Dr. Todd Rose

to supplement our income.

We were selling blood plasma, you know, all the things you have to do.

And recognizing rock bottom, I was working at what was Circuit City, which they've gone out of business now.

And on my lunch break, I didn't have any money.

So I went over to Barnes & Noble and I was perusing this self-help section.

I had no self-esteem.

I'd lied to myself a lot.

Mm-hmm.

I knew something had to change.

And I happened upon a book called The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.

And Nathaniel Brandon said, self-esteem is not something you can directly act on.

It's the alignment of your beliefs and your behavior.

And if your behavior and beliefs don't align, you won't respect yourself.

Why would you?

But this was the nugget for me that completely changed my life.

I had always assumed that my beliefs were my beliefs and that my behavior was what needed to change.

But this book told me that's not true.

That you may not actually believe the things you believe that you believe.

And in my case, it was religious in nature.

I had tried so hard to align my behaviors to a set of beliefs that came from my religion.