Dr. Tracy Vaillancourt

So again, if we just focus on high status, high powered bullies, I guess the cost would be one that's borne by society and those in their lives more than at the individual level. And that kind of hurts to tell you that because I would want there to be a cost that dissuades them from acting this way.

But the truth of the matter is that they're a menace to those in their lives, not necessarily to themselves. And so I think one of the costs to themselves would be maybe in the end, they have more difficult relationships because it maintains their narcissism or it... influences their narcissistic traits. So it makes them more pronounced. They become more entitled.

But the truth of the matter is that they're a menace to those in their lives, not necessarily to themselves. And so I think one of the costs to themselves would be maybe in the end, they have more difficult relationships because it maintains their narcissism or it... influences their narcissistic traits. So it makes them more pronounced. They become more entitled.

But the truth of the matter is that they're a menace to those in their lives, not necessarily to themselves. And so I think one of the costs to themselves would be maybe in the end, they have more difficult relationships because it maintains their narcissism or it... influences their narcissistic traits. So it makes them more pronounced. They become more entitled.

And then that is challenging to be around.

And then that is challenging to be around.

And then that is challenging to be around.

So, I mean, that was like a really big focus back in the day. Like, could we identify kids who get bullied so that we could protect them? And obviously those who are not able to defend themselves are going to have a harder time. you know, think about this, like if, and we're talking again about the Nelson, and I know I keep making this distinction, but that's, they're really different animals.

So, I mean, that was like a really big focus back in the day. Like, could we identify kids who get bullied so that we could protect them? And obviously those who are not able to defend themselves are going to have a harder time. you know, think about this, like if, and we're talking again about the Nelson, and I know I keep making this distinction, but that's, they're really different animals.

So, I mean, that was like a really big focus back in the day. Like, could we identify kids who get bullied so that we could protect them? And obviously those who are not able to defend themselves are going to have a harder time. you know, think about this, like if, and we're talking again about the Nelson, and I know I keep making this distinction, but that's, they're really different animals.

It really looks different. So those kids come into grade one, let's just say, and they, they just pick on everybody. And you know, I pick on Tracy and she goes and tells the teacher right away. And then I pick on Chris and he doesn't tell anybody. And so that gets me coming back. Right. So one of the things that you see is that those that are willing to intervene on their behalf.

It really looks different. So those kids come into grade one, let's just say, and they, they just pick on everybody. And you know, I pick on Tracy and she goes and tells the teacher right away. And then I pick on Chris and he doesn't tell anybody. And so that gets me coming back. Right. So one of the things that you see is that those that are willing to intervene on their behalf.

It really looks different. So those kids come into grade one, let's just say, and they, they just pick on everybody. And you know, I pick on Tracy and she goes and tells the teacher right away. And then I pick on Chris and he doesn't tell anybody. And so that gets me coming back. Right. So one of the things that you see is that those that are willing to intervene on their behalf.

So meaning like saying, no, I'm not going to allow this to happen or tell somebody immediately, they tend to not get victimized again. Um, Now, that's not always the case. But, you know, as a general rule, saying no and sticking up for yourself is a good way to go. But not everybody has the capacity to do that. So I'm not asking people to do it because I recognize that's inherently unfair.

So meaning like saying, no, I'm not going to allow this to happen or tell somebody immediately, they tend to not get victimized again. Um, Now, that's not always the case. But, you know, as a general rule, saying no and sticking up for yourself is a good way to go. But not everybody has the capacity to do that. So I'm not asking people to do it because I recognize that's inherently unfair.

So meaning like saying, no, I'm not going to allow this to happen or tell somebody immediately, they tend to not get victimized again. Um, Now, that's not always the case. But, you know, as a general rule, saying no and sticking up for yourself is a good way to go. But not everybody has the capacity to do that. So I'm not asking people to do it because I recognize that's inherently unfair.

Kids who are shy and socially withdrawn tend to get picked on a little bit more. Kids who are girls who have ADHD, who are just a little bit atypical, neurodivergent kids get picked on a little bit more. Kids who don't have the cool stuff that everybody has can be picked on more. So if you're in a middle-class school and you're not wealthy, you're not in that economic bracket, you could be

Kids who are shy and socially withdrawn tend to get picked on a little bit more. Kids who are girls who have ADHD, who are just a little bit atypical, neurodivergent kids get picked on a little bit more. Kids who don't have the cool stuff that everybody has can be picked on more. So if you're in a middle-class school and you're not wealthy, you're not in that economic bracket, you could be

Kids who are shy and socially withdrawn tend to get picked on a little bit more. Kids who are girls who have ADHD, who are just a little bit atypical, neurodivergent kids get picked on a little bit more. Kids who don't have the cool stuff that everybody has can be picked on more. So if you're in a middle-class school and you're not wealthy, you're not in that economic bracket, you could be

more at risk. Kids who have poor social skills can get picked on. But then there's also kids who challenge those who wield power who can get picked on. So if you're a very attractive girl, let's say, and you move to a new school, God help you. It's just not going to go well. Those girls are going to eat you alive and make sure that you don't usurp their power.