Dr. Todd Rose

But that's really sad.

I mean, it has to come to that.

At the end of the day, like what's so important about this, and we can talk about why, when it comes to collective illusions, it's about individuals.

It's about authenticity.

Authenticity is the kryptonite.

of collective illusions.

Silence is never the answer.

Authenticity always is.

And let's be fair to all of us.

We want to be successful on our own terms, and we also would love to be recognized for

For that.

But for what?

So if I think being successful is finding fulfillment and doing something, like literally most people's view of success is getting meaning in their life by contributing to the lives of other people.

That's literally if I could sum it up, right?

Well, I want to do that, but I would also love that you recognize that I do that and it's valuable.

Like nothing wrong with wanting society to recognize my accomplishments, my aspirations and validate them.

The slippery slope is I can, without thinking, just like with your drinking example, where you're like, I didn't even think about it and suddenly I'm having a glass of wine.

Without thinking about it, we can easily slip into wanting their affirmation first and corrupting what we choose to do

as a result.

And I'll give you why this matters.