Eimear Coffey

As I began to go to more and more appointments, I used to say to Ollie, I'm like your PA, Ollie.

We're running the appointments, the OTs, the physios, everything.

And the realisation that I thought my life was going on this path and now we're going on this path.

And actually, I spoke a little bit about it at Fiona's event, but a mother came into me in the bathroom in Galway.

Wasn't that event in Galway?

Yeah, Loch Ray.

Loch Ray.

And she came into me in the bathroom and she said, Eimear, you're after labelling something that I'm feeling.

She was a special needs mum herself.

And she said...

I've never heard anyone describe it with the word grief.

And I said, that's exactly what it is.

And she said, I've gotten so much out of today.

So sometimes when you say things out loud, it does like that girl you know.

It's like, oh yeah, okay, yeah, that's what I'm feeling, you know.

Yeah.

But, yeah, definitely.

And especially moments when, like, I couldn't go to birthday parties or anything.

Friends would be inviting me to their children's birthday parties and I'd be honest, I'd say to them, I'm just, I can't.

For my little boy to be sitting there at four or five or six and children to be running around, it was just...