Ed Mylett

We're taught, we're rewarded.

Raise your hand while they're still talking.

And what that does to me, I want you to speak to this.

To me, what that does to me is it means I'm really not listening to what you're saying.

I'm already thinking about what I'm going to say back to you in my answer or my judgment or my assessment about you.

Most people are already raising their hand, you know, metaphorically when most other people are still talking and they wonder, why am I not connecting with this person?

Why can't we find common ground?

Because while they're talking, you've got your hand raised already.

I got the answer.

I know the truth.

I want to say something and rather finishing and letting them finish their statement.

But I just want to go back for a second, everybody.

First thing to ask yourself is,

What's your ability to ask questions and to ask questions without judgment as someone's answering you?

In other words, can you learn the art of not raising your hand metaphorically when someone's talking and be fully present with their answer, absent as much as you can of judgment?

We'll talk about triggers in a little bit because you have some brilliant stuff in there on triggers, which I teach in other areas of life.

I never thought about in terms of a conversation.

But the one thing that opened my eyes and why I wanted you on, among many things, is this idea of there's four conversations.

And one of them is storytelling.

But take the time on this and elaborate.