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Dr. Yalda Safai

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315 total appearances

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The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

If this is truly what you want, with what you do, with the way you carry yourself, with the choices you make in life, you attract that mate in the right time. Timing matters. I don't know if you believe in God, but Gods timing is perfect. You might feel like you need to be in a relationship at a certain point in life. It probably isn't the right time for you. You probably have more work to do.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

If this is truly what you want, with what you do, with the way you carry yourself, with the choices you make in life, you attract that mate in the right time. Timing matters. I don't know if you believe in God, but Gods timing is perfect. You might feel like you need to be in a relationship at a certain point in life. It probably isn't the right time for you. You probably have more work to do.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

If this is truly what you want, with what you do, with the way you carry yourself, with the choices you make in life, you attract that mate in the right time. Timing matters. I don't know if you believe in God, but Gods timing is perfect. You might feel like you need to be in a relationship at a certain point in life. It probably isn't the right time for you. You probably have more work to do.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I think about this. If I had met somebody when I was 34, before I hit the road, I would not have gone to 70 countries. I would not have seen the world. I would not have met the people I did, the food I ate around the world. I would not have expanded my horizon the way I did. And I was only able to do that because I was single. I had no responsibilities, no obligations, nobody to answer to.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I think about this. If I had met somebody when I was 34, before I hit the road, I would not have gone to 70 countries. I would not have seen the world. I would not have met the people I did, the food I ate around the world. I would not have expanded my horizon the way I did. And I was only able to do that because I was single. I had no responsibilities, no obligations, nobody to answer to.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I think about this. If I had met somebody when I was 34, before I hit the road, I would not have gone to 70 countries. I would not have seen the world. I would not have met the people I did, the food I ate around the world. I would not have expanded my horizon the way I did. And I was only able to do that because I was single. I had no responsibilities, no obligations, nobody to answer to.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

But I'm so grateful for that experience I had for those three, four years because I came out a more confident person, a more knowledgeable person. My needs and wants changed in life. And, you know, I attracted the mate that I was supposed to at that time in life. So now looking back, I realize, you know, girl, three, four years ago, it was not the right time for you. But now I understand.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

But I'm so grateful for that experience I had for those three, four years because I came out a more confident person, a more knowledgeable person. My needs and wants changed in life. And, you know, I attracted the mate that I was supposed to at that time in life. So now looking back, I realize, you know, girl, three, four years ago, it was not the right time for you. But now I understand.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

But I'm so grateful for that experience I had for those three, four years because I came out a more confident person, a more knowledgeable person. My needs and wants changed in life. And, you know, I attracted the mate that I was supposed to at that time in life. So now looking back, I realize, you know, girl, three, four years ago, it was not the right time for you. But now I understand.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So one day you will understand why it didn't work out with all those other people. You will understand why you had to go through the heartbreaks that you did. Because once you are in a good relationship, you appreciate it ten times more. Every day I'm so thankful for my partner. Because now I understand all those other flawed relationships I had. I understand why they didn't have to work.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So one day you will understand why it didn't work out with all those other people. You will understand why you had to go through the heartbreaks that you did. Because once you are in a good relationship, you appreciate it ten times more. Every day I'm so thankful for my partner. Because now I understand all those other flawed relationships I had. I understand why they didn't have to work.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So one day you will understand why it didn't work out with all those other people. You will understand why you had to go through the heartbreaks that you did. Because once you are in a good relationship, you appreciate it ten times more. Every day I'm so thankful for my partner. Because now I understand all those other flawed relationships I had. I understand why they didn't have to work.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I understand why they were toxic. But at the time, they didn't. So have faith. He will come. Or she or whoever.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I understand why they were toxic. But at the time, they didn't. So have faith. He will come. Or she or whoever.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

I understand why they were toxic. But at the time, they didn't. So have faith. He will come. Or she or whoever.

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So what I've noticed of why people stay in relationships that are not good for them is fear. And this fear is, what do I do without him? What do I do if I leave? I might not ever find anybody else again. It's all based on fear. Because who wants to stay in a relationship where there's stress every day?

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So what I've noticed of why people stay in relationships that are not good for them is fear. And this fear is, what do I do without him? What do I do if I leave? I might not ever find anybody else again. It's all based on fear. Because who wants to stay in a relationship where there's stress every day?

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

So what I've noticed of why people stay in relationships that are not good for them is fear. And this fear is, what do I do without him? What do I do if I leave? I might not ever find anybody else again. It's all based on fear. Because who wants to stay in a relationship where there's stress every day?

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

But you have to understand what it is you're fearing, though. It's different for a lot of people. Oh, I remember at one point in time, I was like 27 years old, I had a terrible boyfriend. And my fear of breaking up with him was like, oh, people are gonna, I mean, this is childish, but people are gonna ask me what happened to my guy that I was engaged to. And, you know, what am I gonna tell them?

The Tamsen Show
The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

But you have to understand what it is you're fearing, though. It's different for a lot of people. Oh, I remember at one point in time, I was like 27 years old, I had a terrible boyfriend. And my fear of breaking up with him was like, oh, people are gonna, I mean, this is childish, but people are gonna ask me what happened to my guy that I was engaged to. And, you know, what am I gonna tell them?