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And, you know, this was like the first meaningful relationship I felt in a really long time.

And so I pursued it.

And she is a Christian.

And so I kind of pursued, I like chose relationship or the way I think about it is I chose relationship over holding too fast to my like, you know, holding on to my beliefs too tightly.

So I started going to church again and, you know, was in a small group and didn't really hold back questions and such.

Fast forward again, just over a month ago, we got engaged.

And ever since then, I've just been feeling a lot of stress and heavy introspection about my values and beliefs and where they might differ from my family and my faith community and her family.

And I don't really know how to navigate that because I think there's a lot of really complex ideas or...

you know, things I don't understand about faith and that I think a lot of people in history don't understand.

And like, I read about those and they don't necessarily just like make sense all of a sudden, but then I also don't want to just like hide, um, in the face of some big, like life decisions or, you know, um, like a wedding day type, you know, who I present myself to be to my future family and everything.

I think I, I don't know.

I, so I've listened to your show and I've heard that question a few times.

And every time I hear it, I'm like, I kind of asked that question myself.

And I, I think I do like parts of me a lot.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I think, I don't know.

Cause I feel like, well, maybe I don't feel confident in myself because then I would be more willing to say that to other people.

But, um, like I, I don't know.

I have so many people around me that like treat certain things as kind of obvious, right.