found is that we tend to actively resist defiance. And there's three key reasons for why this happens. So first of all, we feel enormous pressure to go along with other people for a variety of reasons, like we're conditioned to comply.

And we also have some distinct psychological processes which I can go into that make it very difficult for us to reject another person's recommendation or suggestion. So that's the first one, this pressure to go along with other people. Second, we don't really understand what compliance and defiance actually are. So I've given you my new definition of defiance, which really helps.

And we also have some distinct psychological processes which I can go into that make it very difficult for us to reject another person's recommendation or suggestion. So that's the first one, this pressure to go along with other people. Second, we don't really understand what compliance and defiance actually are. So I've given you my new definition of defiance, which really helps.

And we also have some distinct psychological processes which I can go into that make it very difficult for us to reject another person's recommendation or suggestion. So that's the first one, this pressure to go along with other people. Second, we don't really understand what compliance and defiance actually are. So I've given you my new definition of defiance, which really helps.

But once we totally understand what's involved in complying, consenting and defying, that helps us determine when we need to defy. And then the last one is once we decide that we should defy in this situation or we want to defy in this particular situation, we don't actually know how. We don't have the skill set or the ability and we're not practiced enough to put our values into action.

But once we totally understand what's involved in complying, consenting and defying, that helps us determine when we need to defy. And then the last one is once we decide that we should defy in this situation or we want to defy in this particular situation, we don't actually know how. We don't have the skill set or the ability and we're not practiced enough to put our values into action.

But once we totally understand what's involved in complying, consenting and defying, that helps us determine when we need to defy. And then the last one is once we decide that we should defy in this situation or we want to defy in this particular situation, we don't actually know how. We don't have the skill set or the ability and we're not practiced enough to put our values into action.

Sometimes it's fear that's keeping us from speaking up. So we might fear the consequences, for example, oh, I don't want to lose a relationship. Maybe I'll lose a job or I'll be embarrassed. And we very much think about the costs of defiance, but we don't think about the costs of actually complying as much as we should, because they are costs from compliance.

Sometimes it's fear that's keeping us from speaking up. So we might fear the consequences, for example, oh, I don't want to lose a relationship. Maybe I'll lose a job or I'll be embarrassed. And we very much think about the costs of defiance, but we don't think about the costs of actually complying as much as we should, because they are costs from compliance.

Sometimes it's fear that's keeping us from speaking up. So we might fear the consequences, for example, oh, I don't want to lose a relationship. Maybe I'll lose a job or I'll be embarrassed. And we very much think about the costs of defiance, but we don't think about the costs of actually complying as much as we should, because they are costs from compliance.

bowing your head to other people continuously from disregarding your values, it can leave you drained and muted and not being able to live your own authentic, honest life. So there could be fear. It doesn't need to be fear. And in fact, what I've found in some of my interviews is sometimes fear allows us to defy. Fear of terrible consequences of not defying motivates us. So there is that aspect.

bowing your head to other people continuously from disregarding your values, it can leave you drained and muted and not being able to live your own authentic, honest life. So there could be fear. It doesn't need to be fear. And in fact, what I've found in some of my interviews is sometimes fear allows us to defy. Fear of terrible consequences of not defying motivates us. So there is that aspect.

bowing your head to other people continuously from disregarding your values, it can leave you drained and muted and not being able to live your own authentic, honest life. So there could be fear. It doesn't need to be fear. And in fact, what I've found in some of my interviews is sometimes fear allows us to defy. Fear of terrible consequences of not defying motivates us. So there is that aspect.

The fact that we are so strongly socialized and let me tell you about this psychological process that I've discovered in my research, which also keeps us compliant at times. So it's one that I call insinuation anxiety. And this is a very distinct type of anxiety that arises when we worry that our noncompliance with another person's wishes may be interpreted as a signal of distrust.

The fact that we are so strongly socialized and let me tell you about this psychological process that I've discovered in my research, which also keeps us compliant at times. So it's one that I call insinuation anxiety. And this is a very distinct type of anxiety that arises when we worry that our noncompliance with another person's wishes may be interpreted as a signal of distrust.

The fact that we are so strongly socialized and let me tell you about this psychological process that I've discovered in my research, which also keeps us compliant at times. So it's one that I call insinuation anxiety. And this is a very distinct type of anxiety that arises when we worry that our noncompliance with another person's wishes may be interpreted as a signal of distrust.

So it insinuates that the person is not whom they appear to be or should be. And that increases the pressure for us to comply. So, for example, if your boss tells you to do something and you don't think that's the right way to go, it's hard to insinuate that they're incompetent a lot of the time, especially if everybody else is agreeing around you.

So it insinuates that the person is not whom they appear to be or should be. And that increases the pressure for us to comply. So, for example, if your boss tells you to do something and you don't think that's the right way to go, it's hard to insinuate that they're incompetent a lot of the time, especially if everybody else is agreeing around you.

So it insinuates that the person is not whom they appear to be or should be. And that increases the pressure for us to comply. So, for example, if your boss tells you to do something and you don't think that's the right way to go, it's hard to insinuate that they're incompetent a lot of the time, especially if everybody else is agreeing around you.