Ellen Hendriksen

So vulnerability is a term that gets kicked around a lot, but let's define it so we can just be on the same page. So vulnerability is when we have a willingness to reveal thoughts, actions, emotions that might result in criticism or rejection and taking a leap of faith that we won't.

So vulnerability is a term that gets kicked around a lot, but let's define it so we can just be on the same page. So vulnerability is when we have a willingness to reveal thoughts, actions, emotions that might result in criticism or rejection and taking a leap of faith that we won't.

So vulnerability is a term that gets kicked around a lot, but let's define it so we can just be on the same page. So vulnerability is when we have a willingness to reveal thoughts, actions, emotions that might result in criticism or rejection and taking a leap of faith that we won't.

It's letting people that we want to be closer to, not just anyone, not our boss, not some authority figure, but letting the people we want to be closer to see some of the mess because that signals two things. One is vulnerability signals, I trust you. I trust you to see some of my struggle or mistakes, and I trust you not to judge or reject me for it. And second,

It's letting people that we want to be closer to, not just anyone, not our boss, not some authority figure, but letting the people we want to be closer to see some of the mess because that signals two things. One is vulnerability signals, I trust you. I trust you to see some of my struggle or mistakes, and I trust you not to judge or reject me for it. And second,

It's letting people that we want to be closer to, not just anyone, not our boss, not some authority figure, but letting the people we want to be closer to see some of the mess because that signals two things. One is vulnerability signals, I trust you. I trust you to see some of my struggle or mistakes, and I trust you not to judge or reject me for it. And second,

It signals we are the same, that just like you, I struggle or I need help or I need to ask for some advice. This is not a teacher-student relationship or a mentor-mentee relationship. If this is someone you want to get closer to, being equal and on the same footing is important. the foundation of that.

It signals we are the same, that just like you, I struggle or I need help or I need to ask for some advice. This is not a teacher-student relationship or a mentor-mentee relationship. If this is someone you want to get closer to, being equal and on the same footing is important. the foundation of that.

It signals we are the same, that just like you, I struggle or I need help or I need to ask for some advice. This is not a teacher-student relationship or a mentor-mentee relationship. If this is someone you want to get closer to, being equal and on the same footing is important. the foundation of that.

So being vulnerable and showing a little bit of what, you know, what might not go right all the time signals we're the same.

So being vulnerable and showing a little bit of what, you know, what might not go right all the time signals we're the same.

So being vulnerable and showing a little bit of what, you know, what might not go right all the time signals we're the same.

Right, right. We're trying to keep ourselves socially safe by being impressive, by putting our best foot forward and hiding the mess. But then we come across as superhuman or unrelatable or intimidating, and that keeps us disconnected. So not to get too academic about this, but humans' impressions of each other fall along two fundamental dimensions. There's competence and

Right, right. We're trying to keep ourselves socially safe by being impressive, by putting our best foot forward and hiding the mess. But then we come across as superhuman or unrelatable or intimidating, and that keeps us disconnected. So not to get too academic about this, but humans' impressions of each other fall along two fundamental dimensions. There's competence and

Right, right. We're trying to keep ourselves socially safe by being impressive, by putting our best foot forward and hiding the mess. But then we come across as superhuman or unrelatable or intimidating, and that keeps us disconnected. So not to get too academic about this, but humans' impressions of each other fall along two fundamental dimensions. There's competence and

there's warmth and competence is you know how capable skilled and or effective is this person whereas warmth is how trustworthy caring and kind is this person and in perfectionism we put a premium on competence. Again, that lie of perfectionism tells us we have to perform as superbly as possible in order to belong. But the most important dimension is actually warmth.

there's warmth and competence is you know how capable skilled and or effective is this person whereas warmth is how trustworthy caring and kind is this person and in perfectionism we put a premium on competence. Again, that lie of perfectionism tells us we have to perform as superbly as possible in order to belong. But the most important dimension is actually warmth.

there's warmth and competence is you know how capable skilled and or effective is this person whereas warmth is how trustworthy caring and kind is this person and in perfectionism we put a premium on competence. Again, that lie of perfectionism tells us we have to perform as superbly as possible in order to belong. But the most important dimension is actually warmth.

Because evolutionarily, we have to assess other people's intentions. Are they friend or foe? Are they in my tribe? So we have to assess their warmth, essentially, or lack thereof, before we evaluate their capability to fulfill those intentions, before we evaluate their competence. So warmth comes first and carries more weight.

Because evolutionarily, we have to assess other people's intentions. Are they friend or foe? Are they in my tribe? So we have to assess their warmth, essentially, or lack thereof, before we evaluate their capability to fulfill those intentions, before we evaluate their competence. So warmth comes first and carries more weight.