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Dr. Yalda Safai

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315 total appearances

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The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

But you have to understand what it is you're fearing, though. It's different for a lot of people. Oh, I remember at one point in time, I was like 27 years old, I had a terrible boyfriend. And my fear of breaking up with him was like, oh, people are gonna, I mean, this is childish, but people are gonna ask me what happened to my guy that I was engaged to. And, you know, what am I gonna tell them?

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

Like, this is the dumbest fear in the world. What am I gonna tell my friends? But like, I'm saying like, everybody's fears are a little bit different.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

Like, this is the dumbest fear in the world. What am I gonna tell my friends? But like, I'm saying like, everybody's fears are a little bit different.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

Like, this is the dumbest fear in the world. What am I gonna tell my friends? But like, I'm saying like, everybody's fears are a little bit different.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So you gotta figure out what your fear is, why you're stuck in this relationship and take it and run with it. If you need professional help, get it. Sometimes, you know, when we're in this bubble or when we're in this toxic relationship, we don't have clarity. We get tunnel vision. We don't understand.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So you gotta figure out what your fear is, why you're stuck in this relationship and take it and run with it. If you need professional help, get it. Sometimes, you know, when we're in this bubble or when we're in this toxic relationship, we don't have clarity. We get tunnel vision. We don't understand.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So you gotta figure out what your fear is, why you're stuck in this relationship and take it and run with it. If you need professional help, get it. Sometimes, you know, when we're in this bubble or when we're in this toxic relationship, we don't have clarity. We get tunnel vision. We don't understand.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

And no matter how many times our friends or family tell us that, you know, something's not right, we just don't get it. So I tell those people, like, If women do not want to go on dating apps as a psychiatrist, what do you recommend? Find what you love doing and do it. And you will attract the person who's like-minded. So for example, I love skiing. I was in the French Alps skiing.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

And no matter how many times our friends or family tell us that, you know, something's not right, we just don't get it. So I tell those people, like, If women do not want to go on dating apps as a psychiatrist, what do you recommend? Find what you love doing and do it. And you will attract the person who's like-minded. So for example, I love skiing. I was in the French Alps skiing.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

And no matter how many times our friends or family tell us that, you know, something's not right, we just don't get it. So I tell those people, like, If women do not want to go on dating apps as a psychiatrist, what do you recommend? Find what you love doing and do it. And you will attract the person who's like-minded. So for example, I love skiing. I was in the French Alps skiing.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I found him while I was skiing on the French Alps. I was doing what I love to do. You know, I did what I love to do. You know, I wasn't going out of my way thinking, how am I going to meet men? That's, you know, that's no way to live your life. Do you do what gives you pleasure? The right man will be attracted to the things you like as well. And you'll meet that way.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I found him while I was skiing on the French Alps. I was doing what I love to do. You know, I did what I love to do. You know, I wasn't going out of my way thinking, how am I going to meet men? That's, you know, that's no way to live your life. Do you do what gives you pleasure? The right man will be attracted to the things you like as well. And you'll meet that way.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I found him while I was skiing on the French Alps. I was doing what I love to do. You know, I did what I love to do. You know, I wasn't going out of my way thinking, how am I going to meet men? That's, you know, that's no way to live your life. Do you do what gives you pleasure? The right man will be attracted to the things you like as well. And you'll meet that way.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

Ich muss dir sagen, jemand, der zu dir geht, ist es wahrscheinlich nicht wert, um zu beginnen. Warum? Weil die Leute wählen, sich nicht zu konfrontieren und nicht zu verbalisieren, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, weil es für sie unangenehm ist. Eine Person, die nicht erklären kann, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, die wollen sie eher vermeiden, als dich zu konfrontieren.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

Ich muss dir sagen, jemand, der zu dir geht, ist es wahrscheinlich nicht wert, um zu beginnen. Warum? Weil die Leute wählen, sich nicht zu konfrontieren und nicht zu verbalisieren, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, weil es für sie unangenehm ist. Eine Person, die nicht erklären kann, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, die wollen sie eher vermeiden, als dich zu konfrontieren.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

Ich muss dir sagen, jemand, der zu dir geht, ist es wahrscheinlich nicht wert, um zu beginnen. Warum? Weil die Leute wählen, sich nicht zu konfrontieren und nicht zu verbalisieren, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, weil es für sie unangenehm ist. Eine Person, die nicht erklären kann, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, die wollen sie eher vermeiden, als dich zu konfrontieren.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

How is that person going to do in a relationship? Relationships are full of little things, little, you might fight with your spouse. You have to be able to properly deal with confrontation and express what you're feeling, your likes and dicks, whatever it is. So someone who can't do that, who rather avoid, is a big red flag to me. So you lucked out.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

How is that person going to do in a relationship? Relationships are full of little things, little, you might fight with your spouse. You have to be able to properly deal with confrontation and express what you're feeling, your likes and dicks, whatever it is. So someone who can't do that, who rather avoid, is a big red flag to me. So you lucked out.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

How is that person going to do in a relationship? Relationships are full of little things, little, you might fight with your spouse. You have to be able to properly deal with confrontation and express what you're feeling, your likes and dicks, whatever it is. So someone who can't do that, who rather avoid, is a big red flag to me. So you lucked out.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

It really is, but remember, this is not about you. You don't know what's going on in that person's life, what stage of life they are in, what... They need right now. And the timing might have just not been right. Just remember, it's not about you. It's about them and where they are. If they didn't like you to begin with, they wouldn't have come out with you.