Ellen Hendriksen

enjoy the camaraderie. We forget to enjoy the movement of our limbs or the joy of improving or learning new things. If we have spare time, we might think, okay, I need to always be productive. I should be watching a documentary. I should be reading history. And we forget that it's okay to... watch a grass out comedy or read a rom-com or just go hang out and connect with our friends.

enjoy the camaraderie. We forget to enjoy the movement of our limbs or the joy of improving or learning new things. If we have spare time, we might think, okay, I need to always be productive. I should be watching a documentary. I should be reading history. And we forget that it's okay to... watch a grass out comedy or read a rom-com or just go hang out and connect with our friends.

There's an outsized importance on performance in perfectionism, sometimes to the detriment of connecting with others in our lives or enjoying ourselves. And I find it ironic because perfectionism, again, is trying to connect us, but it tells us that we have to perform well in order for people to like us. But that's not true.

There's an outsized importance on performance in perfectionism, sometimes to the detriment of connecting with others in our lives or enjoying ourselves. And I find it ironic because perfectionism, again, is trying to connect us, but it tells us that we have to perform well in order for people to like us. But that's not true.

There's an outsized importance on performance in perfectionism, sometimes to the detriment of connecting with others in our lives or enjoying ourselves. And I find it ironic because perfectionism, again, is trying to connect us, but it tells us that we have to perform well in order for people to like us. But that's not true.

We can instead focus on them, focus on our relationships, as opposed to trying to be good at things and earn liking and belonging that way.

We can instead focus on them, focus on our relationships, as opposed to trying to be good at things and earn liking and belonging that way.

We can instead focus on them, focus on our relationships, as opposed to trying to be good at things and earn liking and belonging that way.

Yeah, no, I mean, we, again, we absorb perfectionism through the culture. And if we're put in a situation where, you know, we are our grades, or, you know, our parents only notice us when we deliver as opposed to when we, you know, feel deeply or or notice us because of our personality or our talents, then yeah, absolutely. Every human reacts to the situation we're put in.

Yeah, no, I mean, we, again, we absorb perfectionism through the culture. And if we're put in a situation where, you know, we are our grades, or, you know, our parents only notice us when we deliver as opposed to when we, you know, feel deeply or or notice us because of our personality or our talents, then yeah, absolutely. Every human reacts to the situation we're put in.

Yeah, no, I mean, we, again, we absorb perfectionism through the culture. And if we're put in a situation where, you know, we are our grades, or, you know, our parents only notice us when we deliver as opposed to when we, you know, feel deeply or or notice us because of our personality or our talents, then yeah, absolutely. Every human reacts to the situation we're put in.

And so if we're put in what's called a perfectionistic climate like that, when we're defined by our performance, you know, think of the highest levels of women's gymnastics or like classical music orchestra auditions, then yeah, if there is no room for error, of course, we're going to respond with some perfectionism.

And so if we're put in what's called a perfectionistic climate like that, when we're defined by our performance, you know, think of the highest levels of women's gymnastics or like classical music orchestra auditions, then yeah, if there is no room for error, of course, we're going to respond with some perfectionism.

And so if we're put in what's called a perfectionistic climate like that, when we're defined by our performance, you know, think of the highest levels of women's gymnastics or like classical music orchestra auditions, then yeah, if there is no room for error, of course, we're going to respond with some perfectionism.

Yeah, but I think there is a difference between admiration and being impressive and versus belonging. So if we are impressive, if we're the top performer, then yes, we're singular, but we're also separate. Being at the top is pretty lonely. And so I think when we mistakenly double down on perfectionism, and again, the high standards are not the problem. Please perform well.

Yeah, but I think there is a difference between admiration and being impressive and versus belonging. So if we are impressive, if we're the top performer, then yes, we're singular, but we're also separate. Being at the top is pretty lonely. And so I think when we mistakenly double down on perfectionism, and again, the high standards are not the problem. Please perform well.

Yeah, but I think there is a difference between admiration and being impressive and versus belonging. So if we are impressive, if we're the top performer, then yes, we're singular, but we're also separate. Being at the top is pretty lonely. And so I think when we mistakenly double down on perfectionism, and again, the high standards are not the problem. Please perform well.

Like, please keep hitting it out of the park. It's that over-evaluation when we think that our self-worth, like our, to be sufficient as a person, we need to perform as superbly as possible. And so there, again, think about why your friends are your friends, or like think about the, when we, are trying to be closer to people, there's a difference between impressing them and connecting with them.

Like, please keep hitting it out of the park. It's that over-evaluation when we think that our self-worth, like our, to be sufficient as a person, we need to perform as superbly as possible. And so there, again, think about why your friends are your friends, or like think about the, when we, are trying to be closer to people, there's a difference between impressing them and connecting with them.

Like, please keep hitting it out of the park. It's that over-evaluation when we think that our self-worth, like our, to be sufficient as a person, we need to perform as superbly as possible. And so there, again, think about why your friends are your friends, or like think about the, when we, are trying to be closer to people, there's a difference between impressing them and connecting with them.