Elisa Donovan

I have never seen a narcissist change.

Wow.

Never.

The only times I have ever seen a narcissist change

is when they're pretending they have changed because they need to get something from family court or because they need to get out of some sort of trouble or they're trying to reconcile with their ex because they want to get back in and control them.

They have cognitive empathy, which means they know how they're supposed to feel and they know what they're supposed to think.

So they're able to mimic it, but they don't feel it and they don't think it.

it's still to get the result that they want.

Yes.

Yes.

That is so intense.

They know, they know what they're doing and that's the hardest pill for people to swallow because then we have to accept, oh my God, they're willingly evil, right?

Like they're willingly hurting me.

They're willingly abusing me.

What?

And so I know a lot of people have a hard time with that.

I understand why.

Um, but

And I think if you spoke to my colleagues, they would say the same thing, that the likelihood of somebody changing is very slim.

What you will find, you have self-aware narcissists all the time that are on Instagram, social media, talking about what it's life like as a narcissist.