Ellen Hendriksen

If we were raised with a sort of snowplow or helicopter type of family, That can increase the likelihood that we come out perfectionistic. If we were raised in sort of a chaotic, unstable family where maybe there was some substance abuse, chronic illness that, again, made that family unstable, it's likely that we might come out feeling like we need to overcompensate for something.

If we were raised with a sort of snowplow or helicopter type of family, That can increase the likelihood that we come out perfectionistic. If we were raised in sort of a chaotic, unstable family where maybe there was some substance abuse, chronic illness that, again, made that family unstable, it's likely that we might come out feeling like we need to overcompensate for something.

But I think this is the most interesting thing. It can also come from the culture all around us. The researchers, doctors Thomas Kern and Andrew Hill looked at 27 years worth of data and found that perfectionism is on the rise. And I found it particularly fascinating that the inflection point was 2005. That's when it really started to increase like a rocket launch.

But I think this is the most interesting thing. It can also come from the culture all around us. The researchers, doctors Thomas Kern and Andrew Hill looked at 27 years worth of data and found that perfectionism is on the rise. And I found it particularly fascinating that the inflection point was 2005. That's when it really started to increase like a rocket launch.

But I think this is the most interesting thing. It can also come from the culture all around us. The researchers, doctors Thomas Kern and Andrew Hill looked at 27 years worth of data and found that perfectionism is on the rise. And I found it particularly fascinating that the inflection point was 2005. That's when it really started to increase like a rocket launch.

And I think it's no coincidence that that's when Facebook came out. So with the rise of social media, and again, this ever more demanding ratings-oriented consumeristic capitalistic culture, it makes sense that we respond by feeling like we're not good enough.

And I think it's no coincidence that that's when Facebook came out. So with the rise of social media, and again, this ever more demanding ratings-oriented consumeristic capitalistic culture, it makes sense that we respond by feeling like we're not good enough.

And I think it's no coincidence that that's when Facebook came out. So with the rise of social media, and again, this ever more demanding ratings-oriented consumeristic capitalistic culture, it makes sense that we respond by feeling like we're not good enough.

Sure. No, I think that's a really, really important point. Because absolutely, like the problem with perfectionism is not the high standards. We can aim for and get straight A's. Those high standards are fantastic. They do get us far in life. Performing really well at work. Yes, absolutely. That's going to get us some admiration, respect. maybe fast track or promotion.

Sure. No, I think that's a really, really important point. Because absolutely, like the problem with perfectionism is not the high standards. We can aim for and get straight A's. Those high standards are fantastic. They do get us far in life. Performing really well at work. Yes, absolutely. That's going to get us some admiration, respect. maybe fast track or promotion.

Sure. No, I think that's a really, really important point. Because absolutely, like the problem with perfectionism is not the high standards. We can aim for and get straight A's. Those high standards are fantastic. They do get us far in life. Performing really well at work. Yes, absolutely. That's going to get us some admiration, respect. maybe fast track or promotion.

And that's why I think that the advice around perfectionism is a little bit misguided because certainly, you know, I identify as having some perfectionism. And sometimes I've been told, Ellen, you need to stop when things are good enough, or, you know, you really should lower your standards, right?

And that's why I think that the advice around perfectionism is a little bit misguided because certainly, you know, I identify as having some perfectionism. And sometimes I've been told, Ellen, you need to stop when things are good enough, or, you know, you really should lower your standards, right?

And that's why I think that the advice around perfectionism is a little bit misguided because certainly, you know, I identify as having some perfectionism. And sometimes I've been told, Ellen, you need to stop when things are good enough, or, you know, you really should lower your standards, right?

But like we talked about, when there is a little bit of over-evaluation happening, when we're conflating ourselves with our performance, good enough doesn't resonate when it's something from which we derive our value. We're not going to settle for what we consider good enough, like subpar or mediocre performance, because that would mean that we're subpar or mediocre.

But like we talked about, when there is a little bit of over-evaluation happening, when we're conflating ourselves with our performance, good enough doesn't resonate when it's something from which we derive our value. We're not going to settle for what we consider good enough, like subpar or mediocre performance, because that would mean that we're subpar or mediocre.

But like we talked about, when there is a little bit of over-evaluation happening, when we're conflating ourselves with our performance, good enough doesn't resonate when it's something from which we derive our value. We're not going to settle for what we consider good enough, like subpar or mediocre performance, because that would mean that we're subpar or mediocre.

So again, the problem with unhealthy perfectionism, it's not the high standards, it's that over-evaluation.

So again, the problem with unhealthy perfectionism, it's not the high standards, it's that over-evaluation.

So again, the problem with unhealthy perfectionism, it's not the high standards, it's that over-evaluation.