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Or that all those famous and influential people would be more interested in him than they were in her. That's tough. Yeah. But most of all, Kathy didn't love how much time Robert spent with Susan Berman. I probably wouldn't either. Yeah, who moved to New York in the mid-70s to work for Us magazine. Okay. Oh, very cool. Yeah.

With much more free time on her hands than she'd had before, Kathy enrolled in medical school and started making friends of her own.

With much more free time on her hands than she'd had before, Kathy enrolled in medical school and started making friends of her own.

I think you're right.

I think you're right.

Yeah, that is weird. Just like a weird coincidence. That is very strange. Right? Sorry. Yeah. No, I was like, oh, wow. Had to veer off there.

Yeah, that is weird. Just like a weird coincidence. That is very strange. Right? Sorry. Yeah. No, I was like, oh, wow. Had to veer off there.

But by the end of the 1980s, the once happy couple were now leading lives that appeared to be going in very different directions. Robert wanted things to stay exactly as they had been, with Kathy always being available to him whenever he wanted. That's not realistic. Kathy, on the other hand, complained that, quote, they were living well below their means. And she aspired for more.

But by the end of the 1980s, the once happy couple were now leading lives that appeared to be going in very different directions. Robert wanted things to stay exactly as they had been, with Kathy always being available to him whenever he wanted. That's not realistic. Kathy, on the other hand, complained that, quote, they were living well below their means. And she aspired for more.

Also, Robert's jealousy and his possessiveness had become like pretty intolerable, which I totally, like, you can only take so much of that. Yeah. He wanted to be the most important person in his wife's life, often at the expense of all her other relationships. That just can't. Singular focus. That can't last. Yeah.

Also, Robert's jealousy and his possessiveness had become like pretty intolerable, which I totally, like, you can only take so much of that. Yeah. He wanted to be the most important person in his wife's life, often at the expense of all her other relationships. That just can't. Singular focus. That can't last. Yeah.

Kathy's brother Jim said, at first I liked Bob, but then as the years went by, he said that he seemed not just uninterested in being a part of Kathy's family, but also pretty resentful of having to see or even acknowledge them at all, which is a big problem.

Kathy's brother Jim said, at first I liked Bob, but then as the years went by, he said that he seemed not just uninterested in being a part of Kathy's family, but also pretty resentful of having to see or even acknowledge them at all, which is a big problem.

Yeah. Finally, by late 1980, Robert and Kathy's marriage had just started falling apart. And a few months later, she hired a divorce lawyer and confided to several of her friends that Robert had been physically abusive towards her. Throughout 1981, Kathy started working with her lawyer to file divorce paperwork and continued working to finish medical school at the same time.

Yeah. Finally, by late 1980, Robert and Kathy's marriage had just started falling apart. And a few months later, she hired a divorce lawyer and confided to several of her friends that Robert had been physically abusive towards her. Throughout 1981, Kathy started working with her lawyer to file divorce paperwork and continued working to finish medical school at the same time.

Jeez, that's impressive. What about us? By the end of the year, she was just a few months from earning that degree. Then in January 1982, Kathy Durst disappeared without a trace. She was months away from earning a medical degree. Oh, that's awful.

Jeez, that's impressive. What about us? By the end of the year, she was just a few months from earning that degree. Then in January 1982, Kathy Durst disappeared without a trace. She was months away from earning a medical degree. Oh, that's awful.

On the morning of January 30th, 1982, Robert and Kathy drove from Manhattan to Truesdale Lake in South Salem, where they were planning to spend the weekend at their vacation home.

On the morning of January 30th, 1982, Robert and Kathy drove from Manhattan to Truesdale Lake in South Salem, where they were planning to spend the weekend at their vacation home.

By then, the marriage was definitely in tatters, and Robert had hoped that maybe they were still able to save things if they, you know, took some time to work on it, got away from what he saw as their problems, from the chaos, the constant social stimulation of the city.