Emma Chamberlain
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And I honestly would say that the ways that I was burned the most, though, were like more personal ways, like the ways that just like people who were like kind of bullies to me, like behind the scenes, like you would never like not necessarily on camera, but like most of the shit that was like. Bad was like behind the scenes where it's just like shitty friends. Yeah.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Well, I mean, I think that our friendship was based in content. You know, a lot of the times it was like, what was our friendship without content? Yeah. Like, if we weren't making content together, would we be friends? It's hard to say.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
But I'm done with that. I've taken a break for the past few months. I'm like, sorry, I'm done. Or a month or so. Not that long. But I was like, I'm burnt out. So I'm going to take a fucking break.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Well, it's interesting because actually some of the friendships were like quite close friendships where we were talking a lot. Some of them not. But like some of them genuinely were close like that. But the question still remains, would we be friends if we weren't making content together when we were together? Right. And it's like, that's kind of where it gets foggy, right?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Because it's like, we were really close, but if we weren't making content together, would we be hanging out? Would we even care to check in on one another? You know what I mean?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
It happened, like, one by one, I would say. Like, I would have kind of realization about... Just... And it wasn't, like, anything... Some of them, there was, like, moments where it was, like, a blow-up, where it was just, like, fuck you, you know? Like, this is just, like, not... Like, you are using me. I can tell. Fuck you. But then other moments, it was, like...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
It was more just like a drift away where I was like, you know what? How is our friendship off camera? And if the friendship was like not good, then I was like, you know what? I'm just going to back away. And I've always been somebody where I'm like, I don't feel much sadness. If a friendship's not like positive, I will be the first one to fucking cut it off. And just because what's the point?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
You know, even if we're profiting off of our friendship, even if we're not, even if it's a private friendship, I will like walk away with no remorse if I feel like it's right. And so that I kept that principle for all friendships, you know, throughout my teen years.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
yes like I've definitely like I've definitely struggled to cut off public friendships a lot more public friendships have always been harder to kind of back away from even if it was like what needed to happen for all parties you know like it's definitely harder because you're like god like you know even if this ended civilly or even if it fucking didn't yeah we you know I don't want someone else the other party to get
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
in trouble by the court of public opinion for our friendship ending because even let's say they did the worst let's say they were such an to me they're gonna pay enough with their own conscience yeah you know i don't think it's necessary to have the world knowing about that too what do you get anxiety about in general like what are the main things that give you anxiety i would say the main thing that gives me anxiety
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
is something happening where my character is portrayed incorrectly and it being believed, right? And me not feeling like I'm able to say, this is not me. Because I know, like, I don't care what anybody says, I'm not a fucking bad person. And I know that. And I know that because... I have too much of a conscience. The guilt I feel about everything. I can't do bad shit.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Because my guilt and conscience is so strong that I almost wish I had less of that. Because I actually feel guilty about things that I don't need to feel guilty about. And it sucks. But I know that I'm not a bad person. But I do... sometimes fear that something will get in the, somebody will even spread a rumor about me. That's not real. And that will become known as fact.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And I know how things work on the internet where it's like, people aren't digging into every single story that they see. So if like a bad story that comes out about me comes out, people see it. They're just going to take it as fact. And let's say a week later it's proven. Oh, that's not true. Like Emma, Emma didn't hit an old person in the street. Um, like, um,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
people are still gonna remember the article that they saw where they said that I did. And that's what freaks me out is that, you know, I don't always feel like I'm able to defend myself. And I also don't always want to. And I also can't go in and diffuse every rumor about myself. I would be fucking, that's all I would ever do. You know what I mean?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
If I went and addressed every fucking rumor or every fake blah, blah, blah, blah, blah about me, you know, I wouldn't, that would be actually my full-time job. So like, I can't do it. And so it's just like this process of trying to figure out like, you know, like I just feel so out of control of the public perception of me because somebody could go and lie about me tomorrow. And you know what?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
The other thing is I don't like, let's say I did do something fucked up. Let's say I did push an old lady in the street. Let's say I was having a really bad day. Who knows? There's not a lot of room for having a bad day. There's not a lot of room for making a one-off mistake. And even if that's not something that reflects my character, how am I
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I can apologize and say, this is not me all I want, but everybody does that. And how do people even know that I'm being honest? You know? So it's like, it kind of feels like a witch hunt in a way. And I think that in some areas, like, yeah, criticism is necessary. Absolutely. But I think that sometimes like people love it. And so,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
They want to feed the drama and I don't want to be the butt of that. And listen, it's happened. You survive, but it just fucking sucks. And it sucks even more when it's not.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
true or it's not a representation of you as a person and people make blanket statements like oh we we heard Emma did this one time Emma is now evil all around you know there was like a rumor that I was a bully in high school and I remember I was like okay and I saw like a girl from my high school made a TikTok that was fully not true it was fully not true about like me saying some mean shit during class like made up this whole like fake story I'm like girl I
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
We went to all girls school. We were like nerdy. Like nobody was bullying each other in high school. Is there a chance that I excluded somebody in high school? Is there a chance that I maybe made a snarky remark to someone in high school? Fuck yes, there is. There's a great chance that I probably did that sometimes. I woke up too early. I was in a bad fucking mood. Sure. But.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I never did anything evil. I know that for a fact. And do you know what? If I did, I'm sorry. I don't know. I don't remember. Do you fucking remember what you did in high school? No. Nobody fucking remembers. And we're also kids. It's like kids playing in a fucking knife drawer. We're all learning how to be good people. And you're going to fuck up in that process.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
But it's the fact that, you know, my... identity is in the hands of like everyone who's ever met me and everybody who's ever seen me do anything and I don't have control over that and the psychological damage is quite it is crazy but also I signed up for it. So here we are, you know what I mean?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
course so that's actually you guys are listening you are the ones ingesting it you're clicking on it i don't know i it's a it's a scary industry a little bit to be in right now i agree and i think the other thing is is that there's a difference between you know somebody doing something genuinely bad right and something genuinely bad and having an intent that's like i actually i
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
like want to hurt people, you know, because that happens on the Internet. You know, you see people fuck up and do things that genuinely directly harm people. And they actually had the intent of harming people. Right. I never on my whole time on the Internet have ever posted something with the with a negative intent. Right.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Now, listen, if I do something that is perceived in a way where it's like, Emma, that's not right. And here's why. That's fine. I'm willing to like learn. I'm always open minded, you know, and I think constructive criticism. There's nothing wrong with it. This could have been perceived in a way that was offensive and hurtful. I totally get that. Then it's like, OK, we'll go from there.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And thank you for letting me know. Let's move on. Like, I didn't have that intent, but I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm so glad that you let me know. I'm so happy to do better next time and to be more aware of how this could be perceived wrong. But it's when people are like, oh no. You're done.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
You're done because even though you had no idea what you were doing and even though it was a complete, complete 200% accident, you're still done because you made a mistake. That is such fucking uncharted territory. How are you supposed to predict? It's like, I could fucking put on deodorant in a video and I feel like at this point somebody's gonna be like,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I've been thinking about YouTube for four years straight. There's not been a day or an hour that has gone by where something about it has not come into my head. And whether it's like, how do I want to evolve my, my videos? You know, what am I going to film next? Like, what are people going to think of that video? Was that video shit? Like same thing with my podcast.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
you're offending people that don't want to wear deodorant. No, literally. You know what I mean? It's like, I understand that like you have to, if somebody does something wrong, holding them accountable is fair. And in some actually places, very good. I've learned so much from being on the internet and from people being like, Hey, when you talk about this, like this, that's not cool.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And I've been like, damn, I would have never known that. Otherwise. Thank you. Like truly, like I'm grateful for that, but it's when it's like, people twisting shit just for funsies and not giving me room to be like, it just discourages me and it just makes me, yeah, it makes me want to disappear, you know? How has your brand evolved?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
When I first started on the internet in general, I was just kind of copying what all the girlies were doing. You know, I was like, okay, I'll talk about makeup and clothes and things like that. And then that wasn't really...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I will say there has been a lot of times where I've almost quit.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
lighting my soul on fire so then I was like I'm gonna start vlogging and I just started vlogging and then I vlogged for years I mean I was like you know just like filming random shit like whatever I thought was like funny or interesting or random at the time I was just filming it and so um in some like more concept-based videos too like stuff where I was like
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
going to children's place and trying to pick out a cute outfit, you know, like shit like that. Yeah. And just like having fun with whatever. I kind of had no I was like my baseline theme on my channel is me. So like whatever happens, I'm just like the main theme of it, which I mean,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
What kind of self-centered idiot 16-year-old do you have to be to think that that's going to... You fucking narcissist, Emma. I know, right? I'm like, damn. You think it's about me? I'm like, it's about me? Me. Okay, that's it. What's your channel about, babe? It's about me. Me.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Tune in. I promise you'll love it. No. But really, that was it. And then I think within the past year or so, I've been trying to kind of make my content a little bit more...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
mature because I'm more mature you know so like on my podcast I've been talking about more serious topics and on my YouTube you know the last few videos I made were very like more just like chill and toned down and just relaxed and like not super based on like a gimmicky kind of concept like just kind of just me existing and doing whatever and like editing the videos myself in a way that I felt was like
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
calming and more mature to watch, I would say. Because I just don't think that like I want to be making, you know, I have to evolve the things that I'm putting out or else I'll seem ingenuine. They have to evolve with me or else it's like not going to work.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Was this episode, did I rant too much? Did this episode, like, was this episode fucking annoying? Like, was I repeating myself too much? You know, it's like, There's no end date. There's no room for a real break. There is, but you don't want to let yourself believe that, right? And... There's no room for mistakes. There's no room for mistakes. There's no room.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
This is something I've been thinking about a lot because I think that the last four years or whatever of me being on the internet, you know, I... When it came to... my career, I was just in autopilot. I was just like pumping shit out and it was coming from my heart still, but it was like, I was just kind of like on go, go, go, go, go mode. So I wasn't thinking about anything too deeply.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And I also wasn't thinking about, I definitely wasn't thinking about my own personal identity when no one's around and I'm by myself and I look in the mirror, who is that?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I was so focused on working 24-7 for the past four years that I was teetering between having no thoughts and being burnt out and just feeling like I was dying because I just could not look at a Final Cut Pro one more fucking time, right? But then also moments of just like,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
absolutely just busting shit out and like it was just like back and forth teetering that left no time for me to ever have a free moment to be like okay wait who am i outside of all this so for the fat for the past four years you know i've just been on in this hamster wheel of working and working and working and working and working and you know kind of exploiting myself at times to just
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
do as much as I possibly could, especially because I started to get so many opportunities that I was excited about. I was like, well, I don't wanna say no, you know what I mean? Like I wanna do everything, but you can't do that. But I didn't know that at the time. So I was spreading myself so thin and giving myself no time to sit back and be like, okay, wait, who the fuck are you?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Who the fuck are you? And within the past, I would say, honestly, especially two or three months, I've been having a lot of like psychological struggles because I'm like, I'm now having to figure out like,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
refine my identity after like shoving it away for the past four years ignoring it and just putting that on the back burner it's like now I'm left being like I don't even know what fulfills me what excites me what you know makes me feel like I have purpose outside of my work I don't know what it is because I've not let myself go there I didn't have the time to go there and so that's kind of what I'm figuring out now and you know
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I've gotten to a place where it got so dark for me you know even recently that I was like well I don't fucking care if everything goes away I'm like I don't care because I'm so I'm so disconnected from myself that like I need to refine that and if when I'm ready to come back to the internet fully and if when I'm ready to like you know get back into the swing of things like
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
i if if people don't want to watch anymore people don't care anymore i need to do what i gotta do yeah it's impossible to develop your identity and be online at the same time because developing your identity means silence you need silence you need alone time you need to be
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
intimate with people you know you need all of these types of things that do not align with being a fucking youtuber or even being a podcaster at times you know i think podcast is like when it comes to personal identity it's easier especially too because like they can't always see you there's something nice but i don't know but with youtube specifically it's like trying to develop your personality and simultaneously continue to be consistent on the internet it's like you cannot do both because you have to have
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
A fully formed something to show. Did you ever watch Harry Potter? You know I did.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
You're giving me Gryffindor through and through, and I don't say that about many people.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
humanity in a way like your boss is literally just like public opinion it feels like and that's fucking weird and it's so out of your control because the court of public opinion evolves it ebbs it flows it's not like you're reporting to one person and like being like here's my work for the week you just have to be constantly trying to guess what the people want and when you're living by that
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
You know, I, I wouldn't say that like my growth completely stopped because I, you know, it's like I was still growing. I, I, for the last four years made my entire purpose in life. To like at a certain point, I was like, my entire purpose is to now succeed at this and take it as far as I can and enjoy it while I'm doing it. Right.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And so I put away and threw away all other purposes that I had even brewing in me. I was like, I don't give a fuck about anything else. I'm throwing all of my eggs in this in this basket. You know what I mean? I want to make this is my only purpose. And then now I'm at a place where. I've arrived at what I wanted to happen.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And now I'm left with this feeling where I'm like, this is fucking amazing. And I'm so happy that I'm here, but I don't have any more goals in this area. Right. I don't have any more thing. I don't want to get more followers. I don't want to get more views. I don't care about that shit anymore. You know, like at a certain point I was like, I would love to grow this as big as I can, like whatever.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Now I'm like, I don't really think it needs to go any bigger. Like I'm good. You know what I mean? I'm fine with it how it is now. So I'm having to like figure out now what things will give me purpose outside of this. And it's a fucking hard pill to swallow. I didn't, I, you know, I'm like, I'm 20 and I'm like,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Now I have to find a whole new purpose, but also everybody is looking at me and is like, look at that. But you have this to look at. And I'm like, I need something bigger and deeper for myself that might not have anything to do with the internet. You know what I mean? I just don't know what that is yet.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And so that's been something that I've been struggling with is like, I haven't had time to do hobbies or whatever. But the other thing is that... I'm now in a routine where like I don't really have a lot of inspiration to do things that don't involve my work, which is a weird thing that like because my work in my hobbies became one. Right. Right.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
So like I don't have like the desire to do other little hobbies that like my brain convinces me are pointless to do. You know what I'm saying?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Yeah, it's honestly like everything in my life is melded into one where it's like my job, my social life, or lack thereof most of the time because I'm too anxious. But like, you know, every element of my life is all connected. You know, I don't have a separation of things.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And because of that, it all feels like everything could fall apart if I just pushed the wrong domino and it could just all fucking fall down. Like, you know, It's it's everything feels very fragile, which is why I'm now like, OK, I can't have all my eggs in this basket. I want to continue doing this. This is, you know, my passion and something that I I enjoy doing this stuff. Right.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
But I have to find a life outside of it and solidify that life and like make that life something where I'm not so worried about what people think of me on the Internet. I'm not so worried about, you know, if this all went away tomorrow, because I do have this life outside of it that's so rich that. It doesn't matter.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
It is, I mean, of course, like I do love meeting people. I mean, I really do. And I am generally a social person, I would say. Like I don't really get social anxiety about talking to people. Like if somebody comes up, I mean, there's been moments when it's been like kind of overwhelming or something just because it was like, you know, I was late to something or blah, blah, blah.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
It's like, what formula are you to follow? There's no formula to follow. It's like uncharted territory. And sometimes the people don't even know what they want. So if they give you an idea that might not actually work. Sometimes you have to predict what people want. And it's just this whole mind fuck.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I always, you know, the actual interaction itself is always pleasant. You know, the only thing that I'm paranoid about is people who don't maybe like me and see me in public and they are like want to film me or are like watching me and like making fun of me behind my back. Like it's the fact that I could be anywhere and somebody might recognize me and I might not actually know that they know me.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
If somebody comes up to me and like says, oh my God, like,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
what's up you know like that's sweet i don't actually mind that it's it's the fact that i don't know when i'm not when i'm just another human being drifting through the street or when somebody is watching me because they've seen me before that is what makes me anxious and that's what makes it hard you know because i'm constantly feeling like i'm being surveillanced whether i know it or not
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I think a big step in it was deciding like that I'm going to, probably step back from youtube okay you know just because i will say that and i mean i don't know i'm not making anything definite right i'm just like this is just where i'm at now i take it day by day that's what i have to do or else i lose my mind but um
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
i i do like for me doing a weekly podcast is something that i can do because i mean it's very much me sitting in bed and like just talking um but i also think that by stepping back from youtube i have a lot more free time so that i can figure out okay maybe i want to like you know, who knows what I want to do.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
But like, I might want to do something else that's creative that I can create for, you know, the world to hopefully enjoy if they decide to enjoy it. Like, it gives me room to explore number one, like what I could do next in my career, but also it gives me more time to like develop friendships properly.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And listen, I'm not complaining about it because in every job and every, you know, profession in life, like there are elements of it that are just a nightmare. And I think just with this, it's like, everything could just go away so quickly. And I think the way that I've found peace in it is I'm like, okay, if it does, then it does. And I'll just get pregnant and have a baby.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Cause I also, you know, don't like to have people in my videos or in my, on my podcast or anything. Cause I just gives me too much anxiety and I like it just to be me. And so, you know, it caused me to push a lot of people away cause I couldn't combine work and play, you know, I had to keep those very separate. And so because of that, it was like, I didn't hang out with people very often.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
So I'm taking this time to just like have as much free time as possible and just let myself get really bored and like see what I want.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
it's hard i and i think i have to be strict with myself and be like emma like you know you can do your podcast yeah but you can't be posting videos and be trying to figure out who you are and what you enjoy to do when the camera's off if the camera's still fucking on every week you just can't figure it out so you know
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I don't know what's, I'm constantly changing my, I'm like, oh, now I'm doing this. Oh, wait, now I'm doing this. I'm all over the place, right? Dude, you're 20, as you should be. So it's like, but I just don't think, I also don't know if, I feel like there might be something else out there that might excite me career-wise.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
It might light me, light my soul on fire, you know, like there's something out there that I might be missing.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
And so I want to have a little bit of time to explore that and see like what I want to do next that's going to be exciting to me. I think that's amazing.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
It's really interesting because I always I struggled with my sexual identity growing up as well because as I mentioned earlier like I was just a late bloomer and I just also wasn't like an ultra feminine girl and I've never been like a super stereotypically feminine woman but yet like I I
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straight woman like that's what I am but like no one ever like I've always gotten like shit for that you know and people have growing up too you know like people being like that's not true and I'm like you guys like Why? And I mean, listen, like I don't ever want to complain.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
Like sexuality is such a tough and like intimate and emotion filled subject that like I don't want to complain about people like, you know. questioning my sexuality because I know it can be so much worse and so much more complex so I don't want to sound like I'm complaining but at the time I was like you know people like I remember my ex-boyfriend was like
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we were dating and like one of his friends like was like, dude, like she doesn't actually like you. Like she, I don't think she actually likes you. Like she's, I think she likes girls. Like I don't think she likes you. And then he came to me and told me that. And I was like, why the fuck would you say that? Like just why the fuck would you say that? Like, why are you assuming that?
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Like, cause that's not true. And if it was true, so fucking be it. But like, why is this like, why are people speculating? Like I'm like, I'm dating it. Like, Why do you think he thought that? So he actually told my ex-boyfriend why he thought this. And it was because I didn't wear makeup and I wore sweatpants a lot. So all of a sudden now I'm like not allowed to like boys.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I was like, shut the... Right. Holy fuck. I mean, seriously, like just stupid. And I mean, I've always thought like...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I mean I get it we're humans like we're curious about other humans and so I don't think it's like I don't think there's anything wrong with within the privacy of your own mind to look at somebody else and be like hmm I wonder this this or that about their sexuality if you do that within the safety of your own mind totally sure but don't go to my boyfriend and be like dude
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Like, I think you're barking up the wrong tree here. Like, that's so fucking rude.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I was like, well. all of a sudden now I feel like I need to start being like, not myself. Like this is me. You know what I mean? This is just who I am.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 2 (FBF)
I do like you. And I'm like, why the fuck should I have to prove that anyway? Nobody should ever have to prove shit about never. It's like, it's so incredibly nobody's business, which is, I think,
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why like I've always kind of been afraid of getting into it is just because I'm like sexuality is also something that has ebbs and flows too like some moments you're like oh my god I'm on like a roll I'm just like hooking up with everybody and like I just whatever and sometimes you're like I literally can't remember the last time I felt like any kind of excitement about anything sexually like there's so many moments things are constantly evolving there but
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Well, I'm in an interesting spot now where, you know, I'm 20 and I am in a spot where I'm ready to evolve things. And I don't really know what that means for myself right now. But I need to like
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I also think that I'm just not somebody where, actually let me rephrase, because I was a very late developer as a young person, and because I didn't get any attention from guys really for my,
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appearance I definitely like became used to getting attention from what I was talking about and like what I was and how I was behaving and like that was what I started to lean into more because I was like well people don't I don't have boobies so like nobody's looking at me for my boobies so you know I have to figure out some other way to get attention and so that kind of became muscle memory where I was like well now I just feel like nobody's ever looking at me and is like
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looking at me in a sexual way so in order to like get attention I just have to like utilize my personality and then hope that like through that somebody will be able to be attracted to me in a more sexual way like If they maybe like like me personality wise. So that's kind of what I became used to.
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But it always made me feel shitty because I was like, I just don't think guys are looking at me and are like looking at me in a sexual way ever. And that fucked with me because I was like. But. But why? Like, you know what I mean? I was like, this sucks. And even now that I'm older and like I like my boob has grown like maybe like this much, like like a tiny little little tiny bit.
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But now that I'm older, you know, it's like. Even though like that's not really as much of an issue anymore, it's still. there's a little trauma there, you know, where in the back of my head, I'm like, number one, I remember people always not believing that I was like, that I was somebody who preferred dating men, uh, which like fucked with me.
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But then also like, I, uh, like have memories of like just guys not being attracted to me physically. And then on top of that, like, I'm also just not a super outwardly sexual person. Like, I never present myself in a very outwardly sexual way. I'm just not comfortable doing that. And I don't have – there's nothing wrong with doing that. I just – it's never felt right to me.
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And I've always felt like, well, because I'm not an outwardly sexual person, like, does that make me less attractive too in some ways? You know what I mean? So – But, like, that's just – it's so interesting, though, because the perception of me is so interesting for me to, like, watch. Like, people are like – I've seen comments that are just like, there's just no way, like, Emma's ever had sex.
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And I get it. But I get it. But then that fucks with me because I'm like, I get why they think that. So –
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I mean, my, like, experiences in, throughout my life, actually, I haven't had, like, a lot of one-off experiences. Like, I've mainly just been in relationships, which I think... was good and bad. You know what I mean? Well, I think, okay.
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I would say when it came to like any experience I've ever had in my life where it's been like a sort of one time thing, which hasn't actually happened a lot, but every time that it has, I feel like I've been able to kind of play a game where maybe I'm being a little bit more feminine because It's just fun. It's just fun. I can just be whatever the fuck I want right now.
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I am. You can't do that in a relationship. No. Because the colors come out far too quick. So I've never really been able to play that game in a relationship. I definitely have done that in the few times that... I've like, again, like so it's happened, but never in relationships.
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But I found that in past relationships, I didn't feel as respected by guys that have dated in the past just because I feel like they kind of. Well, especially like one relationship in particular, but it was just like I just felt like, you know. he was very critical of the fact that I like maybe wasn't a super feminine girl. And like, sometimes he was like, Oh, it's actually super cool and chill.
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And then sometimes he was like, he was like, like if I had like put on jeans and come over, he would be like, Oh my God. Like you finally like put effort in. Like, that's crazy. Like it was like, and you're like, and I'm like, dude, shut the fuck up. Like I'm like, or you know, if I would be wearing makeup, or whatever, it would be like a big deal.
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And like, it would be like, oh my God, you're wearing makeup? Like, whoa, you know what I mean? Or like, you should wear heels tonight. And I'm like, what the fuck are you talking about? Like, I'm like, no, like I felt like I wasn't enough in like the areas that I was feminine weren't enough. So I felt like, you know, there was an effort to like make me more feminine to fit what they wanted.
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But just like, again, it's like, we were fucking kids. All my relationships happen you know, at such young ages that it's like, of course there's going to be shit like that.
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Well the thing is too about it is that as humans you know we're not supposed to. I mean, this is just an issue with social media in general. But you're just not supposed to be exposed to that many opinions, that many people's successes, that many people's vacations, that many people's hot takes. You're just not supposed to experience that many people's...
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Um, but I would say I'm fully comfortable now in like what areas I'm more feminine and what areas I'm more masculine because I simply just getting into a relationship where my masculine and feminine traits are appreciated, but also like you know dating somebody who like just doesn't care about that shit and is just like enjoys people for like being a person like that it's like in less about like
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And also it's like kind of similar to me in the sense where like maybe not the super traditional, super masculine, super feminine, like that's not playing any roles in our relationship. You know?
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Yeah. Okay. I was, I've never talked about this on the internet. This is so fun.
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I also like in my personal life, I talk about sex all the time. That's why it's so fucking weird for me that I never talk about it. Like,
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I don't think, but also like I, yeah. Okay. So. Oh yeah. Oh. I was 17. Great age. It was actually a really not bad experience. Like it was with.
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a guy that I was like seeing at the time that I was pretty comfortable with and I mean he was definitely like you know he had had sex lots of times and I obviously hadn't but he was like great he like really like I don't know it was just like it was one of the most jarring experiences for me though in my entire life because it was one of those things where
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It was something I just never believed was possible for myself. Because growing up I had these experiences of people doubting my sexuality. I even had moments where I was kind of like, I don't even know if I like anyone. I went through phases where I was like, I feel nothing towards anyone. And I don't even know if I'm ever going to like somebody enough to... you know, let them in like that.
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And, and I also was like, I don't feel like anybody wants to do this with me. You know, like I've never been, nobody's ever looked at me in a sexual way before, at least to my face. So like, I don't think that this is possible. Yeah. Um, and so when it was happening, I was like, Oh, it was so, it was, I was like, this is just like, it feels like everything's like shifting in my life, you know?
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lives right you're you know we're programmed biologically to only have to compare ourselves and and listen to like a handful of people right i've watched a video about this like i'm not a fucking scientist but like i did watch a video about this yeah yeah um i'm citing my sources long story short like you're just not supposed to hear from that many people it's not
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chapter and i felt i had weirdly like imposter syndrome with it right because i was like i don't feel like i'm like are you sure that you want to do this i'm like nobody ever wanted to do this so i don't know why you want to do this and also i had a huge crush on this guy at the time so like you know he's even more crazy for me um and in retrospect i can look back and be like no like
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I was being hard on myself and I didn't need to be like that. But... I mean, it hurt really bad.
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It was so awful. We didn't even have sex. Right. It's not sex.
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It doesn't get fun until you're like, Older. Older. Yes. And even like... Then like there's always more to learn. Always.
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Well, you also are like, it's so true. I mean, I've had moments like on a personal level, but also like with other people, like when I'm, you know, like. Where I've just been, I've gotten into my head and been like almost embarrassed. Where I'm like, bitch, you are not, stop. Like stop being like.
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I'm like, I literally, I'm like, this is not, it feels like out of character. Yes. And it doesn't feel like it aligns with me. And like. And you want to do it. That's why I hate going on top. Because I'm like, I don't want to have to fucking think about me.
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but it's like people are very judgmental about if you're like, I'm not, I don't like, I listen, it's not like I'm not a sexual person. There's definitely that side of me, but I also am like not a super sexual person. And like, there are times when I'm like, I don't, it doesn't need to be this like whole crazy thing. Like it's just, it just is what it is.
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And like, I don't feel like I don't want to fucking perform. I don't want it. It just,
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and I think that the expectation to perform might actually end up being detrimental too at times, because you're like, it's all about figuring out what the vibe is, and if you're just like, well, the vibe doesn't feel like making really loud sounds right now, but I'm just gonna do it anyway, because I saw it in porn yesterday. You know what I mean? But then it's kind of like,
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like something that we're evolved to be able to comprehend. So it makes sense that, you know, for us, for example, like reading comments all the time from hundreds of different people, sometimes thousands, sometimes millions, that's just not a normal experience. And so when our brains react in weird ways, it's like, what else did we expect? This is a weird situation and is not normal. Natural.
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But then it takes away from the intimacy of it. Yeah. You should just disappear and like not think. Yes. And like let it happen. Yeah. And that's it. You just have to get out of your way.
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I will admit that I will enjoy... Kate, I know you're going to hate me. I was just about to say something. I'm not going to say it. Wait, but should I say it anyways? What? And then I'll cut it out. On Call Her Daddy, I will admit that I enjoy vanilla sex.
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i think that's okay like you're not trying to like like boring sex like you're not trying to like swing from the i think that's totally fine what's wrong with like fucking like like a good missionary and then like one other position go to bed what is wrong with nothing i don't need to fucking like literally do a helicopter background fucking right flip all over i don't want to do that i also like
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I mean, listen, okay, yeah. There's moments when you can be crazy. There's moments when you can be fun. I get it. That's like once in a blue moon. In reality, it doesn't need to be like that.
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With guys or in general? Oh, both. Okay. With guys, I get the ick when just like any kind of like cockiness and bragging and like trying to like...
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signal that they're like successful to me this is not rapid fire with me nothing will ever be rapid fire with me i'm so sorry um being cocky and honestly when people like just have bad taste in like clothing and fashion i feel um not that i know around emma right now stop with my outfit i'm like no I'm not saying like, there's like a certain like, but they're like braggy about it.
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So like being cocky about like having bad taste, that's really icky to me. It makes me have the ache every time. Is that you? That's not you. You're always hot.
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And who's also so gorgeous. So gorgeous. And dresses like the hottest.
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It can never be short. Not technically, but like I've been in situations where it was maybe not right for people to be going out and they did. Fair.
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just like not be supportive of like things that I was doing like simple things like work stuff what I decided to order on a menu like just like being in a relationship where somebody was constantly disapproving of every little thing I was doing and like being genuinely mean about it good answer how is the relationship you're in now different from previous experiences with partners it's I mean so many everything about it I mean obviously being like best friends with
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your significant other is the best fucking thing ever and i don't think that that's ever been true prior also like just the most like not like incredible i i can't even it's just like it's almost like when you're in a good relationship it's like you found somebody that's like a missing piece.
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And like, they just have all the things that you wish you had and you learn from them and they learn from you and they treat you with respect and there's a mutual respect and it's like all these things and it's like also your best friend and then it all comes together and you're like, I don't have any complaints and I don't know how that's possible. You know?
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I think that even for me, as a consumer of the internet, things are interesting when there's mystery around them. And because I don't ever confirm or deny anything,
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that's why I think it's so interesting it's almost like if I were to share it it would become possibly less interesting but the problem is that I want to protect the people that I'm dating or the people that I'm like even just lightly talking to or the people that I'm hooking up with like whoever it is at whatever given moment like even at whatever stage it's at I want to give them complete privacy and I don't
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I mean, for me personally, I'm like, I don't care. Like, I mean, I it's more like I'm concerned about how it affects them. And I don't ever want to, like, lose an opportunity to, like, have a good connection with somebody because my life style creates them stress. Right. And that's something I've like worried about in like relationships that I've been in that have been positive.
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I'm like, I just like I'm scared that this is going to get out because I don't want them to feel violated and like they didn't sign up for this. Like, you know what I mean? And so that's why I keep it private.
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But also if things come out or things are speculated about most of the time, people that I've been with or people that I haven't been with where it's been speculation and they're like, this is silly. Right. But I just decided to talk about none of it. Cause I'm like, if it's true or it's not, it doesn't fucking matter. Cause if I chime in about stuff when it's not true, then that means everything.
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I don't chime in about smart. I just leave it all to the imagination. And honestly, it's kind of fun to see. It's kind of fun to see like what people assume. So yeah.
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I would hope that people would say that in one way or another, like something that I said, something that I shared made them feel inspired or made them feel comforted in some way. Like that's my main goal is I want people to feel comfortable and heard by listening to me, but also kind of like safe in a way too.
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find what mediums and what things make me excited because I was in this hamster wheel of you know creating content every single week for four years and the thing that kept me coming back was the fact that that's It's literally like a disease.
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Well, I think a lot of people who were following me at the time when they found out I was moving to L.A. were like, there she goes. You know what I mean? Like, there goes the girl that we fell in love with. She's about to die. You know what I mean? Like, she's not going to be here anymore. And I think to a certain extent that was a valid concern. And I think, well, okay, here's the thing.
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It was such a huge life shift in my foundation and my reality changed so much that my sense of identity kind of went out the window and I was having to like rebuild myself. My new I mean, and this happens regardless of if you're moving to L.A. and doing YouTube or if you're just literally a teenager, you know, like there was a lot of shifting that was going on.
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It was like I was making new friends. I was starting to try to date guys like I was like. like living on my own and, uh, like trying to figure out what that entailed. And like, there was so many life changes all at once that like a whole new group of people, a whole new scenery. It was just like, whatever my sense of identity was fucked.
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And so when it came to like making videos, the shift from moving from home to moving to LA took such a psychological toll on me that I don't think I was willing to admit to myself at the time. But yeah, It was so exhausting to you know, find your footing in a new place, especially LA that like I was very drained just from life itself.
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And so when it came time to like make YouTube videos, I was like, I am so fucking tired just from like existing here right now that I think my content at certain times throughout the first year and a half, two years of being in LA, like my content had moments of suffering because there were just moments when I was
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my life itself was a mess and not even a mess in a bad way, just simply a mess where I didn't feel like I had a foundation.
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I think the good is that there are so many people here that are in a similar industry. to me and to you it's so being here is nice because there's a lot of people around that can relate because it's a very unique situation and it's comfortable to be around people that are in the same industry as you but but well also another good thing about LA is that
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you know, there's a lot more opportunities here and it's a lot easier. Like if you have to do a shoot for something or if you have to do an interview for something, you know, everybody's in the same area. So it's just a lot more convenient to get a lot more done because everything's here. It's either here or New York. And usually it's here.
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Actually, a lot of people from New York fly here to do stuff. And so living here is very easy, uh, to get the most done. And I can't take that away from LA. Also LA, you know, it's like the weather's nice and like, you know, you're close to the beach. Like there's great things about LA, but I will say that there is a lot of toxic stuff about it. Number one being that you can't walk anywhere.
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That makes me really upset. Number two, that's like the stupidest thing to complain about, but it sucks. Um, number two. Being around people that are in the same industry as you is also not always the best thing because there's a lot of competitiveness. There's a lot of trying to, you know, use you to get farther. And that's something I didn't anticipate.
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You know, it's great when you can find someone here who is in the same space as you that, like... just wants companionship, but that's actually more rare than you think. Yeah. So there's a lot of room to get fucked over when you're being friends with people in your industry. And that's something that I really struggled with and experienced.
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When you start doing YouTube or you start a podcast or whatever you do, which I've been doing both now for two years or so, you're like, if I miss a week, I'm done. People are going to fucking forget. People won't care. And you guilt trip yourself into pushing through even the roughest moments because... I burped. Because... There's this stigma that like the second you take a break, you're out.
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Oh, my God. It's been so many times. I mean, like, I... And sometimes using is not always a bad thing. Sometimes you can even find yourself being like, well, yeah, they're maybe using me, but I guess I'm kind of using them too. In certain types of collaborations, things like that.
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But I think that's kind of different because usually when it comes to a collaboration of some sort, it's a mutual benefit. Sometimes it's not, though. And in those moments, you're like, okay, I'm not benefiting from this at all. This person's profiting off of...
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me in some way and I don't feel number one like it's having a positive impact on me and number two like I don't think that they actually care about me and so that's when it gets a little messy is when it's not a mutual thing and you can tell that they actually don't even care about you at all and you know It's a part of it. Again, like it's a part of it.
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And so I, in retrospect, now that I'm far away from all people or all things that could ever put me in a spot where I would be used or would feel taken advantage of in some way, like now that I'm far away from those things and I can look back at those moments when I did feel that way and I was wrapped up in those things, I forgive because I understand that
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you know, it's like, we're all just trying to prove that we deserve to have dropped out of college or to have dropped out of high school or to have moved to LA. Like we're all just trying to make it happen. And so if somebody thought that they could benefit from me in some way, yeah, that's not nice of them. But also I understand where their head was at and I'm able to forgive now.
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there was like a few instances where you know people would want me to appear in their videos for example and you know I would be like I can't today because like I need to be working and I need to like I have to be doing and they'd be like and you know maybe because they were more successful than me in some ways or whatever when they would be like you have to I would be like
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You know, and so I was young and very yes man when I first moved to L.A. So if somebody in these like YouTubers who are maybe more established, I think that they knew that they could kind of push me around a little bit, not only on camera, but off as well, just by, you know, like they just knew that I was really also still kind of a fan of everyone. I think they could sense that as well.
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knew that they could take advantage of me and that it would be fine and listen again it's fine like I get it but I'm also like but it still sucked and it it made me a lot less productive and it made me depressed because I felt like just an object in some ways which again I don't think that was their intent but I felt like I was just like a fucking drone a corporate drone you know what I mean like a YouTube corporate drone um
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No, it hurts. Wait, why? Explain. Like, why does it hurt? Yeah. Well, you know, let's explain this for people who don't know what MagCon is. Basically... There was a group of really hot. Well, it's creepy to say that they're hot now that I'm 20.
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But like at the time, I thought they were the hottest guys I'd ever seen. They were on Vine doing absolutely nothing of substance. Right. Right. Which is fine. You know, like that's not their fault. Right. It's like TikTok.
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It's basically, it was like a group of like really good looking kids that were on Vine that were famous and they would like go on tours and do meet and greets and like meet all their young girl fans and like, you know, do weird shit on stage that made no sense because they really, if you think about it, didn't necessarily have some sort of talent except for actually Shawn Mendes was in MadCon and he is like now Shawn Mendes.
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So like it worked out for some of them. It was like Cameron Dallas and like Nash Greer. You know what I mean? I remember that. Yes. I was obsessed.
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with them like I and they had YouTube channels and I would rewatch their videos like every night before bed and I was like one day like I'll meet a Madcon boy and I'll be able to just date one of them they'll fall in love with me and like I was I think that's how a lot of people felt though oh for sure yeah but I will say that like my crushes as a young person were all consuming like they were not like cute little mini crushes like I was obsessed with
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fiending for that i was fiending i don't it was weird like in retrospect i don't it's so out of character right like people would not assume that of me but i've always been somebody that like when i have a crush on so i'm not creepy i don't like stalk anybody but it is all consuming for me i get that because then you go spiral down like you watch every youtube video and you watch every single possible thing that you consume of that like interviews and everything everything and then you're invested in their life yeah and they don't even know who you are no well now they probably do
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It was... I don't even fucking want to think about it.
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So I had an interesting experience with high school because basically I was a really... academically driven student. And so I was obsessed with the idea of going to a super prestigious college and I was willing to do anything to get there. And so when it came time to choose what high school I was going to go to, the public schools in my area were not great. And I wanted to go to that.
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I wanted to go to a braggy, you know, super prestigious, impressive school. And I was like, I can't get that if I go to these public schools. So I was like, Mom and Dad, I want to go to a private school. And I went and I toured this all-girls Catholic school that had a really great education. And I was like, you know, this could actually be good. I really liked it.
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the environment when i toured the school and i was able to get financial aid so that i could financially go there because i would not have been able to afford it otherwise and so there i went i went to all girls catholic school um and i hated it after the first year and i was like i made a big fucking mistake and i haven't seen a boy in a long time and now those dick pics on kick suddenly i'm trying to fucking hack back into my kick to see those dick pics i'm like
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I my dream school was Columbia, which was like not going to fucking happen. But like, you know, actually, I mean, I was a good student. Like, I don't know how I was a good student.
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I like just knew how to do school for whatever reason. And so I got really good grades, like always above a 4.0 every year.
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i listen i don't fucking know how it's possible okay it was flex i was like really just i and i don't think that school is a great measure of intelligence i'll be the first one to say it um because i'm a fucking idiot in a lot of areas so like whatever but i was good at school so i was like i'm gonna use this and you know i wanted to go into the medical field like i wanted to be an anesthesiologist wow but like
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
On what basis? One time I had anesthesia when I had a surgery and the anesthesiologist, see I can't even fucking pronounce the word.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I dropped out of high school so it's fine that I don't know how to pronounce it. I didn't finish my education so you can't expect too much from me. Like I got a surgery once and was like, oh, this job seems chill. And then I looked up how much they make a year and I was like, oh, this job's super chill.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I'm like, you have to go to school for like 11 years, but like... Eventually you'll get that check. Why not?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
No. Oh. It was not cute. No. Actually, you know, in retrospect... It was fine. Like, it could have been a lot worse. Okay. But it was pretty bad.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Basically, the all-girls school had a corresponding all-boys school. Yep.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And so we would kind of party with the boys from the all-boys school. And they had friends that they knew from middle school that were at other, like, co-ed schools. And then we knew other girls that went to...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
other co-ed school so it kind of all like congealed but I think that the thing that made it possible for the boys and girls to be together was the fact that both boy and girl schools were desperate for each other you know what I mean yeah so and and you know there was like a distinct like okay this is the corresponding boy school so it was like we didn't see each other every day but at football games we'd see each other and prom and things like that anyway
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I think that's what really like I was like, I don't even care what we talk about. Like, I need to do this because we just clicked so well. And we just like talked about so much random shit. And like. We just clicked so well.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I actually ended up kissing a guy from, like, a school that was probably 30 minutes away that, like, came to a New Year's party that we were throwing, like, the two schools. And it was extremely set up.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
You know, it was like, oh, he's outside waiting now. Okay, but you also have to, like, can we paint a picture? Like, I was a super late bloomer. I mean, I had, like, no boobs. Like, I looked really young. Like, it was, like... I looked super young. I always have. I even now look kind of young. A lot of people think I look young now. So I felt super... Also, I never felt like...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
mature enough for like this type of behavior you know what I mean because mentally I felt mature enough but physically I didn't I felt like I didn't fit the super feminine mold right where you like have like boobs and like you know you wear like a low top and like you whatever I could not participate in that so I felt so uncomfortable when it was time to do anything with boys because I was like I want to and
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like I mentally feel ready, but outwardly I don't feel like I look ready. And I feel insecure of my appearance, even though I know that in my brain, like I'm ready and that I like love boys. And in fact, I'm like quite obsessed with boys. Like, but I didn't feel like I looked that way.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I was super insecure about my boobs. Okay. Because, which now I'm like, I love having small boobs. Like it's the best thing ever. Like I don't care. But you know, when I was younger, I like didn't have any boobs. Like it wasn't just like, oh. they're no, they flat. And you know, guys in middle school used to give me a hard fucking time about that.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like calling me, you know, like a door, like whatever, like shit like that. And, um, which is fine. Like whatever. I'm friends with those kids now. Like I forgive. Um, but you know, it's good to, it's good to be forgiving. But I also like didn't get my period until I was 16 and I felt like I wasn't a woman without it. You know, I was like,
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Well, I was always really obsessed with YouTube because as I mentioned earlier, I didn't have cable. And so I watched a lot of YouTube. And when I was like in fifth grade, I tried to make a YouTube video on my iPad. I wish we could watch it so bad. I need to find that iPad because it has so much good shit on it.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
But my cousins and I were constantly making little videos during family vacations, during holidays, like whatever. Constantly making little videos. There were these...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
iMovie trailer templates that you could use so you could make like a movie trailer but iMovie provided the template so all you had to do is like film little things and then they would plug it in for you and so we would do those all the time so I was familiar and comfortable in that sense where you know my cousins and I were always obsessed there is a big difference between recording something and then pressing upload on that shit like you gotta have balls to press upload for sure
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I'm like getting a facial done and getting my toes done while I'm at the table.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Well, my first YouTube video ever, I was in fifth grade and I was like, I don't care. I don't, I didn't even want to like be famous. Like I never thought I could like get any like recognition from it. I, To this day, I've always looked at fame as an impossible thing. So I was like, I'm not going to become famous from this. But I was like, even just a few people commenting will make me feel good.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Post. And then, of course, nothing happened. And then I deleted it a week later. That was my very first one. But then when I was 16 and I uploaded, I honestly...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
just i was in such a shitty spot that i was like i have nothing to lose like i'm so depressed i'm so unhappy i like i want to do something that makes me feel good and youtube has always made me feel good so i'm i'm just gonna post on there did anyone from your high school when they saw that make fun of you or like say anything mean behind my back yes but never to my face and i heard about people saying shit behind my back but it's like
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like, what were they saying? They were just like, does she really think anything's going to come of that? Which is... You know what? No, listen. Fair enough. Like, if I would have seen...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
someone from my high school posting on YouTube I number one I would have said the same thing about them I would have been like really like what's gonna come on you guys like it's not easy but on the other hand I was even saying that to myself it wasn't like people were it wasn't like I was posting YouTube videos being like I'm gonna make it big one day you know I was posting videos like this is just a hobby for me and like even if I just get a hundred subscribers like that's fun
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
like I just a little community and also I enjoy making the videos I enjoy the process of it so what happened after I pressed upload it was more just like well at least it lives somewhere when did you go viral so about about like two or three months after I started That's crazy. It was, you know, it was crazy. But I also think that a big reason for that was I was uploading every fucking day.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like I was uploading every single day during the summer. And by the end of the summer, I had like something like 50 videos. And so I had such a
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
collection already that it was easy it didn't take as long because I was grinding I mean every day I was like I need to make a video every day and then I ended up cutting it down and I was like three days a week and then I cut it down two days a week and then I cut it down one day a week but it was like in the beginning I started and I was like I just want to get as good at this as I can as quickly as fucking possible and then when that one video did really well I was like it was this video where I went to the dollar store and I bought a bunch of like
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
random shit and did like a fake haul like I was kind of like kidding around doing a haul and I was really proud of the video and it like after two weeks it had like half a million views or something or maybe it was like it had a hundred thousand views after like
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
yeah and what when that was happening what were you doing like were you telling your parents what were you my parents my dad was like super interested he was like i think you could really do something with this actually and i was like okay i don't but thanks dad i was like dad like that is like one in a trillion like why are we why are we let's not go there because i'm just gonna get disappointed you know but he's like i don't know i'm like i think if you really get good at this like something could come of it when all of a sudden like so many people are watching
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Well, I think it was one of those things where, you know. I have been on the internet for so long that people know me as a teenager. Yes. And I'm 20. I'm about to be 21, which is still literally like a child. Like I still am like prepubescent. Like I know I'm 21, but whatever. Or almost 21. But I've been really trying to grow like in the public eye in a way because I can't –
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
You're like, I actually cannot comprehend this number of people. I can't comprehend the fact that all of a sudden now I'm making money. I can't comprehend
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
whoa like half a million people just watched that video yeah it feels it's like a different metric in your brain yeah like it's like you're looking at it in a different you're not looking at it as real people but you're also not looking at it as just a number there's this like weird in-between way that your brain processes it yeah but it's it's kind of i think i knew subconsciously that if i
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
looked into it too deeply and I thought about it too deeply that I'd psych myself out fuck myself over and ruin the whole thing so I was like I'm not gonna think I'm just gonna just tunnel vision keep going and like I did that up until probably the last three months when and it has been really uncomfortable when when you really like wake up and realize like oh shit this is the situation and
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
It's like I finally turned off my tunnel vision and it felt like everything was like that had been building for four years was now right in front of me and I had never looked at it. You know what I mean.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
So the summer of sophomore year, I started my YouTube channel because I was depressed and I was like, my dad was like, you need a hobby. I said, OK. So I started my channel. And by the end of the summer, you know, I was making money.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
and I was like and I've never made money you know and I was like oh shit okay this is actually pretty serious you know and I was loving it and people at school were like respecting me because I had they weren't being an asshole anymore some people still were but you know people were like excited for me and I was excited and junior year I was like okay I this is the year I take hard classes so I was taking like three AP classes and
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And long story short, it just was so I couldn't do schoolwork and YouTube. But I was like, obviously, schoolwork is more important. So I was like, OK, I'll just drop some of my classes and take easier classes. But then YouTube kept building and I was like. I already took all the... I'm just taking added shit to help me for college.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And I started questioning, okay, am I even going to go to college anyway? Now that this YouTube thing is going the way that it is, I'm making an income now. I can support myself now. All of a sudden, by the end of the summer, I was like, I actually could support myself. I don't... It changed everything.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And I was like, I don't think I need to be working this hard because I don't think I'm actually going to college anymore. I might try to... ride this out and then when this doesn't work out anymore then I can go to college even if I'm like 30 like who gives a fuck you know and so I
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
took one of those standardized tests and just left school like I kept basically dropping classes more and more until it got to a point where I was like I just don't need to be here because I'm not I'm number one I'm not learning anything that is necessary it was all stuff that was only really necessary for college I had already taken all of the classes that I needed to that were like normal high school level I was just doing added shit what's the point of that I was like this is stupid so
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I was out of there. How did you tell your parents and how did they react? Honestly, it was kind of their idea. It was kind of like... It was not just my idea. It wasn't like, mom and dad, I want to leave school. They were like, you're so miserable in school. You know... Well, actually, at first we were thinking about homeschooling me. Interesting. So actually, that was the first idea.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
stay a teenager in everybody's mind forever. But I think I needed to do some of that work on my own before I came on here and was like, let's talk about big girl stuff. You're like, so the Glock Glock? And I'm like, Emma. So the first time I tried the Glock Glock was a year ago. And you guys won't believe what happened.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
They were like, you... This structure is not working, right? And so we toyed around with the idea of homeschooling me. But then after doing more research, we were like, okay, actually, let's just cut it. Cut it. Because I know that I don't recommend people drop out of school.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And I think that my situation was very unique because I was fortunate enough to get all of my general high school education out of the way in the first two years. Right. And that's a really like, again, like it would have been irresponsible to leave if that had not been completed. And I and I always I actually have never said that out loud, I don't think.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
But I know it's kind of fun to be reckless and be like, I dropped out of school like fucked it. But it was it wasn't this super irrational, super irresponsible. I could have gone straight to college from that point that I was at. Got it. You know, so like I didn't need to.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
it wasn't fucking me over I completed my high school credits like I was done you know what I'm saying so how did your friends react when you told them like were you close with a lot of people in high school did you have a lot of friends the first uh year and a half of high school yes but towards the end no I only really had one friend and even and she like knew everything about
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like she knew about how school was like affecting me negatively and how I just was depressed. So like I couldn't be social, you know, and I couldn't deal with the ebbs and flows of friendship. I just didn't have that in my head.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
in me and so she understood that and she was kind of kept up to date on like how things were evolving but she you know she was like she had other friends like she was so she was just like peace you know everybody was just kind of like peace I really just disappeared one day honestly if you could change one thing about that time in your life what would it be nothing
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I really you know I have a lot of moments in my life that I look back at and cringe at and I have a lot of moments that I regret like for sure and not regret that's actually completely the wrong word I have a lot of moments that I'm like damn I would do that so differently now but I refuse to ever even think about how I would change things because I Every bad experience has just made me me.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I think the thing that I sometimes get a little bit upset about is how quickly I had to grow up. And it sounds so... Again, like just so like, Emma, shut the fuck up. But I don't think I realized when I left school and immediately started working how there's no leeway for me anymore. You know what I mean? There was no room. for being a kid anymore.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
It was like, okay, no, you have to get your fucking act together because you're saying that you can make a living on your own and that you're gonna make this shit work and that you're gonna make it last and that moving to LA is a good idea and that being friends with other YouTubers is a good idea and having to do your own laundry and do your own dishes and cook for yourself and taxes.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
There's so many facets of it that you're like, oh shit, I didn't realize that this came with this. By quitting school and by just going straight into being technically self-employed, I was also saying that I could handle all those other things. My parents were very helpful with the technical stuff, but emotionally...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I would say at first, not much changed. It was really interesting because yes, I had a following on the internet that if you look at it, you know, like 100,000 subscribers, that's a fuck ton of subscribers, right? But in the grand scheme of the world, people didn't really, they're like, eh, we'll see you at a million. Like, you know, this is, whatever.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
My family was very skeptical, like my outer family. They were kind of like, what is going on? You know, and so they didn't treat me any different, but they were definitely just like curious. A lot of people were really curious, but I didn't really have any friends. So I didn't have any friends reacting to like what was happening to me.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Yes, but I really wanted once I started to you know turn YouTube into my job I Started to feel like I couldn't really relate to kids in my high school as well and so I was like, you know, I would still hang out with those kids and
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
we would have fun and like that was fine but there was a disconnect and so I started looking to find people that were in this space that could be friends with me and I ended up finding those friends and that was really awesome so like and we didn't live near each other but I made quite a bit
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
of friends on the internet that were doing the same thing and it was nice because there was a mutual understanding and also there was no weirdness there was no questions about it there was just like a unspoken understanding that was very special at the time there's always the moment when you start getting recognized in public yeah
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
So I go to Maine every summer with my family on vacation. And I had like 6,000 subscribers when I went the summer of sophomore year. Like 6,000 subscribers, OK? Which to me was like, oh my god.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
fuck all y'all i'm popping off i'm popping off y'all don't know me anymore i'm different now no but um so i'm i'm on vacation in maine and this girl comes up to me and like asks me for a photo now i had 6 000 subscribers i thought that this was a real interaction my grandma set that up no
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I'm already getting a big fucking head, grandma. Do not play with me like this. Holy shit. No, but it was sweet. It was sweet. That's actually so cute. It was hilarious.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
At first, I've actually gone through phases with it. In the very beginning, I was stoked. And I was like, this is so awesome. My dream was coming true, right? It was so fucking cool. And then, you know, I've gone through ebbs and flows where it's made me a little anxious. Because if I'm not in a good spot, I'll get anxious about not being in a good spot mentally. And I'm like, is this showing?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like, I don't want... I started getting anxiety about giving these people the best experience they could possibly have meeting me. And then that kind of got into my head. But I didn't have that thought in the very beginning. So that came into play later.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I don't feel that I am. And I think that. Really? I mean, I've gone through the ringer. Really? In what way? Well, so there is like there's been chunks of time throughout my experience on the Internet where I've been like widely disliked. You know, whether people thought I was annoying or people like or.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
So I grew up in San Bruno, California, which is actually where YouTube headquarters is, which is ironic, a little bit of foreshadowing. I grew up with my parents. I was an only child. And when I was five, we're like already getting into my drama. No, when I was five, my parents got divorced and my mom moved like 20 minutes away from my dad.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like it's interesting like there's just been periods of time when people have just not liked me and the general conversation around me has been negative. The thing that's really interesting about it is that I noticed this just from talking to other people in this space. A lot of people. They're so hyper focused on themselves as they should be. We're human. Right.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
So like I perceive you and I'm like, you're nobody fucking hates you. Right. But see you because I'm not seeing people giving you shit. Right. Whereas like you're not seeing people give me shit. Everybody gets shit. And so everybody, their own perception of their own career and like general likeness
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
is not right right it's skewed in a in a negative direction for everybody individually i look at any other personality on the internet and unless they're like genuinely yeah just a bad fucking person and everyone knows it unless that's what's going on generally like i nobody is going to see it except for you.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I mean, I would say that like when I was a lot younger, I edited in like a really like fast paced, like a kind of, you know, flashy way. And it was kind of like and I thought it was like funny and annoying. And that's why I liked it. I was like, I think this is just like funny and entertaining. And like, it's not serious, like whatever.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
But some people just found that annoying and were like, why the fuck do people want to watch this? Which I totally get because that's not everybody was going to like the style editing and my personality. I was a loud kid. I was a, you know, outgoing kid and people just thought I was annoying. So that was like one thing.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
But then also I think a big part of it was just like when you become successful, people just are going to nitpick just about anything.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And so and I understood that. I was like, I get it. Like I'm. You know, I'm a target and I understand that. And I think some of it might have been from jealousy and some of it just might have been from like people just simply not enjoying me. And like, that's fair, but it doesn't make it not hurt. You know, I can't blame people. I get the culture of the Internet. But it still sucks.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
It's always that way. Yeah. You think you can and you might have a good moment where you're like oh this shit doesn't bother me but it always comes back. Is there anything that made you almost quit? I will say there has been a lot of times. Where I've almost quit.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Yes, I have had sex, Alex. There's a lot of room to get fucked over when you're being friends with people in your industry. And that's something that I really struggled with. This person's like profiting off of...
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
me in some way i don't think that they actually care about me and these like youtubers who are maybe more established they i think that they knew that they could kind of push you around push me around a little bit not only on camera but off like you are using me i can tell fuck you
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And that was actually not a super bad experience because I was so young that I just didn't really know any better. I was definitely a really bored kid because I was an only child and like my parents were both like fully working parents. And so I had a lot of time by myself and I was very bored a lot of the time, which I think is... good.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
If I went and addressed every fucking rumor, every fake blah, blah, blah, blah, blah about me, that would be actually my full-time job. I just feel so out of control of the public perception of me. I remember my ex-boyfriend, one of his friends was like, dude, she doesn't actually like you. I don't think she actually likes you. I think she likes girls.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
In retrospect, I think it was good because it made me a lot more curious, I would say, because I didn't have a lot of distractions. You know, it's the Silicon Valley. It's a big tech area and a lot of kids there are super smart. And there's this
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Yeah. Why are you here? Okay, well, number one, Alex.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
crazy pressure to go to a really good college especially Stanford is like you know the big school there that everybody tries to go to and there's also a lot of wealthy families too and like so a lot of people assume that if you live there you're wealthy but that was not the case for me and my family at all but a lot of people there are very wealthy there's like a very big gap I would say between it's like very very very wealthy and then like very like lower middle class and like not
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
definitely an in-between for sure but not as much an in-between it felt like there was a very stark difference but I I've you know my dad's an artist so like I felt more on the you know lower middle class side of it which was tough but did you feel like your family didn't fit in For sure. We're living in a one-bedroom apartment, and all my friends at school are living in these massive mansions.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I'm a big fan. Like I've been a big fan of you forever. I don't know how, like I wish I knew my discovery story of you.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
It was tough socially, I would say. I didn't want to have people over, that's for sure.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
So we'll start with my dad. My dad is very... open-minded and creative, but also very wise. Dad, this boy's the love of my life. And he's like, Emma, that's the worst dude I've ever met. You're like, really? I'm like, Dad, what the fuck? He's incredible, Dad. I'm like, but he's so hot, Dad. What are you talking about?
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
No, but he's very open-minded and very sweet and very creative and not super controlling or super... pushy or anything like that but he also is opinionated because he has a lot of knowledge and wisdom about things so he's not sweet and creative in the way that makes him a pushover. He'll tell me what he thinks. But he also gives me the freedom to make the mistakes. And he's always done that.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And he never judges me. But a very, very cool man. The coolest person I know. I mean, he paints paintings and surfs every day. And that's his job, is painting paintings and selling them. And started making YouTube videos before I did. He's very cool, right? My mom is... How do I describe my mom? She's like one of the girls. You know what I mean? She's very... It's lovable. I tell her everything.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
honestly you're like don't don't drag me like that I did let me tell you like I I found you when things were very sexual yeah and I learned a lot wow yeah that makes me so happy yeah so like that's how I found you I think I I was really just like looking for advice on how to be crazy but then like in turn I fell in love with you oh my god so we're just this is a big love fest it's such a love story how we're in love with each other I know
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Like, everything. And I have no hesitation. Like, she knows everything I've ever done in my whole life. Got it. So I'm very, very close with her. But we're more like sisters, I would say. Like, you know, we used to butt heads a lot when I was growing up. And, you know, because she's picky. She's very, like, likes to keep the house clean and, like, set things folded a certain way.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
And she's very particular about things like that. Very meticulous woman. about everything that she does, which is a very admirable quality. But when you're growing up and you don't know how to fold a blanket properly, it can cause some problems. Absolutely. But no, at the end of the day, we're very close. And even when we do fight literal sisters, she's always there.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
I'm really lucky that my parents have always been very... Not like traditional parents. Like they're very sibling like. OK. And I think it's because they didn't even consider themselves to be the type to be parents ever. And so they had me because they wanted to. But they were like, we don't fit the parent mold. So we're just going to do it in our own way. And it's been great.
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Emma Chamberlain - Part 1 (FBF)
Well, you know, I think in one way, and this is no one's fault, right? Like, I'm grateful for their divorce. And I'll say that before I, like, go in and, you know. It was, number one, what was best for them and for their happiness. Number two, like, I never saw them fight. I never saw them argue. They divorced before it could ever become traumatizing in that way for me. And that's really mature.
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And also they're still friends and they talk all the time. I mean, I'm really lucky in that way too. Like they get along great. Like they talk all the time and, and. They're so supportive of one another. So it's not been a negative thing in that way. But I will say that for one, not having a relationship to look up to when you're growing up.
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does become a little bit jarring when you're older and you're like, okay, I'm in my first relationship. What is this supposed to look like? I don't know. I've never seen it. Did you wish you had had siblings? You know, no, because again, like my relationship with my parents was so close because it wasn't, there was nothing in the way of it. Right. Like,
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Each parent was not in the way of my relationship with the other parent. And also I didn't have a sibling in the way of my relationship with my parents. And listen, I think it could have been really fun to have a sibling. I don't know. I'll never know. Right. But I liked the friendship I was able to develop with my parents in the closeness.
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And I don't think I would have had that if I had a sibling.
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I had two older cousins. Well, I have two older cousins. They're three years older than me. And they were like my idols, you know, growing up. And they got Snapchat. And they're like, Emma, babe, it's time to download Snapchat on the iPod Touch. And I was like, you got it, girls. Let's go. And so I downloaded Snapchat. And, you know, we would just send each other silly stuff back and forth.
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Pretty soon after that, Instagram came out and I was like, all right, here we go. So I downloaded that, too. I think my cousins told me to download that, too. And my first post was a picture of a mini bag of Cheez-Its with like some crazy ass filter on top of it. And I think my caption was something like crunchy, yum.
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So weird. Like I would, I would do anything to be able to find my old Instagram. I don't know if I would. No, I would.
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Honestly, they didn't care. Okay. Like really... Just never brought it up. Like, they didn't care.
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I was a really good kid. I had... Because of my anxiety as a kid, I think I had a really strong conscience. Which is good. You know what I mean? I never... did anything bad without my parents finding out about it 24 hours later. Got it. So they knew that I would tell them like if I did something wrong, my conscience would force me to report it back to them. Got it.
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I don't know what that stems from. I don't know why that is, but. I was very transparent with them. And so when it came to things like social media, they were like, she's not, she's not, she's just not a bad kid. Like she's just not going to do bad shit on there. And, and I did it because I just didn't even know how to do bad stuff. I'm like, I like didn't know what bad stuff was. Right.
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Um, I did have a kick that just reminded me. I had a kick that I used for, um,
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like just kids at school messaging kids at school I forgot and then I would get like dick pics and kick and then I got super scared like so was that the first time you saw a penis yeah terrifying oh I was so fucking great I was like I don't actually think I am sexually attracted to anything you're like I do I do not know what I like but I don't like that I don't like that and so like who
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I was scared of penises until probably like I was 16. OK. Like seriously like I was like I'm not scared of them but I was like that is such a for like it was so alien to me. Yeah. Cause I didn't have siblings. So it's not like I had a little brother where like, I like saw him growing up and like, I saw a boy like exist. I didn't have a lot of guy friends.
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Like, so to me, like a penis, I was like, I, I can't, I don't know what that is. I get scared me.
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Well, I have to give a few from the years. Give it. Okay.
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my first youtube obsession was fred do you remember fred oh my iconic iconic i completely forgot about that well i like got on youtube super young too because like you know my dad was into youtube he was posting singing covers on youtube when it first came out and so he found out about it and was like emma this is great and we didn't have cable so he's like here you go little one you know you don't get cable but you do get this babe enjoy it's a pretty good trade
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No, it was great. I loved it. So I got super into YouTube super young. Loved Fred. Then as I grew a little bit older, it was Jonas Brothers for me in Hannah Montana.
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It kind of teetered between Nick and Joe. Sorry, Kevin. Honestly, Kevin's... Kevin's coming back. No, Kevin, he's a fucking angel. He deserved...
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devastated and everyone was obsessed and it was like we were like we will do anything to save him anything like it was so dramatic no i know okay so you had jonas brothers you liked miley i loved hannah montana miley all of that um okay i have to bring this up because it's so fucking funny okay um but like when i was like 12 13 and vine came out i was a huge mad con girl Okay. That's okay.
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Now tell me, how do you feel when you see an inspirational quote? Let me guess, uninspired. Yeah, but that wasn't always the case. Think back to a decade ago. How did you feel when you saw an inspirational quote? I can tell you how you felt. You felt inspired. Yeah, you did. You felt inspired. A decade ago, we loved inspirational quotes. We slapped them on our t-shirts, on our notebooks.
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If you genuinely see the risk in that and you're uncomfortable by it, I would never say, well, you should do it anyway because risk is better than regret. No, I don't think that that applies there.
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But when it comes to emotional things or things that are ultimately harmless, the worst thing that's going to happen is maybe people make fun of you, which can be really harmful, but you're not going to die from that. In fact, that's a normal part of life. Or, you know, you might get rejected. Like this is risk that I believe in. Like that is risk that will help you grow.
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I'm going to rate risk is better than regret. Honestly, a six out of 10. I'm going to rate it a six out of 10 because I think for like harmless risk, I absolutely agree. And I like to believe that the nuance is there. Okay, moving on. What you're looking for is not out there. It's in you. Yeah, I agree somewhat. Like, what does this quote mean?
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The sentiment that accomplishing something in your career, dating, you know, your dream significant other, looking the way you've always wanted to look like, those types of things, those are not going to fulfill you in the way that you think that they are. Ultimately, the fulfillment comes from within. What do I mean by this?
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Accomplishing what you want to accomplish, dating the person you want to date, looking the way you want to look, that only goes so far. It's never going to fully satisfy you. It's never going to fully fulfill you unless you have a good relationship with yourself, unless you are happy with who you are as a person, unless you're you have your morals and values sorted out and in line.
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Can we all just stop being fucking cool for a second and be nice again? We need to get back into inspirational quotes. I think it's about time that we get back into inspirational quotes. And honestly, there's a chance that inspirational quotes might become trendy again, just considering that 2010s are going to start coming back soon.
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Unless all of that is intact, the stuff out there, it's not going to fulfill you. At the end of the day, it is in you. I agree, but I also think it isn't all in you. We as humans get fulfillment from helping others. from experiencing the world, from witnessing beauty, from treating others with kindness, from making art, from creating things that make the world a better place. There are things that
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We do that are outside of ourselves. There are things outside of ourselves that do provide us a lot of value, you know, community camaraderie. Like, I don't know. There are so many things outside of ourselves that do provide value. And that is my one thing. issue with this is that it isn't all in you. You know what I'm saying? I don't know. Maybe I'm wrong.
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Maybe I'm misreading this quote, but saying what you're looking for is not out there. It's in you. To me, I take it to an extreme. I imagine if I was locked in a room, this quote is telling me the stuff out there in the world, that doesn't matter. All you need is yourself. That's not fucking true. Humans are social animals. We need other people. We need the sun. We need plants. We need trees.
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We need to jump around. We need to swing on the branches sometimes. Do you know what I'm saying? And that is not in us. That is in the world. Do you know what I'm saying? So I don't know. That is, to me, the flaw in this quote. That kind of negates the value that the world around us brings. In fact, I think focusing too much on ourselves can be a horrible thing. And I think a lot of times...
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we need to look now more than ever in the age of the internet where we're all becoming more and more narcissistic because that's the impact that social media and the internet has on us. Like if anything, we need to focus our energy outward on, you know, the exploring the world in, in, you know,
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treating other people with love and kindness and learning about other people and learning about, you know, and learning about the world around us. Like if anything, that's what we need more than ever. So I am not sure that this quote is almost saying like, look inward. It's in you. It's like, yeah, but we need to look around. I don't know.
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But then at the same time, there is a lot of personal work that we have to do with ourselves that is in us, that is crucial for us to be able to, you know, enjoy the world around us and stuff like that. I don't know. I'm going to give this one probably a four out of 10. I don't love it. Wow, I really hate inspirational quotes. What is happening? I thought we were all going to get inspired today.
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And we all know how we felt about an inspirational quote in 2010. We loved it. So I don't know, like maybe I'm just right on time and maybe inspirational quotes are going to come back into style, but they're definitely not yet. I briefly paused this episode to let you know that this episode is presented by Westin Hotels and Resorts. Westin Hotels is designed with your wellbeing in mind.
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I guess I was wrong. Okay, next. Life isn't about finding yourself. It's about creating yourself. I agree. Oh my God. Wait, I just saw in this book. Baby girl. Wait, this is actually the full quote. Excuse me. Can't believe I missed the small text on this. This is the full quote. Excuse me. Baby girl, just remember, life isn't about finding yourself. It's about creating yourself.
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Find the power in that. Now that I've been called baby girl, I actually totally agree. It's actually like a better version of the last quote that we just read, which was, what you're looking for is not out there. It's in you. This is a better version of that. Life isn't about, you know, finding yourself in things. It's not about like finding yourself.
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It's about creating your unique being as like a beautiful sort of combination of all of the things that you've experienced and all the things that you love, like creating yourself, yourself. It's kind of hurting my brain. I'm going to give it a 7 out of 10, or maybe even a 7.5 out of 10. I actually quite like it. Again, I can't explain it or put it into words, but yeah, like 7.5 out of 10.
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It's pretty good. Moving on. The universe sends us exactly what we are ready for at the exact time we need it in our lives. Again, this one's a little bit too good to be true for me. Sometimes the universe sends us shit that really is just fucking unfair, painful, horrible. But you know what? Majority of the time, this is true. Majority of the time, I do agree with this. And I actually think
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even if it isn't true, believing it is a net positive in my opinion, because I think we all know that inevitably bad shit's going to happen to us in our life. Unfortunate shit is going to happen to us in our lives. And there is something really comforting about believing that some sort of higher power, doesn't matter what religion you believe in. It doesn't matter if you are religious.
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It doesn't matter. I mean, if you're an atheist, this one might not work for you. But other than that, If you're even a remotely spiritual person, there is value in being like, you know what? I'm going to trust that the universe is giving me exactly what I need when I need it. Even if it's the fucking worst possible thing that could happen.
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If I'm not dead, for some reason, this is what's meant to happen right now. there is like beauty in that. There is, there is like, I think believing that even though it's a bit too good to be true. And sometimes the universe will hit you when you're down over and over and over again, and it will feel unfair and it is unfair and it doesn't make sense. And sometimes it's not exactly what you need.
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You know what I'm saying? Like, like that is like a little bit blissfully ignorant to reality, right? But at the same time, I have a soft spot for this because I do think that believing it is like a net positive in life. If you can find a way to believe this, I think you should. And I try to believe this. It brings me a lot of peace when I do.
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And so with that, I'm going to give this quote a seven and a half out of 10 as well. Maybe a seven, maybe a seven, because it's a little bit too like unrealistic. But so seven, seven out of 10. Okay, next. Change is scary, but so is staying the same. You know, it's funny. This is like the least deep one we've read thus far. Arguably, no, I would say risk is better than regret. Was probably less.
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No, honestly, no. That one's weirdly more deep than this. This is probably the most surface level one that we've read. Change is scary, but so is staying the same. This is the first one that I think I have no complaints about. It's simple. It's to the point. And it's absolutely true. Change is absolutely scary. And it's often met with criticism, discomfort, blah, blah, blah.
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But staying the same, I'd argue, is even scarier. It's way scarier. It's definitely more comfortable, but it is not good. Okay, this one's great. Can I be honest? Eight out of 10. You have to admit you're a little bit inspired by that one. That makes you inspired to change and not say the same. Admit it. You're feeling inspired. Next, motivated by the fear of being average.
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I fucking hate this quote. Sorry, I don't like it and I'll tell you why. What's wrong with being average? Tell me what's wrong with being average. Majority of people on this planet are average at things, okay? Majority of people are average at school and then they play sports and they're average at those. They're not the best on the team.
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And then they go and work their job and they're average at their job. Does that make them an average? Are they defined by that? Majority of people on this planet are average at things. My entire life, I was arguably average at things. I was average at sports. I was average at school. I was good at school. I got good grades, but I wasn't the best. I wasn't the valedictorian.
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I wasn't in all honors classes. I was in a lot of that, but like always still average. There is nothing wrong with being average. I don't like this at all. To me, this is degrading to majority of society. Not everyone on this planet is meant to be an Olympic gold medalist. Not everyone on this planet is meant to be the most beautiful supermodel on the planet.
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Not everyone is supposed to be a super successful entrepreneur or billionaire. And by the way, that's totally fine. Life is probably more fulfilling for those who are average than it is for those who are above average. I'm not kidding. And you can fight with me all you want. And you will. You might. You can fight with me all you want. I stand by that.
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I think people who are Olympic gold medalists, billionaires, that is a nightmare. I don't envy that position at all. Being the best? No. Sorry. I don't envy that at all. There is beauty in having somewhat of a simple life, having maybe even an average life. I don't know, to like discount that it is just wrong to me. It is wrong to me. This is to me, I'm not even kidding, a zero out of 10.
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No, fuck that. I fucking hate that. That like pisses me off. I'm not even kidding. I'm mad. I'm mad. I think it's so toxic. I think it's absolutely toxic and it's degrading to human beings. If I could rewrite this quote, I would say motivated by the fear of being unfulfilled. That's what I'd change this quote to. Zero out of 10. Moving on.
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I actually don't have any sort of desire to be mischievous. Can I actually Google what mischievous really means? Because when I think of it, I think of like, I don't know, being kind of like evil a little bit. Okay, mischievous, according to Oxford Languages, of a person, animal, or their behavior causing or showing a fondness for causing trouble in a playful way. Nah, I don't like that.
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I think that's, no. With mischief like causing trouble like i'm all about goofing around but like I would replace Mischief with humor. I don't like mischief. I I don't think we necessarily need to ever be causing trouble I really don't like personally. I don't like being pranked. I don't like that.
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I don't think that's very funny It pisses me off like if somebody's like hiding behind a corner and I come around and they jump out at me That's not funny to me. That's stupid. What are we three years old grow the fuck up come up with a funny witty joke in the moment Let's grow up Let's go ahead and grow up, all right? So I don't know about mischief. Humor, love.
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Even when it misses the mark, you know, which happens sometimes, especially if you're somebody who's like particularly silly. Sometimes you'll take a joke too far. Sometimes you'll hurt someone's feelings. It's the name of the game. But I think humor is rooted in laugh, in good, in happiness. And there's no trouble involved for the most part. No, aging with mischief, no. Audacity, no.
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I have to Google audacity too. Sorry. Boldness or daring, especially with confident or arrogant disregard for personal safety, conventional thought or other restrictions. Again, it's like trying to be, this quote is trying to be edgy. You know, like the fact that the word arrogant is coming up for this, I'm not loving. I'm not loving. I do think like confidence though is good.
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So, okay, perhaps we change this quote to your time on earth is limited. Don't try to age with grace. Age with humor, confidence, and a good story to tell. I love that. I think that's great. Mischief and audacity, I think to me, has a bit too negative of a connotation. It's like too edgy in a way that's not charming. You know, like in theory, as we grow older, we're less mischievous.
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We realize that being mischievous has a net negative impact on other people sometimes. Like to be humorous is good, but mischievous less so. Audacity, sometimes audacity is disrespectful. Sometimes it's, I don't know, like I don't like that word either. Yeah, I'm going to give this one a four and a half out of 10.
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Cause I do think that it, I get where, what it was going for, but to me it missed the mark of it. Okay. Next. The only failure is not to try. I absolutely agree. This is, this is great. This is absolutely great. I absolutely agree. And again, this one's very simple, but I think it's, I think it's simplicity is its strong suit. Okay. I think it's great. I don't even know what to say about this.
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It explains itself. That's what's so great about it. I'm giving this quote a nine and a half out of 10. It's absolutely true. And it's inspiring. It empowers us to try things and not be afraid of failure. It gets us off our ass. Like I'm into it. I'm all about it. I love this quote. Nine and a half out of 10.
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The only reason why I'm not giving it a 10 out of 10 is because it's not hitting me hard enough to be 10 out of 10, but it's hitting pretty hard. So nine and a half out of 10. Next, consistency is key. Another short and sweet fucking Sabrina Carpenter banger. Short and sweet. The Sabrina Carpenter album, of course, go stream it. As though she needs any more streams. She has enough streams.
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I want to go on Pinterest, aka the home of the inspirational quote, and I want to analyze the inspirational quotes that come up with fresh eyes, okay? For the last few years, whenever an inspirational quote has come up on my Pinterest, I've, for the most part, ignored it.
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No, she doesn't. She deserves infinite streams. Sabrina Carpenter, to me, deserves whatever the most amount of streams in the world is. She deserves double that. I absolutely love Sab Carp. Anyway, this quote is short, it's sweet, and it's good. Consistency is key. I agree. I absolutely agree. In my life, I... Actually, you know, within the last year, I've really realized this.
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Like this has become a truth to me because there's been multiple instances over the last few years where things have started out really challenging. And then as I've stuck with them, they've gotten easier and really become rewarding. And actually a great example would be this podcast. I've always been
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Okay, this is like breaking the fourth wall for you as a podcast listener, but I've always been pretty behind on my podcast episodes. Like to the week, I make an episode and it goes live that week. Like that's always sort of how I've been. I've rarely been ahead. And this season of the podcast, I was like, I really don't like living in that state of like constant feeling like a bit behind.
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I need to be more consistent with like recording on a weekly basis, not like getting sort of ahead and then taking a week and a half off and then being behind again and like not doing that. I want to start being more consistent. And at first it was incredibly challenging because, and this sounds fucking ridiculous, but like I was sort of frustrated feeling exhausted.
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Like when I record an episode, I'll sometimes get exhausted from it, which sounds literally ridiculous, but it's sort of an expenditure of energy or whatever. Anyway, but I really challenged myself to be consistent and to record at least, you know, at least two a week because technically, you know, I post two a week. So my goal was like, Emma, at least two a week. If more, great.
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If you have stuff on your mind, great. More. Do more. Get ahead. But like two a week. And not only am I enjoying making the podcast now more than ever, but like my energy is up. The ideas are flowing. I have infinite ideas. Like it's just it's making it all easier. And it's beautiful. Another thing like I talk about my fucking yoga class all the time at my yoga class.
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When I first started going, I was really frustrated by the fact that I had to park on the top floor.
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I like was really exhausted by the whole sort of routine of like going into this class and like sweating a lot and then getting out of the class and then having to like take off my clothes and put them into like a plastic bag so that they're not like getting my stuff all wet and then showering in the shower there.
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And then I have like soap and I need to like bring my own soap because I have like sensitive skin. So I need my own soap. And this whole like routine was like so clunky to me, but I was consistent with it for like a month. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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Because I, like the rest of us, thought that they were cringe and overplayed, which is like ironic because I'm like the queen of inspirational speeches. Like half of this podcast is just me on some sort of inspirational rant that sometimes gets turned into like a TikTok sound and then people... like later, like, Emma, is that your voice in that TikTok of you like giving an inspirational speech?
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I'm like, don't bring that up. Maybe I'm just as cringe as the inspirational quote. Maybe I am just one walking inspirational quote. But anyway, let's venture onto Pinterest, read some inspirational quotes, and see what we discover about the art of the inspirational quote. Dare I say the lost art of the inspirational quote. What I learn about myself through the process is
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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what I learn about society as a whole, and ultimately come to a conclusion about whether or not inspirational quotes are worth our attention. Let's go on to Pinterest. Let's just go on to Pinterest. Okay, let's start with no matter how unrealistic it seems, it's going to happen. I'm not going to lie. We're starting out not very strong because I don't necessarily agree with this.
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We got tattoos of them all over our bodies. We loved inspirational quotes. And then all of a sudden one day, we all collectively woke up and decided we don't like inspirational quotes anymore. They're cringe. They're overplayed. They're pretentious. They're cliche. And it became this sort of guilty pleasure. If you liked inspirational quotes, you shouldn't tell people about that.
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to, you know, overthinking things is not good, right? But I think underthinking is just as bad. I think what we should be striving for is some, some sort of happy medium. So ultimately this quote sucks and I'm giving it a one out of 10. I just think underthink it. It's like, you know, that quote to me is just, it's just the opposite of overthinking.
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But see, in the case of overthinking, the opposite is equally as bad. Overthinking is bad because it's an extreme. Underthinking is bad because it's also an extreme. What we want is balance. Okay, moving on. You cannot use someone else's map to find yourself. Okay, well, what does that really mean? You cannot use someone else's map to find yourself.
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The reality of life is that sometimes we have dreams and they don't ever come true. And this quote is saying, no, no, no, it's going to happen. And I can't agree with that. Unfortunately, reality is harsh and unfair. And sometimes things don't go your way. On the other hand, sometimes they do. But to me, this quote is a bit dishonest.
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Perhaps like someone else is not going to help you find yourself. You need to find yourself. Yeah or no? I actually do think that this is good. I think this is actually quite valuable now that I think about it because I do think that there are times in our lives when we look to our friend group or, you know, our significant other to help us find ourselves. And that is not going to work.
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And it never works. In fact, it tends to put a strain on the relationship or the friendship because you start to expect this person to guide you to fulfillment, you know? And they never will because you are the only one who can guide yourself to fulfillment. You know what I'm saying? And to rely on others for our feelings of like satisfaction and wholeness. It's just, it's destined to fail.
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And so, you know what? I actually kind of like this quote. I'm going to give it A seven out of 10. I'm going to give it a seven out of 10 because its meaning is a little bit confusing to the point where it's like, this quote's almost not even effective because I barely even know what it means. But like, I think I know what it means.
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And if I think I know what it means correctly, then I think I like it. Okay, moving on. Next, if everything around seems dark, look again, you may be the light. Well, if everything around seems dark, it's because there's no light at all, right? If you're the light, then you're shining light on what would then be dark. To me, this quote makes no sense. And maybe I'm just low IQ.
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Like, sorry, maybe it's a me problem. But to me, this is not making sense. Okay, I guess I get what I mean. I'm thinking if everything around seems dark, look again. you may be the light. Basically saying like, if everything around you seems horrible, it's a mess, that doesn't mean that you are also dark. Like you can be the light in that darkness. But see, this is just, I don't know.
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It doesn't really make sense to me. Like on the surface level, like it sounds great. You know what I mean? But when you actually dig into it and are like, what does this even mean? It doesn't quite make sense. But the sentiment of like in the midst of darkness, you can be a light. I think that's a beautiful sentiment. And I think it's absolutely true.
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Uh, luckily oftentimes you're in control of if you're that light or not. So I almost wish that this quote kind of tapped into that. Like if everything around you seems dark, you can be the light instead of saying, look again, you may be the light instead of saying like, wait, you might've missed it the first time you are the light. I think it's, I think that that makes it a bit confusing.
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I'm going to give the quote a six out of 10 cause it's close. And I, uh, maybe even a seven out of 10. It's close, but it's not quite there for me. Okay, next. Whoa, this fucking quote is incredible. She was poetry, but he couldn't read. Oh my God. I can't tell you how many times I've seen this quote, but always a little bit different.
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Like, she was a bestselling novel, but he was ultimately illiterate. Or like, she was a sunset, but he was blind. It's like, wow, that is kind of a crazy thing to say. I've seen these quotes a lot. And it's, can I be honest? This is one of the most cringe. This is really cringe. And I'm not like being some sort of like, bitch.
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Like I'm not being like a pick me like, Oh my God, you guys, she was poetry, but he couldn't read. Like, I bet she wasn't shit. Like what? No, I'm not saying it like that. I'm saying this is one of the worst quotes I've ever heard. Do you know what? No, actually that's not what I mean. It's because it's actually not bad. And it actually is kind of true.
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And to be honest, like I can't tell you how many times I was poetry and he couldn't read. Like this is my life. I relate to this quote. There's just something about it that's so cringe to me, even though it's true, but it's so cringe. But it is kind of a beautiful sentiment, actually. It really is.
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Because it is true that, you know, there are times in life when like you can be an incredible person, you know, and that doesn't mean that everyone's going to see it. Yeah. Like you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. She was cilantro, but he had the soap gene. You know, like when people have like the soap gene and like cilantro tastes like soap. Like this is true.
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If I had to rewrite this quote, I would say, no matter how unrealistic it seems, it's worth a try. Because that's absolutely true. You'll never know unless you try. Whether you succeed or not, the attempt will teach you something. And that is beautiful and incredible and empowering advice. But this quote sucks to me. I'm sorry. I don't like it.
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I'm literally, why is this so funny to me? What's another one? Let's come up with some. I'm having fun now. Okay. Oh my God. She was a mango jewel pod, but he smoked cigarettes. Holy shit, that's so true. Wow, that's true. You know what? That's a little niche, but if you fucking know what I mean, if you had a mango jewel pot, wow, that's true. Okay, wait, let's keep thinking. One more, one more.
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Okay, I have to give up. I don't have any more. I was going to say something like, she was a Margiela Tabby boot, but he doesn't get it. You know, but like, fuck that. Okay, I'm moving on. See, I ruin everything. Like I actually was, the first few were actually funny and then I ruined it. Okay, moving on. Oh, okay. I'm going to rate this quote.
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I'm going to give it a seven because it's cringe, but a seven because it's actually kind of good and true. I'm giving she was cilantro, but he had the soap gene. I'm giving that one a 10. All right, let's move on. And then I realized the fire was always burning within me, but the flames were busy keeping everyone else warm.
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Well, if they're inside of you, right, they are also, they're keeping you warm as well. You know what I'm saying? So again, this one's not quite making sense to me. It would maybe make more sense if it was like the fire, my fire was burning outside of me. Or no, no. Oh, I have it. I have it. Okay.
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If it was something like, I started my fire to keep others warm when I should have started my fire inside of myself to keep me warm. Horrible. I did a horrible job. But do you get what I'm saying? Listen, I know this is all ridiculous, but I'm just saying. But again, I agree with the sentiment.
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The sentiment is giving too much of ourselves to others to the point where we can't take care of ourselves, right? This is a bit iffy to me, right? And the reason for that is I do think, and the older I get, I think this even more, that it is so important to take care of others, to help others. But at the same time, I am aware of the importance of taking care of ourselves first.
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You know, it's like we should always take care of ourselves before we take care of others. Like we can't properly take care of others unless we take care of ourselves. I really think what it comes down to is trying to find the perfect balance where what we should be striving for is to light a fire that keeps us and those around us warm, right? So maybe we could rewrite the quote with that in mind.
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Like... Instead of saying, the fire was always burning within me, but the flames were busy keeping everyone else warm. Instead of that, okay, what if it was something like, I took such good care of the fire inside of me that it grew big enough to warm everyone. Now, obviously everyone, that is a bit of hyperbole there. But that's kind of heat right there. That's, oh my God, no pun intended.
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I'm silly today. Yeah, that's better. That's better. Listen, I'm not trying to insult these people who wrote these poems, okay? Poetry, I am not a poet. I have no fucking idea what I'm talking about right now. And I could be missing the mark on every single one here. But I'm just being honest. I'm going to rate the original quote, honestly, that one's a four for me, a four out of 10.
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I don't, maybe even a three out of 10. I don't love it. Let's say three and a half out of 10. It's not great, but I do think it's close. It's close. It almost got it. All right, next. You can't talk butterfly language with caterpillar people. I'm a bit put off by this because it's sort of putting people down who are not at the same point in their development as you.
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So if I had to rate this quote on a scale of one to 10, okay, one being this quote fucking sucks. 10 being this is the best quote I've ever read in my life. This quote, I'm not even going to lie. Two out of 10. It's not great. Let's move on. Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day. I would say for the most part, yes.
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Like it's not necessarily a bad thing to be a bit behind somebody else. Caterpillar people, if you will, grow by talking to butterfly people a lot of times. Like we need to have those types of conversations together. So I don't like the idea of like this sort of like segregation thing. Almost. It's like you can't talk butterfly language with caterpillar people. This is weird.
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OK, like what are we talking about? Like, I mean, I get what they're trying to say. It's like you can't, you know, if you've if you've done the work and you've grown emotionally and you're an emotionally mature person. And it's hard to have a conversation with somebody who hasn't gone through that journey yet. They just can't even comprehend. And that's true to an extent.
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But I just don't like the vibe that this is giving off. It feels weird. And I do think that we should try to talk butterfly language with caterpillar people to help them learn. And to sort of assume that like people who are a bit behind us can't comprehend or will never comprehend and we can't talk to them that way or like they need to figure out on their own.
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It's like, we're all in this together. And like, I don't know. I just, three out of 10. Maybe even that's a two out of 10 or maybe one out of 10. Actually, it's a one out of 10 because also I hate caterpillars. So yeah. Okay. Don't strive to be well-known. Strive to be worth knowing. 10 out of 10.
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Ironic, because I'm like, literally my entire career is about being like a public figure and being like a person who is somewhat well-known. Obviously not that well-known, but well-known enough, okay? But I couldn't agree more with this sentiment. I think it's fucking true, and I think this is a 10 out of 10 quote. I have nothing else to say about it. It speaks for itself. I have no notes.
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That is heat right there. That is really good. Okay, you guys, one more. Let's just wrap this up, okay? Honestly, I could do this all day. I'm having kind of the best time of my life and I'm realizing we might have to do this again sometime because I am having fun. All right, last but not least, you can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one. Damn, another banger.
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Snaps, snaps. It's fucking true. Why do I keep saying the F word? It's so cringe. Sometimes I like get in the mood to like just say the F word and then I'll have like a month where I don't say any bad words at all. So I don't know why I'm in this phase and I need to cut it off because it's annoying. This is true and I'm somebody who absolutely dwells on the past.
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But the truth of the matter is like no one cares. No one cares. And it only gets in the way of us moving forward and creating a beautiful future. You know what I'm saying? I'm all about this. I do think it's good to analyze your past to an extent. Like, you know, you definitely should reread your last chapter once or twice to hopefully extract some sort of lesson from it.
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But then after that, like let it go. I'm somebody who will reread my last chapter for like years and years and years and years. Like I'll probably be on my fucking deathbed one day, hopefully as like an old person. Fuck. See, this is where I had to knock on wood. I'm like scared of jinxing things. Left hand three times. It's just what I do. What was I saying? I'll be on my deathbed.
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We're knocking on wood again. Literally like just recounting like every chapter. Like, I don't know. I'm just, I'm very like, I'm, I'll be like talking about like my cringe streamy award acceptance speech that everybody makes fun of. You know what I mean? Like I'm definitely somebody who dwells on the past. Okay. And so this really hits for me. Honestly, let's end off.
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Sometimes there are days when quite literally nothing good happens. I guess even on the worst of days, can you maybe find something? Probably. Like even on the worst day of your life, there was probably something good that happened, whether it was community coming together or it was, you know, an epiphany that you had or... you could probably find something.
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Let's end with a 10 out of 10. I'm going to give this one a 10 out of 10. I actually do feel inspired. Even though, listen, I was very critical of these quotes. And I was because I genuinely have not paid any attention to inspirational quotes in a long time. And I wanted to see, you know, like, is there something to gain here? Absolutely. Absolutely.
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But I do think we need to be critical of the inspirational quotes that we take inspiration from because I do think that a lot of them are bullshit. So be careful. And I think to truly extract value, you kind of have to dig into it. This is fun, honestly. Like I had so much fun. I'm just going to start analyzing.
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Like every time I see an inspirational quote, instead of just scrolling past it like I used to, now I'm genuinely going to analyze it. Like this is a new hobby of mine. Okay, sorry that I have a new hobby. Sorry that I'm developing hobbies. But I do think that there was value here. Like I feel kind of warm and fuzzy inside after reading some of these.
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Some of them were horrible, but the good ones really stuck with me and I'm feeling really warm and fuzzy. So I think it's about time that inspirational quotes came back into style. I'm ready. And for fuck's sake, I mean, oh God, there I go saying the F word again. I don't know what's going on. I'm cussing like a teenager that just learned like the F word.
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I guess you learn cuss words when you're in like middle school, but you get what I mean. Give quotes a chance, but be critical. That's the moral of the story today. I hope that you all enjoyed. And if you did, new episodes of Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday, so you can tune in. You can watch on Spotify and YouTube or listen anywhere you stream podcasts.
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Thank you all for listening, hanging out. It is always a pleasure. Today was especially a pleasure. I'm not kidding. This is my new passion. I don't know what... There's something unlocked in me today. Analyzing these inspirational quotes, I've found a new passion. I can't quite put a finger on what the passion is because analyzing inspirational quotes is not a passion.
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But there's something in this that I'm enjoying. And I don't quite understand what it is yet and what it means yet. But I can't wait to find out. And you know what? We're all on this journey together. And I'm probably going to do this again. So if you enjoyed it, stay tuned because my new hobby is reading inspirational quotes.
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And luckily for me, there is an infinite, infinite flow of them on Pinterest. Anyway, I love you all. I appreciate you all. Thank you for listening and hanging out. It is always a pleasure. And I'll talk to you soon, okay? And you know what? I'll leave you with this. Let me leave you with one more inspirational quote. Which one do I leave you with? Let me read and try to find a good one.
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This is a good one. Ooh, this one's good. I like this one. Discipline is the highest form of self-love. Now I ask you to sit with yourself and consider this quote for the rest of your day and let it inspire you, my love. Let it inspire you. Okay, I'll talk to you all later. Bye-bye.
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But I also think, again, I'm finding a hole Wow, I really thought that this whole episode was going to be me defending inspirational quotes and I am ripping them apart. It's okay if you just have a bad fucking day and there's nothing good about it. And sometimes a day is so fucking bad, it's not even beneficial to try to find something good about it.
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It's actually more effective and productive to just accept the fact that that was a horrible day and tomorrow will hopefully be better. Like, it's okay to not... be able to figure out like where the positive element is, where the silver lining is. There isn't always one, I don't think. But I would say in general, this quote is true.
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Like when it comes down to like a mundane, ordinary, meh sort of day, right? That's how most of our days are, just sort of ordinary. Ordinary days might not be good, right? Like we might not look back at those days in our lives, the ordinary ones, and say, oh, those are good days.
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But I do agree, even though those days aren't necessarily good, there's definitely something good in every ordinary day. So I guess I like 50% agree with this quote. So if I had to rate it, I'm going to go ahead and give this one a four and a half out of 10, because I do think in general, it actually does apply. Next, you are still a creative even when you've spent a long time away from your art.
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Oh, I'm snapping. I agree. Anyone who's creative can relate to this because it is really uncomfortable to be in a phase where, oh my God, this sounds cringe. This is cringe. I'm actually cringing. But it is true. There are times in life when you're not feeling creatively inspired or there's other things going on in your life that are preventing you from being creative.
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And it can make you feel like you've lost your creativity, like you're no longer a creative person because you're not actively using that muscle. But in my opinion, it never goes away. You either have it or you don't. And that's not a bad thing at all. I think... It just is the way that you are.
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And if you're not naturally a creative person, if you're, again, more of like a mathematical, logistical, who knows, like scientific, like type A sort of person, you probably don't even want to be creative. That doesn't even sound inspiring or fulfilling to you. You are wired differently, perhaps. Or maybe everyone's creative. I don't know. I'm not in everyone else's brain, okay?
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You know, it used to be posting an inspirational quote on your Instagram was cool, was, well, inspirational. And then it became cringe and choogy and out of touch. But for fuck's sake, I think we need inspirational quotes. I think the fact that we've written off inspirational quotes as cringe and pretentious and cliche is to me a sign of a declining society.
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But most people that I know are creative in one way or another. Even like the people in my life who are... really mathematical and logistical in type A, like my mom, for example. My mom is one of the most organized. She is just, everything is perfect. Everything is done exactly right. You know, she doesn't like using her creative mind.
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She likes doing things logistically and in an organized manner. You know what I mean? Not in like a creative thinking outside the box sort of way. Like she doesn't like doing that for the most part. However, I still think she's a very creative woman. There are times when she problem-solves in a way that's incredibly creative, and I couldn't even fathom how she came up with that. I don't know.
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I think creativity looks different for everyone, and I actually, as I'm discussing it, think probably everyone's creative in one way or another, but maybe not everyone's creative in an art sort of way. And so back to the fucking quote, because I love to go off on a tangent. I agree with this quote.
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I relate to the feeling of maybe not feeling inspired or being busy with other things that are preventing me from being creative and creating some form of art. And it fucks with my head and makes me feel like I've lost it. And I agree that that's not true, even though I know that. It's still helpful to see a quote like this. So you know what? Thank you, Pinterest. I'm feeling inspired.
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Honestly, I'm giving this quote a nine and a half out of 10. I want to give it a 10 out of 10, but I'm giving it a nine and a half because I felt cringe when I was talking about it. Like it definitely felt a bit pretentious. It definitely made me cringe. So because of that, it's getting a nine and a half, but I mean, it is damn close to a 10 out of 10. What else? All right, next.
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When you choose yourself, everything around you will choose you too. Again, this is a little bit unrealistic and I have a problem with that. Because again, like even when you choose yourself with, which is, well, I don't even know if I agree. We need to break this down.
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When you choose yourself, which I'm assuming means like to love yourself, to be connected to yourself, everything around you will love you, will be connected to you, you know, whatever. This is not true to me. It's unrealistic. It's not how the world works. You might be in an incredible place with yourself and you might go on a date and that person will reject you.
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You know, you might apply for a job and not get it. Does it help? Sure. Absolutely. And it makes rejection much easier as well, because if you're truly choosing yourself, you know your worth and you know that you are not defined by, you know, rejection in life and stuff. Right. And again, maybe I'm like missing the nuance, but I don't love it. I just don't love it.
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And so I'm going to go ahead and give this quote. I'm going to give it a three and a half out of 10 because I do think that the sentiment is good. Like I do think when you choose yourself, like I think choosing yourself is ultimately a good thing, but it's not always true. So it's getting three and a half, which is really low, but that's just how I feel about it. All right, next.
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Better to admit you walked through the wrong door than spend your life in the wrong room. Okay, let's break this the F down. Better to admit you walked through the wrong door and then ultimately leave that room and try another one than spend your life in the wrong room because you're too afraid to leave and admit, oh God, I went into the wrong room. Okay, I understand this now.
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I kind of love this quote. Ooh, I kind of love this quote. Okay, am I going to get this tramp stamped onto me? I kind of love this. I completely agree. This really like taps into sort of the stubbornness of humans. Like it is really hard for some of us to admit when we've made a mistake. And maybe we've started on a venture that actually isn't working.
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And this can apply to so many different things. This can apply to a romantic relationship, to a job prospect, to a creative passion. Like there have been things that I've started. Like a good example would be like the interviews on this show, Anything Goes. Okay. I, I did, I really tried to make interviews work And I just ended up being like, this doesn't feel like me for some reason.
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Like if we can find something negative about inspirational quotes, that is a bad sign. Because from what I can remember of inspirational quotes, I haven't paid any attention to an inspirational quote in years. From what I can remember... They were delightful. They inspired thought. There was nothing remotely bad about them. We've all become far too judgmental, cynical, and like cool.
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This doesn't feel like anything goes. I just don't like it. I don't enjoy doing it. I'm not passionate about it. I don't like it. It doesn't work for me. And in a way, that's sort of a failure. And I ended up doing interviews for months and months and months longer than I wanted to maybe because I was like, no, I need to find a way to like this. I want to like this. I want to like this.
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But the truth is I walked through the wrong door. And eventually I was like, all right, I walked through the wrong fucking door. I got to get out of here. And I did. And now I'm at a place where I'm fucking loving it. And I am doing it alone every episode. And I absolutely love it. And it's incredible. And I'm having so much fun.
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And the only reason why I'm here now is because I walked into the wrong room and then realized it was wrong and then walked out. And now I'm here. You know what I'm saying? I walked into a new room and that's the room... I've been in relationships where I've known it wasn't working, but I had told myself in the beginning of the relationship, like, I want to marry this person.
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And so I have fought for this thing that wasn't really working because I was stubborn. I was like, when I walked into this room, I decided I was going to stay in this room. And it takes courage and like an ego death to say, I'm wrong. I'm fucking wrong. I failed. This whole thing failed. I'm in the wrong room. I got to get out and try another one. but it can be so joyful and it is so joyful.
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I absolutely love this quote. This quote to me, it might be a 10 out of 10. Damn, I love it. I love this fucking quote. That is beautiful. I love it. All right, moving on to risk is better than regret. You know what? To a certain extent, I will agree. I do think it's better to take a risk, a risk that is ultimately not dangerous, right? Like a risk that's like not gonna actually hurt you, right?
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It's better to risk than to regret. In that case, yes. I've actually never regretted a risk like that. I think back to like times when it's been sort of a risk to say confront somebody or tell them how I feel about them or even like starting my YouTube channel or, you know, all these things were risks that ended up being incredibly rewarding, even if...
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they failed at first, even if they failed altogether. Like I've always come out the other side, either wiser or with an incredible, something incredible in front of me. You know what I mean? Like something really, I really reap the benefit of the risk. So I agree.
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I will say though, like when it comes to things that actually do have physical risk to your like health and safety, for example, like skydiving. Things can go wrong when you skydive. Another example, reaching out to an ex that was abusive.
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These are risks that may be tempting in one way or another, but even if you regret not doing those things, you're better off, if you don't feel right about it, you're better off not doing it. I wouldn't promote learning how to do flips on a dirt bike.
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In the last episode, we discussed how sometimes I can be a little bit of a hater, okay? And I say a little bit of a hater because unlike most haters, I don't seem like a hater. I don't spread hatred. I don't put people down. In fact, I tend to do the complete opposite. I'm very supportive and kind and nonjudgmental and loving. To the naked eye, I'm a bundle of love.
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I hate neon colors. I just hate them. I think that they're hideous. Like there's not much to say about it, right? I just don't like neon colors. I think that 99 out of a hundred times neon colors are hideous and I don't want to look at them. Like clothes, cars, like plants. Like, I'm never gonna choose an item that's neon. I'm always going to choose the non-neon option, okay?
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If I'm buying clothes, I'm almost never gonna buy something that's neon. Probably never. I have nothing in my closet right now that's neon. If I'm picking out the color for a car, let's say I wanted to get something weird, right? Like, let's say I was going to go get my car wrapped, full LA style, like get a wrap. I'm never going to choose a neon color.
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Okay, if I'm landscaping my garden, I'm never going to choose flowers that bloom neon. I hate neon. However, there is one occasion when I think neon colors are unmatched, and that is in highlighter pens. Can you imagine if highlighter pens weren't neon? It would just be wrong. It wouldn't highlight. It wouldn't serve a purpose.
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When it comes to highlighting things on a page, there is nothing better for that than a neon color. I feel like my slight affection for neon colors in this application, okay, in pen form on paper, my affection for the highlighter pen comes from when I was in high school. And sometimes for tests, we'd be able to make a little note card that had like, I don't know, let's say it was a math test.
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We were allowed to write down like formulas or notes that would help us on the test, but they had to fit on a tiny little note card. So you only had that space. And I would spend literally hours and hours and hours writing teeny tiny little notes so that I could fit every single note that I made the entire test. semester onto that little tiny note card.
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And again, like it could be much worse, right? There are people who are haters, chronic haters who spread hate. and who have a negative impact on the world. And I really don't think that I am that. I think I'm really good at controlling it and keeping it contained. You know, my hater only really comes out within the privacy of my own mind and my closest friends and family.
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And in order to clarify when a note started and ended or whatever, in order to help make the little note card more readable, of course, I had to use a highlighter pen. And it absolutely made the little study card 10 times more readable and effective. And I don't know, I just, I loved having highlighters at school. I would go through them very quickly. I loved them.
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So maybe I don't hate neon colors after all. Next, I have a tendency to hate people who have rejected me. And I know that's normal. Being rejected doesn't feel good. And I think it stings the most, not because this person is no longer going to be in our lives anymore because they've rejected us, but because them rejecting us proves our suspicion about ourselves that we suck. And that sucks.
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Do you know what I mean? Like that's, I think what the worst part about rejection is. And so if you're in a place in your life where you kind of hate yourself and then someone rejects you and confirms that suspicion, it's hard not to hate that person because that's a very negative experience. And so when I'm at a low point and I'm in hater mode, I really hate people who reject me.
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But you know what? There are some beautiful things that come from being rejected. Number one, sometimes someone rejecting you removes someone from your life that wasn't really supposed to be in your life anyway. You don't want people in your life who don't want to be in your life. So if someone rejects you and then exits your life, they kind of did you a favor in a way.
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And now you can focus your energy on finding people who do want to be in your life. And that's a positive thing. I also think sometimes rejection can force you to analyze yourself, your shortcomings, and ultimately grow as a result. I think that's beautiful. I think that's beautiful.
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And you know, in retrospect, when I look at all the times I've been rejected in one way or another, I have no sort of regrets. Not that it was up to me. Usually we regret our own choices, but in a way you can sort of regret being rejected because you can regret maybe what you did to get rejected or you can regret not working harder to prevent getting rejected. I don't feel that at all.
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There is not one instance in my life where I've been rejected and it hasn't ended up being exactly what was supposed to happen. Like it always sort of seems meant to be, at least in my experience. Maybe I'm lucky, but yeah. So I don't need to hate those who have rejected me. Even though, you know, it was a bit maybe of a hit to the ego, I think it all is actually ultimately positive in the end.
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Next, I hate loud, persistent noises, okay? When I'm cooking in the kitchen and I have to turn the fan on because whatever I'm cooking is like creating a lot of smoke or whatever. Probably because I'm burning it. Probably because I'm not that good of a cook. I'm actually I'm not that bad, but I'm not that good either. You know, the sound of the kitchen fan being on. Wow. Wow.
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I fucking hate that when you're on the airplane and it's super loud on the airplane. It's like making that rumbling sound, you know, loud, persistent noises. I absolutely hate that. But you know what? When I reflect on all of the times that I have to hear loud, persistent noises, it's always worth it. With the kitchen fan, I enjoy cooking. I really love cooking.
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And I don't like smoking up my kitchen and breathing in all the cooking fumes. And once I'm done cooking, I can turn it off. It's kind of loud and chaotic for a bit while it's on. But then... When it's time to eat, it's off and the food is delicious and everything is good. And I ultimately was happy to have cooked myself a meal. Okay.
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When I'm on the airplane, it's loud, it's persistent, but it's a privilege and a joy to travel. And I'm always grateful to do that, which actually leads me to the next thing I hate, which is flying on planes. I totally developed a fear of flying and it has truly caused me to form a hatred for air travel. I hate everything about the experience. I'm so scared.
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You know, I keep it really close to the chest. So me being a hater isn't, like, a worldly problem, okay? I'm not hurting people. I mean, maybe occasionally something gets out. Like, I don't know. But, like, for the most part, it's really just something that impacts me. I am the one who is ultimately being harmed by this. In the moment, it feels fun.
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Every little bit of turbulence, every little sound that the plane makes, everything causes me immense anxiety and I just fucking hate the experience. I hate the loud, you know, the loud noises. I hate, oh, I just, there's not really anything I like about it. I don't like watching movies.
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So like, you know, a lot of people are like, oh, well, I love flying on a plane because it's the time when I get to catch up on movies. I hate movies. There's nothing about it that I like. The food sucks. There's nothing about it that I like. Even if I was a billionaire, okay, and I could afford to fly on a private jet, I would hate that too. I really hate flying on planes.
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But also, it is a privilege and a joy to travel. I do absolutely love traveling. I'm kind of not in a phase right now where I'm enjoying traveling. I haven't traveled in a few months. For a while there, I was traveling on like a monthly basis, constantly on a plane.
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I needed a break psychologically because of my fear of flying and my hatred of flying, but also just, I don't know, like it's hard on the body. And so I just kind of decided to take the last few months off of traveling and I'm absolutely loving it. But traveling is ultimately an incredible thing and I'm grateful to be able to do it. I just mentioned that I hate movies. So let's discuss that next.
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I have always had a really hard time sitting down and watching a movie. I think mainly because there's a lot of risk in it for me. There's a risk of turning it on and absolutely hating it, but then feeling like, maybe it'll get better. I should stick it out till the end. And there's a risk that it never gets better. And I just wasted two hours of my life.
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So there's a risk that I might be wasting my time. I also don't love sitting down and watching something. I'd so much rather, during my waking hours, do something active. I'd rather go on a walk. And I already sit... a lot in my day-to-day life. I work sitting. I don't want to sit anymore. So seeing a movie is not appealing to me in that way.
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I also kind of feel afraid of the movie theater for some reason. There's something about it that really frightens me. I feel like I'm in this room with a bunch of strangers. It's dark. It feels dangerous to me. And I know that that's irrational, but that's another thing I sort of hate about movies, or at least the movie theater specifically. And just in general, I've always preferred nonfiction.
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I love documentaries. I love YouTube. I love real stuff. That's just always what I've been drawn to. I just kind of hate movies, to be honest. But the funny thing about it is that I don't actually hate movies. I just tend to hate the idea of sitting down for a movie for a few hours. Like I dread it. I don't want to do it.
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If I get invited to go see a movie with somebody, I'm like, oh my God, I need to come up with an excuse. But then when I actually allow myself to experience it, I always like it. But I hate the idea of it. The idea of it to me is like my nightmare. But it always ends up being great. And I end up seeing movies that I really like.
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I love, you know, listening to a new album that just came out, right? Like a musical artist drops an album. I love listening to it and fucking hating on it. There's something fun about that. Again, in private, but there's something fun about it. I love when someone slightly wrongs me and they just become my fucking enemy in private. This person is just now my enemy.
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And even if I see a movie that I hate, there's actually joy in that as well. Like there's something fun about it. In fact, it's fun because I get to hate on it. And we all know that that's something I like to do. I don't know. I always end up actually liking the movie. Like I always end up liking the experience. Okay, moving on. I hate thong underwear.
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I absolutely hate a thong and I wore them for years. So don't tell me like, Emma, well, you just never got used to it. Like you get used to it. I got used to it. Okay. I wore a thong for many years and I got sick of it because it's truly uncomfortable. And it's also kind of disgusting. Like I don't need something up my asshole. I'm good on that. Like in all capacities.
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I don't ever need something up my ass like that. Ever. It's just not my style. Okay? I hate the sensation. But also I find that like thongs are super, they do have a tendency to like really just like ride up and like get lodged in there in a way that to me, it's just like, it's so uncomfortable. And I feel like it's not healthy for your holes to be suffocated by a thong.
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Whereas like other underwears that are maybe a bit, they're not like a thong. So they don't really like, they don't as easily like get sucked up into your holes. Those feel healthier for the holes. I'm the queen of a seamless, like little boy short underwear, because again, I don't wear thongs anymore. I refuse.
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Majority of the reason why we wear a thong is because, you know, I mean, I guess maybe some of us wear it because it's like hot and we're like feeling ourselves. But I think a lot of times it's because there's no underwear lines, right? I just got to a point where I was like, this is so uncomfortable. I can't do it anymore. I don't even care. I need to figure out something else.
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What's the alternative? This can't be the only underwear line list option. You know what? It kind of is. It kind of is. And that is what I will say about a thong. It absolutely serves a purpose. You know, if you don't want underwear lines at all, if you want it to be smooth, smooth, smooth on the butt, you got to wear a thong. It's the only option.
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I have probably the best pair of seamless underwear on the market. I think I've tried so many. And even then, sometimes it'll get a little bit bunchy and you'll see the underwear lines, you know, like it's just it is what it is. And that's the risk that I take. But I have to put some respect on the thong. It's either a thong or no underwear. That's as close as you're going to get.
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And I've done both for multiple years at a time. Yes, I've done thong and commando. And I've actually brought that up in another episode recently, the fact that I was a commando gal for a while. And I'm just wondering why I keep bringing it up. No one really needs to know that, but I was.
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And the truth is, is that, you know, pants and dresses and skirts and all this, it's so nice when you're wearing a thong. But my God, it's too uncomfortable for me and I'm never wearing them again. Moving on. I hate blush. I really don't like blush. I just, when it comes to makeup, it's one of those things that I just never really liked.
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But more recently, I've grown to dislike it more because it's super trendy. I feel like it's been a huge makeup trend over the last few years to like wear a fuck ton of blush. Now, let me be clear. I am not saying I hate blush on other people. I don't give a fuck what makeup other people do. Like it really, that I don't hate. it on other people, but I hate it on me, hate it on me.
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But I guess that's the positive thing about it is that I don't hate it on other people. In fact, I think it can look quite beautiful on other people, but as it's becoming more popular, I'm more aware of how much I don't like it on myself because every time I see it on somebody else, I'm like, oof, I couldn't, I couldn't and I wouldn't. And so, you know, I'm just more aware of it.
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There's something about that that I find fun. However, it's fully against privacy. my morals and values. Like, being a hater is fully against my morals and values. I do not think it's okay. I know it's bad. And it just happens to be something that I am particularly prone to. Which means I have to pay extra attention
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But yeah, you know what? It looks incredible on some people. And that's like awesome. I mentioned this earlier, but we're finally coming around to it. I absolutely hate delays, changes in plan, minor inconveniences that get in the way of getting something done. Like I absolutely hate these things. To me, I love efficiency.
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I love writing down a schedule for the day and just getting every single thing done. I hate wasted time. There's nothing I hate more than wasted time. I'm so anal about time optimization that it's definitely toxic. It's definitely a flaw. But that leads me to hate Minor inconveniences, delays, changes of plans, you know, these things get in the way of my time optimization.
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They prevent productivity, all these things that I'm sort of obsessed with in a toxic way. And to me, you know, these things can be catastrophic. Like I have a tendency to, when I'm in a hateful mood, run into some sort of delay, change of plans, minor inconvenience, et cetera, and just fucking lose it. Like that is often the straw that breaks the camel's back for me.
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If I were to try to find the silver lining, number one, these things are never that big of a deal. I tend to overreact about them. The nature of these things, they're frustrating, maybe. They're, again, inconvenient, sure, but they're not a catastrophe. Also, sometimes, not to get spiritual, but sometimes these types of things happen to change our course and it ends up being meant to be.
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Sometimes we're just not meant to complete a task when we wanted to. Sometimes we're not meant to go to dinner with our friends that night. We're meant to do something else. Sometimes your tire will go flat because for some reason you weren't, supposed to leave for the road trip you were going to go on that day. Like sometimes this stuff just happens for a reason.
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And I think when we welcome minor inconveniences, delays, changes in plans, we're able to find that silver lining. We're able to be like, oh, you know what? Maybe this wasn't meant to be today. And I'm actually pretty good about that when I'm in a good state of mind. But when I'm in a hater state of mind, this type of shit really fucking sends me. It sends me. But you know what?
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It can be a beautiful thing. And it can just be meant to be. Moving on, I hate room temperature water, which sounds so fucking bratty. Like, I only like water with ice, but can I be honest? I really, really don't like the taste of room temperature water. It makes me nauseous. And I really, really love a crisp ice cold water. And I really, really don't like drinking water without ice in it.
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To me, it's gross. And to me, I hate it. And one of my pet peeves is when I'm at a restaurant and they don't bring me ice with my water. And again, I know I sound like a brat. I sound like a total fucking brat, but that's just how I feel. But you know what?
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I will say if you need to get water down the gullet fast, if you need to drink water fast, if you're dehydrated and you just want it, well, if you're dehydrated, you shouldn't drink water fast. I've done that before and like almost thrown up. But if you want to chug water for some reason, room temperature water, you can guzzle. Ice water, you have to sip. You do. And it sometimes hurts the teeth.
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to the side of my brain that can quickly fall into a hater sort of rhythm because I feel like our true colors and our weaknesses come out in challenging times, right? And so for me, when everything is good in my life, it's easy for me to not be a hater. I don't really have to check in on it I'm just not a hater.
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It's hard to guzzle. I mean, it's delicious. In fact, it's like making me crave it. I have my Stanley cup over here. Let me just have a little sip of my water. Oh, it's absolutely ice cold. I'm actually drinking some sparkling water with some apple cider vinegar in it. It's so sour today. I really put a lot of vinegar in there.
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I feel like my teeth are just like corroding from every sip that I drink because of how much vinegar is in there. But I couldn't chug that if I tried. I mean, the vinegar and the carbonation doesn't help either, but it's so cold. You can really just chug room temperature water. And for that reason, I actually think that it's quite beautiful. Okay, next. I'm not trying to be petty here.
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I'm not trying to pick a fight. I'm not a big fan of Starbucks. Okay, I'm not gonna say I hate Starbucks. Okay, that's a little bit extreme. Because I don't think I hate Starbucks. I did in the past, but I think more recently I've tried to change my mindset and I don't hate Starbucks anymore, but I don't love it, right? And I'm somebody who's really into coffee.
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So, you know, understandably so, I'm critical of these massive coffee chains because I'm like, this is a product that I really love. I guess I'm just extra judgmental. Listen, here's why perhaps I dislike Starbucks. Okay. I think the plain coffee, right? Like getting like a classic latte with almond milk or getting like a classic matcha, you know, they're simple drinks.
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They're classic espresso drinks that don't have a bunch of syrup and don't have a bunch of sugar and don't have a bunch of whipped cream and don't have a bunch of, you know, cookie crumble shavings. It's not great. It's not super high quality. You Do I blame them? Not necessarily. They're in mass. They're massive.
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And when things are that large, when you scale your business to that size, understandably, the quality is just not going to be as good. You know what else I don't like about Starbucks? I don't like the decor, the aesthetic. I really, I don't love it. I feel like Starbucks used to have sort of a charming... kind of hipstery, cutesy sort of aesthetic.
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And it feels very corporate and very kind of beige to me. I don't know. I get it. Okay. I get it. Starbucks, I'm about to find something nice to say about you. So don't hurt me. Okay. Or my coffee company. Luckily for you guys, Starbucks, my coffee company is not a threat to you, okay? I'm not on your coattails, so y'all don't need to worry about me, all right? We have one cafe.
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We're in grocery stores, but we're not impeding on your shelf space, so we're good. But you know what I fucking love about Starbucks? A few things, actually. I came up with a few things. Number one, the fucking egg white bites. I absolutely love and adore the Starbucks egg white bites. Okay. Egg white, red pepper. Yum. I've tried to make them at home. Could never even get close. Okay.
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Want to know why? Because Starbucks does it right. And no one will ever compete. Whoever developed that recipe, I hope that they're fucking retired and living in the Bahamas now. Okay. They should never work another day in their life. People who create good things should then retire and live their life in peace. Okay.
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So I really hope whoever developed the recipe for the Starbucks egg white bites, I really hope that you're relaxing and I hope that you're living in a house in the Bahamas and I hope that you don't have internet and I hope that you're disconnected and I hope that every day is a fucking joy for you because my God, you deserve it because you have done a public service. Okay.
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But when some challenges arise, sometimes I start to become a little bit of a hater again. I'm constantly keeping this side of myself in check, right? And, you know, recently I discovered that I had fallen back into my hater mentality. I just have slowly but surely gotten back to a point where I just seem to hate everything.
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Every time I'm in the middle of nowhere, which happens more than you'd expect. Okay. I'm on a road trip. I'm traveling. I'm at the airport. I'm, you know, whatever. I'm in the middle of like Los Angeles and I'm not familiar with the area and I have no... There's always a Starbucks and there's always egg white bites.
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I know that whenever I'm hungry, I can find a fucking Starbucks and get the goddamn egg white bites and be full and have protein. I love the egg white bites and I love that I can get them whenever I want. They're always there. I get two orders. So that means four egg bites in total. And I get three sriracha packets and I eat my little egg whites with my little sriracha. It's just good.
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It's just good. When it comes to fast food in a pinch, that's what I'm gonna get. It feels healthy enough. I don't feel like shit after I eat it. It's just, it's great. Thank you, Starbucks. If you need help redesigning all of your cafes, just call me. Like I know that I also have a coffee company, but for the love of God, you know, I love this stuff. So give me a call.
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My rate is very expensive though. I'm just kidding. Okay. Moving on. I absolutely hate sitting in an appointment for a long time. There are so many different types of treatments that are popular these days. Hair, nails, eyelashes, eyebrows, waxing, laser, infinite appointments. And there's nothing I hate more than an appointment that is like four hours long.
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And let me tell you, I find myself sitting in some long appointments, okay? Mainly for me personally, My hair and my nails.
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Those are the two things that I love having done so much That i'm willing to sit through a really long appointment, but there's nothing I fucking hate more Okay sitting in a long appointment for some reason I always get gas In a long appointment i'm like sitting still and my stomach always ends up hurting After like hour three my stomach's just killing me.
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I like need to fart can't because i'm Stuck sitting and also there's people around um My tailbone and back always hurt during a long appointment. My legs are asleep. I get up. I'm like wobbling around. I always start to feel sick after sitting in a long appointment for a long time. It's just horrible. Like whenever I go to get my hair bleached, it takes so long. And it's just like exhausting.
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It's so exhausting. And I absolutely hate it. And same thing with getting nails done. Like I actually think it's fun to get like complex, you know, nails done. There's obviously like standard nail designs, like just getting like a classic nail done with like, you know, a simple color or you can do something more complex. You can get nail art. You could get like unique shapes.
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You could get, you know, your nail beds cleaned really well. And that sometimes adds like an hour or two. Like there's a lot of different things that you can add to your nail appointment that will add time. I would love to do those things. Like I'd love to like, you know, maybe get a more sort of complex sort of manicure in some way. I'm not like the biggest nail art girl.
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I prefer more maybe subtle nail art, but like a little bit of it is kind of fun and I think can be timeless and cool and versatile, but it just takes too long. And I don't want to sit at the nail salon, you know, once a month for like four hours getting my nails done. Like I can't handle it. But the result, the result is so rewarding.
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Like in the case for me, I absolutely love having my nails done. I absolutely love having, you know, fun hair that I enjoy styling. And a lot of times that requires a long hair appointment. Like again, right now my hair is bleach blonde and very short. I have to go in once a month to get it rebleached, to get it cut short again.
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It's a very high maintenance hairstyle, but sometimes that's sort of the sacrifice you have to make, you know, a little bit of torture sitting in a chair for fucking four or five hours for the sake of self-expression, for the sake of, you know, self-care. And for the rest of the month, When my hair and nails are done, I feel a little bit more beautiful. I feel a little bit more cool.
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And for me, being a hater doesn't necessarily mean hating on people all the time, right? I mean, there's definitely certain people that end up getting caught up in my phase of hatred, but it's like everything. It's not just big things or specific people. It's everything. I just become a hater. I see everything through a hateful lens, significant and insignificant.
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I have a little bit more fun styling clothes because my hair and my nails match the outfit. You know what? In that way, it is worth it. And maybe I'll start getting more complex nails done. But... I don't know. Maybe not. Okay, moving on. I hate the talking stage of romantic relationships. You know, the phase when you're overthinking every single little thing that you say to the person.
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You're nervous every time you hang out with them. You're not really showing your full personality because you're too scared and you don't even know how. And they're not showing their full personality. And... it's a little bit tense and it's a little bit uncomfortable. Like you don't really know how to read the other person.
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So you're constantly like worried that maybe you did something wrong or that they like don't like you anymore. You don't know if they're taking it seriously. You don't know if they like want this to be something that lasts forever. long or short and it's just a mess, the talking stage. I fucking, no, I absolutely hate it. It's miserable for me.
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I really don't like, like some people love it, like really find it exciting and fun and exhilarating and whatever, you know, like the physical chemistry is more explosive because it's new and exciting. I personally don't like it. Like there's nothing worse than when you've been talking to somebody a little bit and you've not had any like physical, you've not been sort of romantic with them yet.
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And you're like, oh my God, now there's all this buildup. Like when's it going to happen? And then you like start to get in your head and you're really nervous about it. And then it happens and it's either really good and you click really well, or it's like, ooh, that was actually not as great as I wanted it to be.
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And the whole thing is like so high stress and you can't get anything done in your life because you're focusing on this person. It's like all consuming. I hate it. You know, I do always sort of look back at it fondly. Like in the moment, I despise it. But when I look back, it's always one of the most like beautiful romantic times of a relationship.
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Like when I look back at all of my exes, okay, every single one, the beginning was the most special. And then it got progressively less special. I don't know. Like when it comes to remembering my exes, the fondest memory I have with every single one is the beginning stage when it was new and it was exciting.
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And I think the goal, at least for me, is to eventually be with somebody where the fondest memories go beyond that beginning stage that is sort of magical. But also, well, but horrible. It's actually horrible in the moment, but it is sort of magical. You know what I'm saying? I don't know. Yeah, that's my goal. My goal is to have good memories with somebody that happen after that phase.
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Like I don't want the sort of sweet memories to end, but that is sort of the positive silver lining of that uncomfortable time is that for whatever reason, it's a fond memory, even though in the moment it's so stressful, it's so overwhelming, it's so all consuming, it's like exhausting, but it is kind of a sweet memory. Next, I just absolutely hate itchy wool sweaters.
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I cannot stand the feeling of itchy clothing. I mean, I guess I could just say itchy clothing in general, but especially itchy like wool sweaters. The feeling of itchy wool, it's actually shocking to me that they even make clothing that's itchy. anymore. Like it makes sense to me that like, I don't know, a hundred years ago, there wasn't as many options and like clothes were just itchy.
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But in private, I can be a little bit of a hater, okay? And I've always sort of been that way. Like I've always found weirdly a sense of joy in novelty in hating on things. I've always sort of loved gossip. Like there's just something about me that enjoys hatred. It kind of reminds me of my relationship to nicotine. For whatever reason, I just like nicotine.
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You know, that was just sort of the way it was. Have we not evolved past that point? Okay. I have wool sweaters that are not itchy. I know it's possible. In fact, I'm wearing a beanie right now as I'm recording this. Um, cause it's a little chilly in my house.
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So I'm wearing a little beanie cause it feels kind of warm and good, but I've been wearing the beanie for a few hours and it's getting so itchy on my head and I want to take it off, but my hair is going to look terrible and I'm just, I don't want to, but my head is just, I'm itching. Oh my God. My head is itchy. Ouch. Oh my God, my head is absolutely itchy.
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Yeah, I hate the itch, but I will say though, I don't know why this is. Itchy sweaters are always the cutest. Itchy beanies are always the cutest. Like, you know, the chunkiest, cutest, most like luxurious looking knit. is always the itchiest. I don't know why it is.
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I can't tell you how many times I've been shopping in store and just like looking around, looking around, looking around, and I see a beautiful sweater. I'm like, wow, that is the most beautiful sweater I've ever seen. It has like this incredible texture. It has little things poking out of it, like little pieces of fabric. Like it just is so beautiful.
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So I had an idea, an idea to help retrain my brain, hopefully. Is it going to work? I don't know. But here's my idea. Maybe I could find some value in doing a little exercise every once in a while.
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Everything about it, texture, color, blah, blah, blah. It looks luxurious. It looks, you know, high quality. I walk up, too itchy, too itchy. I can't tell you how many times I've seen a scarf and I'm like, oh my goodness, this scarf. I mean, this is just an incredible scarf. It's the most incredible I've ever seen. The bright color, the dynamic texture. Let me try that thing on.
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Try it on too, Itchy. Can't do it. I feel like my sweater collection would be so top-notch if I wasn't as uncomfortable in an itchy sweater. Now, it's one thing to have a physical aversion to something. I hate how itchy wool sweaters feel. I think a lot of people probably do. that's fair, right? That's like a fair, rational thing to not like. But I think for me, it's sort of irrational.
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I hate itchy sweaters. And I think what makes me hate itchy wool sweaters is the fact that every single time I see a sweater that I really like, I go up and I touch it and there's a 99% chance that it's going to be itchy and unwearable. And that's just such a shame to me and makes me wonder, like, how have we not figured out a way to eliminate the itch permanently?
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Why are we still selling clothing that's itchy? I hate that. That is something that I hate. It makes me angry. But again, you know what? They are beautiful garments and the silver lining is that other people wear them. who don't mind the itch and I can enjoy it on them. I'll enjoy them on other people. Moving on, I hate when people aren't self-sufficient. Like, what's a good example?
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Like, let's say your friend's car breaks down and they call you and they're like, hey dude, like my car broke down. Like, what do I do? It's like, I don't know, Google it. You don't need to call me and ask me what to do. You can Google it. Or let's say you're really good at something or really into something. Let's say I'm really into skincare, right?
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And then one of my friends is like, oh my God, I've been really wanting to get into skincare. What products do you use? And you're like, oh yeah, fuck yeah. Let me send you all these products. So you send all the links and then You know, they're like, oh, well, how do I use them? And then you explain. And then like a week later, they're like, oh, wait, I've been thinking about this product.
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And they send a photo of it. They're like, do you know anything about this one? You're like, no. And then they're like, oh, well, can you let me know if it's any good? OK, at that point, you need to just start doing your own research. Do you get what I'm saying? Like there's certain people who they're just their personality is they just don't do things on their own.
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A little exercise that consists of finding things that I hate unfairly, unnecessarily, irrationally, and then finding something nice to say about that thing in an attempt to sort of help to retrain my thought patterns. Is it going to work? Maybe, maybe not. But I thought it'd be a fun activity.
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They don't like I am very sparing about when I ask people for advice or for help. I wait until it's kind of an emergency or like this person. I've Googled it. I've tried to use my resources. I really just need help from a person. And then I go and I get help. But there's certain people that just want everyone else to help them through the world.
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And that is something that I hate because, you know, I try to be sparing and intentional about how I use other people's time. And I would hope that people would do the same for me. And so when they are not self-sufficient and just start like realize, oh, this person like, you know, knows how to figure shit out. Like I'm just going to start going to this person. And it's like,
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No, I'm self-sufficient because I just know how to fucking Google something or like I'll watch a tutorial. I'll figure something out, you know? And I'm not even the most self-sufficient person. Like there are people in my life who are way more self-sufficient than me, but like I'm self-sufficient enough to, and self-aware enough where, like, I don't abuse it.
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And there's just certain people who do, and that's something that really bothers me. However, number one, these people aren't bad people, okay? So let's be loving, Emma. Let's be loving. These people aren't bad people, okay? They're not trying to be inconsiderate. They're not evil. Just for whatever reason, they're not self-sufficient, okay? Everyone has flaws.
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I have shortcomings, and so I should be accepting of others, okay? Because this is not the worst possible trait that someone could have. This isn't that harmful. You know what I mean? So that's sort of, you know, maybe something nice to say. What else? You know, helping people feels good.
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Maybe another silver lining is that people who are not self-sufficient need help and helping people feels good. Maybe? I don't know. OK, next. I really hate loud cars. I hate when people drive through the street and they just absolutely with their car. And it happens all the time in Los Angeles. And it's often so loud and startling that like I will jump and I fucking hate it.
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OK, I just think it's obnoxious. I think it's unnecessary and I don't get it. But you know what? I'd like to believe that when the car makes the loud sound like that, it does make the driver of the car happy. If, you know what, I'm going to choose to believe that it brings the driver so much joy that their day is made every time they with the car really loud.
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If it brings somebody else joy, then I'll try to find joy in that myself. Okay. Yeah. Maybe moving forward, when I hear that sound, I can say, you know what, the person driving that car is is having fun. Yeah, that feels nice. I think that's something nice. That's nice. Moving on, I hate high heels. I do think that there's something wrong with the anatomy of my foot.
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I think my arch is too high on my foot. I physically can't wear high heels without being unable to walk within an hour. Blisters, back pain, foot pain. So listen, do I kind of hate high heels for a rational reason? Yes. But like I even like see other people wearing them and I'm like, oh my God, why are you wearing those? Like it's so uncomfortable. Like take those off. What are we doing?
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You're out to dinner. Take them off. Why are you hurting yourself? Like I like hate them because I've experienced so much pain from them that now I just hate them every time I see them. Whereas with blush, right? Like I see blush on other people and I'm like, you do you. But I see high heels on other people and I'm like, why are we doing this? What if we all collectively took them off?
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Now, listen, I feel like this activity only really works or makes sense when trying to find the positive in something that truly does not deserve to be hated. Because there are certain things that actually deserve to be hated, right? Like violence, injustice, hypocrisy. You know what I mean? Like there are things that do deserve to be hated.
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You know, they're so uncomfortable. They also are kind of choogy, but like I kind of think a high heel is a little bit choogy. Like a fucking stiletto, to me, it's a little choogy. It feels kind of like, I don't know, there's something about it that's a little choogy to me. Like a little kitten heel, cute, you know? Like, I don't know, like a full-on heel, there's something about it.
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It just makes me cringe a little bit. Like from an aesthetic standpoint, I don't think it really looks that, like the shoe itself is kind of, It's hard to style it in a way that is, to me, not choogy. Have I done it? Absolutely. But do you want to know why I've done it?
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Because the one high heel silver lining that I can think of is that sometimes it's just what an outfit needs to make the leg look good. A high heel can really change the entire silhouette of an entire outfit. So it does serve a purpose sometimes, but I do ultimately hate them. And my stylist, Jared, knows every time he puts me in a high heel that I'm going to complain about it.
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Every single little red carpet event I go to, the heel gets a little bit shorter because he's like, I just can't hear Emma complain anymore. Okay, let's move on. Okay, this is going to be controversial and I just can't wait for somebody to cancel me for this or something. But I have a hard time See, I'm being so gentle and like media trained.
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I have a really hard time with when certain people copy me. Now, I don't care about being copied for the most part, especially because I'm on the internet. And if somebody sees something that I do and is like, oh, I want to do that, and they're a consumer of my content, I'm like, that's great. Copy me all you want. But there are certain times when I hate when people copy me.
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I'm going to be honest, okay? I'm not saying it's right. I'm not saying that this is morally fair, but I'm just being honest that this is something that I hate. I hate when perhaps a peer copies me. I can have a really hard time with that. I also have a hard time with when a friend copies copies me a lot. Like it's one thing, listen, I copy my friends. Okay.
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When you're around somebody enough, you just start to absorb their personality traits. It's inevitable. But there's a difference between that and like intentional copying to a point where it's like, oh my God, I don't have anything of my own anymore. There's nothing that's just mine left because I'm being copied so much. Um, and I know it, I know it sounds petty and rude and like whatever, but
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I've always kind of had a hard time with it. And I think it's because I feel like it's detracting from me. Like if I do something that feels like a personal expression of myself and then someone else who's sort of close to me or is maybe even a peer who's maybe like in the same sort of space as me career wise or whatever, like copies me directly. I'm like, Come on, man.
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Like, let's all we can all kind of do something similar. But like, let's all kind of do our own thing. Because to me, I feel like threatens my feeling of individuality. And which again, is that like, is that wrong? Maybe. But it's something that I've always hated. It's
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And I think too, there's part of me that's like, oh my God, if somebody gets praise for something that they like directly ripped from me, that kind of bums me out. But then that's also, it's like, Emma, you don't need any more praise. You fucking like narcissistic freak, like chill out. Listen, I'm not saying it's right. I'm just saying it's the way it is.
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I'm not going to try to find the positive in those things today. I think it's valid and rational to hate those things. I'm talking about the things that I hate that it's a waste of my energy to hate these things. I don't know. This might be pointless, okay? We'll see. We'll see at the end of this if it had a positive impact on my brain or not. And if it had a positive impact...
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I don't like being copied by certain people. There are certain people that trigger me when they copy me. Okay. However, this is actually really a sweet thing, and I should be a bit more graceful, okay? Number one, it's the highest form of flattery when somebody copies you. Highest form of flattery. They must love it. Right. It's a compliment.
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It doesn't feel like a compliment because I sort of feel like, oh, my God, I've been ripped off. But it ultimately is a compliment. But also the truth is no one can really fully copy anyone else unless you like fully like let's say you are an artist and you painted a painting and then somebody literally screenshots it and starts selling prints of it. Like that's different.
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But copying in the way that I'm saying, like making a podcast episode with this exact same title and basically making the exact same episode, but maybe there's a few differences, but it's pretty much exactly the same. That person's rendition is always going to be a little bit different.
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Let's say I start wearing a lot of black and white stripes, and then one of my friends starts wearing a lot of black and white stripes, and then I get a new car, and then they get the exact same car, and then I I start saying a certain like phrase and then my friends start saying the certain phrase and then and it starts to build up.
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Yeah, they're technically, you know, kind of copying me in a way. But also the beauty of us as individual people is that even when we copy each other. We never fully can copy each other because we're all unique. You know what I'm saying? So there kind of is no such thing. There actually is no threat there. But, you know, you can feel sort of threatened in a way by that or frustrated or ripped off.
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But it's actually not. And you know what? That's sort of beautiful. So... Next, I hate being spoken to when I'm in a quiet mood. Like some days I just want to go to hot yoga, go to the grocery store and not talk to anybody. And sometimes people talk to me and I really, really hate it. And I feel kind of bad because I'm like, Emma, you're evil.
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You know, why don't you want, like, come on, be a human being, get yourself in the mood. But when I'm not in the mood to talk and people talk to me, it's really, I really hate it. I absolutely hate it because there just are some times when I don't have the energy and I don't, I don't, I just don't have it in me. But you want to know what, it's actually a beautiful thing.
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Anytime a stranger talks to you. Why? Because number one, for whatever reason, you felt inviting to them. And that is such a wonderful compliment. Also, community and connection with other human beings is so important. Honestly, probably the most important when one is feeling like a hater. So perhaps sweet conversation could change a hater's perspective.
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I think there's something kind of beautiful about that. Next, I hate oversleeping. It really ruins my day. Okay? Like, if I oversleep... the rest of the day for me is ruined. I'm out of whack. I'm not motivated. I feel like there's not enough time in the rest of the day to get anything done. When I'm in a hateful place, oversleeping will literally ruin my day immediately.
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Waking up, it's 9.30 a.m. I've overslept. My day is ruined. Now I hate my life for the rest of the day. But you know what the truth is? Number one, you can always turn around a late start. Oversleeping is not the end. It's not the end of the day. The day is not ruined. That is not true. So that's one positive thing. Another positive thing is that sometimes like your body just needs it.
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then you can steal this exercise and do it when you're being a hater. Okay, let's begin. I hate purses that are too small to fit your phone. I see one of these at a store or being carried by a beautiful, beautiful person, and I feel my skin start to get a little bit hot. I really struggle to not be overwhelmed by how ridiculous the concept of a mini little purse is. It drives me nuts.
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You're exhausted and you're actually going to be more productive for the rest of the day because you overslept and you're well rested. And I guess last but not least, there's always tomorrow. Wake up early tomorrow. You know, this is just one day. Try again tomorrow. And last but not least, I hate when people are overly nice. It really fucking pisses me off.
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Like I have a really hard time with people who are almost like sickly sweet, you know, like positive to a point where it's like, oh my God, are you even like being a real, are you even a real human being? Like, do you even mean any of this? Like, how is this even possible? Like, is it even possible to be this positive? Seems a little bit too good to be true to me.
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To me, somebody who's like really positive, overly nice is lying, is faking, is hiding something. But you want to know what? These types of people are harmless. And they're actually, their impact on the world is probably... very positive. These are not harmful people. These are not the people to hate.
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But for whatever reason, I'm more bothered by people who are overly positive, overly nice, because there's just something about it that to me feels sinister and I just hate it. But it's not fair because they're not doing anything wrong and they're probably happier than I am. Maybe not. Okay, I'm done. That was me trying to say something nice about things that I hate.
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I do not feel like this activity changed my life. I can't even say that this activity changed my perspective. Okay, so am I going to recommend this exercise to you? No. Actually, you know what? It was kind of a positive exercise. I think it would actually be fun to do this with someone else. Like maybe if you are going to do this, do this with one of your hater friends if you're a hater.
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It's fun because you get to sort of vent about what you hate, which is really kind of cathartic for us haters. But then you counteract it with something positive. And I don't know, we'll see in the following days whether or not this exercise sort of got me into the routine of finding the positive in things that I dislike. I actually think that there's a chance that it might. Can I guarantee it?
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No. I can't, but I hope it does. That would be great. So maybe give it a try. If you don't, that's fine. That's all for today's episode. You know what? It was one of the stupidest ones I've ever made. Actually, Emma, stop. I'm trying to stop you. See, that was hateful. That was hateful. That was me hating on myself, okay? No, it was not one of the stupidest ones I've ever made.
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Perhaps it was experimental. You know, I've never made an episode like this before. I came up with my own exercise to help with, you know, one of my issues. So it was experimental, but it was not stupid. Okay. Experimenting is good. Anyway, I need to make myself like a little matcha or something. I'm getting the afternoon sleepies. It's 1.30 PM.
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I'm feeling afternoon sleepies and I need a little matcha. Okay. I think that'd be good for me. So I'm going to go make that. But thank you all for listening and hanging out as always. It's a pleasure. I truly adore and love you all. And when we hang out, it's fun. So come hang out on Thursdays and Sundays, new episodes on Thursdays and Sundays.
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You can stream anywhere you get podcasts and video is on YouTube and Spotify. Anything Goes is on social media at Anything Goes. I'm on social media at Emma Chamberlain and my coffee company can be found online at chamberlaincoffee.com or on social media at Chamberlain Coffee or in stores, Target, Whole Foods, Sprouts, Albertsons, Air One if you're in the LA area. Check us out.
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And that's all I have for today. I love you all. I appreciate you all. And I don't hate you. I promise. I actually am kind of feeling less like a hater already. So maybe this is really good. Maybe things are looking up. All right. I'll talk to you later. Bye.
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Okay, the whole point of a bag is that you bring it with you to carry your stuff. Now, it's the 21st century, baby. And you know what we all have all the time? Cell phones. If you're carrying a little bag that can't even fit your phone, what the fuck is it there for? And I'm seeing these designer brands come out with these teeny tiny little mini bags and it doesn't even hold a phone.
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What the fuck is going on? Now, I don't want to see any of you go back and find a photo of me carrying a super mini bag. OK, because if I've ever carried a super mini bag, it was against my will. OK, I was going to an event with a brand and they were like, hey, can you carry this bag? I was like, is there one that's bigger? And the answer was no.
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That is the only time I can't even remember if I've ever carried like a little mini bag that doesn't hold anything. I know I have. I know I have because it was a huge trend and it's still a huge trend. And so I've definitely to an event or something had to carry a really mini bag because that's what, you know, that's what product the brand wanted me to be holding.
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when photos were being taken, right? There are sometimes moments when this type of stuff happens. I can guarantee that every single time I've ever had to carry a super mini bag, I've also had another bag that was actually holding my stuff and it was being held, you know, off camera or whatever. I just think it's ridiculous, okay? And it's a huge pet peeve of mine and it drives me crazy.
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And I would go as far as to say that I hate mini purses. Hate. But now that I've let that out, let's try to find something nice to say. For one, I do love many things. I actually do.
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You know, whenever I see a little video on YouTube Shorts, although I'm trying not to watch YouTube Shorts as much anymore, but when I see a little video on YouTube Shorts of one of those mini kitchen cooking videos, if you don't know what I'm talking about...
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Someone has this little mini kitchen, okay, that they like light little candles underneath the like little stove and they have like little water tanks or something.
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Like I don't even know how it all works, but they have all these mini little things that power this mini little kitchen and they cook little meals in this little kitchen with their big fingers are in there cooking in this mini little kitchen and I'm obsessed. I love that. When I was a kid, my favorite toy was any sort of mini doll.
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Polly Pocket, mini doll houses with mini little beds and mini little closets with mini little clothes and mini little pillows. I love mini, okay? I am one of those people who finds joy in a mini thing. I think things that are mini are cuter than things that are normal size. In fact, I was at this little trendy gift shop in Eagle Rock, a very trendy shopping area in Los Angeles.
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Some people I know couldn't care less about it. They smoke a vape, smoke a cigarette, whatever, and they just never get hooked, and they just never like it, and nicotine never works for them, and they just never get addicted, and it just never happens. I'm the opposite. For whatever reason, I've always loved it, okay? Does it ultimately impact me negatively?
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And I made my way into the kids section and I stumbled across this little brand that makes these little like matchboxes, cigar boxes, little functional boxes. filled with little mini mice in little outfits. And I bought two of them, okay? I bought this little cigar box that has like a little mini bed inside with two little mini mice in pajamas.
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I bought this other little box that has, you can open it and then like there's a little tiny mouse that has like a little tiny surfboard. Okay. And you can like strap its little feet into the surfboard and lean it against the box and it sort of stands up. I bought that for my dad. I don't even know if he's going to want it, but I bought it for him because he's a surfer.
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Is he even going to like that? I don't know. But I thought it was too cute. I had to buy it because it's mini and it's so cute. Okay. Okay, I love mini things. And a mini purse is technically a mini thing. So in that way, I actually do think it's cute. Okay, function aside, I think mini bags are kind of cute.
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Another thing that I think is kind of nice about the mini bag is that it can be a bit humorous. It can be sort of a conversation starter. When you're carrying this tiny little mini bag, it is a bit ridiculous. Everyone knows that you can't put anything in there. And so there's actually something sort of camp about that. Like I'm literally carrying this little bag around and nothing fits in it.
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I can at max fit like a vape and a lipstick in there. There's something kind of funny about that, which I think could be sort of a beautiful conversation starter. I actually fuck with that. I love humor in fashion. And last but not least, maybe there are some nights when you don't want to bring your phone and you just want to bring a little lipstick and a little vape.
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And that's when you bring the mini bag out. You know, maybe there is a function for some people. For me, I never feel safe leaving the house without my phone. But if you do... And that's how you disconnect sometimes in bringing the mini bag forces you to leave the phone at home and disconnect. You know what? That's beautiful. I hope that there's someone out there that where that happens.
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You know, I really hope so. Oh, you know, also, I think it could be kind of fun to like clip a mini bag onto a larger bag that could kind of look cool or be kind of funny. In fact, I've actually sort of done that. I'm now remembering an event that I went to where they were like, hey, can you bring this tiny little mini bag?
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And I was like, yes, but only if I can bring the exact same bag in a larger size as well. So I'm holding both at once. And they were like, sure. And I thought it was like, I don't know, silly. Okay, so see, there's something positive about a mini little bag. Let's move on to mushrooms. I despise mushrooms, okay, for two main reasons. Number one, the texture.
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Bouncy, chewy, gummy, light, weird, what the fuck? Like, mushrooms in my mouth, it's wrong. It feels wrong. There's something about how light and bouncy it is. It's so unnerving to me. So that's number one. Number two, I hate the way a mushroom looks. Flip that thing over. See those little lines, those little fibers underneath the top of the mushroom? Disgusting.
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Yes, because having nicotine in my system makes me anxious and paranoid, and it makes me dissociate. It has a bunch of negative effects. But in the short term, I love it. I absolutely love it. The way that it releases chemicals in my brain, I just absolutely love it. And I'm prone to being addicted to it. I feel the same way about being a hater. Like there's just something about me that enjoys it.
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There's something about that texture, just the way it looks? Disgusting. You know, and I think that I'm particularly hateful towards mushrooms because I grew up a vegetarian and at every single restaurant, it feels like the vegetarian option contains mushrooms. And it makes sense, really, because mushrooms are sort of a meaty kind of vegetable. You know, they have like an umami sort of flavor.
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They're less vegetal, more umami, which is more reminiscent of, say, meat, right? They're hearty in some ways. I don't even really know because I've never eaten them, but I've heard that they're sort of heartier. And, you know, restaurants love to just grill up a portobello mushroom and put it in between two buns and call it a veggie burger. I mean, you know, restaurants just love to do that.
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And so I guess maybe for me, the hatred stems from just like a pure dislike combined with constantly having it be my main option. you know, less so now. I feel like when I was growing up, you know, mushroom was sort of the main meat alternative, but food technology has advanced to things far more palatable. There are a lot of fake meats on the market these days.
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And so restaurants aren't really relying as much on mushrooms. But like in the early 2000s, I just, it was, there was mushrooms everywhere. It was like, get out of my face. But now I have to say something nice about them. Well, for starters, I will say that mushrooms are really cute, okay? If I'm like walking through the forest, which happens sometimes, and I see a mushroom, I'm delighted.
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Like when I'm looking at a mushroom from the top and I can't see the creepy fibers that are underneath, Mushrooms are super cute. And they also remind me of being a child and being obsessed with fairies who, of course, live in the forest and live under mushrooms. I don't know. I see a mushroom and I think, maybe there's a little fairy living in that mushroom.
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And that makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside. So in that way, I love mushrooms. Actually, I even have some outdoor decor that are mushrooms. I have these sort of stone mushrooms in my backyard and I love them. I think that they're precious. And when it comes to mushrooms being a food, I actually kind of love the way mushrooms smell.
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Like if I'm walking past a restaurant that's cooking mushrooms or a house that's cooking mushrooms, I know that smell and it's delightful. It is a delightful smell. Honestly, I think the smell of cooking mushrooms is one of my favorite, like, savory smells. It's kind of unbelievable. So you know what? Maybe mushrooms aren't so bad after all. But I am not going to eat them ever. Okay, moving on.
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You know, I've always struggled with finding hobbies. Ever since I was a kid, I remember being so jealous of the kids who seemed to just find their hobbies effortlessly. Almost as though their hobbies just fell into their lap. You know, like the kids who got put into soccer camp when they were four years old. And then by 14 years old, they were soccer prodigies.
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A manicure looks good because your cuticles got cleaned and your foot got scrubbed and your hands got scrubbed and you got lotion put on and then they put oil and then alcohol, sprayed alcohol. Like it's this whole process, okay? It's not just like putting on nail polish. When you're at the nail salon, there's like a 90-step process that goes into a simple manicure.
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Like, how is he able to find so much fulfillment and excitement from these arguably pointless tasks? Like, I don't know. I always really just struggled with the concept of hobbies. Always. In fact, to fully paint this picture for you, let me tell you about every single hobby I've ever had throughout my life, at least that I can remember. Thank you so much for watching.
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But when you don't have proper training, all you're doing is just putting polish on and taking polish off. You know what I'm saying? In addition to that, gel polish started to become a thing. And I was like, wait, I don't know how to put gel polish on myself. And I'd way rather have gel polish than regular nail polish because regular nail polish chips and, you know, takes forever to dry.
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Like I want to try out gel polish or everybody was calling it shellac at the time. And I was like, you know what? I'm going to start going back to the salon. So I ultimately went back to the salon and I stopped doing nail art and it was kind of heartbreaking. I would honestly love to learn how to do nails, not only on myself, but also on others. Like I just love the art of nails.
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I've always loved it. But right now I have short little nails, short little nails with no art on them. Next, we have one of the most successful hobbies I've ever had, and that was competitive cheerleading. I was a competitive cheerleader for like five, six years, okay? That's pretty good for me. Every other hobby I just mentioned was max two years, if that.
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So five or six years cheerleading, pretty good. I started cheerleading because, shocker, one of my cousins started doing cheerleading, and it looked so fun to me. she was showing me videos of her cheer team and like the stunts that they were doing. And then we would like try to do stunts with just us and like our other cousins. And I loved it. And I was like, I need to join a cheer team.
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So I ended up signing up and the first team that I was on was literally so bad. It's insane. I watched the videos from this cheerleading team. We were obviously the lowest level, but we were like lower than the lowest level. Like we were so bad. This first team, we went to competitions and got last every single time. It was insane how bad we were, but I got the bug because
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I got addicted to cheer. This was the first hobby for me that like I really became passionate about. Like I fully dedicated myself to cheerleading and I fucking loved it. When I first started, I had practiced I think three days a week. You know, that's a decent commitment. And I practice in the gym with my team and outside of the gym. Like I was practicing at home.
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I was like going out on my front lawn at my dad's house, like doing cartwheels, doing back walkovers, doing roundoffs, you know, trying to practice the splits to get more flexible. I was like, I am going to be a good cheerleader. And after a few years at this tiny little local cheerleading gym, um, I got pretty good. You know, I could do backflips here and there and I got kind of good.
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And then I ended up ultimately moving to a more competitive cheerleading gym that actually required me to drive one hour to cheerleading practice because it was in a whole other town far away. Multiple times a week, I think four times a week. And the cheerleading gym that I went to was one of the best in the United States. Yeah. And I was driving an hour to go there and I was not on the best team.
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That is for sure. I was on like a mid-level team and I never went higher than that, but I got really into it. Going to a gym an hour away from me, it's dedication. Also my parents, I also feel horrible for my parents. I don't know why they did that for me. I begged, I begged though. I begged. I've never begged harder for something in my life because I really love cheerleading. I
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I loved it to the extent that I was on Instagram and Twitter and I was following all the famous cheerleaders. And I was looking at updates about famous cheer teams all the time. And I was constantly stretching and practicing at home. And I was obsessed. I lived and I breathed cheerleading. I loved it. But in high school, the passion started to fade. It just became too intense, I think.
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Like, you know, driving an hour to practice like four times a week, training really hard and ultimately not improving that much. Like I wasn't improving that much.
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And it was starting to get to the point where I was like, okay, I have three or four more years left of my cheerleading career that like I can like even legally participate in because like the cutoff for cheerleading competitive is for the most part 18. There's some... competition cheerleading that you can do after 18, but not as much.
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I was like, I'm not going to get that much better in three or four years. And I'm dedicating a lot of my time to this. My body hurts because I'm training so hard. I want to go to a good college one day. I And I'm focusing so much time on cheerleading. I don't have time for school. I should probably quit.
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And then I was doing high school cheerleading a little bit there, even though I got kicked off the team. But then they put me back on the team a little bit. And I was like, oh, OK, maybe I'm going to be back on the team. And then my first performance back with my high school team, I broke my hand. And then it was like, fuck it. I'm just done. I'm done with cheerleading. I'm done.
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It's ruining my body. My back hurts. Now my hand is broken. I'm just done. And I don't regret quitting. I don't because I think I ultimately had to quit. Like I wasn't ever going to be at the level that I like dreamed of being at. And to me, like the hard work wasn't worth it unless I got to that point. So I gave up. But I still absolutely love cheerleading.
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And sometimes I go on YouTube and watch cheerleading competition performances. And that's weird, but I do it. Okay, another hobby. This one started, I think, in high school, running. After cheerleading, I was like, what am I going to do with my time? And I wanted to try another school sport, so I tried cross country and track. And let me tell you, it was miserable. Okay.
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I absolutely hated running. I hated it. I literally, oh my God, I hated it. But to me, it felt like a sport that I could just jump into and get decent at quickly because unlike something like lacrosse or soccer, like you need years of experience to know how to navigate the ball. You know, to truly be able to multitask in the way that soccer, lacrosse, these sort of ball sports require.
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It's just, it's not beginner friendly. Whereas running, everybody knows how to run. Everybody's run before. You know, when I was a cheerleader, I used to run. We were forced to run like two miles twice a week outside of practice. And then we had to send a screenshot to our coach that we did it. So like I had run before, you know, I'd been running. So it felt like something I could do anyway.
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I've, I absolutely hated it. I was so slow, especially at cross country. Cause that's like long distance running, you know, at our cross country meets, we were running two miles, three miles, four miles. I was always in last place in JV. I am not a long distance runner. Track was better for me. And they actually put me in hurdles, which I really liked.
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That was kind of good for me because I was flexible for being a cheerleader. So it was kind of fun. I did each for one season. I did cross country for one season. I did track for one season. And it just didn't stick for me. Not only was I so bad at it, it wasn't fun either. you don't have to be good at something to enjoy doing it. Amen. Amen to that.
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But see, the problem with running was in specifically running as a sport, you know, cross country and track, I wasn't good at it and it wasn't fun. So it was like, okay, we're done. So I ended up never doing that again, but I, actually continued running as a hobby on and off up until recently. I've gone through running phases time and time again since high school, and it's never fully stuck.
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I've had like good, decent chunks of time where I've been running really consistently, but I wouldn't say it's ever fully stuck. And can I tell you something? I've never fully enjoyed it. The thing that I have always loved about running is how I feel afterwards. I feel incredible afterwards. But while I'm running, I'm miserable. And I've never experienced runner's high.
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I thought a few times I did, but then like my back and legs just didn't hurt for a second. And I thought I had runner's high. Like running hurts. I hate it, to be honest. I really hate it. As you can tell, I'm not in a running phase right now because I'm speaking negatively about it. For whatever reason, there are times in my life when I really enjoy it or I convince myself that I really enjoy it.
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And it becomes a part of my routine. And I might even recommend to people, oh my God, you should start jogging. You should give it a try. I'm into it right now. But in retrospect, I think because I've found forms of exercise that I prefer, I look at running and I'm like, you never liked that, idiot.
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The next hobby I got into was making YouTube videos. Now this one did work out for me. It started out as a hobby to keep me busy during one summer. I just was in a dark place in my life. My dad was like, you need a hobby. You should make YouTube videos. You watch YouTube videos all day long and all the time, almost like that is your hobby.
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Maybe your hobby should be making YouTube videos instead of watching them. Maybe that would be good for you. So I started making YouTube videos and, you know, I liked everything about it. I liked filming it. I liked editing it. Like the whole thing was a great hobby for me. Now, here's where things got a little bit complicated. My hobby became my job very quickly.
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Nobody wants to hear a fucking person whining about how their hobby became their job because in a lot of ways, that's the dream. You can get paid to do something that you would do for free. However, for some reason, When your hobby becomes your job, it changes the way you feel about the hobby. This is a very common experience.
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And I do think that there's a way to experience hobby-like joy from your career. But a few years in to your hobby being your career, you're like, wait a minute. I hate this now. Now this just feels like a job.
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And again, it sounds whiny and it sounds ungrateful and it sounds, it sounds sort of ridiculous, but I've experienced this and everybody that I know whose hobby has turned into their career agrees with me. It's this, like, it's this cursed sort of thing that happens where sort of the impossible happens. a hobby that you loved so much turns sour for you.
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And I think that there is a way, again, I think that there is a way to turn it back around, but I think it's almost inevitable that at a certain point in your career, it gets complicated. And so that has definitely happened to me with making YouTube videos. It started out as a hobby. It very quickly became a job. And that was actually okay with me for a little bit.
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And let me tell you, the same thing would happen over and over and over again. We would have like a singing lesson or a guitar lesson or something. And it would start out inspired. I'd be like, yeah, let's fucking do this thing. You know, I'm going to sing Hey Soul Sister by Train. I'm going to hit all the notes. You know, maybe we'll even record it and listen back to it.
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But then I started to put all this pressure on myself. to put out as many videos as possible. And the pressure started to get to me, and I experienced a lot of creative block and a lot of burnout from pushing myself too hard. And then I started to become more known publicly. Not even that famous, but to me, I felt kind of famous all of a sudden. And I was like, okay.
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And then that came with its own slew of complications. And then That made me afraid of posting YouTube videos because I was like, oh my God, I like don't even want to be perceived anymore. Like I'm afraid I won't go into it into too much detail. But that hobby became very complicated very quickly for a number of reasons. And it is still a hobby of mine. I still love video creation.
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I will never stop loving that. But it's been very challenging to get back to a healthy place with it. It's brought a lot of complication, a lot of intense emotions. Like there's been a lot to handle on this journey and it's made it very hard for me to sometimes participate in this hobby that I truly do love. There's been a lot of other variables that have complicated it because it became my career.
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But I will say that that is a hobby that has stuck. And it's one of the first ones that's ever stuck for this long. Like I've been making videos for what, seven years? And I don't make them as consistently anymore. But that is actually my longest standing hobby of all time.
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But again, like going back to what I said in the beginning of this episode, I have always struggled with hobbies, even though this is my longest standing hobby. And I love it still. It has been a journey. It's like, this was my hobby. Now it's my job. Now it's stressing me out. Now I'm burnt out. Now I'm scared. Now everybody, now people are talking about me.
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Now everybody, oh my God, now I don't want anyone to see me. I don't want to show myself. I just want to be in private, but I can't because I'm making videos and people are seeing them. Like it became this mess. So this is sort of what I mean by I'm not good at hobbies. Even my best hobby, my most successful hobby has been incredibly complicated.
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It also became my career that I am immensely grateful for. So I have no regrets. But I'm just painting this picture for you. Anyway, moving on. A few years ago, I tried to learn to play drums because my dad bought a drum kit and put it in my childhood bedroom. And I went home for the holidays one year and I was like, what is this? And he was like, you need to try to play it. It's so fun.
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I need to play drums. Like, what are you talking about? Like, why are they in my room? What's happening? And he taught me a few little drum beats and I was like, wait, this is actually really fun. And I really enjoyed it. And I ultimately decided to buy myself a drum kit because I loved it so much. And I was having my dad like send me drum beats so that I could learn them.
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I don't even know if that's the technical term, like a drum beat, like a pattern, like a drum pattern. which would maybe just make me better at playing drums. So then if I wanted to like copy a song or something or like learn to play with a song, it would maybe be easier. Anyway, I hit a wall with the drums.
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I hit a wall with the drums because eventually it got to a point where my dad's like, I don't really have any more drum beats to send you. Like you already kind of know all the basic ones. Like you should just start playing with music. So I started playing with music, but then that got too hard. I like couldn't keep up with music.
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So then I was like, huh, OK, well, maybe I could find like some tutorials online that are a little bit more advanced than what my dad's teaching me. But I could never really find any good tutorials. And it was just like it. Anyway, I ended up quitting. I was like, fuck this. I still have a drum kit. I still sit down and play with it sometimes.
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This is going to be great. Or, okay, it's time to learn guitar. Let's sit down and let's get going. Let's start strumming. I think playing guitar is going to be really satisfying. Mind you, this is at age like seven, eight, nine, 10, pretty young. Long story short, every time would start super inspired. I'd be super excited.
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I have a lot of musical people in my life who love to sit down at that drum kit. It gets use. but not as much by me. And it makes me sad because I really love the feeling of playing drums, but I don't know the effective way to learn. And maybe I'm just not trying hard enough. And that could be true. Maybe I don't care deeply enough to figure it out. That's probably the case.
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I think if I really wanted to, I would. But for some reason, I'm just like, you know, So I ultimately quit. And the same thing sort of happened with rock climbing. Okay. As you might remember, I was rock climbing a lot as a kid. Recently, I was like, you know what? That kind of sounds fun. I'm going to try rock climbing again. And then a few months ago, I went rock climbing again.
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And I was like, wait, this is awesome. And I had a really good time. Like I remember doing it and being like, I'm going to do this again. And the last time I went rock climbing was I think last weekend. And I was like, I am never doing this again. I'm not having fun at all. I think the reason why I enjoyed the rock climbing on day one of my rock climbing revival was because it was new.
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I hadn't done it in so long that it was like a novelty because I hadn't done it. Every time I went back, it got more and more miserable until I just hated it and decided I'd never go back again. And it's a shame because I bought a really huge thing of climbing chalk for your hands. Yeah. And now I'm not going to be going back. I actually hate it. I actually really despise it.
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And I didn't have fun. Anyway, another hobby phase that I've been through time and time again, cooking. Wow. Wow. When I was a teenager, I got into cooking a little bit, mainly baking. I was baking a lot of like little cookies and stuff that were healthy. Like my mom and I were really into making healthy recipes, healthy cookies that were made with like nuts and maple syrup.
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And it was kind of beautiful and very tasty. And I remember really enjoying it and finding it therapeutic and Um, and then I sort of got sick of it in like, I don't know, my career sort of took off and I like moved to LA and I was like ordering food delivery for every single meal and then forgot cooking existed.
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And then eventually got to a point where I was like, this is an unsustainable lifestyle and it's ridiculous that I'm ordering food delivery for every single meal. This has to end. So eventually I started getting back into cooking again and then on and off over the phases, I think the challenge with cooking for me is, number one, it is a lot of work.
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Doing the shopping, you know, grooming and cleaning your produce, storing everything, being smart and tactful about what you buy and how much of it you buy is And like when its expiration date is so that you can minimize food waste, like managing all of these different things. Also finding recipes that you like, doing research to find those recipes. Like it is such a time consuming process.
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And after like 15 to 20 minutes, I would get so frustrated that I would storm out of the kitchen where we were doing these music lessons and And I would go in my room and slam the door because for some reason I got angry, either because the guitar was too big for my little fingers to reach around and pluck and press on, or the strings on the guitar were hurting my fingers.
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And to be quite honest, I can't justify making time for it all the time. Like when I'm in a phase where my workload is pretty low, things are pretty chill. Like, I don't know. I got time to spare. I'll cook. But a lot of times it's like I don't have time to cook. Now, when I say cook, I mean cooking things from scratch. I only eat out on the weekends.
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That's sort of my rule because I had gotten back into a routine of food delivery again. And then I ended up drawing the line. I was like, no, we're only doing food delivery now. on weekends, during the week, food has to be cooked by hand. Does it need to be from scratch? No.
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If I want to put a frozen pizza in the oven, if I want to fry up a veggie burger and toast up some buns, if I want to make pasta with sauce from a jar, that's what I have to eat. But that's not cooking. That's not cooking as a hobby. That's like cooking for survival.
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It's a hobby when you're going to the farmer's market and you're picking out produce and then you're finding a recipe and you read the reviews of the recipe and then you set up your menu for the whole week so you know what you're going to cook that week and you buy all the right stuff and then you have a plan and everything's planned out and there's minimal food waste because you planned well and it's like this whole beautiful sort of
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system that you got going on, that is when it's a hobby. And I just, I don't have the time for that all the time. Listen, if I really wanted to make time for that, I could, right? But there are other things that are more important to me than that. But I love cooking. That's what's so sad. I really love cooking and I love food science. Like I have watched so many cooking videos. It's unbelievable.
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I have so much cooking knowledge. I know more than the average person about cooking and yet I don't cook as a hobby. It's very weird. But again, it's just like I've never been able to fully embrace it as a hobby because it's too much work and I can't justify how time consuming it is. And last but not least, art, paintings, drawings.
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My dad is an oil painter and has been for as long as I can remember. And it's always brought him so much joy to paint. always wanted to experience just a sliver of that joy. And throughout my life, I've really tried to enjoy it. Okay. I've oil painted with my dad. I've taken art classes at school. I've I've played with pastels. I've played with colored pencils. I've played with charcoal.
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I've played with I have tried to enjoy the creation of art of this type of art my entire life. And I've always felt uninspired. uninspired, directionless, and ultimately miserable. I've never enjoyed making art. I've never enjoyed it. And it's always really bothered me because I always really wanted to enjoy it.
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And like a few years ago, I kind of got into like watercoloring and it was sort of soothing, but it's just never stuck for me until recently. In fact, not just art has stuck for me, but many hobbies have started to stick for me. It's fascinating. Don't get me wrong. There were a few hobbies that really stuck for me and really worked for me for like, you
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YouTube and cheerleading being the main two, but more slow, simple, soothing hobbies. I just couldn't justify spending time on these things. It often felt like too unnecessary for me to continue spending more time on them. Like I would get to a point with almost all of these hobbies, like I'm wasting my time. Like I just need to give up.
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I also really struggled with getting past the initial stage when I was really terrible at something. Like it was really hard for me to get past the beginner stage with a lot of the hobbies that I had experimented with. And I also think too, in retrospect, I attempted a lot of hobbies for the wrong reasons.
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Or the kids who started painting and doodling at age two and then by age 12 were being entered into art competitions. Or the kids who were obsessed with bugs starting at age three and now at age 15 are working at an internship at a bug scientist lab making paper mache replicas of bugs. I've always just felt like hobbies come easily to everybody but me.
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And of course, I didn't have calluses because it was my first day of guitar practice. Or I would sing and I would feel like my dad wasn't impressed enough with my singing voice and I would get frustrated and walk out. Whatever it was, I would end up frustrated. But then like a few weeks would go by and I'd be like, wait, no, let me try again. And I'd try again.
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because they were bringing joy to other people, because I thought it would make me look cool if I participated. I was running into a lot of the same issues over and over and over again. It was rarely working out. And now, for some reason, I don't know what has happened, but finally I feel like hobbies are clicking. And a lot of the old hobbies that I tried long ago are now finally clicking for me.
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And I'm like, wait, I'm actually finding joy from these things. And here's how I think I got here. Okay. Number one, sobriety. In October, I went sober. I stopped drinking alcohol. I have a suspicion that I have an alcohol intolerance and I haven't drank since. I feel really good, but it's also been incredibly boring. Being sober is boring. Okay.
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I used to love going and getting a glass of wine on a Friday. I used to love getting drunk on a summer day with my friends in my backyard, just spending a whole day just drunk. I used to love that. And that all went away. And for a few months, I was like, oh my God, I'm so bored. I don't know what to do with all this time that I have now that I'm not drinking alcohol.
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Drinking alcohol used to just make hours disappear. And the stuff that used to be fun with alcohol is now no longer fun. Going and sitting at a bar is not fun when you're sober. going to a day party. It's way less fun. Anyway, when you're not drinking alcohol, you are forced to entertain yourself in more classic sort of ways. Actually, alcohol is arguably classic.
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It's been around for a long time, but in more wholesome sort of ways. Eventually, I got so bored that I was like, wait, maybe I'll draw something. Maybe I'll do an extra yoga class, or maybe I'll start playing guitar.
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All the free time that I used to put towards drinking and hanging out drunk, now I put towards hobbies because that's kind of my only option, which leads me to my next time suck that I used to indulge in far too frequently, emotional crutches and addictions. I used to spend so much time shopping, obsessing over toxic boys. What are my other emotional crushes?
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I don't know, like gossiping, talking shit. Like, I don't know. I used to really allow myself to indulge in emotional crutches. And a few months ago, I really cracked down on myself. And I was like, we're not doing that anymore. We're done. No more toxic boys. No more excessive shopping. No more shopping addiction. No more nicotine. Although, listen, I still hit a vape every once in a while.
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I still hit a vape every once in a while. I'm working on that one still. That one's hard. I was doing really well, and then I'm not doing very well right now. I've been hitting a vape every once in a while when I see it, when somebody has one around me. Just being honest, not proud of it. But I really have cropped down on emotional crutches.
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I was wasting so much time and stunting my emotional development by allowing these things to distract me and numb my pain and give me a false sense of fulfillment. And I cracked down on them. And that's even more time I have available. I have no boy to be stressed out over. I have no shopping to do. What the hell am I going to do? That has also made hobbies feel more appealing.
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And then the same thing would happen. I would get pissed off and frustrated for some reason. And I'd quit again. And this happened over and over and over again throughout my childhood. And eventually I decided, number one, guitar is too hard. I'm never going to learn it. And number two, singing is way too embarrassing. I would never sing in front of anybody ever because that's embarrassing.
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because I'm so bored. Anything remotely stimulating sounds interesting to me now. And it's fascinating, but it's also like awesome. I've always wanted to find hobbies that are exciting to me. This is like a dream come true. And I never would have expected it to come this way through severe boredom and the elimination of a lot of normal, I don't know, like activities in life.
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Like a lot of people drink and a lot of people go shopping a lot. And a lot of people doom scroll on their phone. And a lot of people date toxic people because it's kind of addicting. And a lot of people, you know what I mean? Like a lot of people participate in these activities and they also have hobbies.
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But for some reason, it wasn't until I eliminated all of those things that I could fully find the attention and the time and the space to participate in these hobbies. And I really do think that those are the main life changes that have led to me being able to participate in hobbies. But I do think that there are a few other maybe less significant but still notable shifts that have led to this.
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I think I used to try to force myself to participate in hobbies. The voice in my head would say, Emma, you need to do this hobby right now because doing hobbies is good for you and you need to be good at something. Now I'm like, do whatever sounds fun. I don't care. I've taken the pressure off of myself. I now choose the hobbies that I participate in more intuitively.
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So like, for example, let's use cooking as an example. If I really don't wanna cook and I'd rather just throw something together with a few pre-made things, Okay, I'll do that. And it's no big deal. If I really don't want to go to yoga class and I'd rather sit down and paint something, I'll do that. Like it's fine. You know what I'm saying? I used to be very harsh with myself.
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And I even sort of spoke in that way earlier when I was talking about cooking, how like I've never fully been able to make cooking a hobby because I've never been able to do it routinely. Well, I've sort of changed my perspective now where I'm like, I don't need to do something all the time for it to be my hobby. Like if I can do it whenever I want. Hobbies are not supposed to be chores.
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They're supposed to be enjoyable. And weirdly, by not forcing myself to do certain hobbies, it makes me want to do them more. I also think too, removing the expectation that I'll ever be good at these things and strictly doing them because they're enjoyable. I don't ever need to be a chef. I don't ever need to be a professional artist. I don't ever need to be a professional musician.
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I don't ever need to be a professional yoga teacher. I just need to enjoy doing the hobbies I enjoy doing. And I think subconsciously without me even realizing it, when I was younger, I really wanted to be good at my hobbies. And I really wanted to be consistent and get really good at these things. And I've realized that pressure makes me want to participate in these things even less.
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I also think too that it's really hard to participate in hobbies unless you feel productive in your work life. And for so long, it felt like work was constantly piling up for me until recently when I got ahead and removed that pressure. Now it's like, wait, I don't feel like I need to constantly be working to stay on schedule to meet the deadlines I need to meet. I'm so far ahead now.
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So I can actually justify taking time to cook a meal from scratch or draw something. I can have a better work-life balance and I don't feel guilty about it. Because I think for a long time, I was like, any free time that I have should be dedicated towards getting more work done. That is made worse when your career is your hobby.
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So ultimately music didn't work out for me, which is a bummer because I wish I would have stuck with it. I love music. I have this like deep, like... yearning in my soul to just play instruments. And it's not too late, but if I would have started when I was a kid, can you imagine? I would be Sabrina Carpenter Jr. You know what I mean? I would be out there singing and twirling around on stage.
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There's no, like, why would I go do a hobby that isn't ultimately benefiting my career? I need to do the hobby that is benefiting my career. That's the hobby I need to be focusing on. Why would I waste my time doing any other hobby? And last but not least, I think I'm just more mature and more patient. It was harder for me to enjoy hobbies as a kid because I was impatient.
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I wanted to be good at everything immediately. I got frustrated easily. And I think with age and wisdom comes the ability to truly enjoy slow, arguably pointless activities. I feel like I'm just drowning in so many hobbies that I love and enjoy.
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Like, for example, this summer I started making these little weird cartoons with pen and watercolor because my dad and I were on vacation and he, being a painter... was painting every day on vacation with watercolors. He was painting and he was having so much fun. And I was like, all right, you know what? I'll give it a try too. And at first I was trying to paint like him.
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I was trying to paint landscapes and stuff like that. And then I was like, I fucking hate this. So then I just decided to make funny little cartoons. And then I was like, wait, why didn't I do this sooner? This is fun. The reason why I never liked doing art before was because I was trying to copy the way that my dad does art. He paints the world around him. That doesn't work for me.
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I don't like that. That's not fun for me. That's boring. I like looking at photos of that. Like I love seeing my dad's paintings once they're finished. That's gorgeous. But like, I don't like to create that. These little cartoons, I love making them. Am I good at it? No. Is it hard for me? Yes. But this clicked for me. I'm just absolutely obsessed with making these little cartoons.
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Number one, I feel like I have the time to make them. But number two, it's intuitive. I genuinely enjoy making these. I've also been, this is cringe, but I'm trying to learn guitar. And let me tell you, as an adult, it is so much easier than it was for me as a kid. As a kid, my fingers were hurting. I couldn't remember the chords. I barely even remembered the alphabet.
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How am I supposed to remember what an A minor chord is? I don't know. It was just too much for me. I'm really loving it as an adult. It is really fun. Listen, it's fucking hard. I don't care what anyone says. Guitar is hard. And it's just one of those things that you get older and you're like, oh my God, I shouldn't start this. There's so many people who did this when they were younger.
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It's way cooler. Yeah, it just feels cringe. But it's not cringe. It's actually quite fun. And I really don't care about being good at it. I mean, it would be nice to like be able to maybe play a song one day, but I don't even care. It's just fun. And the fact that I'm enjoying it to me is like a miracle.
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I also think when I was younger, I wanted to play instruments because I thought it would make me seem cooler or something. Whereas now I don't care about seeming cool. I mean, that's obviously the cherry on top, but I'm not as concerned about that. Like I'm not making my decision to learn to play guitar because I'm like, I want to be cool.
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I also recently got a button maker so I could make my own little buttons. I'm so excited. This is going to be a new hobby for me. I just love this idea, button making. Another hobby, yoga. I've been doing yoga for a very long time, but I never even thought of it as a hobby until recently when I was like, wait a minute, this is totally a hobby. I go to yoga multiple times a week and
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I'm interested in getting better at it. I am getting better at it. Like this is totally a valid hobby. And for a long time I was like, no, like that's just me going to a workout class. No, that's a hobby. I also kind of realized like, wait, fashion is kind of a hobby for me. Putting together outfits, making mood boards, styling my friends. Like, I don't know, like fashion is a hobby for me.
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And that was another one that like, I've grown to sort of acknowledge my existing hobbies as well and give them a bit more credit. You know what came back around for me? Sewing. I actually can't believe it because I've gone through a few sewing phases. Every single one has been sort of a failure, but I recently got a craving to start sewing again, and it's been a joy.
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I don't know if I would have liked that, to be honest, but it could have happened. if I would have stuck with it. But I got discouraged and I hated it. And then, you know, it only got worse when I got older. And I was like, and this is embarrassing. Like when I was a kid, it was like, this is too hard. And then it got worse when I got older because I was like, and all of this is cringe.
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Sewing was too hard for me as a kid because I just didn't have the prefrontal cortex for it yet. Now, sewing is coming to me so much more easily. I don't know. It's just more fun. But also, it goes hand in hand with fashion being a hobby of mine. Sewing makes sense for me now. It did not make sense for me as a kid. I've been loving it.
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I think what's allowed me to enjoy sewing the most, though, is my newfound sort of patience. Because it is tedious and it is frustrating. You'll work really hard on something just to realize that you made a mistake and you have to seam rip everything and start over. It's very frustrating. It requires a lot of patience. And the very... easy, simple alternative would just be to go buy something.
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You know, it's like so easy to not sew something from scratch. But I have sort of this newfound patience that makes me enjoy it. In fact, maybe I'll sew later. That kind of sounds appealing. Actually, it doesn't. I'm a little bit too tired for that. I have to have a good amount of energy to sew something.
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Like I have to start sewing something in the afternoon and be okay with spending the rest of the day doing it because it's very time consuming and taxing. So yeah, I love sewing. And last but not least, cooking. Listen, am I really cooking as a hobby? Not fully because I still don't think that I cook enough. But when I do cook, it's a hobby. It's just not consistent. I'm playing guitar every day.
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I'm going to yoga multiple times a week. I'm participating in fashion all the time. The button making, it's kind of weird and it's definitely less consistent, but it's a niche specific cool hobby that I participate in sometimes. These cartoons, I'm making them all the time, every day. Did I already say that? I don't remember. But you get the idea.
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These things are, they make sense to call a hobby for me. Cooking, I don't know if I can call it quite a hobby yet. But it is sometimes. And hopefully more to come. Because hobbies are supposed to bring joy. And I can truly say that all of these things, whether I'm good at them or not, are currently bringing me immense joy. Even if I'm horrible at them.
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Even if I'm great at them, it doesn't matter because I am kind of good at yoga, I will say. But it doesn't matter because I'm able to find joy in them and it's so rewarding. And I guess the moral of this episode is if you're having a hard time finding hobbies that stick, it might be because you have some toxic shit going on that you need to remove from your life first.
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Or maybe you're just looking at hobbies in the wrong way. Maybe you're expecting too much out of them or you're choosing them for the wrong reasons. But it's worth figuring out how to find hobbies that you like because they can bring a lot of joy. And with that, I conclude this episode. Thank you all for listening and hanging out. It's always a pleasure.
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I think all of this is cringe. Okay. So music didn't work out. I also tried a few different experimental sports. Okay. I tried figure skating. I tried karate. And And I tried like a hip hop dance class all between the ages, I don't know, six and 12, probably, approximately. I did them all for varying lengths of time. Like I think I figure skated for like a year.
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I'm on social media at Emma Chamberlain and my coffee company is at chamberlaincoffee.com, at Chamberlain Coffee and at our cafe in Los Angeles and in retail stores like Target and Whole Foods and Sprouts. Anyway, okay, I'll talk to you later. All right, bye.
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I think I did karate for like two years, which is actually kind of long. I did hip hop dance for like five minutes, actually. I think I did like a one month class. Did I hate these activities? No. In fact, for two out of the three of them, I actually went over and over again for longer than a year, but I was never passionate about these things. I wasn't passionate about figure skating.
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I wasn't passionate about karate. It was cool and it was fun and I enjoyed it and I got a little bit better, but it never clicked for me. I never got past the point of being a beginner where I was like, oh wait, this is satisfying. Whenever you start any new hobby, it's not going to be fun in the beginning. It's just not. You're going to be frustrated. You're going to be confused.
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You're not going to have the skills to fully participate in the hobby. Like it sucks in the beginning. Even me as a kid knew like figure skating and karate, like these things are not going to be fun for me in the beginning. Like I have to practice, you know? but it never got fun. It wasn't miserable, but it never got fun. So I ultimately quit those things too. I think I liked it.
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Like, I think I enjoyed it, but I didn't love it. And at a certain point, when you've been doing something for like a year or two years and you don't love it yet, it's like, okay, I think we're good. You know, I also went to sewing camp. This was inspired by my older cousins. I have two older cousins on my dad's side that when I was a kid were like my idols. I thought they were so cool.
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I still think that they're so cool. But when I was a kid, it was like, oh my God, they're so cool. I want to be just like them. They're three years older than me. They're so old and cool, you know? And I remember they went to this local sewing camp and showed me a And I was just dumbfounded. I was like, I want to sew a pillow and like a skirt. Like that sounds awesome.
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So I begged my parents to sign me up and they did. And I did a one week sewing camp. I think it was during the summer when I was like probably eight. Like I was very young. which in retrospect is kind of impressive that they're like teaching eight-year-olds how to sew with sewing machines. Sewing machines are so scary and so dangerous.
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Like you can really get injured with a sewing machine and they just let us use them. I don't know, they trusted us. It's kind of beautiful. And I mean, I was totally fine. I remember I sewed a little skirt, a little pillow and like a little pouch, literally exactly what they sewed. And I actually really loved it. Oh, and like a cross body bag too. Yeah, a little cross body bag.
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And I am aware that that's a bit extreme, a bit irrational, but that's always how I've felt. I've had hobbies over the years that have stuck somewhat, but I have never really liked hobbies. Even the hobbies that really have been satisfying and exciting for me have always come to some sort of tragic end eventually. I don't know.
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At eight years old, I actually did stick with sewing for a little bit. I probably sewed like once a month, once every two months for like two years following that sewing camp. And luckily for me, my mom is incredible at sewing. And so she had a sewing machine and she would like help me set up the machine so I could sew. But like, to be honest, I hit a wall with sewing.
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because you can only sew simple things like pillows and little pouches and little skirts with like one little elastic band in it. Like you can only sew that type of stuff so much before it's like, okay, I have a lot of pillows and I have a lot of like little skirts and I have a lot of little pouches. Like I can't, I literally cannot add another one of these things to my collection. It's
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filled with junk that I'm sewing. Like I'm not sewing anything useful, right? Like it became this sort of stupid thing where I was like, okay, I can't justify this anymore. Even as like, I don't know what, an eight or 10 year old. And when it came to like sewing actual garments, like shirts and pants, I was like, I'm obviously not going to sew a pair of pants.
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I don't even know where to begin with that. And I wasn't motivated to do it. I didn't even know how to find, like, I didn't know to, you know, go online and buy patterns for making clothes. Like that whole thing. It was like, it was just beyond my capacity as a 10 year old. And so I eventually gave up sewing because I had too many pillows and too many pouches. Oh my God. You know what else I did?
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Needle felting. Needle felting was interesting. It was actually quite fun. Needle felting was basically like, imagine like raw wool that's just in like a puffy ball, okay? And imagine if you were to take a needle and poke it over and over and over again. As you poke it, it starts to condense, like the fibers condense
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And you can basically shape the wool, the big wool piece into something dense and smaller and shaped. And it's like making a little figurine. And then you can like take dyed wool and you can needle felt color onto it. You know, like you do the base with like a, just like a basic beige color, like the natural color of the wool.
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And then you cover whatever your little shape is with colored wool and you needle felt that on. It's very, I don't, know if I'm explaining it well, but you get the idea. I got into that for a minute. I think that was another thing that I copied from my cousins. Like they were doing that. And I was like, well, I want to do that. And then I made my mom go buy me a bunch of wool.
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And I actually got really into that. And I, I did that for probably over a year. But the problem was it took too long. Like you're just poking this wool over and over and over again for so many hours and it just gets so boring and I just couldn't do it anymore.
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And then it's like, if you try to like half pay attention, like let's say you were to like sit on the couch and needle felt and watch TV, you will poke yourself in the hand with the needle. And the needle is no joke. It's like sharp. So yeah, that didn't stick for me. It just, it took too long. It wasn't satisfying. Like I like being able to start and finish an art project.
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Ideally within one day. That's ideal for me. And a needle felting project would take like two weeks. I actually never tried knitting because everybody that I knew that knit or crochet or whatever, it would take them so long to make anything. I was like, I don't even want to try. What else? You know, for a little while there, my mom and I were rock climbing and we actually kind of got into it.
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Like actually my mom wasn't ever rock climbing, but she learned how to do the like ropes from below. Cause like if you do rock climbing, like the rock climbing where you're like going really, well, let me tell you, I was going rock climbing in like a studio and Okay. I was not rock climbing in real life. Let's be clear.
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I think you know that, but I'm just clarifying just in case we were rock climbing in a facility where there were these fake rock climbing walls. They were not real. They were not natural. They were high up, but they were not real. Okay. And there were these harnesses with ropes that you were forced to put on if you were going to climb these really, really tall climbing walls. Okay.
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It was really hard growing up and watching my dad, somebody who is the king of of hobbies. He is a painter. He's a surfer. He makes music. He's a photographer. He does woodworking and carpentry and like this man is a walking hobby. Okay. That doesn't even make sense, but you get what I'm saying? Like he is the king of hobbies. And I remember feeling so jealous of him.
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And I don't remember how I got into it. I think my mom took me a few times because she just thought I would like it. And there were like some instructors there and they did the rope stuff with me. And then I really liked it. And I was like, well, mommy, can you learn how to do it? Like, can you learn how to do the ropes? And she learned.
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So then I could go as much as I wanted with my mom and she could do that for me. And we didn't have to like set it up with like a coach or whatever. Anyway, I really liked that for a little while. But once again, like I just got bored of it. It was never like this huge, there was not a falling out with rock climbing. It wasn't like, oh, I hurt myself and now I don't want to go anymore.
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Or like, I found something else that I like better. It was just like, I just woke up one day and I was like, you know what? I don't think I'm ever going to go rock climbing again. And that's just how it is sometimes. Next, I did gymnastics for a little bit. Again, at age like what? Was I eight? Was I 11? Like, I don't really remember. It doesn't really matter. I really liked gymnastics.
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It was really fun. I actually don't know why I quit. I really can't remember. I might have quit because I started to get scared because I was moving to the next level and it scared me. I really don't know why I quit gymnastics. Honestly, I would have to call my mom. And to be honest, it's not that important, but I tried it and I think I was afraid of it.
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That's my guess because gymnastics does get scary really quick. One day you're jumping on the trampoline and the next day you're doing a flip around the bars. You know what I mean? a big jump, you know? And I think that might've frightened me. Either that or I didn't like my coach or something. Like, I don't know. Anyway, I quit gymnastics. That didn't last very long, maybe two years. Oh my God.
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This was one of my favorite hobbies. In fact, I might get back into this one day. I really loved this. nail art. Yeah. I became obsessed with nail art in middle school. Obsessed. Okay. So I used to repaint my nails every other day and I would do a full design that I found on Pinterest. It was a whole thing. And there was nail polish all over the living room. This was my lifestyle.
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Let me give you some design examples. Okay, I did cheetah print. People think, oh, cheetah print, beige, browns. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. No, have you ever heard of hot pink cheetah print? Paint the nails hot pink, do like little black squiggly lines and do like a little white dot in the center of the squiggly line. Suddenly you have cheetah print that is neon pink. Yeah. Yeah.
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One day I did sort of like a little sunset on my nails. So I like painted my nails pink and then used a sponge that I stole from my mom and like sponged on orange and yellow and made the sunset. And then on one nail, I took a tiny little brush. I literally bought the tiny little brushes. Like I was so into this. And I painted like a palm tree, like a black palm tree on my nail.
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So it looked like the outline of a palm tree. Like I was so into it. And I was actually pretty good. I wasn't great. I wasn't great, but I was pretty good. And it became sort of known that I did nails, probably because I was marketing my work. I did have an Instagram account called Emma Chamby Nails, I think. It doesn't exist anymore, so don't get any ideas. You're not going to be able to find it.
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And it became known, oh, Emma does nails. So my friends started having me come over after school or after cheer practice or whatever. Cheer, that's a little foreshadowing for the next hobby. But anyway, and I would paint my friends' nails. Like I fully had a clientele. It was absolutely incredible.
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I think I ultimately gave this one up because you end up hitting a wall when you're a nail artist and you don't have professional training. You get to a point where you're like, this actually doesn't look very good, right? You know, because manicures look really good, not just because of the application of polish.
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You want to know what just absolutely terrifies me, keeps me up at night, and then when I finally fall asleep, fuels my nightmares? Let me tell you about the permanence of the internet. This is a reality of life that I contemplate multiple times a day. And not in like a sort of beautiful, introspective way.
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I've also spent an equal amount of time fearing rumors, fearing people telling stories that are false for the sake of Who knows, you know, like going viral or like who or just to like character assassinate me because, you know, for whatever reason, someone doesn't like me. This is something that in the age of the Internet, because of the permanence of the Internet, can truly ruin your life.
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Like I genuinely live in fear of a well-crafted rumor. Because I remember there was like a story made by someone who actually did go to school with me. That was true. This girl who went to school with me basically posted a TikTok telling a completely fabricated story about me and my interactions with her. completely fabricated. Okay. In fact, me and this girl were always cool.
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And I'm not just saying that, like, if I fucked up and I like was a complete bitch to this girl, I would fully, fully sit here right now and say, you know, that was a dark moment in my, in my life. I was, you know, 14, 15 years old, probably 15 at that time. I, you know, was going through this. I was going through that. I was an asshole and I treated this girl like shit.
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And now I have to live with that memory forever. Like I would just say that. And that would be the story that, but, and trust me, there are definitely some things I did in high school that I'm not proud of. I don't necessarily remember all of them, but I bet, you know, people could remind me of those things and I would regret them and be apologetic of them.
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I'm all about, you know, taking responsibility and shit. Don't get me wrong. However, if I didn't do something, I'm not going to take responsibility for it because I didn't fucking do it. This is a great example of that. This girl came up with this whole story about basically me being a total bitch to her and fabricated this entire story that I know for a fact was not true.
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And anybody who knew me in high school would be like, Emma didn't do that. Emma probably made some other mistakes, but Emma definitely didn't do that. Like it was just completely out of character and like evil in a way that I've never been in my life, even at my darkest moments.
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And that was really, really upsetting to me because I was reading the comments of people being like, oh my God, I can't believe she would do that. I always knew she was a mean girl, all this shit. And it's like, my entire character is being judged right now based on a complete lie that is now going to be permanently on the internet.
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Like I can sit here and deny, I didn't even address it or deny it or do anything because I was like, that will only bring more attention to this. And this is not true. This is not true. So I don't want to talk about it and bring more attention to it because it's not real. You know, like I don't even know how to, how to handle, I'm just going to ignore it, I guess.
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But it was really upsetting to me because I was like, this is now something that when people Google me, it might come up this story that is completely false.
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And now this is something that I am going to be tied to for the rest of my life instead of the actual memories of me in high school that are true, who I really was, which I was definitely not a perfect person in high school, but I was not mean like that. I'm sorry, I just wasn't, okay? Like I wasn't, like, no, that is ridiculous.
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And it's completely just a fabricated story for character assassination. That is the truth. But again, like there are people who saw that video back then and that story became permanent in their mind. You know, in that way, the internet is permanent. But then also it's permanent because that video is probably still up. And if somebody wanted to go find it, you know, they could.
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And in that way, it's permanent. And that has also really bothered me. You know, a lot of the controversies that I've been in in my career were actually based on false narratives, a decent portion of them. You know, there have been things that I've said that I've gotten called out for that, like I have genuinely said, fair enough.
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But there's also been so many false narratives as well that people now forever will remember. People fully think that I did things that I did not do because these narratives become permanent through the internet. And it fucks with me. It really fucks with me. And another thing that fucks with me is sort of how my past phases in life though harmless, right? Yeah, they're harmless, right?
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Like when I was a cringe sort of 16-year-old or when I had really bad acne when I was like 18 or 19. Every little phase in my life has been documented. Now, I must also add voluntarily, okay, I posted all of this of myself. I'm not sitting here saying like, oh my God, it's all permanent. And like, I didn't even want that. No, I posted it. You know what I'm saying?
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So it is absolutely, you know, this is something I did to myself and I am fully aware of that. But at the same time, even though I have no regrets and I think it's absolutely worth it, I definitely struggle with constantly being reminded of past phases of my life. I mean, in theory, could I delete my past? I could, but like, that's sort of the dilemma.
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I'm also like, I don't want to delete my past. Like it was my past. And also, you know, there are people who still find entertainment or value in these, these past moments of my life. Right. So like, I don't want to delete it. Also, even if I did, there's everything I've ever done is reposted somewhere. There's documentation of it beyond my own. So like, it's, I'm in a
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Some people could delete all their social media, start fresh, whatever. And there's no sort of documentation of their past. Once they delete it, it's gone. So there is sort of a feeling of control there. Is everything ever truly gone? No. And some things are posted by other people and those things are permanently posted and you can't hack into their account and delete the stuff.
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But I will say I'm experiencing an extreme level of permanence on the internet. It's exhausting in a way because it's like, again, like I've worked so hard to build the person that I am today. And I don't necessarily want to be judged by who I was. A year ago, three years ago, five years ago, like that's something I really struggle with because there are moments when I was really annoyed.
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There are moments when I did something embarrassing. A great example would be my fucking Streamy's award speech acceptance speech when I won a Streamy award in like 2019 or something. And the speech went viral because it was so cringe. That was absolutely fucking horrible for me. And it still gets brought up and people still show me the video and I still have to see it.
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And it's absolutely horrible. And I'm wearing a hideous outfit and I look hideous and the speech is fucking cringe. The whole thing is a mess. And I... see that video like once a month, probably. It comes up somewhere. I see it somewhere. And like how beautiful it would be if that was just a memory that we all had. You know what I mean? A memory that we all had.
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It wouldn't be nearly as cringe if it was just a memory. You know what I'm saying? But it's cringe because it's this video and it's permanent. And that is really challenging. But also like, periods when I've looked bad, you know, and I know that this is like vain and I am probably more vain than I think people would think I was, which is perhaps in a whole episode of its own.
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I seem like I don't care. And many people are like, Emma just doesn't care. She posts and she looks ugly and she doesn't care. That's true. Listen, at any given moment, I look the way I'm going to look and like I'm never going to necessarily hide it. I'm never going to hide. Right. Because it's the reality. But that doesn't mean I'm not unhappy with the way that I look or something.
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You know what I'm saying? So like now phases when I feel like I didn't look good, like those are permanent as well. Phases when I've had really, really severe acne or, you know, I've been unhealthy in one way or another. And I look like shit as a result. You know, like these are moments of my life that are permanent.
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So I vaped a lot this weekend after a long time of not really vaping. And so I think my chest is a little bit tight because of that as well. I'm also feeling a little weird, I think, because I'm probably withdrawing a little bit from nicotine. So if my vibe is like off, it's because I'm kind of dissociating from nicotine withdrawals. And I feel weird.
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Where I kind of had this like serious sort of artsy to some maybe even pretentious sort of philosophical. Although some people would say that that is just I can't even call myself philosophical, even though technically anyone can be philosophical. So that's rude. But, you know, now I had this phase, I think, for a number of reasons. I really want to dig into this phase, honestly.
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I feel like I need to discuss it. I feel like it'll be sort of cathartic for me because it directly relates to the topic of this episode, the permanence of the internet. This phase of my life is permanent. And right now, it's really, really bothering me. So let's just discuss it, okay? It was sort of this artsy, sort of pretentious, sort of philosophical sort of phase.
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Now, it was not... I didn't mean for it to be... cringe or pretentious. My intention was never bad. I also wasn't necessarily trying to be cool or something necessarily. It wasn't even that. I think it was a combination of a few things. Number one, what I mentioned earlier, me being so afraid of showing my personality.
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That I completely had a mental block when it came to like showing myself or, you know, I've always been a bit edgy with the shit that I talk about. I've always taken risks with what I talk about and I've always received criticism for that to a certain extent. It's not everyone's cup of tea, understandably so. All good.
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But when cancel culture sort of became more of a thing, I just became more and more afraid to the point where I was like, I don't even want to make a joke. Like I remember I used to like, I don't know, like fucking start writing an Instagram caption and it was like funny.
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And then I was like, I can't, I'm too scared to be funny because I'm too scared that being remotely funny will somehow get me canceled. So I would just delete the caption and post the photo with no caption. You know, that was the vibe.
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Or like I would be editing a YouTube video and I'd say like one funny thing and I'd be like, I'm too scared that, you know, because being to be funny is to be edgy a bit a lot of times. Right. So I just completely couldn't show the side of myself anymore. I was way too afraid. So I was like, well, I need to show something.
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So I showed myself sort of depressed and sort of in the middle of this mental block, having this sort of existential crisis, rethinking everything. Thinking really philosophically about everything. Because that's truly what was going on in my head. So there was that. But then I also think, too, that I was experiencing a bit of a...
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a creative growth period, if you will, where I was trying to figure out like, all right, what's the next step in my career, right? Like I've been vlogging my life. I've been, you know, talking about my life very intimately and very vulnerably for a long time. And
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I want to maintain a decent amount of that, but I also can't really do this anymore because my career and my level of, um, fame in a way, even though I'm not that famous, but like my level of fame, even, even to the, you know, maybe smaller level that it's at compared to say like fucking, I don't know, Jennifer Aniston.
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Like, I don't know, but like, I'm not a fucking, I'm not super famous, but I'm famous enough that like, I have to do things differently now. I was kind of in a phase where I'm like, what do I do next? And part of me was like, well, maybe I should make things feel a bit more meaningful. Maybe I need to... add a bit more depth to what I'm putting out there, right?
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Instead of just talking about like mundane shit, instead of showing mundane shit, maybe I share things that are a bit more potent, a bit more deep, a bit more whatever, like maybe share that side of myself. And I think to an extent that was good. Like I actually think that there was some beauty to that. And I think I enjoyed that a lot.
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Like my brain and body equilibrium is very off. Would I love to hit a vape right now? Yes. But no, I don't own vapes anymore. I only hit other people's. Anyways, I will say, I do think that I am more significantly affected by this reality of life, the permanence of the internet, than the average person because my entire life and my entire career is on the internet.
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And I think it was exciting to show like a deeper side of myself. But at the same time, I think it became like all I did. And then I wasn't showing any of my humor or like my lighthearted personality. And that I don't think is good because I think honestly, my strong suit is a balance. You know, and I think it was almost like an overcorrection.
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It was like, I became too like deep and like, like, look at how beautiful, like everything became too deep, too artsy. Like it, it, I was trying to infuse meaning into my internet output and also simultaneously, you know, protect a bit more of my privacy. And in a lot of ways, again, you know, there was a lot of positive there.
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Like I did end up showing a different side of myself that was actually truly genuine to me. And but then through doing that, I like lost touch with my sense of humor and like my edginess. I don't know. Like I lost my edge a bit. I mean, listen, I can't like I don't know. Everybody had a different opinion and everyone does have a different opinion. So I can't speak for everybody.
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And I also try not to. read too much or see too much of what people think or else I have a meltdown. But I do think that, you know, there are people who are like, where did you go? Emma, where are you? And understandably so. Right. Because even though I was still there, it was I wasn't all there and I wasn't in the best place. Like things weren't working out. They weren't working.
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They simply weren't working. And it came off as pretentious. It came off as like, why is Emma talking about like philosophical topics? She's like an idiot podcaster, which by the way, I think is completely an unfair criticism. Even if you thought that phase of my podcast or YouTube or whatever was cringe or pretentious or whatever, or even if you think that I'm not smart enough to be talking about
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I can everyone has the right to give their opinion on whatever they want, you know, or to discuss, you know, whatever they want. I think if I did maybe go wrong, it was because I was accidentally maybe speaking from a place of like, let me teach you about this. And that's a mistake. If I whenever I did that, if at any point I did that, that's a mistake.
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But to simply talk about things that are philosophical is to be human. I don't think we can. We should not ever take that right away from anyone. I'm not a fucking philosophy major. I'm discovering it. Having my own sort of philosophical epiphanies on my own and doing so in a way that's normal. You know what I'm saying? And I'm not claiming to be some sort of philosopher.
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I'm just like discussing what I've been thinking about. On my own timeline as I'm discovering it. And if it's later than you, it's later than you, you know, whatever. But I definitely received a good amount of criticism during this sort of transitionary period of my career where, you know, I just couldn't quite get into rhythm with with things in the audience and you all. felt that.
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Some of you maybe felt that, but were like, okay with it and didn't mind it or whatever. Some of you fucking hated it and hated me and whatever. It's one of those phases that I cringe at, but also you all cringed. A lot of you, not all of you, but a chunk of you also cringed at. And I'm not going to go back and delete it. I'm Because, again, I don't want to erase history.
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I don't want to erase history. I want to. I do, but I'm conflicted. I don't know. Like, I would love for it to disappear, right? But I'd love if it just never happened. But it did. And so because of that, I have to just own it and live with it and be like, this is permanent. But it's challenging. And, you know, to sort of wrap up that whole story, I recently, within the last, I don't know,
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year, slowly but surely realized I had it all wrong. Number one, I cannot live in fear of the permanence of the internet. I cannot live in fear because not only does it make me completely miserable, but it also, it causes my career to suffer. And my creativity to suffer, it completely gets in the way of me living a fulfilling life. It's completely detrimental for me.
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But also my sort of desire to instill more meaning and depth into, you know, the content I put out on the Internet. That was also sort of irrational. To continue to evolve my career and take things to the next level, I don't actually need to instill more depth into things. That was a miscalculation. That was a hypothesis that ended up not being true.
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However, I do think that this is a concern for people in the 21st century, okay? I think my feelings towards it are a bit more extreme, but I actually do think that this is a concern for everyone because it is just a current truth. This is just something that, like, the internet is permanent. That can be good and that can be bad. Do you know what I'm saying? For everyone.
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In fact, by doing that, I think I ended up removing meaning from what I was doing. But it was something I had to try. And it's something I have to accept. That's a phase of my career that I have to accept. And is it all bad? No. And is it even really that bad? No. No, it's not. And there were some people out there who actually enjoyed this phase that now I cringe at so.
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But now I realize through that phase that I'm cringing at now, that number one, I can't live in fear. And number two, I don't need to instill meaning in things. I just need to be entertaining and I just need to be honest and I just need to be myself. And that it doesn't need to be deep. It doesn't need to be artsy.
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It doesn't need to be, it doesn't, if I want it to be philosophical because I'm having a philosophical moment in my life, sure, it can be philosophical. But like, if I'm seeing beauty in a way and I want to share it with the world, I can share. But like, I don't need to do that in order for what I do on the internet to be meaningful. You know, like things can be more mundane.
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They can be more surface level. They can be more funny. They can be more chill and they can still provide value to people. Like that was something I was having a hard time grasping. It's like, Can I provide value to people if things are surface level? If things are silly? If things are mundane? Like, how do I level up if not to infuse more depth into things? Anyway, it was just a miscalculation.
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And now... I'm in this sort of bittersweet position where, on one hand, I'm so grateful for this phase of experimentation and fear and difficulty because without that, I wouldn't be where I'm at today, which is at an incredible place. where I now feel more inspired than I have in a really long time. And I'm feeling more myself than I have in a really long time.
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And I'm feeling like, you know, I have a plan for my career and an internet output that's sustainable. That's something that I could actually continue to do for years to come where I'm not going to hit burnout. I'm not going to psych myself out or get, you know, experience burnout. you know, sort of a mental block. Again, I'm stronger than ever. I'm more inspired than ever.
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I'm more myself than ever. Things are great right now. Unfortunately, to get here, I had to go through that little rough patch that was a little cringe, that was a little pretentious, that was whatever. I'm grateful for that time. But at the same time, because it's permanent due to the internet, I'm also sort of tortured by it and I'm mortified by it. I want to move on.
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No, I contemplate this reality of life multiple times a day in fear, in a panic, overcome with anxiety. Okay, I am tortured by the permanence of the internet. Tortured. And it's kind of funny because... I am as tortured by the permanence of the internet as I am because of my own voluntary actions. Okay, I made the decision to post the last seven years of my life on the internet. I did that.
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I'm excited that I'm in a better place now. But on a daily basis, I'm reminded of that phase. And I could delete it. But I also feel like deleting it's even worse. Like, I don't want to erase my past. I don't want to erase these phases. And these phases also weren't necessarily hated by everyone, right? There are actually people who enjoyed this phase, right?
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It was a smaller group of people than the group of people who have enjoyed other phases of my career and life, right? But there was a group of people that enjoyed that phase. And it's like, do I want to take that away from those people? Ugh.
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But, you know, I'm at a point where I'm like, all right, I'm really trying to sort of develop a healthy relationship with this reality, the reality of the permanence of the Internet. I'm really trying to like... Yeah. If, you know, something of me from 10 years ago comes out of, like, me being an asshole or, like, me, like, pooping on someone's front lawn, I never did that.
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More so for people who, you know, have a career on the internet, who have shared a lot of their life on the internet, but still so for people who have not. It's sort of terrifying for everyone. I think because I'm somebody who's shared majority of my life on the internet, I look at a time prior to the Internet where everyone could sort of just evolve and grow as a person in the real world.
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I did pee on someone's front lawn once, but I never pooped. So, anyways. But, like, if a video of me peeing on someone's fucking front lawn in high school after a party when I was drunk, like... if that video comes out, you know, it's like, or worse, like who knows, you know, it's like, I have to accept the fact that like that could happen. And that's just sort of the name of the game.
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And that's just the reality of, of today. And also, you know, use the permanence of the internet to inspire me to only be a better person, but not to the point where I'm obsessing over it. And I'm a perfectionist and I'm like completely, you know, unforgiving of myself if I make a mistake because I'm like, Emma, you have no room to make a mistake. Everything is permanent on the internet.
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I'm trying to find balance and peace in it, but it's challenging. It's challenging for me. And I also think it's challenging for society, even though I have my own unique sort of relationship to it that has its own sort of unique set of difficulties. I really do believe that this is something that is impacting society as a whole, okay?
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Like, I don't think just public figures are impacted by this, right? I will say, these are all sort of hypotheses, right? Like, I don't know for sure if the permanence of the internet has impacted society, but I mean, I'm pretty sure it has. I have some examples of how I think it's impacted society.
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For one, I think partying and clubbing and going out and socializing has really, really deeply been impacted by the permanence of the internet. I feel like people are really afraid of... Not everyone, okay? But I know of people who are really afraid of really like letting loose because nowadays there's a chance you might be filmed and you might go viral on the internet if you let too loose, right?
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And there is something sort of beautiful about being able to like go to a bar and like go crazy and dance and live in the moment and it not be documented, right? Now, I'm not saying like partying is no fun anymore because it used to be like morally wrong things could happen at the party and nobody would find out. That's not what I'm fucking saying.
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I'm even just saying like being – like going out and drinking and dancing and being in the moment like that is something that is actually very vulnerable. And it's something that like in the moment feels so magical. But if you were to film it and take it outside of that moment, it is actually like – ooh, it's not supposed to be taken outside at the moment.
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But now because of the internet, it oftentimes is. And I really do think that it's negatively impacted the club party scene. And I've seen quite a few articles pop up over the last few years about how, you know, Gen Z's not drinking, which I actually think is a great thing. You don't need a drink to have fun, although it does help sometimes. But I'm sober and I've been sober since October of 2024.
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I haven't had one drink. Okay. So I know a thing or two about sobriety. Yeah. I mean, I'm still hitting the vape, but I here and there. But the alcohol, no. But anyway, Gen Z is not drinking as much. A lot of clubs are shutting down. Just my own experience in LA. When I first moved here, there were so many parties and there was such an energy. But maybe it was my perception.
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But I really do feel like, I don't know, the party vibe, the club vibe, the bar vibe in LA has really lost its sparkle. And I've talked to a lot of people... who also live in LA and been like, has it kind of lost its sparkle? And there's a lot of people who agree with me. I don't know.
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I think that truly going out and socializing and enjoying the moment is a bit harder now because there is a risk that somebody could film you or that you're in the back of somebody's video. I don't know. It ruins the feeling of complete freedom that I think going out used to give people.
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It's like at the end of the week where you're being watched by your boss or being watched by your teacher or you have to turn things in on time and there's all these rules. There was something so beautiful about being able to go out and be social and be free. Nobody's watching. Nobody's paying attention. You know, you just get to kind of let loose.
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And everyone was judged based on who they were within their close knit community. And obviously, there's always been celebrities and public figures who have, you know, been judged on a larger scale. But even those people couldn't like go on Instagram and read their comments. Like there's something sort of beautiful about the fact that, I don't know, like the past was the past.
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And now it's like, wait, we don't get to let loose because we're constantly at risk of being filmed or being this or being that. And it's like, if you want to fucking take body shots off of somebody, you can't just do that. Now it's like probably going to be filmed. You can't just like, I don't know, chain smoke 10 cigarettes outside of the bar because somebody might take,
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photos of you and be like, look at this fucking freak who just smoked 10 cigarettes in one sitting. And it's like posted on TikTok with that caption. And then it gets 30,000 likes. And then it's like, wait, I was just chain smoking my cigarettes because it's the fucking weekend. Why are you, you know what I'm saying? I don't know. It's just not the same.
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Maybe I'm just feeling that way because I'm growing up. And that could be truly the case. It could be just my perception. But I've seen and heard too many things that corroborate this hypothesis. So I don't know. I want to vape so bad. I'm fiending for the vape a little bit because I was doing so good. I was doing so good. And then I really just hit it a lot this weekend.
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I was just... Everybody around me seemed to have a vape. And it was just like vape after vape after vape. It was absolutely delicious. But I am really paying the price right now because I'm really craving it. And... Yeah, it sucks. OK, moving on. Sorry. I also think, too, that the permanence of the Internet has sort of created a new societal weapon, a lethal one at that.
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The permanence of the Internet really it has become a weapon to assassinate character. You can turn the internet against an individual in a way that is truly like being fucking stoned in the town square. It is like being crucified. And I know that that's extreme, but it genuinely is that extreme. Like...
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If you're an average person and all of a sudden somebody posts something about you that's negative on the internet and it goes viral because it's like a viral story, the feelings that that will bring up in a person, it's dangerous. It's really dangerous. It's terrifying. And there are absolutely people out there who get off on just destroying people's lives through the internet.
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And I think that this has ruined more people's lives than we even remember. And that is not good for society. That is not good for humanity, I don't think. The fact that people's mistakes can be used against them on the internet, I don't know. It's to me dangerous. Which leads me to like my next sort of point.
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I mean, I think young people are afraid these days of truly experimenting and making mistakes in life, which is crucial for growth. The repercussions of experimenting in life are now unproportionately severe because of the internet. Like if these things make it onto the internet, the repercussions can now be worldly. Are they always? No. But there's a chance.
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And the mere chance of it, I think, really, I'm hypothesizing, really severely psychologically impacts young people especially. Which I think, you know...
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is creating an anxious, isolated, depressed generation of young people, which is another thing that I've been seeing articles about for years now, how Gen Z is the most anxious, how Gen Z is the most isolated, how there's a friendship epidemic, like no one has friends. Gen Z is depressed. We've all seen these articles. And I think the permanence of the internet, weirdly, is a part of that.
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And last but not least, I think the permanence of the internet creates some unfavorable qualities in society as a whole. Not every single individual, but creates... an increase in numbers of people who have certain unfavorable qualities, such as perfectionism, such as vanity, narcissism. In the physical world, your being feels much less significant.
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Like people were just allowed to sort of move through phases so much more naturally. Whereas now we have access naturally. to people's history. We can directly see and relive someone's past whenever we want, as long as it's on the internet. And for a lot of us, it is on the internet.
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I don't know how to explain this, but think about yourself in the real world, and then think about yourself on the internet, if you're somebody who posts yourself on the internet. Your being, okay, your being, like you as a human being in the real world feels much less significant because you're surrounded by other people. You're surrounded by experience.
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You're surrounded by so many things that are bigger than yourself. There's something about the internet and how we perceive ourselves on the internet. where we feel like the center of the universe. It's almost like our profile is the center of the universe and everything else around it is just, you know, details in a way, you know? And like, it's just, it's a different way of perceiving oneself.
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And yet we perceive ourselves in real life and we perceive ourselves online. And I think now that our realities are so intertwined with the internet and a decent portion of us nowadays perceive ourselves mainly through the internet, it's leading a large portion of us to develop perfectionism, develop narcissism. to be vain.
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A lot of us who wouldn't normally be that way, like we aren't that by nature. There are some who are like that by nature, but I think the internet and specifically the permanence of the internet brings out these characteristics because everybody's aware of how once something's on the internet, in some ways it's sort of permanent.
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But also, when people look at things on the internet, whether it's the past or the present, everything when being perceived on the internet sort of feels like the present in that moment. You know what I mean? When you're looking at it. I think it explains why people are so obsessed with looking perfect, right? Face-tuning things. Sometimes...
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FaceTiming to oblivion to the point where it's like, where did their nose go? They smoothed their face so much the nose disappeared. This is kind of ridiculous. Getting arguably unnecessary procedures done to have sort of unnatural features almost that look good on social media. but actually don't even look good in real life, but look good on social media.
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But it's like in like real life almost matters less because the internet's more permanent. So as long as it looks good on the internet, which is permanent, then who really cares what's happening in real life? If your lips are so big, you like can't talk properly. It's like, it doesn't really matter because it looks really good on Instagram and Instagram is permanent.
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And so it's all about like looking perfect because that is what is permanent because of the internet. I think people are also obsessed with sort of curating a perfect looking life on the internet. Because again, having an actual perfect life, who cares? Number one, it doesn't exist. But number two, it's like, who cares? Because that's not as permanent. The internet is permanent.
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So there's this pressure to sort of show everyone this perfect life. And a lot of times that actually ends up just kind of actually destroying quality of life. I don't think that that adds to quality of life at all. I think it a lot of times is actually quite a negative thing. And I really think this just leads to to narcissism.
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Instead of it just being this distant memory or something that only our close friends and family knew about, or you know what I'm saying? For a lot of us, Our entire past is completely documented. It's completely cemented in history in a way, in a way that is so accurate because of the internet. And there's something so much more powerful about that that really freaks me out.
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I'm not saying that the Internet turns people into narcissists, but I'm saying it it causes people to develop narcissistic traits, I think. The permanence of the internet feels so severe that I think it tricks people into thinking that they're more important than they are. They're the center of the universe because this, does that make sense? I don't even know what I'm fucking saying anymore.
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Okay, like what did I even just talk about for the last however long I've been talking? I don't even know what the fuck I just talked about. I'm going to wrap it up, okay? I'm going to wrap it up. I'm going to give a positive conclusion because I think otherwise this is a little bit too depressing. Here's the deal.
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In conclusion, I think the internet, though it has elements that are complex and arguably damaging to society... The internet also is an incredible thing. And with all good, there's bad. And this is just part of the bad. And I really hope that over time, as a society, we're going to get better at managing this sort of challenging element of the internet.
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Because I think we all know that the internet's not going anywhere. And also, we don't want it to go anywhere. There's a lot about the internet that is incredible. So I really do believe that over time, we're going to get better at managing the negative elements of the internet. And I even feel like I'm getting better at it.
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You know, as I mentioned earlier, I spent many years struggling with the permanence of the Internet. It really, really bothered me. And it led me to sort of a cringe phase that ironically became permanent, that I ironically ended up cringing more at later. But living in fear and letting it get in my way negatively impacted me to the point that I ended up coming out the other end fearless again.
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And I think, and I hope that other people will experience this as well. And hopefully in an ideal world, the permanence of the internet will actually force us to accept ourselves for our mistakes, for our shortcomings. And we'll hopefully one day, instead of just canceling each other immediately, unless, listen, if you do something bad enough, okay, I'm always like, I get it.
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Okay, sometimes we have to cancel. I kind of get it. But it's also like, a lot of times we're canceling, we shouldn't be. I really do hope that One day it will hold us accountable in a way that's like genuinely beneficial to the person and to the world. Right. And I see a future where that happens. I really do think that this could turn around and be a positive thing.
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Anyway, that's all I have for today. Thank you all for listening to this episode. If you enjoyed it, new episodes of Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday. You can watch video on Spotify and YouTube and you can listen anywhere you stream podcasts. Find Anything Goes on social media at Anything Goes.
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Find me on social media at Emma Chamberlain and find my wonderful coffee company, Chamberlain Coffee. at chamberlandcoffee.com or perhaps in a store in New York or perhaps at our cafe in Los Angeles. That's all I have for today. I'm really just fiending for a vape. I just am absolutely having nicotine withdrawals right now and I'm completely spaced out and I feel weird.
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But actually talking to you all today really brought me back to earth and made me forget. Actually, I didn't forget. I did not forget about my nicotine withdrawals at all. I brought them up multiple times. Anyway, that's it. That's it. That's all I have to talk about. I love you all. I appreciate you all. I enjoy the time that we spend together. It is always, always, always a treat and a joy.
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And I'll talk to you in a few days. Okay. Bye. Bye. Love you. Bye.
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Prior to the internet, there was no fear of your mistakes being broadcasted to the world stage. Worst case scenario, you know, your family and friends and community find out about a mistake you made. But these are all people who know you. They know your character. They might, at worst, exile you in some sort of way. But technically, you can leave that.
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You can get in your car and drive five hours and move to a city five hours away and start over fresh. And none of those people will know about your past. You know what I'm saying? The idea that you could make a mistake and be confronted by your friends and family and community and then sort of move forward in the world as a person who has learned from that mistake to me is so romantic.
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The idea that there isn't actually really evidence necessarily, unless you did something so bad that it made it into the newspaper. Like prior to the internet, there was no risk of your mistakes being permanent in history. I think that there probably felt like a future where it could even be forgotten. It was up to you to tell that story once everybody forgot.
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If you wanted to bring it up again, if you wanted to tell that story again, you could. Whereas now on the internet, if one of your mistakes gets broadcasted in some way, everyone knows about it forever. One Google search away, they can find your mistake for the rest of your life. You never get to move on from that. That's not your story to tell anymore.
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That is now this permanent story that is permanently on the internet that can be accessed at any given moment at any time through the phone, through the Google search. Okay. This upsets me. I also think too, the idea that, you know, you can have sort of cringe, embarrassing phases in your life, but then move jobs or towns and start over completely. Like all of this is
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a beautiful sort of concept to me that I think still does exist depending on your lifestyle, but is a novelty now more than ever. It didn't used to be a novelty. This just used to be reality. Whereas now for majority of people, this is this is a concern. This is the new reality is the fact that, you know, like even for people who are not on the internet, right.
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Even for people who don't have social media, there's still this sort of fear of the permanence of the internet, because let's say you're out at,
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party and you get blackout drunk and people take their phones out and start filming and then post it on the internet and you go viral because you did something sloppy or silly or stupid or dumb or you said something horrible like even for those who are not on the internet this is still a concern and I mean I do think it's all relative because prior to the internet the ridicule of perhaps your community was just as scary and terrifying I
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But now it's on a worldly scale. And I know it might sound sort of irrational, like, again, for the average person. For the most part, you can live anonymously. You can sort of rewrite your history. The past is not necessarily permanent, but it can be. For me, it's fully fucking permanent. Okay. For me, I'm living the extreme. Like it is fully permanent for me.
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For most people, it's still not fully that extreme yet, but it's still a concern. And it's something that deeply, deeply affects me personally. It's something that for the last few years has fucked with me psychologically in a number of ways. Okay.
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Number one, I've struggled with something that I think every public figure has struggled with, which is the fear of being canceled for something that I did when I was younger and dumber. In the age of the internet, and growing up in the age of the internet, everything that I did as a middle schooler and high schooler is documented, okay? In middle school and high school, we all had iPhones.
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It was like when the iPhone first came out and we all finally got them. And we were all filming and taking photos of absolutely everything. And I... would be lying if I said that I don't worry sometimes about like what the fuck I did. I know I probably did some shit that I would absolutely regret now. Was I ultimately 13 years old?
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I made that choice. Now I'm sort of tortured by it and it's like, okay, but I did it to myself. That's a reoccurring theme for me. Okay. I often sort of get myself into the most uncomfortable predicaments in my life. Usually I'm the one who did something wrong to get myself there.
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Yeah, I was 13 years old, but it doesn't matter because something that I did as a 13 year old, not knowing how things could be hurtful or mean or disrespectful or like not knowing, being so young and completely aloof. We have no clue what the fuck is going on. We have no clue what we're doing. We have no clue what we're saying. We have no clue the repercussions of anything. We're rebellious.
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We don't care. Like the fact that that phase of my life is in some ways permanent through fucking Snapchat memories and shit. on my own phone and other people's phone. This is something I don't like. This is a reality that I don't like. This is something that really, really bothers me. And it bothers me because I've worked so hard to become the person I am today.
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I've been scolded by my fucking parents for saying shit that's disrespectful, saying shit that's morally wrong, doing shit that's disrespectful, doing shit that's morally wrong. I've gotten my ass handed to me already. I've learned my lessons. Who I am today, I'm very proud of. Do I make mistakes still? Do I do things still that could potentially... I don't know.
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Tomorrow, somebody could come out and say, one time Emma was rude to me. And I might think of me like, oh my God, that was a week ago. And you know what? That's true. I don't fucking know. We live half of our lives in autopilot. So is there still a risk today? Yes. However, who I am today... I am in control of. This is me today.
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I am the product of every single mistake I've ever made in my entire life. And I'm better for it. And I really am proud of my character today. So I'm tortured in a lot of ways by this person who is almost not even me anymore, right? Like me as a child with barely developed brain, like in the age of the internet, that is not just a distant memory. That is permanent memory. Right.
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And the idea of being judged for my past as though it's the present, it's a hard pill for me to swallow. I think it's a hard pill for a lot of people to swallow. And I think that sort of leads me to this other complicated sort of terrifying element of the permanence of the Internet. The fact that.
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Although I don't think I did anything wrong because I actually have no regrets, even though I am completely tortured by the permanence of the internet. I also am aware that it is something that I have to deal with in order to be on the internet. Like, the internet is not the internet if it's not permanent. That is a key detail.
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A memory, a story told verbally, it's so much more gently received than like a video, a photo, like solid proof. You know, that is responded to much more viscerally and understandably so, because by watching a video, by looking at a photo, you're transported to that time because you can see it. You know what I'm saying? It just it brings you there. It connects you to that moment.
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story to that moment. Whereas like hearing something or recalling a memory, it's just so much more gentle. Right. And so that's the other thing.
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It's like the permanence of the Internet is made even more complex because not only is it now permanent, like set in stone in time, but also it's even there's something about the way that we psychologically respond to it that makes it also like more potent. Right. But that also leads me to what I briefly mentioned earlier. Like I also experience immense fear around messing up today. Right.
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Like there is this sort of fear of being judged on what I did in the past. Right. Because it's sort of made permanent or it can be made permanent. through the internet, but there's also a fear of making a mistake today.
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And then not only, you know, being judged based on that in the moment in a way that's very intense because of the sort of permanence of the internet and how things spread permanently on the internet, but there's also the fear of like, am I damaging my future self? Right. And I've actually spent the last few years absolutely tormented by this.
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And it's caused me to develop a toxic level of perfectionism. I need to be perfect all the time in every single way because at all times, I'm at risk of making a mistake that could become permanent. It could change my life forever because on the internet, the past is permanent. And it sort of caused a mental block in me.
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You know, I'm talking about the last few years, like maybe the last four years. I've really, really struggled with this. And it's made it really hard for me to show my personality online as much as I used to because I was so afraid of doing saying the wrong thing. I was constantly psyching myself out. I had a mental block. I had a mental block.
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And there's other reasons why maybe my personality was less present on the internet. I was less present on the internet. You know, this sort of mental block is not the only reason, but it's definitely a significant reason. Sort of the realization of the permanence of the internet combined with the rise of cancel culture, I mean, I'm not playing victim here. Okay. At all.
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This is not me like whining, being like, I'm a victim of, of this. And it's so sad for me and scary. I'm not saying that I'm, I'm literally just saying the truth of, of how it impacted me psychologically. I became so afraid that I started overthinking everything, you know? And like,
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in obsessing over every single little thing I said and censoring myself beyond belief because mistakes are received more harshly than ever now because of cancel culture. But again, they're also like, they're never forgotten now. So I don't know. I understandably became obsessive about every single thing that I put on the internet of myself.
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And it became boring and bland and sort of vanilla even for a period of time because I was too scared to almost like fully just be myself and be normal because I... I couldn't stomach the fact that if I show myself and it's maybe not received well in one way or another, it's now permanent. I couldn't handle it.
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You know what? It's pathetic how addicted I am to YouTube shorts. It's pathetic. Okay. It's pathetic because I've taken extreme measures to manage my social media addiction. And yet somehow I found a way to get addicted to YouTube shorts. Okay. I got two phones.
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YouTube Shorts was the last chance I had to scroll, or so I thought. I already found something else to scroll on. But this is a little bit healthier. And I don't think I'm going to become addicted to this, but it allows me to scroll in a way that is mentally stimulating. And when I'm on the toilet, I open this app and I look. This is the app Tagwalk, okay?
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Like, oh my God, I thought you were wearing a sweater, but then I just walked up closer and it's actually like a mesh shirt. Like, that's so weird. Like, because it was printed on. That's so cool. That's funny the first few times, but the more you see it, the less exciting it is. And then you're like, eh. I'm good. And then the last example would be just realistic prints of stuff on clothing.
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And the example I gave was of faces because that's what I saw. I don't know how I feel about this. I definitely don't think that it's timeless. I think it's a bit odd. Like there's something sort of weird and unsettling about looking at a piece of clothing and it just has like a big face on it or something. Let's even take it a step further beyond the runway.
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Let's say there was a big realistic image of a dog on a garment, or there was a big realistic image of an apple on a garment. That actually sounds kind of cool. You know, that actually might just be so odd and unusual, the concept of like printing something realistic and large on a shirt. That actually might be so odd that it's timeless, if that makes sense. Like it's such a unique idea.
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It's so weird. that it might always sort of be intriguing. So maybe that's the most timeless of all of these examples in this sort of category of like semi-realistic photographs and prints on clothes. But all the garments that I saw that had these big, realistic looking photographs of people, I was like, that is one of the weirder things I've ever seen. I don't think I love it.
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I don't think I love it. It weirdly is so odd that it's almost like Timeless. I don't know. I'm confused by it. Moving on. I've been seeing so many body suits worn without pants. OK, so like almost like a leotard. But I've seen them in many different forms. There's infinite body suits on the runway right now like this. Some of them are long sleeves. Some of them are short sleeves.
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Some of them have cutouts. Some of them are lace. Some of them are stretchy. Some of them are like there are so many. But I'm just seeing a lot of sort of body suits where it almost looks like a one piece swimsuit of some sort going down the runway. I find it fascinating because, again, you know, this is not a trend that you can actually go out and wear. You know, you can't go to work.
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You can't babysit your little cousin. You can't go to church. You can't even really go to the grocery store in one of these leotard sort of bodysuit, sort of one-piece swimsuit looking pieces. However, you can layer a bodysuit. You can wear a bodysuit with a skirt. You can wear a bodysuit with pants. On the runway, it's being shown alone.
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But I imagine that maybe they're doing that to just showcase the design of the bodysuit. And they actually would recommend their customer to wear it with pants, of course, because that's kind of how you would have to wear it. But I don't know. I think the concept of sort of a one-piece leotard sort of bodysuit, I think that is a timeless concept.
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And a lot of the ones that I saw were simple and versatile and classic, like nothing too crazy. So I would go ahead and say that the bodysuit is timeless. However, I do not love a bodysuit. Like in reality, when it comes to styling a bodysuit for day-to-day life, I don't love a bodysuit, okay? Number one, I find them to be very uncomfortable.
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Number two, I don't actually like the look of a shirt being tight. Okay, so if I'm styling the bodysuit with pants because that's how you would have to style the bodysuit for it to be socially acceptable, I don't like the look of a tight shirt tucked into my pants for the most part.
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I actually like the look of a slightly looser shirt where, you know, you can see the bottom of the waist of the shirt. Perhaps it's hitting at a very flattering point where, you know, on the waist of your pant. And I like that. I don't love tucking in a shirt. And even worse, I don't love a bodysuit where the shirt is flat to the body. I just don't like how that looks.
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I actually think I probably like a bodysuit best being worn by itself with no pants, like a leotard. Like that's actually the coolest way to wear it, I think. But again, that's not really socially acceptable. But I kind of think sort of the pantsless trend that we've seen mainly in high fashion, not as much in real life over the past few years is fun and exciting.
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Tagwalk is an app that basically just shows you runway collections, like fashion runway collections. It's actually really an incredible app. You can look up a fashion show that happened 10 years ago from a certain designer and you can find it on this app and look through it. There's professional images. Like, you get to see everything, right? So...
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And I've participated in it a few times. I went to a runway show probably a year ago now wearing sort of what I'm describing right now, like kind of like a bodysuit, a leotard almost with no pants. And I absolutely loved it. I also like probably a little over a year ago wore no pants to an event. I wore sort of like a leather underwear to a red carpet event.
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That doesn't really, you know, fall under the category of bodysuit, but it does fall under the category of no pants. And I quite enjoyed it. I thought it looked cool. I thought it was fun. But on both of those occasions, I'm wearing those outfits wearing in very specific environments where I can wear whatever I want.
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Cause that's part of the point of the event is like, get dressed up in fashion trends from the runway for this event. Right. So it's a very hyper specific, like if I, you know, didn't go to those events, I would not have an opportunity to wear those types of looks. Right. So I enjoy it. I enjoy a leotard, a bodysuit by itself for those types of rare occasions.
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But again, on a day-to-day basis, I don't get to wear that and I don't like the way it looks with pants. So I'm just not a fan. But I think the concept is timeless. I think the concept of... not wearing pants with it is not timeless.
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Because again, I don't think there will ever come a time where it's socially acceptable to go to school in a leotard, unless you're a gymnast and you have gymnastics practice at your school. You know what I'm saying? And even then, I think your teacher is going to tell you to put sweatpants over it. You know what I'm saying? It's never going to be normal, I don't think.
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So yeah, the whole pantsless trend, I think, is not timeless. But I think, yeah, a bodysuit itself. Sure. It's timeless. Okay. Next lace. I saw so much lace on the red carpet. Lace is just the textile of the season. It seems to me, I feel like every day when I wake up, I love lace a little bit more. But I just felt delighted every single time I saw lace on the runway.
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I was seeing lace tights, lace bodysuits, slash lace leotards, if you will, lace gloves, lace tops, lace leggings, like lace everywhere. Lace was happening. Lace could not be avoided. Everywhere I looked, I saw lace everywhere. Not only do I know that lace is timeless, okay? I don't think it's up for debate. I think it is absolutely timeless. I think its recent applications are even more timeless.
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I don't think I saw one bad use of lace. I looked at 50 runway shows. Not one use of lace was bad. I liked it in every single application. Now, there are times when I don't like lace. Don't get me wrong. In fact, up until recently, I didn't love lace. I really didn't love it. I was often disappointed when I saw it. It was often used in ways that I disliked.
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But as time has gone on, I've seen more and more uses of lace that I love. And then over the last week, seeing it be used in so many beautiful ways on the runway. Now I'm obsessed with lace. I love lace. Where's the lace in my closet? I don't have any. That's fine. If I find something beautiful that's lace, I might pick it up, but I'm not searching for it. I'll let it find me.
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I am sort of manifesting a pair of little lace gloves though, because I saw some lace gloves on the runway and I was like, that is really good. Also lace tights, though. I really enjoy lace tights. Personally, I'm less interested in like a lace bodysuit, even like a lace top. I really like lace being like a subtle detail, like a subtle texture addition.
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Like, yeah, lace tights, lace socks, lace gloves, little peeps of lace here and there. Perhaps like a lace turtleneck that could be layered underneath other clothing. That could be kind of interesting, too. But I prefer it more as like a subtle detail. But either way, I even love it when it's a main detail. I just think it's great. And I'm into it right now.
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And I just thought it was delightfully done time and time again. So I guess in conclusion, lace is timeless and I'm manifesting some lace gloves. I briefly pause this episode of Anything Goes to let you know that this episode is brought to you by Squarespace. You know when a website looks insanely good and actually works? That's probably Squarespace.
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And when you're ready, use squarespace.com slash Emma for 10% off your first website or domain. Now let's get back to the episode. Speaking of lace, I saw a lot of lingerie on the runway, like lingerie being styled, I feel like, as clothing that you could wear out.
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I think lingerie itself is timeless, like the classic sort of, here we go again with the lace, you know, lace, silk, underwear, you know, lace silk bra, bras in shapes that are classic, um, and sort of beautiful in a way, you know, the, the bras that I wear when I really have to wear a bra are absolutely hideous. Okay. But they do the trick, right?
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They're smoothing, they smooth everything out, but they're not sexy by any means. They're I feel honestly, I don't feel hot when I wear them. So, you know, when we think of these bras that are on the runway, it's like a beautiful bra, right? Not as comfortable and definitely doesn't look as good under clothes, but it's beautiful on its own.
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You know, it has underwire and boning that like makes it look really structured and, you know, beautiful. And like, again, you know, the materials are using lace and silk. It's like really luxurious. And then, the colors tend to be classic, white, black, red. I mainly saw white and black. But yeah, that is timeless. I think that type of lingerie is timeless.
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To be honest with you, I've never owned lingerie. To me, it gets in the way. That's my opinion. To me, it gets in the way. I prefer less stuff going on. You know what I'm saying? Like, oh my God, I'm about to TMI so much. People are going to judge me and they're going to be like, Emma, do you forget that like people listen to this? Yes, I do forget because I'm just alone in my office right now.
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So I'm just saying shit. I didn't wear underwear for like three years and I fucking loved it, okay? And no, it wasn't like some sort of like sexual thing. It was just, I liked the feeling. In retrospect, I have no clue how I did that because it seems so uncomfortable to me now because now I wear underwear again. I wear granny panties now. Full ass, full ass covered granny panties.
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I avoid wearing a bra as much as possible. My point of this is, lingerie to me is like constricting. I feel constricted by that. It's not comfortable. It's not sexy. It's not fun. It doesn't feel good. It's getting in the way. And I'd rather just be nude. Do you know what I'm saying? Anyway, I went on a little TMI tangent, which happens sometimes. But let's go back to the point, okay?
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Styling lingerie is in, okay? Styling it as clothing, not as lingerie. For wearing out, is this trendy or timeless? It's trendy. The concept of wearing undergarments as clothing, I think inevitably is trendy because again, I think that modesty... goes in and out of style. I think there are periods of time when it's more trendy to be sort of risque. And I think that's fun.
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There's nothing wrong with that. But I think being risque ends up feeling... What's fun about it a lot of times, I'm not saying all the time, but I think a lot of the times what's fun about being risque is that it's edgy. It's going against the grain. And then
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at a certain point when it becomes trendy and everyone's doing it, I think then it's like, wait, I don't really feel like, not as really drawn to this anymore. And then, you know, it kind of falls out of favor for a bit. And then it comes back in. Although I'm thinking about it now and I'm like, because lingerie itself, right? Like just lingerie in general is timeless.
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Like the design of it is timeless. I am sort of conflicted on whether or not just wearing it is timeless, even though it's sort of risque and that goes in and out of style because lingerie is timeless. Is it sort of timeless? I don't know. I'm kind of conflicted. I'm going to go ahead and say no.
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runway shows happening all the time that there's a lot of stuff to look at. And I love analyzing that. I'm actually having an incredible time. And I really don't think it's toxic. I actually think this is a valid replacement for YouTube shorts that is not unhealthy. I think
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I'm going to go ahead and say that the actual design of lingerie itself is timeless, but styling it and having it exposed is not. And I'm not fully sold on that, but that's what I'm going to say. Okay. Moving on. I saw quite a few 60s mod patterns. Okay. Kind of like quirky retro looking patterns.
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Like if you were to look up on Google right now, quirky retro patterns, you would see a bunch of 60s mod patterns. And I saw a handful of those on the runway. I saw it enough times to be like, to me, that's a trend. I'm seeing a trend here. I do not think the patterns are timeless. Every few years, they're cool again and they're in again. But then so quickly, they're out.
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And wearing a 60s mod pattern looks like a Halloween costume. It looks like You're dressing up like a 60s mod girl, like you're being Twiggy for Halloween or something. Twiggy, the iconic 60s mod model queen. I don't know. I do not think that it's timeless. In fact, I think it's one of the only elements of the 60s mod aesthetic that is not timeless.
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I think the 60s mod silhouettes, sort of boxier clothing, simple silhouettes, timeless. But the 60s mod patterns, I'm sorry, not timeless. I think a lot of patterns are trendy. Not all. There are a few patterns that I think are timeless. I think patterns definitely come in and out of style.
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One phone that has all of the social media apps downloaded that I keep in my office on the floor for moments when I need to post on social media. And then I have another phone that has no social media apps downloaded on it except for YouTube because I have a soft spot for YouTube. that I carry around all the time that is used mainly for utility purposes, right?
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Like patterns will have their moment, you know, but I think that there are some that even when they're not having their moment are not repulsive. Let me give you an example of another trendy pattern, and then I'll give you an example of a timeless pattern, okay? Another trendy pattern would be checkerboard print. When it's in, it's all anybody wants.
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And then the second it's out, it's actually repulsive. And even looking at it will make anybody who remotely likes fashion or cares about it nauseous. Nausea. Like I loved checkerboard print in 2019. By 2021, it made me sick. Now, some timeless patterns would be stripes, polka dots, plaid. I mean, it depends on the plaid.
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There's definitely some plaids that are not timeless, but I would say like classic plaid. I'm sorry, you can't go wrong. That's timeless. Those are a few examples. Those always work. You can always make those work. I mean, I predict that stripes and polka dots this year are going to be massive. I think that they're going to be the patterns of the year.
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Like when we look back on 2025, we're going to remember polka dots. We're going to remember stripes. But I think that they're timeless. Plaid? Come on, it's plaid. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's plaid. You can't hate it. You either hate it or you don't. Like, plaid was really trendy a few years ago, and I really loved it then. And then it sort of maybe went out of style a little bit.
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I'm equally as satisfied from this activity, but I don't think it's destroying me in my attention span like YouTube shorts did. Short form content is just not good for the brain. It's overstimulating. It causes anxiety. I'm already anxious. The last thing I need is short form content in my day-to-day routine. So I'm loving this, okay? And I've been loving this for like the past week.
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I still love plaid, you know? Whereas, like, checkerboard print, I really loved it, and then I fucking hated it. I don't know. Anyway, back to 60s mod, sort of retro-y patterns. Hell nah. Okay, next. I cannot tell you how many pairs of flip-flops I saw on the runway. It was unbelievable. There were so many flip-flops. There were pairs of regular flip-flops, just normal average flip-flops.
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There were little high-heeled flip-flops. There were little wedged flip-flops. There were flip-flops that were almost like a boot flip-flop, like where I've actually been seeing those for the last few years. That is not new, but alas, I saw it on the runway. where it's like a flip-flop, but then the top extends up the leg. Does that make sense? It's okay if it doesn't.
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They're kind of weird looking anyway. You're not missing that much. You probably wouldn't buy them anyway. You know, it's all good. I just kept seeing flip-flops over and over and over and over again. And it's funny because for many years, I absolutely hated flip-flops, like despised them, thought that they were hideous, would not be caught dead in a flip-flop. And then...
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I got reintroduced to the idea of a flip-flop when I sort of had this epiphany that a flip-flop might actually be cute during the summer. It might. A little classic leather rainbow flip-flop, okay? Not rainbow like color rainbow, but the brand rainbow, okay? If you don't know what the brand Rainbow is, it's a brand of like classic surfer flip flops. They're just classic.
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They have like a little rainbow tag on them. It's like super cute, super like California surfer vibe. Hawaii surfer vibe. Very nostalgic for me. You know, I like dreamed of having a pair of rainbow flip flops when I was young and I eventually got a pair and I absolutely love them. I think I got a hand me down for my cousins. Like they had rainbow flip flops and then pass them down to me.
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They were like a pinkish beige color and I was obsessed with them. Okay. They were so cool. So like surfer girl, California surfer girl vibes. I adored it. And a few summers ago I was like, wait, that's kind of a vibe. And so I wore rainbow flip-flops the whole summer. I don't know, like kind of in like a wannabe surfer girl way. You know what I mean?
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I cannot surf, but I can wear cute little leather flip-flops. And I did. And so that kind of got me back into the world of the flip-flop. Okay. Cause I was really against it. I thought that they were unflattering. I thought that they were like impossible to style. I was super closed off to them beforehand. So that kind of wore me back up to them.
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And then recently I bought a pair of like plain black flip-flops. I was on a trip to my hometown and my dad's a surfer, actually. He's actually like a good surfer. He's not like surfing big, huge, huge waves, but he's a surfer. He surfs almost every single day. And on this trip home, I decided to surf with him. It went terribly.
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And I had like a mental breakdown every single time that we surfed because I was so overwhelmed and scared and I hate the feeling of a wetsuit. But I didn't bring any flip flops on the trip. And so I had to buy a pair and I bought a pair of just like plain black ones. I wear these flip flops.
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So often I mainly wear them to my hot yoga classes because it's just like not fun to put a sock on in a shoe after you just sweat for an hour. Like that's disgusting. But I've actually ended up styling them as well. Like I think that they look quite cute with, you know, like a little capri or, you know, with like a little yoga pant, like a little like a sort of chic athletic pant. I don't know.
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They can even like weirdly look cute with jeans. Like I'm kind of into it. I'm kind of into the flip flop. And if you would have asked me a few years ago if I thought a flip-flop was timeless, I think I would have said no. But I actually do think a flip-flop is timeless. I think the concept of the shoe, right, is timeless. Do I think every single pair of flip-flop shoes are timeless? No.
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But I would say the concept of the flip-flop, okay? A little post going between your two big toes and then a strap, two straps going over the top of your foot like that as a concept is timeless. That will never go away. And I think when styled in a cool way or when designed really well, it is a timeless shoe. Do I think that there were a lot of really trendy flip-flops going on on the runway?
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Yes. I think the flip-flop that is sort of like a boot flip-flop where it goes up the leg a little bit, that to me is trendy. Again, it's a bit weird looking. It's a bit funky. And I actually think it's kind of cool. It's okay. Again, I'm not obsessed with it, but I'm also not against it. I definitely don't hate it. But I just can't ever imagine that being anyone's staple shoe.
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We'll see how long it lasts. But in this last week, I've consumed more runway fashion than I probably ever have in my life. And not only am I having an incredible time, but it's exciting because I'm noticing trends. Like I'm seeing things happen. You know, when you're observing every single runway show,
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Usually when you want to expose your toes, it's because the weather's warm. The weather's warm. You want to slip your shoe on and off easily. And a lot of times shoes that are easy to slip on and off have an open toe. But now if you turn it into more of a shoe, more of a boot, half the reason why you would wear an open-toed shoe to begin with, a flip-flop to begin with, is now kind of ruined.
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Because it's now a boot flip-flop. Yeah, it's just sort of like a pointless shoe, right? It's like half winter, half summer. You're exposing the toes, but you're covering the leg. If it's a hot summer day, it's 90 degrees, and you want to put on your flip-flops, but you have flip-flop boots, that's not very comfortable. You know? I don't know. I...
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But I think like a little kitten heel flip-flop is for the most part timeless. I think like weird flip-flop wedges, like let's relax. That's trendy. That is not going to last, you know. I think majority of flip-flops are timeless, but be careful out there. Okay, next we have another shoe. Knee-high sneakers. I saw this multiple times on multiple runways.
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To me, these are an absolute catastrophe and they are unforgivable. Yeah, they are. Yes, they are. They are unforgivable to me. They are atrocious to me. And I don't say that about a lot of stuff. I really don't. Like, I don't know. It takes a lot for me to call something atrocious. A knee-high sneaker to me is one of the worst things I've ever seen. And I never liked it, right?
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Like back in the day when I was a kid, like when I was eight, it was trendy to, you know, get the knee-high Converse. Remember that? I hated them back then. I hate them now. I'll tell you why I hate them. Okay. I'm not just like, oh my God, it's ugly. I hate it. No, I genuinely have like reasons for hating it.
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Number one, from a functional standpoint, you cannot get your foot into a knee high sneaker without a zipper, but there are laces all up the front. So it's an illusion. The point of laces on shoes is are to fasten the shoes once you get your foot in there. But you usually loosen the laces and then get your foot in. So it's already a little bit silly in that way.
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But to give the shoe the benefit of the doubt, I'm going to look at it as though it's like a boot. There are sometimes lace-up boots that also have a zipper. But the idea is that you put your foot in, zip up the shoe, and then tighten it even more with the laces. So Even though sneakers are more of a utilitarian shoe, like, you know, the laces are for tightening the shoe, fastening the shoe.
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If the shoe doesn't need to be fastened or tightened, it usually will have like a little bit of elastic. So you're slipping your foot in to a shoe that has elastic and there is no laces. There's never like a zipper to zip something up and then faux laces. Like if a sneaker doesn't need a lace, it's not going to have laces. It'll somehow fasten or close in another way.
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Elastic, Velcro, something else. But like a sneaker is a functional shoe, okay? A boot is more of a beautiful shoe. Like it's also more of a complex shoe, right? Like it's made often out of a stiffer material. The idea of zipping up a boot in the back and then tightening it in the front to me doesn't feel as ridiculous, right? But I think it's because that's the nature of a boot.
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you do start to notice the trends and the patterns and the things that are clearly in right now. I mean, I've gone to Fashion Week many times and I don't see nearly as much stuff because I can only physically go to so many shows. Sitting on the toilet and scrolling on Tag Walk, the app, has exposed me to more fashion than I've ever been exposed to in my life. And I'm having an incredible time.
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It's just a more complex shoe. Right. And in order to fasten it, it's just more complicated. But like the whole point of a sneaker, I feel like is that it's like a functional shoe. Right. So if now you have a knee high sneaker that you could never possibly get on unless there was a zipper. Now it's just making the whole concept of the sneaker goofy. It's just extreme. And now it's a gimmick to me.
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Okay, in addition to that, it is perhaps one of the most unflattering shoes on the planet. A sneaker is pretty narrow, right? So the foot is pretty small on a knee-high sneaker. The foot's small. And the shoe comes all the way up to the knee. But it looks imbalanced because when you have a shoe that comes all the way up to the knee... it sort of brings like attention to your calves, right?
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It takes up a lot of space. You know what I'm saying? Like it's bulky, it's there. And that sometimes looks good, like in the case of a boot, but it looks good in the case of a boot because a lot of times the base of the boot is a bit more robust, is a bit stronger. Whereas a sneaker is like,
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small and weak at the bottom and it just there's something about like a small and weak little foot in a little sneaker and then the entire calf being covered with fabric it just it's unflattering it makes the foot look small it makes the calf look wide and it makes the leg look short I'm not sure exactly why but it does whereas like a boot with a strong you know
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boxy toe perhaps and like a strong sole and like, you know, a thicker sort of heel and then a strong sort of situation on the leg, either something really tight or something more rigid that purposefully gapes a little bit. Like, I don't know. It just, it's a more balanced shoe. The knee high sneaker is so unbalanced and it looks horrible to me on everyone. No one is safe.
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Literally the hottest of the hot to me doesn't look good in the knee high sneaker. Bella Hadid, you're so hot. Don't put on the knee high sneaker. You know what I'm saying? Like Kendall Jenner. so hot. Don't put on the knee high. Like no one is safe. No one should put on the knee high sneaker. I don't care how hot and how beautiful and how tall you are. It doesn't matter.
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We're not ever going to wear a knee high sneaker. Moving on. I saw a lot of cowboy boots with a pointed toe. I wasn't seeing like cowboy boots, like Oh, I just went to Boot Barn and bought a pair of cowboy boots. If you don't know what Boot Barn is, it's like a cowboy store. And I just went to it for the first time because over the holidays, multiple of my loved ones had weird shoes.
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unique reasons to go to Boot Barn. There were multiple people around me who were like, wait, I want to see if they have any just plain black boots. And then someone else was like, wait, actually, this is weird. And I don't even know if I want one, but I kind of want to look at a cowboy hat because blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It was very random.
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So I ended up going to a place I never thought I would go, Boot Barn. They sell cowboy boots. They sell cowboy hats. They sell cowboy, cowboy, cowboy. I actually have sort of a cowboy in my family. My grandpa on my mom's side is kind of a cowboy and used to make horseshoes like he was a blacksmith. So like in this shit's in my blood. Okay. I should be going into boot barn. Like I'm home.
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It didn't feel that way. I was very overwhelmed. It smelled like leather. I found a pair of boots. I actually did like, like a plain black pair of, I don't know, like kind of motorcycle boots. They're just classic, but I decided against them. I was like, you know what, Emma, you already have something similar and you just don't need them. But anyway, um, just went to boot barn.
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What I saw on the runway over the last week is not what I saw at Boot Barn. Okay, the boots at Boot Barn are like classic cowboy boots. You know, a lot of them are beige. You know, there's like sort of this classic, almost floral looking embroidery that a lot of cowboy boots have.
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A lot of times they have the notch, like the sort of not notches, but I guess like zigzag embroidery on top of the toe. Like there's a lot of... similarities between cowboy boots. They have a lot of key characteristics. Majority of those characteristics did not show up on the runway. However, enough of them did that I would consider these boots to be cowboy boots. Okay. Number one, pointed toe.
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Anyway, let me get to the point, okay? Over the last week, I've really gotten caught up in current fashion. And I've noticed a lot of trends. And I want to analyze them with you. I want to analyze the trends that are on the runway now and discuss whether I think they're trendy or timeless.
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Okay. Not all cowboy boots are pointed toe, but a lot of them are. So that's number one. Number two, sort of the Part of the boot that is on your calf, right? I don't even know what you'd call that. Like the neck of the boot? Like the top of the boot? I don't know what you'd call it. On the runway, a lot of them had that sort of rounded shape at the top that is very much cowboy.
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And the seams were sort of in the same places. However, the colors on the runway were were very different. You know, a lot of them had elements that sort of made them look not cowboy like they were all black leather or all white leather or they were. painted or whatever. Um, but that shape I saw multiple times, particularly for men. And to be honest, I do think that this is timeless. Okay.
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Some people might disagree with me because a pointed toe boot, you know, it can be hit or miss, but I'm going to go ahead and say it's timeless because I do think that at any point in history, you can style a goddamn simple cowboy boot and make it happen and make it fucking happen. You know,
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Weirdly enough, I think the sort of pointy toe, almost cowboy boots that I saw on the runway, to me, because they're more simple and more versatile than the classic cowboy boot, you know, they aren't as Western feeling. They're vaguely Western, but they're actually more simple in a way, like they don't have the embroidery feel.
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they don't immediately read as cowboy boots, which kind of makes them super specific and niche immediately to what they are, right? I actually think that because of that, they're even more timeless than a classic cowboy boot because a lot of the ones I saw were like, It's very simple, almost like a modern, simplified, more neutral take on a cowboy boot.
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Although I do think I saw a neon yellow pair, if I can remember correctly, and those are not timeless. And neon yellow, anything to me is a catastrophe. And I do not like... Actually, no, there are moments when it works, but for the most part, I'm not into it. And Something like that is not timeless, but I actually quite like these boots and I think that they're pretty versatile and flexible.
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And so I'm going to go ahead and say for the most part, timeless. I love a little vaguely Western looking pointy boot. Okay. Next, I saw a lot of skinny little dainty belts. Okay. I've actually been seeing these for a while now, but I just kept seeing them. So I feel like it'd be weird if I didn't mention them. I'm going to keep this short and sweet, okay?
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Just like Sabrina Carpenter, short and sweet. Skinny little belts are timeless. They just are. They're timeless. They always look good. They always look chic. You know, a belt oftentimes overpowers the waist area. I really love the way that a little thin sort of belt looks. It's just chic and it's elegant and it's not overpowering. And I don't know, I think when it's done right, it looks so good.
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And I've been seeing it time and time again, and it's still happening. But I think for good reason, because it just... It allows you to sort of cinch the waist in a delicate way. And most belts are not delicate, are not sort of precious. But I think a skinny little belt can be so precious and so elegant as well. Like belts are not often elegant, in my opinion.
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And this is actually a series here on Anything Goes called Trendy or Timeless, where we take fashion and discuss together whether we think it's trendy or timeless. And you can't tell me because I can't hear you. So it's sort of actually just one-sided. I'm just telling you if I think it's trendy or timeless. But I'd like to think that it's a conversation. It's not. It's one-sided.
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In fact, like it makes sense that they're not elegant, right? A belt is used to, you know, make pants that maybe don't quite fit properly, fit properly. And when I think of elegance, I think of every single seam being perfectly placed on the body. I think of like clothing fitting absolutely perfectly. And so the concept of like, oh, actually something does not fit properly is
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Therefore, one must wear a belt. That is the opposite of elegance. Is that bad? Is that ugly? Is that? No, no, I don't think so. I think there's moments when belts look super cool. There are moments when belts are actually serving a purpose. And they look super cool. Like pants are too big and you're wearing with a belt with it.
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And like, that's sometimes the vibe, but nobody's ever saying it's elegant. It's definitely not. And I think it's cool how a little, you know, dainty belt can actually be elegant. And it's kind of the only belt that can, which I think in my opinion that can. And so I just, I love a little dainty belt. I don't own any, but I like them. That leads me to neon yellow, okay?
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I saw a lot of neon yellow and I already said earlier that everything that is neon yellow, I almost hate. There actually were a few things that were more of like a booger yellow. Like they were less neon yellow and more like neon booger yellow. For some fucking reason that I cannot explain, the only neon color that I weirdly kind of like is like a neon booger yellow green.
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more leaning towards green but could read as yellow but like technically is sort of like a neon green booger yellow green it's the only neon color i don't hate i i there's something about it that i like like sort of alien green okay and i saw some of that as well so there's kind of a mix between like neon yellow and neon booger green alien yellow and green yellow green it's hard to say
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And I do kind of like that. So like, but I don't think any neon is timeless. I have a hard time with that. Like full neon, it's not timeless to me. It's just too loud. It's too loud. And if it becomes too popular, it just gets annoying. You get to a point where you're like, neon's not even fun to look at anymore.
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Like at first it was fun to look at because it's so bright and wow, that's so beautiful. But then you get sick of the saturation and you're like, this is just becoming annoying. I don't know. At least that's what happens to me. Anyway, neon is not timeless, but I do enjoy like a neon alien booger green. I have to say it. Moving on. A lot of mesh in sheer sort of synthetic fabric. Okay.
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I do think that mesh in general, and I'm talking about like mesh that's like, not like wide mesh, but like really narrow mesh, like just like a, a shirt that's sort of see-through, but it doesn't have like holes in it. It's like mesh in a way where it looks like one solid piece of fabric, but you can see straight through it. Right. That's what I'm talking about with mesh.
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I actually saw mesh used in some very beautiful ways. that were very elegant, very beautiful. My only concern is that mesh does tend to defeat the purpose of clothing, right? The purpose of clothing is to cover your body, stay warm, you know, express yourself as well.
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But first and foremost, you're covering up your genitalia and you are staying warm depending on the weather or cooling off depending on the weather. So that means wearing less, you know, but either way, It's usually about function first. And the challenging thing about mesh is that you can see your nipples through it. You can see your belly button through it.
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But it feels to me like a conversation. Without further ado, this is trendy or timeless. This is what I've been seeing on the runway. Let's get into it. Let's start out with shirts being worn incorrectly. Shirts where like the neckline, okay, where the neckline would be. is pulled down.
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You know, you can see your butt crack through it. You can see everything. And on the runway, a lot of times you do see nipple. And again, like you can't wear that very many places. So that sort of makes it challenging. But I do think overall, despite that red flag, it is timeless because I think that there's always a way to utilize mesh.
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Like at any given moment, you can figure out a way to make mesh work. You know what I'm saying? I think unlike, say something that's a wider mesh, like a fishnet tight, you know, unlike a fishnet tight that I think is more trendy because it's just, it's such like a statement. It's so, it's very, it's a loud sort of piece.
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Mesh is so versatile and it's so buildable that I do think that it kind of always works. But I do think that there are moments where it's super trendy. And I think right now is one of those moments. Next, I saw a lot of snake print. I hate it. I really don't like it. I saw a lot of snake print and I just couldn't stand it. Every single time I saw it, I said, wow, that's a shame.
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That's a real shame because it's just not good. I think I personally don't like it because... I don't know. I find like this sort of exotic like animal prints like snake, alligator, zebra, leopard. It feels so, I don't know, to me like an exotic fabric or pattern feels sort of gaudy. flamboyant. You know, it's loud and it's like, look at me and look.
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I mean, those patterns, though now for the most part, you know, being faux, right? Not actually coming from a snake. Well, I guess it depends on the brand, but, you know, not actually coming from a snake, not actually coming from a leopard, not actually coming from an alligator. You know, a lot of these things are often faux these days. I mean, again, it depends.
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Some of the high-end brands still do use you know, the actual animal. But when it comes to going to Urban Outfitters or Zara or something like that, of course it's not real, right? And these trends tend to carry into these places. So anyway, but this sort of concept of like exotic furs and stuff like that
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it goes back to, you know, the way that people showed off their wealth back in the day, long time ago. Like, hey, look at this, you know, rare animal that I'm wearing. That's how fucking rich I am. And I just think that because it's rooted in gaudiness and flamboyance, it's rooted in being like, oh, look at me, very wealthy in my snake skin, you know? And like that,
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So now the top is like a tube top, but the top of the tube top is actually where the neck of the shirt would normally be. Okay. And then the arms are tied around the waist. Okay. That's one example. Another example would be a shirt that has folded shirts sewed onto the front. okay? Imagine you're at a retail store and you see a bunch of shirts folded up on the shelf.
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sort of like flexing, flexing is not timeless. There are times when flexing is in and, you know, like showing off is in, and there are times when it's out. And I think right now, even it's out, which is kind of ironic because, you know, I'm seeing a lot of snake pattern all over the runway. But it's not necessarily being used in a super gaudy way.
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It's not being paired with a snakeskin boot and a big, puffy leopard print jacket and big gold earrings. It's not being styled in that way. But it still reads like that to me. Even when it's paired with things that are more simple and subdued, I still feel like This just feels, I don't know, it like feels icky to me. There's something about it that's just icky to me. It gives me bad vibes.
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Yeah, I just don't love it. And I don't think it's timeless. I don't think any exotic animal patterns are timeless. Moving on to exaggerated body shapes. Okay, I saw some like big pointy shoulders and I saw a lot of big exaggerated hips that were built out using some sort of boning underneath the piece, like big exaggerated hips.
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You know, I actually do think that exaggerating body shape is timeless. And I think it's a cool concept, you know, that like through clothing, you can in a way sort of reshape your body using, you know, various bonings and like little small sculptures inside of your clothing. You can now move around with a fully different shape. It's very cool.
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Like the idea that like you could wear a dress that has beautiful, you know, puffed up shoulders and like a beautiful wide skirt, right? And now when you walk around, you take up this space and you're demanding the attention of the room. Like there's something very cool about that. I like it. It's a great example of like, using fashion to sort of express yourself. I don't know.
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I think it's a cool concept. So I'm into it and I think it's timeless. Moving on to non-athletic leggings. Okay. I'm talking about like knit leggings, leggings that maybe are in some sort of like synthetic material, but wouldn't be worn for working out. Like they're fashion, fashion leggings, not timeless. I don't think so. I don't know. Maybe I'm wrong.
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But in the same way that like wearing lingerie feels like you're kind of wearing your undergarments outside of the clothes. Like how can that be timeless if it's like not like socially, like it's not really socially acceptable. Like you can't really wear that around. Same thing with like leggings. Like leggings, I think up until somewhat recently, leggings were worn underneath clothing.
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And you would never wear your leggings out. You know what I'm saying? And I don't even think leggings fully existed until recently, but like a version of leggings existed, right? You know, whether it was tights or long johns or whatever for keeping warm. I don't know. I just think it does sort of feel like an undergarment.
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And I'm not, I promise you, like I'm not somebody who is super, like I don't care about Like if somebody wants to walk around with their nipples out, I don't fucking care. I'm not super traditional. Like, oh, well, that's an undergarment and that should not be worn out. I'm just like looking at it from like a societal standpoint, not like I wore a bodysuit with no pants to a fashion show.
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I wore leather underwear to a red carpet event. It's very clear that I don't give a fuck. You know, I've had my boobs almost out on multiple red carpets. OK, I've had a one inch piece of fabric around my chest holding my boobs in and that's it on a red carpet. Boobs fully out. Majority of the boob, you know, probably 70 percent of the boob out on a red carpet. I've done it.
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So it's like I don't care. But when I'm trying to figure out if something is timeless, I have to consider its history. Like, would this have been acceptable 50, 100 years ago? Leggings? No. And so then that sort of begs the question, like, what's going to happen in the future?
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You know, is modesty going to sort of come back in style and this will look choogy and weird and, you know, unsophisticated? Like, I don't know. But I do think overall a legging is... Like a legging for exercise, I think is timeless because it's serving a purpose, but like a legging for fashion, I'm not so sure. And I could be wrong and we could be sort of in a new era.
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And for the rest of time, you know, a legging might always be able to be styled properly, but it's, I just feel like they're so tight in revealing and hard to style and make look good. I just have a really hard time believing that they're timeless. I feel like I remember them being trendy in the 2010s and then they went out in such a big way and nobody dared to touch a legging.
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Now, imagine you were to take that shirt that's folded and sew that onto the front of a shirt. I've seen that. I've seen, you know, shirts that have another shirt sewn on the front of it and it's kind of falling off. I'm just seeing a lot of this. Like, weird, deconstructed shirts. Shirts reimagined, okay? I'm seeing this everywhere.
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And now they're sort of starting to come back. But I really feel like everyone hated them for a long time. And yeah, I just, I don't know. I don't know about the legging. I'm going to say not timeless, except for for exercise. We got to wear our leggings, but yeah, I don't know. Maybe I'm wrong about that one. And last but not least, painted fabric, okay?
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Painted fabric in the way that it's supposed to look painted, okay? Like, I'm not talking about fabric that, like, for example, leather, which I guess is kind of a type of fabric, being... painted so that the leather is now a different color, but you can't see that it's painted. It looks seamless and smooth. I'm talking about paint that looks like paint, right? Like you can see smudges.
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You can see imperfections. There's clumps of paint. There's blotches missing paint, but then there's other parts with lots of paint. Like it looks painted. I've seen that, but I've also seen like spray paint where like something looks spray painted. But again, it looks like paint. Like the point of it is that it looks like there's paint on it.
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But not in the way of like something is distressed and so it has paint on it. Like not like, I don't know, I had this pair of cargo pants for many years that I actually did finally donate. But this pair of like beige tan cargo pants had like fabricated paint on it, like fake paint. But like only just little dots as though I was a painter and I had gotten a little bit of paint on the pants, right?
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That is not the trend that I'm talking about, okay? I'm not talking about like, manufactured organic distressing like that. Okay. I'm talking about like, it is a design choice to take paint and like paint all over the garment and then have it be imperfect. And like, that is the garment looks like it was painted by a person, not like paint accidentally got on the garments.
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Let's be clear about that. To be honest, I quite like it. I actually quite like it. I don't think I own anything that is painted like that, although absolutely insane story time that I'm mortified to tell. And honestly, I don't know why I'm telling it right now. Maybe I should save the story for later, but...
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I got a new laptop and I was like, I am so fucking bored of having the same exact design on my laptop, which by the way, is the design that Apple created. Okay. Which is a great design, by the way, big fan of Apple. Okay. Love the company. But I was just sick of like, I've been looking at the same sort of laptop for so many years. And I was like, I just want something different.
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I want, you know, to decorate it in some sort of way that's interesting. But I was sort of stumped for a bit because I didn't want to go buy a bunch of stickers and put stickers on it because that's, to me, it reminds me of like being a middle schooler because that's what I did with my laptop in middle school. It just, it didn't feel right.
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And I don't know, like buying like a snap-on sort of case, like that's cool, but that wasn't personalized enough. I was like, I want to do something personalized. I want to personalize my laptop. And I was online and I was like on some sort of shopping website. I don't even remember which. And I came across these Margiela boots, right? And the Margiela boots were painted white.
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They were black boots with white paint on it. And you could see the black boot coming through because the paint was sort of imperfect. And I had bought the black laptop. So I was like, hmm, what if I painted all white paint on my black laptop and let the black sort of peep through sort of like this Margella boot? And so I got out some acrylic paint. I Googled it.
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I was like, what paint works on a laptop? And it said acrylic, which actually ended up not being true. But I'll get to that part of the story later. Anyway, painted all over it with white. I was like, that looks actually not bad. Like I kind of liked it. But then I was like, what if I painted an Apple on top of the Apple logo that looks like a real Apple. So then I did that.
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I saw this at least in three of the recent shows that I looked at. To me, this is not timeless, okay? This is absolutely not timeless. Do I think that it's sometimes interesting and cool looking? Yes. But I have a really hard time with something that truly serves no purpose, right?
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And then I fell in love with it. Then it started to chip off immediately. And I was like, fuck. So then I bought a plastic case and put it on there. And now it's safe. My painting on my laptop is safe. It is so weird that I did that. But that was inspired by the Margiela boot that is all painted or whatever. So it's clear that I do like this, right? Do I think it's timeless? Probably not.
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No, I don't think so. Because again, I think such a strong design choice like that, such a strong choice of material, choosing to paint stiff paint onto clothing, choosing to make the texture that imperfect, just the overall look of it, I think is so extreme that it is not timeless, but I like it enough that I fully painted on my goddamn laptop. So clearly I like it.
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A laptop that like, I, it's like a brand new laptop. And I'm like, I'm just going to paint on it. It was, it was crazy. It was a crazy thing to do. It was very weird. But yeah, I like it. But I don't think it's timeless. But I do think it's actually a cool way to potentially upcycle pieces of clothing that you have that you're bored of.
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Like if you have a pair of black boots that have like a big scuff on them and you're like, fuck, like I don't know how to fix this like big scuff. Maybe you take it in and they're like, eh, like you should probably just buy a new pair of boots like this pair of boots, the big scuff. is kind of too big, can't fix it, you know, sorry. But the boots are still totally good.
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You could take a bunch of paint and fucking paint on them and give them a whole new look and it'll look fucking cool. So, you know, I think there's a lot of value in that trend. I actually quite like it. I actually tried to do that once with jeans and I actually did wear them a few times, but I think my choice of paint and my paint job was not great. And so...
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They did not stand the test of time for me. Anyway, that's all I have to say. That is it for today's episode of Trendy or Timeless. I hope that you enjoyed it. And if you did, tune in to Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday. I do Trendy or Timeless every once in a while, but I also do other fun stuff. So tune in if you'd like. Anything Goes is on YouTube now, okay?
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That's all I have for today. I love you all and I appreciate you all. And if it was up to me, I would just talk about fashion every day. I don't know why I love talking about it so much. I have no fucking idea what I'm talking about. What am I even saying? You know what I'm saying? I'm just fucking saying shit. I'm just yapping, yapping, yapping about God knows what.
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I'm pulling shit out of my ass. But let me tell you, there's nothing I love more. I just love it. And I appreciate you hanging out with me while I do it. That's all I got. All right. I love you all. I appreciate you all. And I'll talk to you all very, very soon. Goodbye.
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Like, okay, so when the shirt is being worn improperly like this, or, you know, there's a double shirt element happening, like, a shirt sewn onto another shirt, it's not making the shirt easier to wear. It doesn't make the shirt more attractive, right? Like it's not serving any purpose at all. It's not as comfortable. It's not as functional of a garment. And it actually doesn't look better.
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And for a long time, this worked for me. My social media addiction was cured. But then I discovered YouTube Shorts. And over the last few months, my addiction to YouTube Shorts has now just completely erased all of the work I've done to manage my social media addiction. So yes, I did have to delete YouTube off of my phone because I could not go to the bathroom without scrolling on YouTube Shorts.
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Like, I think an alternative to this that is timeless would be like layering three shirts, but wearing them properly. OK, so an example of that would be like wearing a white long sleeve T-shirt. with a beige short sleeve t-shirt over that with like a dark gray tank top over that, okay? You're wearing three shirts at once. You can see that. There's a lot of shirts going on. But it fits good.
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You know, it looks clean. It looks cool. In fact, I love that. Like, that's something I really love right now is layering a fuck ton of shirts. And the only challenge with it is that sometimes it's a bit uncomfortable if you're not layering the right kind of shirts.
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Like, you need to make sure that things aren't too tight and like the base layer is tight and then the middle layer is a little less tight and the top layer is... A little less tight, it's not the easiest thing to do, right? But when done right and when you have the right fitting pieces in your closet for it, it looks cool and it's actually quite comfortable. I think that that's great.
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But the idea of sewing a shirt onto another shirt and it's draping off and it looks kind of confusing and weird... It's not flattering. It's not structurally interesting. Like I haven't seen it done in a way that looks really good. It tends to look a bit awkward. And so I don't think it's timeless. Like I think it's probably exciting maybe every few years.
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Thank you.
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you know, like taking the mundane and deconstructing and making it into something brand new, using, you know, duplicates of itself to make it interesting. Like I get that. I get the vision. I bet it happens every few years, but it seems to be back right now with tops. And I'm just not obsessed. I'm not obsessed with it. And I do think it's trendy. I don't think it's going to last much longer.
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I cannot say this for sure, but I bet it comes in every 10 years. Like I bet 10 years ago, this was on the runway. And I bet 10 years before that, this was on the runway. And in between, it was not. That's my guess. I could be totally fucking wrong. So do not take that as fact. And I have no clue what I'm talking about.
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But I bet that this is something that just comes in like every 10 years when designers are feeling like they want to reinvent the basic, you know? Okay, next, I have been seeing so many fur coats. It felt like every runway show that I looked at had at least one fur coat. And even the shows that didn't have full fur coats... at least had fur details.
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Fur around the neck, fur around the wrists, little fur details. I do think fur is timeless for the most part. I don't think there's any point in history over the last how many years where fur looked bad. I think there are times when fur looks bad, you know, if it's like a bright pink fur coat, that's obviously not timeless, but like a simple neutral fur coat, you kind of can't go wrong.
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I mean, I'm personally not super into it. It's not really my personal style, but I think when it comes to classic neutral fur, I think it's kind of timeless. I do. Majority of the coats that I saw were pretty neutral, but I did see some more extreme ones. Some leopard print, some perhaps in weird colors.
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I'm not remembering perfectly, but because majority of them were neutral and timeless, I'm just going to say overall that the fur coat is timeless. Because I think, yes, it can be not timeless, but it's because it's deviating from the classic, right? And majority of what I'm seeing right now is classic. So I don't know. You probably won't catch me wearing a fur coat anytime soon.
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I mean, if my stylist, Jared, and I decide, wait a minute, we want to wear a fur coat. Don't judge, okay? Because we're unpredictable when we're together and come up with weird ideas. But when it comes to my own wardrobe, when it comes to what I'm wearing on a daily basis, it's not a fur coat. It's just not. But I do think that they're timeless. Okay, next.
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I could not... go to sleep without watching at least a few YouTube shorts beforehand. Like I fully became addicted. And so I had to delete it off of my phone. I'm talking about my main phone, like the phone, the healthy phone that doesn't have all the social media apps on it. It's still downloaded on the unhealthy phone, but I don't go on that one. So on my main phone, I got nothing, okay?
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This is a very oddly specific trend, so just stick with me. Semi-realistic photographic faces and bodies printed onto clothing. OK, like a dress that looks like it's see through and you can see the body through it. You know, a shirt that is printed in such a way that it looks like what a person wearing a cardigan would look like. Does that make sense?
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Like, OK, like the shirt looks like a 3D printed cardigan with like the folds in it. And like with the buttons sort of bent a little bit as though like a body is wearing the cardigan, but it's like 3D printed onto like a mesh shirt, okay? Or another example would be like a face, like somebody's face, like printed onto a garment, very large, like very large face, like printed.
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I've seen quite a few variations, but I would say the most popular is almost like, maybe we should call it x-ray clothing. where it's like a 3D printed naked body printed onto a shirt or a dress. So it almost looks like the piece of see-through and you can see body, but it's just printed on. That's the most common. And I saw that time and time again.
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But there were other versions of this too that I feel like are similar enough that I consider them to be the same. But that was the most common one. I think this is cool. I think it's smart. I think it's interesting. I think it's edgy. I think it's kind of tongue in cheek. It's like a bit silly. Sometimes it's sort of can either fall under like cool, edgy, badass. almost like smart ass.
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Like it kind of has one of two vibes. It's either kind of cool, edgy, smart ass, or it's silly, funny, sort of sweet, quirky. And I quite like it. I'm not obsessed with it. It's not like something I'm passionate about. But I like it. But I do not think it's timeless. I don't. Particularly the nude body, like the naked body trend where it looks like an x-ray is showing through the clothes.
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That, I think, is trendy because it's not like you can wear that everywhere. Do you know what I'm saying? It's not super functional. And it is very edgy and like a statement. And I think... For that reason, it's just trendy. I also think it's trendy too, because I feel like modesty as well kind of comes in and out of style. And it's definitely not like a modest choice, right?
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When it comes to bodies sort of being printed onto clothing that are not nude, okay? Like the example I gave of this sweater, where it's almost like you took a photo of somebody wearing a sweater and then printed that onto a shirt, right? I think that that's a bit less trendy than the nude trend, but I think what's truly timeless is the sweater itself, right?
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Like I think the concept of printing one type of garment onto another, making a long sleeve t-shirt look like a long sleeve cardigan, I think that sort of concept is a bit silly, is a bit tongue in cheek,
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And I think even though it's, you know, maybe a bit more wearable than the nude trend, I think the fact that it is sort of a novelty, it is sort of like this sort of tongue in cheek, almost humorous sort of choice. I think the problem with a joke is that if you tell it over and over again, it gets old. And I think that's what happens with that. You know, it's funny the first few times you see it.
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I am not going to lie. I'm a bit frightened. I'm a bit frightened because I just finished making my fourth caffeinated beverage of the day. Okay. I woke up, had a coffee, mid-morning had a matcha, then a little bit later had another one. And then now it's 4.45 PM and I'm having a third one. So this is my fourth caffeinated beverage of the day. This is very unusual for me.
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90% of my workout gear is just black. And the reason for that is, you know, when you're sweating and you're wearing like a pale blue workout set, you can see the sweat. And I mean, it doesn't really matter, right? Who cares? But I don't know. I just, I prefer black workout gear. And I also prefer shorts over leggings. There's a time and a place for leggings, but it's definitely not my routine.
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Especially because my workout of choice right now is hot yoga. Leggings are not ideal for hot yoga. It is so hot in there that I'm trying to have as much skin exposed as possible. So I get into that and then I put over that a sweatshirt and a pair of sweatpants. And then I slip on my slippers and I put on my little sunglasses and I pack my little shower bag.
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And then I pack my little purse, wallet, keys, hand sanitizer, phone, and I'm off. Okay, drive to yoga. And at the yoga place that I go to, the parking for yoga is on the ninth floor of the parking garage, okay? So I have to drive all the way to the top. And it used to piss me off so bad.
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I was like, oh my God, there's all this parking for the first eight floors, but it's reserved for, I don't know, another company or something. The parking for the yoga is on the ninth floor and it takes like... three minutes to get up there, which doesn't seem like a long time. But when you're like circling around up a parking structure, I mean, it feels long.
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Anyway, I used to absolutely hate the fact that I had to drive all the way up to the top floor of this parking garage. But I actually ended up finding a silver lining. I'll talk about that in a moment. But anyway, park on the ninth floor. And then I go into yoga. And I do sort of like a hot yoga Pilates fusion class. It is really hard, okay? It is one of the hardest workouts I've ever done.
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Every time I go into class, there's a 50-50 chance that like 30 minutes in, I'm going to really start to feel like I'm going to pass out. But that's why I really make sure that I don't forget my electrolytes Because I am drinking, drinking, drinking, replenishing, replenishing, replenishing the whole class. And I have found that that does help.
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When I first started, I don't know, I was kind of skimping on the electrolytes. Like the other electrolytes that I used to use, it's better for like day to day drinking, you know, at least in my experience. So anyway, I'm drinking that. I'm chugging that, whatever. Okay. It's an hour long class. I get out and I shower there. And it's kind of weird.
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I have a love-hate relationship with showering at the gym in general. Like throughout my life, I've always had a love-hate relationship with it. There are elements of it that I absolutely love. It's very convenient. But it's also kind of weird. There's people around. They're seeing you naked, perhaps. There's strangers and you're vulnerable and naked. I don't know.
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There's a chance that I won't, but I have a feeling this fourth matcha is going to impact me in a way that none of us are prepared for. That's the risk that you take when you deviate from your routine. You know, I know what happens when I have three caffeinated beverages. I'm good. I'm normal. Everything's fine. Now I'm throwing in a fourth. I'm breaking routine.
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There's probably foot fungus on the floor. You have to wear flip-flops in the shower. But after hot yoga, I am so soaked. My hair is soaked completely with sweat. My clothes are completely soaked through with sweat. I mean, I'm barely wearing any clothes to begin with, but it's soaked all the way through. The entire surface area of my body is covered in sweat.
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And getting in the car like that is disgusting, okay? And I refuse to do it. I used to do that and just shower at home. But the problem with that was if I was going to yoga every day, then every day sweat was transferring from my body and dirty clothes onto the seatbelt in my car. And it was starting to smell like sweat. And to me, that's disgusting.
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So now I shower at yoga and I have all my little things that I need. I only wash my hair once a week. And so I actually don't even bring shampoo or anything because if I'm going to do an everything shower, I'll just do it at home. So my yoga shower consists of using a specific vagina soap because if I don't use... a special vagina soap, my pH gets off like immediately and I start to have issues.
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It's uncomfortable. It makes me, I have very sensitive skin, okay? And that includes my vagina. She's very sensitive and she's very sweet and she's very nice. So I treat her well and I wash her with special soap, okay? And then I use a body scrub because I just sweat so much. I like need a body scrub. I use a eucalyptus smelling body scrub from the brand Necessaire. That's my favorite one.
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And then I'm using a face wash. And the face wash I use after yoga specifically is by the brand IS Clinical. It's like, it just, it looks scientific, the bottle. You're like, I trust this brand. Anyway, great face wash. Rinse my hair. That's it. I don't even have to wash it. That's the joy of having a bleached pixie. You never have to wash it and you don't even have to style it.
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It just kind of does its own thing. It's incredible. I get back into my sweat pant, sweatshirt, little outfit, and I'm out of there. Here's the silver lining of the nine floor parking garage that I mentioned earlier, okay? Starting on January 1st this year, I decided I was going to walk 10,000 steps a day, minimum, for the entire year. Just to see what happens.
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And spoiler alert, I absolutely love it. I mean, I absolutely love the routine of it. I have fallen in love with walking in a brand new way. It is just a joy. some days it's hard to get the steps in. You know, it's not always easy. Sometimes I'm like, you know, walking on my treadmill at like 10 p.m. because I'm like, damn, I have like 2,000 more steps. All right.
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You know, and it's raining outside and I can't like go for a walk outside like I usually do. Like, God damn it. But, I absolutely love it. And so the fact that now I am always trying to get steps in, it inspired me to start taking the stairs after my yoga class. So after this insane yoga class, I walk up nine flights of stairs up to the top floor of the parking garage to my car.
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And you know what? It sucks. It's uncomfortable. It burns. My booty hurts by the end, but it's super satisfying. It feels really good. And it kind of like wraps up my workout for the day. It's like, all right, I did that. Now I did my little stairs. I got my movement in. Now I can proceed to sit inside at a desk for the rest of the day and it's all good.
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So that is the silver lining of the nine floor parking garage. How beautiful is that? Then it's time to run some quick errands. Okay, nothing like intense, you know, go get groceries, get gas, you know, go pick up like printer ink from Office Depot.
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Like, you know, the vibe, like these are quick errands because mind you, this is so TMI, but I'm basically like naked underneath my sweatpants and huge sweatshirt. which feels kind of weird. And I'm wet because I just got out of the shower and I'm beet red. So this is not when we run the leisurely errands, going to the mall to get jeans, going to get my nails done, going to a hair appointment.
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And if I want to do that stuff after yoga, okay, that requires a bit more planning. I'm bringing an outfit that's to yoga. I'm changing into that after so that I look presentable. I'm bringing extra products. I'm bringing my hair care products. I'm bringing my skincare products so that I can complete my routine there. It's a whole other thing. So usually I'm just running some short errands.
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And to be honest, usually I'm going to the grocery store or getting gas. And when it comes to going to the grocery store, I'm usually getting stuff to make veggie burgers because I've been eating a veggie burger for dinner every night for like the past four months. I don't even know. It's been so long, maybe even a year. So I'm like, I'm so into the veggie burger right now. It's so fucking good.
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or I'm picking up stuff to make egg bites because that's one of my other staple foods. Like, you know, like the Starbucks egg bites, like mini little frittatas. Come on, you know what I'm talking about. I like to make those. And that's usually part of my like brunch, lunch situation. Or I'm getting gas, which to me is one of the most frightening activities. I am so afraid of getting gas.
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Everything about it frightens me. Number one, I'm afraid of somebody like jumping me or like mugging me. Like I feel like somebody is going to like rob me or something. I don't know. I just feel vulnerable. And I used to get back in my car. Like I would, you know, get out of my car, pay, plug the pump in.
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start pumping it, get back in the car, lock the door and be safe in there until I was done pumping the gas. But then I found out that apparently that's actually not a good idea because it can cause static electricity, which can then cause like a fire or a gas explosion or something. And it's like dangerous. And I was like, oh, fuck no.
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So now I am forced to stand next to my gas pump the entire time that it's pumping gas. And I'm shaking because I'm afraid that like something bad's going to happen to me because I'm vulnerable and I'm standing out here alone. And then nothing ever happens. And then, yeah. And then I get back in my car and drive away.
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If I didn't live in Los Angeles, I wouldn't be afraid, but shit happens in a city. You know what I'm saying? I'm very wary. I am constantly looking around. Yeah, it's a little, it's, it's just, it's, you just, you kind of have to be that way when you live in a city. But anyway, After that, I go home and it's time to make myself look a little bit more presentable.
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Okay, because up until this point, I've looked horrible the entire day. And for my own well-being, I need to clean up a little bit. Usually, I'm getting home and at max to my hair, I might put in a little bit of this like purple oil. Purple because, you know, the purple pigment helps combat yellowness in bleached hair. I'll put a little bit of that in to sort of smooth my hair out.
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And if I feel like my hair is really frizzy and out of control, I might put a little bit of wax in it to sort of shape it a little bit. But that's it. Like I'm really not doing much to the hair. And if it's really bad, like it dried horribly after yoga, usually it doesn't because usually I let it dry with my hood up. So then it like dries perfectly flat and in place. That's a little life hack.
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But if for some reason it dried horribly, I'll re-wet it and then, you know, let it air dry again and make sure to put a hood on or put on sometimes like a balaclava or something so that it'll dry flat. I only have to do that for like 15, 20 minutes and then it's dry flat. I don't have to use heat or anything. So that's sort of the hair routine. And then skincare routine is simple.
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I'm just doing a light moisturizer in a light sunscreen, okay? Then it's time to get dressed, okay? And let's be honest, I'm not putting on anything special, okay? But it's more special than earlier, right? Like the yoga outfit Mid. Who cares? The sweatsuit, the hoodie with the matching sweatpants that I tend to wear every single day to yoga, not cute.
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So what I'm usually getting dressed in is something that's a little bit cuter. OK, like I'll wear a slightly cuter pair of sweatpants, a slightly chicer pair of sweatpants, and I'll match the sweatpants with my top. And my top is like kind of a normal top. You know, it's not like a baggy sweatshirt or, you know, like a loose fitting PJ T-shirt.
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You know, like I'm wearing like a cute top and I'm wearing cute socks that match the top. And I'm wearing perhaps like one of my pairs of slippers that matches my outfit. So I am still ultimately in my pajamas. Yes. But I'm feeling a bit cuter, a bit more put together for the rest of my day. But listen, I work from home for the most part. I'm home alone all day, every day, almost every day.
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This is my life, you know? When it comes to my routine, like my daily routine, I am not getting dressed. I never get dressed. And now it's time to move to the kitchen, okay? It's time to eat. I briefly paused this episode to let you know that this episode is brought to you by Skims. So you guys know how hard it can be finding the right bra and underwear, right?
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Find wellness at Westin, one of the 30 extraordinary hotel brands in the Marriott Bonvoy portfolio. Now back to the episode. Breaking routine is kind of frightening sometimes. But that actually relates to our topic today. So about two years ago, almost to the day, not quite, but almost to the day, I made an episode where I explained my daily routine. And I didn't just explain it.
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After you place your order, be sure to let them know that we sent you. Select podcast in the survey and then anything goes in the drop down menu that follows. Now back to the episode. I am usually not that hungry in the morning. It depends. I go through phases in my life, but recently I haven't been. And so I wait until lunch and then I fucking go ham.
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Okay, so usually I'm having some sort of egg bite that I made prior. I tend to prepare them in bulk so that I have them for the next few days. And I prepare them at varying times of the day. There's no specific time that I prepare them. But I'm constantly switching up what I put in them. For a long time, I was putting broccoli and they were quite good.
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And then I had a traumatic incident with broccoli where I had to stop eating it because I found a snail or slug, sorry, a slug in some organic broccoli that I bought. And it absolutely traumatized me and gave me a complete food aversion to broccoli that I've been trying to heal ever since. And I can eat broccoli now, but only when I didn't prepare it.
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Like when I prepare it, it's really tough for me. I can do it if I like... put a bunch of garlic and Parmesan cheese on it. Sure. I can get it down. Okay. But I could get anything down if it had a bunch of garlic and Parmesan cheese on it. You could literally give me a fucking dog shit and it's crusted with Parmesan and garlic. And I'd say totally fine. I'll eat it.
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I will eat anything Parmesan garlic. So it's like at that point, it's not even like I, I'm not even really eating the food. I'm just eating Parmesan and garlic. Broccoli is simply the vessel. Okay. And I don't, that's not what I liked about broccoli prior to the food aversion. I liked it because I actually liked the flavor and the texture. I loved broccoli.
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So anyway, one day I'll get back there, but for now I'm completely, completely traumatized by it. So for a while there, I was weirdly putting peas and carrots into my little egg bites because they just kind of disappeared into there and have like a really mild flavor or whatever. Recently, though, I fucking unlocked the best egg bite recipe I have ever unlocked in my life.
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OK, let me tell you about it. I'm a vegetarian for the most part, pescatarian sometimes. I do eat fish occasionally nowadays. Imagine this, okay? We're chopping half a red onion, one red bell pepper, one green bell pepper, okay? We're chopping it. Oh, oh, oh, sorry, excuse me. And a zucchini. with the seeds scooped out. Fuck those slimy seeds. Get those bitches out of here. Okay.
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Then we're chopping it up. We're chopping it all up into small cubes and we're cooking that up with some fajita seasoning. Okay. You can buy it at the store. Chicken fajita seasoning on there. Then in another pan, I'm cooking up some whatever plant-based chorizo you can find. Okay. I've actually tried multiple brands.
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They're all good because they're all probably highly processed and using the exact same seasoning blend. Delicious. Okay. So I cooked that up. So now I have chorizo and then some fajita veggies in the other pan. Okay. Then I take a muffin tin, spray it, and then I do little scoops of the chorizo and little scoops of the veggies into each little tray and then top it off with egg.
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You can use egg, you can use egg white, pop it in the oven, 375 for 20 minutes, done. Boom. egg bites. So good. So I'll eat those a lot of times for lunch, like four of them, fucking pop those things. I could swallow them whole. They're so good. Oh, and I eat them with salsa and a bit of cotija cheese. Yum. It's delectable. It's delectable. Okay.
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And it's actually funny because growing up, my dad used to make me an omelet that was basically just like vegetarian chorizo with, uh, eggs. And it was like one of my favorite foods when I was younger. I kind of forgot about it for a while. And then recently I, I kind of came up with this recipe and it was so good. So I have like four of those, four little egg bites. Okay. To start.
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Then I'll make a little yogurt bowl. Fuck it. Fuck it. Let's make a little yogurt bowl. Recently I've been enjoying some vanilla yogurt, vanilla Greek yogurt. Delicious. And I'll weirdly put on top of it some cereal. Recently, I've been topping my yogurt with just like a fuck ton of cinnamon cereal. And I mix it up so that it's like mainly just cereal.
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I explained it in such gruesome detail that I don't know how any of you sat through it and listened to it. Unnecessary amounts of detail. And it's been two years and my routine has changed a bit. And I think it's time that I do it again. And so today I'm going to be sharing my current routine in unnecessary detail.
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But each piece of cereal is coated in a bit of yogurt. Yum. Yum. Okay, so that's what I eat. And by then I'm so full and I'm feeling really good. And then it's time to make another caffeinated beverage. This is usually gonna be a matcha. Recently, I'm like very much into matcha. There was a period there, I don't know, two years ago where I was like fully coffee only. I wasn't on matcha for a bit.
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I'm back. I'm at least having one matcha a day, but sometimes two. So I most likely make myself a matcha Or perhaps an iced latte, depending on the mood. And then I get back to work. And at this point, it's like, you know, I don't know, 2 p.m. I still got a whole day ahead of me. If I have the energy, I'll record another podcast. And that's what I'm doing sort of right now, right?
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Like, it's a bit later in the afternoon, but why not? I do two episodes a week of this podcast, right? And a lot of times, that's sort of easy to keep up with. It's like, okay, you record two episodes a week. But I've been recently trying to record a podcast at any time I have an idea, any time I'm feeling inspired. And if that means recording six episodes in a week, I'll do it.
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You know what I mean? Because that... only gives me more time to plan for other episodes, but also to work on other parts of my career more intensely. It frees up some time to do some other things. So whenever I'm feeling inspired, I'll do it. And so that's why I mentioned it as a part of my routine, because there are two points in the day where I'm asking myself, am I ready to record a podcast?
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But when I'm not recording a podcast, which is a significant amount of the time, I'm definitely not recording two podcasts every single day. Sometimes I go, you know, three days without recording a podcast. Sometimes I'll go a full week. But when I'm not recording a podcast, I'm working on, you know, other things, as I mentioned earlier. And I'm just at a desk and I'm just sitting.
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Although sometimes I like to work on my treadmill because I'm trying to get 10,000 steps per day this year. And because my job doesn't involve any walking, I have to be... really thoughtful about when I get my steps in. That's why I'm taking the stairs. That's why when my work allows it, I will work while on the treadmill. I'll set up my little iPad.
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I'll be in my cute little sweat pant outfit, pop on my little running shoes, and I'll walk on the treadmill. And I'm not like... walking fast. I mean, sometimes if I'm brainstorming stuff, I'll walk fast and just listen to music and think. But sometimes I'm there with my iPad, typing on it and stuff. You can't walk that fast. So it's not really about speed. It's just about moving.
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Because otherwise, I am sitting all day. And Like 9 p.m. will roll around and I only have 2,000 steps. And then what? I'm fucked. I'm like forced to walk, you know, for like an hour and a half at 9 p.m. And that sucks. You know what I mean? And then around this time, I'll have probably my final caffeinated beverage. Again, usually an iced matcha latte or an iced latte.
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I mean, I am just going to be telling you about every single little thing that I do every single day. The reason why I feel like it's okay to do this is because this is the type of thing that I find interesting, okay?
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Sometimes I'll have a snack. My snacks are really random and depend on what's in the fridge. Like if I recently went to the farmer's market, okay, great. I'm going to have a bunch of fun fruits to eat. Okay. So I might have some fruits. If I went to the farmer's market, I might have fresh hummus from the farmer's market. Okay. So I might be eating some crackers with hummus or something.
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You know, I always have popcorn. I love these little pecan cookies. I Recently, I've been absolutely pounding those when I'm in the mood for a snack. Sometimes I'll have another yogurt cereal bowl. Recently, that's just been hitting for me. And so I'll have another one of those. And it's at about this time that I'll make one of my favorite beverages in another Stanley Cup.
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I've been sipping on my electrolyte Stanley Cup drink throughout the day, and it's probably running low at this point. So it's about time to make one of my favorite beverages, non-caffeinated, sparkling water with apple cider vinegar. Yum. I love this because I love the taste of vinegar for some reason that I can't explain. It might also help my stomach. It might also have good digestive impacts.
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I don't know. But anyway, so I'll fill up my Stanley cup with ice. I'll get out my water carbonator or just drink carbonator. It can carbonate anything. I'll get that thing out, the little machine, refillable, of course. They're like little refillable bottles. Attach it to the machine thing. Press the button. Carbonate water, okay? I can't even tell you how many cans I used to go through.
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I usually stop drinking caffeine after my third caffeinated beverage, latest 2 or 3 p.m. It's later than usual. Even though I think I have a high caffeine tolerance, I just don't want to have some sort of panic attack. I also don't want to be up all night. So I'm a bit frightened, but I'm exhausted. I'm exhausted right now. And if I don't drink this, I'm going to take a nap.
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Not anymore. I've never been more eco-friendly, you guys, okay? My waist has gone down so much. because I'm carbonating my own water. I'm not going through 10 LaCroix cans per day anyway, because I used to be able to fit two LaCroix cans into my Stanley cup. So every time I'd fill it up, I was putting two whole cans in there. It was such a waste of can. It was just unnecessary.
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If somebody made a podcast episode about their exact daily routine, exactly what they do from the time they wake up to the time they go to sleep, I would listen to that and find it fascinating because I think people are fascinating. We all think people are fascinating. I don't know. There's something sort of precious about the way that we entertain each other.
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So I've been carbonating my own water. Incredible. Put a little bit of apple cider vinegar in there, probably two or three tablespoons, mix it up, and I'm sipping on that for the rest of the evening. So, you know, we're having a snack, we're making our final caffeinated beverage, and we're making a sparkling water with vinegar, okay? This is usually what's happening.
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And then after that, I'm back to work for the rest of the evening, okay? I might be at the desk, I might be recording a podcast later in the evening. If I got, you know, sort of a second wind in the early evening, I might just be doing computer work. I might be working on the treadmill still. Like, who knows? Okay. Maybe I have a Zoom call. Boring. Then it's time for dinner.
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And I have been really good about not eating out during the week for the past long while, honestly. I actually don't remember the last time I was in a routine of eating out for dinner, either, you know, ordering restaurant food delivery or even going out, you know. I, during the week, have been cooking dinner almost every single night. And dinner varies.
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You know, I love making chickpea pasta by the brand Bonza. High protein, good for us vegetarians. Throw some veggies in there. Have a huge fucking bowl of that with some nutritional yeast on top, which is some sort of weird yeast substance that sort of has a cheesy flavor. It's kind of like a, you know, vegan alternative to cheese.
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I do eat normal cheese, but I actually really like the flavor of nutritional yeast. So I eat that a lot. I make veggie burgers a lot, but I mentioned that earlier. So that's not a shocker to you. I've been eating a veggie burger almost every single night for months, months. And that consists of a classic bun, A Dr. Preger brand veggie burger. Classic Heinz ketchup. Classic French's mustard.
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Deli hot spicy mustard. Okay, so two mustards on this burger. And dill sour, sour, sour pickle chips. Okay. That is my veggie burger and it's fucking delicious and it's easy and it's quick. If I'm feeling really inspired and I go through phases, I will crack open a cookbook and I will make a recipe from scratch. And I absolutely love to do this.
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But sometimes it's like not worth the risk because I don't always love recipes that I make, right? Sometimes I'll copy something from a cookbook and I'm like, you know what? It's actually just not my, it's not my thing. I just don't really like it. But it is exciting and fun sometimes. But I would say more realistically, I'm having something simple. I'm having a veggie burger.
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I'm having a simple pasta dish using bonza pasta. It fills me up. It's filling. It's got protein in it. The veggie burger has absolutely no vegetables. The pickle is a vegetable, all right? So relax. I'm so off vegetables right now. I'm off of them. And I was in, I loved vegetables, but the whole, you know, slug incident with the broccoli just really fucked me up.
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Anywho, then it's time to take my evening pills and then it's time for a sweet treat. I went many, many years in my life without a sweet treat, but I recently got into the routine of a sweet treat because I was taste testing pastries for the new Chamberlain Coffee Cafe and in the Westfield Century City Mall, aka the best fucking mall in Los Angeles. It's an incredible mall.
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sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally. Actors entertain us in movies and random strangers entertain us in a coffee shop. People are interesting. They don't necessarily have to be doing anything interesting to be interesting. Somebody's simple daily routine can be interesting. And that's why I feel inclined to share my daily routine with you. my chest is already kind of getting tight.
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The cafe opened late January, if you haven't seen it or heard about it. Very exciting. Absolutely obsessed. Unbelievable dream come true. Can't believe that it happened. But anyway, I was taste testing pastries for months, okay? And I was constantly getting sent, you know, different samples of pastries from different bakeries, I guess. And they were always sending too much, okay?
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They would send like five chocolate chip cookies, six, you know, coffee cake slices. Like they would send way too much, okay? So I kept just freezing everything, okay? And for months, I just had all these frozen pastries in my freezer and I wasn't eating them. And then at a certain point, I was like, I really should start cracking into these.
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And now it's become a ritual because every night for months- I was defrosting a different Chamberlain Coffee Cafe pastry sample and eating it as my little sweet treat after dinner. And it became such a sacred ritual that now I have to have a sweet treat every night. And sometimes that means, you know, extra pastries from the cafe.
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Sometimes, you know, I buy some like pre-made cookie dough from Whole Foods or something and like... We'll, you know, use that. But anyway, now I have to have a sweet treat every night. And I was never that person. I've never been a dessert person. I've always been more of a savory person. Like I'd rather eat tater tots than like a chocolate chip cookie, man. I don't know.
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Like it might be something with age. I'm realizing that the older I get, the more I love sweets and pastries and stuff like that. So anyway, have to have a sweet treat. Then it's time for a long walk. Okay. I've been really enjoying the evening walk, the after dinner walk. I've talked about it before because I love it so much.
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The after dinner walk didn't make its way into my daily routine here in Los Angeles until I made the 10,000 step a day goal. Prior to that, I don't know, like my neighborhood has a lot of like hills and stuff. I was always like, I don't fucking want to walk. I don't want to walk here. However, whenever I visit my dad, we always go on an after dinner walk.
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Or whenever we're on a trip together, we always go on an after dinner walk, but never on my own. But I'm so into it now. Now I'm like, what's wrong with me? I always found so much joy in the walks with my dad. Like, why didn't I integrate it into my routine sooner? Now it's incredible because it's like, I go to visit my dad or we go on a trip, evening walk. Now at home, evening walk.
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It's a consistent in my life and I really, really love it. Um, I usually will walk around, honestly, between one and a half and three miles. It sounds long, but I absolutely love it. And I just take my time and I'm in my sweatpants and I'm comfy and it's no big deal. And I end up getting like anywhere from, I don't know, like 4,000 to 8,000 more steps, depending on how far I go.
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And so, you know, I, I make sure that I hit my 10,000 And it's just a great way to end the day. And then after my nice long walk, it's time to get into the PJs. Okay. And recently I've been really loving wearing men's underwear and no, I'm not being like, oh my God, I'm wearing my boyfriend's underwear. He let me wear them. It's so cute. No, no, no.
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I ordered men's underwear because I know how comfortable they are because I've had phases in the past where I've been obsessed with wearing men's underwear and they're so comfortable. And I've But I also love to wear my favorite orange sweatshorts that are on the verge of ripping at this point because I have worn them to bed almost every single night for the past three years. I love these shorts.
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But I'm weirdly kind of wearing them less. I almost think it's because subconsciously I know that I need to stop wearing them as much if I want them to last because they're just starting to like get thinner and thinner and thinner and I'm getting scared. So I've been wearing either the orange shorts or the Calvin Klein briefs.
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And then, you know, I'm wearing one of my old soft t-shirts or if it's a bit warmer, perhaps some sort of tank top that I find in my closet randomly, any tank top that's soft and comfortable. Then I'm brushing my teeth, not flossing every night. Sorry, I'm not. I floss sometimes, but not every night. But I'm definitely brushing every night. I brush. I wash my face with a gentle, milky cleanser.
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I've been fucking around with retinol. So I have a retinol oil three to four times a week. I'll put that on and then top it with moisturizer, a thin sort of light moisturizer. I don't love super thick moisturizers. especially because I love oils. Like I don't need a thick moisturizer and an oil. I prefer a lighter moisturizer and then an oil. That's what my skin likes. Don't ask.
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Like, I don't know if I can finish this matcha. I'm really, I'm a bit worried. I'm a bit worried that this is going to really push me over the edge. So I'm starting to feel a little bit shaky, a little bit anxious. So let's just begin before I start dissociating or something. Okay. So I'm going to be sharing with you my generic weekday routine. Obviously there are exceptions. Okay.
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So on a retinol night, we're doing the retinol and then we're doing the moisturizer. Then that's it because my retinol is an oil. On nights when I'm not doing retinol, wash the face, light moisturizer, top it off with a beautiful, beautiful oil. Just like a hydrating, nourishing oil. I was really into using chemical exfoliants for a long time, many years.
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A toner or a serum that has some sort of chemical exfoliant property because that can help with sort of refreshing the skin or whatever. But since I started using retinol, I haven't been using any of those products because I'm frightened that if I do, I'll just over irritate my skin. So I'm just doing retinol right now. That is the only sort of irritant that I'm using.
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Everything else is like purely just hydrating or nourishing. Like I'm not using anything else that strips at all because I'm just frightened. You know, if I'm going to do like a face mask just because I'm in the mood, I'm not using anything stripping. I just don't want to run into any issues. So I'm being very careful, but I'm actually loving the retinol so far. I feel like my skin looks great.
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I don't feel like me removing the exfoliant products from my routine has caused me to like get clogged pores or anything. The retinol seems to be doing its thing and I don't really need anything else. Okay, then it's time to get into bed. I'm turning on my heating pad to either medium hot or hot. So, you know, it's up high.
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And I'm putting on a little silk bonnet on my hair because my hair is bleached. And I don't want breakage in the back of my head from sleeping and moving around on my pillow. And then recently I've been turning on TV and watching an episode of some sort of TV series. And this is so unlike me. Because for so long, I did not do this. But now this is my thing.
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Like I was super into Squid Game recently. That was the last sort of series I seriously watched. I'll rewatch old shows that I love, like just TV. And then at around 1130 or midnight, I go to bed. And that's it. And then I wake up the next day and do it all over again. And you know, it's interesting.
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You might have noticed that throughout the day, I didn't talk about turning on a YouTube video during my lunch or, you know, watching YouTube shorts when I'm on the toilet. And that's because I don't do that anymore.
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I was recently having a conversation with somebody who's close to me about like internet consumption and how even watching YouTube, something that I absolutely adore, is still internet consumption. And even though a lot of times it's educational or it's comforting or whatever, it is still consuming and it is still putting useless information into your brain a lot of times.
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And then, ironically, I saw this video on my YouTube Explore page, and it was a video by this man, and the title was something like, Stop Consuming, Start Creating. And it was like this inspiring video of this man talking about how he was wasting so much time consuming that it was getting in the way of him creating. And I thought it was so fascinating. And I was like, huh, you know what?
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I deleted the YouTube app right there. And I fucking love YouTube. I'm the first, it is my favorite website on the planet. Okay, I absolutely adore YouTube. I'm so loyal to it. I think it's an incredible platform. But, you know, it is my job to create things for YouTube. You know, it's my job to create things in general. And I think I was consuming too much YouTube, right?
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And it was getting in the way of me creating. And what was so fascinating was after I deleted it, creating things, recording episodes, working on Chamberlain Coffee, coming up with concepts for Chamberlain Coffee, you know, working on concepts for my YouTube channel, all of this became easier. And I was like, damn. Okay. Well, during the week then, no YouTube, no YouTube at all.
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When I'm traveling, if I have a photo shoot or if I have some sort of one-off like event, like every year I have a handful of events that I go to. Like there are some events that I go to for my coffee company, like some expos, you know, where we showcase our product to people.
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On the weekends, who gives a fuck? You know, and I did delete the app off of my phone, but like I can pull it up on my laptop. It was mainly an issue on my phone because I'd be on my toilet, you know, scrolling on YouTube shorts and then in bed scrolling on shorts, eating lunch, pull up a YouTube video on my phone. Anyway, I've been sort of existing in silence forever. for a while now.
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And it's so incredible for me creatively. It just, I don't know why, it just works for me. And so that guy in that YouTube video that got recommended to me, ironically, because it got recommended to me on YouTube, kind of changed my life a little bit. I mean, I really am grateful to that guy. I want to try to find that video. Let me try to find that video so that we can give him a shout out.
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Who is this guy? Let's see if I can find it. Oh my God, if I can't find it, I'm going to be really sad. Come on. Where is this guy? Can I be honest? I can't find him. I'm kind of heartbroken. Come on. It was like a man standing like in a forest. He was wearing like warm clothes. It's from what I can remember. And I think he had like either an Australian accent or perhaps an English accent.
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Man, I'm sorry. I really wanted to find you and I really wanted to say that you changed my life, but I cannot find you anywhere. I'm going to try a little bit harder. I told, oh my God, it's religious. Oh wait, no, that's not the right guy. Is it? I don't think that was the right guy. Hold on. Where is the fucking video? Wait, is it this guy? Okay, I'm so sorry, you guys.
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I really tried to find my best friend, this guy that motivated me. I cannot find his video and I'm starting to wonder if it got deleted, which would be a huge shame. But anyway, I'm sending loving energy to that guy because that was a really, really eye-opening sort of perspective. It was like what I needed to hear in that moment. And it really, really has helped me.
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Um, if I get bored during the day, instead of going on YouTube, now I will call someone. I'll call my parents. I'll call a friend. I'll call someone. Or if I'm like on the toilet and I just want to scroll for like three minutes. Okay. I'll either go on tag walk, which is an app that updates every time there's a runway show.
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So I can like look at new fashion collections or I'll go on Pinterest and just scroll around on there. easy. But yeah, I'm not really consuming anything right now. And can I be honest? It feels so good. Like my one episode of television at the end of the day is the perfect amount. It's entertainment. It allows me to unwind. I've actually been really enjoying it. So I don't know.
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That's what's working for me right now. But trust me, I'm not anti YouTube. Okay. I love YouTube. And on the weekends, I'll fucking open up my laptop and go on YouTube all day long if I want, because it's the weekend. The weekend is a free for all. And that's it. That's my routine right now. I'm actually really enjoying it.
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It sounds like a lot of walking and a lot of working and a lot of yoga and a lot of podcasting. That is true. I actually really love all of those things. I love making podcast episodes more than I ever have in my entire podcasting career, to be honest. And I think part of that has to do with how well it fits into this routine, you know? But I also am loving yoga.
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like grocery store buyers, like I have weird events like that that I go to, you know, like sometimes I'll have a handful of random meetings and, you know, those meetings are in person. So I'm like out of my house and my routine is broken. But my routine for the most part right now is super consistent with, you know, an occasional day that deviates from it.
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It's like the one part of the day where I'm truly centered and like, There's just something so incredible about that. I love walking. It's great for decompressing. I love walking while I work because it can kind of like help get the blood moving and like the brain moving. And I don't know, there's just something about it where it can be really incredible. I love veggie burgers.
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Like I like my routine. I like having three caffeinated beverages a day. It's the perfect amount. Today I'm having four. It's totally frightening. I've only drank half of it. Am I going to finish it? Probably not. It's 6.30 now. Probably shouldn't finish that. That will just screw up the rest of my week. But yeah, I'm loving my routine. It's feeling so good for me. It feels so catered to me.
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And, you know, there's a lot of discipline involved. There's a lot of working involved, but not to the point that I'm feeling burnt out. It's like the perfect amount for me. And when the weekend rolls around, you know, all bets are off. The only thing that remains the same is that I wake up at 7am. I wake up at 7am every day now because I find that I just feel the best when I do that.
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Uh, I still go to yoga on the weekends a lot of times just cause I love it so much. I just genuinely want to go. I still get my 10,000 steps a day on the weekends. Cause again, I love doing that and you know, it's fun. But when it comes to like getting worked on, absolutely not.
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I don't allow myself to work on the weekends unless for whatever reason I really want to, or I have to, for some reason, I like to just hang out on the weekends and The weekends are for getting dressed up into a cute little outfit and walking around town, okay? That is what I do almost every weekend. I've tried to do other things.
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Like there was a brief little period there where I was super into like going on a hike on the weekends. or, you know, going rock climbing. And I still love that stuff. But the truth is what I really want to do on the weekends is get dressed up and walk around town. Okay. What's walking around town? Popping into stores, just looking around, popping into coffee shops, getting a coffee.
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Oh, it's been another hour. I'll get another one. Getting a pastry. Okay. Getting lunch at a cute little restaurant, sitting there for three fucking hours. Who cares? It's the weekend. Go into a little crystal shop. I don't even know anything about crystals. I don't care about crystals because I don't even know anything about them. They have good energy.
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I don't know what's happening, but I'm in here because I can because it's the weekend. Oh my God, look, it's another vintage store. I guess I'll go in. Oh, everything in here is absolute junk. It's a bunch of like Disneyland hoodies. This is fun. I just like to walk around town, you know? I'll do that all day in my cute little outfit because for the rest of the week, we know I'm not doing that.
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I'm in my various different versions of sweatpants. So on the weekend, it's time to look cute. And let me tell you, I cannot remember a weekend where I haven't looked incredibly chic. Just banger after banger.
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And what tends to happen is during the week, if for whatever reason I do need to get dressed for some reason, like I'm going to a meeting or, you know, I have an appointment where I need to be dressed up for it, whatever, not dressed up, but like in a normal outfit, not just sweatpants, I'll just re-wear, you know, one of the outfits that I created on the weekend.
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But for the most part, this is what I do every single day. Starting at 7 a.m. I recently have been waking up at 7 a.m. and it feels absolutely incredible. I feel like 7 a.m. is the perfect wake-up time for me. When I wake up at 5, I'm exhausted by 4 p.m. Exhausted, okay? If I wake up at 6 a.m., I'm exhausted by like 6 p.m. And that's not good because there's a lot of day left still. 7 a.m.
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And then I'll just re-wear that outfit however many times until I feel like too many people have seen it. But like, that's when I experiment. I experiment on the weekends and then I can use those outfits that I came up with throughout the weekdays if I need them. But on the weekend, I have time to put together an outfit. It's fun. I want to.
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I also love running errands on the weekend and taking my time, spending three hours at the grocery store, getting nails done, getting my hair done, you know, getting a massage, like just getting appointments, errands, all of that done. And I also love going out to dinner. My God, I love going out to dinner. Texting friends, who's free? Let's go to dinner. That's what the weekend's about.
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I used to have a little glass of wine. Not anymore, I'm sober. It's fucking miserable. I'd do anything for a glass of wine. But let me tell you, nothing can ruin going out to dinner. on a fucking Friday, Saturday, or Sunday for me. No one can ruin that for me. Nothing can ruin that for me.
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Not even an alcohol allergy that's preventing me from drinking the glass of wine that I so desperately think that I need and deserve. I'm kind of kidding, okay? I actually don't miss drinking that much, but there was something so fucking delightful about having a glass of wine out at a restaurant for dinner. I miss it, but not that much. I'm being dramatic.
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I don't know how the caffeine affected me. I actually didn't have that much. I probably drank like a third of my matcha latte. So from a caffeine standpoint, like I should be okay. And that episode shouldn't have been too chaotic because I didn't have that much more caffeine than usual.
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I am going to take all of the ice out of this matcha latte and put it in the fridge and drink it tomorrow because I know I cannot have any more. I really cannot have any more. We're done. We're done. That's my daily routine. I hope that this was somewhat interesting to you.
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Like I truly, after I stop recording this episode, will pray up to whatever is above that you found this somewhat interesting. The only glimmer of hope that I have is that if somebody else made this episode, I would be interested in it. But maybe I'm a freak and a stalker. And maybe I'm overly interested in other human beings. Like maybe I'm weird. Maybe that's a weird thing. I don't know.
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So hopefully you enjoyed this episode. And if you did, new episodes of Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday. Come hang out again. Maybe you'll like the next one too. You can stream anywhere you get podcasts. Video episodes are on Spotify and YouTube, okay? Anything Goes is on social media at Anything Goes.
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I'm on social media at Emma Chamberlain and my coffee company is online at chamberlaincoffee.com and at chamberlaincoffee on social media and in person in a grocery store near you, okay? Target, Sprouts, Whole Foods, the list goes on. Check the store locator online to see if we're in a store near you. And that's it. That's all I have for today. I hope that you all enjoyed.
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If you did, please tell me. Please compliment me. Please tell me that you liked it because I really, really feel like this episode was just fucking weird and I just told you too much. And I told you too much about stuff that you just did not even care about. So please let me know if you liked it. And if you didn't like it, feel free to leave a hate comment, okay?
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My Instagram account is at ellendegenerous, okay? So find my account and then you can leave the comment there. Anyway, I'm sorry, Ellen DeGeneres. I don't know. I just, people say I look like Ellen DeGeneres in my pixie cut. So that's why I said that. It's nothing personal to Ellen. Ellen, don't like hurt me or something. Okay, that's it. I love you all. It was so much fun to hang out with you.
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It always is. I love you and appreciate you. And I'm just grateful that we get to spend time together twice a week because I really enjoy doing it. So yeah. All right. I'll talk to you in a few days. All right. Bye.
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I need to have three caffeinated beverages a day, but it's kind of the perfect time for me because any later than that and I just don't feel like I have enough day to work with. I don't feel like I have enough daylight to work with. I've noticed the 7 a.m.
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wake up time allows me to like have a really relaxed morning and then also get work done in the morning time before my other activities start, which will make sense in a moment. So I've been waking up at 7am and I'm not going to lie to you. Okay. I can't wake up at 7am on my own right now. I don't know what it is. I can't hear an alarm. I don't know what's wrong with me.
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I literally cannot hear the alarm. So I have to have someone help me wake up. Now, listen, Luckily for me, there is someone who sleeps at my house with me probably 95% of the time. So that person wakes me up. Without that person, I would sleep probably until noon. I'm not kidding. This person has to shake me awake every morning, fully shake me awake. Okay.
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From there, I put on my fuzzy robe, of course, warm socks, preferably wool, put on my little slip-on slippers that are a bit fuzzy. I've been wearing them for the past like six years. Go downstairs and it's time to make a coffee. I just recently bought a new coffee machine and this thing is a fucking beast, okay? I completely splurged on this thing.
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And I'm really trying to stop napping because I've just noticed that it ultimately only holds me back in life. It tends to have a net negative effect on my life. In the moment, taking a nap feels incredible. And a lot of times taking a nap is actually quite helpful because it ultimately gives me the energy to complete the rest of my day. But then it's harder to fall asleep at night.
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For a long time, I used a really standard home barista coffee machine. It was super user-friendly. It was super easy to use. You know, a lot of the complicated elements of making espresso were sort of done for you with that machine and I absolutely loved it. But I had always dreamed of getting a more sophisticated machine.
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Something higher quality, something, you know, beautifully designed, something like really respected in the industry. And I always sort of dreamed of getting the classic Italian espresso machine that you see in 90% of cafes you go to. And they make mini ones for the home. And I had always dreamed of getting one.
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But I told myself, Emma, you're not allowed to get one until you're at a place in your life where you're actually going to learn how to use it properly because you have to do everything manually. It used to be like I press a few buttons and my espresso is done with the Breville machine. Not anymore. Now I have a separate machine for grinding the beans.
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So I turned that thing on and it took me like a week to get it set. I'm not going to get into the nerdy details about it, but you have to get the grind size perfect in the exact amount of seconds that you want to be grinding to get the exact amount of grams of beans. And then you have to weigh it. And I have a scale now.
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You know, I put it in the portafilter, which is like that thing, you know, that you twist into the espresso machine and then you pour it into there. And then I have this little thing. where it's like a bunch of little, like a little needles almost, okay? Like imagine like a little cork looking thing that has needles sticking out the bottom of it.
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And I take that thing and I, in the portafilter, I like distribute, evenly distribute the coffee grounds, okay? Then I take this first little thing that sort of tamps it down and I sort of screw that on. Then I take one more thing and... press it down a bit firmer, tamp it again. Then I plug it in to the espresso machine or like screw it into the machine. I put down another scale.
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I have two scales. This one starts counting. There's a little clock on it. It starts counting when like the fluid starts running from the I'm trying to get basically 36 grams of fluid because that's a double shot of espresso. 36 grams of fluid in 25 to 35 seconds approximately. So I'm like watching and then I turn it off. The second it hits... you know, 36 grams, ideally within that time frame.
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It's a whole fucking thing now. Okay. I'm into it. And I mean, I probably should have gotten into it sooner because I founded a coffee company. Like you would think that I would have gotten nerdy about it sooner, but I actually had the opposite mentality. I was like, most people don't do this. Most people don't drink their coffee like this.
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So I don't want to drink my coffee like that because I don't want to make product for this niche coffee loving group that, that weighs the beans and understands how to grind. Like most people don't drink coffee like that. Most people are drinking it out of an average machine that does all this shit for you. So I don't want to be, I want to be a home barista. But then I was like, nah, fuck it.
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I'm going to get nerdy with it. And I absolutely love it. It's made me like fall in love with coffee all over again. I'm absolutely loving it. Anyway, so I make a double shot of espresso and then I steam my homemade milk because I make milk from scratch using a milk maker. Okay.
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It's almond coconut cashew milk sweetened with maple syrup and flavored with a bit of almond extract and a bit of coconut extract. I steam that and nut pod vanilla creamer. I mix those two things together. And that's my morning latte. And it's fucking delicious. I feel like it's mastered. You know, it's perfect for me. And then occasionally I'll have a 9 a.m. yoga class.
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I end up falling asleep later and then I end up waking up later the next day. And then that makes me depressed because I'm like, oh my God, no, is my day ruined? Should I wake up too late? And then for the rest of the day, I'm kind of in a funk and I'm trying to get out of it. And a lot of times I can and it's fine, but the day never feels as good as it does when I wake up early.
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And then in that case, I'll go to yoga. But I don't want to talk about yoga yet because usually I go to yoga at 12 p.m. So just imagine that sometimes at this point I have my coffee, I poop, and then it's like, okay, we're going to yoga. But most of the time it's at noon. It depends. It depends on what instructor is instructing and I'm, I don't know.
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But usually immediately after my coffee and my little poop, I start working. I'm talking about immediately. Okay, I'm still in my robe. I haven't brushed my teeth. I haven't brushed my hair. And I get on my computer and I start working immediately. Now, this could be a number of things. This could be working on a podcast outline. This could be responding to emails.
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I'm horrible at responding to emails. A Zoom call of some sort. It could be editing stuff. I edit things a lot, different videos or whatever. So I don't know. It could be organizing, scheduling stuff. There's a lot of different random things that I might do. After I sort of get things together, then I actually like to record a podcast in the morning.
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If I feel like I have time before my workout at 12, I will do it. Otherwise, I'll just work on other stuff until my yoga at 12. But if I am going to record a podcast, the preparation for that...
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basically consists of making another caffeinated drink, either an iced latte, which is the exact same thing as what I described this morning, except I don't steam the milk, or an iced matcha latte, which would be plain matcha or like vanilla infused matcha. I make a shot of matcha, you know, with the bowl and the whisk and the whole thing.
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And I mix a little bit of almond extract into the matcha and a little bit of maple syrup to kind of round out the flavor. Mix that in and then make a latte out of it. Pour it over ice with the homemade milk and the nut pod. Delish. Okay, that's what I'm drinking right now. But anyway, if I'm going to record, I always make myself some sort of caffeinated beverage. Because it just feels special.
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You know, there's something magical about like just having a little drink sitting next to me when I record. And caffeine helps with the talking, of course. And then usually I'll get dressed from the waist up. You know, like I want to be respectful to your eyes. And it's kind of fun. Like I actually enjoy getting dressed up from the waist up. It's like very COVID-19 core.
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When we were all, you know, working on Zoom and stuff or, you know, going to school on Zoom. life was on zoom and you know, on video call on webcam or whatever. And so we were all getting dressed from the waist up because people were only seeing us from the waist up. I still do that. But for the podcast, I'm always wearing a sweat pant, but from the waist up, I'll get a little dressed up.
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You know, the podcast is on video now, so I'll put on a little, a little something, no makeup though. That's where I draw the line. Sorry, not putting a makeup on. I will put a little bit of like a tinted lip product on, but other than that, no. And then I'll record a podcast and we get to hang out. What a joy, what a treat. And then after that, usually it's time for yoga, okay?
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And then, you know, the next night I try to go to bed earlier, but then because I went to bed later the last night, it's harder to go to bed earlier. And because I woke up later, do you see what I'm saying? So like, I don't like napping. So I'm having another matcha, matcha number three, caffeinated beverage number four. I am going to be a fucking menace for the next hour.
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If we're doing the 12 p.m. yoga. Now to prepare for yoga, I start out by filling up one of my three Stanley cups with electrolytes. Okay. Love the strawberry lemonade one. Okay. And then I mix that with a teensy bit of raspberry flavored electrolytes.
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I do a little bit of both because it's such a large cup of water, jug of water that I end up drinking for the rest of the day that that's why I mix them. And I like the way that they taste together. Okay. And if you're like a doctor and that's too much electrolytes, sorry, I like the way it tastes and I could be drinking far worse. Okay. I could be drinking alcohol. I could be drinking hard drugs.
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You don't usually drink those, but like I could find a way if I wanted to. So fuck off. Okay. I'm mixing a little bit of two different electrolyte drinks, powders into one drink. And I probably am getting like too much potassium or something. But shut the fuck up, okay? I don't have a kidney stone yet. I might soon, but not yet. So shut the fuck up.
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Okay, so that's what I make in my little Stanley cup. And then I get dressed. I'm almost always wearing... a little tight pair of black sort of spandex and a plain black sports bra. I'm just all about the all black workout gear. Okay. I do have like, I'm not kidding. Maybe like two workout items that are not maybe, okay. Maybe three workout items that are not just black.
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I've noticed something about us as a society. We really know how to ruin a good thing. Yeah, we do. And we do it time and time again. We take something good and we completely obliterate the culture around it. And we completely sell it out. And we make it so corporate that it's unbearable. We really know how to ruin a good thing. Stick with me here. I'll give you an example, okay? The Stanley Cup.
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The holidays are about eating together. It's about going into your closet 24 hours before Halloween and saying, what the fuck am I going to do? That's what the holidays are about. That's what makes it wholesome. You know, it's also, listen, it's also fun to participate in the corporate elements sometimes. Sometimes you want to go buy a fancy Halloween costume.
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You want to go buy, you know, a really expensive gift for a loved one. Sometimes that brings joy. Sometimes that's incredible. Sometimes that's magical. And that's why it's sort of complicated. It's like, like the holidays feel like a corporate event. It's up to us to make the holidays wholesome again. But it's hard to do that. I don't know. But I think the holidays are kind of awesome.
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And like, I'm in a phase of my life now where I'm like, if it's a holiday, I'm gonna fucking celebrate, you know, like, This year, I set up a tree in my house, you know, which I had skipped for the last few years. I whipped out the board games. You know, I really spent a lot of time with family. And, you know, I don't know. I just I really leaned into it. Yeah, I don't know.
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Maybe I'm wrong, but that's how I feel. Okay, moving on. Disneyland. I feel like now, if you want to go to Disneyland or Disney World or any sort of Disney theme park, people automatically are like, you're a Disney adult. What is a Disney adult? A Disney adult is an adult who absolutely loves Disney. Now, what's wrong with being a Disney adult, you may ask? Nothing.
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But people are very judgmental of Disney adults. It's become sort of like almost an internet meme, okay? Like making fun of adults who enjoy Disneyland. And everyone's like, grow up, freak, you know? Disneyland is fun, okay? Disney World, I've never been, but it's probably really fun.
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And I don't know exactly how it happened, how closely it relates to the Stanley Cup collectors, but I feel like Stanley Cups have become sort of associated with a level of chooginess in the way that we absolutely couldn't stand the Ugg boots immediately after Ugg boots were trendy in the early 2010s, or it was actually mid-2010s, or early to mid-2010s.
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I think a lot of people write off how fun Disney theme parks are out of fear that by going there, they're a nerd, a freak, a Disney adult. There's nothing wrong with being a Disney adult. Also, being obsessed with something, like if you really love Disneyland, good for you. Thank God you have a hobby. Like, now than ever, we need to like things. We need to have hobbies. We're a very lonely...
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Society, according to some articles I've seen, we have less friends than ever. We leave the house less than ever. We're more isolated than ever. For fuck's sake, we need hobbies. If you love Disneyland, you have something that you care about. You have something to get out and go do. You have something to make friends over, bond over with people. That's incredible. Disney is sort of magical.
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You know what it is? I haven't been to Disneyland in so many years. Actually, I really want to go. But like the fear to go to Disneyland every few years, to go to Disney World every few years, whatever, because it's like, oh, that's not cool. I just think that that's lame. And just like, shut the fuck up. Who cares? Good for them. Again, thank God they have a hobby.
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I bet you don't have a hobby if you're shitting on Disney adults. And I think the judgment towards these people who absolutely love Disney is also getting in the way of the average person who vaguely enjoys Disney, but, you know, would probably enjoy a day at a theme park. Why not? It prevents those people from like being like, hey, I'll go give that a try.
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You know, I'll go spend the day at Disneyland. Fuck it. Why not? Could be fun. Very expensive, but could be fun, you know? Okay, I'll give an example. I recently said to a group of people like, oh, I want to go to Disneyland. And I got mixed responses. Some people were like, oh, fuck yeah, I'm down. And then other people were like, ew, no. And I'm like, ew, no? Why? Tell me why.
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Is it because of the lines? Okay, that's fair. But it's never because of the lines. Is it because of the food? You don't like the food there? Hmm. The food's delicious. And also there's lots of, is it because it's expensive? That's fair. Oh, it's not because of that. It's never for a valid reason. There are many reasons to not like Disneyland, but that's never why people don't like it.
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That's never why people don't want to go. It's because they're judging it. They think it's weird. They think it's nerdy because that's sort of the culture around it. But I think it's unfair. Moving on. Romantic love. I think there's like a lot of judgment around the concept of romance these days. Like the idea of two people being soulmates, falling in love, getting married, having a family.
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I feel like the general conversation around love is very pessimistic and very negative. If you see maybe a couple online, Honestly, even if you have a happy couple in your life, there's always sort of gossip like they're going to break up in a few years. They're going to get divorced in a few years. They're both desperate. They don't really love each other. Look at the way they look at each other.
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Like it doesn't even seem genuine. Oh, they got married. That's cringe and outdated. Like, ew, who gets married anymore? What are we living in the 1800s? True love doesn't exist, all this stuff.
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By the way, I have a podcast episode on this podcast, Anything Goes, called like Romantic Love is an Illusion or something, question mark, where basically I talk about how a lot of times I think romantic love is an illusion and we have, you know, intimate relationships with people that are maybe romantic, but we actually don't even really truly love each other, perhaps, right?
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Um, because I think depending on what your definition of love is, which is not just like feeling really affectionate towards somebody or feeling really attracted to somebody, it's a bit more complex. It's more about being like, I want this person to be happy no matter what, you know, like this person's happiness and wellbeing is, is important.
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and is my priority in this relationship above my own in a way. Like, if this person is going to be happier without me, then to love them is to let them go. Like, it's that sort of idea, right? And I think a lot of times we're in a romantic partnership with people and we don't fucking feel that way. We don't feel selfless at all towards that person, you know?
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And a lot of times we're experiencing lust or we're experiencing... you know, without even realizing it, gaining something else from the person, perhaps financial security, perhaps confidence, if it's somebody that we find attractive and they find us attractive, just that can simply make us feel like, oh, I must love this person.
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We all hated Ugg boots for a few years, thought they were absolutely hideous because they were so basic for a few years there. It's like the same thing with the Stanley Cup. It's become like a choogy cup. It's not cool to have that cup. It's sort of Karen coated. It's sort of, it's just a mess. The culture around the Stanley Cup has been ruined. And I think it's unfair.
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But it's like, no, they're just helping you build your confidence or actually giving you something else. So I've myself been pessimistic about romantic love before. I think there are many reasons to be sort of pessimistic or skeptical. I think it's good to be skeptical, pessimistic, less so. But I think it's like to be sort of skeptical, I don't think is wrong. Right.
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But I think there's this like understandable, but ultimately harmful pessimism when it comes to romantic love these days. I understand it. I completely get it because it is complicated. And a lot of times it doesn't work out. There isn't actually love between the two people. A lot of times people fuck up. They cheat on each other. They hurt each other really badly emotionally. It's not easy.
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You know what I'm saying? So that's why I understand why we're all so pessimistic about it. But I think we're at a point now where, as a society, in a way, we're so pessimistic about romantic love that it's like we're not even giving it a chance to exist in a way. Like, we don't even believe it exists anymore.
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It's only made worse by sort of hookup culture and stuff where the sort of trend in dating has been... less about commitment and more about sort of experimentation and just kind of enjoying the act of sex, which I think is fine. And if that's what works for you, that's what works for you. But I think for a lot of people, myself included, it doesn't work.
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And it actually ends up being like a really sort of at times traumatizing, disheartening experience that then leads to, you know, people feeling like, how can real love exist if I can date so casually, if I can date so like meaninglessly? It can confuse people. It's confused me even. Yeah.
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We've definitely destroyed the culture around romantic love by number one, focusing on what can go wrong, cheating, lying, manipulation, divorce, focusing on that and not, I guess, giving maybe enough airtime to the times when it does work out, but also to hook up culture. I think the two of them have sort of ruined the culture around it. Okay, next.
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I think we've ruined the online discourse around things like mental health, things about personal experiences, things about challenges. That conversation has been destroyed. Like that cultural conversation has sort of been destroyed, in my opinion. I think many years ago, no one was really talking about their challenges. Nobody was really talking about their struggles. It was a lot more hush-hush.
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And slowly but surely on the internet, you know, people, myself included, for whatever reason, just felt emboldened to just start talking about these things, right? Yeah. And I think for a long time it was deeply appreciated. It was like, whoa, this is so helpful.
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It's so helpful to hear about people's challenges, whether it's like mental health related or it's just like a personal story or it's a challenging experience, like whatever it may be, having these sorts of vulnerable conversations on the internet was really celebrated and appreciated. And that sort of bled into real life.
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I think it's a shame because I think the Stanley Cup is an incredible cup. I have three of them and I use them all. constantly. They're all constantly in rotation. I have two different types of beverages. I put in two out of the three of the Stanley cups. I always have sparkling water with apple cider vinegar in one because that's a drink that I like to drink. Okay.
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I think a lot of people, especially young people, became more comfortable with just talking about shit, you know, with their friends, perhaps even their parents or their teachers or their school counselor or whatever. Like, I just feel like the whole culture became more open over the last few years. But I think there's been a shift
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where now the culture around talking about your feelings, talking about your challenges, telling your stories, I've noticed that the culture around it has shifted. People are not as accepting of this anymore. And I think that that's because, number one, I think it became something that people could profit off of and benefit from. It used to be that telling a vulnerable story was a big feat.
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Everybody was afraid to do it. Now, I think people will perhaps even exaggerate or lie online because they know that being vulnerable in some way will get them a lot of views, right? And I don't think most people are doing that. However... it's starting to become hard to tell, right? And I think some people are doing that, exaggerating, lying for the sake of fame, views, money, whatever.
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And then in real life, I think people have realized like, oh, if I talk about certain struggles, people have maybe started to, at times, not all the time, but at times, abuse that Like, oh, if I say I have anxiety to my boss, then I won't have to do this part of my job that I don't want to do. Now, the problem with that is there's always going to be some who lie and who abuse this sort of thing.
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And that will always ruin it for the people who genuinely, genuinely have a challenge that they need to talk about or need to share with somebody because it's a survival thing. You know what I'm saying? So it's like, It it gets complicated in that way. And I think because now nobody really seems to be afraid to tell vulnerable stories, nobody really seems to be afraid to talk about mental health.
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And in fact, they're actually lying about it or even exaggerating about it at times for the sake of, you know, whatever. It's sort of ruined the conversation as a whole. There's always a level of skepticism of like, are you talking about this for the right reasons? I've noticed with celebrities, people look at celebrities who struggle and are like, okay, number one, you have so many resources.
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Why are you struggling? That's weird. And then number two, are you just saying this to win us over? Are you saying this to... seem relatable, even worse so with influencers who share their mental health struggles.
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Everyone's like, are you just pretending to have mental health struggles because you gained notoriety for having mental health struggles and now you're just pretending to have them still, even though now you're rich and famous and you definitely don't have struggles anymore? it's very complicated. But it just seems like a lot of people cried wolf in a way. And now no one trusts anyone anymore.
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And I think it's a shame because it's like, I think it was a really good thing for a while there, but I think it kind of got ruined. But I think it's still a good conversation to have, you know, as much as we can. OK, next we have pickleball. Listen, I still haven't played pickleball because of how much I dislike the culture around it.
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It's weird, but it's tasty to me. And it, I feel like makes my tummy happy, but I don't know. And there's definitely no science backing that up because I've Googled it. And then I also have another one filled with electrolytes because I love hot yoga and I'm constantly dehydrated.
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It's become this like trendy, pretentious thing that I just am like I'm completely put off by it. I bet I would love it. But if I want to go play pickleball, I have to go pay $40 to rent an hour at a court. By the way, I don't know if it's actually $40. I'm just guessing. I have to try to find a pickleball court that's open, which is impossible because it's so popular.
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And I have to pay a bunch of money and everyone's obsessed with it to the point where now it's sort of considered choogy. Like it's not cool anymore to play pickleball. If you like pickleball, it's the same thing. It's the same fucking thing as the office and the Beatles. Okay. It's genuinely really fun. And that's why a lot of people like it. But it just got completely ruined.
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In this case, though, I think it's really sort of sold out. You know what I mean? Like there's like pickleball clubs that have opened in Los Angeles. I'm not really aware of how they work or what they even are. But to me, that sounds like I don't know what's going to happen to that in 10 years. I don't know. But everybody's buying all the equipment.
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People are paying money to rent, go to the court. And like, well, okay, listen, if you live in like a small town, you can probably play pickleball all day long and it's free and it's fun. All you had to do is buy the racket. Great. If you live in Los Angeles, good luck. Okay. One day I went with someone to go play tennis.
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We were going to try to play tennis because I don't know, it just sounded fun. And we had never played tennis before, but we were like, oh, we'll go try it. And we went to a local court and like a public court. And it was all full for the rest of the day. And a bunch of people were playing pickleball. I don't know. It's like the whole thing, it's so mass. It's become so choogy.
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But I actually bet pickleball is fun. And once the hype dies down a bit... And it's a little bit less like of a thing. And I can actually find like an available, I don't have to rent an hour at a pickleball court, two days. No, not even, honestly, two weeks in advance. I'll try pickleball. But for now, it's like the barrier to entry here is tough. That's number one.
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And number two, it's become sort of cringe in a way, which I think is a shame because I think it's probably really fun. Next, being into skincare. Okay. skincare is and has been such a cultural phenomenon for, like, the last five to ten years. Like, I feel like we're really into skincare and, like, into it to a point where we know the ingredients. You know? Like, I don't think my mom...
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And then I have a third that is there for emergencies for if one of them's in the dishwasher or for my loved ones when they come over to my house and want a big jug of a liquid because you'd be shocked at how often people want that when they come to my house. Yeah, I could make you a glass of water in a glass, or I could make you a glass of water in a Stanley cup and you could stay a while.
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really knew about like an AHA, BHA exfoliant when she was in her 20s. She had no clue what that fucking was. And now, you know, everybody knows everything about skincare. And it's sort of a rabbit hole that you can so easily fall down. And we've all been falling down it for the last few years to a point where we've taken our cultural skincare obsession to a ridiculous point, right?
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For example, you know, middle schoolers are now into skincare. Children who do not have acne yet, who do not need to be using skincare products, you know, and at times it's actually even... potentially harmful for children to be using skincare products. They're using things that are meant for older skin.
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Everybody's obsessed with an intense overnight routine where they're putting on eye patches and a face mask and a lip mask and a jaw mask and a red light thing and all of this. And, you know, in the morning it takes like 10 minutes to take everything off.
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And, you know, there's viral products, trendy products, intense methods of like, you know, anti-aging, like taping your face or like there's just, it's gotten to a point where it's crazy. A lot of it's irrational, not even effective a lot of times, like some of it's not even effective.
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And I think that this sort of hysteria around skincare has ruined the culture around it to the point where now it's confusing for people who say, just like enjoy taking care of themselves, right? Like I'm somebody who, because I have struggled with my skin in the past, have learned a lot about skincare and I find it really interesting and I like trying new products and stuff.
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I'm careful about it, very, very careful about it. But you know, I have a lot of brands that I like. I have a lot of products that I like. And I like experimenting. And I like using products. I like the way that certain products make me feel. But I don't even want to talk about skincare with people or watch videos about skincare because they've gotten so extreme.
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And that's a bummer, I guess, because it's now something that causes me stress. I'm like, I don't know who to trust. There's so much information. It all seems kind of bullshit. Half the time, it's feeding my shopping addiction, which is unhealthy because I'm trying to not have the shopping addiction anymore. I don't know. I feel like being into skincare is now...
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Something it's become sort of a skincare has become a monster in a way. And I think it's a shame because I think taking care of your skin is actually a really enjoyable, luxurious, but also like helpful practice. Now it's just considered like overkill. And I don't think all of skincare is overkill, you know, because there's so much misinformation or like extreme practices.
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You know what I'm saying? I love the Stanley cup and the culture around it has been absolutely ruined. And that's the whole point of this episode. We ruin everything. We ruin everything. And Stanley cups are not the only victim of our wrath as a society. I have a list of approximately 20 things that,
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It's just sort of, I think, made a lot of people feel like, well, the whole thing seems fishy to me. Do you know what I'm saying? Also, too, there's so many skincare sponsorships. I've done skincare sponsorships, you know? So that also makes it confusing. It's just like, it's so saturated. I don't know. It's overwhelming. Next, we have Jane Birkening, The Bag. I've talked about this so much.
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It's the concept based on Jane Birkin, a model who would carry around her Birkin bag every day. And as she went on with her life, she would attach things to her Birkin. For example, tie a bandana onto it that she was wearing one day but got too hot and took it off and tied it onto the bag. Untie her watch one day when she doesn't want to wear it anymore and attach it to the bag.
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You know, attach her favorite necklace to it, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Attach things to her bag. And over time, it started to look like Jane Birkin's bag. This is Jane Birkin's bag. It has stuff hanging off of it. It's uniquely hers. And it became sort of a trend to mimic this style of accessorizing the bag.
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And I do think that this sort of concept in some ways has been ruined because I think what was so cool about it when Jane Birkin did it was that it was a genuine utilitarian practice. Okay. She was putting, she was taking her watch off and attaching it to her bag, not because it looked cool, but because it was useful.
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You know, she was tying her bandana around her bag because she was like, I might want that bandana at some point. I took it off right now. I'm not going to put it back into my drawer because it actually is kind of nice that it's here on the bag. And if one day I want to put on a bandana, now it's attached to the bag. I have this sentimental necklace I want to carry around with me.
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I'm going to attach it to my bag so that it's with me all the time, but I don't want to wear it because it maybe doesn't match my outfit. I'm not saying these are the reasons why she attached things to her bag. These are just assumptions. But that's sort of what the concept was. And that's what made it so cool.
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And I think sort of the concept now of like, we're attaching all these things to the bag, not because they're sentimental or meaningful, but rather because... it's, it's a trend. The look of it is sort of a trend. I think it took away the personal element of like the whole, I guess the, the whole point of it was that it was personal and it was actually useful.
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And I think by making it a trend, we in a way ruin that. Do I think it's cute? Fuck yeah. Do I think if you think it's cute, you should do it? Fuck yeah. Who cares? But I'm just saying, okay, that I think the true magic of, magic did not follow into the trend because it kind of became ingenuine, you know, and a lot of bag designers started coming out with charms and stuff.
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People are buying, you know, key chains that mean nothing to them. It doesn't have the same magic. Do I think it's wrong or bad? No, but I think, you know, like, I actually think it looks quite cute. And I think it's really smart. Like, let's say I was like, oh, it's a really smart idea.
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Like from like a utilitarian standpoint, from like an actual utility standpoint, it's helpful to attach things to your bag. In fact, I actually do attach one thing to my bag. I have these little hair clips that I wear now that my hair is short because they help me get my bangs out of my face when I want to get my bangs out of my face. And I will clip them to my bag. It's vaguely Jane Birkening.
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that actually are good, like genuinely good things, at least in my opinion, that have been completely destroyed by us. We've ruined these things. We've ruined the culture around them. We've ruined the magic. And today I want to go through that list of things that I think have been ruined by us.
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Not quite. Um, but I got that idea to clip them to my bag because it's nice because they're not like lost in my bag and at the bottom of my bag. So it's nice to have them out and attached. I think it looks cute. And the idea of like attaching it to the bag came from the idea of the Jane Birkening. I was like, wait, I could just attach these clips to the outside.
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There's nothing wrong with the contents of my bag being half in half out. Like that's kind of cool. But let's say I had a bunch of ideas. I was like, oh, you know, I wear a digital watch every day now. I never take it off. But let's say I wanted to. Would I attach it to the bag or would I put it inside? Like, it's almost like now you can't do the Jane Birkening trend authentically.
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It feels like because it's been so corporatized now, it'll always look like, oh, she just is doing the Jane Birkening thing. You know? It's not like, oh, she's authentically doing that. Like, it always looks like, oh, she's trying to be trendy. Now, who cares, right? Like, if you want to do something, you should just do it. Who cares if it's trendy or what anyone says?
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But I'm just saying that I think the culture around it has been sort of ruined. And... I'm not saying that that's wrong. I'm not saying you should avoid it. I'm just saying that that's how I feel about it.
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And that's what I've noticed where now, you know, it's like looked at as a trend, which will ultimately soon become cringe because that's what happens with super, you know, popular, popular, popular trends. they eventually become cringe and stale. Again, none of this really matters and none of this is really that deep, but I'm just analyzing it for the sake of analyzing it.
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I have nothing better to do. Okay, next we have the sweater vest. Okay, the sweater vest was such a trend in like 2019, 2020. I was involved in that trend, you know, I was there. But for some reason, I feel like we've all decided that we hate sweater vests now and that they're completely out and we hate them. But we forget that a sweater vest can exist in many shapes and sizes.
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A sweater vest is not just a V-neck vest with an argyle print on it. A sweater vest is an incredible layering piece. And I think we associate it with 2019, 2020 style. And that takes away from what a sweater vest can be. You know, like if you're online shopping and you're looking through the categories online, you shouldn't ignore the sweater vest section.
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You might find a really incredible layering piece. Do you know what I'm saying? But I think a lot of people now are like, ew, I don't want to wear a sweater vest. I don't want to even look at a sweater vest. We imagine it styled exactly how we styled it in like 2020. And we're stuck in that memory. But it can be so much more than that. Okay, next we have organizing with plastic containers.
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Okay, it has become such an online trend and just like a kitchen, pantry, garage, laundry room, closet, organizational trend to have a container for everything, have acrylic storage for every single little thing. And the whole sort of concept of organization, I think has gone a bit stale for people. I think because it's gone to an extreme, right?
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And I want to remind all of you and even myself that these things are great and that it's our fault for ruining them. But what's sort of beautiful is that we can also fix them. We can bring them back. We can fix the reputation of these things. We can fix the culture around these things if we work together. Without further ado, let's begin. Obviously, Stanley Cup was number one. What's number two?
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Like people aren't just like, oh, it makes sense for me to have a container here. Like using a container is actually gonna be useful for this specific function. It's become this thing of like, everything needs to be aesthetic. Everything needs to be beautiful. And convenience in utilities like coming second, right?
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Like a great example is people are, you know, taking their spices out of their original spice jar that is totally usable and good and putting it into like a plastic one just because it looks aesthetically pleasing to have all of your spices be in matching little containers with cute little labels on it from a cute little label maker, right?
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Now, listen, if that's something that really makes you happy and is your hobby, like, please don't let me get in the way. I don't like policing people and telling people what to do. And I don't like also being like, that's wrong and that's wasteful because it's just not my place. Like, if that really makes you happy and is your hobby, for fuck's sake. do it.
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The problem is it's become irritating to a lot of people who are looking at this sort of lifestyle and they're like, it's so wasteful. It's so stupid. And now the whole concept of containers, going to the container store and organizing your home is considered over-consuming or it's considered excessive or unnecessary. But I actually don't agree.
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I think that there are times when it really does help and it is a great concept and a great thing to tap into. I think The missing piece is it just needs to be intuitive. Like I hired an organizer a few years ago and like did the whole thing and had her like do the whole fucking Instagram organization sort of. I hated it. I hated it. Okay. She did a beautiful job. I hated it. Okay.
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I didn't like having all my spices in the individual spice things. I've, you know, hated refilling them. You know, I had all these different bins for all my different like things in the pantry, even though like having them in their original boxes or bags was totally fine. Like, I hated it. Okay. And so, you know, since then I've, I have all these containers in my garage that now I use intuitively.
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I shouldn't have, I also donated some of the boxes and stuff too, because I just had way too many, but it was an unsustainable lifestyle for me. It was completely ridiculous and I regretted it. And now, you know, I repurpose those sorts of containers for you know, purposes that actually make sense to me. Like, you know, I'm using all the storage food bins for stuff like cat food, right?
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Where like, it's actually really helpful to have the cat food in its own little smaller container because I buy massive bags of cat food that like don't fit in my pantry where I want to store them. Or I make my own nut milk and I buy massive, massive, massive bags of nuts, almonds, coconut shreds, cashews, whatever. And it's kind of frustrating to manage the big bag.
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It's very helpful to put it into smaller containers that I can fit again in my pantry. I think we've become fatigued by the idea of organization and using these sorts of methods because we've seen such an extreme and become fatigued by it. But it's actually it is not a completely like ridiculous, stupid, excessive method. I actually think there is value to it.
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So it's kind of a shame that now it's like it feels like you're doing something wrong almost. But I don't think that that's necessarily true or fair. Next, we have the DJ. The reputation of the DJ is struggling, I would say. I don't know a lot about DJing. However, I love, as we all do, for the most part, listening to music.
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The culture around the Stanley Cup is a catastrophe. For one, it's become sort of a trend to collect every single color. Now, the beauty of the Stanley Cup is that it's incredibly durable and will last you a very long time. So you really only need, at max, two or three of them. I have three of them. But we really only need one because it's such a good cup.
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I love going to a party, going to a bar or club or whatever, and the music to be good. The art of playing good music, the art of building up the energy, the art of curation, I'm there. That, I understand. The actual art of being a DJ, what it really means to fucking touch all those knobs, it's none of my business. I don't even want to know. But I know where the doubts are coming from, okay?
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Number one, I think we're at a point where becoming a DJ is so accessible because of technology. It's like easier than ever. Apparently, it used to be a situation where you'd like go out and collect vinyls, right? Like vinyl records. And then you'd spin the vinyl and...
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Band tees. Okay, hear me out. Banties like wearing a Beatles t-shirt, wearing an ACDC t-shirt, wearing a Guns N' Roses t-shirt. I don't know who's wearing a Guns N' Roses t-shirt who actually likes Guns N' Roses. I don't know if that person exists, but you get the idea, okay?
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you'd like bring a bunch of vinyls to the club or whatever or to the party and you were known for your vinyl collection and you were also known for your ability to like spin the vinyl well and like blend it from one song to the next really well. I don't understand how this works, okay?
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It's again, none of my business, but like there was more of an art to it, I think of curation and actually executing on the sounds. Whereas it sounds like now, you know, a lot more things can be automated, right? That's not to say that there aren't DJs out there who are like fucking twisting and beat matching and like doing all this shit, doing a really good job and whatever.
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But like I watched this YouTube video about the quality of DJs going down. a lot of people who are actually finding success in it apparently aren't technically good. Okay, this was a video from a DJ talking about other DJs and about why, you know, the quality of the DJ is going down. You know, this was an opinion piece from this person, but it kind of resonated.
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And then I started paying attention. Anytime I'd hear DJing happening in any capacity on the internet, in real life, wherever, I started paying attention. And I'm starting to like realize like, oh, Yeah. And maybe that wasn't super well done, like a super clean transition or something. I don't know. Again, I don't know about DJing, but I can see what people mean. Like, I don't know.
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I guess maybe the art of it is struggling. But listen, if you want to be a DJ, I don't know. I just think, oh, my God, it's so funny. Wait, I have another funny story. I was at an event recently and I was talking about someone in my life who makes music and I was talking to like an older man. OK, this person makes music, blah, blah, blah. And I was like telling a story.
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And I mentioned that this person in my life makes music in this story. Okay? I know this seems like a ridiculous story, but just stick with me. And then this man that I'm talking to is like, is he a DJ? Don't tell me he's a fucking DJ. I was like, no, he's not a DJ. But like, that's the general sentiment around DJs. It's not good.
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But I think it's kind of a shame because I actually do think that there's an art to being a DJ. You know, like... playing good music, beat matching the music, you know, curating really well. But I think now, you know, majority of DJs are playing top hits. They're not curating in a way that's unique to them.
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You know, God knows how much they're doing themselves and how much they're automating or doing beforehand or like who even knows what's happening. But it doesn't feel as hands-on. It doesn't feel as intimate. It doesn't feel as authentic to the DJ as it maybe once did. And I think it's a shame because I think that there's an art to it. That's all I'm saying. All right, moving on to acai bowls.
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Genuinely delicious, but it was a huge food trend like 10 years ago. And now I feel like nobody just wants to sit down and have an acai bowl anymore. Can I be honest? If I was caught sitting down eating an acai bowl, for some reason, I'd be kind of embarrassed. There's something about it that's embarrassing. I think because it's such a pretty, beautiful food. It's almost like avocado toast.
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I bet a lot of you are listening to me and thinking, Emma thinks the band tee has been ruined because it's become a trend to just wear a band tee and not necessarily care about the band that you're wearing the t-shirt for. That's part of it. Don't get me wrong. That is part of it. And we'll get to that later.
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Avocado toast, acai bowls, these trendy foods that are genuinely delicious. are embarrassing to order or embarrassing to eat almost because it's like, really? You fucking Tumblr girl? You're ordering an avocado toast? It's a stereotype. It's become something that's like, try hard or something. But they're genuinely good foods. I love an acai bowl and I love avocado toast.
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So we've sort of ruined it, but also I think still delicious. I think they hold up. And last but not least, ironically, I think to an extent we've ruined podcasting. Or maybe we haven't. Maybe we haven't. I don't know. I'm sad and scared to even... I don't even want to talk about it because I have a podcast. But I'm also probably a part of the problem.
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or not the problem, but the reason why there seems to be this sort of general feeling around podcasting that everyone has a fucking podcast these days. Most podcasters are talking about jack shit. I don't know. I feel like there's sort of this feeling of like, oh my God, if I hear about another fucking podcast, I'm going to put glue in my ears and let it dry and not hear anymore.
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I don't want to hear about another podcast. I don't want to hear another podcast. Um, a lot of people seem fatigued by podcasts and by the industry. And they're just like, I'm sick of this. There's too many. And like, I just don't like, and I don't even like a lot of them. And people just are saying shit and they don't even know what they're talking about.
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Like I make a podcast twice a week doing it right now about podcasts. Jack shit. What am I even talking about? You know what I mean? Like, I'm coming to you with opinions, thoughts. That's about it. You know, and like, some people really enjoy that. But I think a lot of people are like, why does that exist? Like people probably think this about me and about my show.
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Like, why does she even have a podcast? What the fuck is she talking about? And I think like, because there's been this sort of podcast boom, if you will, over the last few years, it's sort of giving everyone this like podcast existential crisis all at once where everyone's like, like, what the fuck is going on? Oh my God. I just remembered I ran out of the yogurt that I like to eat.
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And I was really excited to eat a yogurt bowl after. I recorded this because I'm very hungry and I'm like, I'm out of my yogurt and I'm bummed out. It's all good though. Like I can totally go get more yogurt, but I'm just remembering. And like this specific yogurt, I have to go to a specific grocery store to get because they just, they don't have it where I usually shop. And so I'm just sorry.
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I just had an intrusive thought about the fact that I don't have my yogurt. All good. Anywho, you get the idea. Okay. I think people are sort of fatigued by podcasts. However, I think podcasts, I think it's incredible. I like listening to podcasts. I haven't as much recently.
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I think the worst thing that's happened to band tees is their presence in fast fashion sorts of stores, okay? Band tees available at Forever 21 or at H&M or on fast fashion websites or at Brandy Melville. I think that taking band tees and pumping them out to the masses, I think it ruined the culture around the band tee.
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Like I don't really have one that I'm really into right now, but I've gone through many podcast phases with many different podcasts. I like making them. I think podcasting is great, but I also understand the sort of fatigue and like just kind of cringed out culture about it.
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Like everyone's kind of sick of the podcast, but also that doesn't mean that the podcast is not still like a booming industry. It's doing very well, but I think a lot of people are starting to get sick of it. I'm noticing that. Um, and I totally get it. However, I'm still here making mine on that note. That's it. That's all I have to talk about today.
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I really have to pee and I really, really want yogurt. So I'm going to wrap this up. Okay. Those are some things that I think as a society we've ruined, but I don't think they're ruined permanently. I think that these things, all of them, all of the things that I mentioned are actually genuinely solid things, you know, like solid concepts, solid items. They're solid.
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And I think that they will stand the test of time, despite the fact that They're maybe going through a rough patch with their reputation right now. Okay? These are all good things. And I'm here to remind you that they are. And to not let the fact that we ruined them to ruin it for you. You can... choose to love these things again. Okay, anyway, I'm done talking.
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If you enjoyed this episode, tune in Thursdays and Sundays to Anything Goes, anywhere that you stream podcasts. Video is on YouTube and Spotify though. At Anything Goes on social media, at Emma Chamberlain on social media, chamberlaincoffee.com is my company, my coffee company, at Chamberlain Coffee on social media. Today I was drinking a cute little iced latte, which I think is why I have to pee.
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Sounds disgusting going down my gullet, but I had to just let you hear that. Yeah. Okay, that's it. I'll talk to you all very, very soon. I love you all and appreciate you all. And it's always a pleasure to just sit around and yap to y'all. So anywho, have a great rest of your day or evening. I love you all and appreciate you all and goodbye.
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And I think it's because number one, the way that they've created band tees in mass is is all wrong. Number one, they took like top rock bands in like, I don't know what the 70s and 80s, like Guns N' Roses and Led Zeppelin and ACDC and the Beatles. And I guess Beatles or like whatever earlier.
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But anyway, and they take these like same like 10 bands and they slap the logo on a T-shirt and then like somehow rip it up a little bit or put it on like a faded T-shirt. And then also people were just buying them because they were like, this is a cool design on a t-shirt, which I can't blame people for.
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I'm not, see, I'm not about to police people for wearing a band tee for a band that they don't care about. Listen, if you like the design on a shirt, be my guest. Okay. I'm not going to judge. I'm not judging the consumer. Rather, I'm angry at the company. You know what I mean? For taking something that was cool. Like, okay, so what are these retailers imitating, right?
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They're imitating the concept of someone in the 70s going to a concert and buying a band tee and then it getting worn in and ripped up over the years because it was somebody's favorite t-shirt.
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Now they're replicating that at Forever 21 or now they're slapping it onto a T-shirt of Brandy Melville and a bunch of like 15 year old girls are wearing it who are like, I don't know who this band is, but I just think that the design is cool. And it's very saturated. And a lot of people wear mainstream sort of band tees because it's sort of just something mass that people just buy.
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It's completely lost all of its power. Right. I think what was cool about a band tee before was like, I bought this at my favorite artist's concert or, you know, I ordered it from their website and I like was maybe supporting them directly. And the bands who are on t-shirts in Forever 21 or Brandy Melville or whatever are having no problems financially.
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So like, I'm not saying that, you know, it's like, come on, man. Like you need to support the Beatles directly. It's like the Beatles are okay. They're definitely fine. But I'm more talking about like the experience of buying a band. He used to be kind of sacred in a way. It was like, you know, it's special. It's, it's for a band that you really do love and care about it.
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Like the shirt actually sort of means something to you. And when you wear it out, people are like, oh, fuck, you like them. That's cool. And there was sort of this authenticity to it.
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And again, I'm not trying to be a pretentious asshole and I'm not blaming the consumer at all, because when I was a teenager, I was buying band tees from Brandy Melville that were like it was it was ACDC or some shit. Who knows what I even had? I'm not blaming myself for that. I'm not even blaming like the companies for selling the band tees. Like I actually don't think anyone's at fault.
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I don't think anyone's in the wrong. I just think it's like this sort of series of unfortunate events where now it's just like the beauty of the band tee I think is kind of gone now. You know, like the idea of it being special and personal and it being a conversation starter, that is ruined. And I think it's a shame. I guess maybe still some of the magic exists. Like, I don't know. I don't know.
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But it's become a trend to collect every single color. Fine. That's a hobby for some people. Who am I to judge? And that's great for the company. You know, they're probably very happy about this. However, a lot of people are posting videos about their Stanley Cup hauls and the new Stanley Cup colors that they got.
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Listen, I could be off base here, but I feel like the culture around the Bantis is not great anymore. It's a bummer. Moving on. Moving on to monogramming stuff. getting your initials embroidered into things. Okay. I think it was something that was really trendy a few years ago, sort of in the early 2010s, early to mid 2010s.
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And now it's sort of considered out of style, choogy, cringe, whatever, because it's just out of style. But I think it's an underrated concept. I don't know. I think a lot of people look at it like it's sort of How do I explain it? Like, it's not cool. And it's not even looked at as something that's like, oh, it's personalization.
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I feel like it's looked at something where it's like, oh my God, like you're so not laid back and chill. Like you're embroidering your initials into stuff so that what, you don't lose it, nerd? Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, it feels like that. I just feel like the concept of monogramming something, like getting your initials on something, it's actually kind of cool.
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Like, I don't think it's cringe. I don't know. And I think like taking the extra effort and like getting your makeup bag embroidered or... You know, getting a blanket and getting that embroidered or like it feels like everyone hates it and everyone thinks it's sort of cringe. And I just I don't know exactly how it happened.
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It almost feels like something that like a super mom would do for all of their kids lunchboxes. It feels weird. Not cool. Right. I don't know. But I just I think it is. And I don't think it's try hard. And I don't think it's in choogy land. I think it can actually be cool. Not everybody thinks it's choogy, by the way, like there. But I I don't know.
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I think the culture around it got ruined, perhaps because maybe it is sort of the mom thing.
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that embroiders you know all the initials of her kids into the lunch boxes and then the kids go to school and all the kids are like okay mama's boy like you have your little embroidered little lunch box you know maybe it started then for us um when somebody's parent like loved them enough to embroider their lunch box it's like fuck you that's cringe you know and then maybe that
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carried on into adulthood for us, or perhaps it was the Vera Bradley, you know, floral bags of 2012 embroidered with cursive letters that have just scarred us for life. It could be one of those two things. It could be something else. But I do think that the culture around monogramming has been completely ruined. I also think it's often not done very well.
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And people are waiting outside of a Target because there's a new Stanley Cup drop at Target starting at 6 a.m. it's starting to be something that people judge, right? People are judging people who participate in the hype of Stanley Cup. It's starting to make the news.
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Like it's often done in sort of an outdated way. And, you know, I actually just recently was online shopping, which is not good. And this company was like hand painting toiletry bags and stuff, hand painting onto canvas initials. And I was like, that is sick. And I did buy it. And I was like, this is cool. Like monogramming is cool. Like we need to not sleep on the potential for monogramming.
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I think it's not all bad. Moving on to the show, The Office, okay? I absolutely love The Office. You probably do too. The problem with The Office is that it's such a good show that absolutely everyone loves it. And for one out of 10 people, I would assume their favorite show, honestly, one out of five people.
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If you were to take a random selection of five people and say, what's your favorite TV show of all time? At least one out of five would probably say The Office. And I think that that person genuinely means it. I think The Office is one of the best TV shows ever to be made. And so it makes sense that it's a lot of people's favorite show.
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But the problem is, because it's everybody's favorite show, now when somebody says their favorite show is The Office, it's like, okay, who cares? you know, wearing merch for The Office, wearing a t-shirt for The Office. Who cares? Everyone loves The Office. Do you know what I'm saying? It's one of those things where it's like everyone loves it to a point where it means nothing to love it.
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The thing about that that upsets me is I actually really do think that that undermines the true beauty of that show. You know, like I don't know. It's unfortunate because I think now everybody's fatigued of hearing the answer that The Office is someone's favorite TV show. You win everyone else. You know, I actually feel the same way about the Beatles.
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I think in the exact same way that The Office is everybody's favorite TV show, the Beatles is everybody's favorite band. But the Beatles are really, really good. And like what both of them have in common, the Beatles and The Office, is that they're both magic in the way that they appeal to pretty much every human being on the planet.
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And that has ruined it in a way because everybody's just sick of hearing about it. If you talk about why you think The Office is good, if you talk about why you think The Beatles is good, it's like you're a sheep. You're considered a sheep. And I think that's a shame because I think both of these things are genuinely good. And they do... mean something to people.
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Like, even though everyone likes them, they still mean something to people. Both The Office and The Beatles mean something to me personally that feels intimate. I feel an intimate connection to these two works of art, you know? I don't know. It's just a shame. I think the culture around them has struggled a bit. Next, we have holidays in general, but especially Christmas, okay?
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Well, I think the holidays have just gone a bit too corporate, and I think that has sort of ruined it for all of us. A lot of holidays nowadays seem to be all about consumerism. It's like, it's Christmas, gotta buy gifts for everybody. It's Easter, gotta buy a bunch of Easter candy for the kids and buy Easter eggs and fill them with stuff. It's Thanksgiving, gotta buy all this special food
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And now the culture around the Stanley Cup has sort of been ruined because every time you walk around with your Stanley Cup, there's a chance that people are perceiving you like you're a Stanley Cup collecting freak. I'm not saying that's right or wrong. I'm just saying that that's the truth. I also think the Stanley Cup has an interesting symbolism.
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Got to buy these decorations. Got to buy this stuff. It's Halloween. Got to buy a costume. Got to buy. It's all about like holidays are all about spending money and feeling stressed out. You got to be on top of it. You got to be ready. You got to be prepared. Valentine's Day. If you're in a relationship.
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Oh, got to drop a bunch of money on my significant other or else they're going to think I don't love them. It's all about spending money. And I think that is the worst part about the holidays, the corporate element. I mean, listen, I do kind of love holiday shopping. Like I love walking down, you know, the aisles during Easter. I love walking down the aisles during Halloween.
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I love walking down the aisles during Christmas. I'm there. I don't even celebrate Easter because I'm not a child anymore, and I'm not religious particularly, so I don't celebrate Easter. But, like, Easter's coming around, and I want to see all the stuff with the little bunnies on it. Yes, I do. I do actually like... some of that.
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But I do think that we all almost have like a level of PTSD every time a holiday comes around because we're like, oh God, it's time to spend money. I think holidays have lost their wholesomeness. The holidays are about reading Christmas stories in bed the night before Christmas, even if you're 23 years old. Okay. The holidays are about cooking with fucking grandma. Okay.
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I just had to take some deep breaths because my chest is tight and I have a lump in my throat because I'm frightened of today's episode. I'm deeply frightened. Today, I'm going to be sharing with you what I think are the greatest songs of all time. And this terrifies me for a few reasons. To start, music is polarizing. We adore the music that we love and we despise the music that we hate.
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It sounds really raw, you know? And that's a bit jarring at first. Daniel Johnston, I learned later as I listened to more of his music, that is his style. But the lyrics are so good. And the raw sound, I actually ended up liking later. And I really do believe it's one of the best songs of all time. And that's why it's been covered so many different times.
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This song feels like going through a breakup and crying in somebody that you love's lap. Somebody that you love so much that you almost don't even really care anymore that you broke up with the person that you broke up with. Like, you almost... It's like, okay, like for me, for example...
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This song feels like breaking up with one of my exes or whatever, and then laying in my parents' lap, both of them at the same time, and crying in this way where I'm sad and I'm heartbroken, but I'm also being healed simultaneously because I'm surrounded by my favorite people on the planet. It's like this interesting juxtaposition, okay?
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And listen, this episode is just so cringe because of these types of things that I'm saying and the way that I'm describing these songs. But this is honest, okay? And I'm being honest, and this is truly the best I can do and the best way I can describe them. And are you cringing? Probably, because I am. But this is just the best that we can do, okay? That is how that song feels to me.
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It's so refreshing to hear a song that is so lyrically honest and easy to understand. And it's nice to hear a sound that is raw and human and real. It's a great song. And it feels good to listen to. Okay, next. Clay Pigeons by Michael Cera. Clay Pigeons has been covered by many people. Michael Cera released his cover in 2014. The lyrics are so good. You know, you're transported into this story.
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I can't be like, well, so in this song, the baseline is very heavy. And there's this folk undertone with an emphasis on the percussion. Listen, I know these words, but I don't know what the fuck they mean. I can't actually describe how the song sounds.
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It's easy to listen to. It's beautiful to listen to. You can listen to it over and over and over again and never get sick of it. This song feels like a foggy day in the fall. You're sitting on a bus. There is a lyric in the song that says, I'm going down to the railway station going to get a ticket to ride. Or maybe Michael Ceras' Greyhound Station. I don't know. There's different lyrics.
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But anyway, there is a lyric in the song about going to the station to get a ticket to ride somewhere. So yes, okay, there is, you know, but it actually does, this song does kind of feel that way to me. It feels like you're sitting in on some sort of public transportation. Okay. Maybe it's the bus. Maybe it's the subway. Maybe it's a Greyhound. Well, that's also a bus.
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Maybe it's a train or a train. Oh my God. You know what? Let me say it's a train. It feels like being on a train and it's fall and the leaves are turning. Wow. It feels like this. The, the leaves are turning orange and And it's foggy out. Maybe it's like 5 p.m. So the sun's going down and starting to get a bit dark. But there's still like a sort of glow in the sky. And you're a little bit sleepy.
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And you're wearing a sweater. You're wearing like a soft turtleneck sweater. It's a cashmere sweater. Fuck it. It's cashmere. Fuck it. It is. It's cashmere. And you have little fingerless gloves on. And you're having a little cup of mint tea. You have some mint tea. And you're looking out the window. That's what this song sounds like. And you have headphones in, noise canceling.
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That's what this song feels like. Okay. Next we have Don't Look Back in Anger by Oasis. I didn't realize that this is a massive song. It literally has like a billion streams. I found this like a year ago. One of my friends played it in the car and I was like, where has this song been? I had heard it before, but I was like... This song is so good.
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A lot of people who share sort of similar music tastes to me really like Oasis. I never really got into it. Oasis' biggest song is called Wonderwall. You probably know it. I never liked that song. I don't know. I just... But... This song is so good. To me, it feels like a really romanticized high school drama movie. It feels stereotypical almost in that way. It feels like a 90s high school movie.
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So I have to literally, to the best of my ability, like try to paint a picture for you about how these songs sound without having basically any words mentioned. to like accurately describe the song. It's a mess. This episode is going to be a fucking mess. Okay. I'm going to probably accidentally sound pretentious at one point. I'm probably going to accidentally sound cringe at another point.
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with a popular girl who wears a pink velour tracksuit and then like a hot football jock who like whatever. And to me, this song feels like the popular girl in the high school movie and the jock breaking up because the jock is going to college, but it's summer. So like everything's going to be okay. And she knows deep down that she'll find another summer thing. She doesn't need him.
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He's heartbroken. He actually thought that they might get married, but he knew that it wasn't going to work because he's going to go play football at Yale or something. That's what the song feels like to me. And listen, you might listen to the song and be like, what? But that is how this song feels to me.
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Like, I just imagine this song playing as the football player and the popular girl are like walking away from each other outside of one of their houses at like 9.30 p.m. because the girl, of course, has to be in bed by 10. Her daddy is strict. I can't even say daddy anymore because everybody just thinks it's about. No. So her dad, her father makes her be her curfew is 10 p.m.
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So they had this sort of final conversation about how, you know, this isn't going to work out anymore outside of her house. And then they walk away and then boom, don't look back in anger by Oasis starts playing. It just fucking makes sense to me. Uh, this song is incredible. Okay. Moving on brief candles by the zombies. My dad showed me this song. You'll notice my dad shows me a lot of songs.
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He showed me this very recently, like maybe even six months ago. Oh my God. It is so good. Whoa. Brief candles came out in 1968 and It's using some sort of cool synth or keyboard. I don't know this shit. You know I don't know this shit. I already told you that. It's making some sort of sound that feels like a vampire to me. It feels like a vampire girl's 16th birthday, okay?
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It feels like she's wearing a cute little like black dress that has like frills and lace and embroidery. And she has her hair straightened, stick straight. And she's a moody girl, you see. She deep down has a bit of joy in her, but no, she's a moody girl on the outside. Imagine her at 6 p.m.
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sitting at her dining room table with her one weird friend who doesn't talk very much and the rest of her family there. Imagine her sitting in front of her cake, which she requested to be carrot cake because she's a freak. No, I'm kidding. I actually like carrot cake. There's something about this song that to me feels like carrot cake. I can't explain it. This is how my brain works.
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You all are seeing how my brain works and it's super disturbing. Anyway, carrot cake in front of her, black frosting, decorating a beautifully white cream cheese frosted cake. And everybody sings her happy birthday. She blows out the candles and she gets up and she walks out the front door and she kind of smirks a little bit.
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And then she goes and buys Twinkies from the convenience store down the street. I don't know if I'm convinced that that's how this song feels, but I'm going to stick with it because I worked really hard on it. Okay. I really like, I put my heart into that. And then at the end of it, I was like, that actually doesn't necessarily feel right. Maybe she doesn't. No, no, no. You know what?
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I'm going to describe things inaccurately and incorrectly throughout the episode because I have no idea how to describe music. I'm also terrified of committing to the statements that I'm about to make. I'm about to share with you a list of what I think are the greatest songs of all time, but I know myself. Oh, I know myself. I change my mind all the time. And it's an absolute curse.
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I'm changing my story. This is how the song feels. She's pouting and she's frowning, but she blows out her candles and then she can't keep up the act anymore. She smiles a little bit and everyone cheers. And then they all eat cake together. Maybe that's how it ends. I don't know. Okay, moving on. Not For All the Love in the World by The Thrills. This song came out in 2004.
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This was one of those songs that the first time I heard it, I was like, this is one of the worst songs I've ever heard. I'm not kidding. I hated it. I genuinely hated it. It was actually on a playlist that a boy made for me. Oh,
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Oh my God, a boy made for me kind of cringe, but it's not actually when the time that that happened and I, we both made each other a playlist and it was like in the, it was in the only way that it could not be possibly cringe. It actually was fine. In fact, it was delightful.
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This song was on there and I vividly remember the first time I listened to it because it was unlike anything I had ever heard before, especially the voice of the singer. I was like, what? It was so weird. And the way that the song was composed was unlike any other song I'd heard before. It was so unique. And the lyrics were kind of easy, not easy to follow, but your brain chose to follow them.
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Yeah. You know when sometimes it's hard to follow lyrics because they're being overshadowed by other elements of the song? The lyrics in this song, I was locked in. And they were intriguing. And I just remember being so intrigued by this song. It was so weird to me. But then I couldn't stop thinking about it. And then every few weeks or once a month, I would put it on and see how it made me feel.
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And then one day it clicked and I was like, wait, this is one of the best songs I've ever heard in my life. And it's songs like that that I genuinely do think develop my taste in music. I feel like songs that are good the first time you listen to them, it's awesome. It's exciting. But I don't think it's what takes your music taste to the next level.
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You know, I get really excited when a song clicks for me one day and I'm like, holy shit, I get it now. And this is one of those songs. This song to me feels like being in an abandoned ballroom. Okay, imagine you're in a ballroom, like a massive, beautiful, dramatic ballroom with gorgeous trimmings and gorgeous curtains and all of this, and it's completely abandoned.
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Okay, nobody's in there but you. And there's a beautiful carpet on the floor. It's soft. And you've taken your shoes off. And you've somehow connected to the music stereo system. And you've turned this song on. Ironically, this song feels like this song. That's how unique it is.
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And you are just flailing and dancing around this ballroom all by yourself, completely freely and with energy as though you're a child. That is how this song feels to me. There's something like so dramatic, but also like euphoric about it. Yeah, it's a really good song. It takes a bit, but once you get it, you're like, holy shit, I get it. And then you love it. Okay, next.
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Bad Habit by Steve Lacey. This song came out in 2022. I mean, this whole album, Gemini Writes, which I'm a Gemini, so of course I'm biased. This song was a massive, massive, massive, massive, massive fucking hit. It has a billion streams. All right. This is a big song. This song is not like by any means underrated. Okay. And so you all have probably heard it. It came out somewhat recently.
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It's a blessing and a curse. It's a blessing because it means that I'm growing and I'm evolving and I'm changing. But it's a curse because I'm constantly sharing my thoughts and opinions on the internet. And then when they change, it's awkward. I'm not a hypocrite. I'm not a liar. I'm not a freak. I just change my mind about things all the time.
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This is one of the most addictive songs I've ever heard in my life. I remember like the first time I heard it, I was like, oh shit, this is good. Like immediately. And I know I just said that, like I appreciate a song that takes me a bit to enjoy. Yes, I do. Cause I do think that that develops my taste, but holy shit, is it fun to hear a song out of nowhere?
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And the first time you hear it, be like, that is incredible and immediately be addicted to it. The second I heard it, I was like, I need to know what that song is right now. This song feels like what it feels like to show up to the first day of a music festival. Coachella, for example, okay? It feels like showing up to day one of Coachella. You're in a hot outfit. You look sick.
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You're with your friends. Not like sick as in ill, of course, but sick as in very cool. You're with your friends. You're so stoked. You're like, oh my God, I'm about to have a party of a weekend. You just feel all this energy built up inside of you because you're about to have an insane weekend and you're about to be drunk.
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The whole time, and you're about to get blisters on your feet, and you're about to see your ex, and then you're about to see them making out with somebody, and then you're going to cry, and then you're going to find somebody to make out with. You're going to dance a lot. You know you're about to just make a memory. It's just going to be... an adventure. That is how this song feels.
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It feels like the moment that a really good weekend begins. Does that make sense? I use this word a lot apparently, but euphoric. It's like a euphoric song. It really creates a feeling. Okay, next we have Not Allowed by TV Girl. This song was created in 2016. This song is just cool. It's just cool. Sorry. It is. It's just cool. And the lyrics are funny too.
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The lyrics are about someone having a bad boyfriend who just sucked. Well, I think it's about that. This song to me feels like... Sorry. Listen, I don't want to promote nicotine use and I'm not promoting it, okay? I don't fuck with nicotine anymore. Actually, I do. If somebody has a vape around me, I'm like... Can I have some? And we all know that about me. So let's not like sugarcoat it.
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Instead of doing what I'm about to say, just listen to this song because this is how this song feels. Do you know what I'm saying? Okay. Not Allowed by TV Girl feels like standing outside of a bar on a summer night and smoking some sort of carcinogenic... tobacco-based product. Okay. Could be a cigarette. Can I be honest?
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And that is human, but on the internet, it doesn't read as well. But despite all of this fear, I'm going to share what I think are the greatest songs of all time anyway. The mere chance that you might find a new song to add to your playlist is enough to motivate me to push past my fears. Thank you so much for watching. Now, let's get back to the episode.
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It's never one of those like sweet, like there's a bunch of different names for them. Elf bar, flume, geek bar, whatever. You know what I'm talking about? The disgusting flavored big vapes that are like icy blue raspberry. It's not, it's like either a jewel or a cigarette. Okay. You're,
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you're outside of a bar and you can hear the hum of the music on the inside and you're smoking a cigarette or a Juul and all of the chemicals from that are going into your brain and you're so happy. And someone just like really hot comes up to you and starts talking to you, but they only really talk to you for a second and then they just like stand next to you.
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It's just like, they're just standing there and you know that they're hot and you know that you'll talk to them in a second, but it's just nice to know that they're standing right there. That's what this song feels like to me. It feels cool. It feels like you're wearing a full outfit of vintage St. Laurent, you know? And it's sleazy. It's a little sleazy, you know?
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Like there's a low slit down the front. You're wearing all black probably, you know? There's some leather going on. You're probably wearing like tiny little mini, little studded, little leather shorts and like a deep, like plunging V-neck black top, right? And you probably have smudged eyeliner and you're just smoking your cigarette or your Juul and you just, and that's what the song feels like.
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And the music coming from the inside is like rumbling in your brain and it's so beautiful. Now juxtaposed with that, we have Can I Call You Tonight by Dayglo. This song came out in 2018. I absolutely love this song. Unfortunately, it reminds me of like literally two different exes that I have. Like it vividly, like I hear the song and immediately think of two of my exes.
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Not in a sad way, but more in a way where I'm like, I don't need to think about this right now. I'm busy right now doing other things. This doesn't need to cross my mind. This song is so sweet. It's so innocent. It's such an innocent love song about kind of like budding love. This song feels like a budding romance in like the 1950s between two young people, maybe around age 19 or 20.
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And, you know, at this time, because it's like the 50s, sex is taboo. You know, there's no dating apps. It's all taboo. So you get nervous to call, you know, the person you have a crush on, talking on the phone for three hours straight, sitting on a chair uncomfortably, because of course the phones back then were attached to the wall, sitting, if there even was phones.
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Were there even phones in the 1950s? I actually don't know. Well, let's pretend that there were. Yeah. I know nothing about history in that way. I don't know when certain technological advancements were created. When was the light bulb created? I don't know. Was it the 1800s? Probably. But could it have been the early 1900s? I don't know. That's the problem. When did they stop using candles?
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I don't know. I don't know. No one ever taught me that. Or maybe they were supposed to, but I left high school junior year. So it could be my fault. But either way, I don't know. Um... This is just true, innocent love, okay? It's not lust. It's not exploited. It's pure, sweet love.
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And these people who are right now in their 20s talking on the phone will get married and they will have a family and they will die together. And that is how this song feels, Can I Call You Tonight by Dayglo. What a beautiful song. I absolutely love it. My dad showed it to me when it was like super indie. I don't even know how he found it. He found it and it had like no streams.
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My dad shows me the best music. I wish I had my own taste. No, I actually do, but he shows me a lot of stuff. All right, next we have an obvious banger and all of you know it. Hey There Delilah by the Plain White Tees. This song came out in 2006. Obviously, this was a golden era for music, in my opinion. Do I even need to get into it? Like, you know this song. Hey there, Delilah.
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I can't sing anymore. Here's the deal, okay? This song is corny, right? It's corny, but it's corny in the most incredible possible way. To me, this song feels like skinny jeans, really worn-in Converse, and of course, a plain white tee, because the band The Plain White Tees. and like a side swooped hair and like a Motorola or no, is it Motorola? No, like a BlackBerry phone.
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Remember the BlackBerry phone? Imagine that outfit on somebody, anybody. Imagine it on you and imagine you on the phone with your long distance lover in that outfit. That's how this song feels to me. Okay, let's move on. to a new song that I literally just found thanks to the Spotify algorithm. No, not sponsored, even though I do have a Spotify podcast. This was an algorithm pull from Spotify.
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It took me a very long time to make this list. I worked very hard on it. It's in no particular order, and it's incomplete. It's subject to change. And... There are artists that I absolutely love and adore that are not on this list. And the reason for that is I prefer their albums, their entire albums as works of art rather than their individual pieces of music, their individual songs.
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There's artists on this list that haven't ever made an album that I enjoy all the way through. It's very fascinating, you guys. Okay, let's get into it. Let's start out with the song Up Against the Wall by Peter Bjorn and John. This song came out in 2006 when I was five years old. And I believe I discovered this song at around age, let's say 10 or 11.
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Humans, for the most part, are passionate about music, and that is sort of a beautiful thing, but it's also sort of a terrifying thing. In addition to that, it feels like you can never win. If you like pop music, everyone's like, oh, you're basic. Oh, so you're basic. You don't even have taste. You just listen to what everyone else listens to. Oh, I get it now. You're basic.
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I heard this song on my dad and I's Pandora radio. This Pandora radio was based on the song West Coast by Coconut Records. We created a radio station based on that song, and we listened to it constantly. It honestly shaped, I would say, 60% of my music taste.
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And then I found it again a few years later. It's been this like thing where... Someday by Sugar Ray has been in and out of my consciousness for years. And now it's officially on playlists. This song to me is like, holy shit. Driving down Sunset Boulevard in a Porsche convertible, wearing massive fucking sunglasses, like huge, like covering half of your face.
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hungover, wearing like sweatpants, about to go to another party. Fuck it. You're about to go to a darty. That is what the song feels like. This song feels like a bender to me. It's like, but it feels like the morning, it feels like a morning during a bender. Does that make sense? It feels like, you know, you partied yesterday.
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I'm not talking about like a toxic bender where we're like doing illegal substances and like harming ourselves in any way. I'm just talking about like a fun bender where it's like, all right, you know what? We got drunk a few days in a row. It happens every once in a while. It's all good. You know? I'm not promoting that lifestyle. I'm personally sober.
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So I don't even do this type of stuff anymore. But you get the idea. That is the vibe. It's so good. It's like kind of trashy almost in a way. Like... It's kind of messy. It's kind of sloppy, but it's also like hopeful and excited and like, I don't know. Okay. Whisper to a scream by the icicle works. This song came out 1983. This song to me really sounds eighties, which I really love about it.
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I really like the, like an eighties sort of sound like the Smiths. And do I even have, I do have a Smith song on here. I love the sound, you know, of like all these different like synthesizers and stuff and like this sort of effect on the voice that's almost like echoey and stuff. The dramatic sort of singing, the like kind of almost very like, the music almost feels colorful in the 80s.
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You know what I mean? Like it feels like very rich. Not that I have synesthesia, which means you can see sounds. Is that how that works? Like if you hear, you can see colors and shapes associated with sounds. I don't have that. But if I did, I think that 80s music would be very rich and colorful looking and bright and like sharp, you know? Maybe I do have synesthesia. Synesthesia. I don't.
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Whisper to a scream to me sounds like, it feels like walking through the forest at dusk, wearing an outfit that you normally wouldn't necessarily wear into the forest. You're wearing like a black turtleneck and black pants and like black Doc Martens. You know, you're not wearing hiking gear, okay? That's not the context in which you're in the forest. You're in the forest in an emo way.
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You're in the forest in a Tumblr way. You're not in the forest in a hiking outdoorsy Patagonia sort of way. Understood? And you're kind of just like walking around randomly around the forest every once in a while deciding to just run for a bit and then like sitting under a tree and then you're running again and then you're sitting under a tree and it's either autumn or No, you know what?
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It's winter in like California. So it's like not snowing. Well, it does snow in California sometimes. But it's winter, but it's not snowing. And you're in the forest and you're wearing all black. And it's very Tumblr what's happening. And you're like running and walking. And there's something very... childlike about it in a very, I'm going to use this word again, in a very sort of euphoric way.
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The music on that playlist, it was a lot of early 2000s, like sweet alternative indie music that was pleasant on the ears, comforting, soothing, like nothing like rock crazy. Crazy, but not like folky either. It was like just sort of nerdy, indie, alternative music. Like The Shins, you know, Modest Moused, Peter, Bjorn, and John, The Postal Service.
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And there are moments when you're sitting under the tree and relaxing, but then there are moments when you're sort of, you know, skipping and running through the forest as well. And you almost feel like you're flying and you feel the crisp air brushing against your face when you run. And it's really a beautiful experience and you're alone.
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Okay, moving on to literally such a good song, Tongue Tied by Group Love. This song came out in 2011. Wow, this song is good. You all know this song, okay? Because it comes on at a bar or a party and suddenly the room erupts in dancing. Everybody across genre preferences starts dancing. I don't need to describe this song to you. No, I don't. Because you know what it feels like.
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It feels like when everyone at a party suddenly lets everything go and just dances together. When there's complete sink, when there's sinkage, when, no, that's not a word. When everybody at the party is synced and dancing and singing all together, that is what Tongue Tied by Group Love feels like. Moving on to a song that is very unlike me.
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This like doesn't fit in with the other songs that I like. These Words by Natasha Bedingfield came out in 2004. This is like a very pop 2004, early 2000s pop song. which is not a genre that I am well-versed in. Well, it is because I was a kid during that time and I was listening to the radio and I heard a lot of pop music, but I didn't like a lot of it.
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It didn't necessarily resonate with me, all of it. However, these words by Natasha Bedingfield, are you kidding me? It is so good. I never even really process the lyrics until later. It's kind of about having writer's block, which I think is kind of charming. You know, it's kind of ironic. Like Natasha Bedingfield went into the studio and was like, I got nothing boss.
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And they were like, well, you, you have a deadline for this album. She's like, God damn it. And then she wrote a song about not knowing what to write for her song. And there's something so beautiful about that. And that is very poetic. That's Um, this song feels like being like a really hot It Girl pop star. When this song comes on, I feel like an It Girl pop star.
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I feel like Sabrina Carpenter all of a sudden. You know what I'm saying? I feel like Natasha Bedingfield. I feel like Hilary Duff. I feel like I'm wearing a little sparkly outfit. I feel like I'm singing my heart out on a stage. But an outdoor stage. Yeah, an outdoor stage. Like an outdoor Coachella stage. Okay, you know what? Yes.
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These words by Natasha Bedingfield feel like performing main stage at Coachella for like 100,000 people in a cute little sparkly outfit with a bunch of pyrotechnics, like just explosions going off everywhere on the stage and just belting. No, you know what? No explosions, actually. Maybe confetti, if that. Maybe not even confetti. Maybe confetti that's shaped like flower petals. I don't know.
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I feel when I'm belting out these words by Natasha Bedingfield that I am on the stage. Moving on to Video Killed the Radio Star by The Buggles. This song came out in 1980. Another one that my dad showed me. He showed me the music video because there's a very iconic music video
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for this song which is it's so good I actually need to watch it again because I genuinely don't remember anything about it and I'm telling you how amazing it is and I don't remember it but it's also super 80s and the album name that it's on is The Age of Plastic which is actually a very timeless name I think and
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And it's funny because I'm looking at the album now and the rest of the album, none of the other songs have like any streams and I want to go listen to them because they're kind of undiscovered. Whereas Video Killed the Radio Star is a huge song. This song feels very like futuristic and maybe that's because the music video is kind of futuristic. I feel like it is in like the stereotypical way.
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you know, like flying cars that are sort of rounded at the corners and like, you know, everybody's dressed up in like beautiful sort of metallic outfits and like everyone lives on Mars. Like that's what I mean by the song feels sort of futuristic.
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You know, like the Jetsons being this sort of like alien family and they have like, there's something sort of like, like, I hope you know what aesthetic I'm talking about. Like sort of a,
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And this was a song that used to come up on that radio station. I loved it as a kid, but I heard it again later, I think when I was like 21, so a few years ago. And I was like, oh, wait a minute. This is the best song I've ever heard. And I re-fell in love with it in a brand new way. And when I close my eyes and think about what this song sounds like, it sounds like being on a ferry.
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a retro futuristic aesthetic, like in like the 60s, what they thought today would look like, you know, with like all these beautiful buildings with a bunch of orbs everywhere and like floating cars and everything's floating and everything has rounded corners and it's like everything's shiny and metallic and perfect. Video killed the radio star by the buggles feels like
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a day living in that world where everything is perfect, but it's like a little bit too perfect. You know what I mean? And it's actually a little bit eerie, but it's also so beautiful. For breakfast, you have a beautiful, perfect plate of eggs where like your egg is perfectly cooked and you have like, you know, a little piece of bacon and it's like the perfect little piece of bacon. And then...
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You go to the grocery store and it's like everybody's walking in straight lines and everybody's putting things in their cart perfectly organized like Tetris. And then for dinner, the whole family sits around the table and everybody's perfectly mannered. And it feels like this eerily perfect sort of dystopia. That's what this song feels like to me. I don't know why. Moving on to Some Nights by Fun.
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This song was absolutely massive when I was in middle school. It came out in 2012. It was a pop song and it is truly one of the best songs of all time. Every time I hear this song, I'm like, this is unbelievable.
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And it kind of defies all odds in a way because this is not a song that I would have thought when it first came out that I would love this much for this long because there are certain elements of it that are like cringe. I don't care. I think it's an incredible song.
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And to me, it feels like getting really blackout drunk at a dive bar and playing pool and like throwing up in the bathroom, but then like get like getting up and like continuing and like playing more pool and ultimately having a fun night.
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But it was a little bit sloppy your evening, you know, like you got a little bit of throw up on your shirt and like no one told you and it was there all night and it's just like mortifying. Yeah. But you actually did end up getting some really good shots when you were playing pool, which was really rewarding. And music is blaring in this bar, by the way. It's not a chic vibe at all.
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It's not, but it is still a vibe, right? And music is ultimately blaring. That is Some Nights by Fun. It is such a good song. Next, we have a new song that just came out, Die With a Smile by Lady Gaga and Bruno Mars. You've probably heard the song. It has 2 billion streams. Um, came out in 2024. I'm sorry. I love Bruno Mars. Bruno Mars is so good. Lady Gaga is so good.
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I don't even need to talk about this song because it has so many streams that like you've heard it before. You know what I'm saying? You already know how it makes you feel. I don't need to describe it to you. There's a 100% chance that you heard this song. Okay. Next we have, yes, I'm changing by Tame Impala. Okay. This song came out in 2015.
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This was like a song that I discovered freshman year of high school that truly changed my music taste. There was this sort of moment in high school where I really started to get into music for the first time, like on my own accord, not just listening to the music that my dad showed me, but rather going on my own adventure.
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And this was one of the first songs that I found myself and fell in love with myself. And I remember listening to it in my freshman art class, my freshman year art class. And this song was so heavy for me. It was so serious. It really hit. This song... hits. And to me, it almost feels like if you were a small speck of dust in a bathtub. That insignificant, okay?
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Imagine you're a small speck of dust in a bathtub. This song feels like a speck of dust spiraling down the bathtub drain. Again, sometimes I wonder if I'm a little bit too abstract with the explanations. Let me put this differently. This song feels like spiraling down the drain, but in a weirdly good way.
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Like imagine yourself being so small that you could spiral down the drain, like the bathtub drain, the sink drain. And imagine what it would feel like if you knew that you could breathe underwater or whatever and that you wouldn't die. Imagine what it would feel like to go down the drain.
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probably kind of delightful you're rhythmically going in circles but you're on your back so like you're not dizzy but you're being carried in circles and it's getting faster and faster because as you as the whirlpool gets tighter towards the bottom it gets faster that's what the song feels like it feels like going down the drain So do with that what you will.
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No, okay, imagine this, imagine this. You're in New York City. It's foggy and a bit misty. It's a bit moist in the air. you're feeling content. You don't really feel happy. You don't really feel sad. You just feel sort of content, maybe leaning towards a bit sad or a bit emo, but not in a bad way, just in like a in your feels sort of way.
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Moving on to Threat of Joy by The Strokes. This song came out in 2016. I love The Strokes. I love a lot of Strokes songs. But this was my favorite song of all time for like three years when I was a teenager, probably like age 16, 17, maybe even 18 too. For me, it tickled my brain in every single way I wanted it to tickle me. And it felt fun. Like this song has just always felt fun to me.
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There's something like... casual about it and fun about it. And it reminds me of being ages 16, 17, 18 so much that that's the only way that I can describe it. This song feels like me, Emma Chamberlain, at age 16, 17, or 18, which if you don't know what that was like, having long hair put up in...
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some sort of hideous scrunchie, driving my car around everywhere, being alone a lot, being kind of lonely, but also having fun with that, feeling like a lot of hope for my future, but also being like, I don't know. So like having this underlying feeling of excitement and hope, but also like unsure. I don't know. Threat of joy by the strokes to me just reminds me of being a teenager.
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Next we have Dedicated to the One I Love by the Mamas and the Papas. This song came out in 1967. I don't remember how I heard it or when I heard it, but it's just like, it's just like a perfect song. It's so beautifully sung, like such like rich voice on this song. This song feels like being in a really beautiful gown, like probably a velvet gown or like silk.
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with a really big, a huge bottom part. What's that called? A huge trail, a huge... Fuck, what's it called? The waist down of the gown is large. It has boning in it. It's very large.
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This song feels like sitting on the steps of a beautiful Victorian building with insane, beautiful sculptures, and you're the child of a rich man, and you're sitting on the steps in front of this beautiful, beautiful mansion after an evening, after a soiree, after a party where there was lots of champagne to be had, but you miss your beloved because your beloved is off. Ugh. God, I don't know.
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I don't know what your beloved is doing, but they're off. They're off on a work trip or they're like, you know, or they're in the army or something. And you're sitting on the steps and you're beautiful gown and you look absolutely beautiful and you're missing your love. And you have a beautiful chalice of champagne in your hand, but you don't even care about it. You're not even drinking it.
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And you decide that you want to go on the ferry and you want to see the water that surrounds New York and you want to see the Statue of Liberty and you want to listen to music. So you pop in your little wired headphones and you're wearing a little cardigan and a little cute pair of jeans.
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You set it down on the steps and you're crying beautiful, small, little, dainty little tears down your cheek and they're falling onto the velvet or the silk of your beautiful, voluptuous gown. That's what it feels like to me. But it's like, not like a messy cry. It's like a hot cry, like a cool cry, like a romantic cry, slight sob. It's like a slight sob. Next, What Once Was by Hers.
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This song came out in 2017. This was my favorite song for a really, really long time. Also, when I was like 16, 17, I had a few favorite songs when I was like 16, 17, 18. This song, actually, this one was maybe like later, like 17, 18, 19. This song, to me, it feels like painting in your room. The windows are open. There's air coming in. It doesn't really matter what time of year it is.
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And you're making some sort of little art project. Could be anything. And you're wearing your pajamas. And you have some sort of snack, maybe, perhaps. Maybe you have a little bowl of popcorn or something. Maybe this is just what I wish was happening right now. Do you know how much I would love to just have the windows open and eat a little bit of popcorn and do a little painting?
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My God, that sounds delightful. In fact, I might do that later. That's what this song feels like to me, I think. Either that or it feels like laying in bed with your significant other, not sexually, like just laying there, windows open, everyone's fully clothed in pajamas, no one's naked, nothing sexual is happening. Platonic laying in bed with your significant other, maybe.
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It could feel like either of those two things. Next we have There She Goes by The Laws. This is another one my dad showed me. This song came out in 1990 or did it? I feel like, yeah, it did come out in 1990. Okay, this song feels like being at the airport and seeing someone so hot and you're like, oh my God. This is the love of my life. You know, like I have to go talk to this person.
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And then you contemplating talking to them over and over and over and over again. And then you're like, but I'm never gonna see them again. Oh, maybe that's a good thing. Oh, maybe that's a bad thing. And then they board their flight and you know that you're never gonna see them again. And the bittersweet loss,
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This song feels like sitting on the plane after seeing somebody hot in the airport and imagining what it would have been like to have talked to them. In a way that is not fully sad, it's also kind of weirdly satisfying. There's almost something even more satisfying about thinking about what it would have been like with somebody.
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in a little pair of cute little flats, and you're wearing a cute little pair of glasses, and it's foggy, and it's a bit brisk, and your nose is a bit pink, and you're sailing around or boating on the ferry around New York City, and it's cold, and you have nothing better to do because it's a Sunday afternoon, and that's what this song feels like to me. Okay, let's move on.
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This song feels like imagining what it would have been like to talk to the hot person in the airport. Okay, moving on to Starman by David Bowie. This song came out in 1972. Another one that my dad showed me. When my dad first tried to introduce David Bowie to me, I was like, excuse me, I hate this. Excuse me, what is this? Turn it off. I hate it. I didn't really like his voice.
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You know, the actual songs themselves were so unusual sounding and kind of jarring to hear. And my brain couldn't comprehend it at first. And then similar to some of the songs that I mentioned earlier that took me a minute to understand, it clicked one day. And I was like, oh, fuck, this is really good. And I became a David Bowie fan. And I think I became a fan in high school.
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I think he showed me in middle school. And then I think I became a fan by high school. Starman by David Bowie feels like a purple electric guitar that's shaped like a V. Have you ever seen those electric guitars that are like shaped like a V? They're like very retro looking.
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If I go to a guitar shop, which I don't do very often, although I have a lot of musicians around me, so I do end up at a music store here and there. When I see a guitar like that, I immediately just start playing Starman by David Bowie in my head. Does that make sense? It feels like being on a spaceship that's going to Mars with that purple guitar.
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Maybe I'm just running out of things to say, but that is what I think it feels like. Okay, next we have I Don't Feel Like Dancing by the Scissor Sisters. This song came out in 2006. My dad and I, I don't know where he found the song or I found the song. I don't know how this song came onto our radar, but... But we both became obsessed with it. I think more me. I think he was just humoring me.
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I don't know that he liked it as much, but I loved the song. This is a song that you put on and I'm sorry, but you just have to dance. If you don't start dancing, you're a freak. You're a freak because it's so fun. And the music video is...
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hilarious and like camp and like everybody's wearing like tight suits I think if I'm remembering correctly and there's like a green screen involved it's like crazy and the song is the best song to dance to out of any song I've ever danced to in my life I'm not kidding oh my god it's so good
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And to me, it feels like putting on a super tight red latex suit and like some big glasses and going out for the night and going to like a groovy sort of bar and drinking sparkling water because you don't even need to get drunk that night because you're so high off of your latex red suit. Okay, that's what this song feels like to me. And having the best night of your life.
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And then waking up the next morning and feeling completely refreshed because you didn't drink. Because you were so, so, you were almost drunk off of your red latex suit. That was so hard to get on, by the way, but you had friends to help. Moving on to This Charming Man by The Smiths. This song came out in 1984. I loved this song as a teenager as well.
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This song feels like what I imagine would be like an 80s block party. That's how it feels to me. I never lived on a street where there were any block parties.
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If you don't know what I mean by a block party, I mean like when someone lives in a cul-de-sac like at the end of a street and all the neighbors will like come out onto their front lawn and do like a barbecue or something and there's music and like a trampoline. I had some friends who had block parties and I attended them and they were... It was so much fun.
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And I want to live on a street one day that has block parties because it's so fun and communal. But this Charming Man by the Smiths feels like a hot summer night block party. All the neighbors are out. All ages of people are out. There's a bunch of different things going on. Like somebody's mom is like flirting with somebody's dad and that shouldn't be happening.
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Weird Fishes slash R. Peggy by Radiohead. I don't actually know how I discovered this song, but I found it a few years ago, probably when I was like, again, like 20. And this was one of those songs that I listened to on repeat over and over and over again so many times that it actually made me question like my well-being. I was like, how am I not sick of this yet? And I'm still not sick of it.
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And young boys are trying to do tricks on their bike. And somebody's uncle is like really drunk and drank a lot of beer. And somebody brought fireworks and now fireworks are going off. For some reason, that's what this Charming Man by the Smiths feels like to me. But it also just feels really 80s. Like, I don't know. It sounds 80s, which I think is fun. And I like that.
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So Band on the Run by Paul McCartney and Wings. This song came out in 1973. I remember being a young child singing this in the car with my dad. I know I keep mentioning that I sang things with my dad. I also sang things with my mom, but those didn't make this list. My mom and I would listen to Rascal Flatts and Fergie. I love that stuff, but it's not making it on the list for me.
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It's just not like, whoa, Bless the Broken Road by Rascal Flatts, a country classic song. No, see, I don't know if it belongs on this list. I'll think about it. Um, Band on the Run, it is such a good, fun song. And to me, it feels like a bunch of people fit in a clown car. Imagine a clown car, you know, like a small like prop car. And imagine like 50 guys in it.
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OK, and you're watching and a bunch of guys just keep getting out of the car. That's what Band on the Run by Paul McCartney and Wings feels like to me. But it also feels like being six years old and singing in my dad's Volkswagen Golf. Oh, my God. The next song is cringe. Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen. Sorry. It is one of the best songs of all time. came out in 1975.
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It's obviously seven minutes, oh no, it's six minutes long. It's so long. You've probably heard Bohemian Rhapsody before. Like, do I really need to, I don't think I need to tell you what Bohemian Rhapsody feels like. Although it does sort of feel like taking the stairs. Like in the beginning, it doesn't really burn. It's like pretty chill. But And then it really starts to burn.
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And then it really starts to burn. And then you're like, oh my God, I can't believe this is still going. Like, when is this, when am I going to be done going up the stairs? Like, when will I reach my destination? It's like going up 10 flights of stairs. Fuck it, 20 flights of stairs. But then at the end, you're so glad that you did it. And it felt amazing.
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And your glutes are burning and your glutes are toned. And it's just absolutely unbelievable. That's what Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen feels like to me. Okay, next we have Take a Chance on Me by ABBA. This song came out in 1977. I love ABBA. My dad played a lot of ABBA for me as a kid. And it's just so wholesome. You know what this song feels like? This song feels like being inside of a snow globe.
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I don't know how to explain it, but it's such like a kitschy, catchy, sort of perfect song almost that the song makes me feel like I'm like a little ice princess inside of a snow globe. I don't know. And like there's some hot guy looking at me in the snow globe being like, wow, I wish that was a real girl. That's how Take a Chance on Me by ABBA makes me feel.
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Next, we have Harvest Moon by Neil Young. This song came out in 1992. When I was a kid, my dad showed me a little bit of Neil Young and it never really stuck for me, which I understand in retrospect because it's not a sound for kids necessarily. His voice is very raw and real and the music is very mature. There's something very mature about it. It's not pop at all. It's not...
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It's very acoustic sounding. It's very classic. And I don't know, it's not for kids. So I understand why I didn't get it as a kid. But it's funny because walking around San Francisco one time, my dad and I randomly walked past this music venue and my dad was like, oh my God. And I was like, what? I was like seven. He was like, it's Neil Young. I had no idea who that was.
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Anyway, my dad went up and was like, hey, man, such a big fan. So nice to meet you. Shook his hand and was like, have a good one. My dad fully fangirled for Neil Young, which I understand now because he's very iconic. But in the moment, I was like, who's that? And now it's cool to me that I bumped into Neil Young randomly in San Francisco as a kid and But at the time I was like, I don't care.
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I think this is one of the only songs on this playlist that I've not listened to too much to the point where now I can't hear it anymore. Like this song feels brand new to me every single time that I listened to it. It came out in 2007. It shockingly wasn't on my Pandora radio station when I was a kid.
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Where are the Jonas Brothers? Anyway, Harvest Moon by Neil Young absolutely makes me sob. This is a song that has made me sob time and time again. And it makes me feel like I'm sitting in like a field of dried up grass in the evening time and crying because I'm going through a breakup. A lot of songs make me feel like I'm going through a breakup.
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Like they make you feel that sense of longing and sadness, but also happiness at the same time that a breakup makes you feel. And that's what I get from Harvest Moon by Neil Young. It really does feel like the harvest moon. Like I imagine a big, beautiful moon above, you know, a dry field with tall grass or tall, you know, plants.
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and sitting in it in the summer, at the end of the summer, yes, and thinking, thinking in that field. That's what it feels like. Okay, next we have Lucky Number by Lena Lovitch. This song came out in 1978. This song, even to this day, I love it. It is very, it's almost hard to listen to. But that's what's so good about it. It's a challenge. This is a challenging song to listen to.
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There's a lot of weird sounds in it. The way that she sings is kind of unusual. Like it's not an easy listen, but once it clicks, you'll never hear, it's like you'll never hear music the same again. Once you learn to like it, it rewires your brain. It is weird. It is really weird. To me, it feels like getting electrocuted. but not in a way that is ultimately dangerous.
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If you like alternative music, people are like... Oh, you're a pick me. Oh, my God. You're not like everybody else. You're different because you're an alternative. Oh, you're different. And then if you listen to avant-garde music, everyone's like, oh, so you're a freak. You're a freak. And I should stay far, far away from you because you're a freak.
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It feels like getting shocked on accident, but for the whole song, but in a way that's almost satisfying. This song feels like wearing like really, really tall Vivienne Westwood platform shoes around town and wearing a like really dramatic outfit. This song feels like having like kind of a rational, paranoid, borderline manic moment about something.
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But not in a negative way, kind of in a beautiful way. Okay. Anyway, I don't know how to explain it. Moving on to Space Song by Beach House. This song came out in 2015. To be honest, I love every single Beach House song that they've ever created. This is another band where the entire discography is perfect. There are so many good Beach House songs.
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individually, like individual songs and albums, I was overwhelmed by it. So I just chose their biggest song, which is Space Song, because it's the most recognizable. It has a billion streams. You've probably heard it. It feels like floating in space. in the middle of the night. It feels like being in a sensory deprivation tank. It feels like being completely numb in a soothing sort of way.
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It feels like floating and flying. This song has made me cry in a way that very few other songs have. When I was like 16 years old and I found this song, it was not pretty. I remember one time I was going to hang out with my friends and I was in my mom's car because I couldn't drive yet. So I guess I was like 15. And this song came on from my Spotify because I was on aux, of course.
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To me, this song feels like laying in your bed in soft sweatpants, not pajamas, not like a pajama set, but like sweatpants, like really comfortable sweatpants. And perhaps you have a fireplace in your room or maybe you just have a lot of candles. There's a lot of warm lighting around you and it's pouring rain. It is absolutely gushing, gushing, gushing rain outside.
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And I started bawling uncontrollably just because the song moved me so much. And my mom was like, what is wrong with you? And I was like, I can't handle this song. It's so moving for me. And I think that that's why it's such a popular song. It's done very well because it's very moving. It's such a beautiful song. And it really does make you feel like you're floating in air, like an orb of light.
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I'm not kidding. Okay, anyway, next we have Why Do You Feel So Down by Declan McKenna. Wow, this is a great song. Came out in 2017. This song feels like, I don't know why, but being in high school and hanging out with your friends late at night on the weekends. And that's kind of a new privilege at that age. There's like this excitement and this energy everywhere.
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And this sort of youthfulness and a bit of edge because you're kind of getting a bit older and you're starting to rebel and stuff. Without parents around, it's like a new, exciting thing. Moving on. Nine in the Afternoon by Panic at the Disco. This song came out in 2008. And I don't remember when I discovered it. I don't think I discovered it when it was popular.
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I think it came into my radar later. This song... feels like being in Willy Wonka's chocolate factory, but like it's a rave. No, it's not even a rave. It's like jumping on a trampoline at Willy Wonka's chocolate factory. That's what the song feels like to me. There's nothing else to say about it. This is the type of song that it comes on and I'm fucking, I am headbanging.
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But it's not even like a headbanging sort of song. It's not like it's heavy metal, but it's still a headbanger. Okay, next we have The Adults Are Talking by The Strokes. This song came out in 2020. This entire album that it's on, The New Abnormal by The Strokes, Absolutely incredible. I absolutely loved that album. In fact, it's one of my favorite albums of all time.
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This was like my favorite song for like multiple years, like age probably, I don't know, 21 to no, maybe like 20 to 22. I don't know. I really love this song for a long time. And you know what it feels like to me? And this might be biased because I feel like I listened to this song a lot during the summer that it came out.
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I feel like this song feels like being on like a small little speedboat sort of on a lake with friends, drunk. Either that or... or being drunk on the beach during the day, like during the day. But I actually think it's because I literally was drunk on the beach a lot when I listened to this song.
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This song could also feel like wearing a really fucking cool outfit, like something really chic and timeless, like a red sweater. and like a really well-fitted blue jean and like a black boot and like a black turtleneck and like a black belt and like gorgeous large black glasses and like strutting through New York City with headphones on. It could also feel that way too.
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But I think it's because I've done all of those things while listening to this song. And so I'm just unable to disconnect my own personal experience from this song because it was so ingrained in a time in my life, but it's good. Next, we have Such Great Heights by the Postal Service.
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This song came out in 2003, and it's on another one of my favorite albums of all time that I listened to a lot growing up. This song feels like exchanging Valentine's letters with your crush at work. You know what I'm saying? Or your crush at school. But you're an adult. You know when you exchange valentines and you're a kid? Okay, yeah, that's fun or whatever and cute.
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But imagine if you had to do that as an adult and what that aesthetic would be at work or at school in some sort of corporate location. That is what Such Great Heights by the Postal Service feels like to me. It's like this sweet, innocent, slightly weird, I don't know, I've been talking for too long. Let's wrap this up, okay? Next, we have Light On by Pine Grove.
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But the sound of it is very, is very... tame and vague, but it's absolutely just raining cats and dogs outside, but you're safe in a little cocoon inside of your bedroom. Again, you're content. You're not happy or sad. You're content, but you're also kind of tired. And so there's this feeling of laying in your bed, safe in your bed with warm lighting around you in the rain coming down outside.
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I found this song somewhat recently, but it came out in 2018. This song, for some reason, feels like begging for your ex to come back. but in like a, almost like in a sweet, like laughing way. Like if you're like, fuck it, I'm already done being heartbroken. I don't even care anymore. Now it's like, I'm just going to try again because fuck it. And like, I'm not even that hurt anymore.
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I've already been through so much hurt from this and I'm not like crying anymore. I'm not depressed anymore. Now I'm just giving it another try because why not? It's like, this song to me is like standing outside of your ex's window and throwing a rock at the window and then they open it up and you're like, Just come back with me already. That's what this song feels like.
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Okay, next we have Sloop John B by the Beach Boys. I can just hop right into it because the vision is so clear. This song is like wearing a really cute sailor's outfit, like all white with like navy details, a little sailor's hat, having like a little gold watch on. you know, like the whole sailor, the whole sailor vibe.
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And you're on a little boat with like a few of your friends and you guys are running the boat and you're accomplishing some sort of task. Like maybe you're dropping off a package across the lake. You've been assigned to drop off a package across the lake and you must do so on your little boat. Or maybe you're gathering firewood for some reason. Doesn't matter why. Don't ask me why.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
It doesn't matter. You're gathering firewood and you're dropping off a package via your little boat and you're with your friends and you guys all work together on this little boat and you all wear little sailor's outfits. Sloop John B by the Beach Boys came out in 1966. Absolute banger. And you know what? I have another Beach Boys song. Yeah, I do. This one came out in 1963. This is In My Room.
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It feels so good. You're tired. You're exhausted. But it's okay now because you're in your bed. That's how this song feels to me. Okay, next. Femme Fatale by The Velvet Underground. This song came out in 1967. You know, this song, the lyrics are sort of about a femme fatale, a dangerous woman. And I listened to the song and it really reminds me how much I am not a dangerous woman.
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I am reminded that I am so just ultimately safe to be around. And I really don't hurt men's feelings. You know, unfortunately, they usually hurt mine. And if I hurt theirs, it's because they hurt mine first. However, there is something about listening to this song and it being about this dangerous woman where I'm like,
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you know what, while I listen to this song, I feel sort of like a dangerous woman, but in a very interesting way because this song is not like, from like a sound perspective, it actually doesn't sound badass. Like it's not like listening to like hyper pop that like makes you feel hot, like you're strutting like runway. Like it doesn't make you feel hot in that way.
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Because the song actually is very beautiful and soft and like one of the most cozy, beautiful sounding songs I've ever heard in my life. But the lyrics are very ironic because it's like very like hot girl vibe. It sounds like wearing like really beautiful lace lingerie, but with like a really soft billowing dress over it that like that makes it so that you can't see the lingerie at all.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
You're hot, but you're also incredibly comfortable and surrounded by warmth. This song also feels like the first day of spring. In fact, I vividly remember when that happened this year. The first warm day of the year, it was blissful. And I live in Los Angeles. It never even gets that cold. But even for me, the first day of sort of warmth after the winter, it is euphoric.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
Anyway, so this is my final picture for you. It's the first warm day of the year. It's like 73 outside. And you're wearing beautiful, comfortable, not overly sexy, just beautiful, comfortable lingerie. But over it, you have this beautiful, willowing, soft, soft, soft dress on. And you're just walking around a field. That is what this song feels like to me.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
And then if you listen to country music, everyone's like, oh, so you just like the worst genre ever created. Oh, I get it now. And then if you like, I don't know, well, okay, I ran out of genres off the top of my head, but you get the idea. We can't win. There's like a negative stereotype about every single potential music preference.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
Next, we have Uncle Albert slash Admiral Halsey by Paul McCartney and Linda McCartney. This song came out in 1971. I don't know what it is about me and songs that have slashes in them. Like this is the fourth song and we already have another song with a slash in it. Like it has two names. Very odd. Anyway, I absolutely love Paul McCartney.
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I love every single musical endeavor he's ever gone on in his life. I love the Beatles. I love his band Wings. I love when he does solo stuff. This is technically a solo song with his wife. I fucking love Paul McCartney. Sorry. Sorry. And this song rewired my brain chemistry because let me tell you, this song is fucking weird. Okay.
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And it's actually funny because I rarely discover new Paul McCartney songs because I grew up my dad showing me Paul McCartney and the Beatles and wings and all this. So it's rare for me to discover a new one, but he's made so many different songs and had so many different projects.
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Like I didn't grow up listening to this song and I found it last year because I think it had like a little TikTok moment actually. And I'd never heard it before. It is such a good song. You guys, it's so good, but it's so weird. And the first few times you listen to it, you're like, that was so weird. But then something clicks and it's unbelievable, but it's unlike any song I've ever heard before.
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And I can't say that for many songs. It is completely unique to itself. It is so weird. You know what it sounds like to me? It sounds like going through a car wash. Okay, you know when you're going through a car wash with your friends and at first, you know, it's like fun because it's like, oh, put your car in neutral.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
If you've never gone through a car wash, you will have no idea what I'm talking about and this will make no sense to you. Um, but I'm talking about like the carwash where you stay in your car and you drive through the drive through carwash. Okay. That's what the song, the experience of that is what the song sounds like. You, you put the car in neutral. You're excited.
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Oh my God, my car's in neutral. I'm no longer in control of my car anymore. And then soap goes all over the windows and you're like, well, oh, I can't see, I can't see. And then your car is kind of vibrating a little bit and you're like, whoa, whoa, whoa. And then water starts spraying and the car starts vibrating more.
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And then it starts blowing all the water off and then there's huge brushes that are coming on and scrubbing on the car. And then they go away and then there's a big dryer. And then it's this experience that is constantly changing and constantly evolving for the entire five to 10 minutes that you are in that environment. car wash drive-thru.
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And it never gets old because it's like there's always something new. The second that you get used to the sound that's happening, to the experience that's happening, it changes to something else. And it's exciting. That is what this song is to me. Next, we have the song Good to See by the band Pinback. This song was created in 2007. 2007 was kind of a good year for music, to be honest.
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There's a lot of songs from like 2007. This song I found on the Pandora radio station. I grew up with this song. I grew up hearing it in my house, playing on that Pandora radio all the time. But what's interesting is a lot of the songs from that Pandora radio station didn't end up affecting me until I got a bit older.
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I kind of went back and I actually made a playlist of all of the songs I remember from that radio station. I did that a few years ago and I really fell in love with these songs again. And this was one of them that like really stuck with me where I was like, this is an incredible song. This song is not sad. I've weirdly cried to it. I don't know why there's something about it.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
And then last but not least, I'm terrified to do this episode because I can't show you the music that I'm talking about. I can't play you the song. No, because I will get sued or something, okay? So instead, I have to describe the songs as best as I can because I also can't describe them on a technical level. I didn't go to music school.
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In like the last quarter of the song, there's like a moment in it that like really makes me cry. But this song is not sad. It's like actually kind of quirky and fun and relaxed. Like it's not, I don't know, there's nothing really dramatic about this song. But for some reason, the end makes me cry.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
If I had to describe this song, this song feels like a 13-year-old boy walking to middle school on a sunny day It's like almost summer and he's walking to school and he's and he's wearing a little fedora and he's wearing little suspenders. Like there's something there's like a childlike wonder to this song that I can't explain. There's like a childlike sort of energy to it.
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the greatest songs of all time (in my opinion)
But there's also this sort of nerdy quirkiness to it, which is where the fedora and the suspenders come in. But there's something hopeful about this song, which is why it's summertime. It's almost the end of the school year. I don't know. That's how it feels to me. Moving on. True Love Will Find You in the End by Daniel Johnston. This song came out in 1990.
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And I remember my dad showed me this song a few years ago. And the first time I listened to it, I was like, wait, I've heard this before. And that was because I had. Because many people have covered this song. But I had never heard Daniel Johnston's version. And he wrote this song. And the production of the song, the... the way that the song sounds is incredibly raw and real, okay?
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It is not produced super fancy. There isn't a lot of instruments happening. It's not super clean. It's definitely messy. It's definitely very human. Nothing about it is perfect. And the first time you hear it, you notice that because compared to everything else that you're listening to on Spotify or wherever you listen to music, it's like, whoa, this sounds very different.
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A few months ago, I got a haircut and I cut my hair really, really short, shorter than I've ever cut it before. And since then, one of my favorite topics of conversation has been my haircut. If it was up to me, every conversation would be about my haircut. I absolutely love talking about it. I love talking about how I've been styling it.
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You know what I mean? But I'm, we have a different brain. Like I love analyzing things to death. She is like, she doesn't necessarily think that way. Yeah. This is just something I would have wanted to have heard when I was considering the pixie, like a true life experience. What's it really like? Let's start out with my personal feelings and experience.
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I will say to start, I was kind of pussying out. Like I wasn't fully getting a pixie, right? I was doing more of like a short shag and it was sort of still a pixie, but not quite. That I think was a mistake. I should have gone full pixie because number one, I never felt fully satisfied. I was always like, oh, it's too long. It's too long. But when I was sitting in the chair,
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
You know, my hair colorist was like, don't go too short because then it's like a bit more risky, you know, for bleaching. I don't know. You can like damage your hair more easily when your hair is short and you're bleaching it because you have to bleach over bleached hair. It's a complicated thing. But anyway, he was like, you know, you have more risk for breakage.
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And, you know, but you can still do it if you want, but there's more risk for breakage. And then I was like, oh my God, it's going to be so short. Like, is that going to be too short? So I kept pussying out and I regret that because going really short, it's, it's, I think it's all or nothing.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
If I could go back, I would have gotten a short pixie from the get-go, even though it's a bit more of a risk when, you know, cause I'm bleaching it, even though it's a bit more risk. I think if you're going to go short, Don't like go a bit longer than you want because you're too scared. Like just fucking do it. Just do it. Okay.
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It took me a few months to fully commit to the full pixie, which is what I have now. And I just wish I would have done it sooner. So that's, that's my first observation. Second observation, it is the easiest hairstyle I've ever had in my fucking life, okay? I fucking love it. It is unbelievable. It is so convenient. It's amazing, okay? Let me tell you my hair care routine right now.
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I wash my hair once a week. That's it. Now, I will say I have bleached hair, so I treat my hair a bit differently than if I had non-bleached hair. I'd probably have to wash it more because it would get oily quicker. But I literally wash my hair once a week. The other days, I just rinse it, get it wet.
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So I have like a fresh slate for styling it, but I wash it once a week with purple shampoo and purple conditioner or whatever. I use like a hair mask that helps with like, you know, the strength, like bonding the ends. I don't know how it works. And then I use a little bit of hair oil and that's it. Every single day when I get it wet, sort of to style it, I just let it air dry.
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I don't even have to fucking blow dry it. I don't use heat on it at all. In fact, if I want it to be like flat to my head and like a super flat, like whatever, I'll brush it down and then I'll put on a balaclava or a hood or something, have some sort of hood on, let it dry with the hood on. And then I have like really cute flat sort of like pixie.
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If I want it to be a bit more voluminous, I'll let it air dry free. Like just let it free. And then if it's like at most I'll put like a little bit of grooming clay in it to shape it a bit. But like I don't have to do anything, you guys. It's the ease. It's amazing. I don't do anything. And I mean I will say that it depends on your hair texture and just like –
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If it's bleached or if it's not, like there's a lot of factors, but for whatever reason, this is the easiest hair I've ever had in my life. It's unbelievable. And so I'm having an incredible time. It dries so quickly. It's so nice. I love it. You know, there are moments when I'm a little bit self-conscious about it. Okay. Like, especially if I'm not wearing makeup.
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Yeah, I get a little insecure sometimes when I'm not wearing makeup and I'm out in public and like I'm running errands or something or I'm at yoga or something and I'm not wearing makeup. Like actually yoga less so, but even yoga, like I do get a little self-conscious sometimes because I do feel like, oh my God, you know, I have really short hair and I'm not wearing makeup.
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And, you know, I don't look the most feminine right now. Right. Like stereotypically, I do love like masculine silhouettes in clothing sometimes, you know, like that my style is not hyper feminine at all. I do tend to like lean a bit more perhaps androgynous with my style. Just that's just who I am. And it's what I've always liked.
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And I've always like enjoyed fashion, not because of it's, this is about to sound so, Oh my God. I saw, I, again, I feel like I'm gonna win a Nobel peace prize for what I'm about to say. I've always liked fashion without like the, the gender association. Um, Like I just like fashion if I like it. I sometimes like hyper feminine things. I sometimes like hyper masculine things.
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I sometimes like androgynous things. Like I don't like something because, oh, it makes me feel super girly. Like I guess sometimes I like that. But like my fashion preferences have almost never been based on like their gender association. And this is not because I'm trying to do that. That's just how I process fashion. It's how I've always been. So a lot of people are like, Emma's like a tomboy.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
Emma dresses in like masculine clothes. That's just what I, like I, it's not, it has nothing to do with gender or anything. It's just simply because that is what I like. And there, there's moments when it's like, Emma is hyper feminine, you know, miniskirt, little tight, little top. Like that's, that's a moment for me sometimes.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
But I also love, love, love like a big boxy fucking suit and like a big loafer and like, you know, and short hair. Like I love that shit too. So to me, gender has nothing to do with fat or is very, I can't say nothing, but it's like, it is not a huge factor in like how I judge in perceived fashion, especially now.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
And so all of that to say, like, sometimes I really like masculine sort of outfits, like traditionally masculine outfits. And that paired with a pixie, I'm like, oh my God, I am a girl, like I'm a girl, but I look pretty masculine, you know? And so part of me, you know, at times is like self-conscious about that in a way, because I feel like, am I misrepresenting myself in a way?
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
But then also too, if I'm like super comfortable, right? I'm like in my pajamas and then I'm like wearing, then I'm like, oh my God, I look horrible. I don't know. There are moments when I think about how I'm being perceived, um, And they ultimately do not dictate my decision making. They don't dictate what I wear. They don't dictate, you know, whatever.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
Now, you're probably wondering, like, Emma, why do you love talking about your haircut so much? Like, who cares? I think the reason why I love talking about it so much is because of how much of a plot twist it is, okay? When I was a kid, I absolutely hated, hated the look of short hair on women. It didn't have anything to do with like societal, you know, norms, like femininity norms.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
But there are moments when I do think about it. There are moments when I am kind of self-conscious about it. And it is ultimately who I am and how I want. It's how I like to dress. It's how I like to do my hair. And when I'm fucking comfortable and whatever, like that's how I look. Who cares? You know, so I don't know.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
But it is something that I think about sometimes and I am self-conscious about sometimes. On the other hand, I fucking love styling it. Okay. I think it looks sick with a hyper feminine outfit, with a more masculine, with an androgynous. It doesn't matter. I love styling the hair. My suspicion that like the pixie would be an incredible accessory was correct. Okay. Okay.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
I think it elevates every single outfit. It changes the vibe of every single outfit. It is the maraschino cherry on top of the ice cream sundae that is my fucking outfit. Without that cherry, it looks mid. Okay. It looks all right. The ice cream sundae looks all right, but it looks a bit beige. You pop that little maraschino cherry on top. Boom. It looks elegant. It looks chic. It looks retro.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
It looks cute. It looks yummy. It looks delectable. Okay? Do you get what I'm saying? Say what you want. Say what you fucking want. I think it's fucking chic. And especially now. I do think the shag was a bit less chic. Like...
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
I it took a few cuts for me to figure out what haircut suited me the best so thank you all for your patience over the last few months because yeah I didn't I don't think I got it right the first time by the way this was all my bad I was showing a reference to my hairstylist and saying let's do this and he was saying great and he would copy it exactly and the first you know
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
let's say four cuts, I was doing a bit longer, more of a shag, uh, that would then grow out into something that was a bit mullet-esque kind of maybe not mullet, not mullet. What would be the word? Um, I don't know. I don't have the word, but yeah, it, it took a sec, but I finally figured out my haircut and it's really exciting.
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
Um, I also think that there's something weirdly empowering about taking a risk like this. Like I felt empowered by the situation, not because, and not actually not for the reasons that you would assume, right? Like I think, you know, going back to the reason why the people, the people tend to hate the pixie cut because it is sort of a, a statement. Like, I don't care what men think about me.
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That's a reason why people do it. That's a reason why it might be empowering for some people. For me, it was empowering because it was scary, right? It was just simply scary. It was frightening, okay? I was afraid of getting this haircut because I was afraid of potentially being judged. I was afraid of perhaps finding myself ugly, right?
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the psychology of the pixie haircut [video]
Like looking in the mirror every day and being like, I look hideous, right? having a hard time looking at myself in the mirror. You know, I was frightened for those reasons. And you might think to yourself, those are far more shallow than the other reasons. I don't care why you think that they're shallow, okay? That's why I was frightened and being honest, okay?
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I'd love to say that they're deep and they're political and they're, oh my God, but no, they're not. I was frightened for those more surface level reasons, but that was still frightening for me. I did it and I lived to tell the tale and it ended up being rewarding because there were so many things about it that were so great.
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So I think what was empowering about it was trusting my gut, doing what I wanted to do and it paying off. That was rewarding. That was empowering. And my last observation over the last few months has been, I don't think I can ever go back. I'm so much like my mom. I'm growing to be more and more like my mom in a way that is good.
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My mom and I are very, very different in a lot of ways, but we actually are also the same in a lot of ways. We have a very similar, our style is weirdly melding. My style is starting to sort of I don't know, mirror my mom's. And she definitely is less into fashion than me, but she actually is a fashionable woman in her heart.
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Even when she wears hokas, you know, like around, which I would never do as a fashion statement. Even when she wears hokas with cargo pants, like which again, yeah, like it's like, I still am seeing my mom in my style. It's fascinating. But anyway, my mom has had a pixie my entire life. At her longest, she's had like a shack, you know, but she's had short hair my entire life.
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And I think I might be the same way. Like I'm, I'm thinking about my future children and I'm like, they are going to grow up the same way I did with a mom who has short hair and they're probably going to fucking hate it just like I did. And they're going to wish that their mom had long, beautiful hair like all of the other moms at the PTA meeting.
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I really genuinely in my heart of hearts do not believe that that had anything to do with it. Well, maybe that was part of it. You know what? Maybe that was part of it. I just genuinely didn't like the way it looked. I think because, you know, in the early 2010s, the pixie cut that was trendy was not cute. I still don't like it. Like, it was sort of like a comb over.
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But then I think my kids are going to grow up and be like, damn, my mom is cool. I have a cool mom. That's why her hair is short because she's cool and she's fashionable. And I just didn't understand her because I was fucking basic. No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. Me calling my kids basic. They're not even born yet. You guys are fucking basic. Okay.
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Now let's discuss responses from people in real life. This is strictly in real life. No internet. That's its own category of analysis. This is strictly just interactions with people in real life. When I first started talking about cutting all my hair off, there was sort of like a 50-50 split in my life. Some people, and I'm not going to name any names here, okay?
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I'm just going to let everybody remain anonymous here. I'm not going to be like, my mom said, and then my dad said, and then my best friend said, and then, you know, no, okay? We're not getting into it. We're letting everyone remain anonymous. It was a 50-50 split. Okay. Some people were like, that's a genius idea. Like that's sick. You should absolutely do that.
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And then there were a few people in my life who were a bit hesitant. They were like, honestly, Emma, I don't know. And I don't think that they were saying it for any sort of like mean reason. I genuinely think that they just were like, Emma, don't trigger a mental breakdown. You know what I mean? If you cut all your hair off and you hate it, you might have a mental breakdown.
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And I think that there were certain people in my life who were afraid of that. I think there were also a few people in my life who were like, I don't like how a pixie cut looks. But I think for the most part, people were telling me, Emma, I don't know. I don't think you should do that. Let's not do that. Because they were afraid that I would have a mental breakdown.
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And they were like, why do that to yourself? Um, so there was sort of a 50-50 split. And I would say most of the responses were pretty like neutral in a way, not neutral, but like, um, not passionate. You know what I mean? There were a few passionate responses. Some people were like, Emma, you have to do it. And some people were like, Emma, really, really, please don't do that.
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But I would say for the most part, when I talked to people about it, it didn't evoke like extreme reactions. Most people were like, yeah, fuck yeah, do it. Who cares? Or like, I don't know. I wouldn't. But, you know, you've been growing your hair out for a while. Like, why do that? But do whatever you want. Like, for the most part, it was chill.
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But after the fact, after I got it, everyone in my life loves it. every single person in my life. I'm not kidding. Okay. And they might be lying to me.
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They totally could be lying to me, but I don't think anyone doesn't like it in my intimate like circle or like in my, not even necessarily in my intimate circle, but like people that I see consistently have only said nice things, you know, like nobody. And I'm, I'm not an idiot. Okay. I know when somebody is like, Oh, that looks really good. And they don't mean it because people do that to me.
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I've been falsely complimented before. You know, I know what that feels like. And I'm the first one to say like, oh, I can tell that they fucking hate it. That wouldn't stop me. But I would know that. I am 90% sure. We'll leave the 10% just in case. 90% sure that people genuinely like it. Okay. Especially like, especially in person.
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You know, like on social media is one thing, but like in person, seeing me with it in person, people have really seemed to like it. Okay. Men and women. Okay. If anything, I actually think I've gotten, you know, more compliments from, from men. Like the men in my life love this hair. Which leads me to, you know, like, are men attracted to me still? I've had no issue.
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I've not noticed any change in that at all, okay? I don't very often get flirted with, to be honest. Like every once in a while, every once in a while, I'll get flirted with. You know what I'm saying? Like somebody who has no clue who I am just comes up to me and will flirt with me and I can tell that they have no clue. And obviously like I am always in a relationship. That's just Emma.
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That's just Emma style. So I, I, I've never like dated a guy or gone on a date with a guy who's come up and flirted with me because almost every single time it's ever happened, I've had a boyfriend. Um, But it's seeming to happen at the same rate, if not even like a little bit more than it used to.
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It was like a side part and like a comb over. Like, not my style. OK, it never I always felt like it wasn't flattering. I just couldn't comprehend it. And it's funny because my own mother had a pixie cut. In fact, she's had a pixie cut my entire life and I still didn't like it, although that actually might have made me hate the haircut more because.
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Like I think I've been flirted with probably in let's say the last like six months since I got the haircut. I've probably been flirted with in public like twice. It really doesn't happen to me a lot. I don't know why. Maybe I'm just an acquired taste. When my hair was long, when my hair was short, it does not happen a lot.
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In fact, in the last few years, I've probably been flirted with in public like three times. And then in the last six months, it's happened twice that I can remember where like somebody's really made an effort with me. I'm not sensing an issue. If anything, I think that the boys are loving me more than ever.
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So like with strangers, it hasn't been impacted in my personal relationship, romantic that I'm in currently, no issue. In fact, the opposite, I feel like it's actually like deeply enjoyed and actually that person was like, you should absolutely get that haircut. That's sick. And it's going to look so fucking cool. And then I got it. And then they were like, this looks great.
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And you look hot and gorge and like a baddie. I've only gotten positive responses. I've been getting more compliments from strangers than I've ever gotten in my life. Okay. On the hair, but also just on my style. And I think it could be sort of like a combination of things. I think it could be the hair.
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I think it could also be the fact that I feel like I've really honed in on my personal style a lot recently. I do think that I'm in a really good, like exciting, inspired place with my own sense of style. Um, I'm feeling really good about it. I'm like loving it. I love what's in my closet. I love styling what's in my closet. Everything feels cohesive.
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Everything matches, you know, it's sort of like, just it's like a fucking play pen in my closet for me. I just go in and I play and everything looks really good with the hair. It's just like equilibrium. It's just homeostasis. It's just, it's balance. It's happiness. It's joy. It's fulfillment. I'm loving it. I'm loving it right now. I'm really loving it.
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And I'm feeling fulfilled by it and happy with it. Is the hair a part of that? Yes, it is. Is it the sole reason I'm getting compliments? I don't think so. But I think it's an integral part of why I'm getting more compliments recently. Because I think it's a part of this sort of finding myself in my style. I've never gotten a lot of compliments in person. On the internet, yes.
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Whereas now it's funny because I feel like I'm actually getting more compliments in real life and less on the internet. Perhaps because I'm not showing as much of my outfits on the internet. I need to show more of my outfits. I feel like I've just been, oh my God, just cooking. I've been cooking.
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I've been putting together such good outfits, but nobody takes a fucking photo of me in these goddamn outfits. I'm too busy living in the moment. Looking cute in the moment, okay? But anyway, I just have been getting a lot of compliments and I'm not trying to brag. I'm not trying to brag, okay? I can't help it. I'm just telling you what I've observed. Okay, the people love me.
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Listen, I'm about to talk about people making fun of me soon. So just let me enjoy this moment. Let me relish. Let me relish in this. I've also been receiving compliments that are sort of praising my bravery. People being like, oh my God, your hair looks so cute. Like, I wish I could do that, but I'm too scared. Oh my God, your hair looks so cute.
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But like, oof, like I would look so bad if I did that. You're so brave. A lot of that. And I think that's because a lot of people underestimate how flattering short hair actually is. People are like, oh my God, it would look so bad on me. For them, no, it wouldn't. No, it wouldn't. I don't care who you are. If you're a girl and you have short hair, yes.
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You know, like when I'm not wearing makeup right now, if you're watching the video episode of this, you'll see that I'm not wearing makeup. If you're watching the video episode, I'm putting my... It looks cute, but yes, I look maybe perhaps a bit boyish stereotype. Who cares? Shut the fuck. Who cares?
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When we're like tweens, teens, we like rebelling against our parents. Any kind of authority, I was rebelling against it. And it's funny because now all of the things that my mom loved, you know, her pixie haircut, her favorite color was olive green and she loved, you know, olive green like cargo pants and, you know, like... buying an olive green purse. It's always been like her favorite color.
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I encourage you, if you love short hair and you really want to get it, to get past that, to push past that. That is not a reason not to do it. I think it's worth a try because I think you'd be shocked at how flattering it is. And I think you'd be shocked at how you can pull it off. especially, especially if you love fashion, it just makes getting dwelled up even more fun, you know?
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Anyways, last but not least, my favorite interaction that I've had in person was when I was, I think I was at a store or like at a mall or something. I was somewhere in public and And a little kid walked past me. Little kids are just unhinged. A little kid walked past me and I don't think I was wearing makeup. I don't think I was wearing makeup. I don't remember.
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I don't remember what I was wearing. But anyways, a little kid walked past me and like screamed. Oh my God, I feel so bad for the parent. The parent felt so bad. Luckily, I don't care. But like if I was somebody who, it could have been a catastrophe. The little kid was like, Hey, you, are you a girl or a boy to me? And I was like, I'm a girl. I'm a girl. And they were like, oh, okay.
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I love talking about how I feel about it on a personal, deep, emotional, spiritual level. I love talking about how people are responding to it. I love talking about how scared I was and then how rewarding it was to do. I love talking about my goddamn haircut. But unfortunately, I don't get to talk about it that much because people have other interests.
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And I was like, that is fucking funny. I thought it was hilarious. I will say for a second, I was like, oh God, you know, damn. But then I was like, who cares? Who cares? And it was a kid and it was like, whatever, you know, it was, so that was probably the worst thing that's happened or worst, not even worse, but like the most extreme thing that's happened.
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And even that wasn't that big of a deal. But now let's discuss the responses on the internet, because I will say the responses on the internet have been the most bad. However, you know, don't let this deter you, okay?
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Because if you're somebody who's not a public figure, you're not on the internet like that, then you really have nothing to worry about because all of my IRL in real life experiences have been a delight. Even the one with the kid was funny. I laugh about it now. It's a funny story.
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I think that my list of observations from my IRL experiences should motivate you to get the pixie because it's been such a beautiful experience. The internet, people think I look like Ellen DeGeneres. Yeah, I mean, I totally get it. Ellen DeGeneres has blue eyes and a blonde pixie. I look like Ellen DeGeneres if she maybe liked fashion a little bit more.
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To me, Ellen DeGeneres, I'm never seeing her in an outfit that wows me, right? And that's because I think that that's by design. I don't think Ellen's trying to impress me with her outfit, right? I've never met Ellen, so I feel like I can talk about her this way because I've never met her.
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But yeah, so people are saying that I look like her, which I don't think is necessarily like, that's not inherently an insult because it is like sort of true. But I do think that people are trying to say it to me in an insulting way. And this is not me disrespecting Ellen DeGeneres. It's everyone else disrespecting me and Ellen DeGeneres.
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They're like trying to say like, oh, you look like Ellen DeGeneres in like a derogatory way, which I... That's fine. You know what? That's fine. People are also definitely questioning my sexuality and my... in my gender, people are really perplexed by it. And it's interesting because that was mostly the case in a video that I posted on my YouTube channel about getting rid of a lot of my clothes.
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And I showed all of the clothes that I kept after getting rid of like everything in my closet. In that video, I had my short hair at that point. And And in that video, I wasn't wearing makeup. I was like just feeling kind of raw and natural because a lot of times that's kind of my vibe on it. That's just like I don't like get all dolled up to film a YouTube video for my own channel.
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You know, like I get dolled up to go to a fashion show or to a red carpet or or maybe get dolled up to like go to a wedding or, you know, to go out to dinner or to go on a date or something, not even necessarily on a date. Because I only go on dates when I'm like dating a guy, really. At least that's the only, and at that point I'm like, you know I don't wear makeup, babe.
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Now it's one of my favorite colors. It's somehow involved in almost every outfit. Anyway, it's funny. I've come full circle and now I love all of the things that my mom loves. But anyway, I was rebelling against her probably as a teen tween and it probably didn't help with how I felt about the pixie haircut. But anyway, I absolutely fucking hated it. I thought it was hideous.
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We're doing a little bit of lip liner, max. You're stuck with me now. I'm not fucking putting makeup on for you. I'm doing my skincare routine before we go out to dinner. So that after dinner I can brush my teeth and go straight to bed. Okay? You know the drill. Anyways, but sometimes I like to, you know, do a little makeup. Anyway, I wasn't wearing makeup in this video.
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And so, yeah, like I maybe looked a bit less feminine in the video. And there were a lot of comments I noticed just being like, number one, like saying I looked bad, looked ugly, which is mean. But more interestingly, you know, just really questioning my sexuality and my gender and all these things, which is fine. Like, I don't care. but that's not the most comfortable thing to deal with.
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And I mean, I can't even complain about it because there are so many people on this planet who deal with that on a far more extreme, far more challenging scale. So I'm very aware of that. However, it's not fun. It isn't fun. It was kind of like, really? me not wearing makeup, having my hair undone and short or whatever is fully making you question, you know, things about me that you already know.
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Like it's fast. It's just fascinating to me. Like everyone knows my sexuality. Everybody knows my, or not everybody, but like my audience, you know, for the most part, maybe it's not my audience making these comments anyway, but I just found it interesting that it felt like there were certain people who were like, wait a minute. I thought you were a straight woman. I am.
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People are like, she has to be at least bi. And it's like, you guys, number one, who cares? Actually, who cares? But number two, nothing has changed just because I got a haircut. I got a haircut. Everybody expresses themselves differently and it doesn't necessarily reflect those things. I briefly mentioned this earlier, but people really think I'm kind of ugly when I'm not wearing makeup.
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Like people are really like, whoa, Emma, you have never looked worse. You look hideous. You look like an old woman. Like lots of mean comments, lots of insults about my appearance, which I've gotten before. Like I've had phases in my career of being a public figure where people have been like, someone's looking ugly. Someone's looking a bit chubby. Someone's looking a little too thin.
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Somebody's looking a little bit emaciated. Somebody's look like they're dying. Someone looks like they're dying. Like I've gotten it all. It's definitely picked up. It's definitely picked up a little bit since I've cut the hair. And... You know, people don't aren't like not everyone gets it. You know, not everyone likes it. Not everyone gets it.
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And a lot of people are like, like, okay, Emma used to be so stylish. And then now like she fell off. Like what? Like the style is horrible. The hair is horrible. Emma fell off. But it's the irony of that is that I've never felt more like, okay, I'm figuring it out. You know, like, I've never felt more me. And I think it's hit or miss. Like, a lot of people don't like it.
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I think the truth of the matter is, this is not a mainstream haircut choice. I have a lot of, like, creative people in my life, a lot of artists, a lot of people who, you know, have exposed themselves to more fashion, perhaps. People who have exposed themselves to... more art in general, perhaps than the average person. There's a lot of people in my life who find this stuff interesting.
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And so I do think that because of that, there's more people in my life. Like I maybe have had a better experience, like a nicer response to my haircut in my personal life because I'm just, that's my environment. Those are the people in my life. And so perhaps the way the Internet has responded is the way that, you know, the average friend group would respond to somebody cutting their hair.
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I couldn't understand it. Like Katy Perry had a pixie. Who else? Pink. I don't know. Like Anne Hathaway had a pixie at one point. Like there was just a lot of pixies going on and I just was always like, I don't like that. I just don't like it. I think it's not cute. And I just remember thinking to myself as a young person, like I will never do that.
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The average, you know, community around somebody. I'm not sure. I'm not sure if that's just the Internet or if that's actually how majority of people would respond. Right. But, you know, it doesn't really matter. Because I love this haircut so much that it is worth people on the internet not liking it, not getting it. It's worth people sort of questioning parts of my identity, perhaps.
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I don't care. I have nothing to prove. You know what I mean? I don't need people to understand or even know my sexuality or my, like, it doesn't matter to me. It doesn't matter. The only time that that plays a, it's kind of like relevant is when dating. Okay. And I'm not dating, so I don't fucking care. Do you know what I mean?
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If I was out and dating, if I was like, yeah, then maybe it's like, okay, well, you know, this is something that I guess is going to be more relevant in my life or whatever, but. But even then, even then you fucking like, who cares? You figure it out. You talk to people and you learn about them and you figure out if you're compatible. You know what I'm saying? Whatever, whatever. I don't care.
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I don't care. Like it doesn't matter. So anywho, I love my fucking short hair. I love my pixie. I'm going to keep going shorter and fucking shorter until I have a goddamn buzz cut because I love having short hair so much. I think it is one of the best things I've ever done. I love it. I absolutely love it. And it is absolutely worth it. And I'm grateful.
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I'm grateful to live in a time and to live in a place where, I don't know, I can cut my hair. There's definitely, you know, some cultures and religions that don't believe in cutting hair on a woman or don't believe cutting a woman's hair. And I'm not disrespecting anyone, okay? But I'm just saying, I'm just grateful that, you know, I get to do that. If you, this is your sign. Oh my God, here I go.
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This is your fucking sign to get that pixie cut, okay? This is your fucking sign, okay? If you've been thinking like, oh my God, should I get a pixie cut? This is your fucking sign. Me right now telling you this. Anyway, that's all I have for today. My pixie cut update, if you will. That's it. That's my update. I hope that you all enjoyed this episode.
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I appreciate you all and I love you all and I will be talking to you pretty soon. Okay. So you won't have to miss me. All right. I'll be back. Bye. Love you all.
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And then, you know, interestingly enough, my taste shifted and it shifted in such an intense way. I don't think my opinion has ever shifted so strongly about anything in my life. Okay. And I've, uh, I've changed my mind about quite a few things, but this was one of the like biggest changes. I went from hatred to obsession. Like it felt like overnight. Yeah.
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suddenly I just loved the way it looked. I feel like what really happened was my sense of style just simply evolved. And the pixie haircut was one of the things that became beautiful in my eyes. And I mean, there's been so many things that over the years I've grown to really love and appreciate. Like I can give you some other examples. Um, Honestly, like flat shoes.
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Like I used to hate flat shoes. Thought that they made the foot look too small and narrow. Anyway, I absolutely love them. Now, one of my favorite types of shoes, capris took me a while to like, and now I absolutely love a capri. You know, long skirts. I hated a long skirt for a long time. And then one day I was like, wait a minute, that's really chic. The list goes on.
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There's been a lot of things that have taken me a while to fully appreciate. But just through developing my taste, I've ended up really liking them. And I think the pixie cut is a part of that. But it's almost like the pixie cut was like, it was this thing that I just never thought I'd like. So it's so shocking. over the last few years, I've scrolled on Pinterest a lot.
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I've seen a lot of runway shows. I've looked at a lot of fashion books. I've just exposed myself to a lot of fashion, not even necessarily more than the average, well, probably more than the average person just because it's something that I like. And yeah, so for whatever reason, I've really grown to love the pixie cut.
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Some of the references that really stood out to me were number one, Audrey Hepburn. Okay. Audrey Hepburn had a cute little pixie. I feel like no one's talking about it. People are probably totally talking about it. I didn't ever remember her as being somebody who had a pixie and I'm not a big Audrey Hepburn fan, but I just didn't even know she had one.
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They don't want to talk about my haircut more than once. Sometimes they don't want to talk about my haircut at all. And that's hard for me. Today, I'm letting myself indulge. Today, I'm gonna spend probably the next hour talking about my haircut. And you know why that's appropriate? Because I just got my haircut again, and I got it cut shorter than I ever have in my entire life.
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And then I like noticed it and I was like, wow, it looks so good on her. It looks so natural on her. I didn't even process that it was a pixie. So that was really sort of moving. Also Twiggy, the 60s mod icon, of course. Edie Sedgwick, another one. These are like two, you know, model it girls of like the 60s. Winona Ryder in the 90s, such a good pixie cut.
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All these pixie cuts are timeless, subtle, and just so just elegantly done. Unlike the pixie of the 2010 that to me was a catastrophe. It was a catastrophe. It was like this sort of like faux punk, like neon, like pixie. It was just not cute to me. And it still isn't cute to me. Oh my God, Rihanna had a pixie too, although hers was actually one of the best of the era. I don't know.
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It like felt the most timeless. It was still trendy, but it felt the most timeless. But yeah, I like just saw a lot of those girly pops on my Pinterest and eventually I just grew to love it. But I think there was also a bit of a fantasy around having the short hair because I hated styling my hair so much and I've just never been good at it. You know, some people are so good at styling their hair.
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I'm just not one of those people. I knew short hair would be easier, right? Like, how hard could it be? Like, you don't need to, like, go get a blowout when you have a pixie. Like, I mean, I guess you could... But I don't know what it would even look like. So it just felt like it would be easier. And I think I had another fantasy about it being sort of like an accessory.
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Like it would elevate every outfit. It would make every outfit feel chicer and more interesting, more intriguing. It's like if you have a ballsy haircut, the outfit will read differently because I think a pixie cut is a bit ballsy. So like that takes an outfit that maybe to start is like a bit – it's like it's interesting. It's intriguing. It's maybe a bit outside the box.
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But then if you pair it with a pixie, it's like everything feels intentional. I don't know. So that's how I felt. Those were sort of the thoughts whirling around my head as I suddenly found myself loving the pixie haircut. But then I remember seeing a video. And this is just how crazy the algorithm is today because I don't think I even Googled. Well, maybe I was looking it up on Pinterest.
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So somehow YouTube recommended to me a video and the video was titled something along the lines of why do people hate women after they cut their hair off or something of that of that is something of that nature. Let me try to find it so I can credit the woman who made it. OK, I found it. I found the video. Why do we hate women after they've cut their hair off? A video by Jordan Teresa.
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So this video pops up on my YouTube explore page. And I was like, oh, God. Oh, no. Is this a horrible idea? Like, is everyone going to hate me now? What is this? So I briefly skimmed through the video because I was like, I don't want to deter myself from getting this haircut because for some reason people hate women who have short hair, apparently. Like, I want to make my choice for me.
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So I'm not going to let this fuck with my head. So I briefly skimmed through it. It was basically about how the pixie haircut is sort of controversial. How a lot of, you know, pop culture figures, celebrities... have gotten their haircut into a pixie and then seemingly fallen out of favor shortly after. Whether it's related, you know, it's kind of up for debate. But that was sort of a point.
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And, you know, she sort of discussed societal norms, femininity, all of this, right? It was very, very well done. So go check that out if you want. I found this video to be equally frightening because I wanted to get the haircut and interesting. And it sort of stuck with me, this idea that people don't really like women with a pixie cut. Like it kind of traumatized me, this sentiment.
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Like, the haircut I just got is a full-on pixie, okay? It was sort of pixie-adjacent prior, but it was more of like a little short shag haircut. I have a full pixie now. Like my hair is the same length as my dad's. It's short, short. And I don't know, to me, that's like an excuse to talk about the haircut again.
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But I was also like, I can't let this stop me. If I want to get this haircut, I'm going to get this haircut. And I dug in deeper and to try to figure out like why people hate the pixie cut and why are people so afraid of it? Like there are so many people who are so afraid of getting a pixie cut, like people who even really love a pixie cut who are like, oh, I would never do that.
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Like, why is it such a big deal, right? And so I did a bit more research into it And it seems like people dislike short hair on women for a few reasons. Now, this is according to the internet, okay? This is not according to me. I am simply the messenger. This is what the internet told me. Number one, it goes against the feminine beauty standard, okay? And that makes it uncomfortable to look at.
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I can't even blame people for that. Right. Like I can't like I felt that way probably. Although I don't know. I think I genuinely didn't like it because I thought it was unflattering for the most part. But but you know what? Who knows? I might have also not liked it because it was going against the norm. Right. I feel like that wasn't the case, but it could have been.
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It probably was at least a portion of it. Right. I also read that people associate short hair on women with independent, strong women, and that this is particularly threatening to men because it's a risky choice. You know, it's definitely like going against what, you know, men stereotypically, straight men stereotypically find attractive.
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So like if you get your hair cut short, you don't give a fuck about what men think about you, you know? And so it's sort of making a statement in that way. I thought that was kind of fascinating. And I was like, huh, you know, that's not where my head was at. But I was kind of like, oh, that'll be interesting to see if that ends up happening in my life.
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Like if, you know, I'm intimidating to men, I guess. Like, okay, we'll see. Or if they don't like me or are less attracted to me because of the hair. Some people see women chopping all their hair off as a sign of mental instability, which I thought was funny because like most of us, I am mentally unstable sometimes. And I talk about my mental instability a lot on the internet.
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And so I was like, oh, people are probably going to think I'm having a meltdown. I do think that mental instability can lead to extreme measures. Like I've been tempted to like take extreme measures in my life when I'm mentally unstable. Like, you know, yeah, like chop my hair off or like, I don't know, like cut off everyone I know and run away.
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Like you just, when you're mentally unstable, you, you, you can have a tendency to, to say fucking and like do something extreme. But I think when it comes to short hair, I think majority of women with a pixie cut are, just have a pixie cut because they like it. I actually don't think that that's an accurate representation of like why women get a pixie cut.
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So that's basically why people hate the pixie haircut, at least according to Google in that video I watched, right? And all of this to me was like, oh my God, everyone fucking relax.
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It's like, oh my God, I just want to like chic, like I just want a chic little haircut and I want to like hop out of the shower and I want my hair to dry in like five minutes and I want it to like, you know, look cute and spiky and edgy and I want to be able to like, I don't know. Like, it just like, it sounds fun to me. It's not that deep to me.
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And I do think that that is sort of a modern perspective, right? I think today getting a short haircut is like no big deal. Who cares? It's not really as edgy. It's not as big of a deal as it once was. But I do think that there's some lingering tension around it, right? From the past and whatever. But I ultimately decided that I didn't care.
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Well, I guess I wouldn't say that I didn't care, but I ultimately decided that I was going to do it anyway because it's what I wanted to do. But I definitely was bracing myself for what might happen. Am I going to fall out of favor with people? Are boys not going to be attracted to me? Um, are, you know, people going to like find me ugly? What's going to happen?
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But I, I ultimately make decisions based on what I think is going to be chic and fun. You know, like I'm the one who gets dressed every morning. I'm the one who styles my hair every day. Like, I think I'm pretty good about making fashion choices for me. And I'm also aware of like making a mistake, you know, not getting it right the first time. Like, and I was kind of okay with,
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The fact that, you know, the haircut might not look good on me and I might have to, you know, figure that out or it might not be right the first time or whatever. Like I was ready for all of that because I was excited about my new hairstyle journey. And so I did it. I cut it off and it's been a few months. Okay. And I've had varying lengths. I've had like a shorter shag, a longer shag.
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Now I have a full pixie and I've had it for long enough that I've been able to fully analyze everything. Okay. How it makes me feel, how I truly feel about it. the people in my life and, you know, people in real life, maybe people I don't even know, but like just real life responses. And then of course, online responses. And I've had enough time to fully experience the response.
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And I wanted to share what I've observed with you all because I went into it definitely very frightened. And I guess I would have loved to have heard all this when I was considering the haircut. my mom has had a pixie cut her entire life, but like, she doesn't care. Like she's not analyzing. She's like, it's so not that deep for her that I like, we didn't even have this conversation.
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I think the moral dilemma that I'm faced with most often is whether or not to choose convenience. I'm not just faced with this moral dilemma on a weekly basis or even a daily basis. No, I'm faced with this moral dilemma on an hourly basis. Okay, almost every single decision I make throughout my day somehow relates to this moral dilemma.
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But I will go eat out at a restaurant because I absolutely love it. But guess what? Because I'm not ordering restaurant food all week long on food delivery apps, when the weekend comes around, I'm so excited to eat out. I'm so excited. And it's such... an incredible experience and the food tastes even better and I'm just, it's great. But that's not the only type of food delivery, okay?
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There's also grocery delivery. This I definitely do use a bit more often. However, I try not to. I really try to only use grocery delivery when it's like, okay, I just worked a 15 hour day or something doing something like I was at a shoot or something. Or, you know, I am about to travel and I have to get a certain amount of things done. I've like deadlines for things that I need to finish them.
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So I'm like working for a long time and I just don't have time to go to the grocery store. You know, there are times when, to me, it makes sense to get groceries delivered because I'm still ultimately cooking everything from scratch. But I avoid it as much as possible. And, you know, when it comes to grocery shopping, like, I love the experience of grocery shopping. And I always have.
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Like, this is not even a new thing. But it's always been like, I love the experience of grocery shopping, but I'm too lazy. Now it's like, okay, last resort, we're ordering the groceries. Or like, it's an emergency. Not an emergency. Like, oh my God, I forgot to buy this one thing. I need to get it now. But that's rare. You know, like majority of the time I'm going to the store.
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I'm walking through the aisles myself. I'm socializing with the people. Not really. Socializing meaning like smiling at somebody if I catch them looking at me or something. Or like, saying an extra warm hello to the cashier, like whatever. But it's just nice to be in that environment, to be around other people, you know?
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Another sort of change that I've made is I've gone from primarily shopping online to primarily shopping in person. Okay. So like, yes, I talked about food and groceries and all that. This is like about like clothes or I need to pick up like stuff from Sephora. You know what I'm saying? This is like everything else. I used to be the most insane online shopper. Okay.
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And I'll be honest, I still online shop. There are things that I can only get online. There are times when I really just don't have time to go to... Listen, yes, but I would say that my default mode of shopping nowadays is shopping in person. And whenever I can shop in person, I do. And that was not always the case, okay? I really do like that it gets me out of the house and puts me in the world.
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I also love that I get to see and touch and feel things in person. Like if I'm buying clothes or buying makeup or something, it's so nice to be in store and to touch things and to feel things and to see new products and to truly experience the shopping experience. Whereas when you're shopping online, it's very two-dimensional. You just get to see it. You don't get to feel it.
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You don't get to look at it with a flashlight if you want. You don't get to like try it on. You don't get to do any of that. You just have to use your fucking imagination. And majority of the time when it shows up, you're not even 100% satisfied with it because it rarely lives up to your expectations. It's so helpful to experience a product before you buy it.
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Now, let's get back to the episode. When I was younger and my prefrontal cortex was less developed, I always just automatically chose convenience. I ordered food delivery. I ordered everything online. I socialized through looking at social media and watching YouTube videos. I wore pajamas and comfy clothes as often as I could.
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And not only does this make you a smarter shopper, but again, it gets you out in the world. Like running errands, being around people, even when you're not talking to other people is so comforting. It's weirdly rejuvenating in a way, like being around people, being at home by yourself around no one all the time is, in my opinion, depleting. That will deplete you.
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Even if you're introverted, at a certain point, that will deplete you. You know, there's something nice about being around people and you don't even need to socialize with them, right? It's just nice to be around people, to see people, to walk down the fucking street. And these are all things that used to be standard.
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We all did them all the time, but more and more so, we don't have to do them anymore. And it's so important to get back out there and go to the fucking store. I briefly pause this episode to let you know that this episode is brought to you by Walmart. The rumors are true, girls. This spring, Walmart is making it easy to dress like the main character you are.
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Another lifestyle shift, getting dressed before I leave the house. I used to wear sweatpants and pajamas anytime I could. Like anytime it was remotely acceptable, I would. And that's also somewhat of a new thing. It used to be completely unacceptable to wear pajamas out, to wear sweatpants out. 100 years ago? Fuck no. Even like 50 years ago, probably not. It was unacceptable.
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Now you can wear whatever you want. You can wear your pajamas. You can wear a sweat set all you want. And listen, if I'm going to a workout class or I'm coming from a workout class and I like stop at the grocery store, okay, listen, I'm not going to be wearing an outfit. I'm not going to, I'm going to be in sweatpants because I just went to a workout. Um, and I'm grateful for that convenience.
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If you are watching the video episode of this, you can see that I now have, or I did for a brief moment, have two cats on my lap. And that is where I draw the line. Frankie, you're blocking the camera. Okay, whatever. It's fine.
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I am grateful that it is now socially acceptable to wear sweatpants in public because, again, post-workout, if I want to run an errand, I'm glad that I don't need to put a fancy outfit on after getting super sweaty. That's unnecessary to me. But majority of the time, if I'm going to get my nails done or going to run an errand or whatever, I will put on
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an outfit and like I still have like comfy outfits like don't get me wrong I'm not like in a suit okay but I'm not wearing full on pajamas you know what I'm saying I really try to get dressed as often as I can and I have a few pairs of these pants okay I'm actually wearing a pair right now that are technically sweatpants, but they actually look like a chic cotton straight leg pant.
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Those are technically sweatpants, but to me, those are like dressed up. Like I would even wear them to dinner perhaps. Maybe not, maybe not. But to lunch, to brunch, sure. So like I have my ways to be comfortable and convenient even when getting a bit dressed up. But like it feels good to feel presentable. And that's something that I didn't always value. But I find that I feel more confident.
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That was the way I lived for a really, really long time until I started to notice that these convenient choices were actually making me feel depressed and unhappy. It was sort of isolating me. You know, like if you're ordering everything to your door, you never have to leave the house. Also, I noticed I was not healthy. I wasn't eating healthy. I wasn't moving my body very often.
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I feel more myself because I'm like expressing myself through my clothes. it's fun to like put on an outfit, whether it's a new outfit that I just put together or it's an outfit that I've worn for the last two weeks that I just really like. And every time I put it on, it makes me feel good. There's just something about it that I think is empowering.
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And I like getting dressed, even though it is sometimes a bit of extra work. It's maybe a bit less comfortable sometimes, but I love it. I love getting dressed. I love getting dressed. And that's coming from somebody who used to wear like fleece pajama pants every day to middle school.
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Actually, I don't think that they allowed me to wear the fleece pajama pants, but the second that school ended, I would put them on. Like I would even sometimes like have them in my backpack so that the second school ended, I could go in the bathroom and change into them and like go hang out with my friends in my sweatpants or in my pajama pants. You know what I'm saying?
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Like, I've always loved being comfortable. And I'm growing up and wearing normal clothes now. So good for me. Speaking of clothes, I've also started mending my clothes when they fall apart instead of just, I don't know, taking it to a tailor or... or buying a new one. Like, listen, there are times when I cannot fix a problem, right?
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Like if a pair of pants rips completely like down the crotch and, and the button fell off and, and there's a huge hole, I might not be able to fix that myself. But like a little rip here, a little rip there, I am mending my clothes myself. I'm not just immediately taking them to a tailor or throwing them out or not even throwing them out.
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I would never throw out clothes, but like donate them or like whatever. I used to be so fucking lazy, okay? And the second that something like had a rip in it, I was like, oh, it's done. No, it's not. That's ridiculous. You know, it's a little bit inconvenient to like fix your clothes or whatever, but that's normal. That's what we're supposed to do. Yeah.
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Emma, you fucking lazy sack of shit, wasteful idiot. Sorry. We should be nice to ourselves, but it's true. It's like, that is so incredibly wasteful and I don't know, just like narrow minded. Like we can fix things ourself. It's not that hard to fix a hole. And I found that mending my own clothing is Not in like big ways, but like, you know, refastening a button or fixing a small hole.
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I found that it has bonded me to my clothing. Like my favorite pair of pants got a little hole, like the seam kind of ripped in like the hip area. And I was devastated. I was like, oh my God, what am I going to do? And then I was like, wait, I'm going to sew it myself. The fuck? Another example, I think I bought a jacket and the button I noticed was falling off.
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And instead of being like, I need to take this back. This thing is ruined. I just sewed the button back on myself. It's all good. I'm not an idiot. I can sew a button on. And the connection that I'm building with my wardrobe now is so much more intimate and meaningful because I am taking care of these pieces of clothing. And it feels good to be connected to your belongings.
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Like that's a warm and fuzzy good feeling. And it's very rewarding. You know what else I've been doing? Taking the stairs. If I see an elevator, I'm like, where's the stairs? This also is because I'm trying to get 10,000 steps a day. So I'm always trying to walk as much as I can, but it's also a good workout. It's a little booty burn in the middle of the day.
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And that's kind of fun, you know, like to get a little sweat in randomly at 1 PM. Like I'm at, I don't know, like my doctor's office and it's on the seventh floor. Okay. I'm going to take the fucking stairs, you know? Oh, I'm going to a meeting in this big fancy building. 20 flights of stairs. I'm a little bit early. Let's try. Okay. Let's try it.
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Like it's, it's a little teensy little workout, but that type of stuff compounds over time and can have incredible results. Like because I take the stairs so much now, now walking up the stairs is so easy. And when I first started doing it, it was exhausting and I hated it. And now I love it and I sweat, but I like feel strong and it's so fun. I like look forward to the stairs.
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Take the stairs, people, if you can. Why not? I've also pretty much completely eliminated convenient entertainment during the day. At night, I'll let myself watch a little TV. I'll maybe watch a little bit of YouTube, especially if I'm with somebody else. Like if I'm hanging out with someone, Let's watch TV. Let's watch a little YouTube. On my own though, not so much.
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I was very sedentary and I was eating a lot of unhealthy foods that I was getting delivered that were delicious. But, you know... Or like eating Cheez-Its for dinner because it was convenient. Like I wasn't healthy. I didn't feel healthy. And I just overall felt sort of depressed by it.
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And during the day, absolutely not. Like during the workday, fuck no. No YouTube, no Instagram reels, no YouTube shorts, no television. I'm not even really listening to podcasts. Like it is music only. And the reason for that is convenient entertainment when abused is Like it rewires your brain and it makes you not creative.
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Like I find that when I'm constantly consuming convenient entertainment, I feel uninspired and like sort of empty in my brain. It like weirdly depletes me mentally and I'm not quite sure why, but it does. Not only is that bad for my job, but it also is a waste of time and it makes me depressed and it doesn't fulfill me.
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When you're not abusing convenient entertainment, you're forced to be entertained by getting work done or sitting around daydreaming, using your imagination or listening to music or doing a little bit of art, cooking something. I don't know, you're like, you're forced to be entertained by things that are actually net positive in your life. Do you know what I'm saying?
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That actually make you feel good, that are actually fulfilling for you. And I've found that is absolutely true in my life. I'm overall just happier as a result And last but not least, instead of buying nut milk and sparkling water, two very specific niche things that I consume constantly, instead of buying these things from the store, I make them from scratch. Why?
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Because, well, in the case of the sparkling water, it just feels wasteful to be like going through five cans of sparkling water a day. That's number one. But number two, I don't know, there's something kind of fun. Like I can control how carbonated my water is. I know like, oh, if I do three like pumps of the CO2 into the water, it's perfectly carbonated for me. Same thing with the nut milk.
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I sweeten it myself. I put the perfect amount of sweetness in it. Just like... a little bit of maple syrup. I can flavor it with extracts. I can use whatever nuts I want. It's like personalized to me. But also again, I buy nut milk constantly. It's so much better to make it myself and not be going through like a bottle of it a day. It's like unnecessary waste, I guess.
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And listen, I'm wasteful in other ways. I'm not some sort of fucking saint. But I think, in my opinion, you don't need to be a perfect saint. You don't need to choose the less convenient option 100% of the time when it comes to consuming products that come in packaging. It's impossible to produce zero waste as a human being, unfortunately.
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But it's about like, oh, this makes sense in my lifestyle. And so, hey, fuck it. Like I might as well do it. Like this makes more logical sense. And like little efforts like that are better than nothing. You know what I mean? And I feel like people tend to be very all or nothing. Like who cares? Like, you know, or like Emma, you're being wasteful in other ways.
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Stop like praising yourself for, you know, making your own nut milk and making your own sparkling water. You're only like, you're barely even helping and you still, you make a bunch of other ways. Sure I do, but it's better than nothing. Karen? Or maybe Karen, what would a Karen say? I don't know. Anyways.
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It took a bit of time to realize that perhaps the feelings of depression were caused by how convenient my life is. Which sounds ridiculous because I think most of us think of convenience as like something that enhances life, makes life easier and better and gives us more time to do, you know, the things that we really want to do. But that wasn't my reality.
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So those are some examples of how I've introduced inconvenience into my life, possibly for the first time. And there's probably more inconveniences that I've introduced into my life, but I can't remember. So those are all the ones that I can remember for now. And I am constantly striving to introduce more. By introducing all these inconveniences, I've absolutely reinstilled purpose into my life.
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These inconveniences make me more present in my life, reconnect me to the journey. Like, I feel like when you choose the convenient option, you miss out on the journey. inconvenience oftentimes creates a journey. It creates adventure. And that was mentioned in the article that I just read to you. Inconvenience sparks adventure, without a doubt. It's pretty profound how it does that.
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You know what I mean? My life feels like more of an adventure since I've introduced these inconveniences. But that's not to say that I don't still choose the convenient options sometimes. I absolutely do. There are some conveniences that I do not want to give up, that perhaps other people would be open to giving up, but I don't want to give these things up.
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I'm never going to stop using my appliances, my phone, my computer. Uh, my dishwasher, my ice maker, my electric kettle, my microwave, my water heater, my car, like the list goes on. There are so many convenient pieces of technology that I will never give up. I don't want to give them up. There are some people who are like, I'll get a flip phone. I don't want to get a flip phone. Why?
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Because I love maps. I love being able to use navigation. I love FaceTime. I love, I don't actually love FaceTime, but I love that it's an option. I love being able to work on my phone on the fly. I love, I love my phone. Some people are like, you know what? Fuck it. I'm just going to start taking cold showers. That doesn't make sense for me. Like I love a hot, warm, comfortable shower.
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And I find that fascinating because if I had been born 200 years ago, I'd never face this moral dilemma. Whether or not to choose convenience wasn't a moral dilemma back then because life was incredibly inconvenient. And anytime convenience was an option, it was common sense to choose it. Whereas now, life is unbelievably convenient.
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Are there some benefits to a cold shower? Is it sort of a psychological challenge that can potentially benefit you? Are there even probably health benefits? Probably. But I don't care. That's not an inconvenience that I'm inspired to integrate into my life. I don't think it would actually benefit my life. I live in Los Angeles. I'm not going to downgrade to a bike, right?
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I need to drive everywhere. I'm not going to say, you know what? I'm only going to travel by bike because it's more inconvenient and it's an adventure. It would definitely be an adventure, but that's not an adventure I want to go on. Another thing, I love apps. I love Spotify for music, okay? I love being able to open that and listen to any song I want. It's incredibly convenient and it's awesome.
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And I'm not trying to eliminate that convenience from my life. Same thing with, again, I keep mentioning the Maps app, like GPS apps. Are you kidding me? What would we do without them? No, that's not going anywhere for me. Calculator app, like what? Am I gonna start carrying around a calculator in my bag? No, like I love apps. I also eat quite a few like semi-processed foods.
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Okay, I'm not cooking everything from scratch. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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the convenience paradox
What had happened to me was convenience didn't give me more time to do things that fulfilled me and made my life worth living, but instead just made me lazy and I wasn't really doing anything. Yeah. I sort of came to the conclusion like, wait, this is not the way I should be making decisions anymore. My default shouldn't be convenience. I need to sort of rethink this.
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And so very intuitively, I made the decision to start considering less convenient options, to open my mind to inconvenient options, to kind of push myself to be more of a functioning human being who actually does things themselves. you know, just to see how it'd make me feel. And it truly did help me. At the time, I did this all very intuitively. Like I wasn't thinking about it.
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I wasn't like, this was truly just me noticing a pattern in myself, me noticing that like, Certain behaviors are making me unhappy and then making it change. But I actually did research on it recently because I was like, I don't know. Is anyone talking about this? And people are talking about it. I found this incredible article from Betsy Reed at The Guardian.
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And let me read some snippets from it and then we can discuss. Evolutionary mismatch is the notion that we evolved for a hunter-gatherer lifestyle and that while our circumstances have changed drastically, our brains and bodies haven't. It says that our instincts are often horribly incompatible with our environment.
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This almost makes me feel better about the fact that for so many years I chose convenience as my default. We're clearly wired to do that. None of us, we don't need to be feeling guilty about the fact that we love convenience. We're literally wired to love convenience. So let's all be easy on ourselves, okay? We're not that lazy. We're lazy, but we're lazy biologically.
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Like this is, we're supposed to be this way. We were born and bred this way. Anyway, back to the article. Resistance was a necessary counterbalance to the intense flurries of activity that punctuated hunter-gatherer life. Foraging for food in driving rain or running to escape a dangerous animal. It's the reason we still ask, do I really have to be doing this? Shouldn't I save my energy?
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The people who are inclined to remain sheltered during a blizzard when the prospect of obtaining food was low were more likely to live and pass on their genes to the next generation. And since those guys are our ancestors, we've inherited that disposition. Right. It's like, come on, you guys. We are lazy for a reason. We're prone to laziness for a reason. So be gentle with yourself. OK. OK.
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Back to the article. More advanced technologies undoubtedly have their pleasures and opportunities, too. But there's evidence to suggest that contemporary hyper convenience can also make our lives more, not less difficult. The sense of safety you get from staying home can make it more anxiety-inducing to go out later.
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The relief of avoiding an uncomfortable conversation with your spouse makes that conversation even harder to have subsequently. Using a dating app to avoid the awkwardness of flirting only weakens your social skills over time. Modern hyper-convenience is a kind of deal with the devil. It is seductive because it appeals to our instincts, but it serendipitously... That is a word I can't read.
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But it serendipitously depletes us. It has made it easier to get by, but in many ways, harder to truly succeed. Human flourishing and happiness is not just about substance, but also depends on growth, dynamic problem solving, and solidarity through hardship. What a beautiful and incredible article from Betsy Reid at the fucking Guardian. She just spoke truth with that.
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I mean, listen, it's still in some ways inconvenient, but compared to how it used to be, life is unbelievably convenient, okay? We can order anything to our door whenever we want. Unless you live in like a random tiny house on a deserted island, you can probably order something and it'll probably show up in less than a week. OK, there's an appliance for everything, for everything.
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It was kind of comforting to read that in a way because I was like, oh, this all makes sense. There is a scientific explanation for why that lifestyle makes me depressed. No, I'm not the problem. It's sort of an evolutionary mismatch with who we are today and how we were wired to survive in the past. How beautiful it is to be explained by science.
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I also found a little article from the National Library of Medicine on the negative side effects of a hyperconvenient life. To summarize, our diets are worse. We're less physically active. We lack social skills and we lack in essential skills like cooking and sewing and I don't know, problem solving in general.
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Moral of the story is the hyper-convenient life that we have found ourselves in is not necessarily good for us. We've taken it to an extreme and life is now just a little bit too convenient. And that's not good for us in our brains, in our bodies. Um, and I caught onto this on my own by some miracle. Like I felt that and I was like, okay, I need to fix this. And I did.
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And over the last, I don't know, few years, maybe I have reintroduced inconvenience into my life in a multitude of ways. And I've found so much beauty in it. And I'm going to share some examples with you.
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You know, I noticed this the other day when I was making my morning coffee because I recently switched from a sort of automatic coffee machine, espresso machine, to a super manual espresso machine. Okay, so like what I used to have was, it was a Breville, incredible machine. I loved it. Where basically the machine would dose out the perfect amount of coffee grounds for you.
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You tamp it with an automatic tamper. There's like... you know, normally at like a cafe or something, you'll see the barista weighing out the beans and like doing all this stuff and like, uh, you know, tamping it by hand with that tamper. Like they put their elbow up in the air and they squish it down. You know, this thing literally had an automatic tamper.
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So you press a button for all the grinds to come out and then you have this tamper on the side and you press it down and then you just twist it into the machine and press another button. And next thing you know, you have beautiful espresso. Okay. So easy. But I recently, after many years, I finally felt ready to upgrade. I'm ready to truly master the art of being a barista. I'm ready to learn.
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I'm ready to elevate to the next level. You know, I don't need to be a home barista anymore. Okay. Let's level up. Okay. I have a fucking coffee company for fuck's sake. Let's level the fuck up. So I did to a very fancy machine, like a barista, like cafe level machine.
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This is something that as a coffee company founder, I should have fucking gone a long time ago, but I had to do so much research to figure out how to use this machine properly. It was like multiple weeks of of learning to even just prepare for the machine to arrive. And then the machine arrived and it was like, okay, now I actually have to use it.
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And working out all the kinks of using it and mastering, not even mastering, sorry, being able to even just use the machine took like, I'm still figuring it out. But you know what's really funny? Even though my morning coffee routine takes probably five, 10 minutes longer than it used to,
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Even though I went from like, honestly, two steps to closer to like 10, I have never enjoyed making my morning coffee more. The experience is so detailed to like the gram of beans to the like millimeter size of the coffee grounds. Like it's so detailed. It's so intimate and it's so manual. Like I have to do every single little thing myself. I'm measuring the grind size and getting it perfect.
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I'm doing the tests with the machine and with the grinds to get it to the perfect. I'm doing it all. And it's so much work. And sometimes it's fucking seven in the morning and I'm tired. And because there's too much moisture in the air, now for some reason, the coffee, the espresso's not extracting properly. The grinds were too...
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like small and like, I don't know, like weird shit happens like that, that I don't even fully fucking understand still. And I have to go and readjust things manually and use my knowledge. I fucking love it. The whole experience has truly connected me to my coffee. It's so intimate. I feel so much more excited about my coffee every day. It feels special. It feels like this little work of art.
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I worked so hard on this little shot of espresso. It gives it brand new meaning in my heart and in my mind. I mean, but the same thing goes for matcha. Like I used to use the electric whisk for the matcha, which is not how it's, you know, traditionally done. Traditionally you use a bamboo handheld whisk, but I was always too lazy.
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And I use the electric whisk because I use the electric whisk for many different things in my caffeinated beverages routine. And I was like, well, you know, I'll just use it here too. No, I I'm totally on the bamboo whisk now. It's, it's, there's something about the, the manual nature of it that just connects you with the beverage. Yeah. Next, I have started taking road trips.
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OK, I used to almost always choose a plane ride over a road trip. Like if I was, say, going to Northern California, that's a six hour drive in a one hour flight. I would always choose the flight. But I found that road trips are so much more fulfilling.
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There's something about a road trip that is so fun, like stopping to get gas, going into the gas station, getting a snack, calling people when you're on the road, or if you're on a road trip with somebody else, having long, fun conversations, entertaining yourself with an album or a podcast or something. There's something more fulfilling about a road trip. You're grounded on the earth.
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in a meditative state. You're getting to see the world like out your window. You don't have a choice. You're forced to stare at the world around you for, you know, however many hours. There's something really beautiful about it. And even if you're going on a long distance sort of road trip, no worries. Break it up into three stops. You know, you don't have to do it all in one go.
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Enjoy the journey. Stop in a random city for a night. This is my new vibe. It's absolutely less convenient. And it doesn't always make sense. Like, if I'm traveling for work, if, you know, I have a tight schedule, okay, it doesn't always make sense. But when I can, I'm road tripping. And I've found that it's so much more adventurous. It feels so much more adventurous. And I...
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I end up having more fun. I also have kind of a crippling fear of flying on planes these days, so that is an added bonus, but that's not why I pivoted towards the road trip. And it's ironic because driving in a car is technically so much more dangerous, but I don't know. I'm loving the road trip. Road trip when you can, okay? I really don't order food delivery anymore.
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the convenience paradox
I used to order food delivery for almost every single meal. When I first moved to Los Angeles, it was like, what kind of fun meal can I have now? Like it was too fun. But like I was ordering a lot of fancy meals because I could because it was all on Postmates and there's a lot of fancy food in Los Angeles.
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Like if I wanted to order like a gorgeous breakfast with like gorgeous potatoes that took four hours to make and like, you know, perfectly scrambled eggs and like I could do that. And I did a lot of times. And it made me like, I stopped appreciating the art of a beautifully cooked meal because I was eating a beautifully cooked meal all the time.
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I was eating restaurant food so often that going to a restaurant, I was like, this is literally just my normal diet. I eat this food all the time. And that's not how it's supposed to be. Unless you are an actual chef yourself or you're married to a chef or something, that's not normal. Not only did it make me feel like shit physically, like I just genuinely felt bad, but I was actually unhealthy.
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Like it was not a healthy lifestyle at all. It started by like, okay, I'm gonna order food delivery less and order healthier options. And I did that for a few years. And then more recently, I just deleted food delivery apps off of all of my devices. Okay. So that's not even an option.
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And if I really, for some reason, like have to order food delivery for some reason, or it's like really a fun idea, like a good example would be recently my friends and I were watching an award show and we were like, oh, like let's order dinner. And it was like a fun novelty. Like, fuck it, let's order some pizza. And it was a delight, but I appreciated it so much because I never get to do it.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
Hey there, and welcome back to Advice Session, a series here on Anything Goes where you send in your current dilemmas or anything that you want advice on, and I give you my unprofessional advice. And today's topics are failure, work ethic, and perfectionism. And perfectionism in particular is a topic that I hold near and dear to my heart because I myself am am a perfectionist.
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The job that you thought you were going to get, the person you thought you were going to marry, the town you thought you were going to live in, it actually might not be right for you. And it might not work out. And that doesn't mean that you failed and that you haven't accomplished your goals and that your life is a failure. It just means that there was a change of plans.
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Maybe for some people it's a blessing in disguise, but definitely not for everyone. And it is not a fun thing to deal with. And I've been dealing with it for many years. And it's gotten better, I'd say, but I definitely don't have it all figured out. Like I haven't cured my perfectionism by any means. It's still something that I struggle with actively.
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It feels like a failure when you have specific goals that are so specific that it's like, if I don't check every single exact box, I'm a failure. Set your goals up for success. Set your goals up in such a way that there can be changes of plans. And that's okay because you'll still accomplish your goals anyway. It's not like lowering the bar.
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It's just letting the goals be a bit more open-ended for the sake of the future being unwritten and you not knowing exactly... What's going to be right for you? And it just gives you the freedom to truly evolve and change as a person, but also as an achiever. And it sort of takes the pressure off. You know, like there's a lot of pressure put on you when you have very specific goals.
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When you loosen the goals up a bit, you'll notice that the pressure lessens as well. And for most of us, pressure is not a good thing. We achieve less when we're under pressure. Majority of human beings work best when they feel free in a way. And my last piece of advice is to reframe failure because you said, you know, I'm extremely afraid of the future and of not living up to my potential.
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I'm scared of failure. How do I combat this? To address failure specifically, I think reframing failure is so important. Listen, I'm not going to be unrealistic, okay? Failure still sucks sometimes. It sucks. It's not always fun. And I'm not saying it is. However, failure is not bad. The most successful people in the world fail constantly. We forget this.
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But in order to be successful, you have to fail 100, 200, 300, 5,000 times before you'll succeed. No one succeeds the first time. The only person that never fails is the person that never tried anything. Do you know what I'm saying? Listen, all of this is cliche, all of this is cringe, but it's absolutely true.
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Failure should motivate you to try again or to pivot your plans, not to give up and hide in a corner forever. You know what? I have a beautiful metaphor for all of you, okay? Failure is not a dead end street. It's an intersection.
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If you see failure as a dead end street, then you're afraid of failure because you're like, well, if I go down that that road and it's a dead end street, then like I'm fucked, you know, like I'm stuck and I don't know how to get out and like whatever. And I'm lost in all of this and there's no getting out. It's it's whatever. It's a dead end. I can't go any further. That's the end of the road.
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That's not what it is. It's an intersection, okay? You're now faced with a choice. I can go left. I can go straight. I can go right. I can fucking flip an illegal U-turn. It is not the end of the road. It's just a point in the road where now I have to make sometimes an uncomfortable choice. Am I going to stay going straight? on this exact path? Am I going to turn right? Am I going to turn left?
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Did you see what I'm saying? How beautiful is that? How fucking beautiful is that? Okay. That is what failure is. And once you reframe it and you're like, all right, it's actually not a bad thing. It's literally an inevitable step towards success, towards achievement. It is quite literally unavoidable. Once you see it like that, it's like, oh,
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Okay, I'm less afraid because it's literally something that every single person is experiencing. And also, if I don't fail, then that means I'm not working towards anything. Does that make sense? Like, there's nothing to reach achievement, you have to fail along the way. Do you get what I mean? It's like, that's actually a sign that you're working towards your goals. You're moving forward.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
You're driving on the road. If you're stopped on the side of the road, you'll never hit an intersection. You'll also never hit a dead end. because you're just pulled off on the side of the road. Only when you're driving can you reach the intersection, where then you're forced to make the decision of what to do next. You know what I mean? Does that metaphor make sense? I don't know.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
So when I give you advice about it, take it with a grain of salt because I don't have it all figured out. If you want really good advice, go find somebody who has it all figured out. And then also send me that person's number because I need their help as well. Anyway, without further ado, let's begin.
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But anyways, someone said, I feel like I'm never the best at anything. I'm decent slash good at things, but I don't ever stand out at the top. It makes me feel average. What do I do? I am sick and tired of the average person's slander, okay? There is nothing wrong with being average. Average just means what most people are. Do you think most people suck and are idiots and are bad at everything?
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No. I can name so many different people who are incredible at things, who I admire, who are incredible people, who are not the best at anything, who are maybe not even above average at anything, but they're great. My entire life, I was never the best at anything. I got decent grades, but I wasn't the best student. I was decent at sports, but I wasn't the most athletic.
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I've never been the best at anything. I've never even been the best YouTuber. You know what I'm saying? What even does that mean? I've never been the best podcaster. What does that even mean? Who is that? There's no... Okay, the whole idea that being average is bad is ridiculous. Majority of people are average. Majority of people. Because that is what average is.
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We shouldn't do things in life to be the best at them. We shouldn't do things in life to like win the medal. Listen, sometimes it feels great to win the medal, but most of us are not gonna win the medal. Most of us are not gonna win first place. Most of us are not going to be the valedictorian. Most of us are not going to go to the Olympics.
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I've said 99.9% like so much today. I'm just absolutely obsessed with data today and statistics. I just can't get enough of data. Anyway, 99.9% of people are never going to win the gold medal in anything in their lives. And guess what? It's okay because the gold medal is a fucking piece of metal. It doesn't make life any better. Being above average is actually nothing more than a gold medal.
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It is nothing more than a piece of fucking, literally nothing. If you were to look, a gold medal, being the best at something is nothing more than than honestly like a piece of junk, like a first place trophy. What is that? Does it actually serve any purpose? No, it means nothing. You can't even use it for anything. Do you get what I'm saying here? Being above average, it's great.
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You know what I mean? And it's really cool to see the people in this world that are above average at something, right? Like that's awesome. But at the end of the day, and I mean like on our deathbed, what's really gonna matter? Not the trophy, not the gold medal. What's gonna matter is that we filled our lives with things that we loved to do, whether or not we were good at them, okay?
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That is what fucking matters. Being above average, fuck that. Who gives a fuck? It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. That's all I have to say. Do things that you love to do. That is my advice to you. Sorry, I got really passionate there. Okay, somebody said, I feel like I'm failing at everything in life right now. My grades suck, my friendships are bad, and I'm single.
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What do I do? You know what the good news is? When everything sucks, when you are at rock bottom, the good news is it can only go up from here. You're at rock bottom. Everything sucks. How exciting is that? That if you literally put even just a little bit of effort in, you can make tomorrow better because shit sucks. Do you know what I'm saying? That's actually kind of inspiring and exciting.
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Like when I'm at rock bottom, that's what I try to remember because it is inspiring. It's empowering. My suggestion to you is to make a plan, okay? You can make a plan in any way that feels right for you. You could say, okay, I have all these things about my life that suck right now. My grades, my friendships, I'm single, you know, whatever.
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You can pick one thing and say, all right, I'm going to work on this first. Perhaps the thing that's most important, maybe in your life that's friendship or maybe in your life that's grades or maybe in your life that is relationship. I wouldn't focus on that though. Maybe you save that one for later. Save that one for once you have your grades and your friendships figured out.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
I think dating is best pursued when you're not at rock bottom. My opinion. My opinion. Make a plan on how you're going to improve your grades. Make a plan on how you're going to make friends. Make a plan on how you're going to start working on new hobbies. Make a plan. Until you make a plan, you're just going to sit around aimless.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
You need to sit down and say, okay, I'm going to start with my grades. All right, I am going to make it a goal that for the next month, I'm going to work on homework after school for three hours a day. Three hours a day. I'm going to go from one hour a day or maybe even zero hours a day to three hours a day. I'm going to set a timer. I'm going to light a candle. And I am going...
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to do my homework for three hours a day or until I complete it and see how much my grades improve over the next month. I am going to sign up for an extracurricular activity. I'm gonna sign up for the badminton team at school. I'm gonna sign up for the lacrosse team at school. I'm gonna sign up for something extracurricular. And I'm gonna slowly but surely make friends with the people on the team.
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And we might not be best friends, but we'll see what happens. Like make a plan, figure out how you're gonna improve your grades, how you're gonna make friends, how you're going to stop failing. Until you have a plan, until you have something to act upon, what the fuck are you supposed to do? So you need to get organized and you need to figure out what your next step is.
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Because it's very easy to just wallow in like, oh, I'm so far behind. I'm failing so bad. There's no getting out of this. Not true. Not true. You'll be shocked at how quickly things can turn around the second you have a plan and stop dwelling in the feeling of failure and instead say, it's all from here. Let's figure it out. You'll be shocked at how quickly things turn around.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
Okay, somebody said, advice on how to be more gentle with myself in my early 20s. I'm so harsh and critical with myself as a first instinct. I am the same way, to be honest. But when I react really harshly to myself... I try to remind myself how truly young I am. And this is not in like an ageist sort of way. Like I think we should be graceful with ourselves no matter our age.
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But I do think that when you're in your 20s, you're really young. You were a teenager like a few years ago, right? And what I do to put my age and lack of life experience into perspective is to remember myself 10 years ago. 15 years ago, 20 years ago, back when I was four years old, you know, 10 years old, 12 years old, like only just five, 10, 15 years ago, I was a child.
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And now I look back at myself and I'm like, oh my God, what a little baby, you know, like what a little fragile baby, what an innocent little soul, you know? And the truth is in 5, 10, 15, 20, 30 years, we'll look back at ourselves now with so much patience and I don't know, we'll be gentle with ourselves. And so why not be gentle now?
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5, 10, 15, 20, 30 years down the line, we're going to be gentle with ourselves. And that's the same person as we are today. Why not just be gentle now? I don't know if that's good advice, but that is something that I think about. Like when I was hard on myself when I was 15 years old, and I was hard on myself.
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If I had thought about myself at 23, almost 24, and how I would feel towards myself, I maybe would have been more gentle with myself because now at age 24, I look at my 15-year-old self like a baby and I feel fond, gentle feelings towards my 15-year-old self. There's something comforting about knowing like down the line, I'm gonna look back at who I am today and be so patient and be so kind.
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Why not just do that now? I don't know. But I also think too that sometimes like age aside, we can be unnecessarily harsh and critical with ourselves if other things are going on in our lives. Again, age aside. For example, if we're hanging out around the wrong people, hanging out around people who are not supportive of us. don't love us fully, don't support us fully.
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That can lead to being unnecessarily harsh and critical with oneself. I've noticed that in myself. When I've, say, you know, dated or been friends with people who weren't really on my team, it's manifested in me being harsh and critical with myself. When my self-esteem is low, which we talked about earlier, when I'm not
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basing my self-esteem on the right things when I'm not basing it on my character I'm basing it on my physical appearance or my success or you know when my self-esteem is in the wrong place you know I can be overly harsh and critical of myself I think age can contribute, but I also think, too, that there's probably something else going on in your life, like beyond just you being in your 20s.
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Like, I do think it's a normal thing, right? Like, we're hard on ourselves always, right? But I think once we reach our 20s, we're really hard on ourselves because... I don't know, our frontal lobe is the most developed it's ever been. And we're starting to realize like how dumb we can be sometimes. And it's abrupt and it's, I don't know, overwhelming.
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But a lot of times, I don't know, there's something else lingering beneath the surface as well. So maybe pay attention to that too. Somebody said, in order to be the best at something, do you have to do it 24-7? Well, number one, I'd let go of the expectation of ever being the best because good luck with that. I personally have never been the best at anything, ever in my life, never.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
so fuck that like that's just not gonna happen that's a ridiculous expectation it's like in order to be perfect at something do you have to do it no perfect the best these things don't exist so let go of that that's number one but let's rephrase this question in order to be good at something in order to be great at something do you have to do it 24 7 i think no i think no
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But I also sort of think, yes. Okay, let me explain. I don't think doing something 24-7 is healthy. Like I think putting all of your eggs in one basket and saying, I'm going to dedicate my entire life to this one thing. I don't think that that's healthy. I think you need to have variety in your life, right? So if you're working towards a goal, it's good to have... time off on the side.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
Somebody said, as a perfectionist, I never feel like I'm doing enough. I see other successful people and I constantly feel like I'm not enough. How do I fix this? Well, these are two separate issues, okay? Number one, never feeling like you're doing enough. Never feeling satisfied with your accomplishments, with your productivity, et cetera. And comparing your success to others.
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It's good to have other smaller goals. It's good to have hobbies. It's good to diversify what's going on in your life. You don't want to have all of your eggs in one basket. Otherwise, number one, it's bad for you psychologically. It'll make you depressed and anxious.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
But number two, it puts too much pressure on this one thing, which isn't good because if it doesn't work out, which it might not because that's the reality of life, now you're fucked because you put all of your eggs in that basket. Not great. But also too, if you really love something and you really wanna be good at it, you don't wanna burn yourself out.
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And doing something 24 seven will burn you out. So you definitely wanna have other stuff going on in your life, even if you wanna be great at something. There's also something about being like overexposed to something that weirdly can hold you back.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
Like when I work out every single day, seven days a week, I achieve less gains, if you will, than if I go five days a week and have two days of rest in between. Short term and long term. Short term because I'm not exhausting myself. So I'm actually able to perform better in my workouts. But then long term because number one, I'm preventing burnout because I have balance.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
I'm doing five days a week. I have two days off, two days to recover, two days to do other things with my time. You know, five days a week is still a lot too. Like let's say I was doing three days a week, four days a week, same idea. There's time away. There's time to recharge.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
There's time to rebuild so that you can go back even stronger and with a fresh perspective because that's the other thing. Let's say you're working on an art piece. If you lock yourself in your house for two months and work on this art piece and you never go outside and you never talk to anyone and you don't work on anything else, okay, if this painting doesn't work out, you are going to be a mess.
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You are going to be an emotional wreck. That is not good. That's number one. Number two, you're going to get burnt out because you weren't doing anything else. And it's going to ruin your spark. And you're not going to want to make another painting. You're going to want to quit painting after that. And you'll quite literally physically suffer. I mean, you didn't see the sun.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
You didn't move around a lot. You will physically suffer. In order to be the best at something, you shouldn't work on it 24-7. You need to have balance. However, Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
So let's address not feeling like you're doing enough. To start, let me just say, I could not relate to this more. I could literally be on my grind for like six months straight, get so much done, be so successful. Everybody around me is jealous. I'm slaying and I literally still feel like shit and feel like I got nothing done. So I completely understand this.
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I think the hard truth for perfectionists is that perfectionists may never be able to fully experience fulfillment and joy from getting work done, from being productive. I don't, that might not be true, but in my experience thus far, like I haven't cracked that code. I still really struggle to feel like I'm doing enough.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
And no, I'm not humble bragging. Okay. I'm not over here like, I don't know. I just have an incredible work ethic. I know it might sound like a blessing, but I promise you it's a curse. It's exhausting being this perfect. No, I'm not saying that. In fact, I'm saying the opposite. I actually think my perfectionism gets in the way of me achieving. If perfection did exist, it doesn't.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
And just by simply being productive, like I almost never feel like I'm doing enough. Naturally, like it doesn't matter how much I get done. I just never feel satisfied. I never feel fulfilled. I never feel proud. And I think for many perfectionists, that's the case. And so something that I've tried to do is to release any expectations about how productivity will make me feel.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
I think the reason why it's so painful to work really hard and then never feel like you're doing enough is because you had an expectation that working really hard would cure your perfectionism, would finally make you feel like you're working hard enough, you're doing enough. The truth is when you're a perfectionist, there is no level of achievement of productivity that will...
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
create that feeling. That's the problem. That's why you're a perfectionist. So something that I've tried to do is release expectations of experiencing any feeling from getting work done because at least I'm not ending up disappointed because I'm not feeling the feelings I wanted to be feeling.
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You know, I might not feel satisfied and that sucks, but at least I'm not feeling dissatisfied and disappointed. Do you know what I'm saying? Does releasing expectations solve the problem? Does it allow you to find satisfaction and fulfillment from your productivity? No, not necessarily. But in the meantime, while you're figuring out how to cope with your perfectionism, it can be helpful.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
And so that's something I try to do is work towards achieving things for the sake of my overall well-being in my life, right? Instead of searching for a feeling of satisfaction and a feeling like I'm doing enough, I try to work on things that are ultimately leading to a better quality of life. Does that make sense? I don't know. I don't know if this is even good advice, okay?
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
This is just some of the things that I've tried, okay? So that's one sort of tip, okay? But another thing that I personally try to do is...
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
and it's kind of cringe and it's like I don't know it's like I don't know maybe empty advice I think it's important for perfectionists to in a moment when you're being hard on yourself when you really really feel like you're not doing enough the best thing that you can do is take a moment close your eyes or not open your eyes I don't know just fucking sit there for a minute and
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And think about all that you've accomplished in the last week, in the last month, in the last year, in your whole life. Take a moment to remember what you have accomplished. And whether it's large or small, you've at least accomplished something. And I can almost guarantee, especially if you're a perfectionist, that a lot of those things were challenging.
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I can almost guarantee you have a lot to be proud of. And it sounds ridiculous. It's like, Emma, like who's gonna fucking, when you're in the midst of a meltdown because you feel like you're not doing enough, the last thing you want to do is think about what you have done. It's like, who cares about that? But it can really help. You could even write it down.
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Like write down 10 things that you've done in the last year that you're proud of. It's just, it's important for perfectionists to like shift the attention to what has been done, to what has been accomplished.
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Because I think a lot of times perfectionists complete a task, accomplish something, and immediately move to the next thing and take no time to relish in the excitement and the satisfaction of accomplishing. Instead, just move on to the next. Because perfectionists are always thinking about what's next. So that's another thing. Potentially, every time you accomplish something...
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But if it did exist, my perfectionism would be preventing me from reaching that. My perfectionism holds me back. When I call myself a perfectionist, it's derogatory. You get the idea. This is not a flex. That's sort of a misconception about perfectionism is that it ultimately is a blessing in disguise. And maybe it is. Maybe it is.
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the curse of perfectionism, advice session
Force yourself to take 10 minutes, maybe even 24 hours to relish in that satisfaction. Treat yourself. Take yourself out to get your nails done. Buy yourself your favorite lunch. Treat yourself. Force yourself to celebrate every accomplishment. That's all the advice I got on that. Okay, so now the second part of this, comparing yourself to other successful people.
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I think we tend to compare our successes to other people's successes when our self-esteem is being based on our success. When your self-esteem is based on the wrong things, for example, your success, your appearance, your romantic relationship, your friend group, whatever. When your self-esteem is rooted in the wrong things. All hell breaks loose.
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OK, because number one, your self-esteem is not it's not going to be consistent. It's not going to be solid because it's based on something that is inconsistent, that is surface level, that is it's actually not a healthy thing. source of confidence and self-esteem, okay?
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Number two, wherever your self-esteem lies, your appearance, your success, your relationship, your friend group, you'll start obsessing over these things. It'll become your main focus, okay? which usually ends up causing way more harm than good. For example, if your self-esteem is held in your physical appearance, you know, you're more likely to develop a plastic surgery addiction or have
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you're more likely to facetune your Instagram photos to oblivion, you know, to a point where you don't even look the way you look like in real life anymore. And that's mortifying. Like that's not something, that's not an admirable thing to do. You know, the list goes on.
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Or if your self-esteem is rooted in your romantic relationship, you're going to be obsessive about your partner because they are your confidence, you know? So like if they don't text you back, You're like, oh my God, they're cheating on me. Oh my God, you freak out. Do you see what I'm saying? It causes more harm than good. You will obsess over whatever your self-esteem is based on, okay?
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And what comes with sort of obsession? Comparison as well. So if you are basing your self-esteem on your success, to take it back to the dilemma that we're facing here, if your self-esteem is based on your success, okay? other people's success is going to drive you nuts. And you are going to compare yourself to oblivion, okay? Because you're obsessed with your success.
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That's what your entire being is relying on at this time, you know? It's like your backbone, your foundation is that. But what's ironic is when your self-esteem is based on the right things, okay, it's based on your character. It's based on how generous and kind you are. It's based on how you make the world a better place in small or big ways. It's based on your morals and values.
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It's based on being a good sibling, a good child, a good wife, a good husband, whatever the fuck, okay? When it's based on your character, who you truly are, material things aside, you don't compare yourself to other people. You don't care that other people are hotter than you. You don't care that other people are more successful than you. You
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You don't care because your self-esteem is in the right place. So you don't need to compare because you're not trying to measure your physical appearance, your success, etc. You're comfortable with what you add to the world. You know what I'm saying? The point of all this is the reason why you might be comparing your success to others is because that's where... your self-esteem lies.
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Like, maybe if I were to observe myself, my current self, who I am right now, and myself in an alternate universe where I'm not a perfectionist. Perhaps me, the perfectionist, would achieve more than the version of me in an alternate universe who isn't a perfectionist. Perhaps. Perhaps. But we'll never know that for sure. And as far as I can tell, it gets in my way.
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And that's not good. That doesn't feel good, okay? The best way to stop doing that is to build your self-esteem in a healthy way. And it sounds simple, but it's about having discipline, you know, taking good care of yourself, taking good care of people around you, being a good person. The list goes on. I mean, it's about having self-esteem rooted in non-material things.
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Genuinely who you are as a person. And then all of a sudden, you won't care that other people are more successful than you. There is no most successful person in the world. That doesn't exist. So let go of that, okay? All right, let's move on. Somebody said, I'm extremely afraid of the future and of not living up to my potential. I'm scared of failure. How do I combat this?
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I think it's incredibly helpful to differentiate what you can and can't control about your future because then you can let the elements you can control empower you and even inspire you, right? It clarifies like, all right, what am I working towards and what can I do to get there? And what type of plan do I need to orchestrate to get there? And what's the next step?
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You know, being aware of what you can control empowers you and inspires you and gives you sort of a path. So that's awesome. But also being aware of what you can't control allows you to set that free and take that energy that you were dedicating towards stuff that you can't control and now put it towards the stuff that you can control.
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Once you have a clear understanding of what you can and can't control, you can begin the journey of developing a healthy relationship with your future and with your goals. But until then, you're going to be putting your energy in all the wrong places, focusing on what you can't control too much, neglecting the stuff that you can control. You know, you're going to move through life aimlessly.
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It's a mess. Until you really get a grasp on what you can and can't control, there will be chaos, okay? And there's still chaos even when you do grasp what you can and can't control because it's The nature of life is that some of it is out of our control and that is chaotic, right?
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There will always be a bit of chaos, but there's a healthy amount of chaos once you truly are aware of what you can and can't control. And again, then it's inspiring. You're like, all right, fuck all the stuff I can't control, right?
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I know now what I can control and that gives me a clearer path and a clearer set of goals and I know what I'm working towards now and I know the steps I need to take to get there because I know what's in my control. So, That really helps. But I also think it's helpful to shift your goals to be less specific.
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Like instead of your goal being to live in a 10 bedroom house in Dallas, Texas on this exact street with this exact street number and you're married to this exact person and you have this exact job. Shift your goal to being, I want to live in a beautiful home, in a beautiful city that I love, with a person that I love, with an incredible family.
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Like, shift your goals to being a bit more buildable, a bit more open, you know? A lot of times we can become obsessed with these specific goals. And the problem with... That is that it doesn't leave room for change of plans. And inevitably, there will be changes of plans.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
Welcome back to Advice Session, a series here on Anything Goes where you send in your current dilemmas or anything that you want advice on, and I give you my unprofessional advice. And today's topic is actually a topic that we've touched on before, and that would be the topic of friendship, but more specifically, conflict in friendship, challenge in friendship, frustration in friendship.
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There's a chance that they might have grown up in an environment where when they made mistakes as kids, their parents were like, you're a piece of shit and you're hopeless and there's no chance, like you're ruined and you're faulty and there's something wrong with you and you're, you know what I mean? They might not have grown up in a safe space to say, you know what, I did make a mistake.
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They might have grown up in an environment where if they admitted to a mistake, they were berated by their family. You know, that's very common. So you might be the first person in their life to ever say, it's okay to make a mistake. You're no less of a person.
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You might be the first person to tell them it's the admirable right thing to do to admit when you make a mistake and to apologize and to say, I'm going to do better next time. Like that's the highest response, right? That is the most admirable. But you might be the first person to tell him that.
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I don't think that's an opinion. I think that that's just true. I think there's probably science to that. Should I Google it? Maybe. I'll Google it. I was correct. Fighting... Oh, wait, I was not correct. Hold on. This is the AI overview from Google.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
On the other hand, if they're a narcissist or maybe they're not a narcissist, but they have narcissistic traits, which we all do to an extent, we all do in some area, right? Most of us, you know, maybe you go about confronting them about it with a bit of a firmer tone. Like, hey, what you said was rude. You know, hey, what you did was wrong.
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And then when they try to play the victim, you confront them and say, you can't play the victim all the time. You know, like, anyway, that's how I would handle it. Number one, analyze why they are the way they are to the best of your ability and then check them on their bullshit and be like, and it might make sense to handle it gently.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
It might make sense to handle it a bit more firmly depending on who you're working with. But I think bringing it up and not letting them do it and bringing it to their attention is the most valuable thing that you can do because they might fight with you on it. They might get really upset with you, but you're planting a really valuable seed in their brain.
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you might be the first person to ever bring it up to them and you're making them a better person. And if you try to help and no improvement happens, I think it's totally fair to cut off the friendship. To me, that's a deal breaker. That's really frustrating. But if you want to try to help, that's my suggestion.
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Okay, next, somebody said, I have a friend that only seeks me out when she needs support. I feel used. Is that healthy? Why does she do that? And what do I do about it? As much as it might feel unfair, I really highly doubt that your friend is trying to use you. I mean, there are times when people consciously use others, but I don't know, that's pretty sinister.
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And you have a better read on this friend than I do. I would say that there's a 75% chance that this is just the way that your friend is. Like they're not trying to use you. They're not trying to hurt you. They're not trying to take advantage of you. This is just for whatever reason, the way that your friend feels connected to you. They feel connected to you when there's some sort of conflict.
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You in their mind are a shoulder to cry on. And outside of that, Maybe you guys just don't have that much in common. Or maybe, you know, you guys have other groups of friends that you hang out with more routinely. And so, you know, you just are somebody who brings your friend a lot of comfort in challenging moments. And that's the purpose of your friendship in her mind. Yeah.
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I don't think she's trying to take advantage of you. I highly doubt it. It's totally possible. And only you can know that for sure or sense that for sure. But chances are, she just perceives your friendship different than you do. Now, just because she doesn't mean any harm doesn't mean that it's a healthy friendship.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
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Anytime the feelings aren't mutual, anytime the effort isn't mutual, anytime somebody feels like they're being neglected, that's not a healthy friendship. And listen, there are going to be phases in friendships and relationships when things aren't the healthiest and that's normal and that's fine. But if your entire friendship is built on this imbalance, that is not healthy.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
It's not necessarily toxic. It's not evil. It's not sinister, but it's not healthy. It sounds like... you're sort of a healing person for her, right? So she comes to you and she needs support because you're a source of sort of healing for her. Now, this is actually a really beautiful thing.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
But if you're not getting anything out of it, if you're not feeling satisfied, again, as I said, that's not healthy. That's not fair to you. It's totally fine to be like, wait, this doesn't feel reciprocal. This doesn't feel fair, right? Just because somebody doesn't mean any harm doesn't mean that what they're doing is right or fair. And so I think that there's a few ways to go about this.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
Once you accept that this is unfair and you allow yourself to feel frustrated, because a lot of times, you know, in friendship we'll make excuses for our friends or we'll convince ourselves that we're the problem when we're not and our feelings are completely valid. So once you validate your feelings, You have, I would say, two options.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
You could either make an effort with your friend, you know, try to hang out with your friend more often outside of moments when she needs support. Like, I don't know, make plans to go do pottery one day or like go to lunch. When you both are totally good, don't need support, try to build a friendship outside of the routine that you both are in right now.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
You both are in a routine of you sort of being a therapist every time your friend needs help. Try to break that routine by making an effort to make other plans. Maybe your friend will respond really well to that and start making those plans back. You know what I mean? And then...
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friendship frustrations, advice session
you'll build a more well-rounded friendship and you don't necessarily need to have sort of a confrontational conversation. Now that's if things go well, right? If you do try to make plans outside of moments when she needs support and she doesn't respond well to that, she doesn't, show up for that, right?
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friendship frustrations, advice session
You kind of have to make a decision like, okay, am I going to talk to my friend and be like, hey, this is weird. Why do you only reach out to me when you need support? Like I've been trying to hang out and you aren't down. But then the second something's wrong, you need to talk on the phone or you need to go to dinner. I feel a bit used by that.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
Or you just end the friendship, which might also be what needs to happen. So that's option one, right? You personally make an effort to create the friendship that you want to have with this person by making plans. Or you could just straight up have a conversation and be like, listen, I feel a bit weird that like the only time we interact is when you need support. I kind of feel used by it.
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I know you probably don't mean any harm, but it really hurts my feelings. So maybe we could hang out a bit more outside of it or like... Like, I want to be a support system for you, but I also want to be friends outside of that. Like, is that something that you're down for or not? Listen, uncomfortable conversation to have. Not fun.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
But sometimes it makes sense to just like put it all out on the table, you know, lay it all out on the table and just have a conversation about it. And your friend might be like, oh, my God, I had no clue. I'm so sorry. yeah, like let's hang out more often.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
I just didn't know, you know, you even wanted to hang out and I just reached out to you when I really needed you because I didn't want to like get in your way. Like who knows why people act the way that they act, right? So like until you have a conversation, you won't know for sure. So maybe it makes more sense to just like lay it all out. We can't control how others treat us.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
We can only control how we respond. So take initiative and figure this shit out. And, you know, the friendship might develop into something beautiful and stronger than ever, and it might also crumble. And either way, you'll be happy that you sorted this out because letting people walk all over you, whether they mean to or not, it's not okay, it's not fair to you.
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Anyway, somebody said, what to do when your friend keeps doing the exact opposite of the advice that you give her? To be honest, In my opinion, the thing about advice is that you can't expect anyone to take it. You just can't. People are gonna do what they gotta do. They're gonna make mistakes. They're gonna get hurt. They're going to run crying to you, complaining about it.
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And this is sort of an inevitable part of relationships between two human beings. But it's also just true of of any individual. Right. Like we can be told what to do, what's right to do. But a lot of times it doesn't feel right until it becomes our own idea. Like we like to come up with our own ideas as human beings.
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We like to know things for sure, you know, and I use this metaphor a lot, but a lot of times people have to touch the stove to know for sure that it's hot. Until you touch the stove, you don't know what it feels like to be burned. But once somebody touches a stove and learns what a burn feels like, they're like, oh, fuck, I'm never doing that again.
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A lot of times we have to learn lessons for ourselves. And part of being in a relationship with people is knowing that they're making mistakes, warning them and watching them blatantly ignore us and accepting that. It's so important for humans to make mistakes. You know, I think as much as we can, we should help each other out and prevent it. But like,
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Sometimes making a mistake is crucial for for growth and character development. And I don't know. So like, listen, if your friend is making mistakes that directly harm you in some way. then maybe this is just not a good match, right? But in general, I think a lot of times you have to give advice with no expectation of what they're gonna do with it.
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You have to give advice from the kindness of your own heart and say, you know what, they're either gonna take this advice or they're not, and I'm gonna have to be okay with that. Or I'm gonna have to figure out a way to be okay with that.
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Either just by accepting that they're gonna make mistakes or by being like, you know what, I actually can't handle this and I don't wanna be friends with them anymore. I can't watch them make these mistakes anymore. The other thing is, though, too, like your advice might not be right for this person. They might need to handle things differently.
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You know, you might think that your advice is Bible, that there is no other possible way of proceeding in life that could be right. Like you have it figured out. This is the way. But that doesn't really exist. You know what I mean? Like your advice actually might not work for this person. And so you have to take your ego out of it as well.
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So as much as it sucks to have friction in friendship, it can help build a deeper bond. But there are times when frustration, conflict, challenge in friendship ultimately leads to the demise of the relationship. And in my opinion, that's productive as well. It sucks. It's a bit more painful.
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You don't know everything and you don't know what's right for other people. You can give suggestions, but you don't know what's right for other people. Only they know. And so, you know, you have to either choose to accept it or let this friend go because you can't handle it and it's bothering you.
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Somebody said, I really love my best friend, but oftentimes her behavior annoys me and makes me angry. I try talking to her and explaining how it makes me feel, but she gets mad and starts ignoring me. What do I do? Well, it sounds like you do not have compatible communication styles or just your friend has communication issues in general and doesn't really have a communication style.
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They just don't really communicate very well at all. It kind of sounds like that. Or they're just not responding well to the way that you communicate. Either way, there's clearly a conflict here. Now, I will say, it is very, very challenging to have conflicting communication styles in relationships. Is it something that you can get through? Absolutely. But
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If you don't respond well to the way your friend communicates and vice versa, if you're a communicative person and your friend is not, this is one of the hardest challenges to overcome in a friendship or relationship, in my opinion. It's really tough because if you can communicate properly, you can get through anything. not necessarily easily, but as easy as possible. You know what I mean?
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Like as easy as is possible. It can feel almost impossible to get through a challenge with somebody that you can't communicate with. It's almost impossible. So I think you need to have a conversation with your friend, first and foremost, being like, listen, there are things about you, about our friendship that are frustrating to me.
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You know, and people do say to never like in an argument or in confrontation, say like, you did this, you did that. You know, instead, you should always say like, in our friendship, I feel like blank because of blank, you know, but sometimes you have to be like, listen, you do this and it bothers me.
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So anyway, you might need to confront your friend and say, listen, there are things about you that bother me. And if I can't communicate that with you, I don't know what we're going to do because I'm building resentment because I can't. get through to you and we need to figure this out.
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We need to figure out a way to be able to communicate and confront each other without shutting down and ignoring each other. We need to figure out a way to communicate or else I don't know how we're gonna get through these challenges. We might not be compatible. And I think that this is a serious conversation you need to have with your friend that's like, this is kind of make it or break it.
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Because it is. If you can't confront your friend and communicate with your friend about challenges, this is kind of where the train stops. You know what I mean? Like, this is the final destination of the friendship. This friendship might be ending unless you can find some fuel and fill back up the tank of the train and keep trucking along.
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But that fuel is communicating and getting through the challenge together. But I think until you like your friend is not going to stop ignoring you and getting mad at you until you express the severity of this communication issue in your opinion. You know, until you express to them, hey, if we can't talk about this, I don't know if we can be friends.
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Until you can express that, it's going to be really hard to get through to your friend. You need to be like, this is severe. I don't know how we can proceed. And if they don't respond to it well, if they can't, you know, rise to the occasion and figure out a way to communicate with you, then maybe the friendship's over.
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But to me, it's equally as productive as building a deeper bond with your friend because we don't need friends in our lives that aren't right for us. That is not a good thing.
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Somebody said, my friends keep dismissing all of my opinions and seem like they hate everything that I love. What do I do? Can I be honest? These are not good friends. Like this is, I don't even need to dig into it. It's just like, this is an easy one. These are not good friends for you. Your friends should make you feel loved and supported and safe and No matter what.
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OK, like even if you say something that's illogical, even if, you know, you like something that the whole group doesn't like, your friends should still be able to make you feel loved and heard and supported despite your differences. Like it's totally normal for you to have different opinions than your friends. Yeah.
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It's totally normal for you to love something and your friend to be like, ooh, I don't really like that. That's fine. But it becomes a problem when they're dismissing you, when they're not making you feel heard, when you feel like they hate everything that you love, like anything that you... you know, are passionate about, they just shut you down. That's not good.
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A healthy friendship, a healthy relationship, there's differences, there's friction at times, there's conflict, but it doesn't even feel like conflict or challenge or friction because it's all happening within this safe sort of bubble that is your friendship, right? this bubble of love and support.
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And I don't like to use the word unconditional because sometimes we need to not be unconditional if people do things that are not good. But there is almost a sense of unconditional love in a really healthy friendship where it's like, We can have different opinions. We can have different interests. We can have different tastes, you know, whatever.
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But within this sort of safe bubble of friendship, everything is OK. You know, you never feel dismissed. You never feel like you're not being heard in this bubble. You know, that's what healthy friendship is. is you can have differences. You can hate things that your friends love.
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And it's never fun to come to the conclusion that a friendship must end, but it is ultimately productive because letting go of friends that aren't right for you allow you to make space for new friends that are going to bring even more joy to your life. So I guess all of this to say, challenge in friendship sucks, but it is productive and dare I say healthy?
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They can hate things that you love, but it doesn't feel so bad because your friendship is so rooted in love and in true care for the other person and truly wanting to be there for them and hear them out, you know, and make them feel heard. Your friends suck. That's it. What do you do to answer your question? You stop being friends with these people. I'm so sorry. You...
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you can do better and you will. There are people out there who will maybe dislike a lot of the stuff that you do, but they won't make you feel like they hate it. You know what I'm saying? They won't dismiss you. They'll just disagree with you. And you'll laugh about it and you'll move on. Or you'll debate it for an hour and then laugh about it and then move on. You know what I mean? Cut them off.
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Next, somebody said, how to go about having to see my old friends every day at school after they cut me out. It's so sad and uncomfortable. Unfortunately, it's going to be sad. Like, it's normal to be sad. It's human to be sad. This is a shitty situation. It is so normal to feel bummed out about it. And it sucks to have it be rubbed in your face every day. That sucks. But unfortunately...
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You can't turn that feeling off. You know, it's like any form of heartbreak. You can't turn it off. The only thing that heals heartbreak is time. And you never fully heal heartbreak. There's always going to be a scar left over. But one day... It won't hurt anymore. You'll still be able to see it. And maybe if you bump it the wrong way, it hurts.
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But one day you'll wake up and it doesn't hurt anymore. The best thing you can do is be patient with yourself, focus your energy on bettering yourself, finding new friends, you know, being social with new people. Put yourself out there. Put your energy towards putting yourself out there instead of dwelling on the past friendship. And be patient with yourself. It's normal.
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It's normal to be bummed out. This situation is not fun. So go easy on yourself. I think a lot of times our pain in life is so much more painful because we feel like we shouldn't be feeling it. And we feel like we should turn it off. You know what I mean? We feel almost guilty or embarrassed that we feel the way that we do.
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accepting that it's normal and it's going to hurt for a while is a great way to actually alleviate some of the pain. Be patient with yourself and focus on making new friends, making new connections, and bettering yourself. You got this. And last but not least, somebody said, my bestie is not getting over her ex or her breakup and I don't know what to do to help.
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It's a tough situation and it's uncomfortable. You know, part of being a consistent friend to somebody is going through their ups and downs with them. It's just an inevitable part of friendship. And the truth is, if you're an empathetic person, you're going to experience some of the uncomfortable feelings that they're feeling as they go through it.
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And it's going to be tempting to try to solve the problem. But the truth is, you can't solve... problems for your friends. They are the only ones who can solve their problems. You can give them advice. You can give them a shoulder to cry on, but you can't solve their problems for them. There's kind of nothing you can do except for just support them.
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And it does take a bit of strength, you know, being the friend of somebody who's going through a tough time, because again, especially if you're an empathetic friend, you have to bear those challenges with your friend in a way that's really uncomfortable. But that's kind of just part of being in an intimate friendship. You know, you're going to have to feel the pain with them sometimes.
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Really, the only thing you can do is be a support system to your friend. Be a shoulder to cry on. Talk them through this breakup. Reassure them that they will find love again. You know, that's all you can do. Maybe, you pull them out of their slump in a way. But for the most part, all you can do is just be a friend. That's it. It's going to take time.
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Like healing from a breakup takes time and no one can expedite that process. No one. So I wish you both luck, but you got this. This is like, this is normal friend stuff. Like you got this. Like take her out, be a wing woman. Let her recount the story of the breakup 50 times to you and be patient. And that's it. That's it. That's it for today's episode. I hope you all enjoyed it.
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I mean, maybe not all the time, but I think it can be healthy and necessary. Anyway, let's begin. All right. Somebody said, my friend keeps copying everything about me and all the things I like. What do I do? This is a bit tricky because I also think this is scientific and I should probably Google it and I will in a second. It's very natural for us humans to sort of copy each other.
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I had the time of my life today with you. I love giving you my own professional advice. It's like a true joy in my life. So I hope that you enjoyed it as well. And if you did, hey, tune into Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday. I'm here every Thursday and every Sunday and you can watch me talk. on Spotify and YouTube, but you can also just listen anywhere. I'm here.
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And anything goes is on social media. Anything goes. I'm on the internet everywhere at Emma Chamberlain. And my coffee company is also in various different places, Chamberlain Coffee or chamberlaincoffee.com or at Chamberlain Coffee. Maybe in a store near you, you go to Whole Foods or Sprouts or Target or anything, you might find us or at our cafe in Los Angeles or online at chamberlaincoffee.com.
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I'm drinking a little matcha latte right now and it's really delicious. And of course, it's Chamberlain coffee matcha, duh. And yeah, and I had a cappuccino this morning. So I'm nice and caffeinated. And if you want to be caffeinated too, you know where to go. I love you all. I appreciate you all. It's always a joy to hang out with you.
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And luckily for both of us, we'll be doing it again very soon. I'll talk to you then. All right. Bye. Love you.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
which is unfortunately inevitable. Because anytime you put two people together for an extended period of time, eventually frustration will form. It is inevitable. But that doesn't mean it doesn't suck. Because the whole point of friendship is to have fun together, right? Like that's how we choose our friends. Our friends are the people in this world that we have the most fun with.
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You know, like if you spend a lot of time with somebody, eventually you'll start to pick up some of their traits. And I know that this is true because I do it. Like one of my best friends is very funny and very charismatic and, you know, will like find a word and then like say it over and over again. And it just becomes catchy almost in a way. And then I pick it up.
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If you were to hear my best friend talk, you'd be like, oh, they must be friends. They talk the same. They make the same kinds of jokes. They use the same words. And it's not because I'm trying to copy my friend, but it's because for some reason, I'm absorbing pieces of their personality. I don't know why I do that. I don't know why we as humans do that, but it's just natural.
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But it's even the same thing with my parents. There are so many traits of mine that reflect... My parents, because I've spent a lot of time with them over the course of my life, and I have sort of become almost a product of them. And don't get me wrong, I have traits of my own that are unique to me, you know, outside of my friends and my family.
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In fact, there's traits of mine that my friends and my family have picked up. But this is sort of an inevitable thing, right? So that's why this is a bit tricky because this is normal to an extent, right? Even when it comes to things outside of like personality traits, like hobbies or interests, right?
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We talk about our hobbies and interests with the people that we love, with the people that we're close to. We invite our friends and our loved ones to do these activities with us. So naturally, you might start to develop the same hobbies, the same interests, because... Again, this is just what happens. It's tricky.
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Let me actually Google it to make sure that I'm not like just saying that this is like a biologically true thing. And it's actually not. Google AI overview. I just love the Google AI overview. It's so good. And on the bottom, there's like a little note that says generative AI is experimental, aka like this is not a reliable source.
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Anyway, yes, humans often unconsciously mimic and imitate each other, a phenomenon known as the chameleon effect, which can lead to a sense of connection and belonging. Okay, so a lot of mimicking and copying is unconscious. And to be honest, I have a feeling this is not really what you're talking about. Because I've experienced
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sort of a natural copying and mimicking in relationships, but I've also experienced something a bit more invasive. So I'm assuming that that's what you're talking about. Because I think if you're annoyed with like the sort of more subtle, more natural, clearly unintentional sort of copying and mimicking, that might just be a sign that maybe you don't really like your friend. You know what I mean?
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And that you're just kind of annoyed with everything that they do. And so the fact that they're copying, like you're almost just like picking them apart subconsciously because you just deep down don't really like them. And so the issue is less that they're copying you and it's more just that you're picking them apart because you don't really like them. You don't really click with them.
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And this is just what your brain has decided to blame the dislike on, but it might be deeper than that. When we don't like somebody very much, everything becomes negative about them. And so even something subtle and normal, like slight mimicking, can just become so annoying. So be honest with yourself. If they're not really copying you that much, maybe you just need to take a break from them.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
So when there's conflict, it's like, wait, what's going on? Isn't the whole point of this relationship to have fun together? Like what's going on? For the most part, that's true. But in my opinion, it's impossible for friendships to evolve without a bit of conflict, friction, challenge. You know, a lot of conflict in friendship leads to a deeper friendship.
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Or maybe the friendship just isn't right because... little, you know, harmless things are annoying you. But it sounds like this friend is really copying you in a way that feels intentional, in a way that almost feels invasive. This is not fun. And I also don't think it's cool. Like I don't... you know, as people say, imitation is the highest form of flattery.
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It's obvious that your friend deeply admires you. However, if you buy a shirt and then your friend buys a shirt and then you get a boyfriend and then your friend gets a boyfriend the next week and then you start, you know, using a word like you start saying awesome a lot and then your friend immediately starts saying awesome a lot and you can tell that it's forced and you can tell that they're
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on your coattails waiting to see your next move so that they can copy it. That is annoying. That does feel weird. And I think the shittiest thing about it is that what's fun about friendship is that there are differences between you two, right? I like that my friends have different opinions than I do. I like that my friends have different hobbies than I do. I like...
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that my friends, you know, listen to different music than me. I also enjoy when we have things in common, but almost more so I enjoy our differences because that's what makes friendship interesting and exciting. That's an interesting source of conversation. That's how we're exposed to new, unique experiences that we wouldn't have experienced otherwise. Like,
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Our differences in friendship are so important because that's what makes friendship dynamic. And so if your friend is just copying everything you do, it's like, okay, well, this is boring, you know? And I've absolutely experienced this. And again, I don't think it's sinister. And so I don't want to like...
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talk down on your friend or even the friends I've had that maybe have copied me in this sort of way. Because I don't think it's sinister. I don't think it's evil. I don't think these friends are trying to hurt us. I think they just deeply admire us. And they maybe are struggling with their own sense of personal identity and are like, well, you know, this person is just going to be my blueprint.
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And again, that's like a sweet thing. But Just because it's sweet and it's complimentary doesn't mean it's not annoying. You know, because it is annoying. And it's not fun to be around. So my piece of advice to you would probably be to distance yourself from your friend. And this is what I did when I experienced this. It's a really hard thing to bring up. And listen, I am all about communication.
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I'm the first one to be like, communication is... almost always the answer. I'm a firm believer in communication, but I do think it can be tough in a situation like this where somebody is doing something that's annoying, but it's not really harmful or even wrong. It's tough.
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I think the best thing you can do for this person is to sort of cut off connection so that they're forced to grow their own identity. And I don't know, some of you might disagree with me and say, no, you need to confront your friend and say, hey, why are you copying me? This is kind of out of control. I think that that's kind of harsh. I don't know. I have a hard time with that.
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There's a way that you could communicate it by being like, listen, I'm not attacking you I'm not judging you, but I have noticed that, you know, you tend to sort of copy the things that I do and it makes me feel weird and it makes the friendship less dynamic and less interesting and it makes me feel like my identity is not my own and it just makes me uncomfortable. And I want you to stop.
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Like, that's a hard thing to ask somebody to stop doing. So my recommendation would be give the friendship a break, you know? And when your friend asks, like, what's going on? At that point, you can say, listen, you know, like, I felt like maybe we were becoming too similar and our identities were sort of melding as one.
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And I just kind of want to take some time to sort of maybe find myself and you can find yourself and we can find our own identities outside of each other. And then maybe later we can come back together and be friends again. Or, you know, you just say, I don't know, I just need some space, you know, which is a valid answer as well. You don't always need to give an explanation necessarily.
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friendship frustrations, advice session
Like when I reflect on friendships in my life, the friendships that lacked conflict also lacked depth. That's not to say that they weren't valuable friendships, but the depth of those friendships pales in comparison to friendships I've experienced that do have a bit of conflict. Overcoming a challenge with another person grows a deeper bond, I think. Actually, I think that that's a fact.
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It's nice to give an explanation, but it's not always possible. Yeah, I really think the answer is to spend time apart because that also benefits your friend, right? Your friend is clearly having identity issues if they're copying everything that you're doing. So to cut off the supply of information to them will force them to figure out who they are. And that's good.
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I mean, they might also just start copying somebody else, but they might also be forced to figure out who they are. And that is a beautiful thing. Okay, next, somebody said, how do I deal with a friend who constantly has a victim mentality? She never takes accountability for anything. Well, I think to start, let's try to figure out why your friend is constantly the victim.
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You know, like what's going on in their head that makes it impossible for them to take accountability, that makes it impossible for them to admit fault, that makes it impossible for them to sort of stand independently without, you know, needing to be sort of a victim, right? Like, why are they like this? My guess, personally, either number one, they're afraid of rejection.
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They are afraid of not being loved. And so as sort of like a protective mechanism, they never allow themselves to be wrong. They're constantly the victim. Because then, you know, everyone owes them something, right? Not the other way around. They don't owe anything to anyone. They're the victim of everything in life, you know? And it's sort of a protective mechanism.
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Your friend also might be maybe a bit self-centered just by nature. Maybe they have some narcissistic qualities and they just for whatever reason think that they're the center of the universe and that, you know, they're perfect and can do no wrong. That's not a great trait to have, but... It's a trait that some of us have. And that could be why. I mean, listen, the list goes on.
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But I think it can be helpful to analyze your friend and ask yourself, like, why are they like this? Because that can help you, number one, grow some empathy for them or develop some empathy for them and some patience while you figure out how to manage it. But also, it can help you figure out how to address them about it.
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If you're sensing that maybe they're constantly playing the victim because they have attachment issues, maybe they're anxiously attached and they always think that they're going to be left and that their loved ones are going to leave them. And so as a result, they're always playing the victim so that everybody owes them something. If you're sensing that, then maybe the answer is...
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to give them sort of a safe space to make mistakes and own it and prove to your friend that you'll love them anyway. So an example of that would be like, let's say your friend says something insensitive to you, right? Like they say something insensitive about your makeup. They're like, wow, you're really wearing a lot of makeup today. And then you're like, That was kind of rude.
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And then they're like, no, it wasn't. You're rude and you're in a bad mood. You know what I mean? They turn it back on you. They're playing the victim. And you always yell at me and you always get defensive and I can't say anything around you. You know what I mean? They become the victim. Maybe that's when you look at your friend in the eyes and calmly say, it's okay that you hurt my feelings.
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It's okay that that wasn't a nice thing to say. If you say sorry, like I'll forgive you and we can move forward. I just am honest with you that that hurt my feelings, but I love you anyway. And I don't want to be in a fight. I just, I wanted to let you know that that hurt my feelings.
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And if you say sorry and promise that you'll be more thoughtful next time, we're all good and I love you just the same. And you're not a bad person. I know you're not a bad person. I know you don't mean to hurt my feelings. If you can sort of coddle them through taking accountability and you give them a safe space to take accountability...
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you could be an incredible asset to your friend when it comes to helping them learn how to take accountability.
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my fashion pet peeves
A few weeks ago, I discussed with you all how sometimes I can be a little bit of a hater. And luckily, this isn't that big of a deal because 99.9% of the time, I'm hating within the privacy of my own mind. It's not hurting anyone, right? Wrong. It is hurting myself. Because in the moment, being a hater feels so good. It's satisfying. It's addicting. It's exciting. It's exhilarating.
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I mean, there are times when it makes sense and it's fun and chic and cool and interesting. But in general, I'm kind of over it for now. But again, I can't say that midriff is... a pet peeve because I actually do like it sometimes, especially when, you know, it's with a very small top that cuts off right beneath the bosom. I hate a crop top.
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I don't think I own one crop top anymore, which is unbelievable considering how obsessed with them I was for so long. Okay, next. Improper layering. What I mean by improper layering is wearing like, let's say, a long sleeve shirt with a short sleeve shirt on top of it. Right. For sort of a layered look and not choosing the right pieces for the layering that you want to do.
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And I'm virtually a saint now. I have been so loving and kind and nonjudgmental in my mind. It's like I truly feel like borderline religious about it. Like I've really worked on this and I've come a long way. To celebrate today, I am going to hate on things. Yeah, it's been too long. I have been a little bit too nice for a little bit too long. And it's not like I'm hating on people today.
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So like choosing like a loose long sleeve T-shirt and then putting like a tight short sleeve T-shirt over top of it. in a way that looks bunchy and misshapen and lumpy, that's a pet peeve. That's a pet peeve. And listen, I get it. Sometimes you want to layer two things together and you try it and it doesn't work and you're like, well, what the fuck? That was my whole idea. What do I do now?
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t-shirt to try you know I don't have another black long sleeve to try like whatever honestly I get it I get it even though I have collected a lot of basics over the years so that I could have a lot of layering options because that's one of the main ways that I style myself on a personal basis on a day-to-day basis I do a lot of layering and that's how I build unique outfits and
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is through layering. And I get it. Sometimes it's like heartbreaking because you'll try two things together and they don't fit right together. And it sucks.
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And even me, somebody who has a lot of great layering pieces, you know, like I have a tight short sleeve white t-shirt and a loose short sleeve white t-shirt because I know that both of those tops will come in handy for layering depending on what's underneath or what's going on top.
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Even for me, somebody who has collected a lot of layering pieces, I still sometimes struggle to layer things properly.
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Sometimes I'll try something and it's lumpy and it's bumpy and it's creasing and it looks wrong and I have to give up on it and I have to say, you know what, this didn't work and that's something I'm going to have to grapple with and that is something I'm going to have to mourn the loss of. Sometimes, you know, you just have to be honest with yourself. I can't layer these two things together.
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Another example would be like, I don't know, if somebody wanted to layer like a pair of jeans with a skirt, kind of early 2000s vibes. That could be totally cute. But if that skirt is too tight or too thin and you can see all the denim like lumps and bumps poking through, it doesn't work. It doesn't work. You know, like not every layering idea is going to work. In fact, layering is challenging.
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It takes a lot of practice and it takes trial and error in your closet. And if it doesn't work, you got to know it's not working and you got to give up on it. And it's a pet peeve when I see, you know, improper layering because I'm like, not only is that probably physically uncomfortable for the person wearing it, but it looks uncomfortable. I look at it and it looks wrong, you know?
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All right, moving on. Literally anything cinched at the ankles. Okay. I mean, obviously like any sort of jogger kind of pant. No, that's tough for me. Even sweatpants that have like a cuff, you know, cinch at the ankle. No, I really don't believe there's ever a time where having something cinched at the ankle is a good idea.
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Now, listen, I used to wear cinched at the ankle sweatpants all the time. One of the first like red carpet looks, it wasn't even a red carpet, it was for the Streamy Awards event. Every time I bring up the Streamy Awards, I'm traumatized from my horribly cringed speech that I get reminded of at least once a month against my will.
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I wore like a weird pair of like plaid pants that were sort of cinched at the ankle and Like they kind of tapered down at the ankle. Oh my God, they were hideous. Anything tapered at the ankle, anything cinched at the ankle, I can't stand it. I personally can't stand it. But even like a sweat pant. And majority of sweat pants on the market are cinched at the ankle, right?
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That's the most common ankle cuff that you see out there. I think it's horrible. I think it's horrible. I think it's horrible. I think it's unflattering. I think everything looks better straight leg. And have no fear, okay? If you have some pants or sweatpants in your closet right now and they're cinched at the bottom, don't donate them. Cut the cinch off. And then guess what you have?
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You have a beautiful straight leg. If you have a tapered pant... It's a bit harder to fix. You could bring a bit of a fun fabric to the tailor and say, hey, can you make these a straight leg? And then they'll open up the seam on the side and add fabric to make it a straight leg. You could upcycle these things, okay? So don't give up. If you're realizing, wait, Emma's right.
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Straight leg is better. There's options. But there's also the decision to never buy something cinched at the ankle ever again. I cannot handle it. A straight leg always looks better in the same way that like a crop top sort of cuts off the torso. and prevents the elongation of the torso, like a classic long shirt that cuts off at the hip, you know, sort of elongates the torso.
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I'm hating on fashion. Like, who fucking cares? No one's getting hurt. This is harmless. Today, I'm going to be sharing with you my fashion pet peeves. And to me... This is fair game. Listen, I am going to be a hater in this episode. But it's like, sometimes it's nice to allow yourself to indulge every once in a while. And I've been so good the last few weeks. I haven't been a hater at all.
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The crop cuts it halfway and sort of shortens the torso, right? It's the same thing, in my opinion, with a pant that cuffs at the bottom or tapers at the bottom. That break at the bottom, well, it's not even a break, but that point at the ankle where it gets small, it cuts off the elongation, right?
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When you're wearing a straight leg pant or a uniform width pant where it's the same width all the way down, it makes the leg look like this one long, beautiful sort of leg. But when it's cuffed at the ankle, it cuts it off at the ankle, right? You know what I mean? It doesn't cut off at the floor.
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Like when you're wearing like a straight leg pair, it cuts off at the floor and you have all that leg. It just looks better on absolutely everyone. This looks better on everyone. You know what I mean? It's just better. Sorry, that's my opinion. Moving on, logo belt. Every designer makes a logo belt. You know what I'm talking about?
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The Gucci belt with the two Gs, the Louis Vuitton belt with the LV on the front, you know, big LV. I don't know, every brand has their big belt with the big logo on it. I actually wore one like within the last year to Fashion Week because I did go to a Gucci show and one of the looks that I really liked did actually have a big logo belt
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And I will say, I was like, you know, like, this is kind of a pet peeve of mine, but it's kind of fun to try. Like, let me try it, you know? And it was all right. But ultimately, I don't like the logo belt. I really, really do not like it. I think it's completely unnecessary. I think it's distracting. I think it's flashy. I think it's... I'm not into it. I'm not into it.
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I think it's, to me, it's cringe. And listen, I've worn my fair share of logo belts. Okay. You can find photos of me online wearing a logo belt within even the last year. Okay. But they are ultimately a pet peeve for me. And they're like, it is kind of like early 2000s, like maximalism, like flexing, like, just like, fuck it. Like, max designer, like whatever.
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And it can be almost sort of campy in that way. And that's what I was trying to tap into when I wore the logo belt somewhat recently within the last year. But it didn't end up reading that way. Like I didn't feel like it was fully as campy as I wanted it to be. And it just kind of ended up being like not my favorite thing. It's just not my style. I just don't like it.
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And when I see it out, I'm like, you know what? This outfit that this person is wearing would look so much better with just like a simple, chic, classic belt. Or even like something weird, like a weird, cool design that's like something I haven't seen a lot or something like that. Anything would be better. Next, white sunglasses. I've never seen a white pair of sunglasses look good, ever.
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I don't like them. There's something about the white sunglass that is not chic to me, like when it's like white plastic around the side and then like a black lens or like whatever, any colored lens. Just like white sunglasses, it's just ugly to me. It doesn't look elevated. It doesn't look chic. There's just something about the white sunglass that's goofy to me. I don't know why.
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It just doesn't look good. It's again, one of those things where it's like, anytime I see someone wearing a white pair of sunglasses, like white plastic, white acrylic or whatever, I'm like, this person would look better in any other pair of sunglasses, in my opinion. They're just sort of like the worst option. And I have probably owned a pair of white sunglasses before. I can't remember.
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They were never in my rotation, if so, but I probably have experimented with a white sunglass, but never again. Never again. Now they're sort of a pet peeve. Like, you know, when I'm sunglass shopping and I see a pair of white sunglasses, I'm like, why are we selling these? We need to go back to the drawing board. I mean, I rarely make like a blanket statement like this color is bad on everyone.
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Right. Like, I don't think I can say that about anything else. White sunglasses. I am confident that that is always a mistake. I don't like the color purple. I really don't like it. Okay. In fact, it's my least favorite color and I avoid wearing it and I don't really like it. There's like a few shades of purple that I quite like.
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Super dark purpley maroon I like, you know, maybe like a kind of grayish cool toned eggplant sort of purple. Love that. But for the most part, I hate purple. Like majority of shades of purple I don't like. Again, though, like I just mentioned a few shades of purple that I enjoy, and I also have seen purple look absolutely beautiful on many people. So I can't say that it's like all bad.
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I need to be a hater. I need to get it out in a safe environment with you all about something. inconsequential so that I can continue on my journey to being a lover and not a hater.
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Like I can't even say that like a, you know, purple piece of clothing is a pet peeve to me because that's not true. Like there are too many occasions when it works on other people or it even sometimes rarely, but sometimes works on me, you know, if it's the right shade of purple. So I don't know. I can't say that it's a pet peeve. White sunglasses are a pet peeve because they're always a bad idea.
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They're always the worst option. Moving on. This one is going to be a little bit controversial because this was really trendy recently and I'm about to shit on it. Folding over the top of pants. Okay. I'll explain this to you if you haven't seen it. It became sort of a trend to like take jeans or work pants like Dickies or basically any sort of loose oversized pant and
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and basically fold over the top, okay? On pants, right, there's that sort of one to two inch sort of seam, not even seam, but like, I don't know, like strip of fabric that goes around the waist, you know, where like the button fastens and stuff like that. Folding that over, okay? This became a total trend. Everybody was doing it, all the cool girls. All the cool girls, okay?
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I never hopped onto this trend because it was always a little bit goofy to me. I'm going to be honest. Again, I think it doesn't look good. It doesn't look good to me. It looks kind of sloppy to me. And listen, I'm not trying to be like the chic police, right? like shitting on casual clothing or whatever. There's just something about it that feels unnecessary.
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Again, in my opinion, pants always look better when they're worn normally. Like pants always look worse when the top is folded over. I've never in my life seen someone wearing their pants with the top folded over and thought to myself, wow, their pants look better because they folded over the top. I've never thought that in my life because it's not true.
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You know, there's actually so much beauty in the way that pants are constructed. The fly is a certain length so that the sort of crotch of the pants hits a certain point on your crotch or on your leg. The seams that are supposed to be exposed on the front... of a pair of pants are so beautifully done, so cleanly done.
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Anyway, without further ado, today I'm going to be sharing with you my fashion pet peeves and I am going to be tearing into them and hating on them in a way that will honestly probably change your opinion on me because when I go on a rant about something that I don't like, especially fashion for some reason, I really get passionate and
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Then when you start flipping over the top, now it's like, okay, there's like tags coming out and like unfinished seams that weren't supposed to be seen and like it just looks bad. And also the pant usually doesn't fit properly, right? Because if you can flip over the top of your pants, it means that the pants are definitely oversized, okay? which is a look, right?
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And I actually don't mind like an oversized baggy pant. I'm into it. But if you fold it over, sometimes it'll like make the back all bunchy or like the crotch is like riding up a little bit too much or like, you know, you have a little camel toe because you're like folding over the top. It's like nothing's fitting right.
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Now you have a pair of pants that's not just baggy, but also somehow like riding up in the crotch and like is bunchy in the butt and nothing looks good. It just, it's to me, I don't understand it. At all. I think it particularly like bugs me when like you can see tags, you know, like you can see tags in the pants. or like logos or something that's like on the inner waistband.
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That really bothers me. It bothers me because I'm like, for fuck's sake, it's like when you see someone with like a pimple just ready to burst and you just want to pop it.
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When I see somebody with their pants folded over and you can see all these tags popping out and like it's fucking riding up their crotch and it's just, it's like, oh my God, I just want to fold your pants back to the correct position. It's like wanting to pop a pimple. I just want to go over and fix it. It's irritating. It like gets on my nerves. Moving on. I'm getting kind of passionate.
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I'm so sorry. Okay, moving on. This is really niche and specific. So I'm going to ask you to close your eyes unless you're driving because that would be not good. Don't do that. Close your eyes if you can. If not, just really daydream hard for me here. Okay. Let's imagine a strappy little shoe, like a strappy little Mary Jane, perhaps, or like a little ballet flat that has some straps on the top.
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A little strappy closed toe flat shoe. Again, could be a Mary Jane, could be you know, sort of a variation of a Mary Jane with a few straps on the top. Imagine a shoe like this. Now, go ahead and imagine that shoe for me with no socks. Now, to some of you, this is totally fine. This is cute. This is feminine and dainty and cute. To me, it's absolutely not okay. I cannot stand it.
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A little strappy shoe with no socks, to me, it's a pet peeve. I don't know why. I don't know why. To me, it looks bad. And it's weird because this is very specific. Like instead of just saying, oh, just all flat shoes, like ballet flats, Mary Janes, any sort of variation of a ballet flat or Mary Jane has to be worn with socks.
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But I can't say that because I actually do think sometimes it is cute to wear a ballet flat, like a very simple ballet flat, no straps, no nothing, just very sleek ballet flat. with no socks. Sometimes that works. It often doesn't, but because it does sometimes work, I can't lump it into this pet peeve. You know what I'm realizing?
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And I don't know, to some it may be disturbing, but you should brace yourself because I'm not gonna hold back. I'm gonna be mean, I'm gonna be honest, and I'm gonna be hateful about these fashion pet peeves because this is just what I'm being called to do.
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A lot of these pet peeves are things that look awkward and look unflattering on everyone. And this is just another one of those things. And it actually comes down to the elongation of the leg again. Like the straps on the top of the foot cut off the No, but then if you're wearing a sock, that also kind of cuts off. I don't know. I don't know.
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It's just there's something about it that looks awkward to me without fail every single time I see it. All you need is a little scrunchie sock. That's it. A little scrunchie sock and everything's going to be okay. Or like a little knee-high sock that's like, you know, got a bit of thickness to it. Got a bit of girth. And you're good. It's cute. There's just something about that.
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I guess it could be fine if you were wearing like long pants. If you're wearing long pants and you were wearing a strappy little flat with no socks, eh, that's kind of fine. But like a skirt or a dress or anything like that where you can like see the ankle, oh my God, no. I can't handle it and I don't know why. Which leads me to another niche sort of fashion pet peeve.
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Tights worn with loafers, okay? Like, so imagine, you know, somebody's wearing like a skirt or a dress and they're wearing tights underneath and then they're just wearing a loafer. Absolutely not. You can wear tights in a loafer, but you need to be wearing a sock over the tights. Otherwise, it's like, okay, you got this knobby little ankle.
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You got this like little ankle, this awkward little thin little ankle next to this bulky shoe, a loafer. It looks ridiculous to me. And it looks completely imbalanced without fail every single time. It never looks good. I don't know where these pet peeves came from because these are such random styling choices that it's not like I see these things all the time, but I've seen them enough.
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that I know that they're a pet peeve. It's so random. I actually have another one that relates to shoes and socks and things. I am so sorry. If you are wearing a sneaker, you need to be wearing a visible sock that at the lowest hits your ankle bone. At the lowest, okay? Wearing no socks with a sneaker, wearing invisible socks that are hidden inside the shoe with a sneaker, unacceptable.
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So listen, if you've worn these things before, if you like these things, let my criticism of them further solidify your love for them because if you love them, still, after I absolutely shit on them, then that means that what I just shit on is truly your style, is truly your taste. And that's a beautiful thing. So like, don't look at me as the enemy. Okay. Don't take this stuff as an insult.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. An ankle boot is already like tough to see.
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This is just my opinion. Okay. I invite you to be brave and to not get your feelings hurt and to remember that this is just my opinion. I briefly paused this episode to let you know that this episode is presented by Westin Hotels and Resorts. Westin Hotels is designed with your wellbeing in mind.
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It feels so good. But long term, it has negative consequences, okay? It negatively impacts my self-esteem. It negatively impacts the way I see the world. Long term, it's bad news, right? And I know being a hater is wrong. But it's something that I'm prone to doing for whatever reason. I've always liked it. I've always liked, I don't know, like just picking on things.
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Like I already have a problem with them, but I actually have a pair of ankle boots, a pair of black ankle boots that I absolutely love because they're comfortable. They don't have, you know, excess fabric going all the way up the leg or I guess leather. They don't have excess leather going all the way up the leg underneath, say like a long pant, which is more comfortable.
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They're great for wearing with long pants or like, you know, a long skirt. Anytime I want to wear something long and I don't want to wear like a knee high boot or even like a mid calf boot, Because that's too much material. I want it to be more comfortable and cut off at the ankle and the ankle won't be shown. I wear the ankle boot and it's great.
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I would never wear those boots with something that would reveal the ankle, though, because that is not cute to me. Like no one should be able to tell that they're an ankle boot. To me, ankle boots were created so that people just wouldn't have to wear like a knee-high boot under a long pair of pants. Like that is their purpose to me. A knee-high boot, so cute.
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You know, you can show off the whole damn boot if you want. Even a mid-calf boot, cute. There are ways to style that where it makes sense. You know what I mean? An ankle boot? Oh my God, no. You gotta hide that ankle, okay? Because it is not cute. Next, on the nose retro, like borderline costume. Like when somebody's wearing like a neon 80s windbreaker,
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And like, I don't know, some like tennis shoes and like it just like looks like an 80s character from an 80s stereotype movie, you know, or like when somebody is full on like 90s, like wearing like the geometric 90s prints and like wearing like again, like the the acid wash jeans. And it's like, oh, God. Listen, I used to do this when I was younger.
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When I was like a teenager, I absolutely loved this. I like loved dressing like a decade on the nose, borderline costume. I thought it was so fun. And I loved like the vintage retro vibe on the nose. Now I absolutely hate it. And I think it's so, again, it's not chic. It's not chic. I just think it's, it's weird. I don't know. I don't like it. I don't like it anymore. And I used to wear it.
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like fully like 90s cosplaying. It's very cringe to me now, but you know, what can you do? Okay. Moving on to something that's going to be controversial. Okay. It's become really trendy to either wear a New York Yankees hat, which basically just has NY on it, or a Dodgers hat with the LA on it. Okay. Like baseball hats, right? Specifically for LA and New York. These have become a pet peeve for me.
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especially if you're not a fan, which most people wearing these hats are not at this point because it's become such a trend that like I had a fucking New York Yankees hat and I don't even live in New York and I also don't know anything about the Yankees. I just bought the hat cause I found it at a thrift store and I was like, Oh my God, this is so trendy right now. And like, it's kind of cute.
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And like, I want to wear it, but I don't know. It just, it's like starting to like lose its meaning. Like now it's just like, it's so much cooler to like find like some sort of weird random, uh, kind of personal baseball cap and wear that. I don't know. Go to your favorite coffee shop and see if they have merch and wear that baseball cap. You know what I mean? Or order one vintage online.
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Go on eBay and find a weird baseball cap. You know what I'm saying? Do that. Don't... I don't know. Unless you like the baseball team, unless you're obsessed with the Dodgers, unless you're obsessed with the Yankees, you don't need to wear the hats. This is my opinion. This next one is sort of niche.
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It's like, I really only see this with people who are really into fashion, like love studying the runway, like love the, you know, all the different designers are like keeping up with what the brands are doing and stuff who are like into fashion. Massive shoes. Huge, huge, huge shoes. There are many different brands that do this.
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If you're wearing jeans and a jean jacket and those denims are not exactly the same, I am so sorry. Those are not two pieces that should ever be worn together. Take it off. Take it off, okay? It's one of those subtle differences that it isn't always noticeable, right? Like if it's dim in the room, you can't even see it, you know? But to me, it just, it like grates on my nerves.
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And majority of them are like more kind of like grungy, darker, more like... like black leather, like dark colors, more edgy, just more edgy. And when I talk about like big shoes, I'm talking about like just like an absolutely massive like sneaker that's like huge, like triple the size of a normal sneaker. Okay. If you've never seen these, it probably sounds ridiculous, but they're out there.
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Or like... you know, a really massive boot. Okay. Like a boot that like has huge sole and like a, and is like a huge heel and is like super platform and like is really big and just like a big, I don't know, just like abnormally large shoes or even like shoes that like have like a really long point.
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that goes out in the front or like a really like large square toe or something there are a bunch of different versions of this all of which fall under the category for me of pet peeve i i think the foot being really large doesn't ever look good it always looks awkward
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It either makes you look bottom heavy or it makes you look like you're a fucking penguin flapping your little feet around because your feet are so long or wide or big. Or it makes you look like a cartoon character because your feet look massive and your body looks super small. It's just weird and I don't like it. Okay, moving on. Oh wait, this is the last one. Last but not least.
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There's this certain length of skirt, approximately mid thigh, where it's not quite a mini skirt, but it's also not quite a knee length skirt. It's like somewhere in between. This length of skirt to me is absolutely horrible. I hate it. I think you got to commit to one or the other. You either got to do a knee length skirt or a mini skirt. No in between.
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Anything in between looks awkward, looks unintentional. It looks either like a knee length skirt that's like a little bit too short or like a mini skirt that's a little bit too long. It never looks right. It always looks unintentional. It looks like a mistake. You know, it looks like you bought a skirt that doesn't fit you properly. That's all I have to say. That was really fun.
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I really enjoyed that. See, I can be a hater. You know, I can. It's in me. You just saw a little glimpse of it. It's a little scary, isn't it? Now I have to go back to being nice again, okay? Because I had my little moment of being rude and being a hater, and now I have to go back to being an absolute ray of sunshine. But getting that out felt really good.
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And I'm glad that you were here to experience it with me because it was really fun for me. That's all I have for today. Thank you all for listening and hanging out. If you enjoyed it, new episodes of Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday. Watch on YouTube and Spotify. Listen anywhere you stream podcasts. Find the podcast on social media at Anything Goes.
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Find me on social media at Emma Chamberlain and find my coffee company in a plethora of places, okay? At Chamberlain Coffee on social media, in the Century City Mall in Los Angeles, in a store near you. If you want to see if we're in a store near you, go to the store locator on chamberlaincoffee.com. And that's it. That's it. That's all I have to say today. I'm done yapping. I'm done yelling.
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I need to go take a breather and, um, start getting back on track because I really let loose there and really let myself hate. And now I need to learn to love again. So I'm going to go ahead and do that. But I love you all. And I appreciate you all. And it's always a pleasure to hang out. And I hope to talk to you soon. Also, let me know your fashion pet peeves.
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You can, I don't know, let me know somewhere on the internet. There's ways to reach me at anything goes and I'm in Chamberlain. Let me know. Let me know your fashion pet peeves. I'm so curious. Okay, that's all. Bye.
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Like when I see an outfit with two different denims and they're like maybe a little bit similar, but they're like, I cannot handle it. It's, to me, it's like nails on a chalkboard. I don't know why, it just really bothers me. I mean, I'm somebody who honestly, at this point in my life, doesn't buy a lot of denim outside of jeans for this reason.
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Because I know that unless I'm buying like a full set where I know for a fact the denims match, I'm not going to be able to style multiple denim pieces together because it's going to drive me crazy. It's going to drive me crazy. It's something that I cannot handle.
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I will say if someone's wearing like raw, super dark, dark denim jeans and like maybe a super light denim like jacket, maybe that could work because they're so different that I don't know. It's not clashing because it's so different that it's actually fine and balanced. But even that I'm not fully sold on. I just don't think mixing denim washes is okay. I just don't.
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And it's funny because I was at a clothing store recently. And I was just walking around. I wasn't looking for anything in particular. But I said something about... Oh, I tried on a jacket, right? And it was actually sort of a denim jacket. Not like a classic denim jacket, but like a very unique sort of denim jacket. And I absolutely loved it. I loved this jacket. And...
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I was talking to the person that I was shopping with. I was like, I absolutely love this jacket. The denim is so beautiful. The buttons on it are so beautiful. The shape of it is so beautiful. The fit is beautiful. Everything about it is so beautiful. But I don't think I can justify buying it because I'm afraid that I won't wear it enough.
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Because it's denim and it won't match with any other denim. Like, I won't be able to handle it. And one of the women working there overheard me and was like, denim's a neutral. You can mix and match as much as you want. And I was like, in my head, I was... Well, actually, to her, I was like, you know what? You're so right. But in my head, I was like, she's so wrong. I couldn't disagree more.
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I can't handle mixing and matching denims. They all need to either be the exact same shade or so different that, you know, it's... Complete contrast. That leads me to my next pet peeve, which is when I'm putting together an all black outfit and the shades of black don't match. Like my jeans are super dark, dark, dark black, right? But then my top is a bit lighter, maybe even a bit like warm toned.
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I've also always loved picking on myself, but that's a topic for another day. It's like ingrained in me for whatever reason, but I know it's wrong. And so whenever I find myself in sort of a pattern of hating, I catch myself and I say, okay, we got to stop this. We got to stop this in its tracks. Even though, you know, we can't stop it permanently, right? Like, this is something I'm prone to.
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And so they almost clash. And then I'm wearing like a black cardigan over that. And that is like a medium black that's like a bit cool tone. And so there's like nine different blacks happening. And it's just a catastrophe. And it looks off. Or this could also happen with like gray. Like let's say you want to wear like gray sweatpants and a gray sweatshirt.
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But the gray sweatpants and the gray sweatshirt aren't from the same place. Like, you didn't buy them from the same store or from the same brand. And so the grays are different. Like, one is, like, a super light heather gray, and then the other one is, like, a medium dark, even more heathered gray. And they're almost similar, and they almost match, but not quite... I absolutely hate that.
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Like, I really do wish that there was like a mandatory Pantone that every brand had to stick to when it came to certain neutral colors. Like, you know, if you want to do a light gray, it has to be this exact one so that everything light gray from every single store ever matches. Same thing with like black, you know, like every single brand has to use the same.
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But see, the thing that's hard about that is like there's sometimes like a vintage wash on something that's black. And so it's a bit lighter. Oh, my God. It's a nightmare. Like I have these incredible gray sweatpants that I love to wear. And I have this incredible gray, like zip up sort of puffer, soft, cozy, like pajama coat. Who knew that that existed?
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But it's like a soft, like I would never wear it out. It's like something I wear around the house because it's so soft and like cozy and it's like pajamas for me. Anyway, it's a coat. And even when I'm at home alone, I'm bothered when I wear those two things together because they are slightly different grays and it just absolutely drives me nuts. Okay, moving on to cat eye glasses. I'm so sorry.
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These shouldn't exist. They don't look good on anyone. I've never in my life seen cat eye glasses look good on anyone. The only maybe exception is is, like, a super retro, like, pair of, like, cute little red cat eye reading glasses on, like, a super cool old lady or something.
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Like, that actually sounds sick, and I have seen that, but I'm going to go ahead and say 99.9% of the time cat eye glasses are hideous. Any pair of glasses that just points up at the end, it looks bad. It looks bad. And I know what you're thinking, Emma, no one really wears those anymore. Not true, okay?
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This is a silhouette of glass that I see almost every season when I'm stalking what's on the runway. You know, every time I'm in a sunglass store, I see a cat eye frame. Like, they're definitely not super popular. They're definitely not a trend. But they still exist. And I absolutely hate them. They are ugly. And they aren't ever, like, cool. I've worn cat eye sort of sunglasses before.
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I remember one time where I was going to a fashion show and the brand was like, hey, we'd love if you wore these sunglasses. And they were a little bit cat eye and I was like, I don't like cat eye, but it was kind of the only sunglass option that they had and they really wanted me to wear them. And I was like, you know what?
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I'll, you know, be a good partner with this brand and wear these glasses that they want to showcase. And I remember feeling so not cool in them. I just felt not cool. I felt cringe. I don't know. I just, I felt like, I guess they're just, they're really not me and they're really not my style. But see, I look at them on everyone.
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Anytime I see them on anyone, I'm like, this person would look better if they were wearing any other shape of glass. any other shape of glass, like any other frame would suit them better. It's like how some people feel like everyone looks better without bangs. Some people truly believe that bangs will ruin anyone and everyone's face.
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You could be a 10 out of 10, the hottest, hottest supermodel on the planet, and you'll still look better without bangs. Like some people think that. I disagree. I personally love bangs. And I think a lot of people even look better with bangs. So I don't agree with that, but I've heard that sentiment my entire life. And that's how I feel about cat eyeglasses.
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You will always look better in a different frame. It is always the worst option. I'm sorry. This is just how I feel. Okay, moving on. I am really bothered by crop tops, which is unbelievable because when I was younger, I loved a crop top. In fact, if I bought a top and it wasn't cropped, I would crop it myself. I loved a crop top, okay? I thought it was the most flattering.
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It'll probably come back at some point. The best that I can do is stop it for now. And so a few weeks ago, I had found myself in a pattern of hating. I had become a hater again. And I made the decision to work on it and to stop being a hater. And I'm happy to report to you all that the last few weeks have been miraculous. And I have eradicated all of the hatred in my body.
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I thought it was the most fashionable. I really just thought the crop top was the vibe. Not anymore. Now, I love a full length top. Like, I remember thinking when I was a teenager, why do they even still sell normal length tops? Like, who's wearing that? Like, it's too long, you know? But that was also, again, that was the era of like the high-waisted pant era.
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And the crop top, like that was very much the trend of the time. So a long top didn't really make sense at that time because, you know, wearing a long, normal length top with high-waisted pants, it's like, it's a lot of fabric overlapping. It's not ideal, right? But that trend of like high-waisted pant crop top, it was simply a trend. Looking back, that was not timeless.
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And now I can't stand a crop top. Anything cropped, I don't like. And when I say cropped, I mean something that cuts off between like the upper belly button and like, I don't know, maybe like the mid rib cage cuts off around the waist. I can't stand it. And honestly, there's something about it that feels juvenile to me anytime anything is cropped. It just it feels juvenile.
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It it doesn't feel chic. You know, I just I don't like it. The only sort of cropped top that I do like is when something is fully cropped, like right under the boob. OK, if something's cut right under the boob, it's almost bra like that is fine for whatever reason that doesn't bother me. That is a timeless crop. It is very revealing. It does show a lot of midriff, but it's classy. It's classic.
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There's something about it that I like. It's like, I don't know. It just, it looks good. But like a crop mid-waist, it just, to me, it always looks a bit juvenile. I don't know, it feels immature. It feels kind of messy. I feel like it is unflattering. I don't know. Unflattering in the way that like, it doesn't elongate the center of the body, right?
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Like when you cut off at the waist with your top, it sort of shortens the abdomen, right? The torso looks elongated in a way that's very flattering in a top that goes all the way down to the hip bone. It also looks elongated when you're wearing a very, very small top that cuts off right below the The breast, right? I don't know. It elongates the torso.
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Whereas when you're wearing a shirt that crops at the waist, it sort of cuts your torso in half. So it doesn't elongate. It doesn't make things. I don't know. It just isn't as flattering to me. And it feels very... I don't know. It feels kind of choogy to me. I'm also kind of over midriff in general, like showing the tummy.
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I discuss my morals and values frequently. Anyone who knows me, anyone who talks to me, knows how important my morals and values are to me. On the top of my list of priorities are following and abiding by my morals and values, but also constantly working on and strengthening my morals and values. This is a key characteristic of me. which is why it's hilarious how bad I am at it sometimes.
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When you see a beloved friend whom you haven't seen in a while has lost a few pounds, you A, instantly start feeling like you need to lose as well in order to keep up. B, tell her she's lost too much weight. Or C, compliment her on how great she looks. Okay, well, I would do none of these things. Actually, no, I actually would probably. Can I be honest? I'm going to be so honest with you all.
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I would probably look at her and be like, fuck, I'm jealous. Like, I want to do that. That is absolutely how my brain works. That's actually a great example of how I'm sort of, that's not really, I guess, me being a hater, but me just being toxic, okay? So I actually would do that. So I'm actually going to choose that because I would never tell her that she lost too much.
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And I would actually probably not even compliment her on how great she looks. I would clock it. And I would, if anything, compliment her on somebody else, because I know how it can be a bit iffy to comment on somebody's weight, even if they look incredible. It's just fucking it's a mess.
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Like when I've lost a bit of weight, whether it's genuinely healthy and it's just because I've been exercising more, moving more or just, you know, maybe eating more nutritionally, less processed foods, whatever. Or it's because I'm having some sort of psychological issue. Yeah. If somebody comments on it, it always fucks with me. So I really try to not do that.
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I'm going to answer that I'd instantly start feeling like I need to lose weight as well in order to keep up because to be honest, that is kind of my vibe sometimes. And especially recently, as I've been sort of toxic and a hater, that unfortunately checks out. So we're going to click that. Moving on to the next. You run into your ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend while at Starbucks.
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What is your reaction when she approaches and says hi? A, begin looking at her flaws and wonder why he's with her and not you. B, tell her that her boyfriend wasn't man enough for you. Or C, you're cordial to her and say hi. Well, I would definitely say hi. So I'm going to select that one. But I definitely would probably psychoanalyze her, critically analyze her, and compare myself to her 1,000%.
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Because again, that's inevitable. I don't even know if I could avoid that. That's It's a little bit toxic, but I definitely would do that. But because I would be cordial and say hi, I'm going to choose the healthier option. Yeah, I'm going to be cordial and say hi. Okay, next. What is your reaction when you find out that the promotion you wanted goes to a coworker you believe doesn't deserve it?
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A, start crafting a plan that will show your boss that you should have gotten the promotion. B, tell your boss every misstep that your coworker makes or complain that you were the one that deserved the promotion. Or three, congratulate him or her on getting the promotion. I would absolutely, absolutely be livid. I would probably fixate on it and allow it to torture me for the next few months.
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But I can guarantee that I would not ever bring it up. I mean, I am my own boss. So, you know, it's hard to say. what I would do in that situation. But I, knowing myself enough, would assume that I wouldn't ever bring it to my boss. And I would just congratulate them on getting the promotion.
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I mean, I guess there's a chance that I might craft a plan to show my boss that I should have gotten the promotion by sort of overachieving. That's actually something I might do. But it would be less about trying to take the other person down. And I think it actually would be more about just trying to get a promotion. Although maybe it would be about bringing the other person down a little bit.
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I don't know. That's possible. I'm going to say that I'd congratulate him or her on getting the promotion, but there is a chance that I might craft a plan to show my boss that I should have gotten the promotion, but in a way where it's never confrontational. I would never say that out loud. Anyway. Okay. Next.
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It is in my list of morals and values to not be a hater. I think that's on most people's lists. of morals and values. However, for some of us, it's incredibly challenging not to be a hater. Now, when I say I'm a hater, I'm a closeted hater. Like, no one knows how much of a hater I am. In fact, majority of the hating goes on in the privacy of my own mind. No one even knows it's happening, okay?
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You've been meaning to finally write a book about your wonderful idea, but you've never found the time. You venture to the bookstore and see somebody has written a book on your exact idea. How do you react? A, begin thinking that there's not a chance for you to create the book of your dreams. B, write a letter to the author threatening to sue them for stealing your idea.
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And if the author doesn't respond, you begin emailing the publisher. And C, begin thinking there must be a market for your dream book and head home so you can start writing. Well, I mean, if there's genuinely a chance that somebody stole my idea, like if that author is somebody that I know and they stole the idea, fuck yeah, I'm threatening to sue them. Why not? That's fucked up.
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I'm not afraid of legal action. I avoid it as we all do. But if somebody steals something blatantly, like, by the way, if I steal something even on accident or something that I create is, you know, too close to their thing, maybe I reference something in my what I created was too close to theirs. They should send a cease and desist. They absolutely should.
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Tell me that that's something that you're uncomfortable with.
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include the law to scare me not that I need to be scared because if somebody tells me that you know they're not cool with something I'm like no worries let's sort it out but you know not everybody is like that some people need the law to be involved to be scared like I I get it okay if I do something wrong if I overstep send me a cease and desist let's fucking figure this out you know what I mean
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But it sounds like in this scenario, that is not the case. It's a coincidence. It's just an unfortunate coincidence. I'd love to say that I'd begin thinking that there must be a market for my dream book and I head home to start writing. I don't think that that is the case. I think that I would start to think that there's not a chance for me to create the book of my dreams. It already exists.
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And so I think that I'd probably experience a few months of discouragement. And I think I would eventually... Is discouragement a word? Googling it. It is. Holy shit. I'm a fucking genius sometimes. Anyway, I think I would experience a few months of discouragement. Emma's new word. And eventually I'd get over it and I would feel better again. But for a long time, I would lose hope.
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So that is how I'm going to answer. Okay, last question. You see a drop dead gorgeous man holding the door open for you. Once inside, his face lights up as a not so put together woman approaches him. He leans over, kisses her and grabs her hand and ecstatically takes her to their destination. What's your reaction? Think to myself, why did he choose her? What does she have that I don't?
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Or tell your girlfriends that all the fine men want an ugly woman because she will cater to their every need. Or say, aw, how cute. I do think that the human reaction when seeing a couple that like doesn't make logical sense is together. You're like, what the fuck? Like, I do think that that's sort of normal. In fact, people have probably thought that about me with guys that I've dated.
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You know what I'm saying? There's been times where I've been like, I look so bad right now. And the guy I'm dating looks hot. But also like, even now, like I cut my hair really short. And like, I don't know. Sometimes I'm like, oh God, people probably look at, me and, you know, said boyfriend and are like, oh, something's off there. You know, what does she have? I don't know what I have, okay?
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Maybe fun personality. Maybe I'm just fun to hang out with, okay? And that's enough. No, but, you know, it's human. Like, I think people probably think that about me. I think that about other people sometimes. I think that that's totally normal. So there is a good chance that I would think to myself, well, why did he choose her?
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You know, like, what does she have that... Maybe less, what does she have that I don't, but more like, I wonder what it is, you know? I definitely don't think I would tell all my friends that all fine men want an ugly woman because I just don't think that that's true.
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And also, I think, again, like, calling somebody an ugly woman, I mean, even in my meanest... I'm never... I never am mean in that way. I'm never a hater in that way. I'm never, like... I rarely, even in my head, even in the confines of my mind, am calling somebody ugly because I... I actually genuinely don't really feel that way.
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I mean, there's people that I'm not attracted to and then there's people I am attracted to, but that's different. Like thinking somebody's ugly, that very rarely comes up for me. So yeah, I'm not probably saying that Would I say, oh, how cute? Actually, yes.
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I think there's something even comforting for me about seeing like a really, really attractive man with maybe like a more sort of normal, like maybe average looking woman. Like that makes me feel good in some ways. I like actually look at that at times and I'm like, that makes me feel better. Like I don't need to be... It's not about that.
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It just proves that love and romance is not just about appearance. And so there's something kind of beautiful about that. So I do think I would say, oh, how cute. But I also do think I'd think, oh, why did he choose her? But because I'm going to say, oh, how cute, because I actually don't think, yeah, I don't think I'm that toxic about that. Okay, so it said... You're a winner and an encourager.
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If others are making progress and having great success, you don't feel belittled. You feel empowered. I don't know about that, but on the outside, I maybe show people that that's the case. You understand that what's possible for others is also possible for you and vice versa. Keep this energy going. You're a star. Wow, thank you. Oh my God, that's very nice.
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But I know it's happening. And I think being somewhat of a hater is inevitable. You know, like there are moments when you're going to dislike someone, something, and you're going to have those feelings towards it. And it just is what it is. But I have a tendency to like become a chronic hater again. Not necessarily on the outside, like I'm actually pretty proud of my character on the outside.
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Continue being a positive example to the people in your life. Okay, I totally get it. I was taking these quizzes to like almost make me feel worse about myself. Like I was kind of hoping like, Oh, you know, I'll take these quizzes and find out that I'm a fucking asshole and it'll make me more inspired to stop being a hater.
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But my version of being a hater is clearly so internal and so well contained that I guess it's less of an issue. And these very reputable quizzes are not picking up on how fucking toxic I am. So I guess it's time to move on. I am going to Google how to stop being a hater and see what it tells me, okay? Let's just see what the internet has to say to me.
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Okay, here's the first article I found. It's wikiHow. Duh. wikiHow.life. This article is called How to Stop Hating. Okay, let's see what it tells me. Part one. Stop hating everybody. Assume the best about people instead of the worst. This is something that I struggle with, not just about others, but also with myself.
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Like when I'm having a really hard time with productivity and I'm just not getting a lot done, I assume it's because I'm lazy and I'm a loser and I'm incapable of accomplishing things. I don't often consider when I'm in a phase of being a hater the potential that I might just be exhausted, burnt out, fatigued, having an off day, having an off week even.
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I immediately jump to the conclusion that it's all my fault and I'm horrible and I'm lazy and I'm a piece of shit and I will never accomplish anything. And it is too harsh. It is unfair. But it's also something I do, you know, with other people, of course. That's why we're here. That's why we're having this conversation today.
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If someone comes off cold to me, right, in my head, I might be like, what a fucking asshole. Like, what a bad person. Why was that person rude to me? Why did that person give me the cold shoulder? What an asshole. Instead of looking at that person and asking myself, what is going on in their life that is making them put out bad energy? But I jump to conclusions and I'm like, they're an asshole.
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Or if somebody says something kind of out of touch or like maybe a bit inconsiderate, right? Nothing like truly harmful, but just something a little bit, a little whack, right? Instead of being like, you know, I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt. They're not a bad person. They've shown me for the most part that they are actually a good person.
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This was sort of just, you know, a brief miss. This was like a little miss. You know what I mean? They missed. They missed the mark on that statement. But for the most part, they're good. I'll jump to conclusions when I'm being a hater and be like, oh, everything nice and kind that this person has ever done is now discounted by this one moment of bad or mediocre behavior.
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I truly think that I am kind and welcoming and nonjudgmental and flexible and easygoing on the outside. It's on the inside that I can be an absolute hater, okay? A hater. Now, I'm not just a hater towards myself. I'm a hater towards everyone and everything else as well. That's the problem. No one is safe. I'm not safe and neither is anyone else.
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I judge people based on their worst moment, which is not necessarily fair because if somebody doesn't have a lot of bad moments, But you're basing their entire character on their one bad moment. Like, that's not fair because that's not who they are. You know, based on people's life experience, they're better at handling certain topics. And sometimes people drop the ball.
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And, you know, I think when you're in a hating situation, state of mind, you immediately judge people based on that, you know? And I think it's good to be somewhat critical of people, right? And critical of yourself and not be an enabler of bad behavior. But being a hater is to just jump to the most negative conclusion. And that's definitely what I'm doing right now.
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So I do actually think it's a good piece of advice. Don't assume the best about people instead of the worst. Practice giving people the benefit of the doubt. I know how to do that. It's in me to do that. I've had phases of my life where I do that. I can get back there. Okay, that's good advice. Number two, learn to enjoy small talk.
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You may also hate people because you just feel like you're always stuck talking to them when you'd rather be alone. I am experiencing that right now as I'm a hater. In fact, I've definitely noticed myself less inclined to have small talk recently, which I actually didn't connect to my current status as a hater. I didn't see a connection there.
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So it's very interesting that in this article it's saying, you know, enjoy small talk. Talk to people. Enjoy, you know, that's interesting because I, again, I did not connect those dots. And I definitely more recently just don't want to talk to people. I don't want to have small talk at all, you know.
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If I'm at the grocery store or I'm at my yoga class or whatever, I really just don't want to talk to anyone. And I think to an extent that's normal. You know, there are certain parts of our routine that are social in the sense that people are around, but they're also recharging in an introverted way because you're not talking to these people. You're around people, but you're quiet.
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And I actually think it's normal to enjoy those things. But I agree that, you know, maybe I should lean into a bit more small talk right now because I think talking to people and seeing how great most people are through small talk can sort of restore your faith in humanity and make you feel good, you know? Yeah. which helps you be less of a hater. So, okay. Next, give compliments.
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Well, this is actually something that I do. Although I actually feel a bit guilty about it when I do it, but I do give a lot of compliments. I really try to be very complimentary. And this is actually something that I practice. I really try to be a complimentary person. whether I love someone or hate them.
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You know, I try to compliment everyone as often as possible because I think for me, it makes me feel less bad about the mean thoughts that I have. But I found that giving compliments for the sake of giving compliments doesn't actually make me feel good. It makes me feel guilty. I feel like I'm hiding something. And that's kind of what we're talking about today.
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Like I give compliments and it makes people feel good and it hides the fact that I'm a hater on the inside, but it doesn't fix the fact that on the inside, I don't feel that way. I feel like a hater. I'm judging. I'm hating. I'm disliking. So I think it probably helps to try to retrain the brain to have positive thoughts instead of negative ones.
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If you start to have a negative, judgmental, hater sort of thought, replace it with a compliment. I think that's not necessarily a bad idea. I just don't think it works for me because I do give compliments, but I still am a hater inside. But I do think that perhaps... maybe a practice that I could implement is giving really genuine compliments.
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Like, you know, making a challenge out of like, okay, I'm judging this person or I don't really like this person or whatever. I'm going to try to give the most genuine compliment I can right now and not just give a compliment for the sake of a compliment. Like, that's helpful. And, you know, it makes people feel good. And... whatever, but it needs to be genuine in order for it to help me.
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So maybe that's something I'll work on. Okay, next, open up to people. I have no problem with that. In fact, if anything, I do it too much. So this does not apply to me. Yeah, I don't have that issue. I have some sort of, I don't know, there's something in me. I can just vent and talk about myself and I overshare. I have a Okay, next. Think of all the ways that people can help you.
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I do think that gratitude is one of the most helpful ways to combat hatred, though it's hard. When you're in a hater phase, you see everything through the most pessimistic lens. It's very hard to be like, no. But like, what a miracle it is that we're all here alive on this planet. Everybody's doing their best. For the most part, people are good and we help each other.
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And when I look at it, I'm like, listen, Emma, you're not a hater on the outside. Most people don't even know you're a hater. It's all happening in the confines of your mind. Who is it really harming? And the truth is the only person it's harming is me. You know, I will talk a bit of shit to my loved ones every once in a while. You know, the closest people to me in my life.
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It's hard to remind ourselves of these things when we're in a hater mindset. Because being a hater, it feels good. It's satisfying. And it's easy to like fall into the trap of like, just being a hater all the time because it's never appealing when you're in a hater mindset to like all of a sudden be grateful. You know what I'm saying? When you're in a hater state of mind, that's cringe.
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You're like, ew, I don't want to do that. I want to keep talking shit about this person that I don't like. You know what I mean? Or I, I don't know. It's just, it's not, it's not easy. It's very counterintuitive. And you almost have to like Force yourself to think that way. Okay, next, volunteer. This is actually a great, a great suggestion.
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A lot of times we become a hater because our self-esteem is low. Self-esteem and hatred, they go hand in hand, okay? And one of the best things that you can do to rebuild your self-esteem is help people. It's just one of the best things you can do. And so volunteering is an incredible idea. If you're a hater, go and help people. For whatever reason...
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it not only makes you hate yourself less, which then makes you hate others less, but it just makes you hate everything less because your faith in humanity is sort of restored. You're helping people. You're watching other people help people. You're seeing people in a vulnerable moment being helped. You are the one helping them. You're witnessing sort of a beautiful interaction
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between human beings happening. And that helps you to restore your faith in humanity. And all of these things will help you be less of a hater. And so I should probably get involved in my community a bit more. Maybe that's something I should do this weekend because holy shit, have I been a hater recently? Okay, part two, stop hating a specific person.
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Yeah, this is something that tends to happen to me. I will get angry at somebody or somebody will like,
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kind of fuck me over or like slight me a little bit or something and then I just fucking hate them and that's that's something that again only on the inside they would never know never know in person I'm all good we're cool everything's cool but behind their back and in my heart I am angry okay so this is definitely something I need some advice on uh number one get your feelings out I definitely don't have an issue with that I do get my feelings out I love to vent to my loved ones
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And I probably do it a little bit too much, to be honest. So that I don't need to do. Number two, talk to the person if you think it will help. Ooh. See, that's the problem. That's the problem with me specifically. A lot of times I will hate someone that I can't talk to.
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In fact, that's probably why I hate them because I can't confront them because we're either not close enough or we're not on speaking terms anymore. If it's like an ex and we broke up, I don't want to reach out again. I'm trying to keep that door closed. you know, or maybe even it's somebody I've never met. Perhaps it's somebody that I've seen on the internet or something.
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For the most part, if I'm close with somebody enough to speak to them about a problem, I will speak to them. So my problem is like the people that I hate, I can't really talk to. I mean, if I ever got the chance, I probably would. But yeah, I don't know that that makes sense for me. Learn to forgive. Yeah, this is huge. I do think I have a tendency to hold a grudge.
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Maybe sometimes it bleeds a bit wider than that. Dangerous. But for the most part, I keep it to myself. And it's not getting back to anyone. You know what I mean? It's just, it's normal human gossip, talking shit here and there. You know, I don't think it's to an unhealthy extent on the outside. Again, I don't think it's particularly harmful to others.
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And it's hypocritical in a lot of ways because I would hope... that people would forgive me. You know what I mean? Like when I do wrong, I hope that people forgive me. So it is sort of hypocritical of me to be somebody who holds a grudge because I deeply value others' forgiveness towards me, right? So, okay, you know, I need to practice forgiveness.
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Maybe every time I feel angry towards a person, I take a moment and say, you know what? I forgive them. I'm going to release this. I'm going to let this go. I'll give it a try. Avoid gossiping about the person. This is really hard for me. I absolutely, and this is a toxic trait and this is something about me that's not good. And we all have toxic traits. Okay. You have yours. I have mine.
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I absolutely do love a bit of gossip here and there. I do. And it's probably shocking to those of you who listen to my podcast because a lot of podcasts are about gossip. Like a lot of podcasts are in one way or another about some sort of gossip.
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You know, it's like, it's something that, you know, many people can talk about for many hours on end, whether it's internet drama or, you know, it's political drama or it's, Personal stories, exposés, there's so much gossip in the podcasting space, and yet I avoided it at all costs. So you'd think, oh my God, Emma must not be a gossip girl. No, I am. I just don't do it publicly. I totally am.
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And it's not great. Like, I'm not proud of it. But I'm kind of, it's one of my vices, you know? And I think it's something that I'm aware of as a problem, right? And so I go through phases. I will kind of remove gossiping from my life. It feels pretty good. But then I slip back into it. And when it goes hand in hand with me being a hater, it is just lethal.
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you know, because I think you can gossip without being a hater. You know, I think being a hater is taking it to the next level, you know, is perhaps fixating on, you know, specific people, perhaps hitting below the belt, you know, like maybe saying stuff that's a little bit less fair, less helpful behind people's backs. You know, it's one thing to be like, huh, you know, this person's behavior is,
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bit odd and unhealthy. And like, why do you think they're like that? Or blah, blah, blah. Like, that's also sort of gossip. But I think that's like helpful gossip. And I love that type of gossip. But I also love gossip of like, this person sucks. Like, I don't like this person. And I don't. And why are they like that? You know, and that's where we have a problem.
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Because that's, again, very normal. And we all do it sometimes. But if you get into the habit of it, it's just toxic and it's negative. So I really need to work on my gossip. I always need to work on my gossip. Keep it in line. Keep it in check. Because I have a tendency to gossip. Focus on the people that you like. Absolutely.
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But when I'm in a hater mood, I will even sometimes start hating the people around me. There are times when I'm in such a state of hater that I'll start to have negative, hateful thoughts about people that I love and that are key fixtures in my life, which is incredibly... self-destructive. It's self-destructive. And again, it's just toxic.
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And so I think in those moments, I really have to focus on like, Emma, you got to just, you got to stop. You got to stop. Yeah. Move on to something that makes you happy. I do think it's important to to have things in your life that bring you joy and that are fulfilling. Because I've noticed I become a hater. I think I fall into like a hater phase for a multitude of reasons.
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I don't think it's any one thing. I think it's low self-esteem. I think it's feeling betrayed by people. I think it's... being maybe a bit more depressed than usual, just for whatever reason, perhaps chemical, perhaps life circumstance, but being in sort of a depressed state of mind. And I think it's when my life lacks purpose, my life lacks depth, my life lacks joy.
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But it's gotten to a point recently where it's clearly harmful for me, okay? For some reason that I'm not quite sure of yet, I've become sort of a hater recently and it's starting to bum me out. You know, it's starting to make me a little bit depressed and it's just not a good headspace to exist in. Like it's a negative headspace and it clouds everything that I see. I'm hateful towards myself.
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When I'm in a phase where I don't have anything to look forward to, I don't have anything fun going on, that will contribute to me being a hater. And so I think the advice to move on to something that makes you happy is good advice because I think a lot of times we fall into that state because we have nothing bringing us joy. Hell yeah, that'll turn you into a hater.
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Next, know that it may take time. I do think being patient with yourself is important in all things. We're always working on ourselves and sometimes it takes time. And so you can be aware that you have a problem with something and that you need to improve it. but rushing yourself or being frustrated that you're not fixing it fast enough only slows down the process. So that's true.
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Okay, and then part three is developing a positive outlook, okay? This article is saying to meditate, which I think, you know, is never bad. Like meditating is always good. I've gone through phases in my life where I've really benefited from meditating. I've gone through phases in my life where it just hasn't worked for me. Perhaps I could try it again.
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I do feel like I've not been taking a lot of time to like meditate and just chill and just close my eyes and breathe. I haven't been finding that time, even within other activities, right? Sometimes I can find meditation in other activities that I'm doing in my life, but I guess I haven't really been giving myself that. So perhaps that's something I should work on. Spend time in nature.
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Yeah, that's true. Nothing will make you feel worse than being stuck inside stuck in a corporate building, stuck inside with the stresses of your life. You know what I mean? There's nothing worse than that. It is important to get out, get some fresh air. I agree. It does help you regain perspective and just overall be in a better mood. I've been really focusing on going on nightly walks.
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mainly because I'm trying to hit 10,000 steps a day because that's one of my New Year's resolutions. And I've done it so far every single day. So I'm kind of killing it. Sorry that I'm killing it. Sorry to brag. 10K a day, every day. Can't help it. Actually, I literally keep pushing it to like 10 p.m. But I go on a night walk.
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And sometimes it's the only time I go outside all day because I work inside. And I exercise a lot of times inside these days. I'm into hot yoga, so I am inside a lot for that. And sometimes it's the only time I get out all day. And it improves my mood so much. Every single time without fail. So that's true. And the better your mood is, the less of a hater you're going to be.
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Write a gratitude list. This is always good to do. And I have not done that in a really long time. So maybe I'll do that later. Really dig in and just write down every single thing I'm grateful for. I think that is a really great practice. It's not always the most convenient. You can't do it all the time. I mean, you could. People have gratitude journals. They fill them out.
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I think that they're helpful and effective, but not everyone works that way. Hang out with other positive people. Yes, that is so true. When other people are also haters with you, oh my God, there's, by the way, nothing more fun, but it's so toxic. It is really important to have people around you who are positive and Because they can hold you accountable.
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They're not going to participate in it with you. They're not going to stoop to your level. In fact, the reason why I realized that I've been sort of a hater recently is because I was having a really tough day the other day. And one of my loved ones was like, you're kind of a hater. Like you've been kind of a hater recently. You hate everything. And you're judging everything.
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And that's why you're miserable. And I was like, well, I don't know if that's why I'm miserable. I think it's, you know, a product of my misery in a way. But then by being a hater, I'm making myself more miserable. It's a hamster wheel. And it really brought it to my attention. And that particular person is a very positive person in my life.
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And I was really grateful that they brought it up to me, even though at first I was like, fuck you. No, I didn't say that. But in my head, I was like, oh my God, that is so annoying. Shut the fuck up. But then I was like, that's me being a hater. They're actually right. Next, build your confidence. So true. As I mentioned earlier, the low self-esteem to hater pipeline, it's solid. It's solid.
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I'm hateful towards others. But again, it's all in my head. So it's like, how bad is it really? It's horrible for me. It's horrible for me. And it's clear to me that I need to work on it and I need to fix it. And the good news is there have been times in my life where I've not been a hater, okay? It's not like this has been a chronic issue for me my entire life, right?
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If your self-esteem is low, chances are you're also kind of a hater. Not always, not always, but there's a really strong connection there. It's tough. I'm constantly working on my self-esteem, trying to make sure that I am basing my self-esteem on the right things. And it's clear, because I'm in a phase of being a hater, that my self-esteem is not based on the right thing in my life.
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And when I think about what am I basing my self-esteem on right now, if I close my eyes and try to think, I would say my self-esteem is based on, honestly, right now, I would say my work ethic and my productivity and my efficiency. Like I'm in a phase of like, come on, Emma, we need to fucking grind. Like you better be grinding, baby. Let's grind.
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Okay, you would think for someone who's so self-aware of their own morals and values that I would be pretty on it and pretty good about it. But I'm not. I'm not. And I'm constantly like picking up after myself in a way. I'm constantly finding shortcomings and areas where I'm not abiding by my morals and values. I'm not getting there. And I think that that's normal. And I think that that's human.
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And that is not a good thing to base your self-esteem on. Especially for me. It's not good for anyone, but it's even worse for me because I am a perfectionist and not in like a humble brag sort of way in like a detrimental to my productivity and mental well-being way. Like it's toxic and it gets in the way of me getting shit done.
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So when I'm basing my self-esteem on my work, basically, I'm doomed. I'm destined to be disappointed because I'm a perfectionist, which means nothing is ever perfect enough for me. I never feel like I'm doing enough. So if my self-esteem is being based on that, then I'm going to have low self-esteem and that's exactly what's happening right now. And so I need to figure that out.
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I need to focus my energy less inward and more outward, help people get more involved in community. I need to be doing that and I'm not doing it enough. Next, focus on things that you have to look forward to. I don't have a lot that I'm looking forward to right now, to be honest. And I've actually like clocked that recently.
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And so it's very interesting that that's also on the list because that really resonates for me. I don't have anything I'm looking forward to. I don't know why that is. Perhaps I'm in like maybe a bit of a minor depressive episode where I'm just not really excited about stuff for whatever reason.
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Perhaps I'm adjusting to growing up and the things that I used to look forward to, like going out on the weekends, going to music festivals, stuff like that doesn't really bring me the same sort of joy anymore. Or it's just not the same anymore because I don't drink alcohol anymore. Music festivals are exhausting.
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Like, by the way, those aren't the only two things that I used to enjoy, but those are just two examples of things that I used to always look forward to. Like every year was like Coachella. Yeah. I can't wait. Or every weekend it was like, going out. I'm going to go out this weekend. I'm going to go to a bar. I can't wait.
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By the way, that was more of a recent thing that happened within the last few years. And then more recently, the excitement around it has sort of died out because I don't drink anymore. And so, yeah, I'm not really looking forward to anything recently. And it's kind of felt like I don't really know what I like to do right now. So I need to fucking figure out something to look forward to.
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And last but not least, this WikiHow article tells me to pursue something that I love. I need to find some sort of meaning. And I think that that's true. I think maybe I'm lacking a bit of passion in my life for some reason. Perhaps it's burnout in all areas of life. Perhaps it's just being in a routine that's comfortable. But I do think that I need to pursue something that I love.
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Maybe that's a little bit scary. Maybe that's a little bit daunting, but is ultimately meaningful. That was actually a pretty good article. WikiHow, I benefited from this, which is funny because this article has two and a half stars out of five. I thought it was fine. I thought it was great. I'm giving it five stars. I don't know why it did so badly. A bunch of fucking haters, I bet. Holy shit.
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I've always particularly enjoyed gossip and enjoyed analyzing people and even perhaps enjoyed hating things. But there have been times in my life where I haven't been a full hater. I've been gentle and kind, even within the confines of my own mind. So I can do it again. However, it's never seemed to stick because here I am again, an internal hater.
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Totally. A bunch of fucking haters. Wow. That is fucking poetic. That is fucking beautiful. The WikiHow article that was actually pretty good. And I think based like I I don't think anything that was said in this article was not true. Got bad reviews because a bunch of fucking haters read it and hated, hated the answer, hated the truth that they were being shown on the article.
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And they just rated it low because they're a hater and they felt threatened by it. All right. Well, that was actually helpful. You know what? Maybe it isn't bad to Google your struggles sometimes. Maybe the internet is helpful. I was actually going to read some more articles, but I really do feel like that covered it. I had another one from verywellmind.com.
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Let's see if that one has anything that wasn't mentioned before. Oh, you know what? It actually, it is making some interesting points. It says, some of the reasons why you may hate people, number one, history of being hurt, two, stress, very true. Number three, introverted personality. Four, social anxiety. Five, ideological differences. And six, low self-esteem.
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We already mentioned low self-esteem, but those other ones we didn't really touch on. And I think all of those are very true. History of being hurt. Yes. When I'm feeling betrayed by people in my life, it makes me be a hater. I just start to hate everyone because I don't feel like I can trust anyone.
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When I'm in a phase of my life where I'm stressed, a side effect of that is just having a bad mindset. which leads to being a hater, being introverted, or having social anxiety, you're going to hate everyone if they evoke negative emotions in you, which people might for no particular reason if you're introverted or have social anxiety, just because people can cause negative emotions for you.
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And then, of course, ideological differences. Something that I think is very prevalent today where it can be very hard for people to be accepting of those who maybe have different ideas. And there's varying degrees of severity of that. This article talks about the consequences of hating people. I don't need to read anything about that. I'm experiencing that, okay?
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I'm experiencing the darkness that is that. And let's see. Okay, last but not least, some coping strategies from verywellmind.com. Avoid all or nothing thinking, ooh, that's a great one. That is a great one because I have a tendency to do that. Like, I like to just answer a question. You know what I'm saying? Do I hate this person or not? Do I like this person or not?
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Was the action that that person did bad or not? And I'm a hypocrite because I'm always like, you know, saying that like we need to like nuance is so important, nuance is so important. But I myself will sometimes fall into a trap of all or nothing thinking, black and white thinking, one dimensional thinking. And that is just unfair to others and unfair to yourself.
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Avoiding all or nothing thinking is great advice. Avoid generalizing thinking. Oh, this is if your hatred is towards others on a specific group of people, like a certain race, region, or religion. I do not... experience that so we can move on. For me, that doesn't apply. Practice empathy. Absolutely. Absolutely. But in order to practice empathy, you have to have strength. You have to be strong.
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In order to practice empathy, you have to have a solid sense of self-esteem. And so I think it is important to practice empathy. But the only way to get there is to fix your self-esteem first, which is something that we've talked about quite a bit today. Prioritize self-care. Absolutely. Absolutely. If you feel like you're taken care of, you can be so, you're just so much more light and flexible.
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So I've decided today that I'm going to go on the internet and I'm going to try to figure out how to stop being a hater. And I can almost guarantee that a lot of you need to do this with me, okay? Because... There's a lot of haters on the internet, except the difference with the haters on the internet is that they are not holding it in like me. Okay. I'm an internal hater. I'm holding it in.
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Like when I feel good, like I'm taking care of myself. I'm exercising. I'm, you know, taking care of my skin. I'm eating well. Not only do I feel good, which puts me in a better mood, but also I feel taken care of. I'm not expecting things from other people because I'm taken care of. Like I'm all good. I'm not being hypercritical about what other people are doing because I feel solid in myself.
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I feel fulfilled. I feel complete. I don't know. There's something about it that's very helpful. So that's good advice. And last but not least, seek therapy. That's also good advice. Yeah, a therapist can definitely help you figure it out. Probably better than Google ever could. Anyway, okay, you know what? I'm already feeling like less of a hater. And I'm not just saying that.
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I actually do feel like, okay, this was all helpful. These were good reminders. And you know what? I'm not perfect. I still might talk shit a little bit here and there, but I'm on the road to recovery, okay? And you know, I think it's funny that I'm afraid of being hated on on the internet as a public figure because I myself in some ways am a hater. I relate to you, haters.
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Those of you who don't like me, I get it because I probably feel that way about somebody too. But I, I am different than you because I'm fucking working on it and you're not. But you could be like me and you could work on it too. And that's what's beautiful. You know, if you hate me, I invite you to work on this with me. Let's stop being haters together.
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Let's stop being miserable people together. Let's fucking love. Let's love again. Let's find love again. It's in our hearts. I know it is. Anyway. Okay, well, I guess together today we learned how to not be a hater. That's beautiful. I hope you all enjoyed it. And if you did... New episodes of Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday. Let's hang out, okay?
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You can stream Anything Goes anywhere you get podcasts. You can watch on Spotify and YouTube. You can follow on social media at Anything Goes. You can keep up with me on all platforms at Emma Chamberlain. And you can buy my coffee. or matcha at chamberlaincoffee.com or find us in store, Target, Sprouts, Whole Foods, and more.
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And at Chamberlain Coffee on social media if you just want to look at beautiful images of coffee that were taken by a very talented photographer who makes the coffee just look absolutely delectable. If you want to see that on your feed every day, perhaps follow Chamberlain Coffee. Yeah, I think that's all I got. I love you all. I appreciate you all. And you know what? I don't hate you.
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I hate a lot of people and I'm a hater. I'm a fucking hater, but I do not hate you because you support me and you love me. And you know what? Occasionally you might turn on me and you might hate me, but I forgive you. I'm choosing to forgive you and I love you. And let's stick together. Okay, let's stick together. All right, I need to shut the fuck up. All right, I'll talk to you all later.
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I love you all. I appreciate you all. And hopefully the next time I talk to you, I'm less of a hater because that would be an achievement, now wouldn't it? All right, bye.
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The people on the internet who are haters, unfortunately unleash it and using fake accounts that they've made and they just start leaving mean comments and there's no face attached and it's just absolutely genius what they do. Listen, I'm all about not self-diagnosing. If you think that there's something wrong with you, for fuck's sake, go to the doctor, okay? But this is not a disease. It is.
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Being a hater is sort of a disease. but it's not classified as a disease, okay? You're not learning about it at medical school. Therefore, I can Google it and not feel like I'm being irresponsible with my health. I think the first step would be to figure out how much of a hater I truly am, okay? I've already sort of described to you what me being a hater looks like.
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It's mainly on the inside, you know, just judging everything, hating everything on the inside and occasionally letting it bleed out to my loved ones or friends, but... For the most part, it's on the inside. But I want to test how much of a hater I am. So I found some online quizzes and we're going to take them together to figure out how much of a hater I am. The first one is on BuzzFeed.
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Thank you, BuzzFeed.com. You have published a false article about me in the past. So I'm actually debating even saying your name. because that was really bad journalism, but all good. And now you're probably going to write another article about me because that's how this stuff works. All good. I can handle it because I am a hater, so I deserve to be hated on a little bit. No, I'm kidding. I don't.
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Let's take this BuzzFeed quiz. I used to love Buzzfeed quizzes. I would literally take them in class and it was so much fun. Okay, this quiz is called, if you're a true hater, then you'll have no problem getting 100% on this quiz. So let's see if I'm a true, true hater, okay? Question number one, your friend just graduated college and they literally won't shut up about it. What do you say?
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I'm so proud of you. Way to go. I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you. Good job. Who did you copy off of? Or was it SparkNotes? And college is such a scam, but it will definitely look good on a resume. To be honest, I think I would say one of the two first ones. And I'm not just saying that because I'm like trying to common sense cheat through the quiz.
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I do think I would genuinely say either I'm so proud of you. Way to go. Or I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you. Good job. I'm going to say I'm so proud of you. Way to go. People's accomplishments... don't trigger me too bad. Or at least they might internally, but I would never let that out, ever. Okay, next.
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Your friend hosts a dinner party, but cooking has never been one of their skills. They did put a lot of effort in though. What do you say? I'll definitely take some leftovers. My dog loves this kind of thing. Or have you ever thought about trying out for Nailed It? I don't even know what Nailed It is. Oh, I guess it's like a show where you like make food badly, perhaps.
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I love how you weren't afraid to stop following the recipe and just do you. And last but not least, these scrambled eggs are actually to die. I think I would say these scrambled eggs are actually to die. Unless that's like sarcastic, but that's I would abbreviate to die for by saying to die. That's something I would say. I would never say anything mean.
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I would say these scrambled eggs are actually to die. I really hope that that's what they mean by that. Not just like... some sort of sarcastic phrase. But yeah, listen, if somebody's bad at cooking, but they put a bunch of effort into it, I would never have the heart to say anything mean, okay? Next, your friend shows you some dog shit movie that they really love, but it just isn't you.
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What would you say? Number one, I can honestly say I've never seen a movie like that before. Two, you would like this movie, LOL. Three, it was so fun. I loved it. And four, I really admire how you have no shame about the things that you like. I think I'd probably say, I can honestly say that I've never seen a movie like that before. It's a true statement, but it's neither positive nor negative.
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So that seems good. Next, your friend gets a job offer from a company you've wanted to work for for a long time. In your eyes, they've never been as dedicated as you are. What do you say? That's awesome that they're willing to take a risk on you. Or, I mean, literally anything would be better than your old job. Or, I really am happy for you. I'm sure you're going to be great.
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And I'm not particularly angry at myself about it. I think it's to be expected. However, there are times when I sort of deviate from my morals and my values. And it becomes apparent, not because I checked up on it and was like, hey, you're not really... you're not really doing that. But instead it pops up for me because it causes me some sort of pain, right?
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Or, I thought Fancy Job Inc. was kind of over, but so happy for you. I would say, I'm really happy for you. I'm sure you're going to be great. I'm not a fucking asshole. I mean, this quiz, I'm kind of like, does anyone say this stuff? I mean, I know people do because... I've gotten like some backhanded compliments before, like some backhanded shit said to me before.
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So I know that people say this, but I feel like it's very rare. Most people are not being a hater in real life like this. Okay, next question. Your friend buys a house and while that is impressive, it definitely looks like the before on an episode of Fixer Upper. What do you say? 15 miles from the grocery store, couldn't be me. Only three bedrooms, who needs an office, right?
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Gorgeous, what a house. Or the lack of space will really let you focus on family time. I don't really think I would say any of that. I think I would honestly walk into the house and like find some sort of weird niche tile that they like don't even make anymore that I actually genuinely liked. And I'd be like, oh my God, I would do anything for this tile. They don't make it anymore.
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You can't even find it. It was like strictly in the 80s. I freaking love it. Like, I don't know. I actually really appreciate all different types of homes. And like, I, yeah, I guess I would say gorgeous what a house. I'm not... OK, this me taking this quiz is fucking boring, you guys. How many more questions do I have?
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Because I'm honestly feeling like this isn't I'm not learning anything about myself from this because I'm just answering nicely. All right. Let's finish the quiz, though. Your friend just bought a new car, but it's definitely not your style. What do you say? At the end of the day, you just need something to get you from point A to point B. Or it doesn't come in white. Or this car really suits you.
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Or I would have gotten the Mercedes. I would just say this car really suits you. Again, not an asshole. It doesn't come in white. What does that even mean? That makes no sense. Okay. Your messy friend just got engaged. You love them, but it's kind of unbelievable. You know so many other people with their shit way more together. What do you say? OMG, I'm genuinely so happy for you. That's cool.
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So how about those Lakers? I really hope this one works out better than the last one. Or it's such a great reminder that there really is someone out there for everyone. Of course, I'm going to say, oh my God, I'm so genuinely happy for you. This is just ridiculous. Okay, moving on. We only have like two or three more.
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Your friend runs a marathon and while it's quite the feat, they are being like so obnoxious about it. That is really annoying. So what would I say? That's so great. You got the same time as my Nana. Or I've heard running is really hard on your body long term, but so happy for you. Or I'm legit so impressed by you. Or I didn't think we'd be waiting for you at the finish line for so long.
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Honestly, saying that running is hard on your body is something I would say, to be honest. I'm not proud of it. I would never say it, though, after somebody had just run a marathon. I would say I'm legit so impressed by you because, again, I'm not an asshole. Your friend tells you that they just got cast in a reality TV show that starts filming in two weeks, but you'd be way better on TV.
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What do you say? Even if you go home first, it will be so fun. I love that the casting directors were willing to cast someone like you. Reality TV is so tired, but I hope that you make some money at least. You're definitely going to be America's favorite. I would definitely say you're definitely going to be America's favorite.
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There's a slight chance that I'd say, hey, even if you go home first, it will be so fun. But I would never say that in a backhanded way. Okay, moving on. Your friends just had a baby and it's kind of amazing to you that they, of all people, decided to become parents. What do you say? So happy for you too. You'll be great parents. So exciting.
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But who even knows what kind of world she's going to grow up in if Earth is even still here. Oh my God. I would never, ever, ever fucking say that. That is absolutely one of the most cruel things I think you could ever say to a new parent. And that is very sad. So don't say that. Okay, or it's crazy how just anyone can become a parent, you know? Or, and it was like on purpose, it was amazing.
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I would say, so happy for you too. You'll be great parents. That's obvious. And this is the last one. Your friend just went viral on TikTok for a video that is literally so cringe. What do you say? Okay, superstar, guess you're an influencer now. Or, I love how you're not afraid to make a fool of yourself. Or, I will never understand how social media works. That's crazy.
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By not abiding by my morals and values, I have let something slip to a point where now I'm causing myself pain because at least half of my morals and values were created by me and to prevent pain, to prevent suffering. And so there's like a 50-50 chance when I drop the ball that it might cause pain. And recently I noticed that I had dropped the ball in the hater department, okay?
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Or, wow, the algorithm was really on your side on this one. I don't really like any of these responses. Okay, superstar, guess you're an influencer now. That feels... backhanded and kind of rude. I love how you're not afraid to make a fool out of yourself. That's also rude. I'll never understand how social media works. That's crazy.
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Even if I didn't understand, I actually don't know how social media works. It's my job and I still don't quite get it. And while the algorithm was really on your side on this one, that's also kind of rude because it's saying like, the video that you made sucks. It's just for some reason the algorithm was pushing it. I'm not going to say any of that. I'm going to choose...
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I love how you're not afraid to make a fool out of yourself, actually. Because I feel like that's not, I feel like that's actually kind of nice. Like you don't give a fuck and that's badass. Like that's the way I would say it. So that's why I chose that. Because okay, superstar, guess you're an influencer now is something that I would absolutely never say.
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That is one of the most foul, like that just, that's foul. Anyway, okay, my results. It says I'm a 9% hater. That's just not true. But that's because all of these things were external. You probably have a hater moment every few months or so, but you're mostly just nice, even if that means you hold back the truth. That is true.
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but I am an internal hater, so I'm not feeling satisfied with that answer, and I'm gonna take one more online quiz to see if it gives me a more accurate answer that isn't just referring to external situations. I don't know, we'll see, okay? This is a random quiz I found on a website called ProProfs.com. Never heard of it, and I'm probably gonna get a virus from this website. Okay, let's begin.
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the art of accessorizing
Today we'll be discussing one of my favorite art forms, and that would be the art of subtle yet impactful accessorizing, specifically within the context of fashion, clothing, self-expression. I love all types of accessorizing. I love accessorizing the home, accessorizing the car, accessorizing the computer desktop, like the list goes on.
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It can be tempting to go to these obvious places and sometimes these obvious places are exactly where we need to go. I have... quite a few mass produced accessories, right? Like I have designer sunglasses, I have designer bags, I have, you know, even like the gloves I'm wearing today, I got from Brandy Melville like six years ago, right?
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Like I have accessories that are from, you know, these sort of more mass produced places. There's nothing necessarily wrong with that, and sometimes that's just what makes sense. However, I would say try to find it elsewhere first. This is something that if I could go back in time and rebuild my wardrobe, I would do more of.
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Now I'm at a place where I'm like, okay, I have a lot of stuff, and I would love to go find a handmade silver and black belt, but I got one from Aritzia, and it's great, and I like it, and I wear it a lot, and It would be cool to have one that's handmade because I wear that all the time.
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element of putting clothing pieces together is balancing the silhouettes together, making it look flattering together, you know? And I think the art of accessorizing that base is its own separate sort of art form. And maybe I'm just taking all this too seriously, and maybe I sound pretentious, and maybe you all hate me, but this is how I feel. Thank you so much for watching.
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And if I ever find one that I love that's handmade or vintage or unique or something, I'll go and I'll get that because I would prefer to have that. But in the meantime, and possibly even forever, because maybe I'll never find it feels justified to like, I already have a silver and black belt. I don't need to go buy a new one. You know what I mean?
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Unless one was perfect and spoke to me and I was like, I absolutely need this. I'm not going to go buy a new one for the sake of buying a new one, right? But if I could go back in time, I would have waited and spent time finding the perfect black and silver belt because that's a piece I wear all the time, and it would be awesome if it had personality to it, you know, if it was custom.
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Maybe one day I'll, like, somehow figure out a way to decorate it in a way that makes sense to make it more personalized, but... yeah, if I could go back in time, that's something that I would focus more on is where I'm actually sourcing the stuff. And again, it doesn't mean more expensive. It doesn't mean more expensive. It just means more time.
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It just takes more time and a bit more hunting, if you will, which I think if you're the weather started to get warmer and I had to donate majority, actually all of my jean shorts because a lot of them either were too small for my liking. I like a baggier jean short. They were either too tight or, you know, they just weren't in a style that I wear anymore.
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So I donated all of my denim shorts and I was so excited to find a new pair. not find like 30 pairs like what I used to have, which was completely excessive. But I was excited to find the perfect pair that was timeless that I'm gonna wear for the next 10 years. But it took so long. It took so long. And there were many times where I was like, these are fine, I guess.
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But I waited and I eventually found the perfect pair of shorts. And I'm so happy that I did. It was fun too. Like if you look at it as fun and you look at it as a hunt, it makes it fun. Next piece of advice, think outside the box when it comes to accessorizing. A lot of us think of accessorizing and we think of the standard. We think of sunglasses, belt, purse, bag.
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There's so much more to accessorizing than just that. Okay. Anything that is on our body can be an accessory. Okay.
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That means the cup, like the insulated cup that we carry around, our laptop that we constantly carry around, our headphones that we're always wearing, you know, our lunch bag that we carry our lunch in, our nails, what we get on our nails, you know, like I try to think of everything as an accessory and
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And there are some things that like, I just personally don't care about being an accessory, right? Like, for example, my Stanley cup. Okay, my Stanley cup is very standard. It's just a fucking Stanley cup. It is what it is. I haven't found a way to decorate it that inspired me. It just hasn't called to me. I just don't care. However, my laptop, I decided to paint on.
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My laptop is something that I'm constantly carrying around, that people constantly see me with. I mean, not, I guess, constantly, but like if I'm at the airport working on my computer, if I'm at a meeting working on my computer, if I go to a cafe to work, which doesn't happen as often anymore, but still every once in a while I'll do that. My laptop is an accessory.
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It can be an accessory, which is why I painted it, which some people think is crazy, like actually crazy and idiotic. But I had this idea. I was like, I want to paint my laptop. So I got acrylic paint and And I painted the top of the laptop white. And then on the Apple logo, I painted a realistic looking Apple. When I first did it, people in my life were like, you are a freak.
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Like, why would you do that? I'm obsessed with it, okay? I think it looks incredible. I think it looks incredible. It looks so cool. It's so personalized. Yes, I painted directly onto the laptop. I could have just painted like on a case. No, I decided to paint on the laptop, which was a little bit crazy. Again, it's like kind of dumb in retrospect. Actually, it's not though, right?
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My laptop has been painted for like many months. I'm not sick of it. Every time I look at it, it brings me joy. And it feels like this little accessory. I have no regrets. I have no regrets. But if you're not feeling that courageous, put a case on your laptop and paint it. Now your laptop is an accessory. Think outside of the box. Think about all the different ways that you can accessorize.
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You know, it doesn't just need to be a pair of socks and a belt and a purse and that match the rest of your outfit. You know what I mean? There's so much more that it can be. I briefly paused this episode to let you know that this episode is brought to you by Skims. I remember the first time I tried on a push-up bra. And you know what the first thing I thought was?
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Select podcast in the survey and then anything goes in the drop-down menu that follows. Now, back to the episode. My next piece of advice, let your accessories complete the sentence that your outfit is trying to say, okay? It's almost like your outfit is half of a sentence. It's like the first half of the sentence. And then the accessories are like the conclusion, are like the ultimate point.
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Okay. So like, let's say what your outfit is trying to say is, I make music. Okay. Like, let's say you're styling yourself in a way where you're like, I want to look like a rock star. Fuck it. I make music. Okay. Let's say that is what you want your outfit to say. Sounds cringe, but that is... Like that's sometimes how we style ourselves, right?
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Or maybe you want your outfit to say like, I watch a lot of movies. Like I'm a movie nerd. It's almost like the clothing that you put on the shirt, the pants, is the first half of the sentence. So in the I make music example, it's almost like the clothes that you choose, the pants, the shirt, is the I make part. Okay, the clothing that you put on, the shapes that you choose, right?
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Whether or not the clothing is worn in or it has paint on it or it's ripped up or a lot of times if you're dressing to be like, I'm a rock star. Look at me, I'm a rock star. You know, you're wearing like maybe ripped up stuff or you're wearing like leather and like that sort of paints the picture like I make. I'm a creative person. The clothing is like I'm a creative person.
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Feed by hand for a playful moment, in a bowl for a creamy treat, or as a topper to make mealtime fun. Visit TemptationsTreats.com to learn more. Now, let's get back to the episode. I feel like recently, my mind has sort of expanded around what accessorizing is and can be. Because I feel like for a long time, when I thought of accessorizing, I was like, well...
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And then the sentence is completed. I make music when you add big fucking diva sunglasses. You know what I mean? Like badass sunglasses and like a belt, like a sick, like retro, like rockstar belt and like a really cool vest that has like a music note on it. No, I'm kidding. That's a little bit too on the nose, but you get what I'm saying here?
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Like, it's almost like the conclusion is given by the accessories. And then it's the same thing with the other example. Like I'm a movie nerd. If that's what your outfit is saying, right? Like maybe your outfit looks very like you, you like to dress like Wes Anderson movies because you love movies. Like you dress very almost theatrical in a way or whatever.
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Wearing like beautiful brown pants and like a beautiful brown boot and wearing like a, you know, bright yellow blouse, maybe tucked in. That could potentially paint the picture of like, I'm a movie because you look, you know, you're wearing these bright colors. You almost look like a character, right? But then I'm a movie nerd comes in when you really turn that thing into a costume.
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And maybe you're a little nerdy. Maybe you're wearing like little nerdy glasses and, you know, you're wearing like this green belt and it is making your shirt super tucked in and tight. And like, I don't know, like maybe this doesn't make sense to anyone else, but the accessories complete the sentence that, Right.
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They create this full, well-rounded image, sentence, message like that is what accessories are for. They're for completing the sentence. So when it comes to figuring out like, OK, how do I accessorize this outfit? Figure out what the vibe is. What are you trying to say with the outfit? And then that can help guide you.
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what accessories to choose because then you're like, all right, I'm trying to choose the accessories that complete this sentence. This method that I'm describing to you right now might not make any fucking sense to you. You might be like, Emma, that is some of the weirdest, most abstract bullshit I've ever heard in my life. Fair enough, okay? But try to find value in that through like...
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figuring out a sort of formula. You know what I mean? That's the formula that makes sense to me. Sometimes I want to dress like a vampire. I want to look like a vampire's daughter. You know what I mean? I want to look like... A vampire's wife. Those are two very different things, okay? So like my clothes that I pick out might be like, I want to look like a vampire.
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It's like I'm wearing all black. I'm maybe with some pops of maroon or whatever. You know, maybe I'm wearing sort of like gothic sort of silhouettes or something or like whatever. And then I want to look like a vampire's wife. Okay, maybe I'm adding like black lace... you know, tights or like I'm adding maybe I have like long, you know, sort of gothic looking nails that are like red.
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You know, it's like that all adds to this vibe of like the vampire's wife. You know, like that's how I build an outfit in my head is I'm like there's some sort of vague vision and it's not necessarily on the nose, but it's like it's saying something. And so basically this is the most cringe thing that I've ever explained in my life. So I need to move on. But take this with a grain of salt.
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Let your accessories complete the sentence that your outfit is trying to say. Do it that way you will. Let's move on. My next piece of advice, use accessories to balance colors and tie things together. The right accessory can make two things that normally wouldn't make sense together, make sense together. And so you set that to your advantage. If you're getting dressed, right?
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And listen, everybody builds outfits differently. Some people start with accessories or like, oh, I really want to wear this accessory today. I'm going to build an outfit around it. Some people are like, okay, I'm going to put on my base first and then accessorize from there. Everybody's a little bit different. So it's kind of hard to give advice about it, but...
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I'm just wearing a bag that matches the outfit and I'm just wearing a pair of socks that matches the outfit and I'm just wearing a belt that sort of matches the outfit or makes sense, I guess. I thought of it in very simple terms and that is absolutely accessorizing. And sometimes that's all the accessorizing that makes sense is sort of simple accessorizing.
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A lot of times I will start with sort of the base and I accessorize to pull things together later. I'll be like, I really like the idea of like wearing this top with this bottom, right? Like this feels interesting to me. But a lot of times two things that I want to put together don't actually look good together just by themselves, right?
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They make sense together, but only when knowing that I'm about to accessorize later to make it all make sense. And there are many different ways that you can use accessories to truly make the outfit feel cohesive and complete and make it make sense together.
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whether that's through being mindful about color palette, either, you know, balancing out colors by saying, okay, well, I'm wearing a white shirt and I'm wearing a black skirt. You know, it'd be kind of nice to bring the black up to my eyes. So I'll wear black sunglasses. But I also feel like it needs kind of a pop of color. So maybe I'll add a pop of color with the socks.
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Eh, I don't really like that. It doesn't feel balanced when I look at it. Maybe I'll add a red hat. Okay, great. That looks great. Okay, now, you know, When it comes to the shoes, like I'm wearing black shoes, so then maybe I should wear a white sock because then it's like white, black, white, black. Like that feels balanced to me. And then there's the pop of red. I really like that. Okay, great.
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Moving on with our day. You know, you use accessories to balance out the colors. Or perhaps, you know, you have sort of an earth tone look going. Maybe you have like a beige top and like mint green bottoms and like brown shoes. Well, maybe you can... sort of create an outfit where it's just a bunch of different earth tones, a bunch of different, slightly different earth tones.
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So then maybe you add like an orangey, rusty, you know, grayish color for your socks. And then maybe you add like a piece of jewelry that has a bunch of beautiful stones that are a bunch of different earth tones. And now your whole outfit is this beautiful collage of a bunch of different earth tones that feels cohesive.
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And even though you're wearing a bunch of different colors, it feels cohesive because you know, that is the theme of the outfit. You're wearing a bunch of different earth tones. Whereas if you were to just be wearing a beige top and mint green pants and brown shoes, it's like, okay.
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But now if you add another dimension with the sock and another dimension with the jewelry and maybe you add, you know, a pair of glasses that are another earth tone and then a bag that's another earth tone and it's just this sort of like beautiful palette all over the place. Now it feels intentional because you've made the choice
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to choose this color palette but not quite the same color twice so many different times that now it feels like it makes sense.
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But also too, something that I pay close attention to when I'm accessorizing that might seem like overkill to some of you but to me is something that I really find important when it comes to building an outfit is like textures, like paying attention to textures and balancing out textures. For example, if I'm wearing shiny black shoes with an outfit,
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And I'm trying to choose what pair of sunglasses to wear. A lot of times, I'm going to choose my shiny black pair of glasses rather than my more matte material pair of glasses. Or if I am wearing really like thick knit socks, right? I might say, oh, wait, I have like a thick... knit little headscarf sort of thing. Maybe I'll throw that around my neck or tie it around my belt loop or something.
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But more recently, I feel like my mind has expanded to what accessorizing can truly be in fashion, like the potential for... truly having fun with accessorizing, truly expressing yourself through accessorizing. And it's inspired me today to share with you a few things. Number one, some accessorizing advice. Is the advice professional? Of course not. It's me, silly. It's unprofessional.
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I try to create themes with textures as well. And this doesn't always make sense, but I do pay attention to it because I think it's a subtle detail that can really make an outfit feel cohesive. My next piece of advice, be intuitive. Add where you feel there's an empty space. Don't just make decisions based on what you've seen on Pinterest or what you've seen in fashion books.
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I think accessorizing needs to be intuitive and it needs to be determined by you in the moment based on what exactly is being worn by you. And there are so many different variables that impact the way that an outfit reads on you as an individual. What is the daily jewelry that you wear? How do you style your hair? What color is your hair? What color are your nails? How do you get your nails done?
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Do you not get your nails done? What do you have in your wardrobe? What do you even have available to you? You know, like all of these different things impact how you're able to accessorize.
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And I think, you know, that's why I don't personally always love the method of like, oh, I saw, you know, on Pinterest or whatever, I saw somebody wear a skirt and then they put like another skirt on top of it to accessorize it sort of. And it looked really good. And then they also wore like a bikini top over top of their tank top to add some dimension. Like that might look cool. That might work.
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And you can try it if you really want. You know what I mean? But I always recommend being intuitive. Like try to be intuitive with it. Look at your outfit and see what it needs. Listen, I think it's fun to experiment. And if you see something that you like, I absolutely am all for like... being like, okay, today I really want to try this sort of accessorizing technique or something, right?
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Like, I really want to try it. Okay, great. Then that's how you start your outfit. But if you're taking an outfit and you're like, all right, what accessories do I add to this? In those moments, I think if it feels intuitive, like, oh, I saw somebody do that thing on Pinterest. I'm going to try that. Great.
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If it feels intuitive and it feels like that's what the outfit needs and you're looking in the mirror and you're like, oh, there's like a blank space here that feels empty, like it needs something. It would benefit from something. then add it. But don't just add it because you see other people doing it. Does that make sense? Be intuitive with the accessorizing and try stuff. Try a bunch of stuff.
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You know, try things on. It doesn't look good. Try the next thing. We can only see so much in our imagination. I think a lot of times we have to try things on and experiment to truly figure out what actually makes sense for an outfit.
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And my last piece of advice, at least that I can think of right now, your accessories need to either be functional or not noticeable to you physically or else they're not a good accessory, okay? Accessories should never be getting in your way, right? Like a scarf that's itchy, a belt that's super huge and like rides up and like is super uncomfortable and doesn't fit in your belt loops,
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super heavy earrings that are hurting your ears, nails that are too long to function. These are not good accessories, right? Like painting on your laptop and then not using the right kind of paint and it chipping off. Like these are all not good accessories. This is not good ways of accessorizing. Accessorizing should either be fully functional, like it is helping.
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It's a belt that's holding up your pants. It's a pair of socks that are keeping you warm. It's a scarf that actually keeps you warm. It's
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actually a functional accessory or it's something you don't even notice like oh i put a little pin on my shirt or like i put on a cute little watch but i don't even feel it on my wrist or i ironed on a patch onto my favorite hat like accessories should either be not noticeable you barely even realize that they're there or they actually serve a purpose otherwise it's a bad accessory
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If you really love a scarf and you want to buy it because you think it looks so cute, but it's itchy, that is a bad accessory. Just because it's cute, just because it's like whatever. Accessorizing is more than just like, oh, this looks cute and ties my outfit all together. No, it should also be functional. and comfortable. Otherwise, it is a bad accessory.
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So keep that in mind when shopping for accessories and also getting dressed in the morning. If there's an accessory in your closet that you don't gravitate towards, you don't choose because it's uncomfortable, it gets in the way, it's frustrating. A great example would be even sunglasses that are uncomfortable. That's the risk of buying sunglasses online. I do it. I've done it.
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So take it with a grain of salt. But I have learned a lot about accessorizing recently, and I want to share... some of my learnings through advice. I also want to give you some accessory inspiration that goes beyond just like a purse that matches your outfit or like a belt that matches your outfit.
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And it's worked out well before, but it's also worked out terribly because sunglasses need to fit your head. And if they don't fit your head properly, well, that's a problem. They're either too tight or they're too loose and falling off. You're not going to wear those. So that's a bad accessory. Even if they look cute, accessories need to be comfortable.
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Now that I've given you some advice, let me give you some thought starters, some suggestions, some ideas. And I'm not giving you these suggestions, thought starters, ideas with the hope that you go out and buy them immediately. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's not what I'm trying to do here, okay? Because as I mentioned earlier, accessorizing should be as personal as possible.
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So look at this more as just inspiration. Truly look at this as a thought starter. Let these ideas inspire you to come up with your own idea. Or hear one of these suggestions and find a version of it that's uniquely you. That is the purpose of this, okay? So let's begin. Number one, I'm absolutely obsessed with pins and buttons and patches right now, but more specifically pins.
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I actually bought a pin maker so that I can make my own pins, like fully like a pin maker, okay? Or a button, a button maker actually. You know what? It is a button, isn't it? A pin is something else. Okay, I bought a button maker so that I could make personalized buttons that I could wear with my outfits. Because I was having a hard time finding buttons that I liked.
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But if I were to have that conversation, we'd be here for six to seven hours. And I don't think either of us have time for that. So today we're just talking about accessorizing in fashion, in self-expression. I love accessorizing just as much as I love clothing. And I, in my brain, look at the two things as sort of separate. They obviously come together to make a complete outfit, right?
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I found a few good ones online from people who make them, but they weren't personalized enough. I was like, I want really personalized buttons, and I couldn't really find... Anyway, I bought a button maker so that I could make my own buttons. But I'm also going to continue searching for cool...
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vintage ones online on eBay like you know like like finding you know cool weird ones as time goes on but I also want to make my own but I think personal little pins buttons patches these types of things that you can adhere to existing items and add a little pop of color add a bit of personality it can be super impactful.
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And you can like put like a name patch on something like you could order a bunch of like custom patches that all have your name on it. And like, I don't know, put them on your favorite belt and on like glue it onto your water bottle and glue it onto your laptop and like... put it on one of your basic black shirts that is kind of boring that you don't really like. You know what I mean?
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There's so many different ways that you can use pins, buttons, patches, these types of things to add a lot of dimension and character to an outfit or to a piece of clothing. I also think a great area to experiment when it comes to accessorizing is in glasses.
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I've noticed that a really bold pair of glasses is something that I will re-wear over and over again, rather than like a really bold piece of clothing, like a statement piece of clothing, like a sweater that has like a really loud bow. pattern on it and has like a quote on it and there's all this stuff going on, that I'm less gravitated towards over and over again.
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I want to give you some thought starters, some ideas for ways that you can accessorize that are a bit more interesting, a bit more unique to perhaps open your mind to what accessorizing can be when you truly think outside the box and have fun with it. So without further ado, let's start with some accessorizing advice.
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A really bold pair of glasses with like a bold shape is something that I'll wear over and over and over again and I'm constantly drawn to it. In addition to that, I find that a really strong pair of glasses that are really stylized and really loud and really make a statement... that really, really heavily impact the vibe of an outfit.
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For example, I have like, you know, a pair of sort of black like shield glasses, like shield. They're huge. They like cover half my face. In fact, I actually lost them for like a year and a half and I had been trying to find them and I could not find them.
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And then I saw online that they were on sale and I was like, fuck it, I'm buying another pair because I loved this pair of glasses so much and I used to wear them so often and I lost them and I was so sad and I thought I would find them and I never did. And so then I ordered them again when they were on sale. Anyway, they're like huge black shield glasses.
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Every time I wear those, it's like, whoa, she is a badass. She's a fashion freak badass. Look at that freak. You know what I mean? It just reads creepy and weird and alien and cool and badass and scary and creepy and futuristic, but also like motorcycle, but also like not motorcycle, but also like alien, but also like cool. It's great, you know? But they're definitely extreme.
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It's like a bold choice. But I wear those glasses all the time. I constantly gravitate towards those glasses because they make such a statement and they make such a difference. They... make such a difference in my outfit that I actually choose those more than maybe more versatile, more simple glasses because those just don't have as much of an impact.
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I guess what I'm trying to say is I feel like you can be a bit more edgy, a bit more experimental with your accessories than maybe you can with your clothing because I think with your clothing, more experimental stuff tends to be less comfortable, tends to be more fatiguing and exhausting, and it tends to... I don't know, just not work out as well, I guess. That's my experience anyway.
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So my closet is definitely a bit less experimental. It's a lot of basics that I can layer together in different ways. And then where the personality and intrigue really comes out for me tends to be in the accessories and the way that I layer things and stuff like that. I also suggest finding weird, random shit that's kind of a little bit silly.
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Some of my favorite accessories are in this sort of category. For example, like I have this purse that has a banana on it and I actually have another purse from the same brand that has a carrot on it, like a 3D banana, a 3D carrot purse. like sticking out the front of the bag.
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And, you know, it's funny because I think this bag was so... It kind of was like... I think it had kind of like a Pinterest moment. Like a lot of people saw it. It was like kind of a popular thing for a second there. And it's something that I actually think is technically sort of trendy because it's so...
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It's so eye-catching and it's so sort of humorous, but it's something that to me, I like genuinely love so much and I love the concept and I love it so much that to me, it's actually timeless.
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Or it's not even necessarily timeless, but it's something that even though maybe it had its moment a few, like a year ago and it was like more trendy then, I still love it because I think it's funny and I think it's interesting and I continue to wear it. Anyway, that was sort of a side note.
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I love taking something as simple as a black bag and putting a banana or a carrot on the front of it, a 3D one that looks real. And now it's something different. Now it's something more intriguing. Now it's a conversation starter. I think that that's great. I also recently bought online this like... Well, not recently. A few months ago, I bought this...
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Okay, number one, take your time to find the perfect accessories for your collection. Take your time and find ones that are strong. Okay, I'll explain what strong means in a second. To find strong accessories takes time, takes experimenting. It's better to go on an extended hunt for the perfect accessories than to just cave and buy what's at, you know, a trendy store.
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handmade scarf that looks like a beautiful white mouse or white rat and it has like little red eyes it is so cute and it is so weird but it's so cute I love that thing I absolutely love it it's one of my favorite things that I own it's so weird But it actually looks cute. Like I can style it in a cute way and it's functional and it keeps my neck warm and it's great. You know what I mean?
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You know, I love buying like little buttons and pins, like I mentioned earlier, or even making little buttons and pins that are weird, that say something weird on them, that say something funny, that infuse some humor into my outfit. Try to find ways to perhaps infuse humor into your outfit, infuse weirdness into your outfit through accessories. I think that you'll find that that's a lot of fun.
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Oh my God, I just remembered when I used to have like this rubber chicken bag. It was like a bag that looked like a rubber chicken. That's another great example. Like it's fun. To some people, it might be corny. It might be cringe. It's not everyone's cup of tea, but it's a suggestion that I think is worth considering. I sort of mentioned this earlier, but decorate your average items.
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Everything can be an accessory. Your phone, your laptop, your water bottle, the belt that you wear every day. Find ways to accessorize items that are normally just blah. Paint your laptop, paint your phone, put stickers all over your computer, put stickers all over your phone, put stickers on your belt. Find different ways to personalize normally mundane items. And I think it's fun to...
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do it DIY because you're the only one who's going to have it. That's really special and really cool. And I don't know, it's fun. It's fun to put your own little stamp on something. And it's fun to think of everything as an accessory because it gives you a more intimate relationship with the things that you carry with you on a daily basis, you know, or on a consistent basis.
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It makes everything feel artistic, like art in a way. It makes your laptop feel like art. It makes your phone, your water bottle, your lunchbox, your book bag, it makes everything feel like art, interesting, like a form of self-expression. And that's fun. That can be fun. So decorate your average items.
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Another suggestion, random, but fingerless gloves, lace gloves, thin like mesh gloves, gloves that are a little bit unusual. Like obviously when it's wintertime, we are all well aware of a glove or a mitten. We are no stranger to this, but I think we tend to forget that there are other types of gloves. You can buy, for example, lace gloves.
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That adds so much texture and dimension to an outfit without actually adding warmth. You could wear that in the spring or summer, and it would look so cool and so interesting, but you're not overheating. Gloves, maybe more avant-garde gloves, can be a great way to accessorize that you wouldn't normally think of. In fact, I actually have been trying to get more into the glove.
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I love a fingerless glove. I've been wearing them for a few years now, but I'm kind of... keeping my eye out for other types of gloves that could potentially be interesting to add to my collection. Next, a little beret hat, like a little French beret, you know, or like a little cap, like a little, not necessarily a French beret, but like any sort of little cap.
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I absolutely love a little cap, a little felt hat, something that isn't even quite as stylized as a French beret. But there are so many different types of little caps that you can wear that are elevated, unlike maybe something like a baseball cap that's a little bit less elevated. We tend to overlook what hats can be. And I absolutely love a little cap. I hope that I'm explaining that well.
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I have a few of them, but that's a great idea. That makes things feel chic and sort of classy in a very easy sort of way. Just throwing on a little cap, like a little beret, a little cap can really change the whole feeling of an outfit. And it's just a little hat. It's one of the few hats that I think are timeless. A lot of hats are are not timeless. I don't know, like a cowboy hat? No.
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Unless you are a cowboy, unless you do rodeos and stuff. I don't know. A cowboy hat is not timeless to me. But a beret? Absolutely. Another suggestion, balaclava, detached hood, bonnet, some sort of headwear... in that realm. I have a few of these now and I absolutely love wearing them.
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Because this is how you find accessories that, number one, are going to be a reliable and source of a vibe. So cringe, but it's true.
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Anytime I can, anytime it's cool enough out to wear some sort of headpiece, I'm gonna try to wear some sort of headpiece. In fact, I also would like to collect more of these over the years because I really do think that they can pack a punch when it comes to changing the vibe of an outfit. Adding accessories to the head
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in this way, it's trendy, it's definitely trendy, but I actually think it's timeless. I think you can't go wrong with unique headwear, whether it's something lighter made of perhaps lace or mesh with embroidery on it, or it's like a knit and it has little fuzzy ears.
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I have a little fuzzy knit cat ear sort of bonnet almost, kind of like a balaclava, but it doesn't cover the mouth, so I don't really know what that's called. It's kind of like a detached hood almost. I get compliments every time I wear that thing because everybody's always like, whoa, that's so cool. Like it completely changes the tone of the outfit.
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And I think we tend to overlook head pieces that are not hats. And a lot of us don't like hats. So think outside the box when it comes to accessorizing your head and think of a bonnet or a detached hood or perhaps a balaclava. I think a lot of us too tend to look at socks as like just, okay, I'm just wearing a sock. Like I'm wearing a white sock. I'm wearing a black sock. Add a pop of color.
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This is how you're going to find accessories that you'll gravitate to over and over again that will actually make an impact on your outfit, not just sort of be like, oh, just like a non-interesting pair of glasses that you don't even really like, but you just bought because you're like, well, these are trendy and they're the best ones I found, you know, at this trendy store and like, eh, it's fine, you know?
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Add a pop of texture. You know, socks can be an incredible, incredible accessory. The length of sock can be an accessory. Is it up to the knee? Is it up to the thigh? Is it scrunched? Is it pulled tight? You know, all of these different things. Socks... are not to be ignored. A good sock can change everything.
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The right sock can really pull everything together, which leads me to interesting tights. Whether you choose an interesting color or an interesting texture, tights can be utilized in many different interesting ways. You can wear tights under ripped pants and have the tight show through. That's an interesting thing you could do. Or you could wear tights and wear socks over it, perhaps.
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So now you have like your leg is one texture, but then you also have another texture of the sock and there's this layering happening. That could be very intriguing. You know, tights aren't just for... I guess, keeping your legs warm during the winter. You can utilize tights as another texture and it can be really fun. And there are a lot of interesting tights out there. Like think outside the box.
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There aren't just neutral tights. There are very many interesting tights out there. Also like thin little scarves that you can tie around your neck or head or around your pants or onto your bag. Having a little piece of fabric that you can tie onto things, whether it is on more traditional locations like your neck or your head, but
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could also be tied onto less traditional locations like your bag or your belt loop or whatever.
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This is a very fun and simple way to add a pop of color or add a bit of texture to an outfit in a way that is virtually not even noticeable to you and can sometimes be functional if you're keeping your ears warm or your neck warm, but can also just be almost like a hack of how to add a pop of color or a pop of texture.
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Also an idea that I had recently that I haven't actually tried yet because I haven't found any of these things really. Thrifted slash repurposed utilitarian items. Okay, like a thrifted tool belt or gardening gloves or chef waist apron or whatever. you can use these things as fashionable pieces and they're also useful. You know, like gardening gloves can sometimes be really cool.
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They can have like yellow rubber on them and like actually look cool. Wear them as winter gloves one year if it's like not that cold. If it's obviously super cold, you need something a bit warmer, but you get the idea. Take like a vintage chef apron, like waist apron and cut it so it's like maybe a bit more skirt-like and layer that over top clothes. Like,
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Get creative with, you know, finding functional accessories, perhaps even repurposing these sort of utilitarian workwear items that there's a plethora of in the thrift stores that aren't really being used because a lot of chefs or whatever or people who are like they donated the stuff for a reason because it's not... fully functional anymore.
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Well, you can repurpose it and use it as more of a fashion moment. Another idea, add charms to stuff. Collect cool charms. Make charms yourself. I don't care. Charms. Add them to your earrings. Add them to your belt loops. Add them onto your bag. Clip them onto stuff. Charms. But make them personal, okay? Make them personal. hyper specific items that make sense for you. Okay.
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Like for almost a comical level of convenience. Like for example, if you always lose your house key, make a necklace with like a cool ribbon and tie it around your neck and have your key on your neck all the time. That looks cool actually. Or like if you smoke cigarettes, you shouldn't. but like, I don't know, have like a little lighter key chain or something. Like, do you get what I'm saying?
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Or like, oh, you know, this is just like a standard belt and like it's it doesn't really add much. It just is kind of there, but it holds my pants up and it like adds a bit of dimension, I guess. Like, I think accessories are the most impactful when they're chosen really intentionally. And I think for a lot of us, accessories are sort of an afterthought.
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If you constantly have toothpicks in your mouth, find like a little toothpick carrier that you can like attach to your bag. Do you know what I'm saying? Like hyper specific items that make sense for you and your specific lifestyle and like what you would actually need to have available, what you would actually want to have conveniently placed. Think outside the box with it.
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Truly think about your life and your daily routine and find a way to accessorize it. Does that make sense? Find a way to turn that into an accessory. Even if you write with pens a lot, maybe you start buying cool pens that you actually want to show off and clip them to your bag or clip them to a collared shirt or find a way to accessorize your routine, make your routine an accessory.
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That doesn't make sense, but you get what I mean. And last but not least, clothing toppers. I don't know if that's actually a real term, but I'm actually wearing one right now. There's various different things that you can like throw on top of an outfit that couldn't be worn on their own, but, you know, are pieces that you can routinely throw over different things.
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And they're either mesh or they're lace or they're like a vest that's like open or they're like a waist belt, like a utilitarian sort of waist belt or whatever. These types of toppers that you can throw on top of outfits that add dimension, add texture. Yeah. add character, but are not like pieces of clothing themselves.
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But that also can be worn in a trillion different ways and kind of read differently depending on what they're paired with. These sorts of toppers, they're not things that you necessarily come across all the time, but every once in a while you do. And I think they're great accessories. And they're bordering on clothing, but they are accessories.
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Or to me, they're accessories because you couldn't wear them by themselves. you'd have some sort of genitalia revealed, which is not ideal. Even having a sheer lace skirt that's completely sheer that you could throw over other things. These sorts of toppers, layering pieces, I think, are also incredible accessories that read differently.
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They're very versatile in the sense that you can wear them with so many different things and they read differently every time. But they're not clothing because you can't wear them alone. You guys, to be honest, I have to go. I have to go because I have to go to yoga right now. I have a yoga class in 20 minutes and I actually don't know if I'm gonna make it to the class.
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If I don't do this yoga class, I'm gonna be grumpy for the rest of the day. So I love you all. I appreciate you all. Thank you all for listening to this episode. It's always a pleasure getting to speak to you and hang out with you. Anything goes every Thursday and Sunday, anywhere you stream podcast, videos on YouTube and Spotify. I'm on social media at Emma Chamberlain.
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You can find my coffee company at chamberlaincoffee.com or at Chamberlain Coffee. More information on those website and social media locations. I love you all. I appreciate you all. You're the best. And I'm going to go to yoga now. It's kind of pathetic that I'm like, you guys, I have to go to yoga. Oh my God. But it's very LA of me. Okay. I love you all. And I'll talk to you soon. Okay. Bye.
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And they're actually, honestly, like kind of a technical item, right? Like we wear sunglasses to protect our eyes. We wear belts to hold up our pants. We wear socks to protect our feet from our shoes. Like a lot of our accessories are actually functional. So a lot of times they're afterthoughts and we just buy whatever makes, you know, whatever's right in front of us.
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But there's an opportunity for no more money, but just a little bit more time to make your accessories stronger, right? So like what I mean by strong is there are certain accessories that I personally have in my closet that every time I wear them, the outfit becomes elevated more. times 10, okay? For example, like I have this pair of sunglasses, black sunglasses. They're very simple, okay?
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But they're like wrapped in almost like this leathery material. So they're like black sunglasses, but they're wrapped in this sort of leathery material and they have like white stitching on the side and the shape is kind of sporty, but like they're just super chic and super unique. But they're just a black pair of sunglasses, but they... have a really cool material.
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They're made with a really cool material. The shape is super flattering on me. Like very, very flattering. Always looks good. And every time I wear them, I just look chic. Like I look very fashionable. They're just a fashionable pair of black sunglasses. And listen, there are a bajillion pairs of black sunglasses out there.
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But I can't tell you how many times I've been wearing an outfit and I've put those on and it's completed the vibe and taken it to the next level because they're a unique pair of glasses that not only are special because they're made out of a unique material and they have the stitching on the side. They're unusual, but they're also shaped so beautifully for my face.
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And every single time I wear them, not only is it flattering, but it also... sort of gives this vibe of like fashion. There's something very chic and very fashion about them. And so it makes the outfit feel more fashion because the glasses are so chic that now the rest of my outfit reads even more chic because of those glasses.
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Another example would be like, you're looking for like the perfect belt. All right. There's so many different belts out there and a lot of them are very similar.
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Instead of just buying the first one that you see at the mall, go to like a cool vintage store instead and find one that has like, I don't know, like hand engraved, like little metal clasps or find one that is super worn in and comfortable to wear. Find one that's in sort of a unique color maybe that like actually does match the palette of your outfit, but it's in a unique color.
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But in my head, they're two separate art forms in a way. Some of you might disagree with me about that. Some of you might see that as sort of the same thing, but I don't know. To me, it's a different art form.
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So now every time you add it to an outfit, you're adding another color, another dimension. Like take your time to find something that will actually add intrigue and value and uniqueness to your outfit. Instead of just finding something that's like, eh, well this will do and I'm not really passionate about it and a lot of other people have it or whatever.
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Not that it's wrong to have things that other people have. I have plenty of things that a lot of other people have. But I think when it comes to accessorizing, there are infinite accessories out there. There are so many options and there's a lot of opportunity to find things that are unique.
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So take your time and do that because the impact of the perfect accessory that is flattering and unique and perfectly picked out for you and your vibe and your personal sense of style That is so much more impactful when you wear it than something that you just sort of got because it was trendy and it was in front of you. So take your time to find the perfect accessories for your collection.
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My second piece of advice is to make it personalized. I already sort of touched on this, but let me really elaborate, okay? Make it personalized. Accessorizing is cool and makes an outfit more personalized in general, but accessorizing with hyper personal stuff is even cooler. It's taking accessorizing to the next level. Let me give you some examples. Let's say...
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Your favorite movie is Harry Potter. Let's say in the I can't remember if Harry Potter actually like wore this or not. I don't know. I don't remember. But like, let's say in the movie, Harry Potter wore a pair of maroon fingerless gloves. It's like a subtle little Easter egg.
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And you've been thinking like, oh, I kind of want to get fingerless gloves for this winter, you know, because it's kind of nice, like and also kind of a cool look. Maybe try to figure out like, oh, Harry Potter wore maroon fingerless gloves. I'm going to get maroon fingerless gloves. Okay. That's an example of making something hyper personal.
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Another example would be like, let's say you wear the same belt every day. Maybe you spice it up by like painting on it or like putting stickers on it or, you know, like add a personal touch. Maybe you get a baseball cap. Maybe you love wearing baseball caps. Okay.
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Getting dressed with actual garments, pants, skirts, dresses, jackets, whatever, actual technical clothing items that are the base of the outfit, putting those together in a way that makes sense is its own art form to me.
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Get a baseball cap custom made by like a local artist or something like you can find somebody like an artist to like custom paint or embroider a hat for you or, you know, go on online and find like a vintage baseball cap from like your favorite movie ever or like for your favorite sports team. Like make things as personalized as possible. Yeah.
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And the reason why I like this, the reason why this is a piece of advice is because, number one, it's truly expressing yourself, which I think is something that more recently has been lost from accessorizing. I feel like accessorizing has become very trend focused. Like, what are the trendy accessories?
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You know, oh, it's a New York Yankees hat, even though half the people wearing the New York Yankees hat haven't been to New York and haven't ever watched baseball before. You know what I'm saying? But the New York Yankees hat became a trendy accessory.
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Jane Birkening the bag, as we've talked about many, many, many times, where you like add a bunch of charms to your bag, but you're not actually adding charms that mean anything to you. You're just adding charms that you found online for a few bucks, right? And they're somewhat cute, but they're not personal at all. Accessorizing has become trendy, right?
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And so we've lost the sense of self-expression in that. Wearing a baseball cap, for the town that you grew up in, for the town that you vacationed in every summer as a kid, for your favorite movie, for your favorite sports team, wearing a tote bag for your favorite bookstore, painting on your belt or on your water bottle or whatever. This is what accessorizing is.
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It's about doing something that truly... represents you as a person, you know? And listen, there are times when we're going to accessorize a bit more simply, maybe a bit more generic, and it still is an accurate representation of ourselves. Like a good example would be today, as I'm recording this, I'm wearing little striped fingerless gloves.
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Because I just, for whatever reason, really love these striped fingerless gloves. They remind me of like Tim Burton movies, which I grew up watching and loving. But they're like... So they are sort of somewhat personal in the sense that they remind me of something. But like from a technical standpoint, it's not like... Like I think I got them from like Brandy Melville. Like... six years ago.
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And I didn't buy them handmade from somebody that I love in my neighborhood or something. They aren't an exact replica of the gloves that were in the movie Coraline from 2008 or whatever year Coraline came out. I should know that because it's my favorite movie. But they remind me of that. They remind me of Coraline. They remind me of Tim Burton movies.
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And I don't know, I just, I love them, but they're not like the most personal item in the world. I think there are probably many people who have these gloves and that's okay because they still feel personal to me in one way or another. Anyway, going back to why I think this is important, because I think what makes an accessory timeless is its personalization, is the fact that it's unique to you.
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It's the art form of sort of taking a silhouette of a pant or a skirt and balancing it with a silhouette in a color or whatever of the top and, you know, paying attention to the textiles and what looks good together and, you know, creating sort of a color palette, like a base color palette. But I feel like the most important thing
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I mean, obviously, simple accessories like a plain black leather belt with silver hardware, that will never go out of style, ever. That is a classic item, and that's great. But what truly makes an accessory timeless is the fact that it's yours. It's your thing. It's personal to you in one way or another.
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whether it's because you wear it all the time and it's your signature item or because it, you know, maybe was a hand-me-down from a loved one or it was something that, you know, was custom made or, you know, specifically selected because it represents something about you, whether it's like something that you like or something that directly sort of represents your personality, whatever it may be, you know, that's what makes accessories timeless, accessories that you'll go back to time and time again.
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if they mean something to you. And again, it's such a shame that this is a lost art because I think when it comes to accessorizing across the board, fashion and otherwise, this is what makes accessories worth the purchase. This is what makes having five purses instead of 10 purses satisfying. This is what makes having two belts instead of 15 belts satisfying.
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And I know a lot of people are like, Emma, don't tell us. like about quality over quantity. You have a lot of clothes. Even after you donated like 90% of your closet, you still have a lot of clothes. Yes, I know. But I've learned. Let a girl learn, okay? And this is what I've learned.
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Okay, my next piece of advice, I already kind of touched on this a little bit, but I would recommend buying as many of your accessories as you can from places that sell things not on a trend cycle, okay? So like that would be like... vintage stores, thrift stores, resale websites, right?
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Boutiques, like small handmade boutiques, artists who make, you know, hyper-specific items online or in, again, like in boutiques at flea markets. Like, when it comes to finding accessories...
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I think it can be obvious to us and easy to us to just go to like the places that we know to go to that make popular accessories, whether that's a designer brand who makes designer bags and designer belts or it's, you know, a popular trendy store that sells maybe more affordable bags and stuff and it's, you know, trendy and we know it's on trend because they're selling it and everything that they sell is on trend.
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I am fully in the middle of an allergy attack right now. I sat down to record like 20 minutes ago and immediately started sneezing uncontrollably, sneezing over and over and over again. And after like 60 sneezes, I was like, I have to do something. So I took my allergy pill earlier than normal because I do have seasonal allergies.
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I really want to date and I kind of low key am dating my ex-boyfriend's best friend. I'm scared of what other people might think. What do I do? You're not asking me like, how do I make this official? You know, whatever. You're asking me, what do I do? Because I'm afraid of what other people might think. Why are you afraid of what other people might think?
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Why are we ever afraid of what other people might think? Well, I mean, it's a very normal human thing. But what I've noticed, at least in myself and my loved ones, is we tend to be self-conscious when we deep down are insecure about something or we know it's wrong or we know it's bad. You know what I'm saying?
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Like, I tend to be self-conscious about things that warrant, or not warrant, I shouldn't say warrant, but I don't think I'm irrationally self-conscious. And people would say, no, Emma, like, don't be self-conscious about that. Like, that's, it's totally fine. I think usually when I'm self-conscious about something, it's because... It's actually rational and valid.
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It's like, no, you know, that isn't ideal. That isn't great. Whatever. I don't know. So you're scared of what people might think because you deep down know that it feels wrong. It feels wrong to you. It goes against your moral compass. That is why you're worried about what other people might think.
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If you felt confident in the fact that dating this person was like the right thing to do in your life, if you could, you'd be putting it up on billboards, you know what I'm saying? Because you'd be so excited. You know that this isn't quite right. Something about it isn't sitting right with you, okay? And so now you're faced with a choice.
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Option number one is to find confidence in your choice because you love this boy. You truly want to be with him and you aren't doing anything terribly wrong and neither is he. Or you can honor your feelings of discomfort and moral hesitation and cut things off and just deal with the heartbreak and find someone else. you'll find someone else.
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But I think that that's sort of the choice that you have to make, you know? Next, somebody said, I have a weird 60-year-old math teacher that calls me baby. What do I do? Let's go ahead and talk to the school counselor about that one instead of asking a podcaster that didn't even finish high school and definitely didn't go to college. This is something to talk about with the school counselor.
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And I give you my unprofessional advice. And today's topic is how to face moral dilemmas. Okay. We're faced with them every day. We're faced with them every day. The moral dilemma is always a little different. It feels like, you know, we rarely get the same one twice. But every time, we're forced to find the best way forward. And it's not easy.
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This is something to talk about with your therapist. This is not something to discuss with me. However, I'll still give you advice on what I would do if I was in this situation. I guess I'm not going to give you advice because I think the only advice that I can give in good faith is go talk to the administration at your school. Go talk to the school therapist. Go talk to the principal.
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Go talk to somebody and say, this is a little bit weird. I don't think it's professional. It's making me a little bit uncomfortable. this teacher's a little bit eccentric, just wanted to put it on your radar and let you know. That is obviously the right thing to do. However, if I was in this situation, this is what I would do. And I'm not saying that this is right.
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I'm just saying that this is exactly what I would do. And again, I'm not saying it's right, okay? Because I think going to the principal or going to the school counselor or going to administration, that's obviously the right thing to do. However, knowing myself in high school would have handled things differently.
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I feel like what I would have done is, because I was kind of, I wasn't like a troublemaker or anything, but I did sometimes have a little bit of an attitude for some reason. Yeah. But I also, like, I also don't want to demonize somebody or, like, if they genuinely are not meaning any harm, right? I don't want to get someone in trouble just because they're weird or, like, whatever.
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And I'm not saying, it's not okay to be calling you baby, okay? That's weird, right? However, if this is some sort of, like, 60-year-old Italian man that's like, come on, baby, you know this. Like, if that's how he's saying baby, it's like, it's very clearly not... in a sexual, like it's not sexual. It's not inappropriate necessarily. Like it's, I mean, it's still, you know, it's not ideal, right?
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You know, he probably shouldn't be calling you baby, but if it's in that way, like to me, it's not dangerous. It's not as dangerous, right? It's just maybe a bad practice. And so how I might've handled it when I was in high school is I'd be like after class or something, or like when he called me baby, I'd be like, You know, you're going to get in trouble one of these days.
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You can't be calling people that. I would just check him on his shit in person. Is that the right way to handle it? No, you should go to administration. But that's probably what I would have done. I would have given him a chance in a way and been like, you can't say that. And he would have been like, what do you mean? I've been saying this for generations. I'm Italian. By the way, I don't know.
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I just think of like a really like warm Italian like grandfather vibe when I think of somebody like calling you baby in a way that's like not sexual and harmless. Like that's what I think of. And if that's the case, great, because that's not truly harmful. It's still not, you know, maybe OK, but it's not dangerous. Do you know what I'm saying?
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And so I would check him in person just because I think, too, like if that's the case and if you know, if you can be of help and be like, hey, we don't say that. Right. Let's not say that. Right. And here's why, you know, if we can do that, great. Again, at school, I still, I do think it's best to run it by the administration, but that's how I would have handled it.
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And then if he continued doing it and it was making me uncomfortable, still, I would say, you know what, enough's enough. And I'd go and I would have told administration. But I probably would have done the confronting myself first. But I don't think that works for everybody. And I don't think it has to. In a school environment, it is supposed to be one of the safest environments.
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So if someone's doing some weird shit, you got to report it. You got to report it. Okay, moving on. How to tell your roommate that you're moving in with your boyfriend next year. I don't want to put her in a bad spot, but I need to move forward with my life. I feel bad. Well, to start, there's absolutely nothing to feel bad about. You are doing nothing wrong.
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And that's why today, I am going to give you some unprofessional advice on how to face yours. So without further ado, let's begin. I briefly paused this episode to let you know that this episode is presented by Westin Hotels and Resorts. Westin Hotels is designed with your wellbeing in mind.
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There is nothing wrong about what you're doing. So stop feeling bad, okay? There's nothing more useless than feeling bad about something that we don't need to feel bad about. There are moments in life when we should feel bad. We did something wrong. We hurt somebody's feelings. This is not something to feel bad about. That doesn't mean it's not uncomfortable, though.
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This is a very uncomfortable situation. And it is a situation that will cause unfavorable feelings. Your roommate is going to be sad. You might be sad. You probably less so because you are excited about moving in with your boyfriend. You get to have cuddle time every night. How fun is that? No one's home, just you guys, so much fun. It's like playing house, so much fun. You're not that sad.
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Your roommate's gonna be sad, you know? Your roommate is going to be sad. And so, you know, to an extent, you can feel a level of like, oh, you know, I don't like making anyone feel sad. But at the same time, like, you're not doing anything wrong, so don't feel bad, don't feel guilty. Be aware of the fact that, yes, you know, it may cause some sadness in your roommate.
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And yes, it may cause some sadness for you. But ultimately, it's for the better. And it's a normal part of growing and moving through life. And I think... the best thing that you can do is have the conversation as soon as possible. Don't put it off till the last minute because then you actually have something to feel bad about.
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If you screw your roommate over because you don't tell them until the last minute that you're not going to live together next year, that's when you need to start feeling bad because that's not fair to them, right? So tell them immediately and be like, I'm so sorry. I've been talking to my boyfriend. We made this decision. I'm going to miss you so much. It's been such a joy. Like,
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And then if you're still feeling bad and you really want to help out even more, offer to ask the leasing person in your building that you're moving into with your boyfriend if they have any open units. Offer to help your friend find a new roommate. Offer to help. make a plan on how you both can stay connected, whether it's like, why don't we live in the same building? That would be fun.
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Or if that's not an option, maybe we live in the same neighborhood on the same block. You know, there's ways that you can lessen the blow and make it less of like a depressing thing that you're no longer roommates. Like I think... helping them in their process moving forward, making a plan on how to maintain the friendship, you know, potentially planning to even live kind of close together.
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Like all of these things can lessen the blow for both of you and make it less sort of traumatic for both of you. I think there's something to be said for presenting bad news with good news. You know, a lot of us don't think to find a silver lining or to find a way to lessen the blow. We're like, oh God, we have bad news. We just have to present the bad news and that's it.
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You can get creative and find good news to pair with the bad news. And I try to do that whenever I can. If I'm going to somebody and telling them something that they're not going to want to hear, I'll pair it with something that actually they would want to hear. You know, like...
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you know, I don't think we can be roommates next year, but there's an open unit in my building and maybe you could check it out this weekend. Like, do you see what I'm saying? There's different ways that you can put a positive spin on it. And I think by doing that, you'll lessen the blow and it won't be so bad.
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Next, somebody said, and I'm sorry that now I'm like, you can hear the allergy attack in my nose and in my throat, but let's just ignore that. Somebody said, I'm in college studying something that I'm good at, but I don't love it. How do I tell my parents? I'm scared that they'll be disappointed in me. Well, to start, you're the one who has to live this life, okay?
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You're the one who has to go to school every day, study this topic, do the homework, take the tests, and ultimately get the job that you're going to work for the rest of your life in, perhaps, potentially, if, you know, that's kind of what you're working towards right now. So that's, you know, you're the one who has to live this life, not your fucking parents.
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You have to live this life for the rest of your life. And it's important to, you know, respect our parents' opinions and hear them out. But at the end of the day, it's your fucking life and you're an adult. And obviously we want to impress our parents. We want to please our parents. We want to make them proud. But it's not actually right of them to try to control our future. Like...
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they should be open-minded. And if they're not, they're in the wrong, in my opinion, okay? So in my opinion, your parents are in the wrong if they judge you for shifting directions, you know, changing your path and like, I think that that's wrong. I think that just because they're your parents doesn't mean that everything that they do is right.
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And them being disappointed in you because you want to take your life in a different direction to me is wrong. As long as you're not doing something that's self-destructive, I don't think that they can ultimately be disappointed in you. Like, I mean, I guess they can, but I don't know that it's fair to inflict that upon you. You know, they just, they have to get over it.
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They have to either get over it or they have to put a strain on the relationship between you and them, which is so harmful and unnecessary. Unless you're doing something that's destructive to their lives or to your life, it is not good parenting for them to cut you off. You know what I'm saying?
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So find confidence in the fact that you're doing the right thing by maintaining control of your own life, living life for you and making this decision because it's what's going to be the most fulfilling for you because you're the one who has to live this goddamn life. You got to do it, okay? Not them. We love your parents, but you can be firm with your parents.
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You can tell your parents that they're wrong. You can tell your parents that they're overstepping. You can tell your parents that what they want for your life is not what you want for your life. That is all okay. They were your authority for many years, but they're not anymore. You are now your own authority.
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And part of that is taking responsibility for your decisions and also making decisions yourself. That is a part of being a functioning adult, making decisions based on your own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. Breaking away from your parents, that is a part of being an adult. When you're a kid and you're living under their roof and they're paying your bills, you do kind of have to...
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do what they say. Now you don't. And to truly mature is to truly break free from your parents and their beliefs and their ideas about your life. And this is a great sign that you're questioning some of their beliefs and you're like, okay, this isn't right for me. And so this is a conversation that you need to have with your parents. Embrace yourself for disappointment.
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They might be disappointed, but find confidence and comfort in the I also think, like I mentioned earlier, it can be really helpful and it can really soften the blow to your parents to present a bit of good news with the bad news.
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Okay, so if you know that this is gonna be bad news for your parents because they really wanted you to study this topic, they really wanted you to go into this field for your career, Find a way to present them with good news instead of just saying like, I'm dropping out. I'm not doing this major anymore. I'm going to do a different major. I'm going to major in something else.
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I want to go on a different career path. And that's it. Instead of just saying that, say, I'm switching my major. I'm going on a different career path now. But you know what? I'm really excited because I'm going to major in this now. And I'm really excited because this is what I want my career path to be. And I actually just started talking to this company about an internship.
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Before you present it to them, take some action in the step of where you want to go in your life so that you have something promising to present to them. You don't necessarily owe that to them, but I think it could lessen the blow and be very positive. It could potentially reframe it for them. And just remember that...
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Whatever comes of that conversation is necessary for the sake of your quality of life and your well-being because this is your life, okay? Next, somebody said, my bestie is hanging out with a guy with a million red flags recently. Do I say something to her? Okay, as I mentioned earlier, I tend to be someone who believes in communication, right?
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Like if I see something wrong, if something feels off, I just say it. As I mentioned earlier, it tends to be like a 50-50 split. Some people believe don't get involved in your friends or loved ones' romantic situations because it just always goes wrong. And other people are like, if I was in their shoes, I'd want to know if some shit was going awry, okay?
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And so, you know, I feel it's the right thing to do to communicate. For the most part, I tend to fall in that category, as I mentioned earlier. I tend to believe it's better to tell your friend because if I was in that situation, I would want to know. However, in this case, I'm a bit less sure, you know, like I can't safely say you should just tell him because red flags are
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are technically subjective, right? Like a red flag to you might not be a red flag to me and vice versa. It depends, right? To some people, shyness and mysteriousness is a red flag. To other people, it's an exciting challenge. Like I'm gonna crack this person open and find out who they truly are. And I don't mind that. To some people, a red flag could be a certain type of sense of humor.
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But then to other people, it might be a green flag. Like, oh, my God, I think this person's so funny. Like red flags vary in severity. So it's harder to say. But I do think that there are some like objectively wrong red flags. Like we would all agree that these things are wrong. For example, cheating in some way, like not being loyal. Disrespect is obviously objectively wrong.
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I found out my friend's boyfriend sent a naked picture of her to his group chat. Do I tell her? How do I tell her? She's so in love with him. This is really hard. It is a horrible feeling to know something about your friend that you know will hurt them, but that you know is wrong not to tell them.
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Lying is obviously objectively wrong. If you know that this guy is actively doing things that are objectively wrong to her, I think it's okay to gently bring up, right? And be like, hey, you can do whatever you want. And I know you really like this guy, but... I, as a friend, am watching him mistreat you and it really bothers me. I can't stand idly by.
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I have to bring it up to you and tell you that you don't deserve this shit. You deserve somebody who treats you like a little princess. you deserve to be treated with love and respect because that's how you treat other people, assuming that your friend is a beautiful angel, although she might not be.
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But if the red flags are a bit less obvious, they're a bit less intense, they're a bit less glaringly obvious, I would say a lot of times it's better for people to find out for themselves that someone isn't right for them Because usually that's what they're going to do anyway. Like you can bring shit up to them, but they're just going to end up figuring it out on their own anyway.
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They're not going to listen to you. Because in the case of like love and romance and lust, good luck. It's so tough. Like it's really hard to break through and be heard. Like even when somebody's treating you wrong, like I remember in the past, I've been dating guys who have maybe sort of not treated me the best. And people have told me like, Hey, I don't like that.
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I don't like the way that they treat you. I saw the way that they said that to you. I saw the way that they handled the situation. I heard that story about what they said to you, whatever. And that doesn't sit right with me. And guess what I said? No, no, but I love them. And this was just like an off day for them. And I made excuses.
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So it's like, and it actually, if anything, made me resent them in the moment. Now, in retrospect, I'm like, you were totally right, but I had to figure it out on my own. I had to touch the stove long enough and get burned bad enough to learn that I shouldn't touch the stove. Sometimes you have to, you know, play in the knife drawer to realize that playing in the knife drawer is a bad idea.
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And that you shouldn't do it again. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's how we grow. That's how we learn through experience. A lot of us struggle with like, a lot of us, like hear advice, and we're like, okay, and we end up making the mistake anyway, we don't follow the advice. But the advice sticks with us. And it's not all bad, right? It makes us aware of, you know, huh?
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Although it's starting to feel like they're not seasonal and they're just year round allergies. Yeah, they're not specific to one season anymore. When I was a kid, I used to get them like during the spring because there's all this pollen. Now I just constantly have really, really severe pollen allergies. Anyways, and so I took my allergy pill. I normally take it in the afternoon, not today.
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okay, I'm going to pay attention to like, maybe they are right, but I don't care because I'm going to do what I'm going to do anyway. But then later it only further sort of solidifies like, oh shit, I don't want to do that again. I got that advice. I should have followed it. I didn't. I learned the hard way. Now I'm here. Now I know even more certainly that I should never do that again.
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And so I don't know. I think you can maybe subtly give some advice or even ask like Socratic. Is it a Socratic question? Yes, it is a Socratic question. You know, you can ask your friend sort of Socratic questions, which if you don't know what a Socratic question is... Socratic questioning is a method of asking and answering questions to explore ideas and debate logical responses.
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It's a collaborative process that involves asking open ended questions to encourage people to think critically. So instead of like saying, hey, I don't really think it's good how that person is treating you. Instead, you say, how does it make you feel when that person does this to you? And you let them answer and you let them come to the conclusion. You know where I learned this from?
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My dad, because this is what my dad does to me. Instead of like, my mom will tell me like, sorry, like that is fucked up. Like, I don't like the way that that person treats you or whatever. oh, I don't like that. I don't like your hair like that or like whatever. My mom will just tell me. My dad, on the other hand, will be like, how do you feel about your new haircut?
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Or how do you feel when that person talks to you that way? Or how are you doing with that person? And then I'll answer and be like, Well, I don't really like my haircut. It's not great. I've been feeling kind of self-conscious about it. Or, you know, I don't know. When that person talks to me like that, it makes me feel small and it makes me feel disrespected and I really don't like it.
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Or whatever. And then from there, he'll be like, well, what kind of haircut are you going to get next? What do you think would look better? Or, well, what are you going to do about that? How are you going to handle that situation with that person? And then I end up finding the solution myself. And that is far more empowering and far more helpful than just being told what to do.
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And I've noticed in life, people tend to have two complete opposite perspectives when it comes to telling your friend about their romantic relationship. Some people are like, don't ever get involved. The golden rule is just don't get involved. And then some people are like, no, you have to get involved. If you know something, you have to tell your friend. That is being a good friend.
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Because number one, it's less personal. You know, it's not like we all need to handle situations differently, right? Because we're all very different. So there are moments when somebody will tell you like, This is how you need to handle the situation. And that's what worked for them. But what would work for you is actually a bit different. And only you can figure that out.
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Through Socratic questioning, you can actually figure that out quicker because you're being asked and you're being forced to answer. And through the answering, you're figuring that out yourself. So you're, you know... Ow. Sorry. I was being very expressive with my hands and talking with my hands. And then my cat bit my little finger because he thought it was a little sausage.
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It's not a little sausage. It's my finger. It's my finger. Let's not bite anymore. Okay. We don't play like that. We play nice. Anyway. That's the last one. That's it for today's advice session. I had a lot of fun, as always. I was on the verge of a sneeze the entire episode. The second I stop recording, I'm just gonna sneeze for the next hour. But I had a lot of fun and I hope you did too.
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And that's all I have for today. Thank you all for listening and hanging out. It's always a joy. It's always a pleasure. I, I also have to pee really bad. Like I had to sneeze this entire episode. I also had to pee, you know, for the second half. Like I just need to sit on the toilet and fucking put my little legs up on the squatty potty.
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And I just need to blow my nose and I need to just sit there and see what happens. And, Yes, I do put my feet up on the squatty potty even when I'm peeing. I just love the squatty potty. I love the way it feels. Anyway, that's it for today. Thank you all for listening and hanging out. It's always a pleasure. I love you all. I appreciate you all.
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And I just noticed throughout my life, it seems to be like a 50-50 split. I tend to fall on the side of to be a good friend is to tell them. That's where I tend to fall, I'd say, 90% of the time. And I would say in this specific scenario, I think you need to tell your friend because... Here's the deal. There's a really high chance that your friend doesn't want her nude in the group chat.
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Listen, is there a chance that your friend doesn't mind and is like, hey, I'm proud of this nude. Show all your fucking friends. I don't give a fuck. You know, some people are like that. In fact, if I took a really good nude, I would tell my boyfriend to show his friends. I'd be like, fuck yeah, it looks really good.
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Unfortunately, I don't take nudes because I'm too afraid of having them on my phone. And... Uh, something about it just has always felt kind of ingenuine to me, like inauthentic to me as a person. I've never been somebody who really takes nudes, but, but I think if you were to put yourself in your friend's shoes in this scenario, I would assume that you would also wanna know.
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And that's a good test. Like, should I tell my friend about this, should I not? Put yourself in your friend's shoes. If you were them, would you wanna know? Of course you would. We always wanna know what's going on. If something's happening behind our back, we wanna know. And there's a really, really high chance that this is happening behind your friend's back.
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She's unaware of it, and this isn't okay with her. This wouldn't be okay with her, right? You gotta tell her. But I do think it's important to tell her in the right way, okay? This is a very sensitive situation. It sounds like your friend really loves this boy. You know, you want to handle this tactfully. You want to communicate it tactfully. And there are some ways to do it wrong, right?
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You don't want to tell her in front of anyone else, okay? That would be bad, right? You want to tell her in private. That's number one. Number two, you want to communicate it gently. And you want to communicate it... Honestly, right? Like you don't want to make light of it. You don't want to make a joke of it. But you also don't want to make it a bigger deal than it needs to be.
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You want to present this information to her in a way that is gentle and calming. Because she might freak out, right? Let her be the one who dictates the energy of the conversation, okay? Don't come in and be like, oh my God, I'm so sorry I found this out. Oh my God. Be like, hey, you know... I'm going to be honest. I found out about something.
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And if I were you, I would really want to know about it. And there's a chance that you don't mind or that, you know, you guys have talked about this and this is totally fine or whatever. But I have to tell you because it would feel wrong if I didn't. Your boyfriend sent your nude into the group chat. I found out about it and I just had to tell you.
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And I'm sorry if this is something that upsets you, but I really... felt like it was my duty as a friend to let you know. That's all you have to say. Do it in private. Say it gently. Say it really calm and rational like I just did. And then you go from there. And then you just be a supportive friend from there. I really do think, because this is something that is...
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usually wrong, like that's kind of an objectively wrong thing to do. Like I think 99.9% of people would look at that and say, that's not right. And when that's the case, I think you can safely tell your friend about it and not worry about overstepping. If it's like an objectively bad thing to do. I think it is generally considered wrong to share someone's nudes with
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Needed to pop it early, so I popped it early. And then my ears started itching and burning. So I went and got some cortisone cream and put that in my ears with a Q-tip. Life hack if your ears are itchy from having allergies. By the way, one of the worst feelings in the world, having itchy inner ears. Oh my God. And it happens to me all the time.
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when they shared those nudes with you in confidence in private, right? So I would say, tell your friend. Okay, next somebody said, I hate my job. I don't agree with the ethics of the company, but I desperately need the money. I feel like I'm betraying myself. What do I do? Well, to start, I would say, you're not betraying yourself. You're doing what you have to do. This is how life works.
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We have to work. And sometimes we have to work somewhere that we don't want to work for survival. So don't feel bad. Don't feel guilty. Don't feel betrayed by yourself. Reframe the situation that you're in right now. You know your morals and your values. It's clear that you're connected to what they are. That's an incredible thing, okay?
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The fact that you are aware of the fact that your job goes against your morals and values only confirms your morals and values, right? And that's a beautiful thing, I think. Your job doesn't reflect those morals and values. Your feeling about the job does. So find confidence in the fact that you know how you feel about this job. You know what I'm saying? You aren't the problem.
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You're not doing anything wrong. You're just showing up to work because right now this is your job and that's totally okay. You are not the CEO of the company. You are not the founder of the company. You are not responsible for what this company does. This is not your weight to bear. So let that go.
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And also understand that this is just a stepping stone in your life, getting you to the next step in your career. This is not your career. This is a stepping stone in your career. Every single person on this planet, I think probably at some point in their lives, work a job that in some way goes against their morals or values.
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Or they work a job that they look back on later and they're like, oh God, that was so bad for my spirit. This is a common part of the career journey. I look back at my career and I have moments like that where maybe I did something that ended up not being right. Maybe went against my morals or whatever. We've all done it. We've all done it. Good luck finding somebody who hasn't.
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I think this is a common challenge. I think... What is valid and true though is like working a job that goes against your morals and values is bad for your spirit, right? It's bad for... That was really spiritual. It's bad for your spirit, the fuck? I sound like a psychic or something. It's really bad for your spirit, baby. Let me pull another tarot.
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And then I pull another one and then... Anyways... Yeah, it just it doesn't make you feel good. So I think to sort of put power back into your hands and to sort of, I don't know, feeling control of the situation, I think just start dedicating a little bit more of your energy to figuring out your next step.
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And sometimes it's so excruciating that I have to make a horrible sound like this. I'll do it for you right now. Are you ready? I have to snort like that because it, for some reason, itches the inner ear and you can't get your finger in there to itch. So like you have to snort. and vibrate your inner ear through the snorting to itch it, it's a catastrophe.
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You know, a current maybe unfavorable situation feels a lot less horrible when you're working towards moving on from it. So I would say focus as much energy as you can right now to figuring out your next step, figuring out how you can leave this job. And it's not going to happen overnight, and that's okay. But just working towards it, I think, is...
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enough to sort of, I don't know, again, I hate to talk about the spirit again. I mean, we're really getting into the spirit, but it will be good for your spirit and your soul to be working on the next step in your career that has nothing to do with this job that sort of goes against your morals and values.
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Next, somebody said, I really want to date, kind of low-key am dating, my ex-boyfriend's best friend. Oh, wow. I'm scared of what other people might think. What do I do? Well, to start, I kind of think that vibe is hot. It is a little messy, but there's something about it that I have fantasized about before. I'm not going to lie.
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After breaking up with every boyfriend I've ever dated, afterwards, I've fantasized about dating their friends. because of how like satisfying you'd be and how angry you would make them. And it's totally petty and it's totally messy, but I've always fantasized about it and you're living my fantasy. So good for you. However, it is a bit complicated, right? It is.
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Listen, even though you might be living my dream, this is still a really complicated situation. I am sort of perplexed by the fact that, like, how are you dating your ex-boyfriend's best friend right now? They can't be best friends. If they were truly best friends, this would not be happening. So something is going on with the friendship and it's not good.
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That friendship, like I think I need to be giving advice to the two boys in that friendship. Not you. Because their friendship sounds a bit corrupt. I think everyone knows that it's not great to date your best friend's ex. To date your acquaintance's ex. To date your friend that you hang out with once a year's ex. It's still a bit messy, but I don't know. It's like whatever.
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It's obviously not ideal. It's a bit uncomfortable. But there's only so many options of who we can date in our... local community, and sometimes things become a bit, I almost used the word incestual, but we do not want to use that word. And that's not even what I mean. Yeah, sometimes you end up sharing. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes you end up swapping. It just happens.
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But best friends, that's not your fault. I don't think you're really doing anything wrong. Once you break up with somebody, you kind of don't owe them anything anymore, you know? And if you end up falling in love with their best friend, it's not, in my opinion, your job to say, well, you know what? That's morally wrong. I'm not, you know, this was my ex-boyfriend.
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You don't really owe anything to your ex-boyfriend anymore. It's up to the best friend of your ex to, to do the right thing in their eyes, right? I really don't think it's your job to handle that situation. However, if I were you, I would sort of see it as a red flag that the guy that you're dating now is best friends with your ex and he's dating you anyway.
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He's not very loyal to your ex, his best friend. You know, that's kind of a red flag to me. It's a sign of his loyalty. And I don't love that. So that's definitely something to keep in mind. However... Maybe you two are soulmates. And like, for whatever reason, the universe put your ex and his best friend into your life as the middleman to bring you together. Like, who am I to say? Right?
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So yeah, I just kind of got over a little allergy attack, but I still feel it. My ears are still itchy. My nose is still itchy. I'm on the verge of a sneeze. It is just a mess, okay? But the show must go on and it will. So with that being said, welcome back to Advice Session. a series here on Anything Goes, where you send in your current dilemmas or anything that you want advice on.
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I think a lot of this depends on how serious these relationships are. You know, how deep is his friendship with your ex? How deep was your relationship with your ex? Right? How deep is your relationship between the two of you? Like, how serious are all of these relationships? Because depending on the severity of each relationship, you know, the morality of the situation sort of changes, right?
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If you two are soulmates, and both of your relationships with your ex and his best friend were not that deep and not that serious or potentially even like deeply flawed or something like that, then it's not that wrong to me. I'm like, that's fine. But if you had a beautiful, beautiful relationship with your ex and like you're still friends and it's like this beautiful thing,
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And, you know, you truly like loved each other and you want to remain friends after and all this. And like the guy that you're dating now, you know, they've been best friends since they were two years old and they've helped each other through life and they had this deep friendship. Then it's like, oh, this is really messy and not great.
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You know, like, I can't safely say that what's happening is necessarily morally right and good. But at the same time, like, it's not really your job, though, to manage their friendship, right? And you don't owe anything to your ex. So let's focus on that perspective. Ask yourself why you're scared of what people might think, because that's what you said. You said,
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These are some of the first words that I've spoken today. Like, I haven't really talked yet today. And you can hear it. Okay, my vocal cords sound shriveled up. And they are. But luckily for me, there's something kind of sexy about it. Like, I kind of have morning voice right now. Like, it's a little raspy. Good morning, baby. Good morning. You know what I mean?
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It's clear to me that you need to check in with your self-esteem and you need to check in with your romantic standards, okay? Because your self-esteem is low and your romantic standards are too low, okay? That's how you got here. That's how you keep getting here, right? First, I think you should check on your self-esteem.
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Okay, which by the way, we should all be doing frequently because similar to our standards, our self-esteem is all over the place. Okay, it's constantly fluctuating. Again, sometimes it's too high. More often, it's too low. And when we're lucky, it falls somewhere in between, right? Goldilocks self-esteem. Holy shit, there I go again. Oh my God.
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another fricking little term that I came up with, another Nobel Peace Prize, lucky me. We should all constantly be checking in on our self-esteem. When your self-esteem is low, you're less critical of your romantic situations, okay? The feeling of reassurance that romance gives you allows you to participate in things that you wouldn't otherwise.
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When your self-esteem is low, somebody being attracted to you feels 50 times better. You're like, oh my God, thank God. Just thank God that somebody likes me. And so I think the first step is to really try to rebuild your self-esteem. And my piece of advice is always to make sure that your self-esteem is being based on the right part of your character.
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It's very challenging to, to keep that in check, but it's crucial. You don't want your self-esteem to be based on your appearance or your
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your success or your romantic prospects okay you want your self-esteem to be based on your character why because that is the most consistent and fulfilling part of you that it can be based on it's also a part of you that you have control over you have control over your character and You don't have control over your appearance. I mean, to an extent you do, but not 100%.
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You don't always have control over your success. A lot of that's out of your control. You don't always have control over your romantic prospects. There are just times when no one around clicks with you. These are all things that are not only surface level, but also... constantly in flux. And so relying on them for your self-esteem is not good.
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The only thing that you have control over that you can always take action and work on and improve on is your character, who you are as a person. what you do for others, how you treat others, your overall impact on the world, big or small. And that's actually really what builds good self-esteem is that. So check in on that self-esteem, okay?
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Because when your self-esteem is in check, your standards that are too low are gonna start slowly but surely rising. But I also think it's important to specifically hone in on your romantic standards. It's clear that your standards for romance are way too low for your own well-being. You want something real, but you're allowing in situations that are not real. Why?
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I constantly have to check up on them because they do have a tendency to go awry. And for me, when my standards become imbalanced, it tends to look a little something like this, okay? My standards for myself, way too high. impossible to achieve. And I'm left feeling disappointed and bad about myself because I could literally win a Nobel Peace Prize and that would still not be enough for me.
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Because your desires and your standards aren't aligned, okay? You're not paying close attention enough to this disconnect to fix it. I think it's important to make a set of rules for yourself when you're dealing with this sort of challenge. So a set of rules for yourself could look a little something like this. Number one, I'm not going to hook up with somebody again until I date them.
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Yeah, it might be challenging. Yeah, it might take a little bit of discipline, but I know that this will help me get back on track. Number two, I won't date somebody unless they meet this criteria and you can list things out. Good listener, outgoing, polite, gets along with my family. Make your own list, okay?
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Number three, I'm not going to participate in anything romantic with anybody for the next six months. I'm only going to try to make friends. Thus, giving myself the time to rebuild my self-esteem. Like there's all these different rules that you can come up with for yourself. But I think it's important to, I don't know, have some sort of set of rules to abide by so that
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You're not just kind of, I don't know, floating through life and just allowing yourself to get into situations that you don't even want to be in. And I think that that can be really helpful. And I think it's particularly important to avoid situationships moving forward because when you're in a situationship, you don't have the availability to find something real.
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Every time you're in a situation ship, you're getting in the way of finding something real because the energy that you're putting towards the situation ship now cannot go towards finding something real. So you're in a lot of ways like spiritually, emotionally unavailable, you know, until you let the situation ships go, you will not find something real.
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So it's very important to set sort of rules for yourself and not allow yourself to fall back into it because otherwise you won't find something real. And I also think moving forward, it's important to communicate with your partners early on. You know, you go on a few dates, things start maybe getting sort of romantic and you're like, I hate to do this, but what the fuck's going on?
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And what do you want from this? Because I really don't want to. I need to know. And it's cringe and it's uncomfortable and it's hard. But it's what you got to do sometimes. Somebody said, I lost respect for a guy that I'm talking to because he has mentioned other girls looks in front of me. Is that unfair? It makes me feel bad.
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In my opinion and experience, if someone's actions negatively impact your perception of them, that's unfortunately out of your control. A lot of our judgments, gut reactions, immediate feelings are out of our control. We can't necessarily... can change our thoughts. Our thoughts just sort of happen, but we can control how we respond to them.
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I say that because I think it's important not to feel bad for the thoughts that we have. So, you know, let go that feeling of guilt. I don't think that that's necessary. In fact, I think our sort of tendency to observe people and judge people and, you know, our intuition and our gut tell us things to protect ourselves, right? Like that's actually in a lot of ways a superpower that we have.
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Does it misfire sometimes? Absolutely. But I think you should shift your feelings of guilt towards feelings of gratitude that your brain and body is having these reactions to protect you. It's for you, you know? It's a mechanism that we have to keep us safe. So I think you're all good there, right? There's no need to feel guilt. However, this is a guy that you're talking to.
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Sounds like you're not dating him yet, but you know, when you're talking to somebody, it's because you might potentially date them. So to deeply analyze them is not a terrible idea at all. I think you should ask yourself why it bothers you. Now, I don't know what he said about another girl. Like, he could have said, her ass looks incredible in those pants. I don't think that that's good.
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I think that's in bad taste. He could have also said, oh, wow, like, that girl's hair just looks beautiful. Maybe, you know, she had like a beautiful... a beautiful blowout or something, or perhaps she just had beautiful hair. Who knows? You know, he could have said, wow, her outfit is really cool. You know, I don't know what he said. Right.
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When my standards for myself are too high, I'm destined for failure. On the other hand, my standards for other people are on the floor. OK, people can walk all over me. They can say mean shit all they want.
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And there's varying degrees of sort of severity, I think. Like, like if he said something romantic or, you know, somewhat sexual in nature about another woman, like, oh, wow. Like, yeah, she's hot. don't love that. I don't love that. I think it's in bad taste and it's disrespectful. I don't think it's nice.
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OK, but saying like, oh, wow, like I really love that girl's outfit or wow, her hair is very beautiful or something less sort of romantic, sexual in nature. See, I think that that's fine. However, that might be a boundary where you're like, Don't look at any other woman. Okay, sure. You know what I mean? I think it's important to ask yourself why it bothers you.
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Does it bother you because it's genuinely disrespectful? He said something romantic and sexual in nature about another woman. That's a little weird. That's a little bit disrespectful. Fair enough. Or did he say something actually just kind of nice about another girl and you're a little bit jealous? Not necessarily because you even need to be jealous. Not because...
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he said anything that should truly threaten you, but because you maybe are struggling with your self-esteem a bit. And that's sort of the problem. And it's really hard to be honest with yourself about this. Like I've had moments in my romantic relationships where something has rubbed me the wrong way.
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You know, like something that a boyfriend has said to me has like kind of pissed me off or like, you know, rubbed me the wrong way. And I've thought about it. And when I really think about it, it's like, I don't think that they're being disrespectful to me. I think I'm insecure. And I think that the girl that he complimented or gave a little bit of attention to somehow taps into my insecurities.
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Maybe, you know, she has something that I don't. Maybe she has, you know, like really cool style, like cooler style than I think I have. Maybe, you know, she's just supernaturally beautiful in a way that I don't think I am, you know, like who knows what it is, right?
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But like, it's important to ask yourself that because the last thing you want to do is start an argument with your significant other over...
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I don't care because my self-esteem is so low from having unrealistically high standards for myself that I don't care how people treat me because I don't feel like I deserve to be treated well because I ultimately hate myself. So that's what tends to happen to me when my standards are imbalanced. But everybody's different. You know, you might have a similar situation.
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something unfair you know and then you end up in a worse position where now you're in a fight and your partner feels confused because they're like i didn't do anything wrong why are you mad at me and it's a mess it's much better to be like fuck that bothered me reflect on it be like i kind of took it too personally clearly i have some insecurity issues and then to go and handle your self-esteem from there you know i already mentioned sort of what to do when your self-esteem is low it's clear that you're holding your self-esteem in your romantic relationship
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in how you're perceived by your partner uh you are putting too much weight on it on that right and that's not good but also there's a chance that this guy truly said something that is not cool and it genuinely bothers you and that's valid as well but you know you can only come to that conclusion once truly asking yourself if you are upset for the right reason you know
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Next, somebody said, I'm thinking of going back to my toxic friend group because I'm just way too lonely. Is that terrible? It is terrible. Do not do it. OK, but also don't be mad at yourself for feeling this way. It is so normal to feel this way. A lot of times when we shed people in our lives that are bad for us, following that is a period of loneliness.
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Because a lot of times toxic people isolate us from other people. And it can be hard to rebuild friendships and relationships outside of the toxic relationships because toxic relationships tend to be isolating. That's not always the case, but more often than not, it is. So it sucks. And even if The relationships weren't particularly isolating.
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It's normal to miss people that we were once close to. Even if they're toxic, it's normal to miss them. So all of the things that you're feeling are normal. They're not terrible. But what would be terrible would be to go back. Why? Well, number one... Obviously, because they were terrible. You left them for a reason. Their impact on your life is not good.
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But number two, this is such an incredible opportunity for growth. Okay. These are the moments in life when you grow, when you're faced with the option of going back to your old ways or emerging from the challenge, a new version of yourself. These are the freaking moments. OK, these are the moments where you truly grow the most.
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And until I realized that and truly felt and experienced the truth of that, it was really hard for me to not revert back to my old ways whenever I felt tempted to. Right. Like if I would end a relationship with a guy that wasn't good for me. Or break a bad habit that was like really comforting for me, but was ultimately bad for me. Or, you know, leave a bad friend group, right?
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Like until I did that, overcame it and came out the other side, a happier stronger person it was really hard to motivate myself to do so but now I know I'm like every time I'm faced with this sort of dilemma like I can go back to my old ways because it's more comfortable and it'll feel better right now or I could push through a little bit longer and grow And then I'm better off forever.
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I'm better off for the rest of my life. You know, like either it's instant gratification or delayed gratification. It's the choice between the two. And almost always delayed gratification is better, right? There are some times when instant gratification is good, right? Like eating a chocolate croissant. That is instant gratification. That feels really good and it tastes really good.
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Eating a balanced breakfast with protein and fiber and healthy fats and all this. That's maybe somewhat gratifying in the moment, but it is in a way delayed gratification because those are things that look really good on your blood panel when you get your blood work done. Right. But at the same time, we need to eat the chocolate croissant. We need that sometimes.
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Your standards for yourself and others might be too high. Your standards for yourself and others might be too low. Your standards for yourself might be low, but for others are high. Everyone's different, right? But we all have in common the struggle to find the balance. And so that's what we're going to be discussing today. And that's what I'm going to be giving you advice on.
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And we should not, you know, OK, I don't know why I brought food into this. That's like a whole other. Oh, God, let's not even go there. Let's not go there. Oh, my God. Sorry. I hit my cat a little bit. Let's not go there. Yeah. Yeah. But you get the idea, right? Like instant gratification is not always bad. And I think that there are moments in our life when we deserve it.
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But I think instant gratification is a bit naughty and we should, you know, limit it. And I think we should always be striving for delayed gratification because it does benefit us in more ways than I think instant gratification does. Growing through this type of challenge changes you as a person forever. Going back to your old ways completely stops your growth in its tracks, okay?
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You're not growing from that. You're going backwards. Now, is it okay to go backwards sometimes? Of course. We all do it, okay? We all go back to the shitty ex. We all go back to the shitty friend group. We all go back to our shitty old habits. It happens sometimes. OK, sometimes you have to go back a few times before you can break the cycle and grow. I've done it. We've all done it.
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OK, but remember in these moments that by getting through it, you are truly like accomplishing something that you will actually be able to benefit from. You will win like you will feel good. You're going to feel better if you wait and you push through. And, you know, that's helpful to say, right?
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And that, you know, gives you a bit of hope and maybe a bit of motivation, but it doesn't get the job done. So in the meantime, focus the energy away from your old friend group and put it towards being social with new people, okay? Start going to a new coffee shop. Start chatting it up a little bit every once in a while with the baristas, okay? Maybe that's your new friend.
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I always use the coffee shop example, but that's because I have a love for that environment, okay? you know, get a new gym membership. Start chatting it up with people next to you on the treadmill. Start chatting it up with people next to you on the weight machine, you know, here and there. Maybe make a friend at the gym. Start taking pottery classes if you want to take pottery classes.
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Start going for walks in your local park and start saying hi to the locals. Like, Put your energy towards putting you into environments where you could perhaps make a friend. Is there a chance that you might not? Absolutely. There's a lot of people that go to the park, they go to the gym, they go to the coffee shop and don't want to talk to you. In fact, I'm one of those people.
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I was actually thinking about this the other day. Like I go to my hot yoga class and every once in a while I'll briefly like for 30 seconds max chat with someone. Because I go there a lot and I see the same people every day and I whatever. But one of my favorite parts about going to hot yoga is that I actually don't talk to anyone. I'm around people. I feel people's presence.
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I don't feel alone, but I'm not talking to these people. And that's my favorite part about it is that I feel the warmth and the comfort of being around a bunch of people. But I also get to weirdly recharge at the same time. And so I don't know. I love that about it. And that might also be something that helps you, right? You might feel a bit lonely and maybe like, I just, I don't know.
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I'm not sure what I'm looking for in a friend, kind of aimless. In the meantime, maybe you just spend time in these environments where other people are hanging out at and you don't even talk to people. You just enjoy the feeling of being around people without being friends. Sometimes that's delightful as well.
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But be patient because it will all be okay and you'll be happy that you stood your ground and you did not go back to that toxic friend group. Okay, moving on. Somebody said, I can't tell if I feel the spark with this new guy I'm talking to, but he's a really good guy. Really with a lot of L's and a lot of Y's. Okay, really good guy.
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Even though, as I just said, I do not have it all figured out. OK, I find myself in a period where my standards are imbalanced every few years. I will say, though, right now I'm in a pretty good place. I would say my standards are pretty balanced. Like, I definitely expect a lot of myself, maybe a little bit too much.
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I'm trying to shift my standards for who I date and he seems like he fits the bill with how he treats me and the kindness he displays. But how do I know if I'm actually attracted to him or if he's just a great guy, but not my great guy? When should I give up? Well, there's a chance that you might be like me and your standards for men in the past were quite low.
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Now, this is not me insulting the men that I dated, right? It's not. It's insulting myself, actually. My standards were very low. OK, how could I expect the guys that I dated in the past to live up to standards that I didn't even share with them? They weren't even aware of. But also my standards were not only just low in the past, but they were also toxic. Okay.
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My standards for men used to be, I only want to date a guy that barely likes me. I want to have to win over this guy. I like guys that are incredibly hard to get, borderline impossible, because the feeling of getting them is so intense, is so exciting, is so explosive that it boosts my self-esteem in a way that nothing else does.
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OK, so not only did I have low standards for like how I was treated, but my standards were also toxic. OK, I wanted to date a guy that was so hard to get that by the time I got them, it felt like I had run six marathons in a row. Like it was the exhaustion, but then the satisfaction. It's drug like. OK, and that's what I used to look for.
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And when your standards are low and toxic, it's really hard for you to date somebody who's good for you. Why? Because someone who likes you, who shows you affection, who is genuinely interested in you, who reciprocates effort and attention are not a challenge. There's nothing to conquer.
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And so the feeling of receiving those wonderful things, attention, affection, romantic interest, pales in comparison to receiving those incredible things from somebody who doesn't really like you, who's hard to get, who's not fully in it. It pales in comparison. And that is so toxic, okay? It's so toxic because it's not that it's not true, right? Like it is true.
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OK, I've experienced both in my life. OK, affection, romantic attention, all of this from guys that do not like me literally or they like me, but like they don't show it a lot. I'm constantly questioning it and they're in and out. You know, they're in and out emotionally. I've experienced that and the excitement that that is.
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And I've experienced a healthy situation where the feelings are just mutual or not even mutual. The feelings are genuine and available. There's no shortage of affection and romantic feelings. And it's just there. And I don't have to fight for it. And I can tell you that nothing pales in comparison to that toxic romantic attention. Like nothing compares. It is truly drug-like.
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But it's not to a point that I can't like, I don't know, find some sort of feeling of achievement. Like I'm putting pressure on myself, but I'm actually able to achieve everything that I'm expecting of myself. So that's good. And when it comes to other people, I would say my standards are pretty balanced right now. I don't think I'm expecting too much, but I'm definitely not allowing myself
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But drugs are not good for you. They're just not. Their potentially most unhealthy part is how good they feel, but how bad they are for you. Like that juxtaposition is the worst part about it, right? It's like if drugs made you feel bad and were just really bad, it'd be like, Well, stay away from those. The problem with drugs is that they feel really good and they're really bad for you.
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That's the problem. So, yeah, you should really give this guy a solid chance. OK, because the only way to sort of grow through that toxic habit of dating guys that don't like you, the only way to get through that is to date a guy that's good for you and is to figure out how to be satisfied with normal romance and normal affection. And you can't do that when you're dating toxic guys.
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You just can't. So I really think you need to give this guy a solid chance. Okay. Give him a solid chance. And I can't define what a solid chance looks like. Unfortunately, like only you can figure that out.
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But I would say, you know that it's not working if you get to a point where you truly feel like you're fooling yourself and this person, you know, where you're like, OK, at this point, it's been, you know, X amount of months, perhaps even a year, perhaps even two years. And I'm just not feeling it. The feelings just never came.
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And at this point, it's starting to feel unfair to them and to me that we're in this situation. And it just feels irresponsible at this point. the likelihood that, you know, it's going to work out is low enough now that it's just, I got to let it go. And that's okay too, right? You might give this guy a chance and really, really give it a solid go. And it just does not work out.
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And there's a chance that He's just not for you. Like, that's totally fine too, right? As long as you gave him a solid chance, you can move forward knowing that you, number one, are taking steps to get over your toxic habits. But number two, that you didn't just jump to conclusions about this person. You actually gave it a try. It didn't work out. And now you know for sure.
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But unless you try it, you'll never know for sure. But now you tried it. So now you know for sure. And it didn't work out. And that's totally fine. And you move forward. And it's not your type of guy. But now you know what it feels like to experience, you know, a really good guy. And so now you know what to look for.
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There's someone out there that has the same traits that this guy has, but is, for whatever reason, more of a click for you. And it is sort of unfortunate how somebody on paper can look like the perfect person for you. You know, they have every single trait that you're looking for. But for some reason, it's just not right. Love and romance is sort of unexplainable. It's almost like cosmic.
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We can try to explain it or, you know, be like, well, you know, this type of person is compatible with this type of person and this and that. bullshit. It just, it just is. Do you know what I'm saying? Like we can't predict. It's almost like it's not up to us. Like the universe has its own sort of plan when it comes to love. And we just don't, we just have to trust that.
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Bad behavior. Bad behavior is is not allowed right now. My standards are too high and good for me because it is much better to have people in your life who respect you. Anywho, my cat is like meowing in the kitchen and it's just it's unbelievable because I fed them 15 minutes ago. I just don't know what the cat could be wanting. And I don't know which of my cats it is. I have one girl and one boy.
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And if something's not working, it's not, but something, if something is working, then it is. But sometimes when it's working, it's because it's toxic and you're feeling explosive feelings of, you know, loss that you can't even explain and you can't That's actually all I have for today. That was today's advice session. And if you enjoyed it, tune into Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday.
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New episodes available anywhere you stream podcasts. But video is on YouTube and Spotify. Anything Goes is on social media at Anything Goes. I'm on social media at Emma Chamberlain. I also am Anything Goes. I don't have a co-host. This is my show. But I also exist at Emma Chamberlain on social media. And I have a coffee company.
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on social media at Chamberlain Coffee and online at ChamberlainCoffee.com and in stores at Target, Sprouts, Whole Foods and more. Go look at the store locator if you want to find a store near you. That's all I got for today. I really appreciate you all listening, hanging out. It was truly, as always, a pleasure. And I don't know, let's just try to find our Goldilocks standards, okay?
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Like, you just got the tingles from that. Anyway, soon my cords will be warmed up. But for now, you get sexy, tingly morning voice from me. So you're welcome. Anyway, welcome back to Advice Session, a series here on Anything Goes, where you send in your current dilemmas or anything that you want advice on, and I give you my unprofessional advice. And today's topic is standards.
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Let's all work together to have Goldilocks standards. Um, I'm waiting for the email from Nobel peace prize foundation or whatever about my creation of the term Goldilocks standards. Can't wait to receive that email. Although I'm really horrible at checking my email. So I probably won't see the email. Okay. I'm done. I'm done. I'm fucking done. I'm done joking around. I'm done. I'm done talking.
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I love you all. I appreciate you all. It's always such a joy to talk and hang out and we'll talk and hang out very soon. All right. Bye.
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I don't know which one it is. Sounds like the boy. Do you hear that? Can I be honest? I need to go check on this cat. It's meowing very loudly. I'll be right back. Okay, I'm back. I checked on the cat and everything seemed completely normal. They have full food bowls. I can't explain it.
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And whenever my cats start meowing out of nowhere, I convince myself that they are seeing a ghost in my house, that there is ultimately a spiritual intruder. And it totally makes me paranoid for the rest of the day. So I'm going to try to distract myself now by giving you advice. So let's just begin. Okay, somebody said, I have high standards in all of my relationships. Romantic, platonic, etc.
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I feel like they're too much for most friends and loved ones to live up to. Should I hold my standards anyway? Okay. I feel like most people tend to look at low standards as the most dangerous, the most negative. And they tend to dismiss the potential dangers of having standards that are too high.
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Now, it's clear that you're concerned about your own standards and you're starting to question if they're too high. I'm just saying as a society, we tend to see standards that are too low as being worse than standards that are too high. And to be honest, I think both are equally as dangerous. OK, when your standards are too low. You'll let people walk all over you.
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You know, your quality of relationships will suffer because you just kind of let anyone in. And a lot of times that lowers your self-esteem because you have people around you who are not of high quality. You don't respect them. They don't inspire you. They don't respect you. You don't inspire them. It's just like a net negative situation.
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And you allow it because you don't have high enough standards to put a stop to it. But on a personal level, when your standards are too low... You just won't achieve to the level that you could otherwise. And that's a shame because you're capable of a lot of magic. And when your standards are too low for yourself, you oftentimes don't have the drive to make shit happen.
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And so you're not functioning at the highest level. And we should all be striving to... function at the highest level. Right. So, yeah, it's very clear that having standards that are too low is not good, bad, detrimental. But I would argue that having standards that are too high are almost equally as dangerous just for very different reasons.
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And again, there's a lot of people who are aware of this, but there's also a lot of people who aren't. When your standards are too high in friendships and relationships, nobody ever can live up to your expectations, which leads you to disappointment and leads you to creating a dynamic with your friends and loved ones where they constantly feel inadequate in your eyes.
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They constantly feel like they just can't win with you. And at a certain point, they're going to get exhausted. Like, I just can't keep up with the expectations of this person. I don't know if I can do it anymore. And it sort of becomes this doomed situation of like either the people in your life are going to leave you because they just can't live up to your expectations.
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And the feeling of disappointing you is really challenging for them. So they'd rather just not be friends with you at all, not date you at all. not be around you at all, whatever. Or your expectations are so high that you're constantly disappointed with your loved ones and you're the one to cut them off. But that's usually how that story ends. Isolation.
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If no one can live up to your standards, then you will be alone. Because unfortunately, Nobody out here is perfect. In fact, we're all very far from perfect. And I challenge you to find someone who doesn't frustrate you, who doesn't fall short sometimes. Good fucking luck. It's just the way that it is.
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And we should have high enough standards for ourselves that the people in our lives have a positive impact on our lives. But we can't take it to an extreme where we're expecting so much positive from these people that we end up creating a big negative. And when your standards are too high for yourself, oh my God, so many bad things happen. You psych yourself out.
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Our standards are complicated, right? Because they're constantly fluctuating. Sometimes our standards are too high. Sometimes they're too low. And when we're lucky, sometimes they fall somewhere in between. Not too high, not too low, just right. Goldilocks standards. But as much as we all strive to have Goldilocks standards, which is, I think, a term I just came up with.
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You get mental blocks because you're so afraid of failure. You're so afraid of wasting time. You're so afraid of not using your time efficiently. You're so afraid of not being productive. You're so afraid of people judging you. You're so afraid of judging yourself. that you end up frozen. You don't even know what to do.
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You don't even know how to start because there are so many daunting thoughts in your head. When you do accomplish something, you don't get any feelings of satisfaction because your expectations for yourself are so high that you could never possibly accomplish enough to satisfy those standards, to reach those standards. And your self-esteem just absolutely plummets. Listen, you get the point.
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extremes on both ends are equally as bad. The reason I bring this up is because I think a lot of people are aware of the dangers of low standards, but are less aware of the dangers of high standards. Because I think in our society today, if you will, high standards are sort of promoted and praised.
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I see dating advice online, for example, that consists of people sitting there and saying, if your significant other doesn't buy you flowers every day, cook your breakfast every day, make your coffee every morning, give you a back rub every night, only say nice things to you, only give you a gentle little kiss on the nose, have sex with you every single day and have a really well-paying job and you never have to, then drop them.
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If they don't have all that, drop them. I can't tell you how many times I've seen advice like that. Being like, come on people, we need to higher our standards. There are definitely a good chunk of people out there that end up raising their standards too high when they hear that advice. There are also people out there who just naturally have
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sort of dangerously high standards and I think it's hard to keep it in check when no one's telling you that that's potentially a dangerous thing and oh my cats are fighting now are you guys kidding me like I'm just I I can't get through anything with you guys around okay
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So I'd say once you are aware of sort of the gravity of the dangers of having standards that are too high, you can properly analyze your own. But I think until you see it as something that can be potentially dangerous, you're not going to be as critical of your high standards. Because there's a lot of noise telling you that having high standards is a good thing. It's a power move. It's girl boss.
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It's strength. It's girl boss, it's boy boss. You know what I'm saying? Whatever. But it's boss. You want to have high standards, right? So step one is to realize that it can be potentially dangerous. And step two is to reflect on your standards. And this is how I personally would do it, okay? I'd ask myself a series of questions and see what my answers are.
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Question number one, are my loved ones genuinely hurting me in some way? Like, am I questioning if my standards are too high because no one's living up to my expectations and it's really disappointing? Or like, are multiple people in my life actually hurting me? And that's why I'm questioning my standards, because I'm like, wow, it seems like
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Everyone's disappointing me because everyone's hurting me. Do you see what I'm saying? Like, are the people in your life hurting you genuinely? I think that's an important first question to ask. And if the answer is yes, then that means, no, I don't think your standards are too high. I think you have some challenging characters in your life that you might need to reevaluate.
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But if the answer is no, and the people in your life are not genuinely hurting you, they're just not living up to your expectations. They're not perfect listeners or they're not perfectly attentive 24-7 or, you know, they sometimes have moments where they lash out a little bit or, you know, like little things that everyone struggles with, right?
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Did I just come up with that? Goldilocks standards? Has anyone ever said that? OK, nominate me for a Nobel Peace Prize. That's actually incredible. That's beautiful. Wow. Very excited and inspired. Thank you. Moving on. It's very challenging to maintain balance.
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If it's stuff like that, okay, then maybe you should continue questioning a little bit more. The next thing I'd ask myself would be, am I communicating my standards? Am I even bringing this stuff up? Because you can't expect the people in your life to read your mind.
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And I get sometimes that there's sort of this feeling of like, well, if you really knew me, then you would know that this is what's important to me. I'm sorry. That is unrealistic. You need to communicate your standards. We are all different in so many ways. And you can't expect other people to know exactly what you want at all times.
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And so if you're not communicating, then you can't necessarily expect that from others. Can you expect... basic respect, basic kindness, basic levels of communication? Absolutely. But you can't expect people to perfectly meet your standards because those are very specific to you. And if the people in your life don't know what those standards are, they cannot live up to them.
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So ask yourself, are you communicating these things? If you are, okay, great. Well then, they're aware and they're either choosing not to put the effort in to live up to those standards or they literally can't and it's impossible. And so that's something you need to ask yourself.
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If the answer is no and you're not communicating, okay, well, you need to start out by communicating with your loved ones what your standards are, okay? Because they can't live up until you tell them. So my piece of advice then is to go and communicate and then give it another few months and see what happens and then come back to this.
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But again, if you are communicating, okay, well then now there's more thinking to do. Now you need to sort of analyze, all right, what percentage of my loved ones are actually able to live up to these standards? You know, is it 50-50? Is it 90-10? What are we working with here?
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If majority of your loved ones are not living up to your standards and they're not hurting you, your standards are too high. They're just simply too high. Oh, we have a cat. You're all wrapped up in my cords, buddy. All good. Okay.
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But then again, if there's sort of a small chunk of your loved ones who aren't living up to your expectations and everyone else is able to do it, then maybe you wanna hone in on those people and see what the problem is. And maybe it's less about your standards and more about their compatibility with your standards, right? And you wanna maybe figure out some sort of workaround.
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And then from there, I think the last question to ask yourself is, could you live up to your own standards? If you were friends with yourself, if you were dating yourself, Would you live up to your own expectations? If your expectations for others are really that high, chances are you wouldn't be able to live up. And that's something that's important to be aware of. So anyway, let's move on.
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with our standards to find that state of Goldilocks standards, because there are a bunch of variables in our lives that directly impact our standards. And those variables are constantly changing, evolving, fluctuating. And as a result, our standards are all over the place. You know, I know for me, I constantly have to keep my standards in check.
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Somebody said, I keep getting into situationships and I'm tired. How do I find something real? okay, this is going to sound really harsh, but I can promise you that it's not. I'm saying it with love. And this is something that I've struggled with before too. Okay. So like, don't feel offended. Okay. Let's not get offended today. We're, we are in a safe space here. Okay. Let's not get offended.
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Probably about a year ago now, I woke up one day and I decided, you know what? I think I'm ready. I think I'm ready to embark on the journey to quitting nicotine. After six years of addiction, about a year ago, I woke up and decided, you know what? I think I'm ready to embark on the journey to quitting.
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Like if Cheez-Its came out with like a new Cheez-It, like Kate always had them. Like Kate always had cool stuff. And I remember one day, Kate came into history class And I saw her sucking on something. And we were friends. So I went up to her and I was like, what is that? And she gave me one. She's like, it's a coffee Rio. I was like, what's that? She's like, it's like a coffee flavored candy.
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I got it at the candy store. And there was like a candy store that was, you know, like a 15 minute walk from our school. And I was like, oh, okay. I remember I tried it and it tasted like, okay, if you were to combine like a Frappuccino, like a Starbucks Frappuccino,
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and a Tootsie Roll and then make it a little bit harder, like a Jolly Rancher, like a little bit like texture in between a Jolly Rancher and a Tootsie Roll. So like kind of hard, but not as hard as a hard candy Jolly Rancher, right? And it tastes like a Frappuccino. It's like sweet, milky coffee, right? And you suck on it. It's like that, okay? Like it's maybe an inch and a half long, whatever.
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I became obsessed, okay? And immediately after school ended that day, I walked down to the little candy store. And I bought an entire, this candy store was like a bulk candy store. Like you could buy stuff in bulk. So they had all these different bins and you could like fill up a bag. So I went over and I filled up a massive bag filled with the Coffee Rios. Okay, they're called Coffee Rios.
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And for years, like for like probably the rest of middle school, I was constantly sucking on these. I was obsessed with them. And I actually have some at my house right now. I ordered them again online. I found them online somewhere. and bought them. They're kind of rare. Like you don't see them around, but they're so good. Oh my God. They're so good. Like even today they hold up.
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They're fucking delicious. But that wasn't my only middle school oral fixation. Okay. Another discovery that I happened to discover was From Kate. I don't know. Kate was an influencer, to be honest. Kate was influencing. Another oral fixation that came from Kate was one day she came to school and she had a sore throat. Okay. And she brought cough drops to school.
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Now, as we know, I already had a cough drop obsession earlier in my life. It was the cherry cough drops. Okay. Kate brought to school a cough drop that I had never seen before. This was, I believe it was the Halls brand menthol minty cough drop. And I was like, huh. what's that? She was like, it's so minty. And I remember like smelling her breath and it was so minty.
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And I was like, like she was talking to me and I could like, it was just wafting out of her mouth, the smell of this like insane mint menthol. And I was like, oh my God, can I try one? She was like, of course. Once again, Kate influencing me. I became obsessed with With the menthol cough drop, I was more obsessed with the coffee Rio candy, but I also absolutely loved the menthol cough drop.
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It was like a refreshing alternative because like the coffee Rio was, you know, it's coffee. It like was kind of rich, you know, whereas the menthol cough drop was refreshing, refreshing. Next, we have some oral fixations that actually my dad and I both share. We both loved these. These were things that we enjoyed together. Number one, Sean White gum.
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Close your eyes and go back to 2013 for a minute and remember the Sean White gum. It was like a sweet mint gum by the brand Stride, I think. And it was a collab with Sean White and Sean White's face was on it. And I wasn't even into winter sports, okay, at all. I don't know why we tried the Sean White collab gum. We didn't even really know who Sean White was.
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But my God, did we love his gum collab. Wow, wow, wow, it was good. It was good. And we chewed that gum every day on the way to school for years and years and years. We'd be driving to school and we would be just chewing on that Shawmite gum. And you know what else we would have? Classic peppermint Lifesavers. Okay. The Lifesaver sucker mints. Okay.
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And those were nice because I could actually bring those with me to school and have them with me at school. And it was allowed because gum was not allowed at school. Okay. So I'd have to spit it out when I got there. But the Lifesavers, I could absolutely have at school.
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And those were all great, but definitely like, I can't express to you, all of these different oral fixations were not just like little things I'd enjoy here and there. Or like things that I would use, you know, for like a functional purpose. Like I wasn't sucking on the cough drops because my throat hurt, right? I wasn't chewing gum or sucking on the mints because my breath was a bit sour.
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No, no, no. You know, I wasn't popping an occasional coffee Rio candy for funsies. I wasn't having an occasional like these were all like oral obsessions. And they all sort of have a through line in a way like they were really interesting to my palate. And they, all of them weirdly brought me peace in one way or another. Like they all sort of served some sort of weird emotional purpose.
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You know, like the ones that I'd enjoy in class made me feel, you know, less anxious at school. You know, the stuff that I'd have at home would help me decompress after potentially an anxious day. Like, I don't know. It just makes sense to me. And then I got a little bit older and I started enjoying orange Tic Tacs. Okay. I don't really know when it started.
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Wait, the orange... I just remember... Hold on. I just had an insane flashback and I have to share it, but I don't even know if it's accurate. I thought that the orange Tic Tacs started when I was older, but I just realized that they actually might have started in elementary school. So when I was like literally five, six years old, I actually think...
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Someone had orange Tic Tacs in elementary school and gave me one. And I'm now remembering it. And I think that they said that they got it from church or something. They had gotten orange Tic Tacs from their church. This is such a weird memory. I can't remember it. Anyway. So now I'm realizing that I liked orange Tic Tacs when I was like five years old.
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I was still sucking my thumb then, but apparently I liked orange Tic Tacs then too. But when I got a bit older, I always had orange Tic Tacs in my car because I absolutely loved them. So that was something that sort of came back for me. I wasn't really addicted to them though when I was like five years old. I think I just liked them and then it became more of like an obsession later on.
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Now let's get to the dirty stuff, okay? After I was done with school and I was an adult living in the real world, even though I wasn't really an adult, I was still kind of a teenager, we started with the nicotine, okay? We started with the nicotine. And I was just absolutely doomed from the start.
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I was so made for nicotine addiction because all forms of nicotine, cigarettes, vape, nicotine pouches, Even like dip, chew, all that stuff. Not that I'm dipping, but I've never even tried that. But all of that is very oral, right? And it's also, so it's like, not only is it oral, but it also is chemically addictive because of the nicotine. I was fucking doomed from the start.
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I never, ever should have even tried it. But I did. And it's funny because actually when I first tried it, I remember I first tried the vape when I was actually in high school and all my friends started to get jewels. If you remember the jewel vape, you know, the chic little black one, right? You all know what a jewel is. A jewel, right? everyone started using the Juul.
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Okay, it was like very popular. But at that time, I was very against it. I was like, I'm never gonna smoke. That's disgusting. I would never do that. You know, when you're young, you find these things foul. And then a lot of times you grow out of it and then you grow to love them. Like I thought drinking was foul when I was in middle school. I was like, I would never drink.
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That is so like bad for you. And then by like, I don't know, the third month of freshman year, I was like getting drunk. You know what I mean? And it was the same thing with nicotine and vape at first. I was like, I'm not trying that. I'm not trying that. But I remember some of my friends started to get Juuls and then other of them started to get like box vapes, like the big, you know, box vape.
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This journey has taught me a lot, a lot about myself, a lot about addiction. I've learned a lot, but I'd say through it all, the most significant thing that I learned was was how truly intense my oral fixation is. Okay, I knew I had an oral fixation. I sucked my thumb as a kid, I love the vape, the vape is like a pacifier for me, like, you know, calms me down or whatever.
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And I remember my friends who had box vapes, they actually didn't have... nicotine juice in there. It was like nicotine free. And I remember trying it and thinking it was kind of fun and I would hit the vape in the car and it didn't have any nicotine. And then eventually I tried the Juul and I hated it because it didn't, I don't know, it didn't taste as good.
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Like the really sweet like box vape was much more like yummy and fun. So, you know, and that didn't have nicotine in it. So I was like less afraid of it. And in high school, I never got into it. And everybody around me was using them. Everyone was addicted and I wasn't. And then again, I moved out. moved to LA, and that's when I got addicted. I think I was under a lot more stress.
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I think I was having a hard time. I was working really long hours, which sounds insane. It's like, Emma, you're a fucking YouTuber. Shut the fuck up. I get it. But my YouTube videos used to take like fucking 30 hours to edit. And because I, you know, they were really complicated edits and it was a really grueling process.
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And I would have a hard time sitting and editing for like eight hours straight, which now that I'm older, I have less of a hard time with. But when I was like, I don't know, 17, it was a bit harder for me, 17, 18. So the vape really helped me. Yeah. So I got super addicted to the vape, specifically the Juul, specifically mango Juul pod. Do we all remember the mango Juul pod?
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Listen, I don't think anyone should vape. I scream from the fucking rooftops. Nicotine is the devil. Don't touch it. But my God, I close my eyes and I think back to the mango Juul pod and I shed a small fucking tear. Okay. Small fucking tear falls down my cheek because I think about the mango Juul pod. I think about the flavor.
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I think about the flavor and I remember the sweet, sweet memories of my teenage years. I fucking loved the mango jewel pot, but they did discontinue it. Why? Because children like me were using them. Okay. Children like me. Wow. Isn't that just poetic? And I remember being like, why the fuck are they banning them? Like kids aren't even using them.
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Like it's, it's like people like me, like teenagers. It's like, yeah, you're the reason why they're banning them, idiot. Anyway, so it was so funny. For majority of my vaping career, if you will, I was underage and it was always such a grind to get Juul pods. It was a fucking grind. I had to rely on others or get sneaky with it. It was complicated, but I made it happen. I made it happen. And
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You know, for many years, I was very addicted to the vape and I didn't ever even really try to quit. It was just sort of a part of my routine. And, you know, I used various different types. I used the Juul for a long time on and off. I also used disposable ones that are probably worse for you than the Juul. I mean, the Juul is bad enough. It's all bad for you.
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But like the disposable ones that have like, that are coming like bright colors and like crazy flavors, those are literally, those are radioactive, you guys. We have to stop using those. Let me tell you. I mean, they're absolutely incredible. They're delicious. But I mean, we cannot, we must stop using them. And now they're coming out with the vapes that have like the screen on the side.
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If you know what I'm talking about, it's insane, you guys. We have to stop. But I've tried it all. My favorite was always the Juul. But eventually, I got to a point where I was like, all right, I need to stop. I feel like this is truly unhealthy. But I literally tried to quit vaping for one day, and I had such an insane mental breakdown that I was like, I can't do this. And so I got into the Zin.
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And the Zin is like a nicotine pouch. And for a long time, I absolutely loved the Zin. It was like... It, to me, didn't feel as unhealthy. Do not take that as fact, okay? I don't want all of the ear, nose, and throat doctors, I guess just for the sake of the throat, but I don't want the ear, nose, and throat doctors to be like, uh, excuse me, or I guess it would be dentist or gum doctor, right?
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Anyway, I don't need doctors being like, Emma Chamberlain is spreading false information. She's saying that the nicotine pouches are healthier than the vape. No, it's not. They're all bad. I know they're all bad. But to me, I was like, all right, I'm letting something sit in my mouth versus inhaling something all the time like this must be better. This must be healthier.
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Like, I knew I had an oral fixation. But I didn't know how severe and intense and extreme it was until I embarked on this journey to quitting nicotine. And then I had months at a time where I didn't have any nicotine and the oral fixation didn't go away. The nicotine, I was able to quit for months at a time. The oral fixation has yet to waver, okay?
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And I felt like I was getting the buzz from the nicotine. I was really happy with that. And I honestly was like, I don't think I'm ever going to quit nicotine now. I love these so much. And they feel so much healthier. How could these be bad? How could they be wrong? I'm not inhaling anything. It can't be bad.
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But then I went through a breakup and the breakup was tough and I needed some happy chemicals in the brain. So I started juuling again. I got a new juul. And then I juuled for probably like another six months. And then I was like, all right, enough's enough. Like, you know, I started to get really bad health anxiety again about it. And I was like, I shouldn't be doing this anymore.
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So then I went back to the Zin. And then in California, they banned the flavored Zin. And I was like, God damn it. Now what? And I was kind of faced with that dilemma of like, now what? And that's when I sort of woke up and decided I need to figure something else out.
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And I actually forgot to mention, there was a brief moment before I found the Zin where I tried Nicorette gum, which is like nicotine gum. And I just wanted to say that I hated it. I didn't mention it earlier because it never really became... like a consistent part of my routine. But I tried it and I absolutely hated it. It didn't work for me.
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But anyway, so yeah, I ultimately got to the point where I was like, it's being discontinued in California. Like I'm not going to be able to find it. But then also like, I shouldn't be doing this shit anyway. And like, it's probably better if I just quit. And so that was when I came to the conclusion that I was ready to embark on the journey to quitting nicotine.
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And that sort of unleashed a whole new wave of oral fixations. I went cold turkey this time. You know, in the past, like when I would quit vaping, I would go to the Zin. But this last time that I decided I was going to quit, I didn't have that. It was just like, all right, I guess... I guess that's it. And so I was really, really desperate for oral fixations. So first I started with gum, okay?
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And I was just buying like the average gum that we all know and love, okay? Like... We all know the big brands. My particular favorite was Ice Cube's Ice Breakers. That was the absolute best. But I also had a moment with the, I believe it was the brand Extra, and it was like Extra Mint Medley.
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It was like Mint Medley and it came in like, you know, a little, instead of coming in like a cardboard-ish sort of little pack, it came in a plastic box and it was like these kind of crunchy on the outside, chewy on the inside, like minty sort of squares. It's kind of similar to an ice breakers ice cube, except it was hard on the outside and the flavor was a bit different. I don't know.
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Anyway, so I really enjoyed those gums. I also bought Sour Patch Kid flavored gum. I was just buying gum left and right. And for a really long time, I was chewing gum, like two months of chewing gum. And But I started to notice that I was getting really extreme stomach pain, like really bad, really, really bad. And I... Yeah, I knew what it was from.
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And I say embark on the journey to quitting instead of just quitting because unfortunately, nicotine is a little bit too addictive to just wake up one day and decide to quit, okay?
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It was from the aspartame, which is the artificial sweetener in gum. It's really hard on the stomach. And it's not particularly a loved ingredient, right? People who are health conscious do not like aspartame. It's kind of like the mass artificial sweetener. They use it in Diet Coke. And it's not good for your gut. It's not healthy, right?
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And there's constantly articles about how bad it is for you. And I've seen some things about people saying it might be a carcinogen, but I haven't seen anyone confirm that. But I think it's banned in some places. It's definitely not a great ingredient. And it makes sense. Anything that's that sweet but doesn't contain any sugar, there's got to be a catch.
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We don't get anything for free in this life. So anyway, I experienced the catch, okay? And that was that it destroyed my gut, okay? In the beginning, when I first started chewing gum, it was fine.
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I thought that I was addicted to nicotine for nicotine, right? Wrong, no. I think more than I'm even addicted to nicotine, and I'm really addicted to nicotine, I'm addicted to having an oral fixation, okay? Now, if you don't know what an oral fixation is, don't worry, I Googled it for you. An oral fixation is an unhealthy, obsessive behavior that involves the mouth.
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But eventually, after chewing, like literally, I kid you not, a piece from the time that I woke up to the time I went to sleep, like replacing the pieces every hour, probably chewing like 20 pieces of gum a day. Okay, maybe not, maybe like 12 to 15, but like a lot of gum, okay?
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I think the aspartame eventually just like fucked with my stomach or maybe like I, I don't know what happened, but something bad really started to happen and I started to get insanely painful gut issues. Like I started getting horrible cramps on a daily basis that were so bad that I literally got to a point one day where I was like, I cannot, like this cannot happen again tomorrow.
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And so I was faced with the decision, like, what now? And so I started chewing aspartame-free gum. And that actually fixed the problem. My stomach wasn't hurting anymore, but guess what? Guess what started to happen? I was chewing so much gum, I started to get jaw pain, okay? And I also started to notice facial puffiness. And I was like, what is going on?
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Like my face started to look puffy and my like jaw was looking bloated. And I was like, you would think if I was chewing gum all day that my jaw would be like sharp, like it would be like insane, like the sharpest jawline anyone's ever seen. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. It made my face look very round and bloated. And it was not good. I wasn't sure if that was what it was from.
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And so I just kept chewing gum and my jaw progressively started to get worse and worse. And then I went into my orthodontist for like a routine sort of checkup because I'm doing Invisalign on my bottom teeth. I'm doing braces for the thousandth, millionth time. And I was talking to her about how I've been chewing a lot of gum.
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She was like, oh God, you might get TMJ, which is like some sort of jaw condition that you can get from chewing too much gum. And I think I started to get that. Yeah. Not only that, but the aspartame-free gum wasn't that good anyway. It did the trick, but it lost flavor very quickly. And that was kind of frustrating. I was having to put in a new piece constantly.
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And also, gum is tough because you have to spit it out somewhere. And sometimes I didn't know where to spit it. Like, I got to the point where I was like, the brand of gum that I was using came in like these little bags and I would always keep an extra one of the bags, like an extra empty one of the bags in my purse as well.
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And I'd spit the old gum into the empty bag and then grab new gum out of the full bag. Do you see what I'm saying? Yeah. But people really found that disgusting. People who were close to me. I wasn't like spitting the gum out in front of strangers, like at a meeting. But like my loved ones were like, Emma, what the fuck are you doing?
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Like you're chewing gum all day long, spitting it into that little bag. Like it's really just weird. And the jaw pain got so bad. I was like, fuck this. What, what, like, I just need my oral fixation for the love of God. Where is it?
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And then I found my recent obsession, my recent oral fixation, which is the brand... I've talked about these before on the podcast, so I'm sorry that I sound like a broken record. The Pure brand, aspartame-free... tangerine tango mints. Okay, these are just absolutely incredible. They remind me of the orange Tic Tac that I mentioned earlier, but they don't have aspartame in it.
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They don't hurt my stomach yet. They're my current obsession. The only problem with them is that sometimes they make my mouth raw because I literally suck on them all day long. But so far, they're pretty reliable. And I just, I have one in my mouth all day long. I literally have the little tin with me of the little orange mints all day long. I order them on bulk on Amazon.
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I'm absolutely eating them all day long. Like when I'm working, when I'm doing everything, I cannot leave the house without them.
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If I leave the house without them, I get anxious in the same way that I felt when I used to leave the house without the jewel in the same way that I used to feel when I would go on a trip and forget Biggie Big, my stuffed animal, which literally never even happened because I couldn't go a night without Biggie Big, my stuffed animal. And so that is my current obsession.
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In addition to another oral fixation, one that I have not discussed yet, that is my new obsession as of the last week and a half, two weeks. Okay. And that is minty flavored toothpicks. People have been recommending like flavored toothpicks, cinnamon toothpicks, mint toothpicks, nicotine toothpicks. They actually have nicotine toothpicks for years.
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It can manifest as nail biting, thumb sucking, overeating, or smoking. It can be caused in infancy. Oral fixations can develop in babies who don't receive enough oral stimulation during infancy. It can also be caused by underlying psychological issues. Oral fixations can be a way to cope with stress, anxiety, or distress. I'm very anxious, so that definitely checks out.
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And I've always been like, why would I want to chew on a toothpick? Do I look like a fucking cowboy? Do I look like a douchebag? Do you like, I don't want to chew on a toothpick. But actually somebody in my life who also on and off quits nicotine, uses it again, quits whatever, was like, try this toothpick. And I was like, all right, why not?
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Tried the toothpick, obsessed, ordered so many of them, obsessed with them, absolutely popping the toothpick. Now I switch between, I always either have a mint in my mouth or a toothpick. The only time I don't, I'm not even kidding, is when I record this podcast. Otherwise, I have a toothpick in my mouth. I'll tell you a funny story about the toothpick.
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So as you all know, I'm obsessed with hot yoga right now. I talk about it every episode. It's so embarrassing and so cringe. It's like, who fucking cares, Emma? Like, shut the fuck up. But I love yoga. And like two days ago, I was going to a 9am class and... On the way there in the car, I had a toothpick in my mouth and I kind of forgot.
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And so I walk into class and I check in, whatever, and I go into the room for the class and I'm sitting there on my mat, fully ready for class, like in my yoga clothes, okay? Like ready to go. And I still have my toothpick in my mouth and I was like, oh, that's kind of funny. I forgot to take it out, but it's still minty and the class hasn't started yet. So I'm just going to chew on it.
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And then I start chatting with somebody in there who I actually hadn't chatted with before and And she was like, okay, so it's 9am and you're chewing on a toothpick? Like, what is going on? Like, you look cool, I guess, but like, what's going on? And I was like, oh, totally. And then I realized how fucking douchey it looks. I'm in yoga, in my like yoga clothes. And I have a toothpick in my mouth.
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And I'm like, like, what's happening? Anyways, loving the toothpick, though. It's incredible. It's absolutely incredible. And, you know, I'm going to put in a toothpick after this. Oh man, I have one sitting right here. I might even put one in now. It is so freaking good, the toothpick. Yum. Oh my God. Yum. Little minty toothpick.
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You know, and the thing that's funny about the toothpick too is that it actually does, it kind of does look cool. Like it is douchey, but I have to take it out of my mouth because you can hear that it's in my mouth, but it's a bit douchey, but it's kind of fucking cool. I don't know. There's something cool about it. So I'm kind of loving it.
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Anyway, so aspartame free orange flavored mints and minty toothpicks are my oral fixations of today. Do I think I'll ever grow out of this? I don't know. I don't know. It's interesting, too, because like I also started drinking. This is another oral fixation.
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My apple cider vinegar in sparkling water drink that I've drank throughout my life on and off because my mom used to give it to me when I'd have a tummy ache. And I actually just grew to like it and liking the flavor. So I've on and off drank it throughout my life. For the last, I don't know, probably year, since my nicotine quitting journey started, I've been drinking that more.
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And I think it's because that also is sort of an oral fixation. It's super sour. The vinegar is super sour. And it's like something satisfying for my mouth. That's actually another one. I've talked about that a lot as well. That's another sort of obsession of mine. And I think it weirdly makes sense. I have a coffee company. Why?
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Not randomly, but because since I was a teenager, I've absolutely adored always having a coffee. I love having a coffee. I love that it's bitter. It's interesting for my brain. Obviously, it also is caffeine, so I love caffeine. I'm not anti-caffeine. And I mean, thank God for that because again, I have a coffee company.
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It can also be caused by conditions like ADHD and autism. People with ADHD or autism may have oral fixations as a way to calm anxiety, focus, or channel excess energy. I have yet to be diagnosed with ADHD or autism, but people on the internet like to tell me all the time that I am both and have both. So there's a chance. Anywho, that's a little bit about oral fixations. Okay.
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If I had a coffee company and I was anti-caffeine or I grew to become anti-caffeine, that would be bad. I'm not anti-caffeine. I actually don't think caffeine is bad as long as you are responsible about your intake, which I am and we should all be. But But yeah, like, I don't know.
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I think my love of like certain beverages, like I love fun beverages because I love sipping on something that's like fun and interesting. I don't know. I think it all makes sense now. You know, like so many little things that I've loved over the years make so much sense to me now because of this sort of realization that I have the worst oral fixation out of anyone possibly on the planet.
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But you know, there's something kind of sweet about it. Like there's something kind of charming about the fact that like I always leave a trace because of my oral fixation. Let me explain. Like when I used to be obsessed with the cough drops or the coffee Rios, I was always leaving the little wrappers around.
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Or when I got a little older and I was vaping, I would always leave jewel pods, like empty jewel pods around. Like you'd find them in my bed and in my pockets and and in my car and everywhere. And then when I was using the Zin, I would fucking spit the Zin everywhere in my car. Oh my God, this was something that was so bad. People hated this about me. People meaning my loved ones.
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I used to think it was funny when I was driving... No. Oh, my God. Why do I tell stories like this? This is the type of stuff where then you guys judge me and bring it up for the next year and say that I'm disgusting. When I was driving, I used to think it was funny to spit the Zin, which was like a little nicotine pouch that I would put under my lip against my gums, right?
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I would spit it and try to get it to stick. to my passenger side door window sometimes. I just thought it was funny. Like it was like a funny challenge to see if it would stick. It's disgusting. It's so immature. I'm sorry. But anyway, there was always zins everywhere, like little zin pouches in my pocket, you know, in my hair, in my bed.
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Like my mom would like fucking be like, Emma, are you kidding me? And she like, I would like give her a gift or something or like buy her groceries. And there's like a zin in the bag. It was just everywhere. With the gum, I constantly was spitting gum out. It was like my little thing. And now with the minty toothpicks, everywhere I go, there's just minty toothpicks all over everywhere.
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They're in my car. They're in my shoes somehow. How'd they get there? I don't know. But there is something kind of charming about how I always leave a trace because of my oral fixation. You know what? It could be worse. I'm excited for the day that comes when maybe I don't need any of this. I don't crave any of this. I don't want to hit a vape. I don't want to pop a Xanin.
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I don't need a minty toothpick. I'm excited for that day to come, but my God, has it not come yet? And in the meantime, I'm going to enjoy my minty toothpicks and my aspartame-free orange mints in peace. And you know what? At least it's not nicotine. I don't think that these things are going to kill me. So that's better. You know, that's better.
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Anyway, that was the overly detailed list of every oral fixation I've ever had in my entire life. And I hope that you enjoyed it. And if you did, don't worry. New episodes of Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday. I'll be back. Okay, we can hang out again if you want. And you can also find Anything Goes on social media at Anything Goes.
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And you can also watch on YouTube and on Spotify and listen anywhere you stream podcasts. And you can also find me on social media at Emma Chamberlain. And you can also find my coffee company at ChamberlainCoffee.com or at Chamberlain Coffee on... Oh, the toothpick's falling out of my mouth. At Chamberlain Coffee on social media.
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And at a grocery store near you, perhaps, if you live near a Target or a Sprouts or an Albertsons or a Whole Foods or something, check the store locator on chamberlandcoffee.com to see if we're in a store near you. And that's it. That's all I have for today. A little trip down memory lane through the lens of my oral fixation. What a beautiful, beautiful way to take a trip down memory lane.
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And I'm not going to lie. I might have the worst oral fixation problem I've ever seen. Okay. I've never met someone who has as much of an oral fixation problem. Okay. And people in my life are like, girl, what is wrong with you? Like you really have an oral fixation problem. So it's not just like me self-diagnosing myself with a problem. Other people in my life are aware of it as well.
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I wonder what it'd feel like to not have an oral fixation. I may never know. All right. That's all I have for today. It was truly a pleasure as always. I absolutely love hanging out with you all. It's truly a joy for me and I hope it's a joy for you and I love you and I appreciate you and I'll talk to you in a few days. Oh my God, I'm just absolutely devouring my little toothpick right now.
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So delicious. I wish you guys could have this tooth, share this toothpick with me. Not this exact one, but I wish we could just sit together and have toothpicks together. So good. All right, bye.
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And I think myself and my loved ones have known this about me for a long time. But this nicotine quitting journey has really just put it on display because now I have new oral fixations that are less common than like sucking on a vape. And it's just abundantly clear how bad my oral fixation problem is. Anyway, but it's also caused me to reflect on my life thus far.
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Most of us who have nicotine addictions have to wake up one day and decide, all right, starting today, I'm gonna embark on the journey to quitting because quitting nicotine is incredibly challenging and it's not something that happens overnight. So if you want to quit, you have to commit to the journey because quitting is going to be a journey. And so for the last year, I've been on that journey.
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And see all the signs clear as day now that hindsight is 2020, right? Like I can look back now and say, wait a minute, that was a total oral fixation when I was obsessed with eating those popsicles every single day for like two years. You know what I'm saying? Like all of these things don't just read to me as like quirky little phases anymore.
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I look back and I'm like, whoa, this has always been a thing. Like there has not been, a year in my life where I haven't had some sort of oral fixation. It's been a constant in my life. And I didn't even realize that. Like, I thought it was just I sucked my thumb as a kid and then I vaped as a teen and young adult. And that was the extent of it. But recently, I really analyzed my past.
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I was like, no, there were so many more. And so today I thought it'd be fun to go down the list of every single oral fixation I've ever had throughout my life and discuss them. So without further ado, let's begin. As I mentioned, my first oral fixation was my thumb. Okay, from the time I was born to the time I was 12 years old, I sucked my thumb.
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Most people stop sucking their thumb at like age five, not me. Not me, okay? It started innocently when I was like a baby baby. I sucked my thumb and I rubbed a little blanket on my lip, okay? That's how it started. And it was super precious and it was super cute, right? It's so cute when babies suck their thumb. How charming is that? Then I got a little bit older.
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And on Easter, I got a little stuffed bunny one year. And this little stuffed bunny I named Biggie Big. And Biggie Big had really soft ears. And so I started sucking my thumb and rubbing Biggie Big's ear on my upper lip. Okay, so then that became my thing. And then that kind of remained my thing until I was like 12 years old.
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And it was one of those things that people didn't really know that I did, right? Like starting even in preschool, the teachers did not let me suck my thumb. They were like, we don't allow this. You need to be growing out of this. It's our job to stop these bad habits, these infantile habits, whatever. So- They used to take away my little stuffed animals and stuff during the day.
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I would have an absolute fit. But that's when I started to have to, you know, have some restraint with the thumb sucking because I wasn't allowed to do it, you know, in preschool. And then obviously when I got to normal school, I really couldn't do it. It really wasn't allowed. But then I also started to have some sort of self-awareness. And I was like, ooh, no one else is doing it.
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Like, this is embarrassing now. And so it was just sort of this thing I did after school when I was home in my bed relaxing and there was nothing quite like it. I was a very anxious child. I had horrible separation anxiety from my parents and there was just nothing like getting home and sucking my thumb and rubbing Biggie Big's ears on my upper lip.
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OK, it's like the same fucking idea as getting home from work and cracking open a cold one. Do you know what I mean? It's the same fucking vibe just for like eight year olds. It's the same vibe. That's the vibe. Just a little something to take the goddamn edge off. And it was cute and it was charming until I started to get into the younger tween sort of ages. Right.
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We're talking about 10, 11, 12. Then it started to get a little bit weird. Right. It's like, what's going on? Right. She was supposed to grow out of this and she's not growing out of this. What's going on? Right. And in tandem with with that sort of concern, my jaw and teeth were getting all fucked up because during my developmental years, I was sucking my thumb.
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And unfortunately, I'm not ready to sit here and say, I fully quit. There's no chance I'll ever relapse. I'm done. I'm done for life. Because when I see people with a vape, I'm like, you're going to let me hit that, right? And then I hit it. And then I ultimately had nicotine. So you know what I mean? I haven't fully quit. right?
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My thumb was in my mouth for half of the day. OK, not the full day because at school they wouldn't let me. But the second I got home, my thumb was in my mouth. OK, and I was sucking along. that's half of my life. I slept with it in my mouth. Like my thumb was in my mouth so much that it messed with my mouth. It messed with my jaw.
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And so I had this overbite and I had this, like I, all this, I had a bunch of issues with my teeth. Okay. And my jaw and the orthodontist I started going to is like, if you don't stop sucking your thumb, you're gonna have to get surgery, okay? So they ultimately put this metal cage in my mouth.
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I don't know how to describe it other than that it was a metal cage in my mouth and it prevented my thumb from going in my mouth, okay? And then I had to get neck gear and head gear. There's all this shit, okay? After years and years and years of braces, they fixed my jaw, everything was fine, and I stopped sucking my thumb finally.
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For years following that, my mom would sometimes find me in my bed with my thumb in my mouth, and she would gently pull it out of my mouth, or so she told me. But then that was kind of the end of it. And for a long time, I thought that that was the end of it until the vape. But I was so wrong, because after I stopped sucking the thumb... I started sucking on cherry flavored cough drops.
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Yeah, Luden's cherry cough drops. Okay, I remember one day I found these in my dad's drawer somewhere. Like he had this like little medicinal drawer and I don't even remember why I was in there. I wasn't doing anything like crazy going in there, but I was sort of a snoopy sort of kid. I just sort of snoop around and I found Luden's cherry cough drops. And I became addicted to those.
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And for quite a while, I sucked on those. And I absolutely love them. And they're delicious. You know, like even to this day, I love a Luden's cough drop. But, you know, my parents sort of put somewhat of a limit on it from what I can remember, because they're like, this is kind of like candy, right? A Luden's cough drop is... is a sugar-based cough drop.
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And to eat one or two when you have a sore throat is one thing. To be eating them all day is another. And so, you know, my parents let me have them. But like, specifically, I remember they were at my dad's specifically, but they definitely put limits on me. I would have eaten a lot more of them if I was allowed. But I also would do really weird things.
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Like another example, like I used to really love the flavor of mustard. And I remember one time, this to me feels in line with the oral fixation because I really liked mustard because it was like tingly and like, I don't know, it was like fun to eat and fun to taste because it was like sour, you know? And I liked sour things as a kid. I still do.
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And so I would sometimes just like eat a spoonful of mustard. Again, like so odd, but there was something about it that like was sort of distracting and maybe soothing. I remember one time I took, I was watching YouTube on my iPad, okay?
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I was maybe like 10 and I went to my room and closed the door with a bottle of mustard and a spoon and I watched YouTube for like an hour and just kept squeezing more mustard onto the spoon and eating it, okay? That is weird, you guys. That's totally weird, okay? That's a little bit weird. But that was another thing I did. I did that multiple times.
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And one day I'd like to be at a place where I see someone hitting a vape and I don't ask to hit it. When that day comes, I'll sit down here and tell you how I got there. But until then, all I can discuss is the journey because that's where I'm at right now. I'm doing really well, but I haven't fully quit yet.
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Only once did I like really sit there and like pretty much eat the entire thing of mustard. You know, like that only really happened once. But I definitely used to like squirt a little mustard in a spoon and like slowly eat it. And it was sort of like, you know, a little something to do. And then came the Warheads popsicles. Okay. So I used to live near a convenience store.
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Growing up, I lived near a convenience store. And my dad and I would go there all the time because, you know, like we needed batteries or we needed... I don't know. Like we just needed something. So anyway, we were constantly at this convenience store. And I remember one day I walk in and on display in the front, like fully like doing a promotion loud in front of me, Warheads sour popsicles.
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And I said, dad, get me two boxes. Okay. So I got these Warhead popsicles. Oh no. Okay. for, I can't remember. I need to call my dad and ask him. I think probably for like two years, like every day after school, I was sucking on these for the rest of the day. Okay. My dad and I had to walk to the convenience store like once every three days to buy more boxes of these popsicles.
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And that's something that would only ever happen at your dad's house with your divorced parents. Okay. Honestly, same thing with even the Luden's cherry cough drops. Like that's such a dad's house divorced. Like when your parents are divorced, going to your dad's is so chill. It's just chill. Like you can do shit. The mustard thing that was also happening at my dad's.
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All of these weird things were happening at my dad's because I was free when I was there. When I was at my mom's, she was like, Emma, Why aren't you fucking doing the dishes or getting in the shower and scrubbing your ass? Like, hello, go fluff the pillows in the living room. Hello, do your homework. Hello, brush your hair. Like I was busy.
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I was busy at my mom's because she was constantly on my ass. I always had shit to do. At my dad's, I was just chilling. So my oral fixations were really coming out. Anyway, I was obsessed with these Warheads Popsicles. And it's so funny because they eventually stopped selling them at the convenience store. And I craved them every day since.
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And I don't know, probably like four or five years ago, I decided to order them on Amazon. I found them on Amazon. I was like, let's go. And And anyway, so I kind of got back into them for a period of time. But they weren't the same. At that point, I was already vaping. I didn't need a Popsicle, you know what I mean? They still tasted good, but yeah, it wasn't quite the same.
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Okay, next oral fixation happened in middle school, okay? I had this friend named Kate. I don't know why I'm saying her name. Kate, if you remember me, I'm talking about you. Kate always had cool stuff, I felt like. Like Kate was one of those girls, like she always had cool pens or like yummy food at lunch, like trendy food.
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life hacking my way through life
Let me tell you about three things that are really important to me, okay? Number one, efficiency. I don't like extra steps. I don't like wasted time. I spend probably an hour every day thinking about how I can make my day as efficient as possible. And I know what you're thinking. Spending an hour a day thinking about how to be more efficient probably is inefficient, right? Wrong, wrong.
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It makes taking the pill, the pills seamless and like just easy. Oh my God. I just remembered another life hack that I just remembered because my ears are really itchy. I have really, really horrible seasonal allergies to pollen and dust and all these different things. And cats, I think. I actually do think I have a... allergy to cats. However, I have two.
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So what I'm trying to say is I have really, really bad allergies and I'm constantly dealing with like itchy ears, sneezing, like allergy attacks, eyes watering, nose running, like the whole thing. sometimes to a point where it's like debilitating. And the itchy ears, I'm on a medication for that as well, or not a medication, but I take an over-the-counter allergy medicine for that.
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But that's not enough, okay? And it's so funny. Recently, somebody gave me a life hack for itchy ears. Now, ask your doctor before you do this, okay? Because I don't know if this is like actually bad or not. Somebody just told me to do it and I did it and it helped. Their doctor told them to do it. But like, listen, this game of telephone to me, I feel irresponsible with it.
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You ask your doctor before you do this. But itchy ears want to know what I do. Take a little Q-tip, put a little bit of cortisone cream on it, put it in the ears. Okay, not too deep, but just where it feels comfortable. And I rub the cream in the ear. I don't know what how it works. But it fully makes the ear itch go away. It's incredible.
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Averting crises as often as possible is important to me. Now, what does this all really say about me? If you were to simplify it, basically that I like life hacks. And I think most people think of life hacks and they cringe because there was this weird phase on the internet for a few years where like 90% of internet content was was about some sort of life hack.
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And I struggle so much with itchy ears, like inside the ears. And I'm constantly having to make sounds such as this. which is absolutely horrible for my loved ones. They hate it. Although my dad does it too. So my dad doesn't hate it because he does it as well. And then when he does it, it doesn't bother me because I do it as well. But for everybody else I know, it's so annoying.
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Everyone thinks it's so annoying. Why are you making that sound? Figure it out. Fix it. What's happening? This is insane that you're making that sound, but it's so itchy. It's unbearable. Anyway, so this life hack of putting the cortisone cream in my ear, it's amazing. I have the cortisone cream with aloe, which is even more like, you know, moisturizing and good.
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Ask your doctor before you do that. But if your doctor says go, then you're good to go. Listen, it works for me though. I'll tell you. Okay, moving on. Whenever I find that I'm being faced with a reoccurring issue, I try to find some sort of niche object that could be the solution. And I try to think outside the box. Okay, let me give some examples because I feel like that is a bit abstract.
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Let me paint this picture for you, okay? Something that I bought recently was this sort of pair of tongs or tweezers almost that that you can clip onto your key chain that basically helps you pull your credit card out of credit card slots.
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For example, like if you're paying for parking at a parking meter or if you're at the gas station and you insert the card and then pull it out, it's a little pair of tweezers slash tongs that you can use to pull your card out if you have long acrylic nails. I can't tell you how many times my card, credit card, has gotten stuck
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in either a parking meter or a gas station, whatever, where you have to insert your card and then pull it out. If you have long nails, there's a chance that you will not be able to get your card out. And I've had moments where I've been like, I don't know if I can get my card out. It might just be stuck. And that's really frightening.
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canceling a credit card and getting a new one or a debit card, debit cards even worse. Wow, that's not fun. So I was so traumatized and scarred by that experience that I somewhat recently bought this little product that would prevent that from ever happening again because it was so traumatic. It's always very traumatic. Another example, okay?
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This actually also relates to having really long acrylic nails. Maybe the life hack is to just not have really long acrylic nails. I'm realizing. But I really like having them sometimes. So you know what? No, I'm going to work around that. Okay, I'm going to work around the long acrylic nails.
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A lot of my skincare products come in like a little pot, you know, where you have to dig your dirty little finger in there and get the product out.
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If you have long acrylic nails, digging your little finger in there, well, I guess your long finger in there, if you have long acrylic nails, digging your long fingernail into the skincare product, it's just, it's horrible for so many different reasons. Number one, who knows what's under those nails? Okay, that's number one.
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Number two, like having product under your nail, stuck under your nail, it feels disgusting and horrible. And it's a waste of product because a lot of times you can't even get it out fully. Anyway, I bought little scoopers, like little silicone scoopers where you can just scoop product out and then put it into the palm of your hand and then rub it together and then put it wherever. So helpful.
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And then actually, recently I got a gift actually from a brand. They sent me this sort of gua sha and skincare spoon kit. It was super beautiful. and I started using these little fancy spoons, skincare spoons, and I was like, this is incredible. That is something that came out of necessity, being like, this is so annoying, this is a daily pet peeve.
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Another thing, I can't tell you how many times I need a pair of scissors out of nowhere, or I need a toothpick out of nowhere, or I need tweezers out of nowhere, or I need a nail file out of nowhere. You know what has all of those things in one? A mini Swiss Army knife, okay? I got a mini Swiss Army knife and put it on my keychain and I use it all the time.
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And, you know, there are only so many life hacks in life. You know what I'm saying? Like there are only so many. And because this was such a video trend, it became this thing of like, people were just coming up with these ridiculous life hacks that actually didn't work and actually required more steps than the original. Like it wasn't hacking life, it was actually making life more complicated.
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Before I was chewing on minty toothpicks to help with my oral fixation problem, I would use the little mini toothpick in there all the time. If a rogue weird hair grows on my face, like on my chin or something, and I need to pluck it, boom, pull out the Swiss Army knife, pull out the little tweezers. If a nail breaks and it's sharp, nail file.
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If I need to cut a tag off of something, I have mini scissors. It's incredible, okay? And I always have my keys with me. It's incredible. The mini Swiss Army knife, it's unbelievable. Truly, the Swiss Army knife is like, to me... It is the pinnacle of design. It's incredible. I love the Swiss Army knife.
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Another example, I drink electrolytes, like electrolyte powders all the time on a daily basis, actually. And a reoccurring issue that I was having was that I was like pouring my powdered electrolytes into the water and it wasn't combining very well. It was kind of chunky, you know, and And so you want to know what I got? I got a blender cup. Okay. I got this blender cup.
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It's not like a blender with like sharp, like you couldn't make a smoothie in it, but it's like honestly a blender cup for mixing powders into water. It has like a little plastic propeller. It just looks like a cup, has like a little base on it, pretty lightweight and small that's chargeable. And I basically just put like a little bit of water in there, probably like a half cup.
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I put my powders in there. I press the on button. It spins it. It disperses it evenly. Once it's dispersed evenly and dissolved evenly, I pour it into my larger Stanley cup, of course. And then everything's all good. And it's all evenly dispersed. It's so helpful to dissolve liquids in a more controlled environment like that first.
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And then mix it into your big Stanley cup that has the ice and the rest of the water that's very cold, et cetera. It's like... I don't know scientifically why that is the way that it is, why it's easier to do it that way. There's definitely a reason, but I don't even want to Google it. And I don't even need to because I've solved the problem with my little blender cup, okay?
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Another example, I have infinite examples for little niche helpful items that I use on a daily basis that have solved daily problems. The list goes on, okay? putting an air tag on my cat's collar, okay? I used to constantly be overwhelmed with paranoia about my cats getting out and them getting lost and them getting eaten by coyotes because there are many coyotes in my neighborhood.
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And the only thing that has helped not only ease my mind, but also keep tabs on them in general is the AirTag on the collar. It's on my iPhone. I can check whenever I want. You know, it's just, it's incredible. I think that's kind of a common thing. I think a lot of people use the AirTag on their pets, but it is so good.
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Oh my God, another little weird random niche thing that I bought, a little bag holder, a little bag hook, like a little hook that, that you can put onto a table. You can slide onto a table at a restaurant, for example, and you can hang your bag so that you have a place to put your bag at a restaurant. I absolutely love this thing. It's so funny.
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And so then the trend ultimately died. And then we all sort of started to hate life hacks. But We really don't hate life hacks. We all have our own life hacks in our day-to-day life. And we might not even realize that we have them, but we do. And I am somebody who absolutely loves hacking my life, okay? I am constantly trying to figure out how to hack my life.
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I remember when I was like eight years old, I was at the car wash with my mom and we were looking around in the little gift shop at the car wash because obviously they have a little gift shop and so that you hopefully buy things while you're waiting for your car to be done. And I remember I saw this invention for the first time and I showed my mom and she was like, whoa.
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And I think she bought one. I swear she did. And then eventually we both forgot about this invention. And then I remembered it again, sort of recently, like within the last few years, because I just had started to realize that I needed it. And I was like, I need to buy one of the little table. It's like a little retractable table
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hook that you can you know again like unfold and then attach it to the table and then you can just hang your bag on it I was like wait I need that thing again and so I bought it again and it is good next bug catcher yeah they exist like you don't need to use the cup in the piece of paper anymore to get to catch the bug and put it outside there are bug catchers that make it so easy and Okay.
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They're online and they are worth it. Okay. Because you're saving a little bug's life. And I actually use mine all the time. I literally use mine all the time. It's incredible. And my veggie dicer. Wow. The veggie dicer. It's this like...
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Sort of it's this kitchen appliance, if you will, where there's like a big container at the bottom and then there's a sort of lid that goes on top of the container. And the lid has this like it has two like layers on it and the top layer hinges up.
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And then it reveals this lattice of metal, of course, and you can put down vegetables and then you slam down the top and then it dices vegetables for you. This has changed. I don't want to fucking dice vegetables. What do I look like? An inefficient person to you? No, I want a machine to dice vegetables for me. It's incredible. And it dices each little thing into equal pieces.
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Like it's so symmetrical and even and beautiful. Oh, It creates such a beautiful dice. Anyway, that was inspired by the fact that I hate dicing vegetables. I think most people do. I think even trained chefs who probably find it to be somewhat meditative would even be like, I'd rather use a veggie chopper. It's so good. It's such a good invention.
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If you have a daily inconvenience, there's probably an appliance that could help with it. And I know there are some of you at home like... literally punching your phone or punching your computer or whatever device you're using to watch or listen to this episode thinking, Emma, you're all about not buying stuff you don't need. Like you said that you're trying to buy less stuff.
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Did I say I buy nothing? Did I say I buy nothing? No, I didn't. Okay. I use every single thing that I just listed constantly. constantly. These are things that enhance my life, make my life better. And there are some people out there that are like, you don't need those things. Sure, you don't need those things. But to me, they make my life better. Okay. And so I'm all about it.
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I'm just not about buying things that you don't need, that you're not going to use. That's what I have a problem with. Finding the perfect object that makes your life more efficient, that solves a problem, that's what products are for. So I'm all about buying the niche little thing.
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Like if you're somebody who eats strawberries every day, then you should probably buy the little strawberry thing that, the little strawberry distemmer where you like shove strawberries this sharp thing into the top of the strawberry and then twist and then it takes out the green stem. Do you know what I'm talking about? Like, if you're somebody who never eats strawberries, you don't need that.
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So buying that's a waste for you. But if you eat strawberries every day, that is a great purchase for you. Do you see what I'm saying? Or if you put a banana in your lunch every day, buying a little banana-shaped plastic banana container so that your banana doesn't get bruised, that's a good purchase for you. People look at objects like that and are like, that's useless, that's pointless.
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It's almost like a hobby for me, honestly. Because I will say, and I'm not like trying to shit on the people of my life, but... I think my life is more hacked than anyone that I know. I briefly paused this episode to let you know that this episode of Anything Goes is presented by Temptations Cat Treats.
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Just figure out something else. Okay, sure, but also if there's a little invention for that that you're gonna use every single day, you should get it. Sorry, sorry, that's my opinion.
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Moving on to an organizational hack that took me a shocking amount of years to figure out because it seems like common sense, but I'm somebody who is actually pretty organized and it took even me many years to figure this out. Listen, maybe I'm really late to this, like I'm actually self-conscious.
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to mention this life hack because I feel like a lot of you are going to say, Emma, that is so obvious. But I swear to me, it was not obvious. for years. Okay. Well, let me begin by saying how I used to organize things. Like my organizational philosophy used to be sort of empty. It was basically just make everything look organized, put everything where it probably fits best and
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And yeah, just like make it look good and give it a place. That was kind of it, okay? My philosophy was empty. Then I realized I had it all wrong. You have to think of what you use most and you have to put that at the most convenient location, okay? I can't tell you...
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how many years I spent living inconveniently because I had organized things just based on where I felt like they fit best, based on like where I feel like they maybe looked best and not based on like what I actually use the most, okay? Like for example, in my pantry, Right. I put all of my like baking stuff like flour, sugar, all of that at eye level. Why? I don't know.
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Just because it kind of looked good there. And then below that, I put like protein powders and stuff like that. And then below that, I put like snacks and stuff. You want to know what I consume the most of? Snacks. That's actually what I consume the most of. I don't bake that often. Like almost never, to be honest. I mean, I, if anything, I prefer cooking over baking.
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Like baking happens pretty rarely these days. I enjoy it, but it doesn't happen a lot. Okay. I ended up moving my pantry around completely, putting snacks towards the middle and then like pasta and dry grains and stuff like that right above it.
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also at eye level and then I put baking stuff at like the very top because I rarely ever bake and it's no problem to like get out a little stool and and take everything down the one or two times a year I I bake these days you know what I'm saying like another example would be in my closet right there was a period of time when I had all my workout clothes like my you know like the stuff that I would go on a hike in not necessarily like my workout clothes like I
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sports bras and like shorts, but like hiking stuff or like going on a walk stuff, right? Stuff that I wear a lot because I walk a lot. I had that all like shoved into drawers for some reason. That makes no sense. I wear those clothes all the time. Why aren't they out? They should be out on my shelves so that I can grab them easily. Do you see what I'm saying?
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I had my hoodies downstairs in a closet downstairs and not in my bedroom's closet. That doesn't make any sense. I wear a hoodie all the time. Do you see what I'm saying? There used to just be illogical choices made just based on what I thought. Oh, well, this closet kind of feels like a hoodie closet. I was basing my organization on kind of nothing.
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And now when I'm organizing, I am thinking in what I do every day, my daily routine. And I'm really trying to focus on that so that like everything is placed in the most efficient place possible and organizing based on that first. And sometimes it maybe doesn't look as aesthetically pleasing or, you know, whatever. But that is my number one priority.
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And I'm also constantly reorganizing things as my routine changes. You know, like if at a certain point I stop wearing the sort of workout clothes that I wear on my walks or my hikes or whatever, if I like am not really walking or hiking as much anymore and I'm not wearing those. OK, maybe those go in the drawer then. You know, and maybe I take out like my favorite pair of leggings.
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Maybe I'm into leggings all of a sudden instead of like workout sweatpants. And like, I don't know. Do you know what I'm saying? If my routine changes, then we change things. And constantly looking at the way that things are organized in a critical way. This is sort of new for me, but it's such a life hack because it genuinely makes life easier. Moving on. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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Because while I'm thinking about how to make my day more efficient, I'm doing other things that are productive, okay? And that's called optimization, okay? Which leads me to number two, optimization. making every single step in the day count. Every single action is accomplishing two tasks. Do you see what I'm saying? Optimization, getting the most done with the least amount of effort.
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To be honest, I think I'm a little bit too obsessed with efficiency and optimization and crisis aversion and preparedness. Like, I think it is kind of an unhealthy obsession at times for me. Because I am really hard on myself when things are inefficient, when I am unprepared, like I really beat myself up about it. And that's not healthy.
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But I do think it's overall a positive sort of sentiment to like, I don't know, like hack your life. Like I think it's a positive concept. I think I personally take it too far, but I think it's something that everyone can benefit from incorporating into their lives. Like I think most of us could always be more efficient, more optimized, more prepared.
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There's a few of us out there who become obsessed with it, but even for us, it's still good. We get a lot of shit done. you know, and we're always prepared and it's great. Anyway, with all of that being said, today I'm going to be sharing some of my personal life hacks. Listen, are these going to work for you? Maybe not. That's not the point.
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You are welcome. You can be disgusted all you want, but you're fucking welcome because the next time you're on a date and then you go back to the to this hot person's house and then suddenly you have to poop because you had dairy for dinner and you're a little bit lactose intolerant and you're like, oh, my God, what do I do? yeah, put down the toilet paper and poop on it.
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But wait, you're not even pooping on it. Like, do you get what I'm saying? You're literally just laying it on the surface so that it can hold your poop. And then when you flush it, just no poop ever touches the bowl. You see what I'm saying? Listen, it's disgusting. I don't want to talk about it either. I don't want to talk about it either. But I'm trying to help you.
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I figured this out the other day on accident because I went to the bathroom on top of toilet paper that was already there because somebody in my house didn't flush. And it probably was me, actually. But let's pretend it was somebody else. And I watched what had happened because I flushed and got up. And then I guess I did look at the wall. This is getting worse. I need to stop talking.
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Let's move on. Let's move on. Let's move on for love of God. Okay. Oh, another gross one I'm realizing because I'm looking at my list of life hacks and this one's also a little bit gross, but it's less gross. It's about menstruation. I don't the use of tampons can sometimes increase your risk of getting toxic shock. And toxic shock is very serious and can kill you. Don't be afraid.
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I'm just trying to inspire you to figure out your own life hacks. The truth is, you know what? I'm actually thinking about this now. I think the problem with the life hack era on the internet, when everybody was posting about different life hacks that you should incorporate into your life, because it'll make you more efficient, you more prepared.
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Okay, don't let me scare you like I've been afraid by other people telling me stories. Because if you wear tampons responsibly, and again, talk to your doctor and do all these things, you're probably fine. But I just have so much health anxiety that I was like, I don't even want to wear a tampon anymore. I'd rather... do something else. So you want to know what I'm doing? No, it's not a diva cup.
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It's period underwear, preferably like a period boy short. Okay. So period underwear, meaning underwear with a built-in pad. Yes, they exist. You probably know about them, but if you don't, yes, they exist. With a liner inside. Okay. Panty liner. I hate the word panty. So gross, but panty liner. That's the only word I know. The thin sort of pad. Okay. inside of the period underwear.
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So now you have double protection, okay? You have a liner, which is going to absorb a good amount. But once the liner fills up, you know, the underwear starts absorbing. I can go for so long and I have a pretty decent flow. Like I'm not... light. I used to be very heavy, so heavy that this actually wouldn't have worked for me. But also tampons didn't even work for me.
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That's how heavy my period was. I was bleeding through like the largest tampon, the most absorbent tampon in like 20 minutes. It was very abnormal. But now my flow is more normal. and I'm wearing period underwear with a pad inside. This is for long-term wear. If I'm walking around the house, I'm not putting the pad in the period underwear. I'm just going to wear the period underwear.
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But if I want backup support, we're wearing the liner in the period underwear. And it's miraculous how effective it is. And it's nice because, again, I really don't like wearing tampons. And I don't really like putting things inside. I'd prefer to keep it all exterior. if possible.
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The only thing that's weird about that, especially if you're somebody who's never like just used pads, like if you're somebody who's used a tampon your entire life, period life, it feels so weird to just be sort of free bleeding into your period underwear with a pad in it. Like you'll think like, oh my God, there's no way that I'm not leaking because you can feel it. It's weird.
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But you're not leaking probably. If you have a pad and period underwear on, you're probably not leaking. You're probably fine. I'm like obsessed with this method. I'm about to have my period soon. Let's look at my period app. Today, according to my period app, is a possible period day. I could get it today, but it's projected to start in two days. I don't know why I shared that with you.
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Okay, let's move on. Another life hack, before you buy a piece of furniture or home decor, Photoshop it into your space. Now, you don't need to be a Photoshop professional to do this. Okay, let me tell you how I do it. And I'm not being sponsored by this website.
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Canva is a website that has all of these super user-friendly tools that would take like eight years to learn how to do on Photoshop, like Adobe Photoshop. Not that... Listen, Photoshop is incredible, okay? I'm not shitting on that at all, but I am saying that for most of us, it's unusable on day one, right? So like Canva is great because it has all these different tools.
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The problem was not only were the hacks for the most part really bad, but they weren't personalized. I really do think only you can hack your life. You know, like don't copy all of my life hacks. Just take inspiration from my life hacks, you know? And as my yoga teacher says to me, this is so weird. Take what you want and leave what you don't.
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Again, they are not sponsoring me. If they want to, they can. I'm here, but... I just love Canva. It's an incredible website. And basically what I'll do, like this is especially helpful if I'm making like a larger decision, like I'm, you know, gonna spend a chunk of money on a lamp or on, you know, new nightstands or whatever, something that's like a significant decision.
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I will take a photo of my room and then I'll take a photo or screenshot a photo of the new furniture piece that I want. And I'll do my best. Listen, again, It's never going to be perfectly accurate. That's not what this is for. You're just trying to get the gist of it, right? I will import the image of my room or the space that I want this piece to go in.
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And then I will take the photo or screenshot of the item that I'm considering purchasing. And then I will use the background removal tool. So basically, it's just then the object, right, with a transparent background. And then I'll basically insert it into the image of my home. And there are even some home decor websites that actually do this for you. I don't often use them.
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which I should because I'm literally talking about doing it myself. But I kind of like doing it on my own because I can move things around the way I want. I don't know. Maybe I need to experiment more with websites, tools like that, but they don't always work very well. I don't know. I recently did this with my nightstand lights. I have little lamps on my nightstands. They broke and
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And I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to fix them. Spoiler alert, I was able to fix them, but I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to. So in the meantime, I started looking for lights because, or lamps, because I use the lamp on my nightstand every single day and I was kind of freaking out. I was like, it's going to be dark in my room at night. Like, what am I going to do?
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I don't want to turn my overhead light on. What's happening? Anyway. And, you know, it's funny. I photoshopped, like, I'm not kidding, probably 10 lamps into the space and I didn't like any of them. And then I was like, I really need to get my current ones fixed because I hate every single other lamp in this space. Not to be dramatic. I'm being dramatic, but I'm not trying to be.
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But yeah, anyway, I got them fixed. So it's totally fine. But I'm glad that I did that because I might have bought lamps that didn't work in the space. I think you could also do that with clothes too. But I don't know, with clothes, it's a harder thing to Photoshop. But you could, and then you could just see if the colors look nice on you or whatever.
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It's not a bad idea, but that's something that I do now because it was so helpful for me that one time. Next, this is so simple, but write everything down immediately. I know this kind of isn't a life hack because it sort of seems like common sense in a way,
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Anytime I forget to write something down immediately that needs to be written down, for example, a scheduling thing or an appointment or a reminder to do something, I forget. Without fail, I forget. If you need to write something down, if you need to remember something, do it immediately and have a designated space to do so. I put a lot of stuff on my Google Calendar.
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That's usually where I'll write things down, but I also have... a document on my Notion app, which is like, I don't know, like a software that you can use to like make documents basically in a very organized sort of way. I mainly use Notion and Google Calendar for organization of my schedule and ideas and all these different things.
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And then I sometimes will use physical notebooks and stuff, but usually digital is the most useful for me. And so I have a document where I literally just have one document where I'll write down stuff that I need to remember to do or need to remember to buy or whatever.
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That's what my yoga teacher says to me before we start class. Do I really know what it means? No, I have no clue what she's even talking about by that. But I listen to her say it and I absorb it. And then I do the downward dog. Anyway, without further ado, I will be sharing with you my life hacks.
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And there's a bunch of or like random creative ideas that I came up with that I want to write down that I have nowhere else to put. I'll put it in this document. It's really important to have a place to write these things down or to just put it in your calendar immediately. I'm telling you, it's a game changer. That actually reminds me of another life hack that again, it sounds obvious.
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It sounds sort of like common sense, but I don't consider a task completed until I've cleaned up afterwards. And I know so many people who do not live their lives this way. Okay. So like an example would be, let's say you received a package in the mail of something that you bought and
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To me, I have trained myself to not consider the task completed until I've opened the box, taken the object out, unpackaged it, opened it up, cleaned up all of the trash that came with the thing that I bought. So that would be the box, the packaging. I must collapse all of that, put it in the trash, okay? And then set up the item wherever it needs to be set up.
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Let's say it's like an appliance, okay? Plug it in, do whatever I need to do with it, clean it or whatever, okay? And then that's when that task is completed. Or like if I cook, for example, I might not necessarily like do all of the dishes, okay? Sometimes I wait a little bit. I mean, I'll put everything in the dishwasher that can be dishwashed.
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And then sometimes there's a few things that need to be hand washed that will stay in the sink, sometimes for a day or two. But to me, a cooking experience is not done until everything is put away. The countertops are wiped. Sometimes I slack on that, but like... Everything is put away. Everything's either in the sink or in the dishwasher. It's all clean.
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There's not one little piece of plastic on the counter. Everything is thrown away. Everything is put away. Nothing's left out. Again, it sounds obvious, but... Training yourself to clean up after yourself as you go to complete tasks before you move on to the next one. It's so helpful.
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It's so helpful, especially if you're somebody who has like a lot you want to do or maybe you like have kind of a scattered attention. Like it's so helpful to just to train yourself to not move to the next thing until you're done. I have people in my life who like come over to my house and again, this is not me shitting on them. I love them. But like, let's say they'll eat a protein bar.
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They'll like go into my pantry and grab a protein bar and they'll sit and they'll eat it and then they'll put the wrapper down on the table and then they'll forget that they left it there and then they'll go do something else.
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And then they'll like leave like they'll go and get a can from my like drink fridge and like drink a drink and then like forget that they had it and like leave it somewhere like they don't complete the task. by like throwing the trash away, for example, you know? Or even like when I'm in my closet, I will really make an effort to like at least once a day clean up my closet, right?
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I really make an effort to try to like put clothes away. Like if I try something on and I'm like, oh, I don't really like it, I try to put it away immediately. It's not always realistic. But if not that, at least put the clothes away once a day, you know? Next hack, no entertainment during the day. During the workday, nine to five,
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Starting with something that everyone in my life thinks is very weird, but I think it's genius and incredibly convenient. I wear a crossbody bag probably like 18 hours a day. I am almost always wearing a crossbody bag around the house doing chores. On a walk, I mean, let me clarify.
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My life hack is no entertainment at all, even on your lunch break, okay? Now, listen, you might be like, Emma, shut the fuck up. I'm gonna watch my goddamn YouTube video on my lunch break. Listen, I get it, okay? I get it, but I have a reasoning. So let me share. There's something that happens in my experience, in the brain, when you start consuming content midday.
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Like during the workday, you need to be focused, right? And you also need to tap into a different side of the brain, like more of an autopilot. I guess the mindset during the workday should be more slow and simple in a way. Or not slow and simple, but like, I don't know, most people's workdays are, they're doing tedious work for the most part, right?
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And when you watch a video or you scroll on TikTok or you even listen to a podcast, you're you're giving yourself very stimulating entertainment. And then when you go back to the tediousness of your work, it seems even worse and it's even harder to focus. This is something that I've experienced and I do not have that tedious of a job. And even I...
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have experienced this where if I during my lunch break will watch a YouTube video when I go back to like work on podcast outlines or like respond to emails or like you know work on a project or something I'm like I don't even want to do it I just want to be done and I just want to like go back and watch more you like you just want to go back to the entertainment because it was more stimulating and everything else seems so boring so what I've started to do is during the day all I do is listen to music that's all I allow myself to do just music
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And not only has it made me more productive, but it's also made the workday more enjoyable. And I mean, I'm fortunate to have an incredibly fun and I'm in a very fortunate position with my job, but everything is relative. And even I still am like... Oh my God, I'm fucking bored. Or like, I don't want to do this right now. Like there's, you know, this is tedious. I don't want to do this.
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I don't want to write this outline about this thing. Or I don't want to like sit in this meeting about like Chamberlain coffee cogs for like two hours. And this is boring. You know what I mean? Like, I don't know. Like, even though I'm so fortunate, I still... So my point is, I do think saving entertainment for the end of the day can just be so helpful.
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And it also gives you something to look forward to. Like then at the end of the day, you can truly just unwind and like watch YouTube, you know, scroll on fucking TikTok, do whatever you want, go on Instagram, do whatever you want. But during the workday, being a bit more responsible with your attention span is good. Listen to music, read a book, but don't scroll, don't watch video.
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Anything that's too stimulating, I think, is not good during the workday and it makes the workday actually harder. Another life hack that relates to the internet, except this one I've talked about a billion times. So those of you who listen to this podcast will be like, Emma, shut the fuck up. We know. But I'm going to say it anyway.
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If you are too addicted to an app, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, hey, you know what? Maybe Facebook, like whatever. If you're too addicted to an app, you got to delete it off of your main phone. Okay, your main phone, meaning the phone that's in your pocket. or next to your bed, basically the phone that's within a one foot radius of you 95% of the time, that phone, that phone is dangerous, okay?
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If you're addicted to an app, you need to delete the app off of your main phone, okay? Can you like still have it on your computer if you only go on your computer for, you know, a few hours at the end of the day every day? Sure. You know, if you don't work on your computer, for example, yeah, it's no problem. You can have Instagram bookmarked on your computer. That's totally fine.
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Okay, obviously when I go out to like, I don't know, go get my nails done or go to the grocery store or do this or do that, I will bring a bag and that's normal, right? Nobody's batting an eye at that. What's weird about me is that I'm wearing a cross body bag like at my house all day. You know what I'm saying? I'm not just wearing a bag when I go out for the day. No, no, no.
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Because it's not something that's in your pocket all the time. If you maybe only have TikTok on your iPad, something that again, you only have access to at the end of the day, like if you even want to get a second phone, which I think it's necessary if you utilize social media for your job, which a lot of people do. I think it could be a smart investment to invest in like a work phone.
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People might disagree with me and be like, that's excessive. You don't need two devices. It has saved my life. I am not kidding. I have had two phones now for a while, like probably six months, maybe even more. And one phone has only stuff that is healthy for my brain. And the other phone has all the unhealthy stuff for my brain, social media, all that.
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And I only use my other phone when I'm posting on social media. And I'll let myself scroll around for a little bit and check in on friends. And I will spam my friends with likes and see what they've been doing. And Maybe I'll scroll around on the explore page or stalk a few people. But majority of the time, I don't have Instagram in my pocket. I don't have TikTok in my pocket.
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I don't have YouTube in my pocket. You know, like if I want to go on YouTube, I have to pull it up on my computer or on my TV at the end of the day because it's not downloaded on my phone anymore because that's how addicted I was. Delete it off your main phone. Okay, moving on. This is so fucking random. I don't even know.
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I just thought about this while I was making this list and I was like, I have to include it. If you're buying broccoli or cauliflower in particular, by the pound, okay? Be wary of the stump, okay? The base of the broccoli or the cauliflower because you're paying for that. And normally, we throw that part away. Are you picking up what I'm putting down here?
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Or if you can, like break the bottom off, like break the bottom stem off of the broccoli or the cauliflower because there's a good chance you're not even eating it. Like for me, I'm sorry, I don't like the base of broccoli or cauliflower. I really only like the top. And so I'm cutting it down. I'm cutting every single inch of stem off, right?
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So if I'm buying broccoli by the pound and it has this massive, thick, big stock, I'm paying for that and I'm just throwing it away. Are you going to save more than $5? No. But it's an epiphany I had recently and I was like, oh my God. It is kind of funny though, because I haven't
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bought broccoli in a while because I have sort of a food aversion to broccoli, which also has sort of led to a food aversion to cauliflower a little bit because they're a very similar vegetable. I've talked about this before, but I had a traumatic incident with broccoli where I found a snail inside of pre-cut, pre-washed broccoli and I thought I was safe. I wasn't.
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And it grossed me out so bad that I've really struggled to eat broccoli and cauliflower since. Weirdly enough, I can eat it. There are certain times when it doesn't bother me. And then there are certain times when it really bothers me and I can't stop thinking about it. It's kind of illogical.
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But that's what makes this sort of an ironic piece of advice because I barely even want to buy broccoli or cauliflower right now because I've had a food aversion to it for months. But... Anywho, next. Work while you walk. I am so into trying to figure out different ways to to combine working and walking, okay? Walking is, in my opinion, one of the best forms of exercise.
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I get home and if I'm wearing like a cute purse that's like not that comfortable, I'm I'll put everything into a crossbody bag and continue to carry my things around throughout the day. Or if I'm wearing a crossbody bag already that's comfortable and convenient, I will just keep the bag on once I get home. Do you see what I'm saying?
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And a lot of doctors will tell you that too, okay? Walking is so good for you. And I have been trying to figure out like, how can I work and walk? I will, luckily for me, I do have a treadmill at my house. it was worth every penny, okay? Because I will walk on my treadmill and bring my little iPad with my little keyboard connected to the iPad and I'll get work done while I'm walking, okay?
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I put the iPad on the little platform on the front of my treadmill and I'll type away on my little iPad because my laptop's too big and doesn't fit, but the iPad does fit. I will take meetings and calls on the treadmill. I will go on a walk outside.
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If I'm like writing an outline for a podcast episode or like coming up with ideas for things or something, because a lot of my job is that for some reason. I will go on a walk and like voice note myself or not voice note, but I'll, while I'm walking, I'll take notes using Siri. Like I'll, does that make sense?
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Like, so I'm not typing because it's very challenging to like walk in type unless you're on a treadmill because it's consistent and you're not going to trip over anything or whatever. But when I'm outside walking, I'll like take notes using Siri. Like I'll talk to her and have her type for me. and take notes. And then I clean them up when I get home, but it's so helpful.
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Like I just, I love the walking and working concept. And so in any way I can do it, I will. And in any way you can do it, you should. Like if it just means if you work at an office and you want to take a walk around the office as you take a call, or if you have a gym membership, completing tasks while on the treadmill at the gym, bring your iPad. Like It is a vibe.
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And you don't have to walk fast either. It's just nice to be moving. And I find that I think I'm like thinking even sharper when I'm walking because I'm not like sluggish and sitting. Anyway, I love it. Another life hack, super random. I have very short hair, like pixie length. Maybe, well, when it grows out, it's a little bit more shag like, but...
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I like it to dry pretty flat and I found on accident that my hair dries beautifully, perfectly flat and like gorgeous if I just put on a hood while it's drying. So after I shower, I either put my hood up or I put on like a balaclava or something, anything just to have my hair flat to my head for like 10 minutes after I get it wet and it dries beautifully flat.
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And then I can add product to it and build it up or keep it flat because sometimes that's cute. But it makes everything flat without having to use heat on it. Okay. I figured that out on accident because every day after a hot yoga, I shower and And then I put on a hoodie and sunglasses and get out of there as quickly as possible because I look absolutely hideous and beet red.
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When I wake up in the morning, I put on a crossbody bag and I put like my phone in it and, you know, anything else I may need. Like I carry around little toothpicks and mints because I have a nicotine addiction and I'm trying not to vape. So I need to have little things. So I keep those in my bag. I'll keep like hand sanitizer in there. I'll keep chapstick, you know, I'll keep eye drops.
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And because I was wearing the hoodie, I would take the hoodie off when I get home and I would look in the mirror and be like, my hair looks absolutely incredible. And then I let my hair dry without the pressure of the hoodie on it. One day I was like, it's hideous, my hair. I should have blow dried it. And then I was like, wait, no, I should have put a hood on or a balaclava or something.
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to hold it down. Kind of awesome and really works. And that's it. Those are my life hacks. Were they good? I don't know. Were they obvious? Maybe to you. But they weren't obvious to me at one point. And then they became obvious to me later, which is what makes them sort of a life hack, right? Like there was a discovery process. I discovered these things and they improved my life.
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And I inspire you to look at your own life and figure out how you can hack it. I think that's all I have to say for today. Yeah, that's it. Hey, well, thank you all for hanging out and listening. And if you enjoyed new episodes of Anything Goes every Thursday and Sunday, and you can find Anything Goes on social media.
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At Anything Goes, you can find me as a person on social media at Emma Chamberlain, and you can find... My coffee company at chamberlaincoffee.com or at Chamberlain Coffee. Anything Goes is available on Spotify, YouTube, and anywhere else that you stream podcasts. So if you wanna keep up with me, now you know where to find me. All right, that's it. That's it. I love you all.
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Talk to you very, very soon. Okay, bye.
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Like I keep things in my little crossbody bag and carry them around all day. Now people think this is very odd because it's unusual to wear a bag around your house. You know, most people put things in their pockets or just go and get the items that they need when they need them. I'm sorry, that's inefficient. Okay. I always have what I need on me at all times.
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And most of the time when I'm at home, I'm wearing pajamas, which either don't have pockets or the clothes are too loose to hold all the things that I want to hold. Like if I put my phone in my pajama short pocket, the shorts are falling down. The shorts will be on my ankles because I like loose pajamas. Do you see what I'm saying? It just, it makes sense to me. And it looks weird.
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You know, I'm walking around my house with a bag on, with a crossbody bag. But it just makes so much sense to me. And to me, it's a life hack. And I don't know, maybe it's more common than I am aware of, but I have never met anyone else who does it. And I am deeply judged by my loved ones for doing it. I'm actually not deeply judged. I think they just are like, this is so unusual.
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Is that even what optimization means? I don't know. I actually have to Google it, to be honest. Optimization is the action of making the best or most effective use of a situation a resource. Okay? Number three, crisis aversion and preparedness. I think we all want to be prepared for a crisis.
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You know, you're the only person who does this. Anyways, let's move on. Number two, car underwear. you need to have a pair of underwear in your car. You just do. There's a lot of things that you need to have in your car. Like the list is quite long. I think everybody should have a hairbrush, deodorant, salt.
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If you're somebody who likes certain foods that taste good with hot sauce or taste good with soy sauce, you should always have those condiments in the car. If you're somebody who takes pills, like supplements or anything, you should keep a backup in your car. You know, I just dropped 10 things that you should keep in your car. Life hack. But I actually think one of the... Oh, scissors.
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Everyone should have scissors in their car. A pen. Everyone should have a pen in their car. Utensils. Napkins. Wet wipes. I mean, should I make an entire episode about what you need to keep in your car? Maybe. Actually, I don't think I need to because what you really need in your car is a pair of fucking underwear. You don't know when you're going to need them.
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You don't know why you're going to need them, but I can almost guarantee that at some point you will. I started keeping a pair of underwear in my car when I, and this is TMI, but when I was in a phase of my life where I didn't like wearing underwear. Okay. I don't know why. I just didn't like it. And I remember one time I was going to a fitting, like a fashion fitting.
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Like I was going to try on an outfit actually at the Louis Vuitton store. And there were tailors there and like people, stylists there helping me pick out an outfit for an event. And I realized that I had forgotten underwear. And that was a problem because most of the time Louis Vuitton would put me in some sort of dress.
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So it's like I was frightened that either the stylist or the tailor would somehow see my vagina and that they would think it was weird because usually you would wear underwear to a fitting. I was panicked. And I don't remember what I did. I either went home. and got a pair of underwear, or I stopped at a store and got underwear on the way. But ever since then, I've had underwear in my car.
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And recently, the underwear came in handy again because I went to yoga. And I don't wear underwear to yoga, you freak. I wear my little shorts. with no underwear, okay? And after class, my clothes are so sweaty that they're obviously completely unwearable, so even if I was wearing underwear, it wouldn't matter.
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I was going to run errands after the class, and I wanted to look cute, and I was wearing these pants that would be really uncomfortable without underwear, and I realized that I had forgotten underwear when I was driving there and I was like, oh my God, but I have a pair on the car, threw them in my little yoga bag, brought them in after the shower at yoga, put on my little undies, no problem.
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Close your eyes and think about a time when maybe you had food poisoning at school and you pooped a little bit. Not enough to like throw your whole pants away, but just a little bit in your underwear. How nice would it be to have a pair of underwear in your backpack at all times ready just in case you shit yourself in math class?
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Listen, would I have been fine without underwear in that scenario? Sure, but I was so happy that I had them, okay? I don't know, you might get your period, you know, if you're a woman, okay, and you might be happy you have a pair of underwear, just trust me, okay? Keep a pair of underwear in your car.
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Next, I think I've talked about this before, but an underrated feature of the Stanley Cup, I cannot express to you how often I use the top of my Stanley Cup as a little tray, okay? I carry around... My toothpicks, my minty toothpicks that I chew on throughout the day, I put like lip balm in there to carry around.
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When I'm chewing on a toothpick and then I want to take it out for a second, I'll put it on the top of the Stanley cup. Like it's like a little holding place for it there. If I like want to take a little snack up to my bed, like maybe like a little cookie or something, I'll put it in the top of my Stanley cup. Oh my God. You know what I do all the time? To me, it's like a little jewelry box. Okay.
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Well, not a box, but like a little jewelry tray. If I'm at yoga, for example, and I forgot to take my big hoops off before the class, I'll just take them off and put them in the top of my Stanley Cup in the little lid. And they'll just sit there safely all class and I can pop them on afterwards. No big deal. I use it as a little tray. I'm not being paid by Stanley. Okay, I'm just saying.
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It's incredible. Kind of random, kind of niche, but it's genuinely like a little life hack that I utilize on a daily basis. And it actually is helpful. Like there's probably more examples that I can't even remember of ways that I use the top of the Stanley Cup. It's very efficient. Okay, my next life hack kind of changed my life, okay? So I have to take a pill or a few pills
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every morning and every evening with food, okay? Because I have PCOS, polycystic ovarian syndrome, I think, or ovary syndrome. It's a hormonal thing, okay? It's no big deal, but I do take medication for it twice a day. And I've been taking it now for like probably a year or two. And in the beginning, it was so new. And I hadn't ever really taken something twice a day like that before.
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Like indefinitely in the past, it's been like, oh, I need to take... this medication for like a week and then I'm done. And there's like only a certain amount of pills. I got like 10 pills and I have to take the 10 pills over the next week and then it's done and then whatever. It's always been easier to organize.
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This is the first time where it's like, okay, I'm just taking these pills every single day, twice a day, and I have to remember to do that. And in the beginning, it was sort of easy because it was new and it was always like, oh shit, I have to take it again. And then it became such a routine that I started to forget like midday, like, wait, did I take my pills this morning?
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Or like in the evening, I'd be like, wait, did I take my pill? So I created my own little mini calendar that I make every single month on a post-it note. Okay. So I take a little post-it note and I take like a ruler and And I draw sort of a grid. Okay. One column is the date. The next column is morning. And the next column is night.
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It'd be really nice because moments that are traumatic like shitting yourself in math class become less traumatic when you're prepared. What about when you're going on a road trip and you realize, oh, fuck. I forgot my phone charger. Oh wait, no problem. I always have an extra phone charger in my car. Do you understand what I'm saying? Being prepared is important to me.
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And so basically, I just do a little X in the morning when I take it and a little X at night when I take it. And I'm very strict about making sure that I mark the X correctly. every single time I take it.
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If I have to take the pill when I'm not home, okay, I will basically give myself one daily dose in a container for that day, and then I use that container only to know whether or not I've taken the pills. Does that make sense? So then when I get home, I can check the pill container and be like, oh, I did take the morning dose, and then I'll exit immediately when I get home.
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This is how I make sure that I don't forget or I don't take a double dose on accident. And it has changed my life because it was really starting to stress me out. I can't tell you, I have such severe health anxiety.
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And every single time I would get confused about whether or not I had taken the pills, I would fully have a panic attack because I was like, oh my God, what if I don't take it and it fucks with me? Or what if I took too much and that fucks with me? And then I would start to... convince myself that I was feeling sick or dizzy or weird.
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And it was just, it wasn't just like, Oh no, I'm, you know, not taking my medication that I'm supposed to take. It was like also causing me to have a panic attack. So it was a fucking nightmare. The little customized pill calendar truly, truly has changed the game for me. And there's something kind of satisfying about making it like I make it myself and you know, every month.
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And it's this like beautifully made little calendar on a post-it note. I don't know. And I like stick it to my counter and I leave my little pen out and it's always there. And I don't know. I like making the little thing. It like is kind of a fun little activity to make it. It's kind of satisfying. Putting X's in the boxes is sort of satisfying. It's overall a good experience.