Elle

Yeah.

No, I think you're a hundred percent right in terms of like it is, it is dangerous and therefore it should only be with someone that you actually trust because

I wish I could say I did, but it was one of those things where he had me pulled in so tight that it was around that same time that I met my partner now, Fox.

I met him in tandem in the same time as with the other guy.

And he was complete opposite.

We have a 16-year age gap, so I was coming in and I was just like,

I don't trust the fact that this man is so much older than me and is still interested in me.

And so I came in, I actually, the other sub that was with the harem guy, uh, she met him and they started playing and then she said, oh, I think you'd really like this guy.

and brought me into it so yes i get it he was in fet life but i was it was more of a personal connection that brought me to him and so we ended up just starting to talk like it wasn't like his immediate action wasn't like hey he wanted to fuck me and like he wanted to rock my world type that kind of behavior he was like

you know, I want to learn about you.

I want to talk to you.

And we ended up beginning like a basically 20 questions type game.

And we would text like every day, like hundreds of times a day, just asking questions and like learning about what I liked and what he liked.

Was he a Dom too?

Yes, he was a very experienced Dom.

He had had several subs.

he was very into shibari he had already at that point that was when he was starting love leather and so he like was building cuffs and trying things on me and like my the other girl and we would just kind of we're in this dynamic of basically exploratory dom sub relationship

Yeah, he actually would have me

Uh, yeah, I mean, like we, it was ultimately like the connection that.

No, I know that's what it's about.