Elaine Welteroth

I want to tell Alice that sometimes the prayers that go unanswered are the ones you will be the most grateful for down the line. Because I will tell you now, looking back, Thank you, Jesus, that I did not end up going down that path and hoping that this man would change his mind. And, you know, God forbid he did. One of the things he would say, and I got to give him credit.

I want to tell Alice that sometimes the prayers that go unanswered are the ones you will be the most grateful for down the line. Because I will tell you now, looking back, Thank you, Jesus, that I did not end up going down that path and hoping that this man would change his mind. And, you know, God forbid he did. One of the things he would say, and I got to give him credit.

He did say, I do not want you to look up in your 30s and go, I gave the best years of my life to this guy. When we don't want the same things going into the future. And he said, he would say, you know, having kids is a young man's game. And at 25, I didn't get that. At 37, going on two kids with an energetic young man who was my age who can keep up with me. Oh, I get it now. That's right.

He did say, I do not want you to look up in your 30s and go, I gave the best years of my life to this guy. When we don't want the same things going into the future. And he said, he would say, you know, having kids is a young man's game. And at 25, I didn't get that. At 37, going on two kids with an energetic young man who was my age who can keep up with me. Oh, I get it now. That's right.

He did say, I do not want you to look up in your 30s and go, I gave the best years of my life to this guy. When we don't want the same things going into the future. And he said, he would say, you know, having kids is a young man's game. And at 25, I didn't get that. At 37, going on two kids with an energetic young man who was my age who can keep up with me. Oh, I get it now. That's right.

It is something that you have to have the conviction. And I think that, you know, in relationships, yes, you have to make compromises.

It is something that you have to have the conviction. And I think that, you know, in relationships, yes, you have to make compromises.

It is something that you have to have the conviction. And I think that, you know, in relationships, yes, you have to make compromises.

And yes, you'll hear that a lot from married couples, but there are some things you do not compromise on. And kids is one of them. If you do not have the conviction, if you don't really, really desire that, you are better off not wasting another person's time and entering into that lifelong partnership. Because if you can't support her fully in motherhood, leave her alone.

And yes, you'll hear that a lot from married couples, but there are some things you do not compromise on. And kids is one of them. If you do not have the conviction, if you don't really, really desire that, you are better off not wasting another person's time and entering into that lifelong partnership. Because if you can't support her fully in motherhood, leave her alone.

And yes, you'll hear that a lot from married couples, but there are some things you do not compromise on. And kids is one of them. If you do not have the conviction, if you don't really, really desire that, you are better off not wasting another person's time and entering into that lifelong partnership. Because if you can't support her fully in motherhood, leave her alone.

I know. Well, let's talk about that. Well, I do think there's this narrative that you have to wait to be chosen and what it means to be chosen by a man. And I think I had that, I call it the Carrie Bradshaw complex. You know, growing up with Sex and the City as kind of the waiting.

I know. Well, let's talk about that. Well, I do think there's this narrative that you have to wait to be chosen and what it means to be chosen by a man. And I think I had that, I call it the Carrie Bradshaw complex. You know, growing up with Sex and the City as kind of the waiting.

I know. Well, let's talk about that. Well, I do think there's this narrative that you have to wait to be chosen and what it means to be chosen by a man. And I think I had that, I call it the Carrie Bradshaw complex. You know, growing up with Sex and the City as kind of the waiting.

And that was my Mr. Big. That was my black Mr. Big. And I'm so glad that in that stage of life, God did not give me what I thought I wanted and needed because what I got was what I truly deserve. And I'll tell you, that breakup was the hardest breakup because it represented this like- The breakup with the older guy. The breakup with the older guy that I thought I wanted to do it all with.

And that was my Mr. Big. That was my black Mr. Big. And I'm so glad that in that stage of life, God did not give me what I thought I wanted and needed because what I got was what I truly deserve. And I'll tell you, that breakup was the hardest breakup because it represented this like- The breakup with the older guy. The breakup with the older guy that I thought I wanted to do it all with.

And that was my Mr. Big. That was my black Mr. Big. And I'm so glad that in that stage of life, God did not give me what I thought I wanted and needed because what I got was what I truly deserve. And I'll tell you, that breakup was the hardest breakup because it represented this like- The breakup with the older guy. The breakup with the older guy that I thought I wanted to do it all with.

was one of the hardest breakups for me because it was the disillusion of this constructed, concocted dream that had been fed to me that I embraced as like the only way to do it. That's what I'm, yeah. Right? And it was like this idea that some man is going to come along and save me and choose me and give me this life. You go to New York, you live your big, fabulous life.

was one of the hardest breakups for me because it was the disillusion of this constructed, concocted dream that had been fed to me that I embraced as like the only way to do it. That's what I'm, yeah. Right? And it was like this idea that some man is going to come along and save me and choose me and give me this life. You go to New York, you live your big, fabulous life.

was one of the hardest breakups for me because it was the disillusion of this constructed, concocted dream that had been fed to me that I embraced as like the only way to do it. That's what I'm, yeah. Right? And it was like this idea that some man is going to come along and save me and choose me and give me this life. You go to New York, you live your big, fabulous life.