Elena Brower

I realized in this week that I had that scare that, okay, if this is real and I'm going to get a sentence, you know, a diagnosis and a timeframe, all of a sudden I fell in love with this person again.

All of those little things just melted.

And I was back in the seat of, wow, I'm so lucky to have a partner of this caliber, of this kindness.

And I think the writing about that gentle transition from not appreciating him to appreciating him gave me a little bit of a window in on that pattern.

that I think we're all working with it.

You know, we're lucky enough to have a partner.

I have so many friends that don't, and not that that's a bad thing, but when I need to ask for a hand with a button or a light bulb, you know, or a molding that's coming, whatever, like, He's there.

And there's such a gift in that, and I don't want to forget that.

I don't want to take it for granted.

Yeah.

Is it a safety mechanism to keep us surviving?

Yeah, to keep it fresh.

Yeah.

Esther Perel does a really good job of, I think mostly her work has helped me keep our connection fresh, James and I, to keep it really strong and thankful.

Yeah.

Right.

Well, I think that is what to do.

I think the holding nothing part of it, there was a point where I was with a dear friend who came upon this title for me by way of wanting this for me.

She wants, this is what she said at the time, I would love for you to just hold nothing at all.

And it was like, speaking of pattern recognition, a little alarm went off in my head, and I didn't remember exactly what it was, but I remembered that I'd heard this expression before.