Elisabeth McKay

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Ultimately, our job as parents is to help emotionally regulate, to build internal security, and to understand that scarcity is not true.

There's actually so much to go around, and our nervous system's inability to self-regulate is often what is focusing or fixating on that perceived scarcity.

We want to, as parents, also make sure that we're avoiding constant comparison.

This was something that I saw my dad do all the time and it drove me nuts because even as a child, I was like, well, you were teaching my sister to hate me.

Luckily, my sister and I are best friends now, but it took a really long time to get here because I think we're like really just now best friends and I'm 41.

My dad would shame something in my sister and then immediately say something like, well, why can't you be X, Y, Z like your sister?

That is one of the worst things you could do.

I've also seen this in a lot of family dynamics where one kid will be like, you're the smart one and you're the pretty one.

It's like, well, but what if the pretty one is also smart?

Are you basically just saying like, oh, don't worry.

It's okay that you're not smart.

You're pretty.

These are the types of things that actually pit people against each other.

We also want to make sure that you are nurturing your child's individuality when you're trying to get your kids to homogenize and just kind of all be the same.

They're going to potentially act out in rebellious and non-healthy ways as a way to get attention.

So it's better to help nurture their true individuality.

so that they can figure out who they are and what they like and learn how to respectfully push back and all those things.

Because when you do that, the idea that I have to be compared to somebody else and that there's not enough love to go around dissipates very quickly.