Dr. Tracy Vaillancourt

more at risk. Kids who have poor social skills can get picked on. But then there's also kids who challenge those who wield power who can get picked on. So if you're a very attractive girl, let's say, and you move to a new school, God help you. It's just not going to go well. Those girls are going to eat you alive and make sure that you don't usurp their power.

more at risk. Kids who have poor social skills can get picked on. But then there's also kids who challenge those who wield power who can get picked on. So if you're a very attractive girl, let's say, and you move to a new school, God help you. It's just not going to go well. Those girls are going to eat you alive and make sure that you don't usurp their power.

If you're a very athletic boy and you come into a new school, I think you'll be OK because boys tend to tolerate hierarchies more than girls. So, you know, it's a little complicated. I know you maybe want just like a list of here are the things of kids that like put that places kids at risk. But I just can't give it to you because it's far more complicated than that.

If you're a very athletic boy and you come into a new school, I think you'll be OK because boys tend to tolerate hierarchies more than girls. So, you know, it's a little complicated. I know you maybe want just like a list of here are the things of kids that like put that places kids at risk. But I just can't give it to you because it's far more complicated than that.

If you're a very athletic boy and you come into a new school, I think you'll be OK because boys tend to tolerate hierarchies more than girls. So, you know, it's a little complicated. I know you maybe want just like a list of here are the things of kids that like put that places kids at risk. But I just can't give it to you because it's far more complicated than that.

I think bullying exploits that fundamental need to belong for sure. And that comes back to, remember we talked about their social skills, like how do they know that and how they know that so early for sure. And then bullying also exploits, well, I mean, it thwarts people's fundamental need to belong, but it's not always exploiting it.

I think bullying exploits that fundamental need to belong for sure. And that comes back to, remember we talked about their social skills, like how do they know that and how they know that so early for sure. And then bullying also exploits, well, I mean, it thwarts people's fundamental need to belong, but it's not always exploiting it.

I think bullying exploits that fundamental need to belong for sure. And that comes back to, remember we talked about their social skills, like how do they know that and how they know that so early for sure. And then bullying also exploits, well, I mean, it thwarts people's fundamental need to belong, but it's not always exploiting it.

So some kids are just better at it, at better picking up what your sensitivities are. And then, then just, treating you poorly as a consequence right like they just know which buttons to press um I don't know if we know really what that ingredient is so if we're still building our meal like

So some kids are just better at it, at better picking up what your sensitivities are. And then, then just, treating you poorly as a consequence right like they just know which buttons to press um I don't know if we know really what that ingredient is so if we're still building our meal like

So some kids are just better at it, at better picking up what your sensitivities are. And then, then just, treating you poorly as a consequence right like they just know which buttons to press um I don't know if we know really what that ingredient is so if we're still building our meal like

100%. And that's exactly what the research shows. So if I'm a bully, the kids that I bully and you're in my group, you're also bullying them. So they can't win, right? And then they become, in a sense, avoided. Not in a sense. They really do get avoided because nobody wants to be the next target. And I always think about like, it's like social singling, right?

100%. And that's exactly what the research shows. So if I'm a bully, the kids that I bully and you're in my group, you're also bullying them. So they can't win, right? And then they become, in a sense, avoided. Not in a sense. They really do get avoided because nobody wants to be the next target. And I always think about like, it's like social singling, right?

100%. And that's exactly what the research shows. So if I'm a bully, the kids that I bully and you're in my group, you're also bullying them. So they can't win, right? And then they become, in a sense, avoided. Not in a sense. They really do get avoided because nobody wants to be the next target. And I always think about like, it's like social singling, right?

Like we talk a lot about virtue singling now and everybody pretending they're good and look at me. But there's another singling that's happening. And it's about like, hey, you mess with me, you're going to be the next target. And this is what it looks like. So the kid's head really is on a stake for everybody to see. And then...

Like we talk a lot about virtue singling now and everybody pretending they're good and look at me. But there's another singling that's happening. And it's about like, hey, you mess with me, you're going to be the next target. And this is what it looks like. So the kid's head really is on a stake for everybody to see. And then...

Like we talk a lot about virtue singling now and everybody pretending they're good and look at me. But there's another singling that's happening. And it's about like, hey, you mess with me, you're going to be the next target. And this is what it looks like. So the kid's head really is on a stake for everybody to see. And then...

when we talk, we talked about this already, but this is what I mean why we can't, we shouldn't mix up aggression with bullying because you can imagine how isolating that is to the kid who's been victimized. How do they get out of that? And then They tend to learn that the way to get out of that is then to act like the jerk who's doing it to them.

when we talk, we talked about this already, but this is what I mean why we can't, we shouldn't mix up aggression with bullying because you can imagine how isolating that is to the kid who's been victimized. How do they get out of that? And then They tend to learn that the way to get out of that is then to act like the jerk who's doing it to them.

when we talk, we talked about this already, but this is what I mean why we can't, we shouldn't mix up aggression with bullying because you can imagine how isolating that is to the kid who's been victimized. How do they get out of that? And then They tend to learn that the way to get out of that is then to act like the jerk who's doing it to them.