Ella Mills

I never said, you know, you shouldn't eat X or, you know, be worried about your saturated fat or whatever it was.

I just said, okay, look, I'm going to make this delicious and I'm going to make much more of it so that everyone can enjoy it.

I'm just going to put it on the table with the other food.

And, you know, I remember one Christmas doing this really, really delicious kind of slow roasted mushroom with this kind of amazing like spinach and pineapple, not

puree because that sounds like baby food but you kind of bear with me anyway this amazing crispy wellington it was so good and but I made it massive it was just for me and my sister but there was like 16 of us and everyone just ate it up and ate loads and loads of it and over the time people started to be like oh I love this and all my family now cook more of that sort of thing and I've just always took it as this really interesting example of like to show people that these habits

are delicious these habits kind of feel sustainable and i think you can show them that in a really gentle way and i think almost just circling back to what i said a second ago i do think for the most part more aesthetic led trends come and go and people don't really stick with them and i think what's interesting is probably with what you're talking about these are habits that you probably will by and large stick with or you know you'll gently oscillate around and i think they'll see that

Yeah.

And just gently share it, you know, invite them over, like cook them a really delicious, nourishing meal and invite them over.

Right, Inez is wondering, she said, thank you for bringing so much clarity to such a confusing space.

I definitely agree with you.

I think we're always confused by this space.

I feel stuck in an all or nothing cycle with food.

I try to eat perfectly, then overeat and feel guilt and frustration.

How can I build a more balanced, intuitive relationship with food?

It's really, really helpful.

And I think it's so important to food is so multifaceted.

Like it's how we celebrate, as we just said, Christmas or Easter or birthdays or big moments, weddings.

You know, it's like it's such a kind of societal, familial, cultural anchor.

And also it's for so many people also so important.

linked to emotion to stress and as you said to self-esteem and self-worth and how we feel in ourselves and so it's like it is such a complicated thing this relationship and it shows up so differently for everyone I think one thing I would say and and you know I really want you to take this in the right way but like the word perfect really important word to reevaluate maybe which is that like